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700 Club Interactive: The Truth about Working Moms - August 15, 2013

Do working moms have a negative affect on the family? Find out the answer on 700 Club Interactive. Read Transcript


Gordon: WOMEN TRYING TO

FIND THE BALANCE BETWEEN

WORK AND HOME.

I DON'T THINK THAT THE

MONEY THAT I MADE WAS WORTH,

YOU KNOW, WHAT I

SACRIFICED.

YOU CAN PHYSICALLY BE A

STAY-AT-HOME MOM, BUT YOUR

HEART IS ELSEWHERE.

Gordon: ON TODAY'S "700

CLUB INTERACTIVE."

ON "700 CLUB INTERACTIVE,"

WE US USE TECHNOLOGY TO

PRAY FOR EACH OTHER AND

EXPLORE TOPICS THAT MATTER

TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELCOME TO THE PROGRAM.

IT'S A DILEMMA MANY WOMEN

FACE AS SOON AS THEY BECOME

MOTHERS: SHOULD I STAY AT

HOME WITH MY CHILDREN OR

REMAIN IN THE WORKFORCE?

Terry: WE HAVE

IN-BOXEMOBOX E-MAILS FROM

MOTHERS WHO ARE FACING THIS

QUESTION.

MARY SAYS, "MY HUSBAND AND I

HAVE BEEN HAVING FINANCIAL

DIFFICULTIES.

CURRENTLY I AM A

STAY-AT-HOME MOM WITH MY

SON.

I'M WONDERING IF I SHOULD

TRY TO GET A JOB TO HELP

OUT.

PLEASE PRAY THAT GOD GIVES

ME THE DIRECTION I NEED."

Gordon: TERRY, YOU'RE

IN A UNIQUE POSITION BECAUSE

YOU'VE DONE BOTH.

Terry: YEAH, I HAVE.

Gordon: DILEMMA IS THE

RIGHT WORD, ISN'T IT?

Terry: I THINK IT IS,

ESPECIALLY TODAY.

FINDING HELP FOR YOURSELF

WITH YOUR CHILDREN IS VERY

DIFFICULT.

FINDING SOMEONE THAT YOU

WANT TO LEAVE YOUR CHILDREN

WITH --

Gordon: THAT YOU

TRUST.

Terry: WOMEN DON'T

UNDERSTAND THAT UNTIL YOU

HAVE THE CHILD AND THIS

TREMENDOUS MATERNAL INSTINCT

PROTECTION THINGS RISES UP

IN YOU, AND THERE IS NO

HUMAN BEING ON EARTH GOOD

ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF THAT

CHILD.

Gordon: AND THAT IS

TRUE.

THERE IS NO HUMAN BEING ON

EARTH AS GOOD AS YOU IN

TAKING CARE OF THAT CHILD.

AND YOU READ ANY CHILD

DEVELOPMENT BOOK, THE AMOUNT

OF INFORMATION THEY'RE

LEARNING, IT'S THE GREATEST

PERIOD IN THEIR LIFETIME.

FROM BIRTHDAY TO, SAY, THREE

YEARS OLD.

AND SO MUCH OF THEIR

PERSONALITY -- WELL, ANY

PARENT KNOWS A LOT OF THAT

IS RIGHT FROM BIRTH.

YOU CAN IDENTIFY PERSONALITY

TRAITS.

BUT THE ENVIRONMENT THEY'RE

IN OVER THE NEXT THREE YEARS

IS CRUCIAL.

Terry: YOU KNOW, IN THE

VERY BEGINNING, WITH MY

FIRST TWO CHILDREN, I DID

WORK, AND IT WAS CRAZY.

GETTING YOURSELF UP, GETTING

YOU READY, GETTING THE KIDS

READY, GETTING OUT OF THE

HOUSE ON TIME, GETTING TO

THE OFFICE ON TIME, RACING

FROM THE OFFICE TO PICK THEM

UP -- AT SOME POINT YOU SAY,

WHY AM I DOING THIS TO

MYSELF?

Gordon: I AM SUPER

WOMAN.

Terry: NO, I'M NOT.

BUT THERE ARE SO MANY WOMEN

WHO DON'T HAVE THAT OPTION,

ESPECIALLY SINGLE MOMS.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

WE'RE GOING TO TALK ABOUT

WHAT SOME WOMEN FACE WITH

REGARDS TO THIS.

FAMILY PSYCHOLOGIST

DR. KEVIN LEMAN HAS SOME

HELPFUL INFORMATION ON HOW

TO DEAL WITH A LITTLE THING

HE CALLS MOMMY GUILT.

WHEN THAT MOM HAS THAT

BABY AND GOES RIGHT BACK TO

WORK, WOW!

WATCH OUT FOR THE GUILT

BUCKETS.

WOMEN ARE THE GATHERERS OF

GUILT TO BEGIN WITH.

GUILT IS THE PROPELLANT FOR

MOST OF THE LOUSY DECISIONS

YOU'LL MAKE AS A MOM.

IF YOU HAVE TO GO BACK TO

WORK, YOU HAVE TO GO BACK TO

WORK.

IF MOM OR GRANDPA CAN BE

ENGAGED IN THE CHILD'S

UPBRINGING, THEN THAT, IN MY

OPINION, WOULD BE FAR SPEAR

SUPERIOR THAN TAKING THEM TO

A KIDDIE KENNEL AND DROPPING

THEM OFF FOR 12 HOURS A

DAY.

AND LOTS OF PEOPLE ASK ME,

ISN'T DAYCARE JUST LIKE

BEING A MOM?

HELLO?

NO.

THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT.

KIDS NEED TO BOND WITH THEIR

MOM.

AND, YOU KNOW, FOR THE

WORKING MOM WHO HEARS THAT,

HER EARS GO BACK AND SHE

BRISTLES A LITTLE BIT.

BUT THE REALITY IS THAT

THERE IS ONLY SO MANY HOURS

IN THE DAY, AND THERE IS A

VERY IMPORTANT TRUTH, AND

THAT IS THE PERSON WHO

TEACHES YOUR CHILD TO TALK

IS THE SAME PERSON WHO

TEACHES YOUR CHILD TO

THINK.

NOW, ANOTHER THOUGHT THAT

MIGHT RUN CHILLS UP A

MOMMY'S SPINE, DO YOU REALLY

WANT THE MINIMUM-WAGE WORKER

AT DAYCARE TEACHING YOUR KID

HOW TO THINK?

SO THIS IS THE DILEMA FOR

MANY.

AND, PLEASE, I'M NOT SAYING,

OKAY, LADIES, LISTEN UP,

STAY HOME.

MAKE SURE YOU'RE BAREFOOT

AND PREGNANT AND NURSE YOUR

CHILD TO AGE FOUR.

THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT FIVE

YEARS LATER, THAT THAT SAME

WOMAN CAN'T GO BACK IN THE

WORKFORCE.

JOB SEQUENCING.

HOW IMPORTANT IS BEING A MOM

TO YOU?

BUT I THINK EVERY MOM IS

SMART TO REALLY UNDERSTAND

HOW QUICKLY LIFE GOES BY.

AND THESE KIDS ARE LITTLE

KIDS FOR JUST A SHORT PERIOD

OF TIME.

ONE OF THE THINGS FROM A

PSYCHOLOGICAL STANDPOINT,

YOUR CHILD'S PERSONALITY,

MOM, IS FORMED IN ABOUT THE

FIRST FIVE OR SIX YEARS OF

LIFE.

IT'S FORMED.

NOW, HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT TO

HAVE, IN TERMS OF IMPACT, OF

YOUR VALUES AND WHO YOU ARE

ON YOUR KIDS' LIVES?

Terry: LOTS TO THINK

ABOUT, ISN'T THERE?

Gordon: WHAT DO YOU

THINK ABOUT THE CURRENT

DEBATE THAT SEEMS TO BE IN

POPULAR CULTURE THAT CAN

WOMEN HAVE IT ALL?

IS THE DREAM THAT YOU CAN

HAVE A CAREER AND A FAMILY

AND RAISE CHILDREN AND, AND,

AND, AND -- IS THAT EVEN

TRUE?

OR IS THAT JUST A MYTH?

Terry: PERSONALLY, I

DON'T THINK YOU CAN.

BECAUSE YOU CANNOT GIVE YOUR

BEST ON ALL FRONTS TO

EVERYBODY.

SOMETHING SUFFERS.

YOU'RE MARRIAGE, YOUR KIDS,

YOUR JOB, YOUR FRIENDSHIPS

WITH PEOPLE.

I THINK THAT IS TRUE FOR

MEN, TOO.

I THINK BALANCE IS WHAT WE

NEED.

IF YOU'RE CLIMB, CLIMBING,

CLIMBING UP THE CORPORATE

LADDER OR ANY OTHER LADDER

OF YOUR CHOOSING, I THINK IT

IS VERY DIFFICULT.

ONE OF THE THINGS THAT I

THINK IS A REAL PLUS TODAY,

AND I'M TOTALLY FOR IT, IS

PEOPLE WHO HAVE JOB OPTIONS

WHERE THEY CAN WORK FROM

HOME.

AND WHERE YOU CAN --

Gordon: FLEXIBLE

HOURS.

IT MEANS YOU'RE NOT GOING TO

BE THE HIGH EARNER, BUT YOU

CAN STILL EARN AND DO THAT

FROM HOME.

AND TECHNOLOGY ENABLES THAT

TO HAPPEN.

Terry: AND YOU

MENTIONED TRUST EARLIER.

THAT'S A PLACE WHERE AN

EMPLOYER HAS TO TRUST AN

EMPLOYEE TO BE PRODUCTIVE

AND DOING THE THINGS THEY'RE

SUPPOSED TO BE DOING, BUT IF

THEY'RE NOT, THAT SHOWS UP

IN PRETTY CLOSE ORDER.

BUT IF THE ISSUE IS HELPING

YOUR FAMILY FINANCIALLY, I

THINK THERE IS A GREAT

OPPORTUNITY TO DO THAT.

YEARS AGO THEY STARTED THAT

JOB SHARING.

I DON'T EVEN KNOW IF THAT IS

AS POPULAR AS IT WAS BACK

THEN.

WHERE TWO PEOPLE WOULD SHARE

THE LOAD OF ONE POSITION --

Gordon: AND THEY COULD

COME IN AT DIFFERENT TIMES

AND SHARE.

AND I WER WOULD ENCOURAGE

PEOPLE, TAKE A LONGER VIEW

OF LIFE.

ONE THING THE DOCTOR POINTED

OUT, IT GOES BY QUICK.

SO OFTEN WHEN YOU'RE A

FIRST-TIME PARENT, OR YOU'VE

GOT A COUPLE OF TODDLERS

RUNNING AROUND, AND YOU

THINK IT IS FOREVER.

IT'S NOT.

AND THEY GROW UP QUICK, AND

IT IS LIKE A BLINK OF THE

EYE.

SO SPEND THE TIME WITH

THEM.

I KNOW IN MY OWN LIFE, I HAD

TO CUT TRAVEL WHEN I BECAME

A FATHER.

AND THEN MY ABILITY TO GO ON

MISSION TRIPS AND LONG

JOURNEYS FROM BUSINESS AND

THAT KIND OF THING, IT JUST

WAS -- I NEEDED TO CUT THAT

BACK.

AND WE GOT INTO THE WEEKEND

RULE WHERE DAD WAS ALWAYS

GOING TO BE HOME ON WEEKENDS

AND NOT TRAVEL.

Terry: THOSE ARE THE

KINDS OF THINGS THAT MAKE A

DIFFERENCE.

IN MY OWN LIFE, AS A WOMAN

WHO WAS VERY INVOLVED IN THE

CORPORATE WORLD, I DECIDED

TO STAY HOME BECAUSE IT WAS

KILLING ME, JUGGLING ALL OF

THAT, BUT ONCE I DID, I HAD

A BLAST.

THOSE WERE FABULOUS YEARS,

AND NOT ONLY WOULD I NOT

HAVE TRADED --

Gordon: DIAPERS WERE A

BLAST?

Terry: SOMETIMES.

I'M SORRY, YOU JUST MADE IT

TOO EASY.

I'LL LET YOU RECOVER FROM

THAT ONE.

Gordon: ALL RIGHT.

MOVING RIGHT ALONE.

CHRISTINA MILLER AND RENELLE

ROBERTS ARE FINDING BALANCE

IN THEIR CURRENT POSITIONS.

MY NAME IS CHRISTINA, AND

I'M A FULL-TIME MOM OF

FOUR.

I WORK FULL-TIME FOR A

CLEANING SYSTEM IN VIRGINIA

BEACH, VIRGINIA.

BEING A MOM IS MY NUMBER ONE

JOB, BUT I ALSO HAVE TO BE

ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR MY

CHILDREN.

I HAD TO FIND A WAY TO

BALANCE BOTH.

MY OPTIONS WERE WORK AT

NIGHT, OR HAVE TWO JOBS, TWO

PART-TIME JOBS, AND STILL

MISS ALL OF THE ACTIVITIES

THAT MY CHILDREN COULD

PARTICIPATE IN.

OR LOOK FOR A JOB THAT I

WOULD BE ALLOWED TO WORK

DURING THE HOURS THAT MY

CHILDREN GO TO SCHOOL.

THE COMPANY THAT I WORKED AT

PRIOR TO WORKING HERE DID

NOT ALLOW ME TO DO BOTH.

I WORKED A LOT OF NIGHTS.

I MISSED A LOT OF TIME WITH

MY CHILDREN.

I MADE A LOT OF MONEY.

I DON'T THINK THAT THE MONEY

THAT I MADE WORKING FOR THAT

COMPANY AND THE TIME THAT I

LOST WITH MY KIDS WAS WORTH,

YOU KNOW, WHAT I

SACRIFICED.

SOMETIMES IT TAKES A LOT

MORE SEARCHING AND NOT

GIVING UP, AND NETWORKING TO

GET INTO THE RIGHT PLACE.

THERE ARE NOT TOO MANY

EMPLOYERS OUT THERE THAT ARE

GOING TO ALLOW YOU TO BE A

MOTHER FIRST AND THEN HAVE A

CAREER SECOND.

I'M VERY FORTUN FORTUNATE

THAT I LANDED A GREAT JOB

WHERE I AM ALLOWED TO DO

BOTH.

I KNOW THAT WHEN MY SON HAS

A SPORTING EVENT, AND HE

LOOKS OVER, HE IS HAPPY TO

SEE IF I'M THERE.

YOU KNOW, BECAUSE SOME OTHER

CHILDREN, THEIR PARENTS

CAN'T GET OFF OF WORK ON

TIME TO BE THERE.

I DON'T HAVE TO GO TO EVERY

SINGLE EVENT, BUT IF IT CAME

DOWN TO ME NOT BEING ABLE TO

GO, I WOULDN'T TAKE THAT JOB

BECAUSE THE MONEY IS NOT

THAT IMPORTANT.

FAMILY IS WHAT IS

IMPORTANT.

MY NAME IS RENELLE

ROBERTS, AND MY DAUGHTER IS

DAFFDAPHNE ROBERTS, AND SHE

IS THREE MONTHS OLD.

MAKING THE DECISION TO STAY

HOME WITH MY CHILD VERSES

WORKING FULL-TIME IS A

DECISION MY HUSBAND AND I

CAME TOGETHER.

IT IS SOMETHING WE ALWAYS

KNEW WE WOULD DO WHEN WE HAD

A CHILD.

BUT WE DIDN'T KNOW WHEN THAT

CHILD WOULD COME.

WE WERE LIVING VERY

COMFORTABLY WITH BOTH OF OUR

INCOMES.

WHEN YOU GO FROM WORKING 40

HOURS A WEEK AND YOU COME

HOME TO YOUR SPOUSE AND YOU

CAN WATCH A MOVIE, GO OUT TO

DINNER, TRANSITIONING TO

THIS 24-HOUR JOB OF A

NEWBORN, THERE IS QUITE A

SHOCK TO THE SYSTEM.

I NEVER HAD TO BE

RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERY SINGLE

NEED OF ANOTHER HELPLESS

INDIVIDUAL.

AT WORK, YOU CAN KIND OF

LEAVE YOUR WORK THERE.

BUT WHEN YOU'RE HOME, YOUR

WORK IS ALWAYS WITH YOU.

IT CAN BE QUITE DEMANDING

AND QUITE UNPREDICTABLE.

I THINK THAT WAS PROBABLY

ONE OF THE BIGGEST CHANGES,

BUT IT'S SO WORTH IT.

IT'S SO WORTH IT.

SIMPLICITY TO ME HAS BEEN

HAVING TO REALLY SCALE BACK

IN A LOT OF AREAS.

WE DID GO FROM TWO INCOMES

AND NO CHILDREN TO ONE

INCOME AND A CHILD.

AND SO THAT HAS

SIGNIFICANTLY REDUCED OUR

INCOME.

SO BEING CREATIVE AND FRUGAL

AND CAPABLE.

WE GROW A GARDEN NOW, WHERE

WE HAVE A LOT OF OUR

VEGETABLES IN THE SPRING AND

SUMMERTIME.

SOMETIMES WE SHOP AT

SECONDHAND STORES TO GET OUR

CLOTHING.

WE COOK AT HOME.

WE DON'T GO TO RESTAURANTS,

UNLESS IT IS A VERY SPECIAL

OCCASION.

SO THOSE ARE SOME OF THE

SACRIFICES FINANCIALLY THAT

WE'VE HAD TO MAKE, BUT I'M

GLAD THAT I'VE HAD TO MAKE

THOSE BECAUSE I THINK AS MY

DAUGHTER GETS OLDER, AND

LORD WILLING, AS WE HAVE

MORE CHILDREN, THAT THEY

WILL SEE THAT LIFE IS NOT

JUST ABOUT THE MATERIAL

THINGS, BUYING THINGS, BUT

THE BONDING MOMENTS.

MY MOM DID NOT STAY AT HOME

WITH ME, AND MY

MOTHER-IN-LAW DID NOT STAY

AT HOME WITH MY HUSBAND.

I THINK THEY WOULD HAVE

WANTED TO, IF THEY HAD THE

OPTION, BUT THEIR HEARTS

WERE AT HOME.

I THINK IT IS MORE OF A

HEART POSITION.

BECAUSE YOU CAN PHYSICALLY

BE AT HOME, BUT YOUR HEART

IS ELSEWHERE.

IF YOU'RE ALWAYS THINKING

ABOUT THINGS BESIDES YOUR

FAMILY.

SO FOR ME, MORE THAN JUST

CHAMPIONING EVERYONE TO QUIT

YOUR JOB AND STAY HOME, IS

YOUR HEART WITH YOUR

FAMILY?

IS YOUR HEART TO SERVE

THEM?

I THINK THAT'S THE MORE

IMPORTANT ISSUE.

Gordon: WE'VE GOT A

PHONE CALL ON THIS TOPIC.

HERE IS CARLA FROM GEORGIA.

CARLA, ARE YOU THERE?

Caller: YES, I'M HERE.

Gordon: HI.

HOW CAN WE PRAY FOR YOU?

Caller: BASICALLY, I

GREW UP IN A HOUSEHOLD WHERE

I WAS ALWAYS COMPARED TO MY

OLDER SISTER.

SHE WAS THE SMART ONE.

I WAS THE SWEET ONE.

EVEN AS AN ADULT, I HAVE

SUFFERED THE WRATH OF OTHER

ADULTS WHO HAVE CALLED ME

STUPID.

I'VE ALWAYS BEEN MADE TO

FEEL LIKE I WAS NOTHING.

MY QUESTION IS: IS THERE A

REASON AT THIS POINT -- GOD

WANTS ME TO OPEN UP AN

ONLINE SHOE STORE.

I DON'T THINK HE WANTS ME TO

CONSULT HIM ON IT.

I HAVE A HARD TIME FINDING A

JOB BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE ANY

JOB HISTORY FROM BEING AN

AT-HOME MOM.

SO MY QUESTION IS: HOW CAN I

BREAK OUT OF THIS SHELL OF

NEVER STEPPING OUT ON MY OWN

OF ANYTHING MUCH, AND

STEPPING OUT ON FAITH AND

GOING FORWARD WITH IT.

I DID TAKE A MAJOR STEP THE

OTHER DAY.

IT TOOK ME SIX MONTHS -- BUT

I DID GET MY BUSINESS

LICENSE.

I'M MOVING AT A SNAIL'S

PACE, AND I WANT TO KNOW HOW

I CAN MOVE FORWARD.

Gordon: HOW LONG WERE

YOU A STAY-AT-HOME MOM?

BASICALLY 12 YEARS.

I WOULD ALWAYS GO FOR JOBS,

LIKE FAST FOOD, BECAUSE I

NEVER THOUGHT I COULD DO

ANYTHING BETTER.

I'M REALLY INTO GOD AND

TRYING TO SEEK HIM AND WANT

TO JUST GO HIGHER INTO WHERE

HE WANTS ME TO BE.

Gordon: OKAY, CARLA, A

COUPLE OF THINGS COME TO MY

SPIRIT.

NUMBER ONE, GOD WANTS YOU TO

LOOK TO HIM AS THE SOURCE OF

ALL THE WORDS ABOUT YOU.

AND HE REALLY WANTS TO GET

RID OF ALL OF THAT

NEGATIVITY ABOUT HOW YOU'RE

NOT ABLE AND THAT YOU'RE

DUMB, OR ANYTHING LIKE

THAT.

HE JUST WANTS TO BREAK THAT

OFF OF YOU.

AND HE WANTS TO COME IN AND

BE YOUR FATHER AND SPEAK

OVER YOU, THAT YOU ARE

FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY

MADE.

YOU'RE MADE FOR A UNIQUE

PURPOSE.

HE HAS CREATED GOOD WORKS

FOR CARLA TO WALK INTO AND

ENJOY AND BE BLESSED.

AND THESE WILL SATISFY THE

DESIRES OF YOUR HEART AND

GIVE YOU A HOPE AND A

FUTURE.

HE WANTS TO LIFT YOU AND

SEAT YOU IN HEAVENLY PLACES

WITH HIM.

HE WANTS TO GIVE YOU UNUSUAL

WISDOM.

HE WANTS TO GIVE YOU

KNOWLEDGE THAT IS SUPER

NATURAL, AND SHOW YOU

DESIGNS AND PATTERNS FOR

WORK AND FOR HOW TO DEAL

WITH FAMILY.

HOW TO STRUCTURE YOUR LIFE.

HE WANTS TO JUST GIVE YOU

THE DOWNLOAD OF ALL OF THAT

WISDOM.

REALIZE YOU HAVE ACCESS TO

THE MIND OF GOD.

THE APOSTLE PAUL SAID, WE

HAVE THE MIND OF CHRIST.

AND THAT MEANS YOU HAVE IT.

SO JESUS IS NOT DUMB.

HE HAS GOT THE WISDOM OF THE

AGES.

AND HE WANTS TO GIVE IT TO

YOU.

HE WANTS TO SHARE IT WITH

YOU ON A REGULAR BASIS, SO

YOU HAVE ACCESS TO ALL OF

THAT.

SO JUST RECEIVE THAT AND

JUST BE BLESSED BY THAT.

I'VE GOT A QUESTION FOR YOU,

ON THE ONLINE SHOE STORE,

WHERE ARE YOU GOING WITH

THAT?

ARE YOU GOING INTO eWITH

BAY WITH THAT?

OR ARE YOU TRYING TO SET UP

YOUR OWN PORTAL?

Caller: THEY HAVE THE

SITES WHERE YOU CAN

BASICALLY CUSTOMIZE IT

YOURSELF, AND SO THAT'S WHAT

I'M GOING TO TRY TO DO.

THAT'S ALL I KNOW TO DO.

Gordon: OKAY.

MY QUESTION IS: HOW ARE YOU

GOING TO DRIVE TRAFFIC TO

THAT?

Caller: I THINK THE WAY

THEY HAVE IT SET UP IS THAT

THEY HAVE IT WHERE IF

SOMEONE GOES ON A SEARCH

ENGINE, OR SOMETHING LIKE

THAT, YOUR NAME WILL POP

UP.

Gordon: DO THEY HANDLE

ALL OF THE PAYMENTS, CREDIT

CARD, AND ALL OF THAT KIND

OF STUFF FOR YOU?

Caller: YEAH, THEY DO.

Gordon: YOU MAY WANT TO

CONSIDER OPENING UP A

PARALLEL STORE ON eBAY AND

COMPARE THE TWO FROM A

PROFIT AND SALES

STANDPOINT.

THAT MAY BE ANOTHER

ALTERNATIVE FOR YOU.

WHERE YOU CAN SELL SHOES

ONLINE.

IF GOD HAS SPOKEN TO YOU, I

WOULD SAY GO WITH IT.

Caller: YEAH.

Gordon: WHENEVER GOD

HAS SPOKEN TO ME -- I KNOW

THERE ARE ALL OF THE

QUESTIONS, GOD, I DON'T KNOW

ANYTHING ABOUT THIS --

Caller: RIGHT.

RIGHT.

Gordon: ARE YOU REALLY

GOING TO PROVIDE?

CAN THE CREATOR OF THE

UNIVERSE REALLY DO THIS?

AND ALL OF THOSE THINGS

START RUNNING THROUGH YOUR

SPIRIT AND THROUGH YOUR

MIND.

AND DOUBT IS OKAY.

JUST TAKE THOSE DOUBTS TO

HIM AND SAY, LORD, GIVE ME

THE FAITH TO BELIEVE.

FAITH IS A GIFT, AND SO GIVE

ME THE FAITH TO BELIEVE.

AND HERE IS AN ENCOURAGING

WORD FOR YOU: "IF GOD BE FOR

YOU, WHO CAN BE AGAINST

YOU."

SO DON'T LET YOUR OWN --

DON'T BE AGAINST YOURSELF.

GET IN LINE WITH WHAT GOD IS

TELLING YOU TO DO AND SAY,

I'M GOING TO BELIEVE.

SO LET'S JUST PRAY FOR YOU

RIGHT NOW.

LORD, WE LIFT CARLA TO YOU

RIGHT NOW.

AND WE JUST BREAK OFF OF HER

ALL OF THE NEGATIVE

THOUGHTS, ALL OF THE

NEGATIVE WORDS.

WE BREAK THAT HOLD IN HER

MIND, AND WE JUST ENCOURAGE

HER NOW.

WE ENCOURAGE HER.

AND WE ASK FOR COMFORT TO

COME TO HER.

THE COMFORT THAT COMES FROM

THE COMFORTER.

THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL COME.

AND THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL

HELP YOU, CARLA.

GOD WANTS YOU TO KNOW THAT

THE HOLY SPIRIT WILL HELP

YOU.

AND THE SPIRIT OF TRUTH WILL

LEAD YOU INTO ALL TRUTH.

AND NOW WE EXORT YOU, A

WOMAN OF GOD, CHILD OF GOD,

BELOVED OF GOD.

WE EXORT YOU TO RISE UP AND

TAKE THE PROMISE THAT GOD

HAS FOR YOU, AND TO BOLDLY

GO INTO THE VISION AND ON

THE PATH THAT HE WILL DIRECT

YOU AND SPEAK TO YOU AND BE

WITH YOU.

WE ASK IT ALL IN JESUS'

NAME.

AMEN.

Caller: AMEN.

THANK YOU SO MUCH.

Gordon: THANK YOU,

CARLA.

THANKS FOR CALLING IT.

Caller: YOU HAVE A

GREAT ONE.

BYE-BYE.

Gordon: COMING UP, A

MOTHER FIGHTS FOR THE LIFE

OF HER DAUGHTER, AND LOSING

WASN'T AN OPTION.

ALL OF THAT WHEN WE COME

BACK.

Terry: AMY STRUGGLED

WITH AN ADDICTION THAT

NEARLY COST HER HER LIFE.

HOWEVER, SHE HAD A SECRET

WEAPON FIGHTING FOR HER

SOBRIETY.

A MATTE MOTHER WHO NEVER

STOPPED PRAYING.

I REMEMBER WHEN SHE WAS

SHOOTING UP.

THAT WAS SUCH A DARK MOMENT

FOR ME.

I WAS DRIVING DOWN THE

ROAD -- I REMEMBER WHERE I

WAS, AND THE LORD SPOKE TO

ME THROUGH A SONG ON THE

RADIO, AND HE SAID, YOU CAN

TRUST ME.

I STARTED USING DRUGS

WHEN I WAS 12 YEARS OLD.

IT CAME THROUGH MY PARENTS'

DIVORCE.

I TURNED AWAY FROM THE

LORD.

TURNED AWAY FROM CHURCH.

I DEFEATED MY FAMILY.

I WOULD SAY I'M GOING FOR A

NICE SLEEPOVER AT MY

GIRLFRIEND'S HOUSE, BUT WE

WOULD GO OVER THERE, AND I

WAS INTRODUCED TO HARD

DRUGS, MARIJUANA, PAIN

PILLS, COCAINE.

SHE HID IT VERY, VERY

WELL BECAUSE I CHECKED UP ON

HER.

I CHECKED HER ROOM.

I DID ALL OF THE THINGS THAT

MOMS DO.

AFTER I GRADUATED FROM

HIGH SCHOOL, I BASICALLY

WENT OUT ON THE STREETS.

IT WAIT WAS A REALLY HARD

TIME IN MY LIFE, NOT KNOWING

WHERE AMY WAS AT, AND WHAT

WAS GOING ON IN HER HEART.

MY MOTHER'S HEART WAS

CRYING.

I'LL NEVER FORGET BEING

AT A FRIEND'S HOUSE ONE

NIGHT.

THE PEOPLE I WAS WERE SAID

IF YOU SHOOT IT UP, YOU'LL

FEEL IT A LOT MORE.

I MADE A DECISION THAT NIGHT

TO INJECT, AND I WAS

INSTANTLY ADDICTED TO THE

NEEDLE.

MY DRUG OF CHOICE WAS

OXYCONTIN.

I CONTINUED MEETING DRUG

DEALERS AND STARTED

SELLING.

THROUGH THAT, MY ADDICTION

GOT TO THE LEVEL WHERE I WAS

INJECTING 20, 30 TIMES A

DAY.

AND I LIVED IN CRACK HOUSES,

HEROIN HOUSES, OUT ON THE

STREETS, ABANDONED

BUILDINGS.

AND JUST -- IT CONSUMED MY

LIFE.

YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU HAVE A

CHILD THAT HAS THIS KIND OF

PROBLEM, YOU HAVE TO GO TO

WARFARE FOR THEM.

IT IS A BATTLE.

AND, YOU KNOW, EVERY DAY IT

WAS MY MISSION IN LIFE.

AND I WAS NOT GOING TO

RECEIVE NO FOR AN ANSWER.

I KNEW I WASN'T.

AND I KNOW THAT GOD IS ABLE,

AND HE IS A BIG GOD.

ONE NIGHT THE LORD WOKE

MY MOM UP.

HE WOKE ME.

AND HE TOLD ME TO GO NOW.

IT WAS URGENT.

GO NOW.

AND HE SAID NOW.

PRAY AS YOUR SEED, BREAK THE

POWER OF THIS ADDICTION OVER

HER LIFE.

AFTER THAT PRAYER, IT WAS

LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT WAS ON

ME.

I WOULD BE OUT AT RANDOM

PLACES, AND GOD JUST STARTED

SENDING STRANGERS UP TO ME,

AND TELLING ME THE SAME

THING OVER AND OVER.

GOD LOVES YOU.

HE HAS A FUTURE FOR YOU.

HE HAS A HOPE FOR YOU.

AND THE LORD REALLY USED

THAT TO SOFTEN MY HEART.

DURING THIS TIME PERIOD, I

WAS ALSO TALKING TO MY

BROTHER A LOT ON THE PHONE.

I WAS POURING MY HEART OUT

TO HIM.

AND HE INVITED ME TO GO TO

CHURCH WITH HIM.

AND I REMEMBER SITTING IN

THAT SERVICE, AND MY HEART

WAS BEATING OUT OF MY

CHEST.

AFTER THE SERVICE WAS OVER,

AGAIN, THIS LADY WALKS UP TO

ME, AND SHE SAYS, THE LORD

TOLD ME TO COME AND TELL YOU

THAT THAT SERVICE WAS FOR

YOU.

SHE GAVE ME HER PHONE NUMBER

AND SAID, IF YOU EVER NEED

ME, GIVE ME A CALL.

GOD WAS REALLY SPEAKING IN

MY HEART.

I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO RESPOND

TO IT.

SO I CONTINUED WITH MY

ADDICTION.

BUT

BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT

THING IS DON'T EVER, EVER,

EVER GIVE UP, NO MATTER HOW

DARK IT GETS, HOW BAD IT

LOOKS.

DO NOT GIVE UP.

I WAS LAYING AND THE BED,

AND I HEARD MOM.

A REALLY DISTRESSED, MOM.

AND SO I GOT UP AND BEGAN TO

PAPRAY FOR HER.

THAT EXACT NIGHT, I WAS

IN THIS CRACK HOTEL, AND I

SHOT UP 70 TIMES, I DID NOT

REMEMBER.

I DRANK A BOTTLE OF LIQUOR.

AT SOME POINT I SHOT UP AND

MISSED THE VEIN IN MY ARM.

I RECEIVED A PHONE CALL

ABOUT 5:30 AND THE MORNING

FROM HER SAYING, MOM, I'M IN

TROUBLE.

COME AND GET ME.

MY ARM HAD ABSCESSED AND

SWELLED UP THE SIZE OF A

GRAPEFRUIT.

I'LL NEVER FORGET, I'M

WAITING FOR HER TO COME AND

PICK ME UP.

AND I'M IN SUCH SEVERE PAIN

BECAUSE OF THE ABSCESS IN MY

ARM, BUT I'M STILL INJECTING

IN MY OTHER ARM BECAUSE I

PHYSICALLY NEEDED THAT TO

SURVIVE.

SO I HAD TO GO AND GET MY

DAUGHTER AND TAKE HER TO THE

HOSPITAL.

THEY ALMOST HAD TO

AMPUTATE MY ARM BECAUSE OF

THE ABSCESS, BUT THEY WERE

ABLE TO SAVE IT.

AND THEY PULLED MY FAMILY IN

A ROOM AND TOLD MY FAMILY

THAT OF THE STAGES OF DRUG

ADDICTION I WAS AT, I WAS AT

THE LAST STAGE BEFORE DEATH

AND TO PREPARE FOR MY

FUNERAL.

AND I REMEMBERED THAT LADY

FROM THE CHURCH.

AND I SAID, I WANT YOU TO

CALL HER AND TELL HER I'M

READY TO TALK TO SOMEBODY.

AND SO SHE CAME, AND SHE

BEGAN TO PRAY.

GOD USED HER TO SPEAK THINGS

INTO MY LIFE THAT THERE WAS

NO WAY SHE COULD HAVE KNOWN

ABOUT.

AND I BROKE.

I STARTED BALLING.

AND SHE SAID, AMY, ARE YOU

READY?

ARE YOU READY TO SURRENDER

YOUR LIFE TO CHRIST?

AND SHE SAID YES.

SO WE ALL WITNESSED IT.

THE WHOLE FAMILY WAS THERE.

I WAS CHANGED FROM THE

INSIDE OUT.

AND EVEN THOUGH THE PHYSICAL

ADDICTION WAS STILL THERE, I

CHANGED ON THE INSIDE.

AND SO IT WASN'T AN

INSTANTANEOUS DELIVERANCE

FOR ME.

I WENT TO MERCY MINISTRIES,

AND THAT'S WHERE -- I WAS IN

THE PROGRAM FOR A YEAR.

AND THAT'S WHERE I REALLY

WENT THROUGH INTENSIVE

COUNSELLING, AND I WAS ABLE

TO OVERCOME THE ADDICTION.

MY PASSION IS FOR THE LOST.

HE HAS CALLED ME TO BE AN

EVANGELIST.

AND MY HEART IS FOR THOSE

THAT ARE JUST LIKE I USED TO

BE.

THERE IS NOTHING ELSE

THAT CAN BE SAID, EXCEPT

THAT IT IS A MIRACLE.

BECAUSE IN REALITY, SHE

SHOULDN'T BE ALIVE.

WHEN PEOPLE LOOK AT ME

NOW, THEY CANNOT IMAGINE

THAT I CAME FROM THAT

LIFESTYLE.

BUT I TELL THEM, YOU KNOW, I

HAVE THE SCARS THAT STILL

REMAIN.

THE SCARS IN MY ARM.

TO WALK UP TO PEOPLE AND SAY

TO THEM, I WAS STRUNG OUT.

I WAS ADDICTED.

BUT THE LORD BROUGHT ME

OUT.

AND HE CAN DO THE SAME THING

FOR YOU.

THERE IS SUCH POWER IN

THAT.

Terry: THERE IS A SONG

THAT SAYS, HEAL THE WOUND

BUT LEAVE THE SCAR TO REMIND

ME OF HOW MERCIFUL YOU ARE.

AMY, WHEN SHE STARTED DOWN

THIS ROAD, HAD NO INTENTION

OF BECOMING AN ADDICT.

NO INTENTION OF SELLING OUT

EVERYTHING THAT SHE WAS TO

THIS DRUG THAT WAS

CONTROLLING HER LIFE.

YOU KNOW, SIN ALWAYS TAKES

US FURTHER THAN WE EVER

THOUGHT WE WOULD GO.

WHEN WE START OUT, WE THINK

WE'RE SO LARGE AND IN CHARGE

OF ALL OF THAT.

THEN WE FIND OURSELVES ONE

DAY AT A PLACE OF JUST

NEEDING TO BOW BEFORE THE

LORD OUR GOD, OUR MAKER, AND

SAY, GOD, I HAVE TOTALLY

BLOWN IT.

I HAVE MESSED UP.

THE THING THAT GETS IN THE

WAY IS SOMETIMES WHEN WE

HAVE SINNED LIKE THAT, WE

FEEL LIKE WE CAN'T COME TO

HIM BECAUSE HOW CAN HE

POSSIBLY LOVE US IN IT'S

MESS THAT WE'VE CREATED.

THERE IS GREAT NEWS ABOUT

THE LORD.

THE GREAT NEWS ABOUT THE

LORD IS HE DOESN'T SEE THE

MESS.

HE DOESN'T SEE THE

MISTAKES.

HE DOESN'T SEE THE THINGS

THAT HAVE BEEN DONE AGAINST

HIM.

HE JUST SEES YOU, AND HE

LOVES YOU.

RIGHT IN THE CRUMMY, BROKEN,

DIRTY PLACE THAT YOU'RE AT.

AND HIS PROMISE IS IF YOU'LL

JUST LOOK UP, IF YOU'LL JUST

CALL UPON HIS NAME, HE'LL

REACH DOWN INTO THAT MESS

AND LIFT YOU UP AND SET YOUR

FEET ON A ROCK.

HE'LLGEL GIVE YOHE'LL GIVE

YOU A BRAND NEW BEGINNING.

IT'S SO WONDERFUL.

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO MISS

THAT?

AND FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE

PRAYING, AS AMY'S MOTHER

WAS, FOR A LOVED ONE, AND

YOU DON'T SEE ANY CHANGE OR

ANYTHING THAT IS HAPPENING

IN THEIR LIVES, NEVER GIVE

UP.

NEVER, EVER GIVE UP.

GOD IS ABLE.

AND PRAYER IS OFTEN THE

BREAKTHROUGH POINT.

I JUST WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU

TO PRAY FOR THOSE WHO ARE

LOST.

AND IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO

IS FAR AWAY TODAY, THERE IS

A NUMBER THAT IS GOING TO

COME UP ON YOUR SCREEN.

YOU CAN CALL SOMEONE AND

SAY, I WANT YOU TO PRAY WITH

ME TODAY.

JUST LIKE AMY CALLED THAT

LADY AND SAID, I'M READY TO

TALK NOW.

THE PERSON ON THE OTHER END

OF THE LINE WHEN YOU CALL IS

SOMEONE WHO HAS ALREADY

SURRENDERED THEIR LIVES TO

JESUS CHRIST, WHO HAS BEEN

RESCUED OUT OF THE MESS THAT

THEY'VE CREATED.

AND THEY WOULD LOVE TO

INTRODUCE YOU TO JESUS

CHRIST TODAY, LOVE TO PRAY

WITH YOU, AND LOVE TO HELP

YOU WALK INTO A WHOLE NEW

FREEDOM AND A WHOLE NEW

BEGINNING.

SO CALL THAT TOLL-FREE

NUMBER.

IT'S 1-888-777-1999.

Gordon: ANONYMOUS

WRITES, "I HAVE TWO ADULT

CHILDREN WHO WERE SPOILED

WHEN THEY WERE YOUNG.

I WAS TRYING TO MAKE UP FOR

THE FACT THAT THERE WAS NO

FATHER FIGURE.

NOW THAT THEY ARE ADULTS,

THEY HAVE NO RESPECT FOR ME

AND ACT LIKE I OWE THEM.

IF I DON'T AGREE WITH THEM

OR GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT,

THEY STOP TALKING TO ME.

I LOVE MY CHILDREN, BUT I'M

TIRED OF BEING MISTREATED.

WHAT SHOULD I DO?"

Terry: ACTUALLY, BEING

TIRED OF IT IS A REALLY GOOD

PLACE TO BE.

BECAUSE NOT UNTIL YOU RUN

OUT OF YOURSELF, AND THAT

THING THAT KEEPS WANTING TO

DO THINGS THAT YOU THINK

WILL MAKE THEM LOVE YOU,

WILL YOU HAVE SUCCESS.

SO THEY DON'T TALK TO YOU

FOR A WHILE.

YOU'RE RIGHT, THERE WERE

SOME MISTAKES MADE EARLY.

YOU CAN CHANGE THAT UP RIGHT

NOW, EVEN THOUGH THEY'RE

ADULTS.

YOU NEED TO ALMOST BEGIN TO

TREAT THEM AS A MOM TEACHING

HER CHILDREN ALL OVER AGAIN

WHAT IS AND IS NOT

ACCEPTABLE.

DRAW YOUR LINES IN THE SAND,

STAND YOUR GROUND, AND PRAY

FOR THEM.

Gordon: BE LIKE THE

MOTHER EAGLE.

IT IS TIME TO DROP THEM AND

SEE IF THEY CAN FLY.

Terry: PUSH THEM OUT OF

THE NEST.

Gordon: WE LEAVE YOU

WITH THESE WORDS FROM

PROVERBS: "COMMIT YOUR WORK

TO THE LORD, AND THEN YOUR

PLANS WILL SUCCEED."

GOD BLESS YOU.

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