Reporter: WORDS OF
ADVICE FOR CHRISTIAN
SINGLES.
MEET AND GREETS COMING
UP.
YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO.
THE KEY IS TO ACT LIKE
YOU DON'T CARE.
IT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T
EXPECT IT.
YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WASN'T
MARRIED?
JESUS.
JUST PRAY ABOUT IT.
PRAY HARDER.
Reporter: HOW TO DEAL
WITH THAT UNWANTED
ENCOURAGEMENT.
ON TODAY'S "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE."
*
Gordon: WELCOME TO THE
SHOW, AND THANKS FOR
SPENDING THE MORNING WITH
US.
IT HAS BEEN A SUMMER OF
LOVE.
AND IN TODAY'S SHOW WE'RE
GOING TO TALK ABOUT
WEDDINGS, AND WE'RE GOING TO
TALK ABOUT BEING SINGLE.
IT HAS BEEN AN INTERESTING
SUMMER.
WE'VE GOT ALL KINDS OF
CELEBRITIES IN HOLLYWOOD ALL
PLANNING THEIR WEDDINGS.
BUT MANY AMERICANS ARE NOT.
Kristi: THIS IS
ESPECIALLY TRUE, GORDON,
WHEN IT COMES TO THE
CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY, WHO IS
FILLED WITH MEN AND WOMEN
WHO LONG TO TIE THE KNOT,
RIGHT?
WHILE THEIR MARRIED FRIENDS
ARE QUICK TO GIVE ADVICE,
ADVICE ISN'T ALWAYS THAT
HELPFUL.
TAKE A LOOK.
HOW ARE YOU STILL
SINGLE?
THERE IS SOMEONE OUT
THERE FOR YOU.
JESUS IS YOUR BOYFRIEND
NOW.
MEET AND GREET IS COMING
UP.
YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO.
THE KEY IS TO ACT LIKE
YOU DON'T CARE.
IT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T
EXPECT IT.
WHO ARE YOU BRINGING TO
THE WEDDING.
IF I WAS A GIRL, I WOULD
DATE YOU.
HAVE YOU TRIED INTERNET
DATING.
DO YOU KNOW WHO ELSE
WASN'T MARRIED?
PAUL.
ALL THE SINGLES LADIES.
WORK ON YOUR SMILE.
YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WASN'T
MARRIED?
JESUS.
MAYBE IF YOU GIVE GOD ONE
OF YOUR RIBS, HE'LL GIVE YOU
A WIFE.
YOU SHOULD CHANGE YOUR
Facebook PROFILE PICTURE.
YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WASN'T
MARRIED?
MATTHEW.
YOU'RE NOT THAT OLD YET.
YOU CAN'T SETTLE.
YOU MIGHT WANT TO THINK
ABOUT SETTLE.
WE'RE GOING TO CELEBRATE
NOT HAVING VALENTINE'S DAY.
IF SHE SAYS, YOU'RE LIKE
MY BEST FRIEND, THAT'S BAD.
WHEN YOU HAVE A WIFE, YOU
CAN'T PLAY AS MUCH XBOX.
YOU SHOULD GET A DOG.
HAVE YOU ASKED JESUS FOR
A WIFE.
ARE YOU ON CHRISTIAN
MINGLE?
I HAVE A GREAT BOOK FOR
YOU TO READ.
IT'S CALLED THE BIBLE.
JESUS IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND
NOW.
YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE
SUCH A COOL AUNT.
IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU.
YOU KNOW, THERE IS NO
MARRIAGE IN HEAVEN.
IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU.
I DON'T KNOW, IS HE A
CHRISTIAN.
IT IS ABOUT JESUS.
I KNOW PEOPLE WHO GOT
MARRIED WHEN THEY
WERE, LIKE, 70.
YOU'RE FINE.
MARRIAGE IS LIKE A
SANDWICH.
IT TAKES A LONG TIME.
YOU'RE NOT GOING TO MEET
YOUR HUSBAND AT A BAR.
FOR IT IS BETTER TO BE
UNMARRIED, SEE?
Kristi: I LOVE IT.
I LOVE IT.
I LOVE IT.
JOINING US NOW IS A MAN YOU
JUST SAW IN THE MEDIA.
COMEDIAN JOHN PHELPS.
JOHN, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.
OH, MY GOODNESS.
HOW HYSTERICAL ARE YOU,
MAN.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR
HAVING ME.
YEAH, I HAD A LOT OF FUN
MAKING THAT VIDEO.
THANKS FOR SHOWING IT.
Kristi: HERE IS THE
QUESTION OF THE DAY: I FEEL
LIKE YOU TOOK MY BRAIN,
SAWED IT OPEN, AND TOOK OUT
ALL OF THE DIFFERENT THINGS
THAT HAVE BEEN SAID TO ME
AND I THINK MILLIONS OF
OTHER CHRISTIAN SINGLES.
HOW DO YOU COMPILE ALL OF
THOSE?
WERE THOSE THINGS SAID TO
WHEN YOU YOU WERE SINGLE?
YES.
I'VE HEARD AT LEAST HALF OF
THOSE THINGS SAID TO ME.
AND THEN, OF COURSE, WHEN I
WAS PUTTING IT TOGETHER, MY
WIFE PUT IN HER TWO CENTS,
AND WE KIND OF COMBINED ALL
OF THE THINGS WE HEARD WHEN
WE WERE SINGLE AND WE WERE
WAITING TO BE MARRIED.
AND JUST HOW FUNNY AND
RIDICULOUS IT COULD GET.
SOME OF IT WAS SOUND
ADVICE.
AND SOME WAS, LIKE, I DON'T
THINK SO.
IT WAS A LOT OF FUN.
Kristi: I LOVE IT.
WHAT DO YOU THINK, JOHN?
ARE THOSE STATEMENTS HELPFUL
OR HURTFUL?
IT IS NOT A BAD THING TO
SEEK GODLY COUNSEL, BUT
SOMETIMES PEOPLE GO
OVERBOARD.
TAKE EVERYTHING WITH A GRAIN
OF SALT.
OBVIOUSLY LOOK FOR ADVICE,
BUT WHEN YOU NEED HELPFUL
ADVICE, ASK FRIENDS, BUT
ALSO ASK GOOD COUNSEL.
AND READ THE BIBLE.
ASK YOUR CHURCH FOR HELP.
YOU KNOW, LOOK IN A LOT OF
DIFFERENT PLACES.
DON'T JUST LOOK ONLY TO YOUR
FRIENDS.
Kristi: , I'VE BEEN
WORKING ON THIS SERIES,
CALLED "THE VOICE OF HOPE,"
AND THE WHOLE CON SEPTOR IS
-- CONCEPT IS THE CHRISTIAN
SINGLE AND THE PLIGHT OF THE
CHRISTIAN SINGLE.
IT SEEMS LIKE IN THE CHURCH
WE'RE THE FORGOTTEN SECTOR.
YOU GO TO CHURCH AND PEOPLE
TALK ABOUT THE MARRIED FOLKS
OR THE MARRIED FOLKS WITH
THE KIDS.
BUT WHEN IT COMES TO THE
SINGLE, IT IS, LIKE, GOD HAS
A SPECIAL PERSON FOR YOU ONE
DAY.
HAVE YOU FELT THAT WAY
BEFORE?
I HAVE BEFORE.
I KNOW A LOT OF CHURCHES,
THERE ARE EUR YOUTH GROUPS
AND THERE ARE MARRIED
GROUPS.
AND THERE ARE VERY FEW
SINGLE GROUPS.
IT IS KIND OF A SMALLER,
FORGOTTEN CROWD.
I'M GLAD YOU'RE BRINGING
ATTENTION TO IT AND
AWARENESS TO IT.
BECAUSE I KNOW WHEN I WAS
SINGLE, IT WASN'T EASY.
IT IS A STRUGGLE WAITING FOR
THE ONE THAT GOD HAS FOR
YOU.
AND JUST HAVING THE GIFT OF
SINGLENESS.
Kristi: THAT'S TRUE.
IT'S DEFINITELY NOT
EASY.
IT IS FINALLY GOOD TO SEE
SOME CHURCHES TAKING ACTION
TO HELP THOSE IN THAT
POSITION.
Kristi: THAT'S TRUE.
BUT, JOHN, THAT NO LONGER
APPLIES TO YOU.
YOU'RE NO LONGER THE
CHRISTIAN SINGLE.
I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT YOU,
JOHN.
LAST YEAR YOU GOT MARRIED,
BECAUSE YOU FOUND YOUR BO.
HOW DID YOU MEET?
WE MET AT A BEACH BONFIRE
WITH SOME FRIENDS FROM
COLLEGE.
I ALWAYS KNEW GROWING UP IN
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD,
THAT I HAD TO WAIT UNTIL I
WAS MARRIED TO BE WITH
SOMEONE, SO I THOUGHT, WHEN
DO I GET MARRIED THEN, YOU
KNOW?
I ALWAYS FIGURED I'D BE
MARRIED AT 18 OR 20, BUT I
DIDN'T WANT TO GET MARRIED
JUST TO GET MARRIED.
I WANTED TO WAIT FOR THE ONE
THAT GOD HAD FOR ME, AND I
WANTED TO TRUST HIM WITH
THAT.
I ENDED UP GETTING MARRIED
ONLY A LITTLE OVER A YEAR
AGO AT 25.
WHEN YOU WAIT FOR THE ONE
THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU, YOU
REALIZE WHY YOU ARE
WAITING.
YOU'RE GLAD YOU HELD OUT,
AND IT JUST MAKES SO MUCH
MORE SENSE.
MY WIFE IS MY BEST FRIEND,
AND SOMEONE WHO MAKES
EVERYTHING FUN.
GOING TO WAL-MART WITH MY
WIFE IS AMAZING.
IT IS TONS OF TONGUE AND
CHEEK.
I'M GLAD I WAITED AND DIDN'T
JUST GET MARRIED TO GET
MARRIED.
JUST BE PATIENT AND WAIT FOR
GOD'S PLAN TO CARRY ITSELF
OUT.
DON'T TRY TO GO SNATCH UP
ANYONE YOU CAN YOURSELF.
DO THE RIGHT THING AND JUST
BE CONTENT IN WAITING FOR
WHAT GOD HAS IN STORE FOR
YOU.
Kristi: I LOVE THAT,
JOHN.
I HAVE TWO QUESTIONS FOR YOU
BEFORE WE END.
NUMBER ONE, THE QUESTION IS
"THE ONE."
I THINK THAT SO MANY PEOPLE
ARE WAITING FOR THAT ONE
PERSON THAT GOD HAS FOR
THEM.
DO YOU THINK IT IS A
BIBLICAL CONCEPT, JUST THAT
ONE PERSON?
OR DO YOU THINK THERE ARE
LOT OF DIFFERENT PEOPLE FOR
US AND WE GET TO CHOOSE, AND
GOD WILL HONOR THAT.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
I DON'T THINK THERE IS
ONE PERSON FOR EVERYONE.
THE MATH DOESN'T WORK OUT.
THERE ARE A LOT MORE WOMEN
THEN MEN OUT THERE, SO I
DON'T THINK THAT IS
POSSIBLE.
I DON'T THINK THE BIBLE WILL
MENTION THE GIFT OF
SINGLENESS IF EVERYONE HAS A
ONE.
IF GOD WANTS YOU TO BE
MARRIED, HE HAS SOMEONE FOR
YOU.
BUT YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF
OUT THERE, AND LET PEOPLE
KNOW YOU'RE AVAILABLE.
BUT DO IT IN A GODLY WAY.
GO IN GROUPS OUT WITH
PEOPLE, SEE WHO YOU CLICK
WITH.
AND YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF
OUT THERE, AS MUCH AS YOU
MAY NOT WANT TO, OR YOU JUST
WANT TO WAIT ON THE LORD.
BUT A LOT OF IT IS JUST
BEING AVAILABLE.
Kristi: THAT IS SO
TRUE.
JOHN, I HAVE A REALLY JUICY
QUESTION THAT MIGHT MAKE YOU
BLUSH.
IF IT DOES, I'M SORRY.
WHAT DO YOU SAY AT THIS
CHRISTIAN SINGLE WHO JUST
REALLY WANTS TO HAVE SEX OR
REALLY, REALLY WANT TO GET
MARRIED.
I READ AN ARTICLE THAT 80%
OF CHRISTIAN SINGLES ARE
SEXUALLY ACTIVE.
CRAZY, RIGHT?
WHAT DO YOU SAY TO THE
CHRISTIAN SINGLE ABOUT
HONORING THE LORD AND YOU
CAN WAIT.
WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY
ABOUT THAT?
I'M NOT BLUSHING, BECAUSE
I'M VERY COMFORTABLE RIGHT
NOW.
I'M NOT EVEN WEARING PANTS.
THAT'S WHY I LIKE THE SKYPE
INTERVIEW.
TO THOSE CHRISTIANS, I WAS
THAT SINGLE CHRISTIAN.
AS SOON AS I KNEW IN MY
HEART THAT I WASN'T SUPPOSED
TO HAVE SEX UNTIL I WAS
MARRIED, I WAS LIKE, LET'S
GET MARRIED.
LET ME JUST FIND A WIFE AND
MARRY WHOEVER I CAN FIND
FIRST.
BECAUSE THAT'S HOW I WANTED
IT TO BE.
BUT I KNEW THAT MARRIAGE HAS
A LOT TO DO WITH SEX, BUT IT
IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX.
SEX IS AN IMPORTANT, VERY
BIG PART OF MARRIAGE, BUT
THAT IS NOT ALL THERE IS TO
IT.
YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO
SOMEONE YOU CAN BE IN LOVE
WITH, DEEP, DEEP, LOVE, AND
THAT YOU CAN CARRY ON A
CONVERSATION WITH.
I MARRIED MY WIFE BECAUSE
YEAH, SHE IS REALLY
GOOD-LOOKING, BUT WE HAVE A
REALLY GOOD TIME JUST
TALKING TOGETHER.
I DON'T HOLD IT AGAINST HER
FOR MARRYING ME JUST FOR MY
LOOKS.
[LAUGHTER]
LUCKY FOR HER WE BOTH GET
ALONE.
IT IS MORE THAN SEX, AND SEX
IS A BIG PART OF IT, BUT
WHEN YOU WAIT FOR THE ONE
THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU, IT'S
WORTH IT.
YOU REALIZE THERE IS MORE TO
IT, AND IT IS A WONDERFUL
THING TO BE IN LOVE AND TO
HAVE THAT KIND OF INTIMACY
WITH A MARRIAGE PARTNER.
Kristi: FANTASTIC,
JOHN.
YOU'RE JUST A THRILL.
I APPRECIATE YOUR HUMOR, AND
I APPRECIATE YOUR OUTLOOK.
MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU AND
YOUR MARRIAGE.
THANK YOU.
I APPRECIATE IT.
Kristi: IF YOU WANT TO
HEAR MORE ABOUT JOHN'S WORK,
YOU CAN GO TO
700clubinteractive.com, AND
WE HAVE LINKS TO HIS
WEBSITE, AS WELL AS TO HIS
HILARIOUS YouTube
VIDEO.
IT IS ONE OF THOSE VIDEOS
YOU WANT TO PASS AROUND AND
YOU WILL START CRACKING UP.
JOHN, THANKS AGAIN FOR BEING
WITH US.
GORDON?
Gordon: THAT WAS A
GREAT INTERVIEW.
I LIKE THAT.
THAT WAS A LOT OF FUN.
I DON'T KNOW ABOUT MARRIED
COUPLES GOING TO WAL-MART
TOGETHER.
Kristi: COME ON, THAT'S
WHAT MARRIED COUPLES DO.
THAT'S WHEN YOU KNOW YOU'RE
REALLY IN LOVE, WHEN YOU CAN
GO TO WAL-MART AND GO DOWN
THE PRODUCE AISLE AND SAY,
WHAT KIND OF CHOCOLATE CHIP
COOKIE DO YOU WANT.
Gordon: COMING UP, SEE
WHAT TV SHOW HAS BEEN
CAPTIVATING CHILDREN ACROSS
AMERICA, RIGHT AFTER THIS.
Reporter: TOMORROW...
AND THE CAR ROLLED INTO A
DITCH IN THE MEDIAN, AND
THEN FROM THAT POINT I WAS
EJECTED FROM THE CAR.
Reporter: A SON CLINGS
TO LIFE WHILE HIS PARENTS
CLING TO PRAYER.
WE JUST KEPT PRAYING.
WE HAD SO MANY PEOPLE ALL
OVER THE WORLD PRAYING FOR
HIM.
WE WOULDN'T ALLOW OURSELVES
TO THINK NEGATIVE.
WE JUST KEPT MOVING
FORWARD.
Reporter: ON THE NEXT
"700 CLUB INTERACTIVE."
Gordon: RECENTLY
CHILDREN IN HOUSTON GOT TO
WATCH EPISODES OF
"SUPERBOOK" AT A SUMMER
SPORTS CAMP, AND THEY LOVED
IT.
JUST SEE FOR YOURSELF.
Reporter: THERE IS
NEVER A DULL MOMENT FOR THE
KIDS WHO COME TO UNIVERSITY
BAPTIST CHURCH'S SPORTS CAMP
IN HOUSTON, TEXAS.
WHEN IT IS TIME FOR A BREAK,
THE GANG HEADS U UPSTAIRS
FOR A LESSON TIME.
THE CHURCH USE CBN'S
"SUPERBOOK" TO TEACH THE
KIDS ABOUT GOD.
WHAT DID YOU LEARN TODAY
ABOUT DAVID AND GOLIATH.
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH
GOD.
DAVID'S BROTHER DIDN'T
BELIEVE HE COULD KILL
GOLIATH, BUT HE TRUSTED GOD
AND WENT OUT THERE AND
KILLED HIM.
Reporter: SHE SAYS THE
KIDS LOVE LESSON TIME.
I'VE USED VIDEO SERIES IN
THE PAST, AND IT HAS NOT
GOTTEN THE ATTENTION OF THE
KIDS OR THE PARENTS LIKE
"SUPERBOOK" DID.
Reporter: CBN'S
NATIONAL CHURCH
REPRESENTATIVE, BRAD, SAYS
HE IS THRILLED THE NEW HIGH
DEFINITION ANIMATION SERIES
IS BEING USED LIKE THIS.
"SUPERBOOK" IN ITSELF,
WATCHING IT AT HOME, IS
POWERFUL.
BUT WHEN WE'RE ABLE TO BRING
IT INTO A CHURCH SETTING, ON
THE BIG SCREEN, THERE IS
GREAT SYNERGY AND IT JUST
SEEMS TO FLOW IN SUCH A WAY
THAT WE SEE GREAT DECISIONS
MADE BY KIDS IN LEARNING THE
BIBLE AND GIVING THEIR HEART
TO CHRIST.
Reporter: BRAD AND
BECKY BRING THEIR KIDS TO
SPORTS CAMP, AND THEY
VOLUNTEER, SO THEY WATCHED
"SUPERBOOK," TOO.
WE HAVE A 6-YEAR-OLD AND
A 9-YEAR-OLD, AND IT WAS
SOMETHING WE COULD WATCH
TOGETHER.
IT WASN'T JUST FOR THE
6-YEAR-OLD OR THE
9-YEAR-OLD, BUT WE COULD
WATCH IT AS A FAMILY AND
DISCUSS IT.
NOW THAT I'VE SEEN
"SUPERBOOK," I KNOW NO
MATTER WHAT YOU DO, YOU CAN
TRUST GOD.
Reporter: AND
"SUPERBOOK" HAS A BRAND NEW
EPISODE READY FOR EVERYONE
TO ENJOY, "THE 10
COMMANDMENTS."
CBN CONTINUES THEIR
COMMITMENT TO "SUPERBOOK" TO
WIN KIDS TO CHRIST.
Gordon: IT BRINGS JOY
TO MY HEART TO SEE IT OUT
THERE, CHURCHES
PARTICIPATING, AND FAMILIES
PARTICIPATING.
I WANT TO TAKE THE BIBLE --
THIS IS WHAT WE WANT TO DO,
WE WANT TO TAKE THE BIBLE TO
THE CHILDREN OF THE WORLD.
OUR GOAL IS FOR 300 MILLION
CHILDREN.
WE'RE INTO 37 LANGUAGES NOW
ON THE TRANSLATION.
AND ALL OF THAT IS GOING TO
BE KICKING OFF NEXT YEAR AS
WE LAUNCH "SUPERBOOK" AROUND
THE WORLD.
AND WE'RE ASKING PEOPLE TO
HELP.
SO CALL US.
1-888-777-1999.
JUST SAY, YEAH, I WANT TO BE
A PART OF IT.
I WANT TO HELP BRING THE
BIBLE TO THE CHILDREN OF THE
WORLD.
HOW DO YOU DO THAT?
BY JOINING THE "SUPERBOOK"
D.V.D. CLUB.
FOR A GIFT OF $25, WE'LL
SEND YOU THE LATEST EPISODE
AS THEY'RE RELEASED.
WE'VE ALREADY GOT SEVEN OF
THEM OUT.
IF YOU WANT TO GET CAUGHT
UP, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GO
TO cbn.com AND YOU CAN GET
CAUGHT UP WITH THE PAST
EPISODES.
AND AS NEW ONES ARE
PRODUCED, ABOUT EVERY SIX
WEEKS, WE'LL CHARGE YOUR
CREDIT CARD AND SEND YOU THE
NEW ONE.
ALL OF THE COSTS GO INTO THE
COSTS OF THE "SUPERBOOK."
AND WE'RE MAKING FAMILY
EDITIONS SO WE CAN BE A
BLESSING TO THE FAMILIES AND
THE CHURCHES OF THE WORLD.
SO IF YOU WANT TO BE A PART
OF IT, CALL US NOW.
1-888-777-1999.
Kristi: GORDON, I'VE
GOT TO TELL YOU, THE KIDS
LOVE IT.
YOU KNOW I HAVE AN
8-YEAR-OLD SON, SOON TO BE
NINE, AS I'M REMINDED EVERY
OTHER DAY --
Gordon: EIGHT AND A
HALF.
SCRIRMT
Kristi: EIGHT AND
THREE-QUARTERS.
AND HE LOVES "SUPERBOOK."
AND WE'VE TAKEN IT TO HIS
SCHOOL, AND HE'S BEEN IN
SUMMER CAMP, AND THEY'VE
BEEN WATCHING IT.
SO WHENEVER YOU HAVE
D.V.D.s MISSING FROM YOUR
DESK, UH-HUH, I TOOK THEM.
I'LL LEAVE A DOLLAR.
SORRY.
COMING UP, WE HAVE AN
AMAZING STORY.
SHE WENT FROM RELATIONSHIP
TO RELATIONSHIP FOR SEVEN
YEARS.
FIND OUT WHERE SHE FINALLY
FOUND TRUE LOVE AFTER THIS.
Gordon: FOR SEVEN
YEARS, DIDI WENT FROM ONE
MAN TO ANOTHER, HOPING THAT
FINALLY SHE WOULD FIND
LOVE.
AND DIDI DISCOVERED WHAT SHE
WAS LOOKING FOR, AND IT WAS
RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER.
AND I REMEMBER THINKING
TO MYSELF, IS THIS IT?
IS THIS WHAT MY LIFE IS
GONNA BE?
THIS AWFUL, AWFUL CYCLE.
Reporter: A SERIES OF
RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED WHO
DIDI NESBETH WAS, A WOMAN
DESPERATE TO BE TRULY LOVED
BY A MAN.
IT STARTED WHEN SHE WAS A
CHILD.
DIDI THOUGHT HER DAD LOVED
HER SISTER MORE BECAUSE OF
HER SISTER'S MUSICAL
TALENT.
MY SISTER STARTED PLAYING
WHEN SHE WAS TWO AND A HALF,
THREE YEARS OLD.
EVERYWHERE WE WENT, HE WOULD
ASK HER TO PLAY SOMETHING.
THAT'S WHEN IT STARTED TO
BECOME, HE LIKES HER A LOT
MORE THAN HE LIKES ME.
Reporter: DIDI WAS
RAISED IN CHURCH, BUT THREW
HER MORALS ASIDE AT AGE 16.
SHE HOPED HER BOYFRIEND
WOULD EVENTUALLY MARRY HER.
UNFORTUNATELY, ALL HE WANTED
WAS SEX.
AND NOT JUST WITH DIDI.
IN FACT, HE GOT ANOTHER GIRL
PREGNANT.
I WAS COMPLETELY
DEVASTATED.
I WAS HURT.
I HAD SHAME, REJECTION.
I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE ANYBODY
WOULD LOVE ME ANYMORE.
THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG
WITH ME.
Reporter: SHE BROKE UP
WITH HIM, AND BEGAN A
SEVEN-YEAR PATTERN OF DATING
DIFFERENT MEN, SLEEPING WITH
EACH ONE.
SHE KEPT HOPING THAT SEX
MEANT LOVE, BUT EACH TIME
THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED.
I WAS COMPLETELY DONE
WITH MEN.
I WAS SICK OF BEING USED.
I WAS SICK OF BEING HURT.
I WAS SICK OF PUTTING IN MY
LIFE AND MY ENERGY ONLY IN
THE END TO BE RUN OVER AND
LEFT.
Reporter: HER ANIMOSITY
DIDN'T LAST LONG.
DIDI WAS SOON WITH YET
ANOTHER BOYFRIEND, AND THIS
TIME DISCOVERED SHE WAS
PREGNANT.
SHE WANTED TO KEEP THE BABY;
THE BOYFRIEND DID NOT.
WILLING TO DO ANYTHING TO
KEEP HIM FROM LEAVING, SHE
RELUCTANTLY AGREED TO AN
ABORTION.
I BELIEVED THAT I DIDN'T
HAVE A CHOICE.
I DIDN'T HAVE AN OPTION.
FROM THE TIME I LOOKED UP
THE PHONE NUMBER TO THE
PROCEDURE BEING DONE, TO
THIS DAY I REGRET IT.
Reporter: THE
RELATIONSHIP EVENTUALLY
ENDED.
DIDI STARTED DATING ANOTHER
MAN AND BECAME PREGNANT
AGAIN.
SHE VOWED THIS PREGNANCY
WOULD BE DIFFERENT.
I HAD ALREADY DETERMINED
IN MY HEART THAT I'M GOING
TO HAVE THIS BABY.
I HAD ALREADY BEEN TO THE
OBSTETRICIAN A FEW TIMES.
I WAS I PRE-NATALS, AND
EVERYTHING WAS GOING GREAT.
Reporter: NEARLY THREE
MONTHS INTO THE PREGNANCY,
HER BOYFRIEND REVEALED HE
DID NOT WANT THE BABY AND
WOULD TAKE DRASTIC ACTION IF
SHE DIDN'T ABORT IT.
HE CALLED ME AND SAID
I'LL KILL MYSELF IF YOU
DON'T GO THROUGH WITH THIS
ABORTION.
Reporter: DIDI WAS
AFRAID HE MIGHT DO IT, AND
AGREED TO ANOTHER ABORTION.
TO MAKE THE APPOINTMENT,
TO LOOK THE PHONE NUMBER
UP -- IT WAS LIKE ALL OF
THESE LONG, DRAWN-OUT
STEPS.
EVEN THOUGH IT WAS ABOUT
FOUR OR FIVE DAYS LATER, IT
FELT LIKE AN ETERNITY.
AND I WAS SO HEARTBROKEN.
Reporter: DIDI SANK
INTO A DEEP DISPAIR, NEEDING
ANTIDEPRESSANTS AND SLEEPING
PILLS TO FUNCTION.
I WAS ABLE TO COPE, BUT
ONLY FOR THE EIGHT HOURS
THAT THE MEDICATION WAS IN
MY SYSTEM.
I WOULD POP IT IN IN THE
MORNING, AND BY 5 P.M.,
6 P.M. IT WOULD WEAR OFF,
AND I WOULD JUST SIT IN MY
DEPARTMENT JUST DEPRESSED
AND CRYING AND ALONE.
Reporter: DIDI'S NEXT
PLAN WAS TO END HER LIFE.
WHERE I LIVED WAS OVER A
BRIDGE.
I WOULD ALWAYS THINK AS I
WAS DRIVING HOME, I COULD
EASILY TURN THE WHEEL JUST A
LITTLE BIT AND MY CAR COULD
JUST PLUMMET.
THE VERY NEXT THOUGHT WAS,
WELL, YOU DON'T HAVE ANY
FRIENDS ANYWAYS, AND YOUR
PARENTS DON'T KNOW WHERE
YOU'RE AT, SO NO ONE WOULD
EVEN COME TO YOUR FUNERAL,
SO WHY KILL YOURSELF.
Reporter: DIDI
DESPERATELY WANTED TO
CHANGE.
I HAD TRIED EVERYTHING TO
FIX MYSELF.
THE DRUGS DIDN'T FIX ME.
THE RELATIONSHIPS DIDN'T FIX
ME.
NOTHING I WAS DOING WAS
WORKING.
Reporter: DIDI BOUGHT A
BIBLE AND BEGAN READING THE
SCRIPTURES SHE HAD KNOWN AS
A CHILD.
WHEN I WAS READING
IT, LIKE, I LEARNED THAT I
COULD TELL GOD THE TRUTH
ABOUT HOW I WAS FEELING.
I DIDN'T HAVE TO BE ELOQUENT
AND EDUCATED IN MY WORDS.
I COULD JUST TELL HIM, GOD,
I'VE MADE A MESS OF MY
LIFE.
I'M JUST A COMPLETE WRECK.
AND ASKING HIM TO FORGIVE
ME.
I JUST REMEMBER WEEPING.
Reporter: DIDI REALIZED
SHE WAS FORGIVEN OF HER SINS
AND HAD FOUND THE SOURCE OF
LOVE SHE ALWAYS DESIRED.
AND I FELT SO FILLED AND
SO LOVED.
THERE WAS NO DOUBT -- THERE
WAS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND
WHATSOEVER THAT THIS WAS
IT.
THIS WAS IT.
THIS IS THE REAL DEAL.
Reporter: DIDI FOUND A
CHURCH HOME, JOINED A
WOMEN'S BIBLE STUDY, AND
BEGAN TO GROW IN HER
RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST.
AND GOD BROUGHT AVERY INTO
HER LIFE.
THEY MARRIED IN 2003 AND HAD
LITTLE AVA A FEW YEARS
LATER.
AND DIDI IS EXPECTING THEIR
SECOND CHILD.
I WENT SEARCHING FOR LIFE
AND HAPPINESS AND SOMEWHERE
TO BELONG OR SOMEONE TO
BELONG TO AND VALUE AND LIFE
IN JESUS -- HE GIVES YOU
THAT VALUE.
WHEN JESUS SAVED ME, HE
SAVED ME.
HE SAVED MY LIFE.
Gordon: AND HE CAN SAVE
YOURS.
DON'T THINK FOR A MINUTE
THAT YOU'VE GONE TOO FAR.
THAT SOMEHOW OR ANOTHER GOD
IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.
LET THE STORY OF THE
PRODIGAL SON MINISTER TO
YOU, AND LET YOU KNOW THAT
HOW MUCH GOD REJOICES WHEN
THE PRODIGAL COMES HOME.
AND HOW HE WRAPS HIS ARMED
AROUND HIM AND KISSES HIM,
AND SAYS, THE SON I THOUGHT
WAS DEAD IS BACK TO LIFE,
AND IS BACK WITH ME.
THAT THE WHEN YOU FIND YOUR
IDENTITY IN WHO YOU ARE.
AND THAT'S WHERE YOU FIND
LOVE.
IT'S IN THE ARMS OF YOUR
HEAVENLY FATHER.
THE WORLD WILL TRY TO
CONVINCE YOU THAT THERE IS
SOMETHING SPECIAL, AND IF
YOU DO CERTAIN THINGS, YOU
KNOW, YOU'LL BE LOVED,
YOU'LL BE ACCEPTED.
YOU'LL FIT IN.
BUT YOU KNOW ALREADY IT IS
NOT WORKING.
YOU KNOW ALREADY -- YOU
DON'T NEED ME TO TELL YOU.
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW AND
NEED TO DISCOVER FOR
YOURSELF IS THE SAME THING
DIDI DISCOVERED, THAT WHEN
SHE FINALLY TURNED, WHEN SHE
FINALLY SAID, GOD, I'VE MADE
A MESS OF MY LIFE, CAN YOU
DO SOMETHING?
CAN YOU STEP IN?
THEN SHE FOUND HER IDENTITY,
WHAT SHE'D BEEN LOOKING FOR
ALL ALONE.
SHE FINALLY FOUND IT, AND
SHE FINALLY FOUND JOY AND
PEACE AND THE FORGIVENESS
THAT SHE NEEDED.
YOU CAN DO THE SAME THING.
PRAY THE SAME PRAYER.
JUST WHAT DIDI SAID, LORD,
I'VE MADE A MESS OF MY
LIFE.
CAN YOU SAVE ME?
CAN YOU FIX ME?
JESUS, IF THIS IS REAL, CAN
YOU SHOW UP?
IF YOU PRAY THAT WITH ALL OF
YOUR HEART, THAT'S WHEN YOU
FIND HIM.
WHEN YOU SEEK HIM WITH ALL
OF YOUR HEART, YOU'LL FIND
HIM.
IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PRAY
WITH YOU, WE'RE HERE FOR
YOU.
IT'S OUR HONOR.
WE'RE NOT HERE TO JUDGE.
WE'RE NOT HERE TO CONDEMN.
WE'RE HERE TO TELL YOU THAT
GOD LOVES YOU AND HE DIED
FOR YOU.
AND HE WANTS YOU TO BE WITH
HIM.
THERE IS A REASON THE BIBLE
SAYS JESUS WAS A FRIEND OF
SINNERS.
HE IS YOUR FRIEND.
HE'LL COME TO YOU JUST AS
YOU ARE.
SO CALL.
1-888-777-1999.
THERE ARE PEOPLE STANDING BY
WHO WOULD LOVE TO PRAY WITH
YOU, AND LOVE TO ENCOURAGE
YOU.
AND WE'VE GOT SOMETHING FOR
YOU IF YOU'RE A NEW
BELIEVER.
IT'S CALLED "A NEW DAY."
AND IT'S A C.D.
WHAT DO YOU DO NOW?
HOW DO YOU LIVE A CHRISTIAN
LIFE?
WE WANT TO SEND IT TO YOU.
> THE PHONE CALL IS FREE.
THE C.D. IS FREE.
1-888-777-1999.
YOU READY TO BE PUT ON THE
HOT SEAT.
WE'VE GOT A BUNCH OF
MARRIAGE QUESTIONS.
Kristi: I'M MORE THAN
WILLING TO THROW THE HOT
SEAT BACK AT YOU.
HOW ABOUT IF I READ AND
WE'LL TAKE IT FROM THERE.
"WE'VE RECEIVED YOUR IN-BOX
QUESTION, AND IVY ASKED, HOW
DO YOU KNOW IF THE GUY
YOU'RE DATING IS THE ONE FOR
YOU.
OTHERS SAY YOU JUST KNOW.
AND OTHERS SAY OPPOSITES
ATTRACT.
I'VE BEEN DATING A GUY, BUT
I'M A LITTLE BORED WITH HIS
PERSONALITY.
HOW IMPORTANT IS THE FIRE
BETWEEN HIM AND M ME?"
HOW IMPORTANT IS THAT?
Gordon: IF YOU'RE
DATING AND YOU FIND HIM
BORING, THAT MIGHT BE A SIGN
TO MOVE ON.
DON'T GET MARRIED UNLESS YOU
HAVE TO.
IF YOU CAN'T IMAGINE LIVING
WITHOUT THEM, THAT'S THE
BEST SIGN.
THAT YOU DON'T WANT A DAY TO
GO BY WITHOUT HEARING THEIR
VOICE.
THAT'S WHAT LEADS TO LASTING
MARRIAGES.
I ALSO TELL PEOPLE TRY TO
MARRY YOUR FRIEND.
YOU KNOW, IF YOU'RE JUST
LOVING BEING AROUND THEM,
AND YOU GUYS REALLY LIKE
DOING THE SAME THING, THAT'S
A PRETTY GOOD SIGN, TOO.
Kristi: THAT IS.
I ALWAYS THINK ABOUT THE
MOVIE THAT WE'VE ALL SEEN
WITH TOM CRUISE WHERE SHE
SAYS, "YOU COMPLETE ME."
AND I THINK THAT IS THE
BIGGEST FAUX PAS.
PEOPLE LOOK FOR THE OTHER
PERSON TO COMPLETE THEM.
IN REALITY, ONLY GOD SHOULD
COMPLETE YOU.
WHEN YOU'RE COMPLETE AND
YOU'RE WHOLE AND A GOOD
GIFT, THEN YOU FIND SOMEONE
ELSE WHO IS COMPLETE AND
WHOLE AND YOU MERGE THEM
TOGETHER.
Gordon: AND I LIKE IN
YOUR SERIES, THE QUESTION
IS, "ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH
THEM, BUT ARE THEY IN LOVE
WITH THEMSELVES?"
BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T LOVE
YOURSELF, IT IS HARD TO LOVE
SOMEBODY ELSE.
Kristi: AND MYLES SAID
THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF A
QUESTION WE ASK IS, DO YOU
LOVE ME.
WHEN THE QUESTION IS, DO YOU
LOVE YOU?
AND IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF,
THAT'S IT.
Gordon: "HE H WHO
FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD
THING AND OBTAINS FAVOR FROM
THE LORD."
GOD BLESS YOU.
WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.
Kristi: GOOD SHOW.