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Lyndon and Sharyl Allen: A House Divided

Sharyl's infidelity and Lyndon's anger were too much to hold the Allen's flailing marriage together so they turned to the one they knew could bring healing. Read Transcript


OH, HE WAS FUNNY,

DIFFERENT, ARTICULATE.

DROP-DEAD GORGEOUS AND

INTERESTING.

Reporter: A COUPLE OF

YEARS AFTER MEETING IN A

BIBLE STUDY, LINDEN AND

CHERYL ALLEN WED, WITH GREAT

EXPECTATIONS.

BUT DURING THE FIRST YEAR OF

MARRIAGE, BOTH DISCOVERED

THAT MARRIAGE WAS HARDER

THAN THEY EVER IMAGINED.

GOODNESS, IT WAS

TUMULTUOUS.

THE FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE

REALLY SET THE STAGE FOR THE

NEXT 12.

Reporter: BOTH WERE

CHILDREN OF BROKEN HOMES.

LINDEN WAS RAISED BY A

SINGLE MOTHER.

SINCE HE HAD NO FATHER AS A

ROLE MODEL, HE HAD BIG

QUESTIONS ABOUT MANHOOD AND

MARRIAGE.

MY IDEA OF MARRIAGE WAS

JUST GET MARRIED BECAUSE

THEN YOU WOULD BE MORE OF A

MAN.

MY MOM WAS A VERY STRONG

WOMAN, AND SO FOR ME, I HAD

A DIFFICULT TIME RESPECTING

MEN.

I WOULD REACT VERBALLY.

I WOULD CUT HIM WITH MY

WORDS.

Reporter: DURING THE

FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE,

LINDEN QUIT HIS STEADY JOB

TO PURSUE A CAREER IN THE

MUSIC BUSINESS.

PROVIDING FOR HIS FAMILY

BECAME HARDER, AND FINANCES

WERE TIGHT.

I WAS JOBLESS, NOT

FOCUSED, AND WE HAD A KID.

AND OUT OF MY WIFE'S MOUTH

COMES THE FOLLOWING WORDS:

IF YOU WERE A MAN, YOU'D

HAVE A JOB BY NOW.

AND I JUST WENT BANG

EMOTIONALLY.

I PUT UP AN IRON CURTAIN

AROUND MY HEART TOWARDS

HER.

Reporter: AS THE YEARS

PASSED, LINDEN AND CHERYL

HAD FOUR CHILDREN.

BUT GREW FURTHER AND FURTHER

APART.

FIGHTS WERE PRETTY

INTENSE.

WE WERE JUST LIKE OIL AND

WATER, A LOT OF THE TIMES,

IN OUR PERSONALITIES.

Reporter: AFTER 13

YEARS OF MARRIAGE, THE

FAMILY MOVED TO NASHVILLE TO

PURSUE LINDEN'S MUSIC

CAREER.

THOUGH HE HAD ACHIEVED GREAT

SUCCESS IN THE INDUSTRY OVER

THE YEARS, HIS MARRIAGE WAS

AT A BREAKING POINT.

I JUST STOPPED

EMOTIONALLY INVESTING IN HER

AND PROTECTING MYSELF.

I JUST STOPPED TALKING TO

CHERYL.

AND EVERYTHING SHE DID MADE

ME IRRITATED, AND THIS

FAMILY WAS GETTING IN THE

WAY OF MY MUSICAL PURSUIT.

THAT'S WHAT STARTED TO RING

IN MY HEAD.

I WAS HOPELESS.

MY FOCUS WAS CERTAINLY GOD

WANTS ME HAPPY.

AND I'M NOT HAPPY IN THIS

MARRIAGE.

SO THE ANSWER TO ME WAS

ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP.

Reporter: CHERYL

STARTED HAVING AN EMOTIONAL

AFFAIR WITH A MAN SHE MET

THROUGH HER KIDS' AFTER

SCHOOL ACTIVITIES.

I WAS WILLING TO PAY THE

COST, TO DO WHATEVER IT

TOOK.

IF THAT MEANT LOSING MY

KIDS.

IT WAS ABOUT HUNGER.

THAT FANTASY WAS SO STRONG

IN ME I WAS WILLING TO LOSE

IT ALL.

Reporter: ONE EVENING

WHILE LINDEN WAS TRAVELLING,

CHERYL INVITED THE MAN OVER

TO HER HOME, AND THE TWO

KISSED.

SO I CAME HOME FROM THAT

KIND OF FEELING SOMETHING IS

GOING ON, BUT COULDN'T PUT

MY FINGER ON IT.

IT ALL CAME TO A HEAD WHEN I

SPOKE TO HER BEST FRIEND AND

SHE TOLD ME.

HE CONFRONTED ME.

I DENIED IT, NO, THERE IS NO

ONE ELSE.

AND HE KEPT SAYING, I NO

THERE IS.

I KNOW THERE IS.

JUST BE HONEST WITH ME.

SO I SAID, OKAY, YES, THERE

IS SOMEONE ELSE.

IT IS WHAT I WANT.

AND I THINK AT THAT MOMENT I

REALIZED IT'S REALLY NOT

WHAT I WANT.

WHAT I REALLY WANT IS A GOOD

MARRIAGE WITH LINDEN, THE

FATHER OF MY KIDS.

Reporter: LINDEN

REACTED CALMLY, BUT TWO DAYS

LATER, HIS TRUE EMOTIONS

SURFACED.

HE SAT DOWN ON THE LOVE

SEAT, AND HE SAID, WHAT ARE

YOU THINKING ABOUT?

I'M THINKING ABOUT HIM.

AS SOON AS SHE SAID THAT,

ALL BETS WERE OFF INSIDE OF

ME.

Reporter: CHERYL

QUICKLY LEFT THE ROOM TO

AVOID LINDEN'S

CONFRONTATION.

I WAS WASHING MY FACE,

AND HE CAME IN OUR BEDROOM

AND WENT INTO THE BATHROOM,

MOVED ME OUT OF THE WAY AND

KIND OF HELD MY ARM.

AND HE SAID, WE NEED TO

TALK.

AND I WAS JUST LIKE, OH,

NO.

IT'S OVER.

AND WHEN SHE SAID THOSE

WORDS, IN SLOW MOTION, IN MY

BRAIN, I'M GETTING A

DIVORCE, IT'S GOING AWAY,

SHE SAYS IT IS DONE.

AND I PANICKED.

AND I SAID, NO, YOU'RE NOT.

AND HE PICKED ME UP AND

THREW ME ACROSS THE

BATHROOM.

I HIT MY HEAD ON THE WALL.

AND I'M ON MY HANDS AND

KNEES GOING, OH, MY GOSH, HE

IS GOING TO KILL ME.

Reporter: CHERYL TRIED

CALLING 9-1-1 TWICE.

BUT BOTH TIMES LINDEN HUNG

UP THE PHONE IN RAGE.

AS A LAST RESULT, CHERYL

CALLED OUT FOR HER OLDEST

SON.

I SAID LEYTON, LEYTON --

I WAS SCREAMING.

AND HE CAME AND HE SAW HIS

MOM WITH A BIG KNOT ON HER

HEAD.

AND I SAID DADDY PUSHED ME

AGAINST THE WALL, AND HIS

WORLD CAME CRUMBLING DOWN.

IT WAS AT THAT MOMENT I

REALIZED, I'VE GOT TO TURN

THIS TRAIN AROUND.

Reporter: THE POLICE

ARRIVED AND SAW YOU CHERYL'S

INJURIES, AND THEY ARRESTED

LINDEN.

WHEN I WAS IN AN

ISOLATION TANK ON MY OWN, I

COULD FINALLY HEAR THE HOLY

SPIRIT SAY TO ME, ARE YOU

READY TO DO IT MY WAY NOW?

AND I SAID, YES, LORD,

HELP.

Reporter: AFTER 12

HOURS IN JAIL, LINDEN WAS

RELEASED.

FOR A MONTH, LINDEN FASTED

AND PRAYED THAT GOD WOULD

HEAL HIM AND RESTORE HIS

MARRIAGE.

WHAT MOTIVATED ME WAS TO

HONOR GOD.

TO HONOR GOD AND HONOR

MARRIAGE.

Reporter: AROUND THE

SAME TIME, CHERYL STARTED

READING BIBLE PASSAGES ON

MARRIAGE AND RESPECT.

HE STARTED ASKING FOR

FORGIVENESS FOR CERTAIN

THINGS.

IT KIND OF OPENED MY EYES

AND GOT MY HOPE METER GOING

AGAIN.

HERE WE ARE TRYING TO

MAKE A NEW DIRECTION,

DRAWING THAT LINE AND THE

SAND, AND FORGIVENESS AND

ALL OF GOD'S WORD HAD

EVERYTHING TO DO WITH IT.

Reporter: THEY BOTH

RECOMMITTED THEIR LIVES TO

GOD.

AND JUST ONE MONTH AFTER

LINDEN'S TRIP TO JAIL, THE

TWO TOOK A COUPLES CRUISE TO

THE BAHAMAS.

THIS LADY CAME UP TO US,

AND WE WERE JUST HAVING FUN,

AND SHE CAME UP TO US AND

SAID, HOW LONG HAVE YOU GUYS

BEEN MARRIED?

YOU LOOK LIKE YOU'RE

HONEYMOONERS.

Reporter: TODAY THEY'RE

CELEBRATING 25 YEARS OF

MARRIAGE.

LINDEN AND CHERYL ARE IN

MINISTRY AND COUNSELLING

YOUNG COUPLES.

AND THEIR OLDEST SON IS

MARRIED.

WHAT GREATER THING CAN WE

GIVE HIM THAN HIS PARENTS

BEING INTACT, IN LOVE, IN

MARRIAGE.

WHEN WE JUST BELIEVED GOD

AT HIS WORD, THAT'S WHEN WE

SAW THE E EXPEDENTIAL IN

OUR RELATIONSHIP, THAT'S

WHEN WE LEARNED HOW TO BE A

WIFE AND A HUSBAND.

WHEN WE LOOKED AT THE WORD

AND SAID, HE IS THE ANSWER.

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