MOMENTS FOR MOMS
A Favorite Child
By Kimberly Snider
Missionary to the Philippines
- "But if you show favoritism, you sin" (James
Recently, I read a true story of an Asian woman who became a
doctor in the United States. There were eight children in her
family, but she was the only one who was unloved. Her mother had
died giving birth to her, and her brothers, sisters, and father
could not forgive her.
This woman had a miserable childhood spent at boarding school,
while the other children lived happily at home with their father
and his new wife. When her father died, she was the only one who
Although she is successful now, this physician says she still
battles feelings of rejection on a daily basis. She still hurts
because she has never felt the love of her family.
If you have more than one child, the temptation to show favoritism
may be something you fight. Sometimes a child's personality matches
yours more than another child's. Sometimes one child
demands more time than the others. If you have only one girl,
or only one boy among your children, you may be tempted to favor
that child. If one child is much younger than the others, you
may spoil her.
Understand this: if you favor one child, the others feel deep
pain. Favoritism negatively affects families, causing jealousy
If you have a tendency to favor a child, ask God to help you
love your children equally--even if one seems more deserving.
Loving each child wholeheartedly is your job as a mother. It is
not your job to choose which child is best.
Love comes from God. He has an abundant supply to give to you,
so you can give to others.
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"Moments For Moms" is written by Kimberly Snider,
a missionary to the Philippines and host of the radio program
"Moments for Mothers." The radio program is produced by
Asia Pacific Media Ministries. The online edition, "Moments
for Moms," is produced and distributed by Media Ministries
of the Assemblies of God, Springfield, Missouri.
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