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700 Club Interactive: What Your Husband Isn't Telling You - October 25, 2012

David Murrow, author of "What Your Husband Isn't Telling You," offers advice to wives on how to connect with their husbands' body, soul and spirit. Read Transcript


Gordon: COMING UP,

DISCOVER WHAT YOUR HUSBAND

ISN'T TELLING YOU.

HONEY, THERE IS A WOMAN

AT WORK THAT HAS BEEN

TEMPTING ME, COMING ON TO

ME.

AND I WANT TO STAY FAITHFUL

TO YOU.

Gordon: A PASTOR SPILLS

THE BEANS ABOUT THE THINGS

YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT

YOU TO KNOW.

TODAY ON "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

Gordon: ON "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE," WE USE

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OTHER AND EXPLORE TOPICS

THAT MATTER TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

THANKS FOR JOINING US.

SOME SAY MEN ARE FROM MARS,

AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS.

HOWEVER YOU DEFINE IT,

HUSBANDS AND WIVES ARE WIRED

VERY DIFFERENTLY, AND THESE

DIFFERENCES CAN CAUSE

MISUNDERSTANDING.

AND MOST HUSBANDS WILL DO

ANYTHING TO KEEP THE PEACE,

EVEN IF IT MEANS HIDING THE

TRUTH.

GUYS TELL ME STUFF THEY

DON'T TELL THEIR WIFE.

SIR, WE'RE GOING TO NEED

YOU TO SIT BACK, PLEASE.

I GET FREAKED OUT EVERY

TIME SHE MAKES ME KILL A

SPIDER.

THESE THINGS ARE HUGE.

I GAG A LITTLE IN MY THROAT

BEFORE I HAVE TO KILL IT.

MY V-8 TRUCK IS

UNPRACTICAL, BUT I LOOK

SUPER TOUGH WHEN I DRIVE

IT.

I CRIED AT THE END OF

"LORD OF THE RINGS."

IT'S NOT SOMETHING I'M PROUD

OF, BUT IT IS TRUE.

HUNTING IS BASICALLY THE

SAME AS FISHING AND GOLF.

LAST TIME OUT, I TOOK A

TWO-HOUR NAP AND IT WAS

AWESOME.

Gordon: PLEASE WELCOME

THE AUTHOR OF THAT BOOK

"WHAT YOUR HUSBAND ISN'T

TELLING YOU," DAVID MURRO.

GOOD TO BE WITH YOU.

Gordon: IT'S AN

INTERESTING TITLE.

AND YOU'VE GOT A LOT OF

SELF-CONFESSION.

WHAT ARE SOME OF THE THINGS

YOU DIDN'T TELL YOUR WIFE?

WELL, WE WERE CAUGHT IN A

PATTERN OF I WAS TRYING TO

PLEASE HER AND SHE WAS

TRYING TO PLEASE ME.

AND I WAS JUST KEEPING A LOT

OF THINGS BOTTLED UP

INSIDE.

YOU KNOW, THE CLASSIC LINE

THAT WE HEAR IS YOUR WIFE

COMES TO YOU AND SAYS, DOES

THIS DRESS MAKE ME LOOK

FAT.

FAT?

AND YOU'RE AFRAID TO ANSWER

THAT QUESTION TRUTHFULLY.

WHAT I FOUND WHEN I SPOKE TO

MEN AROUND THE COUNTRY,

WOMEN HAD ACTUALLY TRAINED

THEIR HUSBANDS TO KEEP THESE

SECRETS.

SO AS I TALKED TO HUNDREDS

AND THOUSANDS OF MEN ACROSS

THE COUNTRY, I FELT THERE

WAS A NEED FOR A BOOK THAT

EXPLAINED TO WOMEN EXACTLY

WHAT THEIR HUSBANDS AREN'T

TELLING THEM.

Gordon: WHY DO MEN FEEL

LIKE THEY'RE PAYING A PRICE

IF THEY REALLY TELL THE

TRUTH?

WHAT'S THAT TRIGGER POINT?

WELL, THERE ARE

CERTAIN -- MOST WOMEN WOULD

NOT REACT WELL TO THEIR

HUSBANDS SAYING, HONEY,

THERE IS A WOMAN AT WORK WHO

HAS BEEN TEMPTING ME.

SHE IS COMING ON TO ME.

AND I REALLY WANT TO STAY

FAITHFUL TO YOU.

THE MINUTE YOU ADMIT THAT, A

LOT OF WOMEN WOULD REJECT

YOU FOR THAT.

THE MINIMUM SENTENCE WOULD

BE A NIGHT ON THE COUCH.

I'M TRYING TO TRAIN WOMEN TO

BE MORE OPEN TO WHAT THEIR

HUSBANDS ARE REALLY SAYING,

REALLY THINKING, AND REALLY

FEELING.

AND THE OTHER SIDE OF THE

COIN IS WOMEN SUFFER THE

SAME THING.

THERE ARE A LOT OF WOMEN WHO

CAN'T OPEN UP AND SAY WHAT

THEY WANT TO THEIR HUSBANDS

BECAUSE THEIR HUSBANDS WOULD

REACT IN ANGER.

IT IS IMPORTANT FOR MEN AND

WOMEN TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS

THEIR FEELINGS HONESTLY AND

OPENLY.

Gordon: IF I EVER WENT

HOME WITH THAT ONE, I'D GET

MORE THAN A NIGHT ON THE

COUCH.

I'D GET A WEEK WITHOUT THE

POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE.

WHY DO MEN, ON THE OTHER

SIDE OF THIS COIN -- IT IS

THE OLD, THEY WALK INTO THE

BAR AND TELL THE BARTENDER

MY WIFE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND

ME.

WHY DO WE HAVE THAT GOING

FOR US THAT WE THINK OUR

SPOUSE JUST DOESN'T GET US?

WE GET TRAINED EARLIER IN

OUR MARRIAGES TO CONCEAL THE

TRUTH FROM OUR WIVES.

YOU KNOW, I'VE ALREADY GIVEN

A COUPLE OF EXAMPLES, BUT I

THINK WOMEN, UNWITTINGLY,

THEY REACT BADLY TO SOME OF

THE THINGS THEIR YOUNG

HUSBANDS SAY TO THEM.

FOR INSTANCE, MANY STUDIES

HAVE SHOWN THAT YOUNG MEN

ARE MORE INTERESTED IN SEX

THAN YOUNG WOMEN.

SO THE HUSBAND MIGHT COME TO

HIS WIFE AND SAY, HEY, I'D

LIKE TO TRY SOME THINGS.

I'D LIKE TO GO MORE

FREQUENTLY, AND THE WIFE

MIGHT REACT BADLY TO THAT.

WHAT THE WIFE DOESN'T

REALIZE IS HERE IS HER

HUSBAND FEELING HIS TRUE

OPINION ABOUT SOMETHING, AND

WHEN SHE SHUTS HIM DOWN

THROUGH ANGER, SHE TRAINS

HIM NOT TO OPEN UP HIS

HEART.

THAT'S ONE OF THE REASONS

WHY WE HAVE SO MANY

MARRIAGES WHERE

COMMUNICATION IS COMPLETELY

DYSFUNCTIONAL BECAUSE MEN

ARE FEELING THINGS INSIDE,

BUT THEY DON'T FEEL

AUTHORIZED TO SHARE THOSE

THINGS.

Gordon: I THINK YOU'RE

REALLY HITTING ON SOMETHING

IN YOUR BOOK, AND IT'S A

GOOD BOOK.

WHAT'S A MAN'S SOUL'S

GREATEST NEED?

I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE

DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT, EVEN

MEN INCLUDED.

THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS

IS ONE OF MY GREATEST

NEEDS.

WELL, I MEAN IT IS NO

SECRET.

THE BIBLE SAYS THAT MEN NEED

RESPECT.

THEY NEED TO FEEL THE

RESPECT OF THEIR WIVES.

WOMEN NEED LOVE, AND MEN

NEED RESPECT.

IT IS WRITTEN IN THE

BOOK OF EPHESIANS.

THAT'S THE GREATEST NEED AS

FAR AS HIS SOUL GOES.

AS FAR AS HIS SPIRITUAL LIFE

GOES, HE NEEDS TO FEEL A

PART OF A BIGGER, LARGER

CAUSE.

HE NEEDS TO BE INCLUDED IN

THE WORK OF GOD ON THIS

EARTH.

A LOT OF TIMES IN CHURCH MEN

DON'T FEEL THAT.

THEY COME AND HEAR THE

SERMON AND SING THE SONGS

AND THEY LEAVE NOT CALLED TO

SOMETHING GREATER.

Gordon: MOST CHURCH FOR

MEN IS A VERY PASSIVE

EXPERIENCE.

EXACTLY.

Gordon: WHAT WOULD YOU

TELL -- I GET THIS QUESTION

IS LOT: MY HUSBAND DOESN'T

WANT TO BE THE SPIRITUAL

HEAD OF THE FAMILY.

HE DOESN'T WANT TO TAKE LEAD

ON FAMILY DEVOATIONZ.

DEVOTIONS.

HE DOESN'T WANT TO GO TO

CHURCH.

WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THE WIFE

IN THAT SITUATION?

IT'S A TOUGH SITUATION

BECAUSE THE WAY WE DEFINE

SPIRITUAL LEADER IS A

STUDIUS PERSON WHO READS

FROM A BOOK OR OFFERS A

LENGTHY PRAYER, THE

ACCEPTABLE LANGUAGE OF

CHURCH.

AND THAT EXPECTATION IS

DIFFICULT TO A LOT OF MEN.

I'VE BEEN IN A LOT OF MIXED

GENDER BIBLE STUDIES, AND

THE WOMEN HAVE THE LENGTHY

CHURCH-PRAYED

PRAYERS, AND THE MEN SAY,

GOD, CAN YOU HELP ME WITH MY

TRUCK.

GUYS GIVE UP ON PRAYER.

I WOULD ASK WOMEN TO BE MUCH

MORE UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR

HUSBAND'S SPIRITISM.

IF HE OFFERS AN EIGHT-WORD

PRAYER, DON'T SHOW HIM UP.

YOU MATCH HIM WITH EIGHT

WORDS.

GIVE HIM AN OPPORTUNITY TO

DO WELL IN SPIRITUAL THINGS,

AND I THINK HE WILL DO MORE

OF THEM.

Gordon: DOES THAT TIE

IN WITH THE GREATEST FEAR

THAT MOST MEN HAVE, THAT

THEY WON'T BE PERCEIVED AS

COMPETENT AT IT?

THAT'S EXACTLY RIGHT.

MEN HAVE HUGE SPIRITUAL

INFERIORITY COMPLEX.

IT STARTS IN SUNDAY SCHOOL

WHEN THE GIRLS FIND MORE HAS

PASSAGES IN THEIR BIBLE THAN

THE BOYS.

AND AT AN EARLY AGE, BOYS

LEARN GIRLS OF BETTER AT

SUNDAY SCHOOL.

EVEN INTO MY 20s AND

30s, I STILL FELT THAT

INFERIORITY, I FELT LIKE MY

WIFE IS BETTER AT DOING

SPIRITUAL THINGS.

SHE IS A PREACHER'S

DAUGHTER.

SHE EVEN KNEW HOW TO FIND

THE BOOK OF OBADIAH IN 10

SECONDS.

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR

WOMEN NOT TO OUTSHINE THEIR

HUSBANDS IN SPIRITUAL

MATTERS.

THAT GOES A LONG WAY TO

REALLY RESPECTING YOUR

HUSBAND.

Gordon: YOU HAVE A LOT

OF CONFESSIONS IN YOUR

BOOK.

HOW DID YOUR WIFE REACT TO

IT?

I'VE KEPT EVERY COPY AWAY

FROM HER OF THIS BOOK.

Gordon: EVEN THE KINDLE

EDITION?

OH, MY GOSH, I FORGOT.

YOU KNOW, SHE'S BEEN

REALLY -- WE'VE GONE

THROUGH -- A COUPLE OF YEARS

AGO, WE WENT THROUGH A

SEASON OF COUNSELLING, AND

GOT A LOT OF THESE ISSUES

OUT, AND THAT WAS REALLY THE

IMPETUS FOR THIS BOOK.

SHE HAS BEEN SO OPEN TO THE

TRUTH.

SHE HAS SEEN THE VALUE OF

TRUTH IN OUR MARRIAGE, AND

SEEN WHAT THAT HAS DONE FOR

INTIMACY ON EVERY LEVEL.

AND SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GO

BACK TO A MARRIAGE WHERE I

HIDE THE TRUTH FROM HER, OR

I DON'T SHARE MY TRUE

FEELINGS.

SHE HAS A MUCH HAPPIER

HUSBAND, I'VE GOT A MUCH

HAPPIER WIFE, AND WE'VE GOT

A MUCH HAPPIER HOME.

THE TRUTH REALLY DOES SET

YOU FREE.

Gordon: WHAT DO YOU

TELL COUPLES WHO ARE SORT OF

IN THIS, WHERE THE WALLS

HAVE GONE UP, I CAN'T REALLY

TELL THE TRUTH HERE.

WHAT IS THE FIRST STEP TO

TRY TO BREAK DOWN THAT

WALL?

WELL, YOU NEED TO BUY MY

BOOK, OF COURSE.

I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THE

SERVICES OF A COMPETENT

CHRISTIAN COUNSELLOR.

AS I SAID, MY WIFE AND I, A

COUPLE OF YEARS AGO, WENT

THROUGH A ONE WEEK COUPLES

INTENSIVE RETREAT, THAT

REWIRED OUR MARRIAGE.

WE HAD BEEN MARRIED 26

YEARS.

I THOUGHT WE HAD A FINE

MARRIAGE.

BUT IT TURNED OUT THERE WAS

JUST A LOT OF TENSION I WAS

NOT AWARE OF, AND THAT SHE

WAS QUITE AWARE OF.

WHEN WE GOT THOSE ISSUES

WORKED OUT, BOY, IT WAS JUST

FANTASTIC.

I THINK COUNSELLING IS WHERE

IT BEGINS.

GET INTO A GOOD CHURCH THAT

HAS GOOD TEACHING FOR

MARRIAGES, AND YOU REALLY

CAN COME TO A PLACE WHERE

YOUR HUSBAND WILL TELL YOU

WHAT HE IS REALLY THINKING.

Gordon: THANK YOU,

DAVID.

GREAT BOOK.

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT

YOUR HUSBAND ISN'T TELLING

YOU -- THIS ISN'T JUST FOR

WIVES, BECAUSE A LOT OF THIS

WOULD OPEN A LOT OF KEYS FOR

HUSBANDS AS TO WHY YOU ACT

THE WAY YOU ACT, AND GIVE

YOU INSIGHT INTO WHAT YOU'RE

NEEDS ARE AND ENABLE YOU TO

BETTER EXPRESS THAT.

IT'S FOR BOTH HUSBANDS AND

WIVES.

YOU CAN GET DAVID'S BOOK AT

BOOKSTORES NATIONWIDE.

DAVID, THANKS FOR BEING WITH

US.

MY PLEASURE.

THANK YOU.

Gordon: COMING UP, LISA

KING ONLY WANTED ONE THING

FROM HER HUSBAND.

I USED TO JUGGLE ALL OF

THE TIME.

I SAID, WHENEVER I GET

MARRIED, I DON'T WANT MY

HUSBAND TO CHEAT ON ME.

I NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD

EVER HAPPEN TO ME.

Gordon: SEE WHAT SAVED

THEIR MARRIAGE, UP NEXT.

Gordon: THEY SAY IT

TAKES YEARS TO BUILD TRUST,

AND ONLY SECONDS TO DESTROY

IT.

DAVID AND LISA KING CAN

ATTEST TO THAT.

ONE STUPID DECISION NEARLY

DESTROYED THEIR MARRIAGE.

BUT ONE GOOD ONE SAVED IT.

Reporter: DAVID AND

LISA KING HAVE BEEN MARRIED

FOR OVER 25 YEARS.

THE CHRISTIAN COUPLE MET

WHEN THEY WERE IN COLLEGE.

HE WAS 20, AND SHE WAS 19.

WHEN WE FIRST GOT

MARRIED, I REALLY WAS JUST

EXCITED BECAUSE I REALIZED,

MAN, I'VE GOT A GOOD WIFE.

HE STOLE MY HEART.

HE DID.

AND OUR MARRIAGE IS -- WAS A

STORYBOOK MARRIAGE.

Reporter: BUT LISA HAD

ONE FEAR.

AS A YOUNG GIRL, I USED

TO JUGGLE ALL OF THE TIME.

I SAID, WHENEVER I GET

MARRIED, I DON'T WANT MY

HUSBAND TO CHEAT ON ME.

AND I NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD

EVER HAPPEN TO ME.

Reporter: FIVE YEARS

INTO THEIR STORYBOOK

MARRIAGE, DAVID RAN INTO A

WOMAN HE ONCE NEW.

HE HAD A ONE-NIGHT STAND.

WE STARTED UP A

CONVERSATION, AND THE NEXT

THING YOU KNOW, WE'RE HAVING

A MEAL TOGETHER, HAVING SOME

DRINKS.

ONE THING LED TO ANOTHER.

MY INHIBITION WAS DOWN.

SOMEONE BEGINS TO STROKE

YOUR EGO.

Reporter: IT WAS LATE

AND DAVID DIDN'T CALL HOME.

I HAD A SIXTH SENSE HE

WAS WITH A WOMAN.

NOW, HE NEVER HAD GIVEN ME

ANY INDICATION HE WOULD BE

UNFAITHFUL TO ME.

SO WHEN HE FINAL MANY CAME

HOME, I ASKED AND HE DENIED

IT.

Reporter: DAVID KEPT

HIS ONE-NIGHT STAND A SECRET

UNTIL HE KNEW HE COULDN'T

KEEP IT FROM HER ANY

LONGER.

HE DECIDED TO COME CLEAN.

WHEN HE TOLD LISA, SHE WAS

DEVASTATED.

I CONTINUED PROCESS

EVERYTHING THAT WAS GOING

ON.

IT SEEMED TO ME MY WORLD

SHUT DOWN.

LIFE WASN'T WORTH LIVING.

I COULDN'T CATCH MY BREATH.

IT WAS HORRIBLE.

Reporter: WHEN DAVID

SAW WHAT HIS BETRAYAL HAD

DONE TO LISA, HE WANTED TO

DIE.

I REMEMBER GOING IN THE

BASEMENT AND LAYING ON THE

CONCRETE FLOOR AND JUST

CRYING, AND SAYING, LORD,

HOW COULD I BE SO STUPID.

AND LITERALLY SAYING, LORD,

TAKE ME NOW.

FELT LIKE WHY EVEN LIVE.

Reporter: ON THAT COLD,

CONCRETE FLOOR, HE BEGAN TO

PRAY.

O GOD, HOW COULD I HAVE

DONE THIS.

HOW COULD I HAVE SINNED

AGAINST YOU?

HOW COULD I HAVE SINNED

AGAINST MY WIFE?

LORD, PLEASE CLEANSE ME.

GIVE ME A RIGHT HEART.

GIVE ME A PURE HEART.

I WANT TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP

WITH YOU AGAIN.

AND THEN, GOD, HELP MY WIFE

TO FORGIVE ME.

HELP HER TO BE MADE WHOLE.

I WAS HURTING BECAUSE SHE

WAS HURTING.

I HAD TO LEARN TO TRUST

HIM AGAIN.

I WAS ALMOST GETTING TO THE

POINT OF PARANOIA.

WHEN HE WOULD LEAVE THE

HOUSE, I WAS THINKING, IS HE

GOING TO GO BACK TO THAT

WOMAN?

ARE THEY HOOKING UP?

MY MIND WENT EVERYWHERE.

Reporter: DAVID FOUGHT

HARD TO WIN BACK HIS WIFE'S

HEART.

I MADE MYSELF VERY

TRANSPARENT.

I MADE IT WHERE SHE DIDN'T

HAVE TO WONDER WHERE I WAS

GOING TO BE AT.

SHE KNEW WHERE I WAS GOING

TO BE AT ALL TIMES.

I BEGAN TO CARRY A PAGER IN

THOSE DAYS.

I WAS LIKE ANY TIME YOU NEED

TO REACH ME, YOU CALL ME AND

I'LL CALL YOU BACK.

Reporter: ULTIMATELY,

THROUGH PRAYER AND GOD'S

HELP, THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND

LOVE FOR EACH OTHER WAS

RESTORED.

THE LOVE THAT I THOUGHT

WOULD NEVER COME BACK, IT

HAS COME BACK, AND EVEN

GREATER.

HE KNOWS MY LOVE LANGUAGE.

AND HE ACCOMMODATES ME WITH

THAT.

AND MY LOVE LANGUAGE IS ACTS

OF SERVICE.

AND THEN HE JUST TELLS ME

ALL THE TIME HOW BEAUTIFUL I

AM.

I REMEMBER FROM YEARS

BACK WE HAD GONE ON ONE OF

OUR ANNIVERSARY TRIPS.

AND I REMEMBER THINKING,

THIS IS WHAT IT FELT LIKE

BEFORE EVERYTHING HAPPENED.

AND WE WERE LIKE TWO KIDS

AGAIN, TWO NEWLYWEDS.

Reporter: IT HAS BEEN

20 YEARS SINCE HIS

INFIDELITY, AND DAVID AS

ADVICE FOR YOUNG COUPLES ON

HOW TO AVOID WHAT HE AND

LISA WENT THROUGH.

I THINK THAT WHEN YOUR

LIVES BECOME TOO FAMILIAR OR

TOO COMFORTABLE IN A SETTING

WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT YOUR

SPOUSE, YOU SET YOURSELF UP

FOR FAILURE.

Reporter: DAVID AND

LISA SAY THEIR MARRIAGE HAS

NEVER BEEN BETTER.

I WOULD SAY GOD IS A

RESTORER, GOD IS A HEALER.

HE HEALED OUR MARRIAGE AND

RESTORED OUR RELATIONSHIP

WITH ONE ANOTHER, AND WITH

HIM.

GOD IS FAITHFUL BECAUSE

EVEN THROUGH ALL THE HARD

TIMES THAT I'VE GONE THROUGH

IN OUR MARRIAGE, HE JUST

CONTINUES TO SHOW HIMSELF

FAITHFUL.

Gordon: AND HE'LL

CONTINUE TO SHOW YOURSELF

FAITHFUL.

IT'S JUST, ARE YOU WILLING?

ARE YOU WILLING TO TURN TO

HIM?

YOU KNOW, IN COUNSELLING

COUPLES, THE NUMBER ONE

QUESTION I HAVE FOR THE MAN

IS, DO YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE

ENOUGH TO DIE FOR HER?

THAT'S HOW WE'RE SUPPOSED,

AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH,

WHICH MEANT HE WAS WILLING

TO DIE.

THAT'S HOW YOU'RE SUPPOSED

TO LOVE YOUR WIFE.

WHICH MEANS YOU'D DIE TO

YOURSELF, AND YOU PUT HER

AHEAD OF YOU.

AND THAT'S WHAT THAT LOVE

MEANS.

TO THE WIFE, IT'S, DO YOU

RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND?

THOSE ARE THE BIBLICAL

COMMANDMENTS.

DO YOU RESPECT HIM?

AND IF YOU DON'T, YOU'VE GOT

TO CHECK THAT.

BECAUSE THAT DISRESPECT --

AND LITERALLY HE CAN SEE IT

IN YOUR EYES -- THAT

DISRESPECT WILL LEAD TO A

BREAKDOWN.

AND IN THIS KIND OF

SITUATION, HOW DO YOU REPAIR

IT?

HERE YOU'VE GOT DAVID AND

LISA.

DAVID GOES OFF AND MAKES A

HORRIBLE MISTAKE.

BUT THEN REALIZES IT.

AND I LOVE HIS PRAYER.

GOD, I'VE SINNED AGAINST

YOU.

IT'S THE SAME PRAYER DAVID

PRAYED WHEN HE COMMITTED

ADULTERY.

HE ACKNOWLEDGED THE SIN WAS

FIRST AND FOREMOST AGAINST A

RIGHTEOUS AND HOLY GOD.

AND THEN HE ACKNOWLEDGED

THAT SIN AND TURNED FROM

IT.

AND THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT

DAVID IN THAT STORY DID.

HE MODELED HIMSELF AFTER

KING DAVID TO SAY, I'M GOING

TO REPENT.

I'M GOING TO TURN.

AND LISA, ON HER PART,

RECOGNIZED IT.

AND RECOGNIZED THE HARD

CHANGE.

AND RECOGNIZED THAT DAVID'S

HEART WAS TURNED TO HER, AND

HE WAS WILLING TO DO

ANYTHING TO RESTORE THE

MARRIAGE.

THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.

BUT FIRST AND FOREMOST YOU

HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT THE

BREAKDOWN IS IN YOUR

RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.

IF THAT'S GOD AND THAT'S

WORKING, THEN ALL OF THE

OTHER RELATIONSHIPS COME

INTO LINE.

IF THAT'S BROKEN, WELL, THEN

YOU'VE GOT PROBLEMS.

SO FIRST AND FOREMOST, BOW

YOUR HEAD, ASK FOR

FORGIVENESS.

I'LL TAKE THAT WONDERFUL

VERSE FROM CHRONICLES: "IF

MY PEOPLE, WHO ARE CALLED BY

MY NAME, WILL HUMBLE

THEMSELVES AND PRAY, I WILL

HEAR FROM HEAVEN.

I WILL FORGIVE THEIR SIN.

I WILL HEAL THEIR LAND."

LET ME ADD TO IT, HE WILL

HEAL YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU

FIRST HUMBLE YOURSELF AND

PRAY.

IF YOU ARE EXPECTING THE

OTHER PERSON TO HUMBLE

THEMSELVES TO YOU, YOU'RE

WRONG.

YOU NEED TO HUMBLE YOURSELF

BEFORE GOD AND ASK HIM WHERE

YOU'VE GONE WRONG.

AND FROM THAT PLACE OF

HUMILITY, THAT PLACE OF

BEING ON YOUR KNEES, THEN

THE BREAKTHROUGHS HAPPEN.

AND YOU CAN HAVE THAT SAME

JOY.

HERE ARE DAVID AND LISA 20

YEARS LATER, AND THEY'RE

STILL ACTING LIKE

NEWLYWEDS.

AND YOU CAN SEE THE LIGHT IN

THEIR EYES.

YOU CAN SEE THE LOVE COMING

OUT OF THEM FOR EACH OTHER.

THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.

THAT KIND OF JOY IS POSSIBLE

IN MARRIAGE.

REGARDLESS OF WHAT'S

HAPPENED.

YOU CAN BE RESTORED.

YOU CAN BE REUNITED.

IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO PRAY

WITH YOU -- I BELIEVE

MARRIAGES NEED TO BE BATHED

IN PRAYER.

PARTICULARLY IN TODAY'S

WORLD.

THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS

DISTRACTING US, AND WE'RE SO

BUSY WORKING.

DO WE HAVE TIME FOR EACH

OTHER?

ARE WE DOING THE NECESSARY

THINGS?

SO MANY DISTRACTIONS, SO

MANY TEMPTATIONS.

WE NEED TO BATHE OUR

MARRIAGES IN PRAYER.

I ENCOURAGE COUPLES TO PRAY

TOGETHER FOR THEIR FAMILIES,

FOR THEIR MARRIAGE, FOR

THEIR CHILDREN.

YOU DO THAT, AND YOU'LL

UNITE TOGETHER.

IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO AGREE

WITH YOU IN PRAYER, ALL

YOU'VE GOT TO DO IS CALL

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WE WANT TO HAVE HAPPY,

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WELL, STILL AHEAD, A

SOLDIER'S UNIT IS UNDER

ATTACK WHILE HE IS ON THE

PHONE TO HIS WIFE.

SEE WHAT PROTECT THE HIM

LATER ON "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

Gordon: THEY HAVE AN

UNUSUAL TIE TO CBN, NOT ONLY

ARE THEY PARTNERS, THEY

SPENT THEIR HONEYMOON HERE

IN VIRGINIA BEACH.

TAKE A LOOK.

Reporter: STANLEY AND

DONNA WERE GOOD FRIENDS

BEFORE THEY WERE MARRIED.

I WAS PRAYING FOR HIM FOR

ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF,

THAT GOD WOULD SEND HIM A

WOMAN THAT WOULD UNDERSTAND

HIM AND COULD BLESS HIM.

SEVERAL YEARS LATER, IT

TURNED OUT TO BE ME.

Reporter: EVEN BEFORE

THEIR MARRIAGE, BOTH WERE

CBN PARTNERS AND FANS OF THE

MINISTRY.

WHEN THEY WERE INVITED TO A

CONFERENCE, THEY DECIDED TO

MARRY AT THE INN AND SPEND

THEIR HONEYMOON AT CBN.

WE HAVE FOUND THAT CBN IS

ONE OF THE MOST WELL-ROUNDED

MINISTRIES.

WE'RE SURE WHERE OUR MONEY

IS GOING TO BECAUSE WE HAVE

GONE TO "THE 700 CLUB."

Reporter: THEY

INCREASED THEIR GIVING THAT

WEEKEND, AND GAVE A SPECIAL

DONATION TO HELP SPREAD THE

GOSPEL IN CHINA.

MY WIFE AND I LOOKED AT

EACH OTHER AND CAME UP WITH

THE NUMBER OF $3,000

TOGETHER.

Reporter: A COUPLE OF

WEEKS LATER, A WINDSTORM

DESTROYED A BARN.

THE CLAIMS ADJUSTER GAVE

THEM $30,000.

MY HUSBAND AND I LOOKED

AT EACH OTHER, AND I SAID,

THAT'S IT.

AND HE SAID, WHAT'S IT?

I SAID THAT'S OUR 10-FOLD

BLESSING.

THAT'S OUR RETURN FOR THE

$3,000 THAT WE SOWED AT "THE

700 CLUB" ON OUR HONEYMOON.

THANK YOU, JESUS.

I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT.

Reporter: THE LYNNES

SOLD THAT HOUSE FOR A BIG

PROFIT.

NOT ONLY WERE THEY ABLE TO

BUY THIS HOUSE ON 24 ACRES,

THEY PAID OFF ALL THEIR

DEBT.

YOU CAN'T OUTGIVE GOD.

HE SAYS PROVE ME WHEN IT

COMES TO GIVING.

WE TEST HIM ALL THE TIME,

AND HE JUST KNOCKS OUR SOCKS

OFF.

IF YOU DON'T STEP OUT AND

GIVE, YOU WON'T GET

BLESSED.

Gordon: LET GOD KNOCK

YOUR SOCKS OFF.

IT IS INCREDIBLE WHAT

HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE A

LIFESTYLE OF GIVING.

1-888-777-1999, JUST SAY, I

WANT TO BE A MEMBER OF

"THE 700 CLUB."

OUR NEXT STORY, SOLDIERS

CALL HOME AND IT IS ALWAYS

ENCOURAGING FOR LOVED ONES

TO HEAR THEIR VOICE, BUT FOR

THE WOMAN YOU'RE ABOUT TO

MEET, ONE PHONE CALL SENT

SHOCKWAVES THROUGH HER.

BECAUSE IT WASN'T HER

HUSBAND'S VOICE SHE HEARD ON

THE LINE.

IT WAS A BOMB.

Reporter: WHILE IN

AFGHANISTAN, THIS STAFF

SERGEANT MADE A HABIT OF

CALLING HIS WIFE AFTER

DINNER.

TAMMY ANTICIPATED EVERY

CALL.

AND EACH CONVERSATION WAS

CALLED WITH THE TYPICAL

TOPICS OF FRIENDS AND

FAMILY.

THIS DAY WOULD BE

DIFFERENT.

TWO MINUTES INTO THE CALL, A

ROCKET HIT NEARBY.

TAMMY HEARD THE CHAOS OVER

THE PHONE LINE.

BUT HALMAR HAD NO TIME TO

EXPLAIN.

IT IS FRIGHTENING WHEN

YOU'RE ON THE OTHER SIDE AND

YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IS GOING

ON, AND ALL YOU DO IS JUST

HEAR WHAT IS GOING ON.

Reporter: TAMMY

FOLLOWED HER FIRST INSTINCT

AND CALLED THE CBN PRAYER

COUNSELLING CENTER.

WHEN I WAS TALKING TO THE

PRAYER COUNSELLOR,

AUTOMATICALLY HE STARTED

PRAYING FOR MY HUSBAND, FOR

HIS SAFETY.

AND THERE WOULD BE NO

INJURIES AND THAT NO ONE

WOULD BE HURT OR KILLED IN

THAT ATTACK.

Reporter: A ROCKET HAD

HIT NEAR HAMMAR'S BARRACKS,

BUT NO ONE IN HIS COMPANY

WAS INJURED.

AND HE QUICKLY CALLED HIS

WIFE BACK.

YOU COULD TELL IN HER

VOICE SHE WAS PRETTY EXCITED

THAT I WAS OKAY.

I WAS HAPPY THAT SHE WAS

SAFE.

AND I WAS, LIKE, I FELT AT

EASE THAT GOD DID ANSWER MY

PRAYERS.

BEING ABLE TO CALL AND HAVE

HIM PRAYED FOR, IT JUST

BROUGHT PEACE TO MY MIND

THAT IT IS NOT GOING TO BE

SUCH A HARDY PLOYMENT.

Reporter: TAMMY SOON

UNDERSTOOD THAT THE ROCKET

ATTACKS OCCURRED ALMOST

WEEKLY AT THE BASE.

SHE KNEW SHE HAD TO PRAY

MORE.

I PRAYED AND I FAST FOR

NOT ONLY HIM, BUT FOR OTHER

SOLDIERS.

BECAUSE IT IS THE WHOLE

COMPANY THAT IS PUT OUT

THERE AND PUT IN DANGER.

TO ME, WHEN I CALL "THE 700

CLUB," I'LL PRAY FOR HIM AND

THEY'LL PRAY FOR THE WHOLE

UNIT THAT HE IS IN, FOR

THEIR SAFE RETURN.

KNOWING THAT SOMEBODY

ELSE IS PRAYING FOR YOU AND,

YOU KNOW, THEY'RE ASKING GOD

TO PROTECT YOU AND KEEP YOU

SAFE, THAT GIVES YOU A

LITTLE BIT MORE OF A PEACE

OF MIND AND CONFIDENCE THAT

EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE

OKAY.

Reporter: AFTER HIS

THIRD OVERSEAS DEPLOYMENT,

HALMAR IS BACK HOME.

SHE CRIED BECAUSE SEEING

EVERYBODY HOME.

AND SEEING MY TWO BOYS, THEY

HAD GOTTEN PRETTY BIG FROM

THE TIME THAT I SAID

GOOD-BYE TO THEM.

TO HAVE HIM HOME IS

WONDERFUL.

GOD, YOU KNOW, KEPT HIM SAFE

AND KEPT THE SOLDIERS SAFE.

Gordon: LET'S REMEMBER

TO PRAY FOR OUR TROOPS.

MANY OF THEM ARE STILL

DEPLOYED IN ONE OF THE

LONGEST WARS -- THE LONGEST

WAR OUR NATION HAS EVER BEEN

INVOLVED IN.

LET'S REMEMBER TO PRAY FOR

OUR TROOPS, AND PRAY FOR

THEIR FAMILIES BECAUSE

THEY'RE ALL GOING THROUGH

SEPARATION.

WE LEAVE YOU WITH ISAIAH 50:

"BECAUSE THE SOVEREIGN LORD

HELPS ME, I WILL NOT BE

DISMAYED.

THEREFORE I SET MY FACE LIKE

A STONE DETERMINED TO DO HIS

WILL, AND I KNOW THAT I WILL

TRIUMPH."

GOD BLESS YOU.

WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.

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