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700 Club Canada: May 9, 2013

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HELLO, I'M BRIAN WARREN. AND I'M LAURA-LYNN TYLERTHOMPSON. WELCOME TO THE SHOW. LAURA-LYNN, DO YOU REMEMBER

THE LAST TIME THAT YOU BENT THETRUTH A LITTLE? DO YOU KNOW WHAT I'VE NOTICE,BRIAN?

HEH, HEH, HEH, NO, I DON'T. IS THAT YOU ASK THE REALLYTOUGH QUESTIONS. I HAVE TODIVULGE MY ENTIRE BAGGAGE.

AND EVERYONE LOVES IT. AND YOU SIMPLY MOVE ON... YOU DO IT SO WELL. &TO THE NEXT SEGMENT OF THE

SHOW. YOU DO SO WELL WITH& SO I THINK THERE SHOULD BEMORE BALANCE.

&THEM. DO YOU? I DO, BRIAN. AND I WASWONDERING& YEAH? IS THIS THE TIME FOR

THAT, THOUGH? WHEN IS& OR IS THIS BECAUSE OF THE& &LAST TIME&

&QUESTION THAT YOU'REGETTING? &YOU'VE LIED, YOU KNOW?GO AHEAD, TAKE IT AWAY.

WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT? I CAN'TREMEMBER. AND& THAT WAS IT. &INTEGRITY IS THE GIFT THAT

ALLOWS A MAN TO HAVE A GOODMEMORY. IF YOU DON'T LIE, YOUDON'T HAVE TO COVER IT UP ORREMEMBER IT.

IT'S TRUE. NOW, BACK TO YOU. OKAY. MY TURN. YOU NOTICE, WHEN HER NOSE

DOES THIS, YOU THAT IT'S AWHOPPER COMING. WHEN MY NOSE GROWS, THAT'SWHEN YOU KNOW THAT I'M LYING.

ALL RIGHT. YEAH. THIS ENTIRE WEEK, WE'VE BEENFOCUSING ON RELATIONSHIPS. AND

WHEN IT COMES TO SECRETS, WELL,THAT'S JUST A NO-FLY ZONE,WHICH YOU'VE NOTICED. YES, YOU'RE FUN, BRIAN. ON

TODAY'S SHOW, YOU'LL SEE HOWDAMAGING SECRETS CAN BE TO ARELATIONSHIP. BUT WE'LL COUNTERTHAT WITH A LOOK AT WHAT

HAPPENS WHEN RELATIONSHIPS AREBUILT ON TRUST. MM-HMM. IN OUR FEATURE STORYYOU'LL SEE WHAT HAPPENED WHEN

YEARS OF AFFAIRS AND ADDICTIONCAUGHT UP WITH TIM ALLEN.HE'LL EXPLAIN WHY HE COULDN'TSTOP THE LIES, EVEN AFTER HIS

WIFE FOUND OUT. HM. AND GRAB YOUR PENS ANDPENCILS, AS I'LL BE SITTINGDOWN WITH RELATIONSHIP EXPERT

JOANNE LEACH TO DISCUSS A FEWSECRETS TO STRONG, LONG-LASTINGRELATIONSHIPS.MM-HMM.

BUT FIRST, WHEN AMY ALLENWENT LOOKING FOR FILES IN HERHUSBAND'S COMPUTER, SHE FOUNDA LOT MORE THAN SHE WANTED.

WOW. WHEN AMY ALLEN WENT SNOOPINGTHROUGH HER HUSBAND TIM'SOFFICE FILES, WHAT SHE FOUND

BROKE HER HEART. AND YOU'RE GETTING PAGES OFDIFFERENT PROSTITUTES, THEIRNAMES, ALL THEIR STATS, AND HOW

TO GET AHOLD OF THEM, AND THENSOME OF THEM, HE HAD WRITTEN,LIKE, WHAT HE HAD DONE WITHSOME OF THEM. AND THAT WAS

CRUSHING. I SAID, "I'M OUT OFHERE. I CAN'T DEAL WITH THISANY MORE." WHAT I CAME BACK TO WAS AN

EMPTY HOUSE WITH HER WEDDINGRING SITTING ON THE MANTLE ATTHE HOUSE, AND REALIZED THATIT'S OVER.

TIM'S SECRET SEX ADDICTIONHAD FINALLY COME TO LIGHT. ANDHIS MARRIAGE TO AMY WAS OVER.IT ALL STARTED IN HIS

CHILDHOOD. PORNOGRAPHY HAD BEEN IN MYLIFE SINCE I WAS ABOUT NINE,PROBABLY EVEN BEFORE THAT.

PLAYBOY, MY GRANDPARENTS, MYGRANDFATHER HAD IT. AND ILOOKED FOR IT ALL THE TIME WHENI WAS DOWN THERE.

TIM'S ADDICTION TO PORN ONLYINCREASED AS HE GOT OLDER.UNFORTUNATELY, AFTER HE MARRIEDAMY, HE BEGAN PLAYING OUT HIS

FANTASIES WITH OTHER WOMEN. THAT PORNOGRAPHY STUFF INMAGAZINES IS NOT ENOUGH ANYMORE. THAT WAS ACTUALLY

SOMETHING DIFFERENT ANDINTERESTING. I WANT MORE OFTHAT. AT HOME, AMY KNEW SOMETHING

WAS WRONG IN THEIRRELATIONSHIP, BUT COULDN'TQUITE FIGURE IT OUT. IT JUST DIDN'T FEEL LIKE, HE

DIDN'T EVEN WANT TO BE WITH ME.AND I FELT LIKE HIS BALL ANDCHAIN AT TIMES.AS THE INTERNET GREW IN

POPULARITY, TIM'S LUST FOROUTSIDE SEX GREW OUT OFCONTROL. TIM DEVELOPED ANONGOING RELATIONSHIP WITH A

WOMAN THAT HE MET ON THE WEB.AMY FOUND OUT WHEN SHEDISCOVERED CONDOMS IN A BAGTHEY BOTH SHARED.

I CONFRONTED HIM, AND ISCREAMED AT HIM. AND I WASYELLING, AND SCREAMINGOBSCENITIES, AND SAYING, "WHY

ARE YOU DOING THIS TO US?WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?" IPACKED SOME BAGS AND TOOK ITDOWN TO HIS OFFICE THAT DAY,

AND PUT THEM IN HIS TRUCK. I'M ABOUT READY TO THROWAWAY EVERYTHING SINCE WE'VEMET, EVERYTHING THAT I'VE

WORKED FOR, FOR AN AFFAIR THATI'VE HAD WITH THIS YOUNG WOMANWHO I DON'T EVEN REALLY LIKE.BUT IT WAS SEX, AND THAT STILL

HAD ITS TENTACLES ON ME. EVENTUALLY, AMY AND TIMTRIED TO SALVAGE THEIR MARRIAGEAND TIM MOVED BACK HOME. THEY

STARTED GOING TO CHURCH. BUTTIM'S MIND WAS ELSEWHERE. HESTILL CRAVED SEX. YOU GET ON THE INTERNET, AND

YOU SEE ESCORTS, ANDPROSTITUTES, AND WHATEVER YOUWANT TO CALL THEM, OFFERINGWHAT I WANTED FOR MONEY, AND NO

STRINGS ATTACHED. TIM CRUISED THE CITYSTREETS, MASSAGE PARLORS, ANDTHE INTERNET TO SET UP

RENDEZVOUS WITH PROSTITUTES.THAT'S WHEN AMY FOUND HIS FILESIN THEIR HOME OFFICE. SOME OF THE STUFF SHE WAS

READING WAS, YOU KNOW,HORRIBLE. BUT I HAD PUT ITDOWN, AND SHE HAD FOUND IT,AND PACKED EVERYTHING UP AND

LEFT. AMY MOVED BACK HOME WITHHER MOM. SHE STARTED ATTENDINGCHURCH, AND ACCEPTED CHRIST AS

HER SAVIOR. GOD WAS HELPING ME TO SEEHIM THROUGH HIS EYES, AND THATWE'RE ALL SINNERS.

TIM WAS AT HIS LOWEST POINT.HIS MARRIAGE WAS OVER, AND HISLIFE WAS AT A CROSSROADS. HESTARTED READING CHRISTIAN BOOKS

ON SEXUAL ADDICTION.YOU KNOW, I WAS RAISED IN THECHURCH. I MEAN, WHAT DOES THISHAVE TO TELL ME ABOUT MYSELF?

I KNEW THERE WAS PROBABLYSOMETHING WRONG, BECAUSE ONEHALF OF MY LIFE HAS JUST COMECRASHING DOWN ON THE FOUNDATION

I THOUGHT I HAD. THEN, ON THEIR EIGHTHWEDDING ANNIVERSARY, AMY GAVETIM A CALL.

WE HAD BOTH FILED FORDIVORCE. HE FILED IN MARYLAND,AND I FILED IN SAN DIEGO. ANDSO THERE WAS NOTHING TO LOSE.

SO WE WERE VERY, VERY OPEN ANDHONEST WITH EACH OTHER IN OURFEELINGS, OUR TRUE FEELINGS. SHE STARTED TALKING TO ME

ABOUT STILL LOVING ME, WHICHHURT. I DIDN'T WANT TO HEARTHAT. BUT AT THE SAME TIME, ITWAS IMPACTING ME. YOU KNOW,

"HOW CAN SHE STILL LOVE ME?"THAT WAS PART OF WHAT I WASASKING MYSELF AT THE TIME. SHEALSO READ SOME SCRIPTURE TO ME

ABOUT, YOU KNOW, SIN IS SIN. TIM COULDN'T GET AMY'S WORDSOUT OF HIS MIND. HE FINALLYCRIED OUT TO GOD FOR HELP.

AND I JUST KEPT READING ALLSTUFF, AND ALL, YOU KNOW, WHOHE WAS, AND WHAT HE DID. JESUSIS WHO HE SAYS HE IS. AND I

BROKE DOWN IN THE BASEMENT OF AHOUSE IN MARYLAND, AND JUST,"IF YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE, YOUHAVE TO HELP ME. IF YOU'RE GOD,

IF YOU ARE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE,HELP." TIM FOUND A CHURCH AND METWITH THE PASTOR.

AND OPENED UP TO HIM ABOUTIT, AND JUST FELT, I KNEW THATI COULD TRUST HIM, AND HE WOULDBE OPEN, AND, YOU KNOW, WOULD

PRAY AND WOULD SUPPORT IN ANYWAY HE POSSIBLY COULD. AMY AND TIM BEGAN TO TALK.AS THEY GREW IN THEIR FAITH,

THEY DECIDED TO MEET. I GAVE HER HER RING BACKAND TOLD HER THAT I WAS SORRY,AND TOLD HER THAT, YOU KNOW,

THE THINGS THAT I HAD DONE,THEY'RE UNFORGIVABLE. BUT I'MFOLLOWING JESUS. I WAS AFRAID, BECAUSE I

DIDN'T WANT IT TO HAPPEN AGAIN.GOD'S VOICE WAS STRONGER TO METHAN ANYONE ELSE'S, BECAUSE MYPARENTS SAID, "DON'T GO BACK

WITH HIM." HIS PARENTS SAID,"DON'T GO BACK WITH HIM." BUT IKNEW WHAT GOD WAS TELLING ME.AND I LISTENED TO HIS VOICE,

AND I'M GLAD I DID. THEIR LOVE FOR EACH OTHERHAS GROWN. AND TIM AND AMY NOWHAVE TWO DAUGHTERS.

THE GROWING THAT WE AREAND THE INTIMACY THAT WE ARENOW SHARING, AND WHERE THE LORDIS CONTINUING TO BRING US BACK

IS SOMETHING I NEVERUNDERSTOOD. AND IT IS AWONDERFUL THING. IT TAKES TIME. AND IT TAKES

FORGIVENESS, OVER AND OVER.AND IT TAKES AGAPE LOVE, HISKIND OF LOVE, FOR EACH OTHER. IT'S SOMETHING ONLY HE CAN

DO. I MEAN, WE ARE TOGETHERBECAUSE OF JESUS.WELL, LYNN, WHEN YOU LOOK ATTHAT, IT'S VERY SOBERING. AND

I'M SURE THAT SOMEONE'S BEINGIMPACTED BY WHAT THEY JUST SAW. ABSOLUTELY. YOU KNOW, THEREARE MARRIAGES ACROSS THIS

COUNTRY THAT ARE IN TROUBLE.BUT GOD IS A REDEEMER. AND HECAN STEP INTO YOUR SITUATIONAND MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE.

YOU KNOW, THE ALLENS ARE MORETHAN CONQUERORS. AND THAT'SWHAT WE BELIEVE HERE AT THE 700CLUB CANADA. THEIR HOPE CAME

THROUGH JESUS, AND THAT'S WHYWE'RE HERE TODAY. THE 700 CLUBCANADA'S MISSION IS TO LETEVERYONE KNOW THAT GOD LOVES

THEM. AND HE WILL BE THEIRHOPE, TOO. WE TAKE THISSERIOUSLY, AND WE INVESTRESOURCES AND FINANCES INTO

BRINGING YOU THIS MESSAGE EVERYSINGLE DAY. THE TRUTH IS THATWE CANNOT DO IT WITHOUT YOU. WENEED PARTNERS. IF YOU ARE

SOMEONE WHO CAN SAY, "I SEEWHAT YOU'RE DOING AND THEIMPACT THAT YOU'RE HAVING. ANDI AM GOING TO JOIN MY SUPPORT

TO YOURS SO THAT THE NAME OFJESUS WILL CHANGE CANADA."HONESTLY, THIS CANNOT HAPPENWITHOUT YOU BEING INVOLVED. IF

YOU KNOW THAT GOD'S POWERCHANGES LIVES, THEN PLEASE HELPUS TO CONTINUE TO TELL PEOPLEABOUT HIM. INVEST WITH US. LINK

ARMS WITH US. WE ARE BRINGINGTHE POWER OF THE CROSS INTOPEOPLE'S LIVING ROOMS. SOME OFTHEM MIGHT NEVER GRACE THE

STEPS OF A CHURCH. BUT JUST BYTURNING ON THEIR TELEVISION,THEY'LL HEAR ABOUT JESUS. YOUHELPED MAKE THAT HAPPEN. AND WE

DEARLY APPRECIATE YOUR HEART.CALL US RIGHT NOW. PLEASE CALL. YOU KNOW, ITWOULD BE SUCH A ENCOURAGEMENT,

BECAUSE WE CAN'T DO THIS ALONE.IT TAKES TEAMWORK TO MAKE THEDREAM WORK. AND GOD IS MOVINGIN CANADA. YOU KNOW, THE

ALLENS, WHEN YOU LOOK AT THEIRTESTIMONIES, NOT SO UNFAMILIARWITH THOSE THAT ARE INVANCOUVER, ALBERTA. THOSE THAT

ARE IN THE NORTHWESTTERRITORIES, QUEBEC, AND ALSOIN ATLANTIC CANADA WATCHING USRIGHT NOW, IT'S SPIRITUAL

WARFARE. YOU KNOW, TIM COULDN'TSTOP HIMSELF, EVEN WHEN HE WASCAUGHT. THE PROSTITUTES, ASWELL AS PORNOGRAPHY, AND IT

STARTED AT EIGHT YEARS OLD.THIS IS WHAT'S HAPPENING IN OURCOUNTRY. IT GOES AFTER US WHENWE'RE YOUNG, AND THEN IT GOES

TO JUST DETERIORATE YOU ALL THEREST OF YOUR LIFE. TODAY YOUCAN BE FREE. YOU CAN BE FREE,IT DOESN'T MATTER IF IT'S YOUR

HUSBAND, OR IT DOESN'T MATTERIF YOU ARE THE PERSON THAT ISENGAGED IN THAT, I BELIEVE WHATGOD SAYS. AND WATCH THIS,

FIRST PETER 5:5, "GOD OPPOSESTHE PROUD," THE ONE THAT SAYS,"I DON'T NEED HELP. I CANHANDLE THIS ON MY OWN." BUT HE

GIVES GRACE TO THE HUMBLE.WHEN YOU HUMBLE YOURSELF BEFOREGOD, YOU CAN STAND BEFOREKINGS. LET'S DO SOME BUSINESS

WITH GOD. IT'S A SIMPLE PRAYER.THE BIBLE SAID, "IF YOU WILLBELIEVE IN YOUR HEART THATJESUS IS LORD, AND CONFESS WITH

YOUR MOUTH," IT SAYS, "YOUSHALL BE SAVED." "FOR IT'S WITHTHE HEART ONE BELIEVES UNTORIGHTEOUSNESS, IN THE MOUTH ONE

CONFESSES." IT'S THAT SIMPLE.IT STARTS IN AN INSTANT, BUT ITTAKES PLACE OVER TIME. PRAYTHIS PRAYER WITH ME, "JESUS, I

COME TO YOU. THANK YOU FORDYING ON THE CROSS FOR MY SINS.WOULD YOU COME INTO MY LIFE? IGIVE YOU MY PERSONAL PERMISSION

FOR YOUR HEAVENLY INTERVENTION.MAKE ME WHAT YOU WANT ME TO BE.IN JESUS' NAME I PRAY, AMEN. AMEN. IF YOU JUST PRAYED

THAT WITH BRIAN, WOULD YOU GIVEUS A CALL RIGHT NOW? 1-855-7590-700, PRAYER PARTNERS ARESTANDING BY. THEY WOULD LOVE TO

PRAY WITH YOU. IT'S A GREAT DAY. DADDY? YEAH, BUDDY?

HOW MANY NICKELS ARE IN ADOLLAR?THERE ARE 20 NICKELS IN ADOLLAR.

LOOK! HOW DO BIRDS FLY?DOES MILK REALLY MAKE MY BONESSTRONGER? YEAH, YEAH.

DADDY, WHEN WE DIE, WILL WEGO TO HEAVEN? DO YOU HAVE THE ANSWER TOLIFE'S BIGGEST QUESTION? CALL

THE 700 CLUB. WE'LL HELP YOUFIND ANSWERS TO THE IMPORTANTQUESTIONS LIFE BRINGS YOUR WAY.MUSIC

IF YOU WERE WATCHINGTUESDAY, YOU GOT A CHANCE TOMEET JOANNE LEACH, A WONDERFULPASTOR'S WIFE, AND A MARRIAGE

EXPERT. NOW, IF YOU MISSED HERON TUESDAY, TODAY IS YOUR LUCKYDAY, BECAUSE SHE'S BACK FORMORE WITH LAURA-LYNN.

MUSIC JOANNE, IT IS JUST SUCH ANHONOR TO HAVE YOU ON TODAY,FOR THE SECOND TIME THIS WEEK,

TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.HOW HAVE YOU BECOME A WIFE THATHONORS AND TRULY RESPECTS HERHUSBAND?

THAT'S INTERESTING, BECAUSEYOU DO HAVE TO SEPARATE WORKFROM HOME. YOU CAN'T CARRY ALLTHE PROBLEMS OF EVERYONE

YOU'VE TALKED TO AND CARRY ITINTO YOUR HOME. AND MY CHILDRENARE LEARNING THAT, NOW THATTHEY'RE MARRIED AND IN MINISTRY

ALSO. BUT YOU KNOW, ONE THINGI'VE SAID OVER THE YEARS OVERAND OVER AGAIN, THAT I THINKHELPS IN THIS AREA OF HONORING,

I'VE ALWAYS SAID, "WE NEED TOTREAT OUR FAMILY LIKE COMPANY,AND TREAT COMPANY LIKE FAMILY."AND WHAT I MEAN BY THAT IS, IN

SO MANY HOMES, THE PEOPLE THATARE TREATED THE WORST ARE THEMEMBERS OF THE HOUSEHOLD. YOUDON'T HEAR "PLEASE," OR "THANK

YOU," OR "YOU'RE WELCOME," OREVEN SOMETHING SIMPLE WHEREYOU'RE GOING TO GET YOURSELF ACOFFEE, OR A BEVERAGE, OR A

SNACK, YOU WOULDN'T DREAM OFDOING THAT WITH COMPANY WITHOUTOFFERING THEM SOMETHING. ANDYET I SEE HUSBANDS AND WIVES

DO THAT ALL THE TIME. SO ITHINK A SIMPLE PRINCIPLE LIKETHAT, TRYING TO TREAT THOSEUNDER YOUR HOUSEHOLD AS YOU

WOULD GUESTS, I THINK SHOWS ALOT OF HONOR, AND GOES A LONGWAY IN HAVING A PEACEFULATMOSPHERE IN YOUR HOME, HAVING

AN ATMOSPHERE OF HONOR ANDRESPECT. THAT IS SO GOOD. I MEAN, YOUARE TALKING ABOUT BEING

INTENTIONAL ABOUT BUILDING UPEACH MEMBER OF YOUR FAMILY. ANDTHAT COULD BE YOUR SEVENTEEN-YEAR-OLD SON, WHO CAN BE AN

ANNOYANCE TO YOU, BECAUSE HEHASN'T CLEANED HIS ROOM, ANDHE'S LEAVING HIS STUFF, YOUKNOW, AND HIS GEAR FROM HIS

SPORTS EQUIPMENT EVERYWHERE.AND YOU'RE TALKING ABOUTINTENTIONALLY RESPECTING THOSETHAT ARE IN THE FAMILY. AND

THAT MEANS PUTTING THOUGHT, ANDEFFORT, AND CARE INTO IT. IT DOES. AND THE WORDS YOUSPEAK ARE SO IMPORTANT. YOU

KNOW, SOME, IN THIS DAY ANDAGE, I'M SURE YOU'VE SEEN IT,THESE SITCOMS ON TV, THE WAYTHEY MAKE FAMILIES LOOK, THE

WAY THEY MAKE HUSBANDS ANDFATHERS LOOK, IT'S SUCH ATERRIBLE EXAMPLE AND ROLE MODELFOR OUR CHILDREN. AND I THINK

AS PARENTS, WE NEED TO TURNTHAT AROUND, AND MAKE SURE THATTHE LANGUAGE THAT'S USED IN OURHOUSE, THE WAY WE TREAT ONE

ANOTHER, THE WAY WE HONOR ONEANOTHER, IT REALLY DOES STARTAT HOME. AND AS YOU SAID, ITHINK IT'S SOMETHING YOU HAVE

TO BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT. IOVER THE YEARS, THE LONGERPEOPLE ARE MARRIED, IT'S VERYEASY TO PUT YOUR WORST FOOT

FORWARD AT HOME, AND EVERYONEELSE GETS YOUR BEST. AND ITHINK WE NEED TO TURN THATAROUND, AND REALLY PUT OUR BEST

FOOT FORWARD AT HOME, AND BEMINDFUL OF THAT. THAT IS PHENOMENAL ADVICE,JOANNE. AT WHAT POINT IN YOUR

MARRIAGE DID YOU, DID YOU EVERHAVE A TIME WHEN YOU WENT, "YOUKNOW WHAT? I'VE GOT TO CHANGETHIS UP A LITTLE BIT. I'VE GOT

MY KIDS WATCHING ME, AND, IMEAN, I'M SURE YOU'VE GONETHROUGH TIMES OF STRESS. AND IKNOW THAT BOB AND YOURSELF HAVE

AN INCREDIBLE RELATIONSHIP, BUTYOU CAME FROM A BACKGROUND WITHAN ALCOHOLIC FATHER, AND A LOTOF BAGGAGE THAT YOU HAD TO

BRING IN AND WORK THROUGH. SOWHAT WERE THE STEPS THAT YOUTOOK TO BE INTENTIONAL? I FOUND IT WAS A PROCESS

OVER THE YEARS. AND AS I GREWIN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, ASYOU KNOW, IT'S ONLY THE LORDTHAT CAN SHOW YOU. YOU CAN HAVE

A SPOUSE SAY, "LAURA-LYNN, YOUNEED TO CHANGE THIS. YOU'RE TOOMUCH LIKE THAT." BUT WHEN THEHOLY SPIRIT SHOWS YOU, IN MY

CASE, CONTROL WOULD HAVE BEENAN ISSUE. AND EXPERTS SAY THATADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICSARE VERY CONTROLLING, BECAUSE

WE'VE HAD SUCH A OUT-OF-CONTROLUPBRINGING, THAT ONE OF THECOMMON TRAITS IS, WE'RE VERYCONTROLLING. SO THAT'S PROBABLY

THE BIGGEST THING I HAD TO DEALWITH OVER THE YEARS. MY MOTHERWAS VERY CONTROLLING. MY FATHERUSED TO CALL HER "THE SERGEANT-

MAJOR." AND I'VE HAD TO MAKE ACONSCIOUS EFFORT. I HAVE TOBACK OFF. I DON'T NEED TO BE INCONTROL. AND I'VE FOUND OVER

AND OVER, AS I ASK THE LORD,"GOD, WHAT DO I NEED TOCHANGE?" AND, YOU KNOW, HESPEAKS IN A SMALL, QUIET VOICE.

AND HE'LL POINT OUT, "YOU'RETOO MUCH LIKE THIS. YOU'RE TOOMUCH LIKE THAT. AND I FIND THATHAS GONE A LONG WAY. AND IT'S A

PROCESS. I STILL, OBVIOUSLY,HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO. BUT SOMEOF THE BIG THINGS I DEFINITELYDEALT WITH OVER THE YEARS,

CONTROL WOULD BE ONE. HONORINGAND RESPECTFUL TO MY HUSBANDWOULD BE ANOTHER. LETTING HIMLEAD WOULD BE ANOTHER. AND I

JUST FOUND, OVER THE YEARS, ASI'VE LEARNED TO KIND OF JUSTSUBMIT THAT TO THE LORD, ANDTAKE A BACK SEAT, THAT IT MAKES

FOR A LOT MORE HARMONY IN YOURHOME, THAT'S FOR SURE. LET'S TALK ABOUT WHAT YOUJUST SAID, "LETTING HIM LEAD."

THAT CAN BE TOUGH FOR WOMEN,RIGHT? BECAUSE IF WE HAVECONTROL ISSUES, IF WE COME FROMA PLACE WHERE, YOU KNOW, WE HAD

TO SURVIVE OUR FAMILY OFORIGIN, WE'RE READY TO CONQUERTHE WORLD, AND NOW WE'RE IN AMARRIAGE WHERE THE WORD OF GOD

ASKS US TO SUBMIT, AND TOSUBMIT TO ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE.AND SO YOU FOUND TO BE A REALCHALLENGE?

YEAH. THAT PROBABLY WAS THEBIGGEST CHALLENGE, HAVING TOLEARN TO SUBMIT. I FIND WHENYOU TAKE, ESPECIALLY IN A

CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE, YOU'REULTIMATELY SUBMITTING TO GOD,ULTIMATELY, WHEN YOU CAN SAY,"I TRUST THAT, LET'S SAY WE'RE

DEALING WITH A LARGE FINANCIALPURCHASE. WE WOULD ALWAYSAGREE. EVERYTHING MAJOR WE DIDOVER THE YEARS, WE WOULD ALWAYS

AGREE. BUT IF THERE WAS A TIMEWHEN MAYBE I WOULD HAVE DONEIT DIFFERENTLY, I WOULD SAY,"GOD, I TRUST YOU. YOU'RE

WORKING THROUGH MY HUSBAND, ANDHE'S WISE, HE'S NEVER MADEFOOLISH ERRORS, LET'S SAY, INTHIS CERTAIN AREA." YOU'RE

ULTIMATELY TRUSTING GOD WHENLEARN TO SUBMIT IN A PROPER,BIBLICAL WAY, AS YOU KNOW, NOTBEING UNDER SOMEONE'S THUMB,

BUT SUBMITTING, AND LETTING HIMLEAD THE FAMILY. I HAD A GIRLFRIEND RECENTLYTHAT WAS ON THE PHONE, AND SHE

WAS GOING THROUGH A DIFFICULTTHING. AND SHE SAID, "YOU KNOW,I THINK I COULD BE MORESUBMISSIVE IF HE WAS RIGHT MORE

OFTEN." AND SHE FELT THAT HEJUST DOESN'T MAKE VERY GOODDECISIONS. SO WHAT DO YOU SAYTO THAT WOMAN WHO'S SAYING, "I

HAVE A HARD TIME. I DON'TREALLY TRUST HIM?" YOU KNOW, HEHAS MADE SOME ERRORS. YEAH. I WOULD SAY THAT THE

RIGHT WAY AND THE WRONG WAY TODISAGREE. AND THE WRONG WAYWOULD BE TO, YOU KNOW, RIGHT INYOUR FACE. "I THINK YOU'RE

MAKING A MISTAKE. I DON'T THINKWE SHOULD DO THAT." I TALK TOWOMEN REGULARLY, AND I SAY,"SOMETIMES IF YOU WOULD JUST

REPHRASE THINGS, INSTEAD OFSAYING TO YOUR HUSBAND, "NO,YOU'RE NOT BUYING THATMOTORCYCLE," YOU KNOW, TO

REPHRASE THINGS. "DO YOU THINKWE COULD SIT DOWN, HONEY, ANDLOOK OVER OUR FINANCES, BECAUSEI'M WONDERING IF THAT PURCHASE

IS THE BEST THING FOR US ATTHIS TIME?" JUST SOFTENING THEWAY YOU TALK, THE WAY YOUAPPROACH SOMETHING. ASKING A

QUESTION MORE THAN JUST KINDOF BEING IN YOUR FACE. I THINKIT MAKES A HUGE, HUGEDIFFERENCE. IF IT WAS REALLY

BAD, IF THE WOMAN SAID, "WELL,HE'S RIGHT OUT OF CONTROL,"THEN I WOULD SUGGEST YOU NEEDTO GO FOR COUNSEL, GO TO A

TRUSTED CHRISTIAN FRIEND, APASTOR, OR A SMALL GROUPLEADER, SOMEONE WHERE YOU CANSIT DOWN AS A COUPLE AND GET

THAT OUTSIDE INPUT. AND RECENTLY, ANOTHER FRIENDOF MINE, HER HUSBAND MADE QUITEAN ERROR, WHICH ACTUALLY COST

THEM A SUBSTANTIAL AMOUNT OFMONEY. HE MADE QUITE AN ERROR.AND HER TEMPTATION WAS, "THAT'SIT, THE REST OF MY LIFE I'M NOT

LISTENING TO HIM. HE'S MADE AMISTAKE." AND I SAID, "YOUKNOW WHAT? THAT IS SUCH ATERROR OF THE ENEMY, TO DESTROY

YOUR TRUST IN HIM, WHEN, WHATABOUT IF, THE REST OF YOURLIFE, HE NEVER MAKES A MISTAKELIKE THAT AGAIN?" BECAUSE YOU

CAN ALWAYS SAY, "AH, REMEMBERTHAT INCIDENT?" REMEMBER THAT,AND YOU CAN REMEMBER ITTOGETHER. AND WHAT IF MISTAKES

ACTUALLY BUILD THE CHARACTER,AND BUILD YOUR HUSBAND INTOBEING, YOU KNOW, AS IT DOESWITH US, MAKES US BETTER?

AND THEY DO, THEY CERTAINLYDO. I THINK BACK TO SOMEMISTAKES& THEY LEARN.

&FINANCIAL AND OTHER WAYS,EARLY IN OUR MARRIAGE, THAT WEMADE AND LEARNED FROM. ANDCHANCES ARE, THIS HUSBAND,

WITHOUT HER HAVING TOCONTINUALLY BRING IT UP,CHANCES ARE, HE'S SUFFERING,AND HE'S FEELING BAD. AND IF

SHE'LL LET HIM, THAT'S A GOODWAY TO LEARN. YOU CAN LEARN BYDOING IT RIGHT, OR YOU CANLEARN BY DOING IT WRONG. AND

HOPEFULLY, HE HAD LEARNED BYDOING IT WRONG. BUT I KNOW SHEWILL HAVE A CHALLENGE TRUSTINGHIM AGAIN, ESPECIALLY IN THAT

AREA. WELL, THAT'S BEEN FABULOUSADVICE, JOANNE. THANK YOU SOMUCH.

THANKS FOR HAVING ME.I APPRECIATE IT. UP NEXT, WEHAVE PART FOUR OF OUR SERIES,"MARRIAGE ON THE ROCKS." THIS

IS PHILLIP AND HOLLY WAGNER.MUSIC ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANTTHINGS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP IS

HONOR, ESPECIALLY IN MARRIAGE.AND HONOR BRINGS YOU TOGETHERAND BRINGS TRUST. I REALLYBELIEVE THAT BEHIND EVERY

MARRIAGE PROBLEM THERE'S ANHONOR PROBLEM. ABSOLUTELY. WHETHER YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT

FINANCIAL DISAGREEMENTS, ORRELATIONSHIP, YOU KNOW,IN-LAWS, OR YOUR SEX LIFE,SOMEBODY IS NOT FEELING HONORED

OR SOMEONE IS DISHONORING. AND WHEN SOMEONE DOESN'TFEEL HONORED, THEN THEY GETDEFENSIVE, OR ATTACKING.

YEAH, NO ONE IS DRAWN TO ADISHONORING ENVIRONMENT, ORRELATIONSHIP. AND SOMETIMESIT'S SO MUCH EASIER FOR US TO

HONOR STRANGERS, OR, YOU KNOW,OH, LET THEM WALK BEFORE US,YOU KNOW, BUT WE START TO TAKEEACH OTHER FOR GRANTED IN A

MARRIAGE. YEAH. WE DID. YEAH, YEAH. AND A FEW YEARSAGO I GOT TO MEET MICHAEL

JORDAN. HE LOVED THIS DAY.IT WAS INCREDIBLE BECAUSE HEWAS IN L.A. TAPING THIS MOVIE

CALLED SPACE JAM. AND SOSOMEONE IN OUR CHURCH GOT ME TOBE ABLE TO GO DOWN AND WATCH,AND THEY HAD A PRACTICE

BASKETBALL GAME. BUT ANYWAY, IGOT TO GO UP AND MEET HIM, ANDIT WAS GREAT. "PHILLIP,MICHAEL, MICHAEL, PHILLIP." I

SHOOK HIS HAND. I WAS SOEXCITED. I THOUGHT, "MAN, I MAYNOT EVEN WASH THIS HAND FOR ALONG TIME."

YES. HE WENT WEIRD. AND SO I WANTED TO TELLEVERYBODY AND SAY, "GUESS WHAT?I MET MICHAEL JORDAN." BUT, YOU

KNOW, AFTER ALL THIS TIME, HENEVER CALLS, HE DOESN'T TEXTME, NOTHING. I NEVER HEAR FROMMICHAEL.

SHOCKING. AND SO I WAS SO HONORED TOMEET HIM AND CONNECT WITH HIM.WE HAVE NO RELATIONSHIP. BUT

SOMETIMES IT WAS HARDER FOR METO HONOR THE PERSON I WANT TOLIVE THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH.AND SO I DIDN'T TAKE THE EFFORT

OR MAKE THE TIME TO HONOR YOU.AND I BELIEVE BRINGING HONORINTO THE HOME MAKES ANENVIRONMENT WHERE THERE'S TRUST

AND FAITH THERE. BECAUSE SOMETIMES WHEN WEWOULD HAVE GUESTS OVER, ANDTHEY MIGHT SPILL SOMETHING, OR

DROP SOMETHING, I WOULD SAY,"OH, NO PROBLEM, I'LL GET IT.NO BIG DEAL." SHOW HONOR TOTHEM.

BUT WHAT ABOUT ME? YEAH, WHEN PHILLIP DROPPEDSOMETHING, I'M, LIKE, "WHAT'STHE MATTER WITH YOU? I JUST

SWEPT THIS FLOOR." AND SO I WASDOING EVERYTHING BUT SHOW HONORTO HIM. AND, REALLY, HONOR ISAT THE CORE OF EVERY MARRIAGE.

AND SO THE QUESTION, I GUESSWE'RE GOING TO LEAVE YOU WITHRIGHT NOW, I WANT YOU TO REALLYASK YOURSELF IS, "HOW CAN YOU

SHOW HONOR TODAY?" DON'T PUT ITOFF. DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOURSPOUSE SHOWS HONOR TO YOU. WHATIS SOMETHING YOU CAN DO RIGHT

NOW THAT SHOWS HONOR TO THEM?AND MAYBE YOU'RE THINKING,"WELL, THEY DON'T DESERVE IT.THEY'VE DONE DA, DA, DA, DA."

FORGET ALL THAT. YOU CAN'TCHANGE THEM AT THE MOMENT.WHAT CAN YOU DO? WHAT CAN YOUDO THAT SHOWS HONOR TO YOUR

SPOUSE? YOU KNOW, LAURA-LYNN, THISWHOLE HONOR, IT'S GREAT TO TALKABOUT, BUT WHAT DOES IT LOOK

LIKE PRACTICALLY? BECAUSE IKNOW WHAT ENDS UP HAPPENING,AND PEOPLE SEE THESE THINGS,AND THEN THEY DON'T SEE THE

HONOR, AND THEY GET TO JUMPINGHONOR. AND YOU KNOW, THAT'S NOTNECESSARILY WHAT WE'RE LOOKINGAT. NOW HOW DOES THAT LOOK, AS

FAR AS WHEN YOU WOULD SAY,"THIS IS HOW I HONOR J.T., THISIS WHAT I DO TO HONOR HIM?" YOU KNOW, WHAT I WOULD WANT

TO DO RIGHT NOW IS TO HONOR HIMBECAUSE, DO YOU KNOW THAT WHENWE GOT TOGETHER, HE DID NOTUNDERSTAND THE MAGNITUDE OF

WHAT MY LIFE WOULD TAKE OFFINTO. AND I DON'T THINK HEUNDERSTOOD. MM-HMM. BEING A PUBLIC

FIGURE AND TRAVELING AS MUCHAS YOU DO? MM-HMM. THAT'S RIGHT, BECAUSE WE DIDNOT UNDERSTAND THE DOORS THAT

GOD WAS ABOUT TO OPEN. AND IHAVE HAD MORE THAN ONE MAN SAYTO ME, "I COULD NOT BE MARRIEDTO YOU." BECAUSE I'M TRAVELING

AROUND THE COUNTRY, GOING TOAFRICA, DOING ALL THIS STUFF.AND MY HUSBAND HONORS ME INSUCH AN INCREDIBLE WAY BY

TAKING CARE OF THE KIDS,MANAGING LIFE WHEN I'M OFFDOING WHAT GOD HAS CALLED ME TODO. AND HE'S AN INCREDIBLE,

INCREDIBLE MAN. AND IT TAKES ALOT, YOU KNOW. TO PLAY HIS PART ON THETEAM, WHAT YOU'RE SAYING?

ABSOLUTELY. YEAH, YOU KNOW, I THINK WHATI SEE MOST, AND A LOT OF TIMES,YOU KNOW, PEOPLE LOOK AT

MARRIAGE AS FAR AS BEING 50/50.BUT SOMETIMES, I REALLYRECOGNIZE IT'S 90/10, ORSOMETIMES IT'S 80/20. NOW WHAT

HONOR LOOKS LIKE, AND I KNOW,EVEN WITH OUR OWN FAMILY, IS MESAYING TO KAREN, "YOU KNOWWHAT? I'M YOUR CHEERLEADER. I

WANT TO SEE YOU BECOME ALLTHAT YOU'VE BEEN CALLED TO BE."AND THEN WHEN I STAND BEFORETHE THRONE OF GRACE, I WANT TO

GIVE GOD A PICTURE, AND SAY,"YOU KNOW, THIS IS WHAT SHELOOKED LIKE WHEN WE GOT MARRIEDAND SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN

THAT, GOD." AND I THINK HONORIS, IT'S JUST TRYING TO BECONSIDERATE TO REALLY WHATYOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER REALLY,

WHAT MAKES THEM HAPPY. WHETHER YOU'RE THE HUSBANDOR THE WIFE, GOD HAS GIVEN YOUAN INCREDIBLE PERSON. HONOR

THEM. THEY WILL HONOR YOU BACK.AND YOU'LL& WITH AUTHENTICITY. &LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER,

SORT OF. WELL, WE LOOK FORWARD TOBEING WITH YOU ALL AGAIN REALSOON. UNTIL NEXT TIME, I'M

BRIAN WARREN. AND I'M LAURA-LYNN TYLERTHOMPSON. HAVE A WONDERFULDAY, CANADA.

GOD BLESS.MUSIC I COULD HEAR THESE MOANSAND THESE CRIES.

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YOU START ACCUMULATING LIESTHAT YOU BELIEVE ABOUTYOURSELF. ALL OF THESE KINDS OFTHINGS TEACH YOU THINGS ABOUT

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OF SCRIPTURE SAYS, THEY'RE NOTCORRECT. AND SO YOU NEED TOHEAR FROM THE LORD YOURSELF.

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