Dr. Linda Mintle will share helpful tips and advice each week on how to view your body without learning harmful habits.

SEPTEMBER 15, 2006

Physical Attraction

Did you know that for women body image is based, in part, on men’s perceptions? Especially if those men are our dates or mates. or a candidate for either position. You might not like this fact. After all, we are women; watch us roar. But we also want to make sure some guy notices. Physical attraction has a lot to do with dates and mates. So what do we do with the realities of that?

First, it’s important to understand the role of physical attraction in healthy relationships. Physical attraction should exist in order for a couple to have a vibrant and passionate relationship. However, the importance the culture places on physical attraction is way out of balance. It is one piece of the attraction pie, not the entire dessert. But oh, how we love dessert!

And while the opinions of our partners matter, we want them to be passionate about us, to love us, and feel we are attractive. We don’t need to let them define our worth based on their ideal of prescribed beauty. Because when we allow others to do this, we ignore the individuality of our design. And God loves His unique designs!

But God, like dates and mates, also desires more. He wants that intimacy and commitment we are willing to give to others. So He established a covenant of love, an unbreakable promise to never leave or forsake us.

Single or married, when we choose God, we belong to a Lover who is wildly passionate about us, sees us as beautiful, and longs for intimacy in our relationship with Him. All He requires is our hearts. Hearts that return His affection and will be exclusively His.  

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