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1. Never rely on your feelings
when making decisions. Feelings change from day to
day and living by them will get you into trouble.
They can’t be trusted. God’s unchanging
truth in His Word and wise counsel from mature believers
will help you make good decisions.
2. Never believe anyone
who is trying to get you to violate your relationship
with God. If a guy promises he will marry you someday
to get you into bed, tell him that “someday”
will never happen and say goodbye. He isn’t
interested in your heart; he only wants your body.
If a girl is trying to entice you with sexy clothes
and behavior, she is a trap and the best way out is
to do what vigilant young men of the Bible did: run
away fast!
3. Guys: Always remember
that sex is not love and it doesn’t prove your
love. What proves your love is when you sacrifice
your selfish desires that hurt your relationship with
God or the well-being of a girl whose purity you are
supposed to protect. Be a man and say no to sex. Any
animal can say yes but it takes a real man to say
no and wait.
4. Girls: Always put your
security in Jesus alone. You don’t need a guy
to be complete and happy. You will only find the wrong
kind of guy with that attitude and you will end up
more alone and more unhappy than ever. And if you
are trying to get a guy to sleep with you so that
you can manipulate him into staying with you, it won’t
work. You will be the loser in this game.
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TEENS
8 Good Reasons Not to Have Sex
Now
By Julie Ferwerda
CBN.com –
Girl –
I love him
I want him to be my first
He's waited long enough
I don't want to lose him
Guy—
I love her
We've been going out for a long time
I have needs
It's time we took our relationship to the next level
Hey, why wait? Those are all some pretty good reasons to have
sex. I mean, you could have said you want to have sex to use each
other, or to give somebody else that lingering infection because
you shouldn’t have to suffer alone, or even the old overused
excuse, “everybody else is doing it!” But no, your
reasons are pretty good, aren’t they? To go along with these
carefully thought out reasons, here are some of the great “benefits”
of getting sexually involved now, before you get married.
You’re going to get hurt
No matter how you look at it, even when you have good reasons
to do it, premarital sex hurts…a lot. If you are a guy,
you might think it’s just the girl who gets hurt, but you’re
only partly right. The girl will get hurt, because she
has this uncontrollable tendency to attach her heart to any guy
she gives her body to, unless she’s already been made cold-hearted
from the pain of offering her body to be used so many times that
she doesn’t care anymore.
But as a guy, you will get hurt too. By indulging in non-committed
sensual pleasures, you will be setting yourself up for a lifetime
of comparisons that will hound your thoughts and make you unable
to be content in your most valuable future earthly relationship—your
marriage. The guilt you’ll have—and there is always
guilt eventually—will eat you up so badly that you will
be a target for addictions or avoidance that will prevent any
true intimacy in this life.
Both you and your girl will be hurt in another way that you never
anticipated. Someday, if you marry each other, she will likely
have respect issues and resentment toward you for not valuing
her body enough to protect her purity. How will this hurt you?
Not only will you have to deal with a resentful wife, but sex
will be the tool that she withholds from you. Then you will resent
her and the vicious cycle begins.
Your future is going to get messed up
You already know that teens get pregnant, teens get abortions,
and teens get STD’s. Those are all ways that your life can
get messed up now and stay that way for a long time. But other
long term effects are hard to measure. If you sleep together now
and end up getting married, it’s likely from all the statistics
that you won’t stay married. And let me tell you from experience,
divorce is one of the hardest things you will ever try to survive
on this earth. When you split the lives and history you’ve
built together, it’s like your heart has been ripped in
two. If you have kids together, double the pain. The Bible says
that when you got married, you became ONE flesh. The only way
to separate one flesh is to rip it in half, leaving gaping, bleeding
wounds.
God is going to get pushed out of your life
There’s no way around it. When you are living to please
yourself and ignoring God, He isn’t going to force Himself
on you. That means that you aren’t going to have His help,
His encouragement, His direction, or His awesome plans working
out in your life. You might think you’re having fun for
awhile, but eventually, living for yourself is going to hurt.
You will end up lonely, depressed, hopeless, purposeless, and
passionless. That’s because you can’t ignore God for
long and enjoy your life. You can try, but you will never be peaceful
or satisfied. It is impossible. The Bible says in Romans 8:7,
8, “If your sinful nature controls your mind, there is death.
But if the Holy Spirit controls your mind, there is life and peace.
For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. (NLT)”
Something better than “good”
Oh, oh…those good reasons to have sex don’t look so
good anymore. Thank goodness that there are some even better
reasons not to have sex. The better reasons are so much better
for you and your future, that they reveal an amazing truth: Your
“good” reasons to have sex now, instead of waiting
until you are married, are actually bad reasons.
Remember that God loves you and only wants the best for you.
His directions for you to stay pure are not to keep something
from you, but to help you experience the very best He has to offer.
He’s the one who created love and sex. Follow His directions
for using it and it will be the best it can be.
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