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On Her Way Out, God Found His Way In

Dale shares about the day he packed Jena's bags, took them to driveway and how God was able step in and heal their relationship. Read Transcript


Kristi: SO HOW MUCH BAD

BLOOD WAS THERE BETWEEN DALE

AND JANET FOREHAND?

THERE WAS A LOT OF FINGER

POINTING AND VERBAL ABUSE.

IN FACT, AT ONE POINT, BOTH

OF THEM HIRED PRIVATE

INVESTIGATORS TO SPY ON THE

OTHER PERSON.

BUT CHECK THIS OUT, IT

ACTUALLY GOT WORSE.

TAKE A LOOK.

Reporter: THE MINUTE

DALE SAW GINA AT CHURCH, HE

KNEW HE HAD TO MEET HER.

THEY FELL IN LOVE, DATED FOR

FOUR YEARS, AND MARRIED IN

1988.

WE WERE DOING A LOT OF

THE THINGS WE WERE TOLD DO

TO DO.

THE PROBLEM IS YOU CAN GET

SO BUSY CHASING THAT DREAM,

YOU CAN LOSE EACH OTHER IN

THE PROCESS.

DALE AND I WERE MARRIED

FOR SEVEN AND A HALF, ALMOST

EIGHT YEARS, WHEN THERE WAS

JUST KIND OF THIS SLOW

EROSION THAT BEGAN TO TAKE

PLACE.

Reporter: ARGUING

TURNED TO YELLING, AND THE

FIGHTING ESCALATED.

THEN ONE DAY DALE PACKED

GINA'S BAGS AND KICKED HER

OUT OF THE HOUSE.

Kristi: I WAS RIVETED

BY THE STORY.

WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?

YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED

NEXT?

DALE AND GINA FOREHAND BOTH

ARE HERE WITH US TO TELL US

WHAT HAPPENED NEXT.

THANK YOU SO MUCH.

THANK YOU.

Kristi: NINE YEARS AGO,

AND YOU GUYS ARE BACK AND

STILL SMILING.

WE HAVE A LOT TO SMILE

ABOUT.

Kristi: THERE YOU GO.

WHEN I READ YOUR RESEARCH,

THE THING I THOUGHT WAS

FASCINATING, THAT SO MANY

CHRISTIAN COUPLES CAN RELATE

TO, BOTH OF YOU WERE VERY

ACTIVE IN YOUR CHURCH.

BOTH OF YOU HAD THE

CHRISTIAN HOME AND CHRISTIAN

FAMILY.

AND BY ALL ACCOUNTS, I'M

SURE EVERYBODY SAID, ISN'T

IT LOVELY.

THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER WAS,

YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN PRAISING

AT CHURCH, BUT AT HOME, YOU

GUYS WERE THROWING BOOKS AT

EACH OTHER.

TELL US ABOUT THAT TIME.

WE GOT VERY GOOD AT

WEARING THE MASK.

BUT IN THE FOUR WALLS OF OUR

HOME, OUR MARRIAGE WAS DYING

A VERY UGLY DEATH.

IT WAS EXCRUCIATING.

WE WERE NOT THE HAPPY COUPLE

INSIDE OF OUR HOME.

WE HAD GOTTEN SO GOOD AT

PLAYING THE GAME AND

PRETENDING EVERYTHING IS

OKAY.

I THINK THAT IS WHAT WE LOVE

ABOUT OUR STORY IS WE'RE

TAKING OUR MASK OFF.

WE ARE TELLING OUR STORY,

AND SAYING WE'RE LIKE SO

MANY OTHER COUPLES WHO HAVE

WALKED THROUGH THE JOURNEY,

THE HARD THING CALLED

MARRIAGE.

BUT THERE IS IS GOD'S

REDEMPTION AND HOPE AND

HEALING.

IF YOU DO THE HARD WORK, YOU

CAN HAVE A GREAT MARRIAGE.

ABSOLUTELY.

Kristi: WHY DO SO MANY

CHRISTIANS WEAR MASKS?

DO WE FEEL LIKE IF IT IS NOT

PERFECT, WE'RE NOT TRUE

CHRISTIANS?

I THINK SO.

I THINK WE HAVE TAKEN THAT

ROLE.

AS BILL AN DALE AND I

ALWAYS SAY WE HAVE EXCHANGED

SPIRITUAL INTIMACY FOR THIS

ACTIVITY THAT MAKES US LOOK

LIKE WE'RE WALKING WITH GOD

WHEN WE'RE REALLY NOT.

WHEN WE WERE KIDS, OUR MASKS

WERE THE PLASTIC ONES, AND

YOU GOT YOUR HAIR ALL CAUGHT

IN IT, AND IT STUCK TO YOU

AND IT SUFFOCATED YOU, AND

YOU ENDED UP WANTING TO TAKE

IT OFF.

I THINK THAT IN THE

CHRISTIAN WORLD TODAY, IN

THE CHURCH, WE'VE GOTTEN SO

GOOD AT HIDING BEHIND

BECAUSE WE HAVE TO PUT ON

THIS PERSONA THAT WE'RE

FINE, AND WE'RE

SUFFOCATING.

BUT TODAY YOU CAN TAKE IT

OFF AND SAY, I'M

STRUGGLING.

CAN CAN YOU HELP ME.

Kristi: I WANT TO SPEND

THE REST OF THE INTERVIEW

TALKING ABOUT HOW BECAUSE SO

MANY COUPLES, CHRISTIAN

MARRIAGES, ARE FALLING BY

THE WAY SIDE.

SURE.

Kristi: SO WHAT DID GOD

DO THAT BROUGHT YOU.

GUYS BACK

TOGETHER.

TELL US ABOUT THE HIGH.

WHEN GINA ASKED ME TO

COME BACK HOME, WE HAD SO

MUCH FEAR.

WE STOPPED BLAMING EACH

OTHER, AND LOOKING AT

OURSELVES AND THE PART WE

PLAYED IN THE BREAKUP OF OUR

MARRIAGE.

Kristi: WHAT WAS THE

CATALYST?

THAT'S THE THING.

TO FILL EVERYBODY IN, YOU

GUYS WERE LIVING IN THE SAME

HOME FOR ABOUT 15 YEARS

HATING EACH OTHER BECAUSE

THE JUDGE SAID SO, BUT THEN

YOU GUYS HAD GOTTEN A

DIVORCE.

RIGHT.

Kristi: AND BY ALL

ACCOUNTS, YOU GUYS WERE

STILL JUST AS UNHAPPY AS YOU

WERE BEFORE.

WHAT WAS IT THAT TOOK THAT

PRIDE AWAY AND SAID, I'M

WRONG.

I'M SORRY.

I THINK FOR ME, THERE WAS

JUST THIS STRIPPING.

THERE WAS THIS MOMENT WHERE

IT WAS NO LONGER POINTING

THE FINGER AT DALE BECAUSE

DALE WAS NOW OUT OF THE

PICTURE.

NOW I WAS FORCED TO GO, OH,

MY GOODNESS, I HAD A PART TO

PLAY.

THERE IS THIS PART WHERE

YOU'RE GOING, HE DID THIS

AND HE DID THAT, AND YOU

NEVER TURN IT BACK IN.

IT IS LIKE THE SCRIPTURE

WHERE DAVID SAID, SEARCH ME,

OH, GOD, KNOW MY HEART AND

SEE WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY

LIFE.

THAT KIND OF GOT TURNED BACK

ON ME.

SUDDENLY IT WAS, LIKE, OOH,

I DID HAVE A PART TO PLAY IN

THIS.

I DID HAVE A PLACE WHERE I

CAUSED SOME BREAKDOWN IN

THIS RELATIONSHIP.

THEN IT WAS, LIKE, NOW WHAT

DO I DO WITH THIS.

BIBLICALLY, I REALLY NEED TO

GO TO HIM AND POP

APOLOGIZE.

WHILE ALL OF THIS STRIPPING

WAS GOING ON IN MY LIFE, THE

SAME THING WAS GOING ON IN

DALE'S.

BUT WE WERE APART, SO WE

DIDN'T KNOW IT.

A SITUATION BETWEEN OUR

CHILDREN CAUSED ME TO HAVE

TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIM.

IN THAT CONVERSATION, IT IS

LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT SENT

THIS OUT THROUGH ME.

I JUST SAID, WHAT IN THE

WORLD HAVE WE DONE?

CAN WE JUST -- CAN YOU JUST

COME HOME AND LET'S TRY TOP

PUT IT BACK TOGETHER.

EVEN AFTER I SAID THAT, I

WAS, LIKE, I DON'T EVEN KNOW

IF I WANT TO DO THAT BECAUSE

IT IS SCARY AND IT IS HARD

AND RISKY.

BUT WHEN GOD IS IN THE

MIDDLE OF IT, GREAT THINGS

HAPPEN.

IT WAS HAPPENING TO DALE,

THE STRIPPING, AND IT WAS

LIKE GOD PREPARED US BOTH

FOR THAT PERFECT TIME.

Kristi: WHAT I HEAR IS

YOU BOTH HUMBLED YOURSELF.

ABSOLUTELY.

Kristi: I INTERVIEWED

SOMEBODY WHO SAID THE KEY TO

BROKEN MARRIAGES IS NOT

MONEY, LACK OF SEX -- IT IS

SELFISHNESS.

AND YOU SAY I'M SORRY, AND

YOUR FOCUS IS LONGER HER AND

HIM, AND IT'S YOU, LORD, AND

RESTORATION HAPPENS.

AND NOT ONLY DID GOD RESTORE

YOUR MARRIAGE, TELL US WHAT

HAPPENED WITH YOUR SON.

THE DAY WE GET REMARRIED,

OUR SON COMES INTO OUR

BEDROOM AND SAYS, HEY, MOM

AND DAD, SINCE GOD PUT MY

FAMILY BACK TOGETHER, TELL

ME HOW I CAN ACCEPT CHRIST

AS MY SAVIOR.

I ALWAYS SAY NEVER, EVER

UNDERESTIMATE YOUR SINGLE

ACT OF OBEDIENCE.

BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT

THAT ONE ACT OF OBEDIENCE

WILL DO.

BECAUSE NOW HERE WE ARE WITH

A MINISTRY.

IF YOU WILL TRUST GOD, AND

YOU HUMBLE YOURSELF, HIS WAY

AND HIS WORDS, THEY WORK.

Kristi: I'M JUST ABOUT

TO STAND UP AND SHOUT

HALLELUJAH, BECAUSE YOU GUYS

GAVE ME HOPE AND I'M NOT

EVEN MARRIED.

BLES MARRIED.

GOD BLESS YOU.

THANK YOU GUYS FOR YOUR

TESTIMONY AND YOUR HOPE.

PRAISE GOD.

FOR MORE ADVICE, CHECK OUT

THEIR BOOK.

IT'S CALLED "LET'S GET

REAL."

THAT'S WHAT WE NEED TO DO.

DON'T GET ME STARTED

TALKING.

AND THERE IS A "LET'S GET

REAL" WORK BOOK, AND THIS IS

GOOD FOR MARRIAGES.

GO TO cbn.com AND YOU CAN

GET THIS, THE WORK BOOK, AND

YOU CAN GET EVERYTHING.

PRAISE GOD.

I'M DONE.

GOD BLESS YOU.

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