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Bring It On-Line: Miserable and Depressed

My sister left her abusive husband a year ago, she doesn't want to get a divorce. Now she's miserable and in a deep depression. What can I do to help her? It seems that she doesn't want to help herself. Can you tell me some strong biblical ... Read Transcript


Terry: TIME TO ANSWER

YOUR E-MAIL QUESTIONS, AND,

PAT, THIS FIRST ONE COMES

FROM A VIEWER WHO SAYS, "MY

SISTER LEFT HER ABUSIVE

HUSBAND A YEAR AGO, BUT

MOVED BACK WITH HIM BECAUSE

SHE FELT THE LORD TOLD HER

TO.

SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET A

DIVORCE, BUT NOW SHE IS

MISERABLE AND IN A DEEP

DEPRESSION.

I KEEP TELLING HER TO LEAVE,

BUT SHE WON'T.

WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HER?

IT SEEMS THAT SHE DOESN'T

WANT TO HELP HERSELF."

Pat: ONE OF THE MOST

DIFFICULT THINGS IS WE CAN'T

LIVE SOMEBODY ELSE'S LIFE.

YOU CAN'T LIVE THE LIFE OF

YOUR BROTHER OR SISTER OR

THE LIFE OF YOUR MOTHER OR

FATHER, OR YOUR CHILD,

ACTUALLY.

SO IT TEARS YOU UP.

I WOULD JUST SAY COUNSEL HER

AND LOVE HER.

THESE PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY

HEARD FROM GOD.

I DOUBT VERY SERIOUSLY IF

SHE HEARD FROM GOD.

Terry: WHEN YOU'RE IN

AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP,

THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG IN

YOUR OWN HEART AND MIND THAT

NEEDS TO BE HEALED.

Pat: YOU GET TO THE

POINT WHERE YOU THINK YOU

DESERVE IT.

YOU THINK YOU DESERVE TO GET

BEATEN.

IT IS THAT STOCKHOLM

SYNDROME THING.

IT IS TERRIBLE.

SHE OUGHT TO LEAVE.

IN MY OPINION, IT IS

CONSTRUCTIVE DESERTION.

SHE HAS CAUSE TO LEAVE.

BUT, AGAIN, WHAT CAN YOU

DO?

WELL, YOU CAN JUST PRAY FOR

HER AND LOVE HER AND LET HER

LIVE HER OWN LIFE.

IF THERE IS EVER A TIME THAT

YOU WANT TO LEAVE, SAY I

HAVE A HOME AND A PLACE --

Terry: YOU OFFER

SUPPORT.

Pat: RIGHT.

Terry: THIS IS DIANE

WHO SAYS, "OVER THE LAST

SEVERAL YEARS, MY HUSBAND

AND I HAVE DONE A LOT OF

TRAVELLING AROUND CHRISTMAS

TO VISIT OUR SONS AND

GRANDSONS.

BUT IT HAS JUST BEEN TOO

EXHAUSTING.

I WOULD LOVE IT IF OUR

ENTIRE FAMILY COULD VISIT

OUR HOME OVER THE HOLIDAYS,

BUT I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE

ANY HARD FEELINGS OR

MISUNDERSTANDINGS.

WHAT DO YOU RECOMMEND FOR

CHRISTMAS 2014?"

Pat: I DON'T KNOW YOUR

FAMILY, BUT I FOUND IN THE

OLD DAYS MY KIDS WOULD COME

AND THEY WOULD ALL BE WITH

US.

BUT THEY GROW UP AND THEY

HAVE THEIR OWN FAMILIES.

Terry: AND THEY WANT TO

HAVE THEIR OWN CHRISTMAS.

Pat: AND SANTA CLAUS

HAS GOT TO COME TO THEM.

Terry: UH-HUH.

Pat: SO YOU JUST HAVE

TO DO THAT.

AND THEN AS MANY AS YOU

HAVE -- WE, FORTUNATELY,

HAVE A NUMBER OF OUR

SPOUSES -- I MEAN THE

SIBLINGS LIVING IN OUR

COMMUNITY.

SO AT LEAST ON CHRISTMAS

EVE, WE HAVE A BIG, BIG

CHRISTMAS EVE DINNER.

BUT EACH FAMILY HAS ITS OWN

DEAL.

Terry: YOU KNOW,

SOMETIMES I THINK AS

GRANDPARENTS, TOO, AS MUCH

FUN AS IT IS TO BE WITH YOUR

GRANDCHILDREN ON CHRISTMAS,

YOU CAN VISIT EACH FAMILY

INDIVIDUALLY AND HAVE MUCH

MORE QUALITY TIME.

Pat: THEY DON'T WANT TO

DO THAT.

THEY SAY THEY'RE TIRED.

I UNDERSTAND THAT, TOO.

Terry: LET THEM COME TO

YOU.

Pat: I THINK THE

BIGGEST THING IS MONEY.

IF YOU COULD WRITE A CHECK

AND SAY, I WILL PAY FOR THE

AIRFARE, I THINK YOU WOULD

FIND SON AND DAUGHTER MORE

WILLING TO COME AND VISIT

GRANDMOTHER.

Terry: WELL, THIS IS

YVETTE WHO SAYS, "I WAS

SEXUALLY ABUSED AS A CHILD,

AND I HAVE HARBORED ANGER

FOR A GOOD AMOUNT OF MY

ADULT LIFE.

I FORGIVE THEM FOR WHAT

THEY'VE DONE, BUT I CANNOT

TELL THEM BECAUSE THEY'VE

SINCE PASSED AWAY.

I PRAY AND I HAVE FORGIVEN

THEM IN MY HEART.

BUT I WANT TO KNOW IF IT IS

OVER IN GOD'S EYES."

Pat: IT WAS OVER IN

GOD'S EYES THE FIRST MINUTE

YOU SAID, I FORGIVE THEM.

GOD CAN FORGIVE.

GOD CAN FORGET.

HE CAN'THE CAN, BUT WE

CAN'T.

WHATEVER THEIR PUNISHMENT

IS, IT IS THERE.

WHATEVER REWARD THERE IS, IT

IS THERE.

THEIR FATE IS SEALED.

I DON'T KNOW WHY YOU CAN'T

LET THIS THING GO.

YOU HAVE TO.

IF YOU HAVE TO GO OUT AND

SPEND TIME FASTING AND

PRAYING, SPEND TIME WITH THE

LORD AND GET TO THE POINT

WHERE YOU FORGIVE.

JUST THINK OF THE BAD THINGS

YOU'VE DONE AND JESUS

FORGAVE YOU.

SO YOU FORGIVE THEM, HOWEVER

AWFUL IT HAS BEEN.

AGAIN, SINCE THEIR DEAD, WHY

NOT?

Terry: AND SHE HAS THE

GREAT GIFT OF THE ABILITY TO

MOVE ON AND FREEDOM IN HER

LIFE.

THIS IS CONSTANCE WHO SAYS,

"I RECENTLY MOVED TO A NEW

COMMUNITY AND I HAVE

ATTENDED A FEW CHURCH

SERVICES.

THEY SEEM SO LEGALISTIC.

CAN YOU TELL ME SOME STRONG

BIBLICAL PILLARS IN MY

SEARCH TO LOOK FOR WHERE THE

LORD WOULD HAVE ME

PLANTED?"

Pat: FIRST OF ALL, DO

THEY HONOR THE WORD?

SECONDLY, IS THE CHURCH IN

GOOD ORDER.

AND MORE THAN ANYTHING THESE

DAYS, DO THEY TALK ABOUT

LOVE?

DO THEY HAVE LOVE IN THEIR

HEARTS?

DO THEY HAVE LOVE FOR EACH

OTHER?

DO YOU FEEL LOVE WHEN YOU

ENTER INTO THIS PLACE?

THIS LEGALISM IS NOT GOOD.

IT IS NOT GOD.

THE PHARISEES ARE THE ONES

WHO WANTED TO KILL JESUS.

REMEMBER IN THE TIME OF

JESUS, THEY EXALTED THEIR

CUSTOMS ABOVE THE SON OF

GOD.

WELL, IN THESE CHURCHES,

THEY EXALT THEIR CUSTOMS.

THAT'S WHY WE HAVE SO MANY

DO DENOMINATIONS.

EACH ONE SAYS, I'VE GOT A

REVELATION FROM GOD.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

YOU LOOK FOR LOVE.

AT THE SAME TIME, ARE THEY

TRUE TO THE WORD?

THEY USE THE TERM "SLOPPY

AGOPY."

YOU DON'T WANT THAT, WHERE

YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU WANT

TO.

Terry: YOU'VE GOT TO BE

TAUGHT WITH WISDOM.

Pat: TAUGHT WITH

WISDOM, AND YOU HONOR THE

WORD OF GOD AND THE BIBLE.

Terry: THIS IS ALREADY

WHO SAYS, "WHAT DOES IT MEAN

TO TERRY THE HOLY SPIRIT?"

Pat: IT MEANS YOU'RE

WAITING ON GOD TO DO

SOMETHING, AND IT TAKES SOME

TIME.

THE DISCIPLES SAID -- JESUS

SAID, TERRY, WAIT IN

JERUSALEM.

IT JUST MEANS TO WAIT.

WHEN THE DAY OF PENTECOST

CAME, THEY WERE FILLED WITH

THE HOLY SPIRIT.

IT MEANS TO WAIT.

Terry: WE THANK YOU FOR

YOUR QUESTIONS.

WE ALWAYS APPRECIATE HEARING

FROM YOU.

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