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Students Speak Out Against the 'Hook-Up Culture'

Activities like Yale's "Sex Week" have become the norm on college campuses. But students are growing tired of the "hook-up culture" and taking a stand for sexual purity. Read Transcript


I GREW UP IN A RELIGIOUS

HOUSEHOLD, BUT I WAS THE

REBELLIOUS ONE.

Reporter: CHRISTIAN SAY

ADMITS, HE LIKES TO SWIM

AGAINST THE TIDE.

NOW THE PRINCETON UNIVERSITY

FRESHMAN IS PUSHING BACK

AGAINST PRESSURE TO HAVE SEX

BEFORE MARRIAGE.

WE DON'T THINK STUDENTS

SHOULD BE HOOKING UP AND

HAVING SEX.

BECAUSE THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO

JUST THINK THAT'S NOT WHAT

LEADS TO A GOOD HUMAN LIFE.

Reporter: DONNA FRETUS

WRITES ABOUT THAT HOOK-UP

CULTURE, NAMING THREE

CHARACTERISTICS TO DESCRIBE

IT.

NUMBER ONE IS ANYTHING

FROM KISSING TO DIFFERENT

TYPES OF SEX.

TWO, IT IS BRIEF.

ANYTHING FROM 10 MINUTES TO

A WHOLE NIGHT.

AND THEN, THREE, YOU'RE NOT

SUPPOSED TO GET ATTACHED.

BUT MORE OFTEN THAN NOT

THAT'S THE PART THAT REALLY

TRIPS STUDENTS UP.

THEY HAVE A REALLY HARD TIME

NOT GETTING ATTACHED.

THERE IS AN UNDERSTANDING

WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO ARE

WITHIN THIS KIND OF HOOK-UP

CULTURE THERE IS A SORT OF

EMPTINESS TO IT.

Reporter: THAT

EMPTINESS SPILLS OUT ON TO

THE PAGES OF PRINCETON

STUDENT NEWSPAPER.

WITH AN ANONYMOUS POST IN A

SERIES CALL "LOVE AND LUST

IN THE BUBBLE."

DURING MY SECOND

SEMESTER, TWO OF MY FRIENDS

AND I CREATED AN

ACCOMPLISHMENT CHART,

COMPLETE WITH A STAR WITH

ACCOMPLISHMENTS WE

ACHIEVED.

WHEN I WOULD LOOK AT MY

STARS, I WOULD LAUGH

OUTLOUD, REMEMBERING THE

AWFUL, DRUNKEN HOOK-UP THAT

EACH STAR SYMBOLIZED.

THERE WERE MANY NIGHTS I

WOULD CRINGE THINKING ABOUT

THOSE MEMORIES.

BUT WITHOUT THEM, I WOULDN'T

KNOW HOW MUCH I HATE THE

HOOK-UP CULTURE HERE.

Reporter: SHE HAS "THE

END OF SEX," HOW THE

HOOK-UP CULTURE IS LEAVING

PEOPLE UNFULFILLED.

TO HEAR MANY STUDENTS

EITHER INCREDIBLY UNHAPPY OR

INCREDIBLY AMBIVALENT ABOUT

THEIR SEXUAL EXPERIENCES IN

COLLEGE.

Reporter: SHE SURVEYED

MORE THAN 2,000 COLLEGE

STUDENTS ACROSS THE

COUNTRY.

41% USE WORDS LIKE

REGRETFUL, MISERABLE,

DISGUSTED, ASHAMED, DUPED,

AND ABUSED TO DESCRIBE THEIR

HOOK-UP EXPERIENCE.

23% EXPRESSED AMBIVALENCE.

THE AUTHOR'S CONCLUSION:

MANY FELT ALONE AND UNSURE

OF HOW TO CHANGE THE

CULTURE.

IN A LOT OF WAYS,

STARTING IS THE HARDEST PART

BECAUSE THAT REQUIRES SOME

COURAGE.

THE BIGGEST HURTLE TO THAT

IS THE FACT YOU'VE GOT ALL

OF THESE STUDENTS ON CAMPUS

WHO WILL SAY, I'M THE ONLY

ONE WHO FEELS THIS WAY, BUT

EVERYONE ELSE IS OVER HERE.

AND I'M ALL ALONE OVER

HERE.

AND WE HAVE SO MANY STUDENTS

WHO ARE SAYING THAT, SO A

PART OF YOU WANTS TO SAY,

LISTEN, YOU'RE JUST LIKE

THIS OTHER PERSON.

AND YOU SHOULD TELL THE

WORLD THAT YOU FEEL THAT

WAY.

YOU'RE GOING TO FIND ALL

THESE FRIENDS.

Reporter: THAT IS

HAPPENING HERE AT

PRINCETON.

CHRISTIAN SAY, AUDREY

SOONOU, AND BEN COON ARE

CHALLENGING THE HOOK-UP

SOCIETY.

IT IS A GROUP NAMED AFTER

ELIZABETH SANSTONE, WHO

PREACHED RELIGIOUS SEXUAL

SEXUALNESS.

WE'RE NOT LIKE A HIGH

SCHOOL, WHERE YOU GET PURITY

RINGS.

NOBODY IS CHECKING UP ON

YOU.

Reporter: IN ITS

MISSION STATEMENT, THEY

DESCRIBED THEMSELVES AS

DEDICATED TO THE IMPORTANCE

OF THE FAMILY, MARRIAGE, AND

THE PROPER UNDERSTANDING OF

THE ROLE OF SEX AND

SEXUALITY.

IT IS A MISSION THAT IS NOT

PARTISAN OR RELIGIOUS.

WE THINK YOU CAN HOLD TO

THESE POSITIONS, THESE --

WHAT MIGHT SEEM LIKE VERY

DIFFICULT POSITIONS

NOWADAYS, WITHOUT ASCRIBEING

TO ANY PARTICULAR FAITH,

WITHOUT HAVING ANY SPECIAL

REVELATION FROM GOD.

WE THINK THAT THESE ARE JUST

RULES WRITTEN ON THE HEARTS

OF MEN.

Reporter: CATHY HUFF

FOUNDED THE PRINCETON'S

VANSTONE SOCIETY IN 2005

WHEN SHE WAS A STUDENT.

IT WAS A GOAL OF

PROVIDING THE INTELLECTUAL

VOICE, AND THAT THERE IS A

COMMUNITY OF SUPPORT IF THEY

WERE TIRED OF THE HOOK-UP

CULTURE.

Reporter: AND SHE

CONTINUES TO GROW THAT

COMMUNITY.

AFTER GRADUATING, CASSIE

STARTED THE LOVE INFIDELITY

NETWORK, HELPING STUDENTS

LAUNCH GROUPS ON 25 COLLEGE

CAMPUSES.

YOUNG PEOPLE ARE AWARE

THERE IS A NETWORK OF YOUNG

PEOPLE, THAT THEY'RE NOT

ALONE.

THERE IS A NETWORK OF YOUNG

PEOPLE WHO HAVE THESE

COMMITMENTS OR EVEN JUST

SHARE THE SAME QUESTIONS

THAT THEY DO.

Reporter: EPHRAIM

GRAHAM, CBN NEWS, PRINCETON,

NEW JERSEY.

EMBED THIS VIDEO


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