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Holding Grudges? Forgiveness Key to Healthy Body

Unforgiveness can not only be destructive to a person's spiritual health, but also his or her physical well-being. Read Transcript


JANE VALSECA MIGHT NOT BE

HERE TODAY IF SHE HADN'T LEARNED

TO FORGIVE.

WHEN SHE AND HER HUSBAND EDUARDO

WERE IN MEXICO, HE WAS KIDNAPPED

AND TORTURED WHILE JAYNE

NEGOTIATED HIS RELEASE.

SHE DESCRIBES THE ORDEAL IN HER

BOOK, "WE HAVE YOUR HUSBAND."

I KNEW THE STRESS COULD BE

TAKING A HUGE TOLL ON MY IMMUNE

SYSTEM.

AFTER EIGHT MONTHS, EDUARDO

WAS RELEASED, BUT NOW JAYNE HAD

TO FIGHT FOR HER LIFE.

I WAS ALMOST NOT SURPRISED,

BUT STILL COMPLETELY DEVASTATED

TO HEAR THE WORDS YOU HAVE STAGE

FOUR BREAST CANCER.

JAYNE PRAYED FOR HEALING,

EVEN THOUGH DOCTORS GAVE HER A

DEATH SENTENCE.

I DID COLLECT MORE

INFORMATION, AND IN ONE OF THE

BOOKS THAT I READ, I READ ABOUT

CANCER TREATMENT CENTERS OF

AMERICA.

I THOUGHT, WOW, THIS SOUNDS LIKE

A FANTASTIC PLACE.

JAYNE ADDED FORGIVENESS

THERAPY TO HER CANCER TREATMENT

WITH DR. MICHAEL BARRY, A PASTOR

AND AUTHOR OF THE BOOK THE

FORGIVENESS PROJECT.

HARBORING THIS ANGER AND

HATRED CREATES A STATE OF

CHRONIC ANXIETY.

CHRONIC ANXIETY PRODUCES

ADRENALINE AND CORTISOL, WHICH

DEPLETE THE PRODUCTION OF

NATURAL KILLER CELLS, WHICH IS

YOUR BODY'S FOOT SOLDIER IN THE

FIGHT AGAINST CANCER.

DR. BARRY'S RESEARCH SHOWED

61% OF CANCER PATIENTS HAD FOR I

HAVENESS ISSUES, AND MORE THAN

HALF OF THOSE WERE SEVERE, LIKE

JAYNE'S.

SHE WAS CONSUMED WITH REVENGE

AGAINST HER HUSBAND'S

KIDNAPPERS.

FORGIVENESS THERAPY BEGINS

WITH PUTTING TO REST THREE

MYTHS.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT THE SAME

THING AS RECONCILIATION.

IT DOESN'T CONDONE THE BAD

BEHAVIOR.

AND IT DOES NOT STOP THE PURSUIT

OF JUSTICE.

JAYNE'S PATH TO FORGIVENESS

INCLUDED WRITING A LETTER TO HER

ENEMIES, PRAYING FOR THEM AND,

AMAZINGLY, FINDING EMPATHY FOR

THEM.

I SAW THE KIDNAPPERS AS

BABIES, AND I TOOK THEM ONE BY

ONE, FORWARD IN TIME, IN AN

IMAGINARY SCENARIO I HAD

CREATED, GOING THROUGH THINGS

THAT I THOUGHT THEY PROBABLY

COULD HAVE GONE THROUGH IN ORDER

TO GET TO WHERE THEY GOT TO DO

THE THINGS THAT THEY DO AND TO

DO WHAT THEY DID TO ME AND TO MY

FAMILY.

AND IT WAS THEN THAT I

IMMEDIATELY FELT THIS HUGE SENSE

OF RELIEF.

IT WAS AS IF THIS HUGE TON OF

BRICKS, THIS WEIGHT OF THE

WORLD, WAS INSTANTLY LIFTED FROM

MY SHOULDERS.

WHEN A PERSON FORGIVES FROM

THE HEART, WHICH OF COURSE IS

THE GOLD STANDARD THAT WE USE IN

MATTHEW 18, FORGIVENESS FROM THE

HEART, WE FIND THAT THEY'RE ABLE

TO FIND A SENSE OF PEACEFULNESS.

QUITE OFTEN OUR PATIENTS REFER

TO THAT AS A FEELING OF

LIGHTNESS.

LORIE, WE DON'T REALIZE WHAT A

BURDEN ANGER AND HATRED IS UNTIL

WE LET IT GO.

IN MEDICAL LITERATURE,

UNFORGIVENESS IS CLASSIFIED AS A

DISEASE, WHICH IS DEFINED AS

SOME PROCESS THAT OVERWHELMS

NORMAL FUNCTION.

CANCER SURGEON DR. STEVEN

STANDIFORD PUTS IT THIS WAY.

UNFORGIVENESS MAKES PEOPLE SICK

AND KEEPS THEM SICK.

IT'S IMPORTANT TO TREAT

EMOTIONAL WOUNDS OR DISORDERS

BECAUSE THEY REALLY CAN HINDER

SOMEONE'S REACTIONS TO THE

TREATMENTS, EVEN SOMEONE'S

WILLINGNESS TO PURSUE TREATMENT.

IN CASE YOU'RE WONDERING

ABOUT EDUARDO, WELL, HE'S ALWAYS

HAD A POSITIVE OUTLOOK.

I LOVE LIFE.

I LOVE MY FAMILY.

I LOVE FOOD.

I LOVE EVERYTHING.

SO I REALLY DON'T HAVE TIME TO

THINK ABOUT THESE CRIMINALS TOO

MUCH.

I DON'T WANT TO TAKE MY TIME,

WHATEVER I HAVE LEFT, TO BE ON

THIS BEAUTIFUL PLANET TO THINK

ABOUT NEGATIVITY.

EDUARDO, JAYNE AND DR. BARRY

SHARED A STAGE WITH PRESIDENT

OBAMA RECENTLY.

THEY WERE HONORED AS THE

HISPANIC PRAYER BREAKFAST FOR

THEIR LIVING TESTIMONY OF THE

POWER OF FORGIVENESS.

LORIE JOHNSON, CBN NEWS.

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