In light of the recent tragedy in Connecticut, family therapist Ron Deal shares about his first-hand experience of losing a child and how his family dealt with tragedy.
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PLUS, THE DESPERATE CRIES OF
PARENTS WHO LOST THEIR SON.
WHY?
WHY HIM?
WHY US?
I MISS HIM EVERY DAY.
Lee: AND HOW THEY FOUND
HOPE IN THE MIDST OF
TRAGEDY.
AS A MATTER OF FACT, I
KNOW HOW MANY DAYS, 1,350.
I CAN'T WAIT FOR THE DAY
WHEN I GET TO STOP
COUNTING.
*
[APPLAUSE]
Pat: WELL, WELCOME TO
THIS EDITION OF "THE 700
CLUB."
THE GRIEVING RESIDENTS OF
NEWTON, CONNECTICUT, ARE
HOLDING THEIR FIRST FUNERALS
TODAY, AND MANY IN THE
COMMUNITY, THE PAIN HAS JUST
BEGUN.
Terry: PEOPLE THERE
HAVE BEEN SEEKING GOD IN THE
AFTERMATH OF FRIDAY'S
HORRIFIC SHOOTING.
JENNIFER WISHON HAS THAT
STORY.
* JESUS
Reporter: SONGS,
PRAYERS, AND MEMORIALS ARE
EVERYWHERE ACROSS NEWTON.
A STEADY LINE OF PILGRIMS
WALKED THE HILL TOWARDS
SANDY HOOK ELEMENTARY SCHOOL
TO REMEMBER THE 26 CHILDREN
AND BRAVE TEACHERS THAT DIED
THERE.
A MEMORIAL OF FLOWERS, TEDDY
TEDDY BEARS BRINGS VISITORS
TO TEARS.
YUSEF WALKED THE HILL WITH
HIS 6-YEAR-OLD SON.
WE DON'T KNOW WHY THINGS
HAPPENED.
BUT THEY DO HAPPEN.
THERE IS EVIL.
THERE IS AN ABUNDANCE OF
EVIL IN THE WORLD AND WE
HAVE TO CONFRONT IT.
Reporter: SOME GIVE
THANKS THAT THEIR CHILDREN
SURVIVED.
SHE HEARD EVERYTHING, THE
SHOTS, THE DOORS SLAMMING,
PEOPLE YELLING.
WE FELT SO BAD SAYING
THIS, BUT IT WAS THANK GOD
IT WAS NOT OUR KIDS'
SCHOOL.
Reporter: JUST A WEEK
BEFORE THE SHOOTINGS,
CHILDREN AND THEIR FAMILY
WERE HERE FOR A HAPPY
TRADITION, THE LIGHTING OF
THE TOWN CHRISTMAS TREE.
PEOPLE WHO WERE HERE SAY THE
AIR WAS FULL OF CELEBRATION
OVER THE COMING CELEBRATION
OF THE BIRTH OF CHRIST.
EVERYBODY WAS RUNNING
AROUND AND AT 6:00, THEY
LIGHT THE TREE, AND
EVERYBODY GOES WHOA!
RIGHT THERE, AND NOW THERE
ARE TWO DONATED TREES TO
MOURN THE DEAD PEOPLE.
IT'S PRETTY BAD.
Reporter: AT A PRAYER
VIGIL ON SUNDAY, PRESIDENT
OBAMA OFFERED O COMFORT BY
REMINDING RESIDENTS THAT THE
NATION GRIEVES WITH THEM.
President Obama: LET
THE LITTLE CHILDREN COME TO
ME, JESUS SAID, AND DO NOT
HINDER THEM FOR SUCH BELONGS
THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN.
GOD HAS CALLED THEM ALL
HOME.
Reporter: SOME CHURCHES
ARE KEEPING THEIR DOORS OPEN
24 HOURS FOR PRAYER.
ST. ROSE OF LIMA CATHOLIC
CHURCH WAS HIT ESPECIALLY
HARD.
IT WILL HANDLE EIGHT OF THE
FUNERALS.
SOME CHILDREN, THE SHOOTER'S
MOTHER, AND THE SHOOTER ALL
ATTENDED THE CHURCH.
FOR SUNDAY MASS, IT WAS
STANDING-ROOM ONLY.
THE CHURCHES WERE PEOPLE
CAME AFTER LEARNING THE
NEWS, AND CONTINUE TO COME
TO REFLECT AND HEAL.
* THERE IS NO ONE LIKE
GOD *
Reporter: THE MINISTER
OF THIS CHURCH IS UNIQUELY
SUITED FOR THIS MOMENT.
MORE THAN A DECADE AGO, HE
PASTORED A CHURCH NEAR
COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL, WHEN
TWO TEENS KILLED 13 PEOPLE.
I THINK IN SOME WAYS,
WE'RE PROBABLY PREPARED TO
DEAL WITH SOME OF THE ISSUES
THAT ARE GOING TO ARISE OVER
THE NEXT WEEK FOR US.
Reporter: EMOTIONS OF
SHOCK, SORROW AND ANGER.
FOR THE CHILDREN,
INNOCENT CHILDREN, THIS
NEVER SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED.
HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN?
ONLY GOD KNOWS.
GOD CAN WIN WITH ANY HAND
THAT IS DELT.
EVEN WHEN A BAD HAND A DELT,
GOT HAS A WAY OF TURNING
THINGS.
Reporter: THE HURT WILL
LINGER LONG AFTER THE
PRESIDENT AND TV CAMERAS
WILL LEAVE.
BUT THERE IS HOPE THAT GOD
WILL GIVE HOPE FOR PEOPLE IN
PRAYER.
GOD WILL HELP US HELP
PEOPLE IN NEED.
WE DON'T ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO
SAY, BUT WE KNOW HE DOES, SO
PRAY FOR US.
Reporter: JENNIFER
WISHON, NEWTON,
CONNECTICUT.
Pat: THEY SAY THE
GREATEST TRAGEDY IN LIFE IS
WHEN A PARENT OUTLIVES HIS
CHILD.
FOR THE PARENTS OF SANDY
HOOK VICTIMS, THAT TRAGEDY
BECOME THEIR REALITY.
COMING UP LATER, WE'LL TALK
WITH A MOTHER AND FATHER WHO
KNOWS HOW IT FEELS AND
THEY'LL TELL US HOW THEY
HAVE GOTTEN THROUGH IT.
FIRST, LEE WEBB IS IN
WASHINGTON FOR THE REST OF
TODAY'S TOP HEADLINES.
LEE?
Lee: FRESH SIGNS OF
PROGRESS IN THE STALLED
FISCAL CLIFF TALKS.
JOHN BOEHNER HAS OFFERED TO
LET THE BUSH ERA TAX CUTS
EXPIRE FOR THOSE MAKING MORE
THAN A MILLION DOLLARS A
YEAR.
IN CHANGE, BOEHNER WANTS A
TRILLION DOLLARS IN SPENDS
CUTS.
AND THEY WILL COME FROM
PROGRAMS LIKE MEDICARE.
AND RAISING THE GOVERNMENT'S
BORROWING CAP HIGH ENOUGH SO
THE ISSUE WOULD NOT HAVE TO
BE REVISITED FOR A YEAR.
FIRST A SUPREME COURT TOOK
THEIR SON AWAY, ALL BECAUSE
THEY HOME-SCHOOL THEIR SON.
DOMINIC JOHANSSON HAS BEEN
IN STATE CUSTODY SINCE
2009.
A DISTRICT COURT RULED THAT
THE JOHANSSONS COULD REPEAL,
BUT NOW A SUPREME COURT HAS
REPEALED THAT DECISION.
DALE HURT HAS BEEN FOLLOWING
THE STORY FROM THE BEGINNING
AND RECENTLY SPOKE WITH THE
FAMILY'S ATTORNEY ABOUT THE
CASE.
THE LAWS CONCERNING THE
TAKING OF CHILDREN INTO
THEIR CARE, IT IS LIKE A
RUBBERBAND.
YOU CAN STRETCH IT IN ANY
DIRECTION, AND THE SOCIAL
WORKERS NEVER DO WRONG.
AND THEY ALWAYS HAVE THE
BACKING OF THE
ADMINISTRATIVE COURTS.
ONE SOCIAL COURT SAID TO ME,
THE ADMINISTRATIVE COURTS,
THEY ARE OUR COURTS.
THE COURTS ARE SUPPOSED TO
BE FOR THE PEOPLE.
Lee: CLAUSSEN SAYS THIS
IS A PROBLEM IN ALL OF THE
NORDIC COUNTRIES.
SHE IS FILING SUITS AGAINST
ALL OF THE CHILD PROTECTION
AGENCIES IN THOSE
COUNTRIES.
THE ISLAMISTS SEEM TO HAVE
ONE ON A VOTE, BUT THE
EGYPTIAN PEOPLE ARE CALLING
FOR A REVOTE.
Reporter: THE
OPPOSITION UMBRELLA GROUP
CONDEMN THE IRREGULARITIES
AND VIOLATIONS.
IT CALLED FOR A LARGE RALLY
AGAINST THE CONSTITUTION.
MILLIONS OF EGYPTIANS CAST
THEIR VOTE IN THE REFERENDUM
ON THE CONSTITUTION.
IT WOULD EMPOWER ISLAMISTS
TO ENFORCE THE MOST
WIDESPREAD AND STRICTEST
IMITATION OF SHAI SHARI'A
LAW THAT EGYPT HAS EVER
SEEN.
WITH VERY LIMITED RIGHTS
FOR MINORITIES, RIGHTS FOR
WOMEN, RIGHTS FOR EVEN
CHILDREN.
IT IS NOT SUITABLE FOR
EGYPT.
WE'RE TALKING ABOUT A
COUNTRY THAT HAS BEEN IN
PLACE FOR MORE THAN 210
YEARS AS A MODERN STATE.
Reporter: HE SAYS
VIOLATIONS INCLUDED WOMEN
BEING PREVENTED FROM VOTING
BECAUSE THEY WERE NOT
WEARING ISLAMIC VEILS, AND
INDIVIDUALS FALSELY
IDENTIFYING THEMSELVES AS
JUDGES, AND CHRISTIANS BEING
DENIED ENTRY TO POLLING
STATIONS.
AND AS THE POLLS CLOSED,
HUNDREDS OF OPPOSITION
PEOPLE PROTESTED.
HE PRESIDENT HOLDS THE
POSSIBILIT POSSIBLE FOR
ROUNDTABLE FOR
RERESPONSIBILITY OF WHAT HAS
HAPPENED.
Reporter: AN ISLAMIC
VICTORY COULD THREATEN THE
33 YEAR PEACE TREAT BETWEEN
ISRAEL AND EGYPT.
Lee: THAT IS ALL FROM
WASHINGTON RIGHT NOW.
PAT, BACK TO YOU.
Pat: WE'RE DEALING WITH
TRAGEDY, BUT, YOU KNOW, THIS
THING THAT HAPPENED IN
CONNECTICUT TEARS OUR HEARTS
BECAUSE WHEN WE LOOK AT THE
PICTURE OF THOSE SWEET
LITTLE CHILDREN, AND REALIZE
THAT I'M A FATHER OF FOUR
LITTLE CHILDREN.
THEY'RE GROWN UP NOW, BUT
LITTLE GRANDCHILDREN COME
ALONG, AND YOU KNOW HOW
PRECIOUS THEY ARE.
AND YOU SEE THOSE DEAR
LITTLE FACES OF HOPE AND
JOY, AND TO THINK THEY'RE
CUT DOWN, BUT WE'VE GOT SOME
MORE STORIES THAT WILL GIVE
YOU SOME HOPE IN THIS
SITUATION.
TERRY?
Terry: UP NEXT, TWO
PARENTS WHO LOST THEIR SON
SHARE THE HARDEST LESSON
THEY'VE EVER HAD TO LEARN.
THAT'S WHAT TRAGEDY DOES
FOR US.
IT TEACHES US HOW SMALL WE
ARE.
Terry: THE REST OF
THEIR STORY AFTER THIS.
Terry: THE FATHER OF
ONE OF THE SANDY HOOK
VICTIMS SAID IT SUCCINCTLY,
I DON'T KNOW HOW I'M GOING
TO GET THROUGH THIS.
THE PAIN THAT STEMS FROM THE
LOSS OF A LOVED ONE IS
INCOMPARABLE TO ANK ELSE
ANYTHING ELSE WE EVER FACE.
IT IS ONE THAT RON AND HIS
WIFE HAD TO DEAL WITH AFTER
THEIR 12-YEAR-OLD SON
DIED
OF PNEUMONIA.
TRUST THE LORD WITH ALL
OF YOUR HEART.
IN ALL WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM,
AND HE WILL DIRECT YOUR
PAST.
LET'S TALK ABOUT TRUST IN
GOD WITH YOU.
WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW IS
WE'RE HERE TO TALK ABOUT MY
SON, CONNER, WHO PASSED AWAY
THREE AND A HALF YEARS AGO,
AT THE AGE OF 12, AND THAT
WAS HIS FAVORITE SCRIPTURE
VERSE.
I MISS HIM EVERY DAY.
AS A MATTER OF FACT, I KNOW
HOW MANY DAYS.
1,350.
I CAN'T WAIT FOR THE DAY
WHEN I GET TO STOP
COUNTING.
WELL, THE FIRST DIAGNOSIS
WAS PNEUMONIA.
IT IS LIKE, EVEN OLDER
PEOPLE SURVIVE PNEUMONIA.
HE'S A HEALTHY, 12-YEAR-OLD
BOY.
THAT'S EASY.
WHEN IT GOT TO WHERE ONE
LUNG WAS GETTING SO FULL,
ONE NIGHT RON AND I -- HE
WAS ON ONE LUNG AND I WAS ON
THE OTHER, AND WE WERE JUST
PRAYING, LORD, HEAL HIM.
I REMEMBER THAT MORNING WHEN
HE TOLD US HE IS RESPONDING
TO THE TREATMENT.
THREE WEEKS TOPS.
HE'LL LOSE A LUNG.
YOU'LL TAKE HIM HOME, AND
HE'LL BE ON OXYGEN.
AND THEY KEPT SAYING, HE'LL
LIVE A NORMAL LIFE.
WE WENT TO GET LUNCH AND WE
CAME BACK, AND I REMEMBER
THE DOCTORS COMING IN, AND I
REMEMBER THEIR FACES.
AND I WOULD NOT ALLOW THEM
TO TELL ME WHAT THEY WERE
GOING TO TELL ME.
SO I RAN OUT OF THE ROOM
BECAUSE I JUST SAW IT ON
THEIR FACES.
AND SO EVERYONE GATHERED, MY
PARENTS, MY SISTER-IN-LAW,
FRIENDS, BOYS.
IT WAS, LIKE, TWO HOURS.
AND IT SEEMED LIKE 30
SECONDS.
AND WE SANG HIM HOME.
I'M SO GLAD I WAS THERE.
I WAS THERE WHEN HE CAME
INTO THE WORLD.
AND I WAS THERE WHEN HE
LEFT.
I'M KIND OF ALMOST
EMBARRASSED TO SAY IT, BUT
I'VE BEEN IN MINISTRY FOR 25
YEARS OF MY LIFE.
AND I READ SCRIPTURES AND I
HAD COUNSELLED PEOPLE WHO
HAD GONE THROUGH GREAT,
GREAT TRAGEDY, BUT I REALLY
DIDN'T UNDERSTAND IT.
AND I DIDN'T KNOW I DIDN'T
UNDERSTAND IT UNTIL I LOST
CONNER.
BECAUSE THAT I WAS THRUST
INTO IT.
AND I WAS THRUST INTO THAT
TENSION BETWEEN TRUSTING GOD
AND NOT KNOWING WHAT'S GOING
ON.
BEING OUT OF CONTROL WITH
THIS LIFE AND THIS
SITUATION, AND REALIZING HOW
INCREDIBLY SMALL I AM.
I MEAN, THAT'S WHAT TRAGEDY
DOES FOR US, IT TEACHES US
HOW SMALL WE ARE.
BECAUSE WE DON'T GET TO RUN
THE WORLD.
AND WE THINK WE DO, KRISTI.
WE DO.
WE WALK AROUND WITH THE
ILLUSION OF CONTROL.
IF I LIVE RIGHT, I GET
RIGHT.
IF I DO RIGHT, GOD BLESSES.
Kristi: YES.
AND HE'LL INSULATE US AND
PUT A BUBBLE AROUND US.
Kristi: YES.
OKAY.
SO IF I DON'T REALLY HAVE
ANY CONTROL, AND IT'S SILLY
TO THINK I EVER HAD IT, THEN
HOW DO I PUT MY TRUST IN THE
ONE WHO DOES.
I WAS REALLY ANGRY WITH
GOD.
WE HAD IT OUT FOR A LONG
TIME.
I'M THINKING, SERIOUSLY, I'M
A MINISTER'S WIFE.
I'VE DONE EVERYTHING RIGHT.
"A" PLUS "B" IS SUPPOSED TO
EQUAL "C."
HAVEN'T I DONE ENOUGH?
I STOPPED PRAYING.
I COULDN'T READ HIS WORD.
GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME.
THIS ISN'T GOOD.
THIS DOESN'T FEEL GOOD.
Kristi: WHAT DID YOU
SAY TO GOD?
IF WE WERE A FLY IN THE
ROOM, AND IT WAS JUST YOU
AND GOD, WHAT DID YOU SAY TO
HIM?
WHY?
WITH HIM?
WHY US?
YOU SAY YOU'RE GOOD AND YOU
LOVE ME, AND THIS DOESN'T
FEEL LIKE LOVE.
LOVE DOESN'T HURT.
AND I USED TO JUDGE PEOPLE
FOR HAVING ANXIETY ATTACKS
AND, YOU KNOW, DEPRESSION.
AND NOW I KNOW WHY PEOPLE GO
THERE.
AND SATAN WAS THERE SAYING
YOU CAN DO THIS.
AND YOU'RE GOING TO BE IN
THIS PIT FOREVER.
AND THERE IS NO HOPE, AND
THERE IS NO HELP FOR YOU.
AND I FELT IT.
I FELT THE DARKNESS.
I FELT THAT I COULDN'T SEE
OUT OF THAT PIT.
AND PEOPLE WERE, WE'RE
PRAYING FOR YOU.
WELL, A FAT LOT OF GOOD THAT
DID.
HONESTLY -- I MEAN, MONTELY,
HONESTLY, THAT WAS MY TAKE
ON IT.
RON WAS LIKE, HE KNEW WHERE
CONNER WAS, AND GOD IS STILL
A GOOD GOD, AND I'M HOLDING
ON TO YOU.
AND I'M THINKING, I'M TRYING
TO HOLD ON TO YOU, BUT WHERE
YOU ARE?
I WAS DONE.
AND I DECIDED TO BE DONE.
AND THE ENEMY SAID, YOUR
HUSBAND IS GOING TO BE SO
MUCH BETTER OFF, AND YOUR
BOYS ARE GOING TO BE BETTER
OFF BECAUSE YOU ARE A MESS.
I HAD A PLAN.
I KNOW THAT SOUNDS SELL
SELFISH, BUT THAT IS WHERE I
WAS.
AND THE PHONE HAD RUNG.
AND GOD HAD THROWN A FRIEND
OUT THERE WHO HAD LOST A SON
10 YEARS BEFORE US.
AND SHE SAID, WHAT ARE YOU
DOING AT THIS VERY MOMENT.
AND I TOLD HER.
IT DIDN'T SURPRISE HER ONE
BIT.
NO JUDGMENT.
NO CONDEMNATION.
NO THROWING OUT SCRIPTURE AT
ME.
IT WAIT WAS AS IF --
KRISTI, IT WAS AS IF SHE PUT
A LADDER DOWN INTO THAT PIT
AND SAT IN THE MUCK WITH
ME.
AND AFTER THAT PHONE CALL,
RON CAME HOME -- AND ALL
DAY, I KEPT SAYING, GOD,
WOULD YOU THROW ME A BONE?
WOULD YOU SHOW UP.
AND RON SAID, DO YOU THINK
GOD THREW YOU A BIG ENOUGH
BONE?
AND I SAID, I GUESS HE DID.
AND THAT'S WHEN I STARTED
SEEING HE WAS THERE ALL
ALONG.
HE HAD NOT TURNED HIS BACK
ON ME.
I HAD TURNED MY BACK ON
HIM.
I HAD READ JOB BEFORE
CONNER DIED.
I NEVER REALLY READ JOB
BEFORE CONNER DIED.
GOD THOUGHT SO MUCH OF JOB
HE ALLOWED SATAN TO TEST
YOU.
IT TELLS YOU GOD'S
CONFIDENCE IN JOB.
AND YET WE HAVE 37 CHAPTERS
OF JOB SCREAMING AT GOD,
SAYING, LISTEN, GOD, I
DIDN'T DESERVE IT.
BECAUSE HIS THEOLOGY WAS
BASICALLY IF YOU DO RIGHT,
YOU GET RIGHT.
AND IT DIDN'T ADD UP.
AND HE IS GOING, GOD, YOU'RE
WRONG.
WHEN IT IS ALL SAID AND
DONE, HE FINALLY HEARS GOD
SAY, I'M GOD AND YOU'RE
NOT.
JOB SAID, MY EARS HAVE HEARD
OF YOU, AND NOW MY EYES HAVE
SEEN YOU.
AND LET ME TELL YOU
SOMETHING, KRISTI, FOR A
GOOD COUPLE OF YEARS AFTER
CONNER DIED, I WENT TO
EVERYBODY I KNEW, WHAT DOES
THIS MEAN?
WHAT DID JOB SEE THAT HE
COULD NEVER SEE BEFORE HIS
TRAGEDY?
WHAT IS IT HE DOESN'T KNOW
BEFORE HE TRAGEDY THAT HE
NOW KNOWS ABOUT GOD AFTER
HIS TRAGEDY.
THAT VERY DEAR FRIEND OF
MINE, A MINISTER, JIMMY,
SAID, RON, I THINK IT HAS
SOMETHING TO DO -- I DON'T
KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IT IS, BUT
IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH
TRUSTING GOD WITH WHAT WE
WILL NEVER HAVE THE
PRIVILEGE OF UNDERSTANDING
IN THIS LIFE.
HE HAD TO CHOOSE TO TRUST
GOD.
AND ANYBODY WHO HAS EVER
EXPERIENCEED AN EXPERIENCED
ANY SORT OF LOSS OR TRAGEDY
OR BROKEN DREAMS,
UNDERSTANDS THIS BETTER THAN
THEY EVER DID BEFORE THAT.
IT IS AN UNFORTUNATE THING
THAT WE HAVE TO SOMETIMES
EXPERIENCE TRAGEDY TO REALLY
SHAPE OUR HEARTS TO TRUST
GOD MORE.
BUT THAT'S WHAT IT COMES
DOWN TO.
DO I CHOOSE TO TRUST HIM.
Kristi: WHAT DID YOU
AND YOUR FAMILY DO TO REGAIN
TRUST IN GOD OR REDEFINE
TRUST IN GOD?
WHAT DO YOU CURRENTLY DO?
GETTING BACK AND REAC
REACQUAINTED WITH GOD'S WORD
IS JUST LIFE GIVING.
THERE WERE SO MANY THINGS
THERE THAT I DIDN'T KNOW TO
SEE.
I JUST COULDN'T SEE THEM.
I HAD BLINDERS ON MY EYES,
AND THEN MY EYES WERE LIFTED
IN SOME WAY, AND I SAW THE
DEPTH OF GOD'S WORD.
I SEE IN THE SONGS OVER AND
OVER AND OVER AGAIN THIS
TENSION BETWEEN TRUSTING GOD
AND HAVING HOPE IN GOD AND
THE GOODNESS OF GOD, AND MY
PAIN AND MY ANGUISH AND MY
SORROW.
IT'S THERE.
I JUST NEVER SAW IT.
I DIDN'T LISTEN.
I DIDN'T HAVE EARS TO HEAR.
AND IT IS THERE.
GETTING REACQUAINTED WITH
SCRIPTURE HAS JUST BEEN
LIFE-GIVING.
AND SEEKING COUNSEL HAS BEEN
LIFE-GIVING.
Kristi: IS THERE HOPE
IN TRAGEDY?
IS THERE EVER HOPE IN
TRAGEDY?
THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE IN
TRAGEDY.
IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT IT
DOESN'T STINK.
AND IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT IT
DOESN'T HURT.
I THINK WE GET IT WRONG IN
CHURCH SOMETIMES.
WE SAY HOPE AS IF THE PAIN
SHOULD GO AWAY.
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I'M
SAYING.
THERE IS HOPE BECAUSE OUR
GOD IS WORKING A REDEMPTION
IN OUR STORY.
AND LIFE MAY NOT BE AS YOU
WOULD WANT IT TO BE, BUT YOU
CAN TRUST GOD IN IT.
BECAUSE HE IS NOT FAR FROM
YOUR PAIN.
HE FEELS YOUR PAIN.
HE IS WITH YOU IN YOUR
SUFFERING.
AND HE CARES DEEPLY ABOUT
IT, AND HE JUST WANTS US TO
REMEMBER AND TO TRUST HIM
THAT HE IS GOOD, AND HE IS
WORKING ON OUR BEHALF.
ROMANS 8: 28 "GOD WORKS ALL
THINGS TO GOOD."
IT DOESN'T MEAN ALL THINGS
THAT HAPPEN ARE GOOD, BUT
GOD IS GOING TO MAKE
SOMETHING GOOD.
AND THAT'S WHERE OUR HOPE
IS.
Terry: NOW, WHERE DO
YOU GO WHEN LIFE HAPPENS AND
THE UNEXPECTED, DEEPLY
PAINFUL, HORRIFIC LOSSES
HAPPEN, OR WOUNDINGS THAT WE
CAN'T SEEM TO EVER CLIMB
OVER OR SEE ABOVE OR AROUND
IN ANY WAY, AND WE'RE LOST.
WE'RE IN THAT PLACE OF
HOPELESSNESS AND DARKNESS
AND PAIN.
THAT KIND OF PAIN THAT IS SO
DEEP IT IS UNUTTERABLE.
AND WE JUST MOAN IN THAT
PLACE.
IT HAPPENS.
IT HAPPENS.
YOU KNOW, LIKE NAN SAID, IT
IS SO EASY TO WATCH SOMEONE
ELSE WALK THROUGH A
DIFFICULT PLACE, AND HAVE
EASY ANSWERS.
AND EVEN JUDGE THE WAY THEY
HANDLE OR DON'T HANDLE IT.
BUT WHEN YOU'VE WALKED IN
THAT PLACE, WHEN YOU SAT IN
THE ASHES OF A DREAM THAT
HAS BEEN DESTROYED AND YOU
FEEL ALONE AND DISPAIRING,
AND THERE SEEMS TO BE NO
HOPE, WHAT DO YOU DO?
WHAT DO YOU DO?
SCRIPTURE IS A POWERFUL
THING.
IT HELPS US UNDERSTAND THE
HEART OF GOD.
BUT THERE IS NOTHING LIKE A
FRIEND WHO COMES AND SITS IN
THE ASHES WITH YOU AND JUST
GRIEVES.
YOU KNOW, MANY OF YOU HAVE
FRIENDS WHO ARE GOING
THROUGH DIFFICULT LOSSES OR
CHALLENGES IN THEIR LIVES.
AND YOU'RE ALMOST
INTIMIDATION DATED BY IT --
IIM TIMIDINTIMIDATED BY IT,
AND YOU'RE LIKE, WHAT DO I
SAY?
YOU DON'T HAVE TO SAY
ANYTHING.
JUST SIT WITH THEM.
IF YOU'RE THE ONE SITTING IN
THE ASHES TODAY, AND YOU
FEEL THAT KIND OF
DESPERATION THAT SAYS, HOW
DO I GO ON?
HOW DO I FIND AN ANSWER IN
THIS PLACE?
JUST NOW, JUST THIS MOMENT,
DO NOW WITH GOD.
UNDERSTAND THAT THE FATHER
HEART OF GOD IS WITH YOU,
HOLDING YOU, EMBRACING YOU
ON HIS LAP.
WHAT DO WE DO WITH OUR KIDS
WHEN THEY'RE HURTING?
WE SCOOP THEM UP AND WE HOLD
THEM AND WE JUST ROCK WITH
THEM.
AND WE SAY, I'M HERE.
I LOVE YOU.
YOU KNOW, SOMETIMES THE PAIN
IS SO BIG AND SO DEEP, IT'S
NOT SO EASY THAT THE FINGER
CAN BE PUT ON IT AND IT IS
JUST GONE.
THE THING THAT GOD SAYS TO
US IS I'LL BE THERE WITH
YOU.
I'M NEVER GOING TO LEAVE
YOU.
I'M NEVER GOING TO FORSAKE
YOU.
AND HIS PROMISE TO US IS
THAT IN THE MIDST OF THE
DARKNESS, IN THAT GREAT,
GAPING HOLE, WHERE YOU FEEL
LIKE YOU'RE BEING WHIRLED
AROUND BY LIFE
UNCONTROLLABLY, HE SAYS, I'M
THERE.
I'M HOLDING YOU.
I'M LOVING YOU.
I'M FAITHFUL.
CONNER'S FAVORITE VERSE WAS
"TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL
OF YOUR HEART."
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
THAT MEANS EVERY BIT OF YOU,
WHEN YOU CAN'T SEE IT.
THE NEXT LINE IS ABOUT YOUR
UNDERSTANDING, TRUSTING HIM
WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE AN
UNDERSTANDING OF WHY YOU'RE
GOING THROUGH WHAT YOU'RE
GOING THROUGH, WHAT YOUR
LOSS HAS BEEN, WHY IT HAS
HAPPENED.
YOU KNOW, WE ARE LITTLE, AS
RON SAID.
WE ARE LITTLE.
BUT GOD IS BIG.
AND HE IS BIG ENOUGH FOR
YOUR HURT.
HE IS BIG ENOUGH FOR YOUR
PAIN.
HE IS BIG ENOUGH FOR YOUR
LOSS.
TODAY, RIGHT NOW, WHILE
YOU'RE IN THE DEPTH OF YOUR
GRIEF, JUST LET HIM HOLD YOU
AND ROCK YOU.
LET HIS WORD BE A STRONG
RIGHT ARM TO YOU TODAY.
LET IT DEFINE A GOD WORTHY
OF YOUR FAITHFULNESS, YOUR
TRUST, YOUR PAIN.
GIVE HIM YOUR PAIN.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO UNDERSTAND
IT ALL.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO SEE THE
BIG PICTURE.
JUST RIGHT NOW.
CLIMB UP IN HIS LAP AND LET
GOD LOVE YOU.
HE IS BIGGER THAN WHAT
YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, AND HE
GETS IT.
EIN ALL YOUR WAYS,
ACKNOWLEDGE HIM, AND HE WILL
DIRECT YOUR PATHS.
AND I KNOW IT DOESN'T FEEL
LIKE IT OR SEEM LIKE IT
RIGHT NOW.
BUT ONE OF THE THINGS WE
LEARN ABOUT GOD IS THAT HE
IS A REDEEMER.
YOU KNOW WHAT IT MEANS TO
REDEEM?
IT MEANS TO TAKE BACK
SOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN
LOST.
HE IS GOING TO REDEEM THIS
IN YOUR LIFE IN A WAY THAT
MATTERS.
YOU CAN'T SEE IT RIGHT NOW.
BUT IT IS WHAT HE
SPECIALIZES IN.
RESURRECTIONS, TAKING WHAT
HAS BEEN DEAD BE LOST AND
DONE WITH, AND RESURRECTING
IT.
I JUST WANT TO SAY TO YOU
THAT TODAY GOD WANTS TO
SPEAK INTO YOUR NEED.
HE WANTS TO SPEAK INTO YOUR
HURT.
HE WANTS TO SPEAK INTO YOUR
HEART AND YOUR LIFE.
LET ME PRAY WITH YOU RIGHT
NOW.
JUST PRAY WITH ME.
I KNOW THAT PAIN CAN FEEL SO
OVERWHELMING THAT YOU JUST
FEEL LIKE IT IS GOING TO
SWALLOW YOU UP.
HE HAS GOT YOU.
GOD'S GOT YOU.
RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF HIS
LAP, AND HE'S GOT YOU.
LET'S PRAY TOGETHER.
GOD, I'M ASKING YOU TODAY TO
BE YOU TO PEOPLE WHO ARE
HURTING SO DESPERATELY THAT
THEY JUST DON'T EVEN WANT TO
LIVE ANYMORE.
PAIN THAT IS SO GREAT THAT
THEY CAN'T BEAR FEELING IT
ANYMORE.
HOPELESSNESS THAT IS SO DARK
THAT THEY CAN'T SEE LIGHT
ANYWHERE ANYMORE.
OH, FATHER, SEND YOUR
SPIRIT.
SEND YOUR COMFORT INTO THE
MIDST OF THAT HOPELESSNESS
AND THAT PAIN AND THAT
DESPERATION.
THAT CRY THAT SAYS, MAKE IT
STOP.
I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE.
GOD, WE ARE LITTLE, BUT YOU
ARE BIG.
BE BIG IN THE LIVES OF THOSE
WHO ARE HURTING TODAY.
COMFORT THOSE WHO ARE IN
DESPERATE NEED.
REDEEM THE MOMENT, GOD, EVEN
THOUGH WE CAN'T SEE IT NOW.
WE TRUST YOU.
WE TRUST YOUR LOVE AND YOUR
MERCY, YOUR COMPASSION.
WE TRUST YOU UNTIL WE CAN
GET TO THE PLACE WHERE WE
CAN SAY WHAT JOB SAID.
NOW I KNOW YOU IN A
DIFFERENT WAY.
I SEE YOU DIFFERENTLY.
I HAVE KNOWN WHAT IT MEANS
TO HAVE YOU COME YOURSELF, O
GOD, AND SIT IN THE ASHES OF
MY DISPAIR WITH ME.
O GOD, COME, COME NOW.
WE REACH UP OUT OF THE
DARKNESS OF WHERE WE SIT,
AND WE GRAB HOLD OF YOUR
HAND, EVER EXTENDED TO US,
GOD.
GIVE US ENOUGH PEACE, ENOUGH
STRENGTHEN, ENOUGH HOPE.
BECAUSE YOU ARE BIG, YOU ARE
LOVING, YOU ARE MERCIFUL.
YOU UNDERSTAND OUR PAIN.
O GOD, HOLD US TODAY AND
ROCK US TODAY.
WE TRUST YOU.
WE TRUST YOU.
IN JESUS' NAME WE PRAY.
AMEN.
YOU KNOW, GOD KNOWS WHAT IT
MEANS TO SUFFER PAIN.
I KNOW THAT DOESN'T SEEM
VERY COMFORTABLY IN THE
PLACE THAT YOU'RE AT RIGHT
NOW, BUT HE LOST A SON.
A SON WHO HAD ALSO DONE NO
WRONG, WHO GAVE HIMSELF
WILLINGLY SO THAT WE COULD
HAVE WE WERE HAVE TODAY, THE
POWER OF GOD AVAILABLE TO
US, THE COMFORT AND THE
PEACE OF GOD AVAILABLE TO
US.
IF YOU'RE SUFFERING AND YOU
NEED SOMEONE TO PRAY WITH
YOU SPECIFICALLY TODAY, WE
WANT YOU TO KNOW WE HAVE
FRIENDS STANDING BY.
OUR NUMBER IS TOLL-FREE.
IT IS 1-800-759-0700.
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CALL
AND SAY, WILL YOU PRAY WITH
ME TODAY.
YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE TO TELL
THEM WHO YOU ARE.
IF YOU DON'T KNOW THE LOVE
OF GOD, SAY, WILL YOU PRAY
WITH ME TO RECEIVE JESUS
INTO MY HEART.
GOD SAYS WHEN WE REACH OUT
TO HIM, HE IS THERE.
HE IS ALREADY REACHING OUT
TO US.
TODAY REACH BACK.
REACH BACK AND RECEIVE HIM
INTO YOUR LIFE AND INTO YOUR
HEART.
FIND THE COMFORT AND THE
PEACE AND THE HOPE THAT
YOU'RE LONGING FOR.
WE HAVE A SPECIAL PLACE ON
OUR WEBSITE, WHERE YOU CAN
PRAY FOR THE VICTIMS OF THE
SANDY HOOK TRAGEDY.
AND YOU CAN FIND IT BY
LOGGING ON TO CBN.COM.
WE'RE GOING TO BE BACK WITH
MORE OF "THE 700 CLUB" RIGHT
AFTER THIS.
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Terry: ON A RECENT TRIP
TO UKRAINE, I HAD A CHANCE
TO SEE THE CONSTRUCTION OF A
NEW HOME FOR ORPHANS, ONE
THAT WILL BE A SAFE PLACE
FOR CHILDREN.
ALL THE WHILE, CARRYING ON
THE MEMORY OF MY OWN
FATHER.
WE'RE HERE IN UKRAINE, TO
PRAY OVER THE CONSTRUCTION
OF OUR NEW ORPHANS PROMISE
TRAINING CENTER.
FIRST, IT IS BEING BUILT
WITH MONEY DONATED IN HONOR
OF MY FATHER, JOE, WHO
PASSED AWAY UNEXPECTANTLY
THIS PAST SPRING.
HE WAS THE FATHER OF SEVEN
ADOPTED UKRAINIAN CHILDREN.
AND BECAUSE TWO OF THE
ORPHANS FROM OUR ORIGINAL
PROJECT WILL BE WORKING WITH
ORPHANS IN THIS PARTICULAR
BUILDING.
IN FACT, ONE OF THEM,
URACOSA, IS AT THE ORPHANAGE
OF WHERE WE ADOPTED OUR
THREE DAUGHTERS.
FATHER, THANK YOU SO MUCH
FOR A FAMILY YOU PLACED ME
IN.
FOR A DAD WHO ALWAYS SAID I
LOVE YOU.
SO, FATHER, TODAY WE NAME
THIS CENTER, THE JOSEPH
CENTER, IN HIS HONOR.
WHEN YOU THINK OF HELPING
ORPHANS, YOU TRADITIONALLY
PICTURE YOUNG CHILDREN.
BUT HERE IN UKRAINE, THE
GREATER NEED IS FOR OLDER
ORPHANS, WHO ARE GETTING OUT
OF ORPHANAGES AT 16 YEARS OF
AGE.
THESE TEENS HAVE NO IDEA TO
LIVE INDEPENDENTLY BECAUSE
EVERYTHING HAS BEEN PROVIDED
FOR THEM IN THE INSTITUTIONS
THEY LIVED IN.
THEY DON'T KNOW HOW TO COOK,
HOW TO RUN A HOUSEHOLD, HOW
TO MANAGE MONEY.
APPROXIMATELY 70% OF ORPHANS
ARE SWEPT UP THE SOCIAL
ILLS.
AND THAT'S A STATISTIC WE'RE
DETERMINED TO CHANGE.
SO, FATHER, TODAY WE'RE
ASKING YOU TO TOUCH THE
LIVES OF EVERY YOUNG PERSON
WHO COMES IN AND OUT OF THIS
PLACE.
SO THAT YOU WOULD GIVE THEM
SKILLS SO THAT THEY CAN LIVE
WELL.
AND MOST OF ALL, FATHER,
THAT YOU WOULD HEAL THEM
WITH YOUR DEEP LOVE.
YOUR PRAYERS AND FINANCIAL
SUPPORT ARE THE FOUNDATION
FOR EVERYTHING THAT IS
HAPPENING HERE.
TOGETHER WE'RE THE FAMILY
THESE CHILDREN NEVER HAD.
AND IT'S SO INTERESTING HOW
GOD WORKS THROUGH DIFFERENT
CIRCUMSTANCES, ISN'T IT?
MY DAD DIED UNEXPECTANTLY IN
MAY AFTER A TRAGIC FALL.
MY
FATHER HAD SEVEN
UKRAINIAN GRANDCHILDREN, AND
MANY PEOPLE GAVE TO THE
MEMORY OF MY FATHER, MANY OF
PEOPLE I DIDN'T KNOW, SO
THIS FACILITY COULD BE
BUILT.
TO THESE OLDER CHILDREN WHO
ARE NOT GOING TO FIND A
FAMILY, BUT WHO NOW WILL
HAVE THE SKILLS TO MOVE
FORWARD IN THEIR LIVES.
I WANT TO SAY THANK YOU TO
THOSE WHO OF YOU WHO HAD A
VISION TO DO SOMETHING.
MANY OF YOU WATCH THESE
STORIES ABOUT THINGS WE'RE
DOING AROUND THE WORLD, AND
YOU SAY, I WANT TO BE A PART
OF THAT, TOO.
JOIN "THE 700 CLUB" TODAY.
CBN IS REACHING OUT TO THE
WORLD WITH GOD'S LOVE, AND
YOU CAN BE A PART OF THAT.
Pat: HOW MANY ORPHANS
ARE IN THE UKRAINE?
Terry: IN THE UKRAINE?
I'M NOT SURE ABOUT UKRAINE
ALONE, BUT THERE ARE
143 MILLION ORPHANS IN THE
WORLD.
Pat: 143 MILLION.
AND WE TALK ABOUT INTRA.
TH -- TRAGEDY.
THE THING THAT TORE ME UP
WAS TO HEAR ABOUT A MOTHER
WHO
WOULD TAKE HIS
6-YEAR-OLD CHILD AND LET HIM
GO IN THE CITY.
YOU TALK ABOUT HEARTBREAK.
Terry: AND PARENTS WHO
BECAUSE OF POVERTY OR LIFE
CIRCUMSTANCES, THEY COME OUT
OF THE COMMUNIST AREA WHERE
WHERE THEY DON'T KNOW ABOUT
GOD.
AND THEY HAVE DRUGS AND
ALCOHOL.
Pat: I'VE SEEN FATHERS
WHO PROSTITUTED THEIR SONS,
WHO SOLD THEM FOR ALL KIND
DONE TO YOU THAT
HAPPENED TO THOSE ORPHANS.
Terry: WELL, THERE IS A
WOUNDING THAT COMES FROM
THAT THAT IS VERY HARD TO
OVERCOME.
I THINK THE REASON WE SEE
SOME TRAGEDY IN CONNECTICUT
IS BECAUSE THESE WERE
FAMILIES THAT SO LOVED THEIR
CHILDREN, THAT WERE SO
DEVOTED TO THEM.
THERE ARE CHILDREN
THROUGHOUT THE WORLD THAT
HAVE NEVER KNOWN WHAT IT IS
LIKE TO HAVE FAMILY.
AND THOSE ARE THE KIDS THAT
WE ARE REACHING OUT TO AND
WHO'S LIVES WE DESIRE TO
TOUCH.
Pat: THANK GOD YOU'RE
DOING IT.
IT IS A WONDERFUL THING.
FOLKS, IF YOU'RE NOT
PARTICIPATING, "ORPHANS'
PROMISE," WHICH TERRY IS
VERY INTIMATELY INVOLVED IN,
TO GIVE HOPE TO THESE LITTLE
KIDS.
IT IS ONE WAY OF SAYING TO
GOD, THANK YOU FOR MY
FAMILY, THANK YOU FOR MY
HEALTH, AND THE BEST WAY TO
SHOW YOU'RE THANKFUL IS TO
HELP SOMEBODY LESS
FORTUNATE.
STILL TO COME, WE HAVE A
SPECIAL EDITION OF "BRING IT
ON."
NANCY SAID, SO FAR MY KIDS
DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT
THE SANDY HOOK SHOOTING.
HOW DOES A PARENT EXPLAIN
WHAT HAPPENED WITHOUT IN
INSTILLING FEAR?
I'M NOT SURE IF I CAN GIVE
AN ANSWER TO THAT, BUT I'LL
TRY.
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Lee: AND WELCOME BACK
TO "THE 700 CLUB" FROM OUR
STUDIOS IN WASHINGTON.
A CHRISTIAN WORKER SHOT IN
PAKISTAN HAS DIED.
AN UNKNOWN GUNMAN SHOT
70-YEAR-OLD VERJETA IN FRONT
OF HER HOME IN PAKISTAN TWO
WEEKS AGO.
SHE DIED OF HER INJURIES IN
A HOSPITAL IN HER IN ANY
NATIVE SWEDEN.
MORNINGSTAR NEWS REPORTS
THAT THEY BELIEVE ISLAMIC
EXTREMISTS CARRIED OUT THAT
ATTACK.
CBN BROUGHT CHRISTMAS TO THE
CHILDREN OF PRISON INMATES
IN LIMA, PUR RE.
MORE THAN 300 CHILDREN
GATHERED FOR A SPECIAL
SHOWING OF CBN'S
"SUPERBOOK."
WE SHARED A MESSAGE OF HOPE
AND SALVATION THROUGH JESUS
CHRIST.
EACH CHILD RECEIVED A
"SUPERBOOK" GIFT PACK IN
SPANISH, ALONG WITH A POSTER
AND TREATS.
AND YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE
ABOUT WHAT CBN IS DOING
AROUND THE WORLD BY LOGGING
ON TO
CBN.COM/INTERNATIONAL.
PAT AND TERRY WILL BE BACK
WITH MORE OF "THE 700 CLUB"
AFTER THIS.
Terry: WE WANT TO TAKE
SOME TIME TODAY TO ANSWER
SOME OF YOUR E-MAIL
QUESTIONS, AND, PAT, THIS
FIRST ONE IS FROM NANCY, WHO
SAYS, "I'M KEEPING MY KIDS
HOME FROM SCHOOL TODAY, BUT
I KNOW I CAN'T KEEP THEM
HOME FOREVER.
SO FAR MY CHILDREN DON'T
KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THE
SANDY HOOK SHOOTINGS.
I WANT THEM TO HEAR IT FROM
ME, INSTEAD OF ANOTHER KID
AT SCHOOL.
HOW SHOULD A PARENT EXPLAIN
WHAT HAPPENED WITHOUT
INSTILLING FEAR?"
Pat: YOU'VE GOT TO TELL
THEM ABOUT GOD'S PLAN.
YOU'VE GOT TO TELL THEM
ABOUT THE FACT THAT THEY
HAVE A SPIRIT, AND THE
SPIRIT LIVES ON FOREVER.
AND THE SPIRIT IS HOUSED IN
THESE BODIES, AND BODIES
DIE.
AND SOMETIMES THEY DIE WHEN
YOU'RE 10 YEARS OLD, AND
SOMETIMES THEY DIE WHEN
YOU'RE 100.
BUT YOUR SPIRIT LIVES.
AND YOU NEED TO EXPLAIN TO
THEM THE FACT THAT WHEN A
PERSON DIES, IF HE KNOWS
JESUS, HE IS GOING TO BE
FOREVER WITH THE LORD IN A
PLACE THAT IS WONDERFUL.
AND YOU NEED TO GIVE THEM
THAT HOPE.
AND SO THEY DON'T GET SCARED
OF DEATH.
THAT THEY, IN A SENSE,
WELCOME IT.
I REMEMBER REAGAN'S DAUGHTER
SAID THAT HER FATHER MADE
HEAVEN SOUND SO WONDERFUL
THAT SHE WANTED TO KILL ALL
OF THE LITTLE GOLDFISH SO
THEY WOULD GO TO HEAVEN.
IT WAS ONE OF THOSE THINGS.
IN A SENSE, THAT'S WHAT YOU
DO.
YOU DON'T SHIRK THESE
THINGS.
YOU TELL THEM.
YOU TELL THEM WHAT REALLY
GOES ON.
YOU DON'T SCARE THEM.
THAT'S NOT SCARY.
Terry: YOU KNOW WHAT
WOULD BE PROBABLY A REALLY
GOOD TOOL TO USE FOR THAT IS
COLTON BERPO'S BOOK, "HEAVEN
IS REAL."
AND TO TALK WHAT I WAS LIKE
FOR HIM.
I THINK WHAT IS SO DIFFICULT
IS SEPARATION FROM YOUR
LOVED ONES.
ABE SAYS, "DOES A PERSON
REALLY BECOME A CHRISTIAN BY
SIMPLY SAYING SOME MAGIC
WORDS AND AGREEING TO SOME
BASIC PRINCIPLES?"
Pat: NO, THAT'S NOT
WHAT HAPPENS.
YOUR HEART HAS TO ACCEPT.
YOU BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART
AND CONFESS WITH YOUR
MOUTH.
YOU CONFESS, BUT YOU'RE
SAVED THROUGH BELIEVING.
YOU KNOW, THAT OLD TAMIKO
STATEMENT ABOUT THE GUY WHO
WAS PUSHING A BARREL OVER A
WIRE TO NIAGARA FALLS.
AND HE SAYS, WHO BELIEVES
THAT I CAN DO THIS.
AND ALL THESE HANDS STOOD
AND SAID, WE BELIEVE.
OKAY, YOU GET THE BARREL.
NONE OF THEM WANTED TO DO
IT.
SO UNTIL YOU'RE WILLING TO
GET IN THE BARREL AND TRUST
THE LORD AND COMMIT YOUR
LIFE TO HIM -- SALVATION IS
NOT JUST SAYING SOME CREDAL
STATEMENT, NO WAY.
Terry: DOUG SAYS, "I
HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT JOHN
15: 10: "IF YOU KEEP MY
COMMANDMENTS, YOU WILL ABIDE
IN MY LOVE."
IF NOTHING CAN SEPARATE US
FROM HIS LOVE, HOW DO WE
UNDERSTAND THIS VERSE THAT
SEEMS TO SAY, I WILL LOVE
YOU IF YOU OBEY THE
COMMANDMENTS.
Pat: HE DIDN'T REALLY
SAY THAT.
HE SAID YOU WILL ABIDE IN MY
LOVE.
YOU WILL DWELL IN MY LOVE.
YOU WILL ABIDE IN MY LOVE AS
YOU KEEP MY COMMANDMENTS.
IT IS AN ON-GOING WALK WITH
THE LORD.
Terry: IT IS HOW WE GET
TO KNOW HIM.
Pat: HOW WE GET TO KNOW
HIM.
WE KEEP ON.
IT'S LIKE SAYING, YOU GOT
MARRIED AND YOU MADE SOME
VOWS AND KISSED THE BRIDE
AND ALL OF THAT GOOD STUFF.
YOU NEVER HAVE ANY
COMMUNICATION FROM THEN ON?
YOU DON'T EVER TALK TO EACH
OTHER?
OF COURSE YOU DO.
YOU LIVE TOGETHER.
YOU SHARE THINGS TOGETHER.
IT IS A WALK TOGETHER.
THAT'S WHAT IT IS WITH
SALVATION.
YOU WALK WITH THE LORD.
AND IF YOU CONTINUE IN MY
COMMANDMENTS, YOU WILL ABIDE
IN MY LOVE AND YOU WILL LIVE
IN MY LOVE.
Terry: THIS IS CINDY
WHO SAYS, "WHY DO I NEED TO
GO TO CHURCH?
CAN'T I JUST WORSHIP GOD
ANYWHERE AND EVERYWHERE I
WANT?"
Pat: YOU CAN.
BUT THE BIBLE SAYS, DON'T
FORSAKE THE ASSEMBLING OF
YOURSELVES TOGETHER.
THERE IS SOMETHING ABOUT
BEING WITH FELLOW
CHRISTIANS, SAIR SHARING
THEIR PAIN, THEIR JOYS,
THEIR SORROW AND THEIR
BLESSINGS.
AND HAVE THEM WITH YOU.
AND IN A SENSE, HOW ARE YOU
GOING TO HEAR -- YOU'VE GOT
TO HAVE SOME TEACHING.
SOMEBODY HAS GOT TO TEACH
YOU ABOUT WHAT IS THERE.
AND THIS INSIGHT -- A GOOD
PASTOR WILL HAVE GOOD
INSIGHTS INTO THE SCRIPTURE
THAT HE OR HE UNFOLDS TO YOU
ON A WEEKLY BASIS.
AND IF YOU LIVE ALL BY
YOURSELVES -- THAT'S WHAT
THESE OW OCCULTS ARE, THEY
GET OFF BY THEMSELVES AND
THERE IS NOBODY TO CORRECT
IT, NO GOVERNOR.
YOU NEED THAT
SELF-CORRECTION THAT COMES
ABOUT WITH BEING A
CHRISTIAN.
Terry: DON'T YOU THINK
THERE IS SOMETHING, TOO,
THAT COMES FROM SETTING
ASIDE A PART OF YOUR WEEK
JUST TO GO AND WORSHIP THE
LORD?
Pat: SURE.
AND THE IDEA IS THAT YOU
DON'T WORK.
YOU SET THE TIME ASIDE FOR
THE LORD.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO THAT IN
A, QUOTE,"CHURCH."
Terry: MARK SAYS, "WHAT
IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
HAVING GOOD SELF-ESTEEM AND
PRIDE?"
Pat: THE BIBLE IS VERY
STRICT ABOUT PRIDE BECAUSE
THE PRIDE GO-ETH BEFORE
DESTRUCTION.
PRIDE SAYS I HAVE DONE IT.
I, I, I.
THAT'S PRIDE.
IF ANYBODY BOASTS, LET HIM
BOAST IN THE LORD, THE BIBLE
SAYS.
I THANK GOD FOR HIS GOODNESS
TO ME.
AND I PRAISE HIM FOR ALL HE
HAS BLESSED ME WITH.
BUT AT THE SAME TIME, BEFORE
GOD, I REALIZE IS NOTHING I
HAVE NOT RECEIVED BUT FROM
HIM.
HE GAVE ME LIFE, ALL OF THE
MATERIAL THINGS, AND IT ALL
COMES FROM GOD.
AND THERE IS NOTHING I HAVE
DONE THAT DIDN'T COME FROM
GOD.
IF YOU HAVE PRIDE IN THE
LORD, THAT'S GOOD.
AND THE SAME THING, ALSO, IF
YOU'RE A RUNNER AND YOU CAN
RUN THE 100-METERS IN 9.2,
YOU MAY BE THE FASTEST IN
THE WORLD.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO SAY I'M AN
OLD SLOW POKE.
TAKE IT AS AN OBJECTIVE
FACT.
I CAN RUN THE HUNDRED IN
9.2.
OKAY, GOOD.
ALL RIGHT, WHAT'S NEXT?
IS THAT ALL?
Terry: THAT'S ALL WE'VE
GOT FOR RIGHT NOW.
BUT WE DO LOVE GETTING YOUR
E-MAIL QUESTIONS, AND
HOPEFULLY GET TO MOST OF
THEM ON THIS PROGRAM.
STILL AHEAD, ONE OF MY
FAVORITE INSPIRING SINGERS,
STEVEN CURTIS CHAPMAN, TELLS
US ABOUT THE INSPIRATION FOR
HIS SONG "CHRISTMAS CARD."
Terry: IN MAY OF 2008,
THE CREDI CHRISTIAN WORLD
MOURNED OVER THE DEATH OF
8-YEAR-OLD MIA.
SHE WAS KILLED AFTER HER
TEENAGED BROTHER
ACCIDENTALLY RAN OVER HER IN
THE DRIVEWAY.
YEARS LATER, WITH THAT
TRAGEDY STILL IN MIND,
STEVEN PENNED A CHRISTMAS
SONG LIKE NO OTHER.
RECENTLY HE TOLD US WHY HE
WROTE IT AND ABOUT THE
MESSAGE HE WANTS TO SHARE.
WE ALL KNOW THAT
CHRISTMAS, AS THE SONG SAYS,
THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF
THE YEAR.
JINGLE BELLS, ALL OF THE
DECORATIONS, AND EVERYTHING
IS SO HAPPY.
BUT THE TRUTH IS IT IS ALSO
A VERY HARD TIME FOR SO MANY
PEOPLE.
IN FACT, ALL OF THE JOY,
"JOY TO THE WORLD," ALL OF
THE HAPPY SONGS AND ALL OF
THE LIGHTS SOMETIMES CAN BE
SALT IN THE WOUND.
IF WE'RE HURTING AND MISSING
SOMEONE, AND MAYBE YOU'RE
THERE.
MY FAMILY AND I CAN RELATE
TO THAT MORE THAN EVER
BEFORE NOW.
WITH OUR LITTLE GIRL IN
HEAVEN.
SO THIS SONG WAS VERY
IMPORTANT.
A SONG CALLED "CHRISTMAS
CARD."
BECAUSE FOR ME, I WANTED SO
MUCH TO SAY TO ALL OF THOSE
WHO ARE STRUGGLING THROUGH
THIS CHRISTMAS, IT MAY NOT
BE THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME
OF THE YEAR.
TO KNOW THAT THE WHOLE
CHRISTMAS STORY ABOUT THAT.
ABOUT STORIES BEING CHANGED
OVERNIGHT, ABOUT THINGS
REALLY NOT GOING THE WAY
PEOPLE HAD PLANNED, AND YET
IN THE MIDST OF IT, GOD
SHOWING UP AND SAYING, I AM
WITH YOU, IN THE MIDST OF
THIS.
SO MY HOPE AND PRAYER WITH
SENDING OUT THIS LITTLE
MUSCLE CHRISTMAS CARD OF
THIS SONG IS THAT IT WILL
FIND PEOPLE WHEREVER THEY
ARE, AND THEY WILL HEAR THAT
MESSAGE AGAIN, KNOWING THAT
GOD IS FOR YOU, AND GOD IS
WITH YOU.
AND GOD IS WITH US.
* I THINK I PASSED YOU ON
THE BUSY SIDEWALK LAST
NIGHT *
* I THINK I CAUGHT THE
SADNESS IN YOUR EYES *
* EVERYBODY SINGS THEIR
HAPPY CHRISTMAS SONGS
TONIGHT *
* ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS
CRY *
* CHRISTMAS LIGHTS AND
DECORATIONS EVERYWHERE YOU
TURN *
* BUT ALL YOU FEEL INSIDE IS
DARK AND GREY *
* THERE MAY BE JOY FOR ALL
OF THE WORLD *
* BUT IS THERE ANY JOY FOR
YOU *
* HOLD ON
* LOVE IS LOOK ARE TO A
WAY *
* HOLD ON
* I BELIEVE IT'S WHY LOVE
CAME *
* SO I'M SENDING YOU THIS
CHRISTMAS CARD *
* TO LET YOU KNOW SOMEBODY
LOVES YOU *
* AND I'M SINGING YOU THIS
LITTLE SONG TO LET YOU KNOW
YOU'RE NOT ALONE *
* AND I'M THINKING AS WE
CELEBRATE *
* HOW LOVE CAME DOWN
* SO ALL THE LOST AND LONELY
BROKEN HEARTS CAN GET
FOUND *
* AND WHEREVER YOU ARE
* I HOPE THIS CHRISTMAS CARD
FINDS YOU *
* AND REMINDS YOU
*
YOU AREN'T ALONE *
* FOR EVERYONE WHO HAS BEEN
LEFT STANDING ON THE OUTSIDE
LOOKING IN *
* AND WHEN THE STORY OF YOUR
LIFE GETS REWRITTEN
OVERNIGHT *
* THIS IS ALL PART OF THE
CHRISTMAS STORY, TOO *
* AND I BELIEVE GOD KNOWS HE
IS RIGHT THERE WITH YOU,
TOO *
* SO I'M SENDING YOU THIS
CHRISTMAS CARD *
* TO LET KNOW SOMEBODY LOVES
YOU *
* I'M SINGING YOU THIS
LITTLE SONG TO LET YOU KNOW
YOU'RE NOT ALONE *
* AND I'M THINKING AS WE
CELEBRATE, HOW LOVE CAME
DOWN *
* TO ALL OF THE LOST AND
LONELY BROKEN HEARTS SO THEY
CAN GET FOUND *
* AND WHEREVER YOU ARE
* I HOPE THIS CHRISTMAS CARD
FINDS YOU *
* AND REMINDS YOU
* YOU'RE NOT ALONE
* YOU'RE NEVER FORGOTTEN
* GOD, WHO MADE YOU, CAME
DOWN TO HIS WORLD *
* TO LET US KNOW, WHEREVER
WE ARE *
* HE IS WITH US.
*
GOD IS WITH US *
* AND HE REALLY WANTS TO LET
YOU KNOW *
* JUST HOW MUCH HE LOVES
YOU *
* SO I'M SINGING YOU THIS
CHRISTMAS SONG *
* SO YOU'LL KNOW YOU'RE NOT
ALONE *
* AND I'M THANKFUL AS WE
CELEBRATE *
* HOW LOVE CAME DOWN
* NOW ALL OF THE LOST AND
LONELY BROKEN HEARTS CAN GET
FOUND *
* AND WHEREVER YOU ARE, I
HOPE THIS CHRISTMAS CARD *
*
*
FINDS YOU AND REMINDS YOU *
* YOU ARE NOT ALONE
*