Reporter: WORDS OF

ADVICE FOR CHRISTIAN

SINGLES.

MEET AND GREETS COMING

UP.

YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO.

THE KEY IS TO ACT LIKE

YOU DON'T CARE.

IT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T

EXPECT IT.

YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WASN'T

MARRIED?

JESUS.

JUST PRAY ABOUT IT.

PRAY HARDER.

Reporter: HOW TO DEAL

WITH THAT UNWANTED

ENCOURAGEMENT.

ON TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

*

Gordon: WELCOME TO THE

SHOW, AND THANKS FOR

SPENDING THE MORNING WITH

US.

IT HAS BEEN A SUMMER OF

LOVE.

AND IN TODAY'S SHOW WE'RE

GOING TO TALK ABOUT

WEDDINGS, AND WE'RE GOING TO

TALK ABOUT BEING SINGLE.

IT HAS BEEN AN INTERESTING

SUMMER.

WE'VE GOT ALL KINDS OF

CELEBRITIES IN HOLLYWOOD ALL

PLANNING THEIR WEDDINGS.

BUT MANY AMERICANS ARE NOT.

Kristi: THIS IS

ESPECIALLY TRUE, GORDON,

WHEN IT COMES TO THE

CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY, WHO IS

FILLED WITH MEN AND WOMEN

WHO LONG TO TIE THE KNOT,

RIGHT?

WHILE THEIR MARRIED FRIENDS

ARE QUICK TO GIVE ADVICE,

ADVICE ISN'T ALWAYS THAT

HELPFUL.

TAKE A LOOK.

HOW ARE YOU STILL

SINGLE?

THERE IS SOMEONE OUT

THERE FOR YOU.

JESUS IS YOUR BOYFRIEND

NOW.

MEET AND GREET IS COMING

UP.

YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO.

THE KEY IS TO ACT LIKE

YOU DON'T CARE.

IT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T

EXPECT IT.

WHO ARE YOU BRINGING TO

THE WEDDING.

IF I WAS A GIRL, I WOULD

DATE YOU.

HAVE YOU TRIED INTERNET

DATING.

DO YOU KNOW WHO ELSE

WASN'T MARRIED?

PAUL.

ALL THE SINGLES LADIES.

WORK ON YOUR SMILE.

YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WASN'T

MARRIED?

JESUS.

MAYBE IF YOU GIVE GOD ONE

OF YOUR RIBS, HE'LL GIVE YOU

A WIFE.

YOU SHOULD CHANGE YOUR

Facebook PROFILE PICTURE.

YOU KNOW WHO ELSE WASN'T

MARRIED?

MATTHEW.

YOU'RE NOT THAT OLD YET.

YOU CAN'T SETTLE.

YOU MIGHT WANT TO THINK

ABOUT SETTLE.

WE'RE GOING TO CELEBRATE

NOT HAVING VALENTINE'S DAY.

IF SHE SAYS, YOU'RE LIKE

MY BEST FRIEND, THAT'S BAD.

WHEN YOU HAVE A WIFE, YOU

CAN'T PLAY AS MUCH XBOX.

YOU SHOULD GET A DOG.

HAVE YOU ASKED JESUS FOR

A WIFE.

ARE YOU ON CHRISTIAN

MINGLE?

I HAVE A GREAT BOOK FOR

YOU TO READ.

IT'S CALLED THE BIBLE.

JESUS IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND

NOW.

YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE

SUCH A COOL AUNT.

IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU.

YOU KNOW, THERE IS NO

MARRIAGE IN HEAVEN.

IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU.

I DON'T KNOW, IS HE A

CHRISTIAN.

IT IS ABOUT JESUS.

I KNOW PEOPLE WHO GOT

MARRIED WHEN THEY

WERE, LIKE, 70.

YOU'RE FINE.

MARRIAGE IS LIKE A

SANDWICH.

IT TAKES A LONG TIME.

YOU'RE NOT GOING TO MEET

YOUR HUSBAND AT A BAR.

FOR IT IS BETTER TO BE

UNMARRIED, SEE?

Kristi: I LOVE IT.

I LOVE IT.

I LOVE IT.

JOINING US NOW IS A MAN YOU

JUST SAW IN THE MEDIA.

COMEDIAN JOHN PHELPS.

JOHN, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

OH, MY GOODNESS.

HOW HYSTERICAL ARE YOU,

MAN.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR

HAVING ME.

YEAH, I HAD A LOT OF FUN

MAKING THAT VIDEO.

THANKS FOR SHOWING IT.

Kristi: HERE IS THE

QUESTION OF THE DAY: I FEEL

LIKE YOU TOOK MY BRAIN,

SAWED IT OPEN, AND TOOK OUT

ALL OF THE DIFFERENT THINGS

THAT HAVE BEEN SAID TO ME

AND I THINK MILLIONS OF

OTHER CHRISTIAN SINGLES.

HOW DO YOU COMPILE ALL OF

THOSE?

WERE THOSE THINGS SAID TO

WHEN YOU YOU WERE SINGLE?

YES.

I'VE HEARD AT LEAST HALF OF

THOSE THINGS SAID TO ME.

AND THEN, OF COURSE, WHEN I

WAS PUTTING IT TOGETHER, MY

WIFE PUT IN HER TWO CENTS,

AND WE KIND OF COMBINED ALL

OF THE THINGS WE HEARD WHEN

WE WERE SINGLE AND WE WERE

WAITING TO BE MARRIED.

AND JUST HOW FUNNY AND

RIDICULOUS IT COULD GET.

SOME OF IT WAS SOUND

ADVICE.

AND SOME WAS, LIKE, I DON'T

THINK SO.

IT WAS A LOT OF FUN.

Kristi: I LOVE IT.

WHAT DO YOU THINK, JOHN?

ARE THOSE STATEMENTS HELPFUL

OR HURTFUL?

IT IS NOT A BAD THING TO

SEEK GODLY COUNSEL, BUT

SOMETIMES PEOPLE GO

OVERBOARD.

TAKE EVERYTHING WITH A GRAIN

OF SALT.

OBVIOUSLY LOOK FOR ADVICE,

BUT WHEN YOU NEED HELPFUL

ADVICE, ASK FRIENDS, BUT

ALSO ASK GOOD COUNSEL.

AND READ THE BIBLE.

ASK YOUR CHURCH FOR HELP.

YOU KNOW, LOOK IN A LOT OF

DIFFERENT PLACES.

DON'T JUST LOOK ONLY TO YOUR

FRIENDS.

Kristi: , I'VE BEEN

WORKING ON THIS SERIES,

CALLED "THE VOICE OF HOPE,"

AND THE WHOLE CON SEPTOR IS

-- CONCEPT IS THE CHRISTIAN

SINGLE AND THE PLIGHT OF THE

CHRISTIAN SINGLE.

IT SEEMS LIKE IN THE CHURCH

WE'RE THE FORGOTTEN SECTOR.

YOU GO TO CHURCH AND PEOPLE

TALK ABOUT THE MARRIED FOLKS

OR THE MARRIED FOLKS WITH

THE KIDS.

BUT WHEN IT COMES TO THE

SINGLE, IT IS, LIKE, GOD HAS

A SPECIAL PERSON FOR YOU ONE

DAY.

HAVE YOU FELT THAT WAY

BEFORE?

I HAVE BEFORE.

I KNOW A LOT OF CHURCHES,

THERE ARE EUR YOUTH GROUPS

AND THERE ARE MARRIED

GROUPS.

AND THERE ARE VERY FEW

SINGLE GROUPS.

IT IS KIND OF A SMALLER,

FORGOTTEN CROWD.

I'M GLAD YOU'RE BRINGING

ATTENTION TO IT AND

AWARENESS TO IT.

BECAUSE I KNOW WHEN I WAS

SINGLE, IT WASN'T EASY.

IT IS A STRUGGLE WAITING FOR

THE ONE THAT GOD HAS FOR

YOU.

AND JUST HAVING THE GIFT OF

SINGLENESS.

Kristi: THAT'S TRUE.

IT'S DEFINITELY NOT

EASY.

IT IS FINALLY GOOD TO SEE

SOME CHURCHES TAKING ACTION

TO HELP THOSE IN THAT

POSITION.

Kristi: THAT'S TRUE.

BUT, JOHN, THAT NO LONGER

APPLIES TO YOU.

YOU'RE NO LONGER THE

CHRISTIAN SINGLE.

I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT YOU,

JOHN.

LAST YEAR YOU GOT MARRIED,

BECAUSE YOU FOUND YOUR BO.

HOW DID YOU MEET?

WE MET AT A BEACH BONFIRE

WITH SOME FRIENDS FROM

COLLEGE.

I ALWAYS KNEW GROWING UP IN

MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD,

THAT I HAD TO WAIT UNTIL I

WAS MARRIED TO BE WITH

SOMEONE, SO I THOUGHT, WHEN

DO I GET MARRIED THEN, YOU

KNOW?

I ALWAYS FIGURED I'D BE

MARRIED AT 18 OR 20, BUT I

DIDN'T WANT TO GET MARRIED

JUST TO GET MARRIED.

I WANTED TO WAIT FOR THE ONE

THAT GOD HAD FOR ME, AND I

WANTED TO TRUST HIM WITH

THAT.

I ENDED UP GETTING MARRIED

ONLY A LITTLE OVER A YEAR

AGO AT 25.

WHEN YOU WAIT FOR THE ONE

THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU, YOU

REALIZE WHY YOU ARE

WAITING.

YOU'RE GLAD YOU HELD OUT,

AND IT JUST MAKES SO MUCH

MORE SENSE.

MY WIFE IS MY BEST FRIEND,

AND SOMEONE WHO MAKES

EVERYTHING FUN.

GOING TO WAL-MART WITH MY

WIFE IS AMAZING.

IT IS TONS OF TONGUE AND

CHEEK.

I'M GLAD I WAITED AND DIDN'T

JUST GET MARRIED TO GET

MARRIED.

JUST BE PATIENT AND WAIT FOR

GOD'S PLAN TO CARRY ITSELF

OUT.

DON'T TRY TO GO SNATCH UP

ANYONE YOU CAN YOURSELF.

DO THE RIGHT THING AND JUST

BE CONTENT IN WAITING FOR

WHAT GOD HAS IN STORE FOR

YOU.

Kristi: I LOVE THAT,

JOHN.

I HAVE TWO QUESTIONS FOR YOU

BEFORE WE END.

NUMBER ONE, THE QUESTION IS

"THE ONE."

I THINK THAT SO MANY PEOPLE

ARE WAITING FOR THAT ONE

PERSON THAT GOD HAS FOR

THEM.

DO YOU THINK IT IS A

BIBLICAL CONCEPT, JUST THAT

ONE PERSON?

OR DO YOU THINK THERE ARE

LOT OF DIFFERENT PEOPLE FOR

US AND WE GET TO CHOOSE, AND

GOD WILL HONOR THAT.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

I DON'T THINK THERE IS

ONE PERSON FOR EVERYONE.

THE MATH DOESN'T WORK OUT.

THERE ARE A LOT MORE WOMEN

THEN MEN OUT THERE, SO I

DON'T THINK THAT IS

POSSIBLE.

I DON'T THINK THE BIBLE WILL

MENTION THE GIFT OF

SINGLENESS IF EVERYONE HAS A

ONE.

IF GOD WANTS YOU TO BE

MARRIED, HE HAS SOMEONE FOR

YOU.

BUT YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF

OUT THERE, AND LET PEOPLE

KNOW YOU'RE AVAILABLE.

BUT DO IT IN A GODLY WAY.

GO IN GROUPS OUT WITH

PEOPLE, SEE WHO YOU CLICK

WITH.

AND YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF

OUT THERE, AS MUCH AS YOU

MAY NOT WANT TO, OR YOU JUST

WANT TO WAIT ON THE LORD.

BUT A LOT OF IT IS JUST

BEING AVAILABLE.

Kristi: THAT IS SO

TRUE.

JOHN, I HAVE A REALLY JUICY

QUESTION THAT MIGHT MAKE YOU

BLUSH.

IF IT DOES, I'M SORRY.

WHAT DO YOU SAY AT THIS

CHRISTIAN SINGLE WHO JUST

REALLY WANTS TO HAVE SEX OR

REALLY, REALLY WANT TO GET

MARRIED.

I READ AN ARTICLE THAT 80%

OF CHRISTIAN SINGLES ARE

SEXUALLY ACTIVE.

CRAZY, RIGHT?

WHAT DO YOU SAY TO THE

CHRISTIAN SINGLE ABOUT

HONORING THE LORD AND YOU

CAN WAIT.

WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY

ABOUT THAT?

I'M NOT BLUSHING, BECAUSE

I'M VERY COMFORTABLE RIGHT

NOW.

I'M NOT EVEN WEARING PANTS.

THAT'S WHY I LIKE THE SKYPE

INTERVIEW.

TO THOSE CHRISTIANS, I WAS

THAT SINGLE CHRISTIAN.

AS SOON AS I KNEW IN MY

HEART THAT I WASN'T SUPPOSED

TO HAVE SEX UNTIL I WAS

MARRIED, I WAS LIKE, LET'S

GET MARRIED.

LET ME JUST FIND A WIFE AND

MARRY WHOEVER I CAN FIND

FIRST.

BECAUSE THAT'S HOW I WANTED

IT TO BE.

BUT I KNEW THAT MARRIAGE HAS

A LOT TO DO WITH SEX, BUT IT

IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX.

SEX IS AN IMPORTANT, VERY

BIG PART OF MARRIAGE, BUT

THAT IS NOT ALL THERE IS TO

IT.

YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO

SOMEONE YOU CAN BE IN LOVE

WITH, DEEP, DEEP, LOVE, AND

THAT YOU CAN CARRY ON A

CONVERSATION WITH.

I MARRIED MY WIFE BECAUSE

YEAH, SHE IS REALLY

GOOD-LOOKING, BUT WE HAVE A

REALLY GOOD TIME JUST

TALKING TOGETHER.

I DON'T HOLD IT AGAINST HER

FOR MARRYING ME JUST FOR MY

LOOKS.

[LAUGHTER]

LUCKY FOR HER WE BOTH GET

ALONE.

IT IS MORE THAN SEX, AND SEX

IS A BIG PART OF IT, BUT

WHEN YOU WAIT FOR THE ONE

THAT GOD HAS FOR YOU, IT'S

WORTH IT.

YOU REALIZE THERE IS MORE TO

IT, AND IT IS A WONDERFUL

THING TO BE IN LOVE AND TO

HAVE THAT KIND OF INTIMACY

WITH A MARRIAGE PARTNER.

Kristi: FANTASTIC,

JOHN.

YOU'RE JUST A THRILL.

I APPRECIATE YOUR HUMOR, AND

I APPRECIATE YOUR OUTLOOK.

MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU AND

YOUR MARRIAGE.

THANK YOU.

I APPRECIATE IT.

Kristi: IF YOU WANT TO

HEAR MORE ABOUT JOHN'S WORK,

YOU CAN GO TO

700clubinteractive.com, AND

WE HAVE LINKS TO HIS

WEBSITE, AS WELL AS TO HIS

HILARIOUS YouTube

VIDEO.

IT IS ONE OF THOSE VIDEOS

YOU WANT TO PASS AROUND AND

YOU WILL START CRACKING UP.

JOHN, THANKS AGAIN FOR BEING

WITH US.

GORDON?

Gordon: THAT WAS A

GREAT INTERVIEW.

I LIKE THAT.

THAT WAS A LOT OF FUN.

I DON'T KNOW ABOUT MARRIED

COUPLES GOING TO WAL-MART

TOGETHER.

Kristi: COME ON, THAT'S

WHAT MARRIED COUPLES DO.

THAT'S WHEN YOU KNOW YOU'RE

REALLY IN LOVE, WHEN YOU CAN

GO TO WAL-MART AND GO DOWN

THE PRODUCE AISLE AND SAY,

WHAT KIND OF CHOCOLATE CHIP

COOKIE DO YOU WANT.

Gordon: COMING UP, SEE

WHAT TV SHOW HAS BEEN

CAPTIVATING CHILDREN ACROSS

AMERICA, RIGHT AFTER THIS.

Reporter: TOMORROW...

AND THE CAR ROLLED INTO A

DITCH IN THE MEDIAN, AND

THEN FROM THAT POINT I WAS

EJECTED FROM THE CAR.

Reporter: A SON CLINGS

TO LIFE WHILE HIS PARENTS

CLING TO PRAYER.

WE JUST KEPT PRAYING.

WE HAD SO MANY PEOPLE ALL

OVER THE WORLD PRAYING FOR

HIM.

WE WOULDN'T ALLOW OURSELVES

TO THINK NEGATIVE.

WE JUST KEPT MOVING

FORWARD.

Reporter: ON THE NEXT

"700 CLUB INTERACTIVE."

Gordon: RECENTLY

CHILDREN IN HOUSTON GOT TO

WATCH EPISODES OF

"SUPERBOOK" AT A SUMMER

SPORTS CAMP, AND THEY LOVED

IT.

JUST SEE FOR YOURSELF.

Reporter: THERE IS

NEVER A DULL MOMENT FOR THE

KIDS WHO COME TO UNIVERSITY

BAPTIST CHURCH'S SPORTS CAMP

IN HOUSTON, TEXAS.

WHEN IT IS TIME FOR A BREAK,

THE GANG HEADS U UPSTAIRS

FOR A LESSON TIME.

THE CHURCH USE CBN'S

"SUPERBOOK" TO TEACH THE

KIDS ABOUT GOD.

WHAT DID YOU LEARN TODAY

ABOUT DAVID AND GOLIATH.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE WITH

GOD.

DAVID'S BROTHER DIDN'T

BELIEVE HE COULD KILL

GOLIATH, BUT HE TRUSTED GOD

AND WENT OUT THERE AND

KILLED HIM.

Reporter: SHE SAYS THE

KIDS LOVE LESSON TIME.

I'VE USED VIDEO SERIES IN

THE PAST, AND IT HAS NOT

GOTTEN THE ATTENTION OF THE

KIDS OR THE PARENTS LIKE

"SUPERBOOK" DID.

Reporter: CBN'S

NATIONAL CHURCH

REPRESENTATIVE, BRAD, SAYS

HE IS THRILLED THE NEW HIGH

DEFINITION ANIMATION SERIES

IS BEING USED LIKE THIS.

"SUPERBOOK" IN ITSELF,

WATCHING IT AT HOME, IS

POWERFUL.

BUT WHEN WE'RE ABLE TO BRING

IT INTO A CHURCH SETTING, ON

THE BIG SCREEN, THERE IS

GREAT SYNERGY AND IT JUST

SEEMS TO FLOW IN SUCH A WAY

THAT WE SEE GREAT DECISIONS

MADE BY KIDS IN LEARNING THE

BIBLE AND GIVING THEIR HEART

TO CHRIST.

Reporter: BRAD AND

BECKY BRING THEIR KIDS TO

SPORTS CAMP, AND THEY

VOLUNTEER, SO THEY WATCHED

"SUPERBOOK," TOO.

WE HAVE A 6-YEAR-OLD AND

A 9-YEAR-OLD, AND IT WAS

SOMETHING WE COULD WATCH

TOGETHER.

IT WASN'T JUST FOR THE

6-YEAR-OLD OR THE

9-YEAR-OLD, BUT WE COULD

WATCH IT AS A FAMILY AND

DISCUSS IT.

NOW THAT I'VE SEEN

"SUPERBOOK," I KNOW NO

MATTER WHAT YOU DO, YOU CAN

TRUST GOD.

Reporter: AND

"SUPERBOOK" HAS A BRAND NEW

EPISODE READY FOR EVERYONE

TO ENJOY, "THE 10

COMMANDMENTS."

CBN CONTINUES THEIR

COMMITMENT TO "SUPERBOOK" TO

WIN KIDS TO CHRIST.

Gordon: IT BRINGS JOY

TO MY HEART TO SEE IT OUT

THERE, CHURCHES

PARTICIPATING, AND FAMILIES

PARTICIPATING.

I WANT TO TAKE THE BIBLE --

THIS IS WHAT WE WANT TO DO,

WE WANT TO TAKE THE BIBLE TO

THE CHILDREN OF THE WORLD.

OUR GOAL IS FOR 300 MILLION

CHILDREN.

WE'RE INTO 37 LANGUAGES NOW

ON THE TRANSLATION.

AND ALL OF THAT IS GOING TO

BE KICKING OFF NEXT YEAR AS

WE LAUNCH "SUPERBOOK" AROUND

THE WORLD.

AND WE'RE ASKING PEOPLE TO

HELP.

SO CALL US.

1-888-777-1999.

JUST SAY, YEAH, I WANT TO BE

A PART OF IT.

I WANT TO HELP BRING THE

BIBLE TO THE CHILDREN OF THE

WORLD.

HOW DO YOU DO THAT?

BY JOINING THE "SUPERBOOK"

D.V.D. CLUB.

FOR A GIFT OF $25, WE'LL

SEND YOU THE LATEST EPISODE

AS THEY'RE RELEASED.

WE'VE ALREADY GOT SEVEN OF

THEM OUT.

IF YOU WANT TO GET CAUGHT

UP, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GO

TO cbn.com AND YOU CAN GET

CAUGHT UP WITH THE PAST

EPISODES.

AND AS NEW ONES ARE

PRODUCED, ABOUT EVERY SIX

WEEKS, WE'LL CHARGE YOUR

CREDIT CARD AND SEND YOU THE

NEW ONE.

ALL OF THE COSTS GO INTO THE

COSTS OF THE "SUPERBOOK."

AND WE'RE MAKING FAMILY

EDITIONS SO WE CAN BE A

BLESSING TO THE FAMILIES AND

THE CHURCHES OF THE WORLD.

SO IF YOU WANT TO BE A PART

OF IT, CALL US NOW.

1-888-777-1999.

Kristi: GORDON, I'VE

GOT TO TELL YOU, THE KIDS

LOVE IT.

YOU KNOW I HAVE AN

8-YEAR-OLD SON, SOON TO BE

NINE, AS I'M REMINDED EVERY

OTHER DAY --

Gordon: EIGHT AND A

HALF.

SCRIRMT

Kristi: EIGHT AND

THREE-QUARTERS.

AND HE LOVES "SUPERBOOK."

AND WE'VE TAKEN IT TO HIS

SCHOOL, AND HE'S BEEN IN

SUMMER CAMP, AND THEY'VE

BEEN WATCHING IT.

SO WHENEVER YOU HAVE

D.V.D.s MISSING FROM YOUR

DESK, UH-HUH, I TOOK THEM.

I'LL LEAVE A DOLLAR.

SORRY.

COMING UP, WE HAVE AN

AMAZING STORY.

SHE WENT FROM RELATIONSHIP

TO RELATIONSHIP FOR SEVEN

YEARS.

FIND OUT WHERE SHE FINALLY

FOUND TRUE LOVE AFTER THIS.

Gordon: FOR SEVEN

YEARS, DIDI WENT FROM ONE

MAN TO ANOTHER, HOPING THAT

FINALLY SHE WOULD FIND

LOVE.

AND DIDI DISCOVERED WHAT SHE

WAS LOOKING FOR, AND IT WAS

RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER.

AND I REMEMBER THINKING

TO MYSELF, IS THIS IT?

IS THIS WHAT MY LIFE IS

GONNA BE?

THIS AWFUL, AWFUL CYCLE.

Reporter: A SERIES OF

RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED WHO

DIDI NESBETH WAS, A WOMAN

DESPERATE TO BE TRULY LOVED

BY A MAN.

IT STARTED WHEN SHE WAS A

CHILD.

DIDI THOUGHT HER DAD LOVED

HER SISTER MORE BECAUSE OF

HER SISTER'S MUSICAL

TALENT.

MY SISTER STARTED PLAYING

WHEN SHE WAS TWO AND A HALF,

THREE YEARS OLD.

EVERYWHERE WE WENT, HE WOULD

ASK HER TO PLAY SOMETHING.

THAT'S WHEN IT STARTED TO

BECOME, HE LIKES HER A LOT

MORE THAN HE LIKES ME.

Reporter: DIDI WAS

RAISED IN CHURCH, BUT THREW

HER MORALS ASIDE AT AGE 16.

SHE HOPED HER BOYFRIEND

WOULD EVENTUALLY MARRY HER.

UNFORTUNATELY, ALL HE WANTED

WAS SEX.

AND NOT JUST WITH DIDI.

IN FACT, HE GOT ANOTHER GIRL

PREGNANT.

I WAS COMPLETELY

DEVASTATED.

I WAS HURT.

I HAD SHAME, REJECTION.

I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE ANYBODY

WOULD LOVE ME ANYMORE.

THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG

WITH ME.

Reporter: SHE BROKE UP

WITH HIM, AND BEGAN A

SEVEN-YEAR PATTERN OF DATING

DIFFERENT MEN, SLEEPING WITH

EACH ONE.

SHE KEPT HOPING THAT SEX

MEANT LOVE, BUT EACH TIME

THE RELATIONSHIP ENDED.

I WAS COMPLETELY DONE

WITH MEN.

I WAS SICK OF BEING USED.

I WAS SICK OF BEING HURT.

I WAS SICK OF PUTTING IN MY

LIFE AND MY ENERGY ONLY IN

THE END TO BE RUN OVER AND

LEFT.

Reporter: HER ANIMOSITY

DIDN'T LAST LONG.

DIDI WAS SOON WITH YET

ANOTHER BOYFRIEND, AND THIS

TIME DISCOVERED SHE WAS

PREGNANT.

SHE WANTED TO KEEP THE BABY;

THE BOYFRIEND DID NOT.

WILLING TO DO ANYTHING TO

KEEP HIM FROM LEAVING, SHE

RELUCTANTLY AGREED TO AN

ABORTION.

I BELIEVED THAT I DIDN'T

HAVE A CHOICE.

I DIDN'T HAVE AN OPTION.

FROM THE TIME I LOOKED UP

THE PHONE NUMBER TO THE

PROCEDURE BEING DONE, TO

THIS DAY I REGRET IT.

Reporter: THE

RELATIONSHIP EVENTUALLY

ENDED.

DIDI STARTED DATING ANOTHER

MAN AND BECAME PREGNANT

AGAIN.

SHE VOWED THIS PREGNANCY

WOULD BE DIFFERENT.

I HAD ALREADY DETERMINED

IN MY HEART THAT I'M GOING

TO HAVE THIS BABY.

I HAD ALREADY BEEN TO THE

OBSTETRICIAN A FEW TIMES.

I WAS I PRE-NATALS, AND

EVERYTHING WAS GOING GREAT.

Reporter: NEARLY THREE

MONTHS INTO THE PREGNANCY,

HER BOYFRIEND REVEALED HE

DID NOT WANT THE BABY AND

WOULD TAKE DRASTIC ACTION IF

SHE DIDN'T ABORT IT.

HE CALLED ME AND SAID

I'LL KILL MYSELF IF YOU

DON'T GO THROUGH WITH THIS

ABORTION.

Reporter: DIDI WAS

AFRAID HE MIGHT DO IT, AND

AGREED TO ANOTHER ABORTION.

TO MAKE THE APPOINTMENT,

TO LOOK THE PHONE NUMBER

UP -- IT WAS LIKE ALL OF

THESE LONG, DRAWN-OUT

STEPS.

EVEN THOUGH IT WAS ABOUT

FOUR OR FIVE DAYS LATER, IT

FELT LIKE AN ETERNITY.

AND I WAS SO HEARTBROKEN.

Reporter: DIDI SANK

INTO A DEEP DISPAIR, NEEDING

ANTIDEPRESSANTS AND SLEEPING

PILLS TO FUNCTION.

I WAS ABLE TO COPE, BUT

ONLY FOR THE EIGHT HOURS

THAT THE MEDICATION WAS IN

MY SYSTEM.

I WOULD POP IT IN IN THE

MORNING, AND BY 5 P.M.,

6 P.M. IT WOULD WEAR OFF,

AND I WOULD JUST SIT IN MY

DEPARTMENT JUST DEPRESSED

AND CRYING AND ALONE.

Reporter: DIDI'S NEXT

PLAN WAS TO END HER LIFE.

WHERE I LIVED WAS OVER A

BRIDGE.

I WOULD ALWAYS THINK AS I

WAS DRIVING HOME, I COULD

EASILY TURN THE WHEEL JUST A

LITTLE BIT AND MY CAR COULD

JUST PLUMMET.

THE VERY NEXT THOUGHT WAS,

WELL, YOU DON'T HAVE ANY

FRIENDS ANYWAYS, AND YOUR

PARENTS DON'T KNOW WHERE

YOU'RE AT, SO NO ONE WOULD

EVEN COME TO YOUR FUNERAL,

SO WHY KILL YOURSELF.

Reporter: DIDI

DESPERATELY WANTED TO

CHANGE.

I HAD TRIED EVERYTHING TO

FIX MYSELF.

THE DRUGS DIDN'T FIX ME.

THE RELATIONSHIPS DIDN'T FIX

ME.

NOTHING I WAS DOING WAS

WORKING.

Reporter: DIDI BOUGHT A

BIBLE AND BEGAN READING THE

SCRIPTURES SHE HAD KNOWN AS

A CHILD.

WHEN I WAS READING

IT, LIKE, I LEARNED THAT I

COULD TELL GOD THE TRUTH

ABOUT HOW I WAS FEELING.

I DIDN'T HAVE TO BE ELOQUENT

AND EDUCATED IN MY WORDS.

I COULD JUST TELL HIM, GOD,

I'VE MADE A MESS OF MY

LIFE.

I'M JUST A COMPLETE WRECK.

AND ASKING HIM TO FORGIVE

ME.

I JUST REMEMBER WEEPING.

Reporter: DIDI REALIZED

SHE WAS FORGIVEN OF HER SINS

AND HAD FOUND THE SOURCE OF

LOVE SHE ALWAYS DESIRED.

AND I FELT SO FILLED AND

SO LOVED.

THERE WAS NO DOUBT -- THERE

WAS NO DOUBT IN MY MIND

WHATSOEVER THAT THIS WAS

IT.

THIS WAS IT.

THIS IS THE REAL DEAL.

Reporter: DIDI FOUND A

CHURCH HOME, JOINED A

WOMEN'S BIBLE STUDY, AND

BEGAN TO GROW IN HER

RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST.

AND GOD BROUGHT AVERY INTO

HER LIFE.

THEY MARRIED IN 2003 AND HAD

LITTLE AVA A FEW YEARS

LATER.

AND DIDI IS EXPECTING THEIR

SECOND CHILD.

I WENT SEARCHING FOR LIFE

AND HAPPINESS AND SOMEWHERE

TO BELONG OR SOMEONE TO

BELONG TO AND VALUE AND LIFE

IN JESUS -- HE GIVES YOU

THAT VALUE.

WHEN JESUS SAVED ME, HE

SAVED ME.

HE SAVED MY LIFE.

Gordon: AND HE CAN SAVE

YOURS.

DON'T THINK FOR A MINUTE

THAT YOU'VE GONE TOO FAR.

THAT SOMEHOW OR ANOTHER GOD

IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.

LET THE STORY OF THE

PRODIGAL SON MINISTER TO

YOU, AND LET YOU KNOW THAT

HOW MUCH GOD REJOICES WHEN

THE PRODIGAL COMES HOME.

AND HOW HE WRAPS HIS ARMED

AROUND HIM AND KISSES HIM,

AND SAYS, THE SON I THOUGHT

WAS DEAD IS BACK TO LIFE,

AND IS BACK WITH ME.

THAT THE WHEN YOU FIND YOUR

IDENTITY IN WHO YOU ARE.

AND THAT'S WHERE YOU FIND

LOVE.

IT'S IN THE ARMS OF YOUR

HEAVENLY FATHER.

THE WORLD WILL TRY TO

CONVINCE YOU THAT THERE IS

SOMETHING SPECIAL, AND IF

YOU DO CERTAIN THINGS, YOU

KNOW, YOU'LL BE LOVED,

YOU'LL BE ACCEPTED.

YOU'LL FIT IN.

BUT YOU KNOW ALREADY IT IS

NOT WORKING.

YOU KNOW ALREADY -- YOU

DON'T NEED ME TO TELL YOU.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW AND

NEED TO DISCOVER FOR

YOURSELF IS THE SAME THING

DIDI DISCOVERED, THAT WHEN

SHE FINALLY TURNED, WHEN SHE

FINALLY SAID, GOD, I'VE MADE

A MESS OF MY LIFE, CAN YOU

DO SOMETHING?

CAN YOU STEP IN?

THEN SHE FOUND HER IDENTITY,

WHAT SHE'D BEEN LOOKING FOR

ALL ALONE.

SHE FINALLY FOUND IT, AND

SHE FINALLY FOUND JOY AND

PEACE AND THE FORGIVENESS

THAT SHE NEEDED.

YOU CAN DO THE SAME THING.

PRAY THE SAME PRAYER.

JUST WHAT DIDI SAID, LORD,

I'VE MADE A MESS OF MY

LIFE.

CAN YOU SAVE ME?

CAN YOU FIX ME?

JESUS, IF THIS IS REAL, CAN

YOU SHOW UP?

IF YOU PRAY THAT WITH ALL OF

YOUR HEART, THAT'S WHEN YOU

FIND HIM.

WHEN YOU SEEK HIM WITH ALL

OF YOUR HEART, YOU'LL FIND

HIM.

IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PRAY

WITH YOU, WE'RE HERE FOR

YOU.

IT'S OUR HONOR.

WE'RE NOT HERE TO JUDGE.

WE'RE NOT HERE TO CONDEMN.

WE'RE HERE TO TELL YOU THAT

GOD LOVES YOU AND HE DIED

FOR YOU.

AND HE WANTS YOU TO BE WITH

HIM.

THERE IS A REASON THE BIBLE

SAYS JESUS WAS A FRIEND OF

SINNERS.

HE IS YOUR FRIEND.

HE'LL COME TO YOU JUST AS

YOU ARE.

SO CALL.

1-888-777-1999.

THERE ARE PEOPLE STANDING BY

WHO WOULD LOVE TO PRAY WITH

YOU, AND LOVE TO ENCOURAGE

YOU.

AND WE'VE GOT SOMETHING FOR

YOU IF YOU'RE A NEW

BELIEVER.

IT'S CALLED "A NEW DAY."

AND IT'S A C.D.

WHAT DO YOU DO NOW?

HOW DO YOU LIVE A CHRISTIAN

LIFE?

WE WANT TO SEND IT TO YOU.

> THE PHONE CALL IS FREE.

THE C.D. IS FREE.

1-888-777-1999.

YOU READY TO BE PUT ON THE

HOT SEAT.

WE'VE GOT A BUNCH OF

MARRIAGE QUESTIONS.

Kristi: I'M MORE THAN

WILLING TO THROW THE HOT

SEAT BACK AT YOU.

HOW ABOUT IF I READ AND

WE'LL TAKE IT FROM THERE.

"WE'VE RECEIVED YOUR IN-BOX

QUESTION, AND IVY ASKED, HOW

DO YOU KNOW IF THE GUY

YOU'RE DATING IS THE ONE FOR

YOU.

OTHERS SAY YOU JUST KNOW.

AND OTHERS SAY OPPOSITES

ATTRACT.

I'VE BEEN DATING A GUY, BUT

I'M A LITTLE BORED WITH HIS

PERSONALITY.

HOW IMPORTANT IS THE FIRE

BETWEEN HIM AND M ME?"

HOW IMPORTANT IS THAT?

Gordon: IF YOU'RE

DATING AND YOU FIND HIM

BORING, THAT MIGHT BE A SIGN

TO MOVE ON.

DON'T GET MARRIED UNLESS YOU

HAVE TO.

IF YOU CAN'T IMAGINE LIVING

WITHOUT THEM, THAT'S THE

BEST SIGN.

THAT YOU DON'T WANT A DAY TO

GO BY WITHOUT HEARING THEIR

VOICE.

THAT'S WHAT LEADS TO LASTING

MARRIAGES.

I ALSO TELL PEOPLE TRY TO

MARRY YOUR FRIEND.

YOU KNOW, IF YOU'RE JUST

LOVING BEING AROUND THEM,

AND YOU GUYS REALLY LIKE

DOING THE SAME THING, THAT'S

A PRETTY GOOD SIGN, TOO.

Kristi: THAT IS.

I ALWAYS THINK ABOUT THE

MOVIE THAT WE'VE ALL SEEN

WITH TOM CRUISE WHERE SHE

SAYS, "YOU COMPLETE ME."

AND I THINK THAT IS THE

BIGGEST FAUX PAS.

PEOPLE LOOK FOR THE OTHER

PERSON TO COMPLETE THEM.

IN REALITY, ONLY GOD SHOULD

COMPLETE YOU.

WHEN YOU'RE COMPLETE AND

YOU'RE WHOLE AND A GOOD

GIFT, THEN YOU FIND SOMEONE

ELSE WHO IS COMPLETE AND

WHOLE AND YOU MERGE THEM

TOGETHER.

Gordon: AND I LIKE IN

YOUR SERIES, THE QUESTION

IS, "ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH

THEM, BUT ARE THEY IN LOVE

WITH THEMSELVES?"

BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T LOVE

YOURSELF, IT IS HARD TO LOVE

SOMEBODY ELSE.

Kristi: AND MYLES SAID

THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF A

QUESTION WE ASK IS, DO YOU

LOVE ME.

WHEN THE QUESTION IS, DO YOU

LOVE YOU?

AND IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF,

THAT'S IT.

Gordon: "HE H WHO

FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD

THING AND OBTAINS FAVOR FROM

THE LORD."

GOD BLESS YOU.

WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.

Kristi: GOOD SHOW.