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Bring It On-Line: Marriage and Tithing

I am 24-years-old and a virgin. I have been dating a girl and we both agreed to hold off on having sex until marriage. However, I just found out that my girlfriend is NOT a virgin. Is it wrong for me to be dating her? I have been married to ... ... Read Transcript


TERRY: TIME TO BRING IT ON

WITH SOME OF OUR E-MAIL

QUESTIONS YOU ALL HAVE

SUBMITTED.

THIS FIRST ONE COMES FROM

RAPHAEL, RECENTLY I SAW A

REALITY SHOW CONTESTANT WHO IS A

VIRGIN.

I AM DATING A GIRL AND BOTH OF

US I THOUGHT WERE VIRGINS, I

RECENTLY FOUND OUT THAT SHE IS

NOT.

PAT: THERE IS NOTHING THAT

SAYS YOU SHOULD MARRY A VIRGIN.

PROBABLY INTERESTING.

THE FACT THAT SOMEBODY HAS A

LITTLE EXPERIENCE ISN'T

NECESSARILY A BAD THING.

I DON'T THINK YOU CAN SAY, IF

YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS PER MISCOWOUS

AND HOPPING IN AND OUT OF BED

WITH MULTIPLE SEX PARTNERS, IF

SHE HAPPENED TO HAD AN ENCOUNTER

WITH SOMEBODY SHE WAS DEEPLY

ATTRACTED TO, GET OVER IT.

TERRY: MANY TIMES PEOPLE DO

IT AND REGRET IT AND RECOMMIT.

PAT: VIRGINITY IS NOT A

DISQUALIFYING FACTOR IN TERMS OF

MARRIAGE.

IF HE IS IN LOVE WITH THIS GIRL

AND UNITED TOGETHER AND GOING TO

BE TOGETHER IN THE LORD, BY ALL

MEANS, GET MARRIED.

WHAT ELSE?

TERRY: ROSE SAID MY HUSBAND

HAS ABUSED ALCOHOL FOR MOST OF

OUR 13 YEAR MARRIAGE AND SOUGHT

TREATMENT AND HAD AN AFFAIR THE

LAST TIME.

AT ONE POINT HE WAS SOBER FOUR

FULL YEARS, I CAN'T TAKE IT, I

FILED FOR DIVORCE THREE MONTHS

AGO.

SINCE THEN HE HAS ASKED FOR

FORGIVENESS AND STOPPED

DRINKING.

IS IT A SIN TO GO THROUGH WITH

THE DIVORCE?

PAT: I DON'T THINK SO.

HE HAD AN AFFAIR.

HE HAS AN ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY.

I DON'T KNOW IF ALCOHOLISM IS A

GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE, AT THE SAME

TIME, IF I WERE YOU, KEEP YOUR

OPTIONS OPEN, YOU CAN GET A

DIVORCE AND SAY WE CAN STOP IT,

PERHAPS YOU'D BE BETTER TO HAVE

A SEPARATION RATHER THAN A

DIVORCE.

THERE ARE DIFFERENT GROUNDS OF

SEPARATION FROM BED AND BOARD.

LIVE APART AND SEE IF HE

STRAIGHTENS OUT.

GOD HATES DIVORCE.

ULTIMATELY, IF YOU CAN GET

SOMETHING REDEEMED IT WOULD BE

BETTER OFF.

TERRY: THIS IS BRIANNA, MY

BOYFRIEND AND I ARE EXPECTING A

CHILD.

AT THE MOMENT WE DON'T HAVE THE

MONEY TO AFFORD MARRIAGE

LICENSES, WILL GOD STILL BLESS

OUR UNION?

PAT: YOU DON'T HAVE A MONEY

TO GET A MARRIAGE LICENSE.

HERE IN VIRGINIA, MARRIAGE

LICENSE COSTS $30, IN NEBRASKA

IT IS $15, IN MINNESOTA IT IS

$100.

YOU MIGHT SAY BETWEEN IT IS $4

AND $15 IN MASSACHUSETTS.

WHEREVER YOU LIVE, YOU HAVE THE

MONEY TO GET A LICENSE, DON'T BE

RIDICULOUS.

TERRY: THIS IS VANESSA, I

HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND

FOUR YEARS.

WE HAVE TRIED TO DO TITHES AND

OFFERINGS, HE IS CONVINCED EVERY

TIME WE GIVE MONEY OUR MARRIAGE

FAILS.

HE SAYS NO ONE CAN TELL HIM TO

TITHE, IT IS HIS MONEY, WOW.

WHAT CAN I DO CONVINCE HIM?

PAT: I DON'T KNOW.

I THINK IF YOU CAN BRING THE

WORD TO HIM, LOOK AT MALACHI,

HAVE YOU ROBBED GOD?

SHOW THAT TO HIM.

SHOW IT TO HIM OVER AND OVER

AGAIN.

OKAY.

TERRY: THIS IS JUDITH, YOU

TALKED ABOUT ABOUT THE TREE OF

THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOOD AND EVIL.

YOU INSINUATED BECAUSE ADAM AND

EVE WERE TOLD NOT TO EAT OF THE

FRUIT THEY WERE TOLD OF RIGHT

AND WRONG, I WAS UNDER THE

IMPRESSION IT WAS THE ACT OF

EATING THE FRUIT.

I THOUGHT THEY DIDN'T LEARN THE

CONSEQUENCES UNTIL THEY PARTOOK

OF THE FRUIT OF THE TREE, CAN

YOU EXPLAIN THIS?

PAT: THERE IS A MAGIC FRUIT,

YOU TASTE FRUIT AND ALL THE

SUDDEN YOUR EYES ARE OPEN.

I DON'T BELIEVE THAT IS THE WAY

GOD DID IT.

I THINK THAT IS MAGIC.

OTHER MAKES MORE SENSE, THAT IS

THE TREE WAS THERE THAT THEY

COULD LEARN GOOD AND EVIL.

EVIL WAS EATING, GOOD WAS NOT

EATING.

EVERY TIME THEY WENT BY THE

TREE, THEY SAY IF WE DON'T EAT

IT IS GOOD, IF WE DO EAT IT IS

BAD.

THEY LEARNED GOOD AND EVIL

WITHOUT PARTAKING IN EVIL.

OTHERWISE, IT SAYS IN ORDER TO

LEARN SIN, YOU HAVE TO DO SIN.

THAT IS WHAT THAT OTHER THEORY

WOULD BE IF I AM GOING TO LEARN

ABOUT SIN, I HAVE TO ENGAGE IN

SIN.

YOU DON'T THINK GOD WANTS IT

THAT WAY, DO YOU?

TERRY: JUST BEING TOLD NOT

TO EAT IT.

PAT: EVERYDAY THEY WENT BY IT

THEY BECAME ESTABLISHED IN

RIGHTEOUSNESS.

JESUS KNEW ABOUT SIN.

HE NEVER SINNED.

HE KNEW ABOUT GOOD AND EVIL.

TO SAY IT IS A MAGIC FRUIT, I

HAVE TO TASTE IT.

I DON'T BUY THAT.

EVERYBODY IS ENTITLED TO THEIR

OWN OPINION.

TERRY: KATELYN SAYS MY FEE

FIANCE AND I SPENT A LOT OF TIME

PRAYING FOR EACH OTHER BEFORE WE

WERE ENGAGED.

WE BOTH BELIEVED GOD GAVE US

EACH OTHER.

WE SET A WEDDING DATE AUGUST

3RD, 2013.

MY FIANCE TOLD ME ABOUT A QUOTE

PROPHETIC DREAM AND TOLD I

WASN'T THE ONE.

RELUCTANTLY, WE CALLED OFF THE

WEDDING, WE SINCE HAVE BROKEN

UP, I THINK THIS DREAM WAS A

TRICK FROM SATAN OR LACK OF

DECERTAINMENT WHAT DO YOU THINK?

PAT: I TOTALLY AGREE WITH

YOU.

PRAISE THE LORD YOU ARE NOT

STUCK WITH THAT GUY FOR THE REST

OF YOUR LIFE.

TERRY: EVERY TIME HE HAS A

DREAM YOU ARE OUT ON A LIMB.

PAT: I HEARD OF SOMEBODY, I

WON'T NAME NAMES, WHEN THEY

HEARD WIND CHIMES THEY WERE

SUPPOSED TO MARRY THIS

INDIVIDUAL.

YOU NEED TO HAVE WISDOM.

THAT DOESN'T REFLECT WISDOM.

WHO KNOWS WHERE THE DREAM CAME

FROM.

MAYBE YOU ATE PASTA THAT

DISAGREED WITH YOU.

THIS IS NUTS.

THE

TERRY: YOU TALK ABOUT THE

COUNCIL OF MANY ENDORSING THINGS

YOU FEEL YOU HEAR FROM THE LORD.

PAT: BIBLE SAYS DON'T FORSAKE

WISDOM.

AS FAR AS YOU YOUNG LADY ARE

CONCERNED NOT BEING MARRIED TO

SOMEONE WHO IS FLAKY IS NOT A

BAD THING.

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