Kristi: SO HOW MUCH BAD
BLOOD WAS THERE BETWEEN DALE
AND JANET FOREHAND?
THERE WAS A LOT OF FINGER
POINTING AND VERBAL ABUSE.
IN FACT, AT ONE POINT, BOTH
OF THEM HIRED PRIVATE
INVESTIGATORS TO SPY ON THE
OTHER PERSON.
BUT CHECK THIS OUT, IT
ACTUALLY GOT WORSE.
TAKE A LOOK.
Reporter: THE MINUTE
DALE SAW GINA AT CHURCH, HE
KNEW HE HAD TO MEET HER.
THEY FELL IN LOVE, DATED FOR
FOUR YEARS, AND MARRIED IN
1988.
WE WERE DOING A LOT OF
THE THINGS WE WERE TOLD DO
TO DO.
THE PROBLEM IS YOU CAN GET
SO BUSY CHASING THAT DREAM,
YOU CAN LOSE EACH OTHER IN
THE PROCESS.
DALE AND I WERE MARRIED
FOR SEVEN AND A HALF, ALMOST
EIGHT YEARS, WHEN THERE WAS
JUST KIND OF THIS SLOW
EROSION THAT BEGAN TO TAKE
PLACE.
Reporter: ARGUING
TURNED TO YELLING, AND THE
FIGHTING ESCALATED.
THEN ONE DAY DALE PACKED
GINA'S BAGS AND KICKED HER
OUT OF THE HOUSE.
Kristi: I WAS RIVETED
BY THE STORY.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED
NEXT?
DALE AND GINA FOREHAND BOTH
ARE HERE WITH US TO TELL US
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
THANK YOU.
Kristi: NINE YEARS AGO,
AND YOU GUYS ARE BACK AND
STILL SMILING.
WE HAVE A LOT TO SMILE
ABOUT.
Kristi: THERE YOU GO.
WHEN I READ YOUR RESEARCH,
THE THING I THOUGHT WAS
FASCINATING, THAT SO MANY
CHRISTIAN COUPLES CAN RELATE
TO, BOTH OF YOU WERE VERY
ACTIVE IN YOUR CHURCH.
BOTH OF YOU HAD THE
CHRISTIAN HOME AND CHRISTIAN
FAMILY.
AND BY ALL ACCOUNTS, I'M
SURE EVERYBODY SAID, ISN'T
IT LOVELY.
THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER WAS,
YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN PRAISING
AT CHURCH, BUT AT HOME, YOU
GUYS WERE THROWING BOOKS AT
EACH OTHER.
TELL US ABOUT THAT TIME.
WE GOT VERY GOOD AT
WEARING THE MASK.
BUT IN THE FOUR WALLS OF OUR
HOME, OUR MARRIAGE WAS DYING
A VERY UGLY DEATH.
IT WAS EXCRUCIATING.
WE WERE NOT THE HAPPY COUPLE
INSIDE OF OUR HOME.
WE HAD GOTTEN SO GOOD AT
PLAYING THE GAME AND
PRETENDING EVERYTHING IS
OKAY.
I THINK THAT IS WHAT WE LOVE
ABOUT OUR STORY IS WE'RE
TAKING OUR MASK OFF.
WE ARE TELLING OUR STORY,
AND SAYING WE'RE LIKE SO
MANY OTHER COUPLES WHO HAVE
WALKED THROUGH THE JOURNEY,
THE HARD THING CALLED
MARRIAGE.
BUT THERE IS IS GOD'S
REDEMPTION AND HOPE AND
HEALING.
IF YOU DO THE HARD WORK, YOU
CAN HAVE A GREAT MARRIAGE.
ABSOLUTELY.
Kristi: WHY DO SO MANY
CHRISTIANS WEAR MASKS?
DO WE FEEL LIKE IF IT IS NOT
PERFECT, WE'RE NOT TRUE
CHRISTIANS?
I THINK SO.
I THINK WE HAVE TAKEN THAT
ROLE.
AS BILL AN DALE AND I
ALWAYS SAY WE HAVE EXCHANGED
SPIRITUAL INTIMACY FOR THIS
ACTIVITY THAT MAKES US LOOK
LIKE WE'RE WALKING WITH GOD
WHEN WE'RE REALLY NOT.
WHEN WE WERE KIDS, OUR MASKS
WERE THE PLASTIC ONES, AND
YOU GOT YOUR HAIR ALL CAUGHT
IN IT, AND IT STUCK TO YOU
AND IT SUFFOCATED YOU, AND
YOU ENDED UP WANTING TO TAKE
IT OFF.
I THINK THAT IN THE
CHRISTIAN WORLD TODAY, IN
THE CHURCH, WE'VE GOTTEN SO
GOOD AT HIDING BEHIND
BECAUSE WE HAVE TO PUT ON
THIS PERSONA THAT WE'RE
FINE, AND WE'RE
SUFFOCATING.
BUT TODAY YOU CAN TAKE IT
OFF AND SAY, I'M
STRUGGLING.
CAN CAN YOU HELP ME.
Kristi: I WANT TO SPEND
THE REST OF THE INTERVIEW
TALKING ABOUT HOW BECAUSE SO
MANY COUPLES, CHRISTIAN
MARRIAGES, ARE FALLING BY
THE WAY SIDE.
SURE.
Kristi: SO WHAT DID GOD
DO THAT BROUGHT YOU.
GUYS BACK
TOGETHER.
TELL US ABOUT THE HIGH.
WHEN GINA ASKED ME TO
COME BACK HOME, WE HAD SO
MUCH FEAR.
WE STOPPED BLAMING EACH
OTHER, AND LOOKING AT
OURSELVES AND THE PART WE
PLAYED IN THE BREAKUP OF OUR
MARRIAGE.
Kristi: WHAT WAS THE
CATALYST?
THAT'S THE THING.
TO FILL EVERYBODY IN, YOU
GUYS WERE LIVING IN THE SAME
HOME FOR ABOUT 15 YEARS
HATING EACH OTHER BECAUSE
THE JUDGE SAID SO, BUT THEN
YOU GUYS HAD GOTTEN A
DIVORCE.
RIGHT.
Kristi: AND BY ALL
ACCOUNTS, YOU GUYS WERE
STILL JUST AS UNHAPPY AS YOU
WERE BEFORE.
WHAT WAS IT THAT TOOK THAT
PRIDE AWAY AND SAID, I'M
WRONG.
I'M SORRY.
I THINK FOR ME, THERE WAS
JUST THIS STRIPPING.
THERE WAS THIS MOMENT WHERE
IT WAS NO LONGER POINTING
THE FINGER AT DALE BECAUSE
DALE WAS NOW OUT OF THE
PICTURE.
NOW I WAS FORCED TO GO, OH,
MY GOODNESS, I HAD A PART TO
PLAY.
THERE IS THIS PART WHERE
YOU'RE GOING, HE DID THIS
AND HE DID THAT, AND YOU
NEVER TURN IT BACK IN.
IT IS LIKE THE SCRIPTURE
WHERE DAVID SAID, SEARCH ME,
OH, GOD, KNOW MY HEART AND
SEE WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY
LIFE.
THAT KIND OF GOT TURNED BACK
ON ME.
SUDDENLY IT WAS, LIKE, OOH,
I DID HAVE A PART TO PLAY IN
THIS.
I DID HAVE A PLACE WHERE I
CAUSED SOME BREAKDOWN IN
THIS RELATIONSHIP.
THEN IT WAS, LIKE, NOW WHAT
DO I DO WITH THIS.
BIBLICALLY, I REALLY NEED TO
GO TO HIM AND POP
APOLOGIZE.
WHILE ALL OF THIS STRIPPING
WAS GOING ON IN MY LIFE, THE
SAME THING WAS GOING ON IN
DALE'S.
BUT WE WERE APART, SO WE
DIDN'T KNOW IT.
A SITUATION BETWEEN OUR
CHILDREN CAUSED ME TO HAVE
TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIM.
IN THAT CONVERSATION, IT IS
LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT SENT
THIS OUT THROUGH ME.
I JUST SAID, WHAT IN THE
WORLD HAVE WE DONE?
CAN WE JUST -- CAN YOU JUST
COME HOME AND LET'S TRY TOP
PUT IT BACK TOGETHER.
EVEN AFTER I SAID THAT, I
WAS, LIKE, I DON'T EVEN KNOW
IF I WANT TO DO THAT BECAUSE
IT IS SCARY AND IT IS HARD
AND RISKY.
BUT WHEN GOD IS IN THE
MIDDLE OF IT, GREAT THINGS
HAPPEN.
IT WAS HAPPENING TO DALE,
THE STRIPPING, AND IT WAS
LIKE GOD PREPARED US BOTH
FOR THAT PERFECT TIME.
Kristi: WHAT I HEAR IS
YOU BOTH HUMBLED YOURSELF.
ABSOLUTELY.
Kristi: I INTERVIEWED
SOMEBODY WHO SAID THE KEY TO
BROKEN MARRIAGES IS NOT
MONEY, LACK OF SEX -- IT IS
SELFISHNESS.
AND YOU SAY I'M SORRY, AND
YOUR FOCUS IS LONGER HER AND
HIM, AND IT'S YOU, LORD, AND
RESTORATION HAPPENS.
AND NOT ONLY DID GOD RESTORE
YOUR MARRIAGE, TELL US WHAT
HAPPENED WITH YOUR SON.
THE DAY WE GET REMARRIED,
OUR SON COMES INTO OUR
BEDROOM AND SAYS, HEY, MOM
AND DAD, SINCE GOD PUT MY
FAMILY BACK TOGETHER, TELL
ME HOW I CAN ACCEPT CHRIST
AS MY SAVIOR.
I ALWAYS SAY NEVER, EVER
UNDERESTIMATE YOUR SINGLE
ACT OF OBEDIENCE.
BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT
THAT ONE ACT OF OBEDIENCE
WILL DO.
BECAUSE NOW HERE WE ARE WITH
A MINISTRY.
IF YOU WILL TRUST GOD, AND
YOU HUMBLE YOURSELF, HIS WAY
AND HIS WORDS, THEY WORK.
Kristi: I'M JUST ABOUT
TO STAND UP AND SHOUT
HALLELUJAH, BECAUSE YOU GUYS
GAVE ME HOPE AND I'M NOT
EVEN MARRIED.
BLES MARRIED.
GOD BLESS YOU.
THANK YOU GUYS FOR YOUR
TESTIMONY AND YOUR HOPE.
PRAISE GOD.
FOR MORE ADVICE, CHECK OUT
THEIR BOOK.
IT'S CALLED "LET'S GET
REAL."
THAT'S WHAT WE NEED TO DO.
DON'T GET ME STARTED
TALKING.
AND THERE IS A "LET'S GET
REAL" WORK BOOK, AND THIS IS
GOOD FOR MARRIAGES.
GO TO cbn.com AND YOU CAN
GET THIS, THE WORK BOOK, AND
YOU CAN GET EVERYTHING.
PRAISE GOD.
I'M DONE.
GOD BLESS YOU.
