Gordon: COMING UP,
DISCOVER WHAT YOUR HUSBAND
ISN'T TELLING YOU.
HONEY, THERE IS A WOMAN
AT WORK THAT HAS BEEN
TEMPTING ME, COMING ON TO
ME.
AND I WANT TO STAY FAITHFUL
TO YOU.
Gordon: A PASTOR SPILLS
THE BEANS ABOUT THE THINGS
YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT
YOU TO KNOW.
TODAY ON "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE."
Gordon: ON "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE," WE USE
TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY FOR EACH
OTHER AND EXPLORE TOPICS
THAT MATTER TO YOU.
WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN
THE WORLD TODAY.
WELCOME TO THE SHOW.
THANKS FOR JOINING US.
SOME SAY MEN ARE FROM MARS,
AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.
HOWEVER YOU DEFINE IT,
HUSBANDS AND WIVES ARE WIRED
VERY DIFFERENTLY, AND THESE
DIFFERENCES CAN CAUSE
MISUNDERSTANDING.
AND MOST HUSBANDS WILL DO
ANYTHING TO KEEP THE PEACE,
EVEN IF IT MEANS HIDING THE
TRUTH.
GUYS TELL ME STUFF THEY
DON'T TELL THEIR WIFE.
SIR, WE'RE GOING TO NEED
YOU TO SIT BACK, PLEASE.
I GET FREAKED OUT EVERY
TIME SHE MAKES ME KILL A
SPIDER.
THESE THINGS ARE HUGE.
I GAG A LITTLE IN MY THROAT
BEFORE I HAVE TO KILL IT.
MY V-8 TRUCK IS
UNPRACTICAL, BUT I LOOK
SUPER TOUGH WHEN I DRIVE
IT.
I CRIED AT THE END OF
"LORD OF THE RINGS."
IT'S NOT SOMETHING I'M PROUD
OF, BUT IT IS TRUE.
HUNTING IS BASICALLY THE
SAME AS FISHING AND GOLF.
LAST TIME OUT, I TOOK A
TWO-HOUR NAP AND IT WAS
AWESOME.
Gordon: PLEASE WELCOME
THE AUTHOR OF THAT BOOK
"WHAT YOUR HUSBAND ISN'T
TELLING YOU," DAVID MURRO.
GOOD TO BE WITH YOU.
Gordon: IT'S AN
INTERESTING TITLE.
AND YOU'VE GOT A LOT OF
SELF-CONFESSION.
WHAT ARE SOME OF THE THINGS
YOU DIDN'T TELL YOUR WIFE?
WELL, WE WERE CAUGHT IN A
PATTERN OF I WAS TRYING TO
PLEASE HER AND SHE WAS
TRYING TO PLEASE ME.
AND I WAS JUST KEEPING A LOT
OF THINGS BOTTLED UP
INSIDE.
YOU KNOW, THE CLASSIC LINE
THAT WE HEAR IS YOUR WIFE
COMES TO YOU AND SAYS, DOES
THIS DRESS MAKE ME LOOK
FAT.
FAT?
AND YOU'RE AFRAID TO ANSWER
THAT QUESTION TRUTHFULLY.
WHAT I FOUND WHEN I SPOKE TO
MEN AROUND THE COUNTRY,
WOMEN HAD ACTUALLY TRAINED
THEIR HUSBANDS TO KEEP THESE
SECRETS.
SO AS I TALKED TO HUNDREDS
AND THOUSANDS OF MEN ACROSS
THE COUNTRY, I FELT THERE
WAS A NEED FOR A BOOK THAT
EXPLAINED TO WOMEN EXACTLY
WHAT THEIR HUSBANDS AREN'T
TELLING THEM.
Gordon: WHY DO MEN FEEL
LIKE THEY'RE PAYING A PRICE
IF THEY REALLY TELL THE
TRUTH?
WHAT'S THAT TRIGGER POINT?
WELL, THERE ARE
CERTAIN -- MOST WOMEN WOULD
NOT REACT WELL TO THEIR
HUSBANDS SAYING, HONEY,
THERE IS A WOMAN AT WORK WHO
HAS BEEN TEMPTING ME.
SHE IS COMING ON TO ME.
AND I REALLY WANT TO STAY
FAITHFUL TO YOU.
THE MINUTE YOU ADMIT THAT, A
LOT OF WOMEN WOULD REJECT
YOU FOR THAT.
THE MINIMUM SENTENCE WOULD
BE A NIGHT ON THE COUCH.
I'M TRYING TO TRAIN WOMEN TO
BE MORE OPEN TO WHAT THEIR
HUSBANDS ARE REALLY SAYING,
REALLY THINKING, AND REALLY
FEELING.
AND THE OTHER SIDE OF THE
COIN IS WOMEN SUFFER THE
SAME THING.
THERE ARE A LOT OF WOMEN WHO
CAN'T OPEN UP AND SAY WHAT
THEY WANT TO THEIR HUSBANDS
BECAUSE THEIR HUSBANDS WOULD
REACT IN ANGER.
IT IS IMPORTANT FOR MEN AND
WOMEN TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS
THEIR FEELINGS HONESTLY AND
OPENLY.
Gordon: IF I EVER WENT
HOME WITH THAT ONE, I'D GET
MORE THAN A NIGHT ON THE
COUCH.
I'D GET A WEEK WITHOUT THE
POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE.
WHY DO MEN, ON THE OTHER
SIDE OF THIS COIN -- IT IS
THE OLD, THEY WALK INTO THE
BAR AND TELL THE BARTENDER
MY WIFE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND
ME.
WHY DO WE HAVE THAT GOING
FOR US THAT WE THINK OUR
SPOUSE JUST DOESN'T GET US?
WE GET TRAINED EARLIER IN
OUR MARRIAGES TO CONCEAL THE
TRUTH FROM OUR WIVES.
YOU KNOW, I'VE ALREADY GIVEN
A COUPLE OF EXAMPLES, BUT I
THINK WOMEN, UNWITTINGLY,
THEY REACT BADLY TO SOME OF
THE THINGS THEIR YOUNG
HUSBANDS SAY TO THEM.
FOR INSTANCE, MANY STUDIES
HAVE SHOWN THAT YOUNG MEN
ARE MORE INTERESTED IN SEX
THAN YOUNG WOMEN.
SO THE HUSBAND MIGHT COME TO
HIS WIFE AND SAY, HEY, I'D
LIKE TO TRY SOME THINGS.
I'D LIKE TO GO MORE
FREQUENTLY, AND THE WIFE
MIGHT REACT BADLY TO THAT.
WHAT THE WIFE DOESN'T
REALIZE IS HERE IS HER
HUSBAND FEELING HIS TRUE
OPINION ABOUT SOMETHING, AND
WHEN SHE SHUTS HIM DOWN
THROUGH ANGER, SHE TRAINS
HIM NOT TO OPEN UP HIS
HEART.
THAT'S ONE OF THE REASONS
WHY WE HAVE SO MANY
MARRIAGES WHERE
COMMUNICATION IS COMPLETELY
DYSFUNCTIONAL BECAUSE MEN
ARE FEELING THINGS INSIDE,
BUT THEY DON'T FEEL
AUTHORIZED TO SHARE THOSE
THINGS.
Gordon: I THINK YOU'RE
REALLY HITTING ON SOMETHING
IN YOUR BOOK, AND IT'S A
GOOD BOOK.
WHAT'S A MAN'S SOUL'S
GREATEST NEED?
I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE
DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT, EVEN
MEN INCLUDED.
THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS
IS ONE OF MY GREATEST
NEEDS.
WELL, I MEAN IT IS NO
SECRET.
THE BIBLE SAYS THAT MEN NEED
RESPECT.
THEY NEED TO FEEL THE
RESPECT OF THEIR WIVES.
WOMEN NEED LOVE, AND MEN
NEED RESPECT.
IT IS WRITTEN IN THE
BOOK OF EPHESIANS.
THAT'S THE GREATEST NEED AS
FAR AS HIS SOUL GOES.
AS FAR AS HIS SPIRITUAL LIFE
GOES, HE NEEDS TO FEEL A
PART OF A BIGGER, LARGER
CAUSE.
HE NEEDS TO BE INCLUDED IN
THE WORK OF GOD ON THIS
EARTH.
A LOT OF TIMES IN CHURCH MEN
DON'T FEEL THAT.
THEY COME AND HEAR THE
SERMON AND SING THE SONGS
AND THEY LEAVE NOT CALLED TO
SOMETHING GREATER.
Gordon: MOST CHURCH FOR
MEN IS A VERY PASSIVE
EXPERIENCE.
EXACTLY.
Gordon: WHAT WOULD YOU
TELL -- I GET THIS QUESTION
IS LOT: MY HUSBAND DOESN'T
WANT TO BE THE SPIRITUAL
HEAD OF THE FAMILY.
HE DOESN'T WANT TO TAKE LEAD
ON FAMILY DEVOATIONZ.
DEVOTIONS.
HE DOESN'T WANT TO GO TO
CHURCH.
WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THE WIFE
IN THAT SITUATION?
IT'S A TOUGH SITUATION
BECAUSE THE WAY WE DEFINE
SPIRITUAL LEADER IS A
STUDIUS PERSON WHO READS
FROM A BOOK OR OFFERS A
LENGTHY PRAYER, THE
ACCEPTABLE LANGUAGE OF
CHURCH.
AND THAT EXPECTATION IS
DIFFICULT TO A LOT OF MEN.
I'VE BEEN IN A LOT OF MIXED
GENDER BIBLE STUDIES, AND
THE WOMEN HAVE THE LENGTHY
CHURCH-PRAYED
PRAYERS, AND THE MEN SAY,
GOD, CAN YOU HELP ME WITH MY
TRUCK.
GUYS GIVE UP ON PRAYER.
I WOULD ASK WOMEN TO BE MUCH
MORE UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR
HUSBAND'S SPIRITISM.
IF HE OFFERS AN EIGHT-WORD
PRAYER, DON'T SHOW HIM UP.
YOU MATCH HIM WITH EIGHT
WORDS.
GIVE HIM AN OPPORTUNITY TO
DO WELL IN SPIRITUAL THINGS,
AND I THINK HE WILL DO MORE
OF THEM.
Gordon: DOES THAT TIE
IN WITH THE GREATEST FEAR
THAT MOST MEN HAVE, THAT
THEY WON'T BE PERCEIVED AS
COMPETENT AT IT?
THAT'S EXACTLY RIGHT.
MEN HAVE HUGE SPIRITUAL
INFERIORITY COMPLEX.
IT STARTS IN SUNDAY SCHOOL
WHEN THE GIRLS FIND MORE HAS
PASSAGES IN THEIR BIBLE THAN
THE BOYS.
AND AT AN EARLY AGE, BOYS
LEARN GIRLS OF BETTER AT
SUNDAY SCHOOL.
EVEN INTO MY 20s AND
30s, I STILL FELT THAT
INFERIORITY, I FELT LIKE MY
WIFE IS BETTER AT DOING
SPIRITUAL THINGS.
SHE IS A PREACHER'S
DAUGHTER.
SHE EVEN KNEW HOW TO FIND
THE BOOK OF OBADIAH IN 10
SECONDS.
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR
WOMEN NOT TO OUTSHINE THEIR
HUSBANDS IN SPIRITUAL
MATTERS.
THAT GOES A LONG WAY TO
REALLY RESPECTING YOUR
HUSBAND.
Gordon: YOU HAVE A LOT
OF CONFESSIONS IN YOUR
BOOK.
HOW DID YOUR WIFE REACT TO
IT?
I'VE KEPT EVERY COPY AWAY
FROM HER OF THIS BOOK.
Gordon: EVEN THE KINDLE
EDITION?
OH, MY GOSH, I FORGOT.
YOU KNOW, SHE'S BEEN
REALLY -- WE'VE GONE
THROUGH -- A COUPLE OF YEARS
AGO, WE WENT THROUGH A
SEASON OF COUNSELLING, AND
GOT A LOT OF THESE ISSUES
OUT, AND THAT WAS REALLY THE
IMPETUS FOR THIS BOOK.
SHE HAS BEEN SO OPEN TO THE
TRUTH.
SHE HAS SEEN THE VALUE OF
TRUTH IN OUR MARRIAGE, AND
SEEN WHAT THAT HAS DONE FOR
INTIMACY ON EVERY LEVEL.
AND SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GO
BACK TO A MARRIAGE WHERE I
HIDE THE TRUTH FROM HER, OR
I DON'T SHARE MY TRUE
FEELINGS.
SHE HAS A MUCH HAPPIER
HUSBAND, I'VE GOT A MUCH
HAPPIER WIFE, AND WE'VE GOT
A MUCH HAPPIER HOME.
THE TRUTH REALLY DOES SET
YOU FREE.
Gordon: WHAT DO YOU
TELL COUPLES WHO ARE SORT OF
IN THIS, WHERE THE WALLS
HAVE GONE UP, I CAN'T REALLY
TELL THE TRUTH HERE.
WHAT IS THE FIRST STEP TO
TRY TO BREAK DOWN THAT
WALL?
WELL, YOU NEED TO BUY MY
BOOK, OF COURSE.
I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THE
SERVICES OF A COMPETENT
CHRISTIAN COUNSELLOR.
AS I SAID, MY WIFE AND I, A
COUPLE OF YEARS AGO, WENT
THROUGH A ONE WEEK COUPLES
INTENSIVE RETREAT, THAT
REWIRED OUR MARRIAGE.
WE HAD BEEN MARRIED 26
YEARS.
I THOUGHT WE HAD A FINE
MARRIAGE.
BUT IT TURNED OUT THERE WAS
JUST A LOT OF TENSION I WAS
NOT AWARE OF, AND THAT SHE
WAS QUITE AWARE OF.
WHEN WE GOT THOSE ISSUES
WORKED OUT, BOY, IT WAS JUST
FANTASTIC.
I THINK COUNSELLING IS WHERE
IT BEGINS.
GET INTO A GOOD CHURCH THAT
HAS GOOD TEACHING FOR
MARRIAGES, AND YOU REALLY
CAN COME TO A PLACE WHERE
YOUR HUSBAND WILL TELL YOU
WHAT HE IS REALLY THINKING.
Gordon: THANK YOU,
DAVID.
GREAT BOOK.
IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT
YOUR HUSBAND ISN'T TELLING
YOU -- THIS ISN'T JUST FOR
WIVES, BECAUSE A LOT OF THIS
WOULD OPEN A LOT OF KEYS FOR
HUSBANDS AS TO WHY YOU ACT
THE WAY YOU ACT, AND GIVE
YOU INSIGHT INTO WHAT YOU'RE
NEEDS ARE AND ENABLE YOU TO
BETTER EXPRESS THAT.
IT'S FOR BOTH HUSBANDS AND
WIVES.
YOU CAN GET DAVID'S BOOK AT
BOOKSTORES NATIONWIDE.
DAVID, THANKS FOR BEING WITH
US.
MY PLEASURE.
THANK YOU.
Gordon: COMING UP, LISA
KING ONLY WANTED ONE THING
FROM HER HUSBAND.
I USED TO JUGGLE ALL OF
THE TIME.
I SAID, WHENEVER I GET
MARRIED, I DON'T WANT MY
HUSBAND TO CHEAT ON ME.
I NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD
EVER HAPPEN TO ME.
Gordon: SEE WHAT SAVED
THEIR MARRIAGE, UP NEXT.
Gordon: THEY SAY IT
TAKES YEARS TO BUILD TRUST,
AND ONLY SECONDS TO DESTROY
IT.
DAVID AND LISA KING CAN
ATTEST TO THAT.
ONE STUPID DECISION NEARLY
DESTROYED THEIR MARRIAGE.
BUT ONE GOOD ONE SAVED IT.
Reporter: DAVID AND
LISA KING HAVE BEEN MARRIED
FOR OVER 25 YEARS.
THE CHRISTIAN COUPLE MET
WHEN THEY WERE IN COLLEGE.
HE WAS 20, AND SHE WAS 19.
WHEN WE FIRST GOT
MARRIED, I REALLY WAS JUST
EXCITED BECAUSE I REALIZED,
MAN, I'VE GOT A GOOD WIFE.
HE STOLE MY HEART.
HE DID.
AND OUR MARRIAGE IS -- WAS A
STORYBOOK MARRIAGE.
Reporter: BUT LISA HAD
ONE FEAR.
AS A YOUNG GIRL, I USED
TO JUGGLE ALL OF THE TIME.
I SAID, WHENEVER I GET
MARRIED, I DON'T WANT MY
HUSBAND TO CHEAT ON ME.
AND I NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD
EVER HAPPEN TO ME.
Reporter: FIVE YEARS
INTO THEIR STORYBOOK
MARRIAGE, DAVID RAN INTO A
WOMAN HE ONCE NEW.
HE HAD A ONE-NIGHT STAND.
WE STARTED UP A
CONVERSATION, AND THE NEXT
THING YOU KNOW, WE'RE HAVING
A MEAL TOGETHER, HAVING SOME
DRINKS.
ONE THING LED TO ANOTHER.
MY INHIBITION WAS DOWN.
SOMEONE BEGINS TO STROKE
YOUR EGO.
Reporter: IT WAS LATE
AND DAVID DIDN'T CALL HOME.
I HAD A SIXTH SENSE HE
WAS WITH A WOMAN.
NOW, HE NEVER HAD GIVEN ME
ANY INDICATION HE WOULD BE
UNFAITHFUL TO ME.
SO WHEN HE FINAL MANY CAME
HOME, I ASKED AND HE DENIED
IT.
Reporter: DAVID KEPT
HIS ONE-NIGHT STAND A SECRET
UNTIL HE KNEW HE COULDN'T
KEEP IT FROM HER ANY
LONGER.
HE DECIDED TO COME CLEAN.
WHEN HE TOLD LISA, SHE WAS
DEVASTATED.
I CONTINUED PROCESS
EVERYTHING THAT WAS GOING
ON.
IT SEEMED TO ME MY WORLD
SHUT DOWN.
LIFE WASN'T WORTH LIVING.
I COULDN'T CATCH MY BREATH.
IT WAS HORRIBLE.
Reporter: WHEN DAVID
SAW WHAT HIS BETRAYAL HAD
DONE TO LISA, HE WANTED TO
DIE.
I REMEMBER GOING IN THE
BASEMENT AND LAYING ON THE
CONCRETE FLOOR AND JUST
CRYING, AND SAYING, LORD,
HOW COULD I BE SO STUPID.
AND LITERALLY SAYING, LORD,
TAKE ME NOW.
FELT LIKE WHY EVEN LIVE.
Reporter: ON THAT COLD,
CONCRETE FLOOR, HE BEGAN TO
PRAY.
O GOD, HOW COULD I HAVE
DONE THIS.
HOW COULD I HAVE SINNED
AGAINST YOU?
HOW COULD I HAVE SINNED
AGAINST MY WIFE?
LORD, PLEASE CLEANSE ME.
GIVE ME A RIGHT HEART.
GIVE ME A PURE HEART.
I WANT TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP
WITH YOU AGAIN.
AND THEN, GOD, HELP MY WIFE
TO FORGIVE ME.
HELP HER TO BE MADE WHOLE.
I WAS HURTING BECAUSE SHE
WAS HURTING.
I HAD TO LEARN TO TRUST
HIM AGAIN.
I WAS ALMOST GETTING TO THE
POINT OF PARANOIA.
WHEN HE WOULD LEAVE THE
HOUSE, I WAS THINKING, IS HE
GOING TO GO BACK TO THAT
WOMAN?
ARE THEY HOOKING UP?
MY MIND WENT EVERYWHERE.
Reporter: DAVID FOUGHT
HARD TO WIN BACK HIS WIFE'S
HEART.
I MADE MYSELF VERY
TRANSPARENT.
I MADE IT WHERE SHE DIDN'T
HAVE TO WONDER WHERE I WAS
GOING TO BE AT.
SHE KNEW WHERE I WAS GOING
TO BE AT ALL TIMES.
I BEGAN TO CARRY A PAGER IN
THOSE DAYS.
I WAS LIKE ANY TIME YOU NEED
TO REACH ME, YOU CALL ME AND
I'LL CALL YOU BACK.
Reporter: ULTIMATELY,
THROUGH PRAYER AND GOD'S
HELP, THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND
LOVE FOR EACH OTHER WAS
RESTORED.
THE LOVE THAT I THOUGHT
WOULD NEVER COME BACK, IT
HAS COME BACK, AND EVEN
GREATER.
HE KNOWS MY LOVE LANGUAGE.
AND HE ACCOMMODATES ME WITH
THAT.
AND MY LOVE LANGUAGE IS ACTS
OF SERVICE.
AND THEN HE JUST TELLS ME
ALL THE TIME HOW BEAUTIFUL I
AM.
I REMEMBER FROM YEARS
BACK WE HAD GONE ON ONE OF
OUR ANNIVERSARY TRIPS.
AND I REMEMBER THINKING,
THIS IS WHAT IT FELT LIKE
BEFORE EVERYTHING HAPPENED.
AND WE WERE LIKE TWO KIDS
AGAIN, TWO NEWLYWEDS.
Reporter: IT HAS BEEN
20 YEARS SINCE HIS
INFIDELITY, AND DAVID AS
ADVICE FOR YOUNG COUPLES ON
HOW TO AVOID WHAT HE AND
LISA WENT THROUGH.
I THINK THAT WHEN YOUR
LIVES BECOME TOO FAMILIAR OR
TOO COMFORTABLE IN A SETTING
WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT YOUR
SPOUSE, YOU SET YOURSELF UP
FOR FAILURE.
Reporter: DAVID AND
LISA SAY THEIR MARRIAGE HAS
NEVER BEEN BETTER.
I WOULD SAY GOD IS A
RESTORER, GOD IS A HEALER.
HE HEALED OUR MARRIAGE AND
RESTORED OUR RELATIONSHIP
WITH ONE ANOTHER, AND WITH
HIM.
GOD IS FAITHFUL BECAUSE
EVEN THROUGH ALL THE HARD
TIMES THAT I'VE GONE THROUGH
IN OUR MARRIAGE, HE JUST
CONTINUES TO SHOW HIMSELF
FAITHFUL.
Gordon: AND HE'LL
CONTINUE TO SHOW YOURSELF
FAITHFUL.
IT'S JUST, ARE YOU WILLING?
ARE YOU WILLING TO TURN TO
HIM?
YOU KNOW, IN COUNSELLING
COUPLES, THE NUMBER ONE
QUESTION I HAVE FOR THE MAN
IS, DO YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE
ENOUGH TO DIE FOR HER?
THAT'S HOW WE'RE SUPPOSED,
AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH,
WHICH MEANT HE WAS WILLING
TO DIE.
THAT'S HOW YOU'RE SUPPOSED
TO LOVE YOUR WIFE.
WHICH MEANS YOU'D DIE TO
YOURSELF, AND YOU PUT HER
AHEAD OF YOU.
AND THAT'S WHAT THAT LOVE
MEANS.
TO THE WIFE, IT'S, DO YOU
RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND?
THOSE ARE THE BIBLICAL
COMMANDMENTS.
DO YOU RESPECT HIM?
AND IF YOU DON'T, YOU'VE GOT
TO CHECK THAT.
BECAUSE THAT DISRESPECT --
AND LITERALLY HE CAN SEE IT
IN YOUR EYES -- THAT
DISRESPECT WILL LEAD TO A
BREAKDOWN.
AND IN THIS KIND OF
SITUATION, HOW DO YOU REPAIR
IT?
HERE YOU'VE GOT DAVID AND
LISA.
DAVID GOES OFF AND MAKES A
HORRIBLE MISTAKE.
BUT THEN REALIZES IT.
AND I LOVE HIS PRAYER.
GOD, I'VE SINNED AGAINST
YOU.
IT'S THE SAME PRAYER DAVID
PRAYED WHEN HE COMMITTED
ADULTERY.
HE ACKNOWLEDGED THE SIN WAS
FIRST AND FOREMOST AGAINST A
RIGHTEOUS AND HOLY GOD.
AND THEN HE ACKNOWLEDGED
THAT SIN AND TURNED FROM
IT.
AND THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT
DAVID IN THAT STORY DID.
HE MODELED HIMSELF AFTER
KING DAVID TO SAY, I'M GOING
TO REPENT.
I'M GOING TO TURN.
AND LISA, ON HER PART,
RECOGNIZED IT.
AND RECOGNIZED THE HARD
CHANGE.
AND RECOGNIZED THAT DAVID'S
HEART WAS TURNED TO HER, AND
HE WAS WILLING TO DO
ANYTHING TO RESTORE THE
MARRIAGE.
THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.
BUT FIRST AND FOREMOST YOU
HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT THE
BREAKDOWN IS IN YOUR
RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
IF THAT'S GOD AND THAT'S
WORKING, THEN ALL OF THE
OTHER RELATIONSHIPS COME
INTO LINE.
IF THAT'S BROKEN, WELL, THEN
YOU'VE GOT PROBLEMS.
SO FIRST AND FOREMOST, BOW
YOUR HEAD, ASK FOR
FORGIVENESS.
I'LL TAKE THAT WONDERFUL
VERSE FROM CHRONICLES: "IF
MY PEOPLE, WHO ARE CALLED BY
MY NAME, WILL HUMBLE
THEMSELVES AND PRAY, I WILL
HEAR FROM HEAVEN.
I WILL FORGIVE THEIR SIN.
I WILL HEAL THEIR LAND."
LET ME ADD TO IT, HE WILL
HEAL YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU
FIRST HUMBLE YOURSELF AND
PRAY.
IF YOU ARE EXPECTING THE
OTHER PERSON TO HUMBLE
THEMSELVES TO YOU, YOU'RE
WRONG.
YOU NEED TO HUMBLE YOURSELF
BEFORE GOD AND ASK HIM WHERE
YOU'VE GONE WRONG.
AND FROM THAT PLACE OF
HUMILITY, THAT PLACE OF
BEING ON YOUR KNEES, THEN
THE BREAKTHROUGHS HAPPEN.
AND YOU CAN HAVE THAT SAME
JOY.
HERE ARE DAVID AND LISA 20
YEARS LATER, AND THEY'RE
STILL ACTING LIKE
NEWLYWEDS.
AND YOU CAN SEE THE LIGHT IN
THEIR EYES.
YOU CAN SEE THE LOVE COMING
OUT OF THEM FOR EACH OTHER.
THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.
THAT KIND OF JOY IS POSSIBLE
IN MARRIAGE.
REGARDLESS OF WHAT'S
HAPPENED.
YOU CAN BE RESTORED.
YOU CAN BE REUNITED.
IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PRAY
WITH YOU -- I BELIEVE
MARRIAGES NEED TO BE BATHED
IN PRAYER.
PARTICULARLY IN TODAY'S
WORLD.
THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS
DISTRACTING US, AND WE'RE SO
BUSY WORKING.
DO WE HAVE TIME FOR EACH
OTHER?
ARE WE DOING THE NECESSARY
THINGS?
SO MANY DISTRACTIONS, SO
MANY TEMPTATIONS.
WE NEED TO BATHE OUR
MARRIAGES IN PRAYER.
I ENCOURAGE COUPLES TO PRAY
TOGETHER FOR THEIR FAMILIES,
FOR THEIR MARRIAGE, FOR
THEIR CHILDREN.
YOU DO THAT, AND YOU'LL
UNITE TOGETHER.
IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO AGREE
WITH YOU IN PRAYER, ALL
YOU'VE GOT TO DO IS CALL
US.
THE NUMBER IS TOLL-FREE.
1-888-777-1999.
IF YOU WANT MORE INFORMATION
ON LOVE AND MARRIAGE, GOD'S
PLAN FOR YOUR FAMILY, WE'VE
GOT A WONDERFUL BOOKLET FOR
YOU.
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CALL
US AND GIVE US YOUR E-MAIL
AND WE'LL SEND IT TO YOU
FREE, TO YOUR E-MAIL
ADDRESS.
IF YOU DON'T HAVE A
COMPUTER, DON'T HAVE E-MAIL,
THAT'S FINE, WE'LL MAIL IT
TO YOU.
WE WANT TO HAVE HAPPY,
HEALTHY MARRIAGES.
AND WE WANT TO GIVE THIS TO
YOU, SO YOU KNOW WHAT GOD'S
PLAN IS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.
IT'S ALL FREE.
THE PHONE CALL IS FREE.
SO DO IT NOW.
1-888-777-1999.
WELL, STILL AHEAD, A
SOLDIER'S UNIT IS UNDER
ATTACK WHILE HE IS ON THE
PHONE TO HIS WIFE.
SEE WHAT PROTECT THE HIM
LATER ON "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE."
Gordon: THEY HAVE AN
UNUSUAL TIE TO CBN, NOT ONLY
ARE THEY PARTNERS, THEY
SPENT THEIR HONEYMOON HERE
IN VIRGINIA BEACH.
TAKE A LOOK.
Reporter: STANLEY AND
DONNA WERE GOOD FRIENDS
BEFORE THEY WERE MARRIED.
I WAS PRAYING FOR HIM FOR
ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF,
THAT GOD WOULD SEND HIM A
WOMAN THAT WOULD UNDERSTAND
HIM AND COULD BLESS HIM.
SEVERAL YEARS LATER, IT
TURNED OUT TO BE ME.
Reporter: EVEN BEFORE
THEIR MARRIAGE, BOTH WERE
CBN PARTNERS AND FANS OF THE
MINISTRY.
WHEN THEY WERE INVITED TO A
CONFERENCE, THEY DECIDED TO
MARRY AT THE INN AND SPEND
THEIR HONEYMOON AT CBN.
WE HAVE FOUND THAT CBN IS
ONE OF THE MOST WELL-ROUNDED
MINISTRIES.
WE'RE SURE WHERE OUR MONEY
IS GOING TO BECAUSE WE HAVE
GONE TO "THE 700 CLUB."
Reporter: THEY
INCREASED THEIR GIVING THAT
WEEKEND, AND GAVE A SPECIAL
DONATION TO HELP SPREAD THE
GOSPEL IN CHINA.
MY WIFE AND I LOOKED AT
EACH OTHER AND CAME UP WITH
THE NUMBER OF $3,000
TOGETHER.
Reporter: A COUPLE OF
WEEKS LATER, A WINDSTORM
DESTROYED A BARN.
THE CLAIMS ADJUSTER GAVE
THEM $30,000.
MY HUSBAND AND I LOOKED
AT EACH OTHER, AND I SAID,
THAT'S IT.
AND HE SAID, WHAT'S IT?
I SAID THAT'S OUR 10-FOLD
BLESSING.
THAT'S OUR RETURN FOR THE
$3,000 THAT WE SOWED AT "THE
700 CLUB" ON OUR HONEYMOON.
THANK YOU, JESUS.
I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT.
Reporter: THE LYNNES
SOLD THAT HOUSE FOR A BIG
PROFIT.
NOT ONLY WERE THEY ABLE TO
BUY THIS HOUSE ON 24 ACRES,
THEY PAID OFF ALL THEIR
DEBT.
YOU CAN'T OUTGIVE GOD.
HE SAYS PROVE ME WHEN IT
COMES TO GIVING.
WE TEST HIM ALL THE TIME,
AND HE JUST KNOCKS OUR SOCKS
OFF.
IF YOU DON'T STEP OUT AND
GIVE, YOU WON'T GET
BLESSED.
Gordon: LET GOD KNOCK
YOUR SOCKS OFF.
IT IS INCREDIBLE WHAT
HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE A
LIFESTYLE OF GIVING.
1-888-777-1999, JUST SAY, I
WANT TO BE A MEMBER OF
"THE 700 CLUB."
OUR NEXT STORY, SOLDIERS
CALL HOME AND IT IS ALWAYS
ENCOURAGING FOR LOVED ONES
TO HEAR THEIR VOICE, BUT FOR
THE WOMAN YOU'RE ABOUT TO
MEET, ONE PHONE CALL SENT
SHOCKWAVES THROUGH HER.
BECAUSE IT WASN'T HER
HUSBAND'S VOICE SHE HEARD ON
THE LINE.
IT WAS A BOMB.
Reporter: WHILE IN
AFGHANISTAN, THIS STAFF
SERGEANT MADE A HABIT OF
CALLING HIS WIFE AFTER
DINNER.
TAMMY ANTICIPATED EVERY
CALL.
AND EACH CONVERSATION WAS
CALLED WITH THE TYPICAL
TOPICS OF FRIENDS AND
FAMILY.
THIS DAY WOULD BE
DIFFERENT.
TWO MINUTES INTO THE CALL, A
ROCKET HIT NEARBY.
TAMMY HEARD THE CHAOS OVER
THE PHONE LINE.
BUT HALMAR HAD NO TIME TO
EXPLAIN.
IT IS FRIGHTENING WHEN
YOU'RE ON THE OTHER SIDE AND
YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IS GOING
ON, AND ALL YOU DO IS JUST
HEAR WHAT IS GOING ON.
Reporter: TAMMY
FOLLOWED HER FIRST INSTINCT
AND CALLED THE CBN PRAYER
COUNSELLING CENTER.
WHEN I WAS TALKING TO THE
PRAYER COUNSELLOR,
AUTOMATICALLY HE STARTED
PRAYING FOR MY HUSBAND, FOR
HIS SAFETY.
AND THERE WOULD BE NO
INJURIES AND THAT NO ONE
WOULD BE HURT OR KILLED IN
THAT ATTACK.
Reporter: A ROCKET HAD
HIT NEAR HAMMAR'S BARRACKS,
BUT NO ONE IN HIS COMPANY
WAS INJURED.
AND HE QUICKLY CALLED HIS
WIFE BACK.
YOU COULD TELL IN HER
VOICE SHE WAS PRETTY EXCITED
THAT I WAS OKAY.
I WAS HAPPY THAT SHE WAS
SAFE.
AND I WAS, LIKE, I FELT AT
EASE THAT GOD DID ANSWER MY
PRAYERS.
BEING ABLE TO CALL AND HAVE
HIM PRAYED FOR, IT JUST
BROUGHT PEACE TO MY MIND
THAT IT IS NOT GOING TO BE
SUCH A HARDY PLOYMENT.
Reporter: TAMMY SOON
UNDERSTOOD THAT THE ROCKET
ATTACKS OCCURRED ALMOST
WEEKLY AT THE BASE.
SHE KNEW SHE HAD TO PRAY
MORE.
I PRAYED AND I FAST FOR
NOT ONLY HIM, BUT FOR OTHER
SOLDIERS.
BECAUSE IT IS THE WHOLE
COMPANY THAT IS PUT OUT
THERE AND PUT IN DANGER.
TO ME, WHEN I CALL "THE 700
CLUB," I'LL PRAY FOR HIM AND
THEY'LL PRAY FOR THE WHOLE
UNIT THAT HE IS IN, FOR
THEIR SAFE RETURN.
KNOWING THAT SOMEBODY
ELSE IS PRAYING FOR YOU AND,
YOU KNOW, THEY'RE ASKING GOD
TO PROTECT YOU AND KEEP YOU
SAFE, THAT GIVES YOU A
LITTLE BIT MORE OF A PEACE
OF MIND AND CONFIDENCE THAT
EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE
OKAY.
Reporter: AFTER HIS
THIRD OVERSEAS DEPLOYMENT,
HALMAR IS BACK HOME.
SHE CRIED BECAUSE SEEING
EVERYBODY HOME.
AND SEEING MY TWO BOYS, THEY
HAD GOTTEN PRETTY BIG FROM
THE TIME THAT I SAID
GOOD-BYE TO THEM.
TO HAVE HIM HOME IS
WONDERFUL.
GOD, YOU KNOW, KEPT HIM SAFE
AND KEPT THE SOLDIERS SAFE.
Gordon: LET'S REMEMBER
TO PRAY FOR OUR TROOPS.
MANY OF THEM ARE STILL
DEPLOYED IN ONE OF THE
LONGEST WARS -- THE LONGEST
WAR OUR NATION HAS EVER BEEN
INVOLVED IN.
LET'S REMEMBER TO PRAY FOR
OUR TROOPS, AND PRAY FOR
THEIR FAMILIES BECAUSE
THEY'RE ALL GOING THROUGH
SEPARATION.
WE LEAVE YOU WITH ISAIAH 50:
"BECAUSE THE SOVEREIGN LORD
HELPS ME, I WILL NOT BE
DISMAYED.
THEREFORE I SET MY FACE LIKE
A STONE DETERMINED TO DO HIS
WILL, AND I KNOW THAT I WILL
TRIUMPH."
GOD BLESS YOU.
WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.
