I Am Supposed to Get Married
He is the Rock, his works are perfect, and all
his ways are just. A faithful God who does no wrong,
upright and just is he.
-- Deuteronomy 32:4
When she was twenty-four, her twenty-year-old sister got married,
and Amy felt devastated. “I am the oldest sister,”
Amy remarked, recalling the event. “I am supposed to be
the one who gets married first! I felt sorry for myself for a
long time after that, and I am ashamed to admit I spent a good
deal of time being angry at God for allowing things to happen
Amy’s sister got married nine years ago. Amy continued
to pray for a spouse after her sister’s wedding, but recently
she realized something about those prayers. “I have been
praying all along, but the majority of my prayers have been very
selfish,” Amy said. “I have wanted immediate answers,
and unfortunately God doesn’t work that way.”
She recently went through a breakup with her fiance, and it changed
her prayer life. Only after the breakup did she “start praying
for God’s will and not my own to be done.” That’s
one of the most difficult prayers to pray when you yearn for something
as significant as a spouse. Amy reached the point where she was
willing to trust God’s ways above her own. The journey took
her nine years to complete, but I suspect she completed it faster
than many of us will.
When we question God about his fairness regarding any part of
our lives, we deny the truth of Deuteronomy 32:4. Let’s
look at the verse a little more in depth. If “all his ways
are just,” then his timing can’t possibly be unfair.
If he is “a faithful God who does no wrong,” then
he’s a personal God who is faithful and fair to us in all
circumstances. Even when we watch other—sometimes younger—people
walk down the aisle before us.
Digging Deeper into Deuteronomy 32:4
1. Describe the emotions you felt the last time you were angry
that someone who was younger than you got married.
2. What motivated those feelings?
3. Have you confessed that motivation as sin? If not, take the
time to do it now.
4. How close are you to reaching the point where you can honestly
say that you accept God’s will and that you will pray for
his will regarding your life?
5. How will praying this way change your prayer life?
Excerpted from Single
Servings: 90 Devotions to Feed Your Soul by Lee Warren.
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