A Solution to the Porn Problem

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In an age where much of the world pours into our homes through computers, it should be of no surprise that pornography and the addiction it can so easily create have now reached epidemic proportions.

One out of ten adults now admits to an Internet sexual addiction.

"They have secret access to it in the privacy of their own home through the click of a mouse," explained Clay Jones. 

Jones has battled the problem of porn for years through his Second Glance Ministries.

Michael Leahy's life hit rock botton because of his pornography addiction. Today he joined the 700 Club to discuss his bestselling book Porn Nation: Conquering America's #1 Addiction. Click play to watch that interview following CBN News Correspondent Paul Strand's report.

A recent survey by Jones and the online organization ChristiaNet finds a staggering amount of porn problems among ChristaNet's own readers, especially males.

"Fifty percent of those men say they struggle with pornography online," Jones said.

Forty-seven percent of families say porn's a problem in their homes.

Church Not Immune

And the tidal wave of porn is now flooding the church.  Even pastors aren't immune.  Some 37 percent admit struggling with cyberporn.

"I saw another survey that included Christian pastors and one-third of those pastors said they're addicted to pornography online," Jones said.

Dr. Dennis Frederick, a psychotherapist in Federal Way, Washington, deals almost exclusively with sexual addictions simply because of the growing number flooding into his Christian counseling center.

"We were getting more and more calls of families destroyed, marriages destroyed, men losing their jobs," he explained.  "And it just became obvious that there was a crisis."

In his book Conquering Pornography, Frederick even tells of a well-known, but unnamed pastor and TV personality who's been addicted to porn for ten years and sneaks in for counseling every week.

Could Be Anyone

"The problem of pornography is not just one group of men," Frederick said.  "I mean it goes past pastors, the guy next door, your neighbor, your brother-in-law.  All of us are vulnerable."

Jones also joined in the warning.

"I can introduce you to a man who was a pillar in the Christian community, who confessed to a ten-year double lifestyle of porn addiction and sex addiction," he said.  "And he only got caught when he got so sick with chlymadia that he brought it home to his wife.  He was the leader of a children's ministry."

And women are not immune.  Surveys show some 17 percent of women are addicted.

A Way Out For One And All

Tens of millions of men and women are struggling with this addiction. But there's good news -- there's a way out for each and everyone.

Through his book and his practice, Frederick clearly outlines the path.  He tells his patients first you have to admit your porn problem and stop lying to yourself that you need pornography.

"You don't have to have it," he said.  "You want to have it."

Frederick says not to make excuses, but clearly repent, then throw yourself on the Lord.

"Once you repent, you're already making a huge choice," he told CBN News.  "You're saying 'I want to be healthier.'  Going to the Lord for the strength and for the healing is the only key you have."

Frederick explains you need to quit cold turkey and clean house -- getting rid of all porn materials and making sure you can't access it online.  You need to say to yourself.   'I want this freedom. I don't want this thing to control my life.'

His next piece of advice is often the hardest one for churchgoers to accept -- you need to let someone else know about your addiction, so you can be held accountable -- so they can watch your back.  

"I really believe that a man cannot overcome this by himself," Frederick said.

You can't just go it alone.

"They call that white-knuckling. 'I can hold on, I haven't looked at it for three months.'  And what every guy will tell you is it's cyclical," Frederick explained. 

You might stay sober for a year, but then a few peeks and you suddenly find yourself back into full-blown addiction.

Bounce Your Eyes Away

Steve Arterburn is a Christian radio talk-show host who's dealt extensively with issues of sexual temptations in the book series Every Man's Battle.

Arterburn says we need to get in the habit of bouncing our eyes away from temptation, break connections that could lead to sin, and then fill our minds with God's Word instead.

"Pretty soon you discover that you really do have a transformed mind. It is a renewed heart," Arterburn told CBN News.  "And it's because you implanted the truth of God while also eliminating some of the things of this world that get us in trouble."

But for those immersed in porn, this dependence can actually cause chemical addiction in your brain, so you may need professional therapy.  Some recommend a deliverance service.  But you may have to prepare for a hard-fought withdrawal.

"There are chemical and physical processes happening in your body everyday that are perpetuating this problem," Jones explained.  "It doesn't matter if you're a male or female, the processes are the same.  So you have to learn how to interrupt those processes in order for true change to take place."

Then you have to realize this area will always be a weak spot in your armor.

"Once you have that in your heart, you better be on guard the rest of your life," Frederick said.

The Church Needs To Get Into The Fight

Both Frederick and Jones believe the church could do so much more to help Christians fight their way free.  "It's really time for the church to pull its head out of the sand and begin to deal with these issues openly and honestly," Jones said.

"We as the church need the recovery groups that are out there now," Frederick charged. "There are materials.  Men meeting with other men, saying 'Hey, how you coming on your walk?'  There's also the power of prayer.  Is the church praying for this?"

But Frederick says the battle is worth it.  He says victory will bring spiritual health to your home and restore your faith.

"And God's going to be there," he said.  "His grace is sufficient.  He's going to be there and say, 'Thank you my child for coming home.'"

*Original broadcast July 27, 2008.

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