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700 Club Interactive: When Your Spouse is Out of Control - Feb. 26, 2014

Why prayer in the midst of a crisis just might save you and your marriage. Read Transcript


Gordon: HE HAD ALL HE

EVER WANTED, AND HE STILL

WANTED MORE.

WE HAD PLENTY OF MONEY.

WE HAD THE RIGHT HOME, THE

RIGHT CARS.

I WAS VERY SKILLED AT

LYING.

AND IT WAS NOT A VERY LARGE

STEP FOR ME TO CROSS WHEN IT

CAME TO INFIDELITY.

Gordon: HOW HE LOST IT

ALL AND GAINED IT ALL BACK

ON TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

ON "700 CLUB INTERACTIVE,"

WE USE TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY

FOR EACH OTHER AND EXPLORE

TOPICS THAT MATTER TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELL, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

MARRIAGE CAN BE TOUGH.

FROM BALANCING THE CHECKBOOK

TO RAISING CHILDREN,

CONFLICT WILL COME.

AND IT CAN BECOME A FIGHT

JUST TO STAY TOGETHER.

Terry: BRAD MYTHIAS

KNOWS THIS FAMILY.

HE HAD THE HOUSE, MONEY, AND

FAMILY, BUT IT WASN'T

ENOUGH.

AND WHEN CONFLICT CAME TO

HIS HOUSEHOLD, HE DECIDED IT

WAS TIME TO LEAVE.

I'M LAYING IN THIS VERY

DINGY-TYPE HOTEL, AND I GET

A CALL IN THE MIDDLE OF THE

NIGHT.

AND IT IS PAIGE.

SHE HAS JUST BEEN TOLD OF MY

INFIDELITY.

AND IT IS THE MOMENT THAT I

HAD BOTH FEARED AND LONGED

FOR.

EVERYONE DREAMS OF GETTING

MARRIED, AND SO AS A YOUNG

MAN, AFTER MEETING PAIGE AND

THEN THE COURTSHIP AND

REALLY GIVING IT EVERYTHING

I HAD TO WIN HER HEART, IT

WAS THE MOMENT OF SORT OF

FINALITY FOR ME TO WALK INTO

THE CHURCH AND ACTUALLY

MARRY HER.

I CONTINUED TO DO THE

ADAPTING THAT I LEARNED TO

DO AS A CHILD IN CHURCH,

WHICH ALLOWED ME TO BE ONE

PERSON WITH MY WIFE AND

SOMEONE ELSE WITH MY FRIENDS

FROM SCHOOL OR MY DRINKING

BUDDIES.

AT ABOUT YEAR SEVEN OF OUR

MARRIAGE, THE WHEELS KIND OF

CAME OFF OF THIS SORT OF

FAIRY TALE LIFE WE HAD BE

LIVING, WHERE I WAS

SUCCESSFUL, WE HAD PLENTY OF

MONEY, WE HAD THE RIGHT HOME

AND THE RIGHT CARS, AND YET

INSIDE OF OUR LIVES WE WERE

VERY DISTANT TO EACH OTHER.

I WAS VERY SKILLED AT

LYING.

AND IT WAS NOT A VERY LARGE

STEP FOR ME TO CROSS WHEN IT

CAME TO INFIDELITY.

I REMEMBER GETTING THE CALL

IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT

FROM A HEADHUNTER IN CHICAGO

WHO WAS LOOKING FOR AN

INTERRIM C.E.O. FOR A

DOT-COM IN WISCONSIN.

I REMEMBER THINKING THIS WAS

MY TICKET TO GET OUT OF THE

MARRIAGE.

I WOULD LIVE IN WISCONSIN

DURING THE WEEK, AND EVERY

OTHER WEEKEND I WOULD COME

HOME.

WE LIVED THAT WAY FOR

SEVERAL MONTHS.

AND IT WAS IN AN

ENVIRONMENT, IRONICALLY

WHERE THE AFFAIR HAD BEEN

OVER FOR SOME TIME THAT SHE

FOUND OUT ABOUT IT.

AND THAT'S WHEN THE MARRIAGE

BLEW WIDE APART.

ALL OF MY SECRETS HAD BEEN

DISCOVERED AND I DIDN'T HAVE

TO PRETEND TO ANYONE

ANYMORE.

I WAS SERVED WITH PAPERS,

AND THE PROCESS OF DIVORCE

BEGAN.

I REALLY EMBRACED NOT ONLY A

NEW BRAD, BUT A NEW BELIEF

SYSTEM ABOUT LIFE, ABOUT

GOD, AND ABOUT THE NATURE OF

THINGS.

I WAS REQUIRED TO TRAVEL

SIGNIFICANTLY AND BEGAN TO

FLY SEVERAL TIMES A MONTH.

AND I DEVELOPED A PRETTY

NASTY EARACHE, AND MY

EARDRUM RUPTURED IN A

LANDING, AND A SIGNIFICANT

BACTERIAL INFECTION

THREATENED MY HEALTH.

I FOUND MYSELF IN A HOSPITAL

AND DEALING WITH THE RISK OF

A BRAIN ABSCESS.

I REMEMBER LAYING COMPLETELY

STILL, QUIET, BY MYSELF,

ALONE IN THIS HOSPITAL AND

WONDERING IF I MIGHT DIE.

I HAD GREAT SUCCESS

FINANCIALLY, PROFESSIONALLY,

OWNED ALL OF THE RIGHT

THINGS, DROVE THE RIGHT

CARS, AND I WASN'T HAPPY.

AND THE THINGS I HAD DONE

WERE SUPPOSED TO MAKE ME

HAPPY.

AND I REMEMBER LAYING THERE

QUIETLY, AND VERY

COGNITIVELY KNOWING THAT I

MIGHT DIE, AND I WANTED TO

KNOW IF I DIED, WHAT WOULD I

MEET?

WHAT WOULD I FACE?

WHERE WOULD I GO?

I SAID A SIMPLE PRAYER IN MY

THOUGHTS, AND IT WAS SINCERE

AND IT WAS DEEP AND IT WAS

TRUE OF MY HEART.

AND THE PRAYER WAS THIS: IF

THERE IS A GOD, I WOULD

REALLY, TRULY LIKE TO KNOW

WHO YOU ARE.

SOMETHING SUPER NATURAL

HAPPENED TO ME.

I FELT LIKE I WAS EITHER

HAVING A VISION OR AN

OUT-OF-BODY EXPERIENCE.

I FOUND MYSELF IN A PLACE OF

GREAT DARKNESS, A PLACE

COMPLETELY ISOLATED FROM THE

REST OF THE WORLD, A PLACE

THAT FELT WITHOUT HOPE.

AND I HAD THE AWARENESS, AS

I WAS IN THIS DARKNESS, THAT

THIS IS WHERE I'M HEADED.

AND IT SCARED ME.

AND IN THAT MOMENT, I ALSO

SAW JESUS.

AND I HAD THIS FEELING OF

GREAT PEACE, OF HOPE.

AND A SENSE THAT I HAD A

CHOICE TO MAKE.

I COULD CONTINUE TO LIVE MY

LIFE FOR BRAD, OR I COULD

ADMIT AND SUBMIT TO GOD AS

JESUS, AND I CHOSE FOR

JESUS.

I REMEMBER GETTING OUT OF

BED, PUTTING ON MY STREET

CLOTHES, AND LITERALLY THAT

MOMENT DRIVING FROM

WISCONSIN TO MEMPHIS,

TENNESSEE, WHERE MY WIFE HAD

RELOCATED WITH OUR KIDS.

NO MATTER WHAT MY WIFE DID

OR DIDN'T DO IN RESPONSE TO

MY ACTION, I HAD TO SHOW MY

SAVIOR, JESUS, THAT I WOULD

DO WHATEVER HE ASKED OF ME.

AND HE WAS ASKING ME TO MAKE

THINGS RIGHT WITH MY FAMILY,

TO SAY TO HER THIS WAS ON

ME.

I MADE THESE CHOICES AND I

HURT YOU AND I WAS WRONG,

AND I NEED YOU TO FORGIVE ME

BECAUSE SOMETHING IS

DIFFERENT INSIDE OF ME.

AND AS I DROVE, I CRIED.

I WEPT.

TEAR AFTER TEAR AFTER

TEAR -- I WEPT MORE IN THAT

ONE DRIVE THAN I HAD IN MY

ENTIRE LIFE.

MY WIFE HAD BEEN A CHRISTIAN

AND HAD PRAYED FOR ME TO

FIND CHRIST.

SHE QUIT PRAYING FOR GOD TO

SAVE OUR MARRIAGE, BUT SHE

PRAYED FOR GOD TO SAVE MY

SOUL.

THE PRIORITIES CHANGED IN

MY PRAYER LIFE.

I HAD GOTTEN THINGS MAYBE

SIDEWAYS IN TRYING TO PRAY

FOR MY MARRIAGE TO BE

RESTORED.

BUT THAT WASN'T GOING TO

HAPPEN IF BRAD'S HEART

WASN'T SOFTENED, FOR GOD TO

REALLY SHOW UP IN HIS LIFE

AND TO BE REAL FOR HIM FOR

THE VERY FIRST TIME IN HIS

LIFE.

AND NOW I HAVE A MARRIAGE

I'VE ALWAYS HOPED FOR.

AND I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP

AND AN INTIMACY WITH MY WIFE

I WOULD HAVE NEVER DREAMED

POSSIBLE.

BRAD IS MY GREATEST

TESTIMONY TO THE VERSE OF

GOD SPEAKING THAT WE ARE A

NEW CREATION IN CHRIST.

JESUS IS THE REAL DEAL.

AND HE IS ALL ABOUT

REDEEMING OUR MESSES.

Gordon: AND HE CAN

REDEEM YOUR MESS.

HE CAN EVEN TAKE YOUR

MISTAKES, TERRIBLE MISTAKES,

AND SHAPE THEM ALL TOGETHER

FOR GOOD.

WHY?

BECAUSE HE LOVES US.

HE DOESN'T WANT US TO

DESTROY OURSELVES.

HE WANTS US TO BE WITH HIM

FOR ALL ETERNITY.

HE WANTS US TO HAVE LIFE AND

LIFE MORE A ABUNDANTLY.

SO OFTEN WE THINK THAT THE

RULES ARE THERE TO KEEP US

AWAY FROM GOOD THINGS.

NO, THEY'RE NOT.

THEY'RE THERE TO KEEP US

FROM VERY BAD THINGS.

TRAILS OF DESTRUCTION, WHERE

AT THE END OF IT THERE IS

ONLY DEATH.

THERE IS ONLY DESTRUCTION OF

EVERYTHING THAT WE LOVE,

EVERYTHING THAT WE HOLD

DEAR.

IF YOU NEED PRAYER, IF YOU

NEED A TURNAROUND, IF YOU'RE

LOOKING FOR IS THERE A WAY

OUT, IS THERE A WAY THAT GOD

CAN TAKE ANYTHING THAT IS IN

MY LIFE AND WORK IT TOGETHER

FOR GOOD, WE'RE HERE FOR

YOU.

AND WE'RE NOT HERE TO

CONDEMN YOU.

WE'RE NOT HERE TO JUDGE

YOU.

WE'RE HERE TO TELL YOU THAT

GOD LOVES YOU, AND HE CAN

TAKE ANY SITUATION AND TURN

IT AROUND.

ALL IT TAKES ON OUR PART IS

SURRENDER, AND NOT A PARTIAL

SURRENDER.

NOT JUST A LITTLE BIT.

NOT A BARGAIN WITH GOD.

IF YOU DO THIS FOR ME, THEN

I'LL DO THAT.

NO, NONE OF THAT.

A COMPLETE SURRENDER.

GOD, HERE IS MY LIFE.

TAKE IT, USE IT.

USE IT FOR YOUR GLORY.

POSITIVE AND HE'LL DO THE

SAME THING FOR YOU THAT HE

HAS DONE FOR OTHERS.

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS ASK.

SO IF YOU WANT SOMEONE TO

PRAY WITH YOU, THEN ASK

THAT, GOD, TAKE ME.

WILL YOU HAVE ME?

WILL YOU CHANGE MY LIFE?

CALL US.

1-888-777-1999.

WE'RE HERE FOR YOU, AND

WE'RE HERE FOR YOU 24 HOURS

A DAY, SEVEN DAYS A WEEK.

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS MAKE

THAT CALL.

WELL, COMING UP, NEWLYWEDS

WHO THOUGHT OVER MONEY.

HEAR HOW THEY FOUND PEACE

RIGHT AFTER THIS.

Terry: A SINGLE MOM,

YVETTE WEBBER HAD LEARNED

HOW TO GET BY ON A SMALL

INCOME.

THEN SHE GOT REMARRIED, AND

WHEN SHE AND HER HUSBAND

FOUND THEMSELVES IN DEBT,

SHE KNEW EXACTLY HOW TO GET

OUT.

Reporter: THE STRESS OF

RAISING TWO CHILDREN ALONE

WEIGHED HEAVILY ON YVETTE

WEBBER.

AS A SINGLE MOM, OUR

BUDGET WAS RENT, UTILITY

BILLS, AND FOOD.

THE KIDS WERE LITTLE, AND

THEY LIKED MACARONI AND

CHEESE AND HOTDOGS, SO WE

ATE A LOT OF THAT.

Reporter: DURING THAT

TIME, YVETTE WATCHED "THE

700 CLUB," AND LEARNED ABOUT

THE IMPORTANCE OF TITHING.

SO SHE DECIDED TO GIVE GOD

10% OF WHAT LITTLE MONEY SHE

EARNED.

THERE WERE TIMES THAT,

YOU KNOW, WE DIDN'T KNOW HOW

WE WERE GOING TO MAKE IT.

BUT THERE WAS ALWAYS A KNOCK

ON THE DOOR, AND THERE WAS

ALWAYS PROVISION, AND WE

NEVER WENT WITHOUT.

Reporter: A FEW YEARS

LATER, YVETTE MET AND

MARRIED TIM.

W FOR THE FIRST TIME WE

HAD MORE THAN WE NEEDED.

WE HAD A LOT.

AND WE GOT A LITTLE CARRIED

AWAY.

WE MADE HIGH CAR

PAYMENTS.

WE HAD CREDIT CARD DEBT.

WE JUST WEREN'T MAKING WISE

CHOICES.

Reporter: EVENTUALLY

THE COUPLE RAN UP $18,000 IN

KIMBERLY HUNCREDIT CARD

DEBT.

WE WERE BOTH FEELING SUCH

STRESS OVER THE FINANCES, IT

STARTED TO EFFECT US IN

TERMS OF HOW WE WERE GETTING

ALONG.

WE WERE FIGHTING A LITTLE

MORE.

Reporter: AND GIVING

WAS ANOTHER AREA THE COUPLE

HAD CONFLICT.

WHILE YVETTE TITHED OFF HER

TEACHER'S SALARY, TIM WASN'T

QUITE SURE.

I WASN'T QUITE READY TO

DO THAT.

I THINK I WAS JUST AFRAID WE

DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH.

WE HAD BILLS THAT SEEMED TO

BE INCREASING.

IT WAS HARD TO THINK OF

GIVING 10%.

Reporter: WHEN THE

COUPLE WATCHED PAT TEACH ON

THE LAW OF RESIPROCITY, TIM

HAD A CHANGE OF HEART.

WE WERE REGULAR WATCHERS

OF "THE 700 CLUB" FOR A LONG

TIME, AND I KNOW THAT THAT

WOULD PRICK ME, EVERY TIME I

WOULD HEAR THAT.

IT WOULD REMIND ME, YOU

KNOW, WE REALLY SHOULD BE

DOING THAT.

WHY AM I HOLDING BACK WHEN

IT DOESN'T BELONG TO ME,

REALLY?

HE GAVE IT TO ME FOR USE FOR

HIM.

SO UNDER THAT DIRECTION,

WE DECIDED THAT WE NEEDED TO

GO BACK TO TITHING NOT ONLY

MY INCOME, BUT HIS INCOME AS

WELL.

Reporter: AFTER THEY

BOTH STARTED GIVING 10% OF

THEIR PAYCHECKS TO GOD, TIM

LANDED A HIGHER PAYING JOB.

FOR MY PART, IT WAS

ALMOST EFFORTLESS, AND I

COULDN'T BELIEVE HOW GOD --

HOW OBVIOUS IT WAS TO ME

THAT GOD HAD JUST OPENED THE

DOORS.

AND THE LORD WAS ABLE TO

GIVE ME WISDOM TO MAKE WHAT

WE HAD GO FURTHER.

AND NEVER BE LATE ON A

SINGLE BILL.

Reporter: SOON YVETTE

WAS ABLE TO CUT HER WORK

HOURS IN HALF AND SPEND MORE

TIME AT HOME WITH THE

CHILDREN.

NOW THE CBN PARTNERS ARE

TRACK TO BE DEBT-FREE THIS

YEAR.

IT TAKES A LEAP OF FAITH

TO TRUST GOD.

YOU CAN GIVE TO THE LORD

FIRST.

YOU CAN GIVE TO HIS WORK,

AND YOU CAN TRUST THAT HE IS

GOING TO MAKE EVERYTHING

WORK OUT OKAY.

GO AHEAD AND TRUST GOD.

AND I KNOW IN MY OWN LIFE,

MANY TIMES GOD HAS ALWAYS

COME THROUGH IN HIS

PROMISES.

AND WE JUST HAD TO TRUST HIM

ON THIS ONE.

Terry: I LOVE THE

WEBBERS AND THEIR HONESTY

AND HOW THEY FINALLY GOT

WHAT GOD WAS TRYING TO SHOW

THEM, THAT HE WANTS TO BE

FIRST IN OUR LIVES.

HE WANTS TO BE A PRIORITY

WITH US, BUT HE ALSO USES US

TO SPEAK INTO THE NEEDS OF

THE LIVES OF OTHERS.

AND SO WHEN WE GIVE JUST A

PORTION OF OUR INCOME TO

WHAT GOD IS CALLING US TO

DO, BOTH OF THOSE THINGS

OCCUR.

HE SEES OUR TRUST IN HIM,

AND HE PROVIDES FOR HUS US

WITH MORE, AND WE CAN REACH

OUT TO THE LIVES OF OTHERS.

WE WANT TO INVITE YOU TO

JOIN "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

WE'RE AT WORK AROUND THE

WORLD REACHING THE NEEDS OF

OTHERS.

WE DO IT BY DOING WHAT GOD

ASKED US TO DO, GIVING A

PORTION OF OUR INCOME BACK

TO HIM.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE PART

OF "THE 700 CLUB," ABOUT

MEETING THE NEEDS OF PEOPLE,

ABOUT TEACHING THEM ABOUT

GOD AND ABOUT HIS WAYS, AND

ALSO PROVIDING WORK

OPPORTUNITIES, PROVIDING

CLOTHING, CLEAN WATER,

MEDICAL, AND ALSO FOR

ORPHANS AROUND THE WORLD, WE

ASK YOU TO JOIN WITH US.

IT IS 65 CENTS A DAY, $20 A

MONTH, AND IT WILL MEAN THAT

YOU ARE TOUCHING THE WORLD

WITH THE LOVE OF CHRIST.

CALL NOW, OUR NUMBER IS

TOLL-FREE.

IT'S 1-888-777-1999.

OR YOU CAN JOIN BY LOGGING

ON TO CBN.COM.

GORDON?

Gordon: UP NEXT, SHE

READ HIS MAIL ONLINE AND

BUSTED HER CHEATING

HUSBAND.

I WENT TO BED THAT NIGHT

KIND OF WITH A PIT IN MY

STOMACH, KNOWING SOMETHING

WAS UP.

WHAT DO YOU DO AT THAT

POINT?

I MEAN, I JUST SPILLED AND

TOLD HER.

AND SHE LEFT.

Gordon: WHY SHE CAME

HOME, AFTER THIS.

Terry: TIM AND

STEPHANIE SEEMED TO BE THE

PERFECT COUPLE.

EVERYONE THOUGHT SO,

ESPECIALLY STEPHANIE.

BUT SHE WAS CLUELESS ABOUT

TIM'S OTHER LIFE, UNTIL THE

DAY SHE READ HIS MAIL

ONLINE.

IT IS ONE OF THOSE THINGS

THAT FOR ME, IT JUST

CONSUMED ME.

BUT IT GAVE ME THAT ODD

FEELING OF PURSUIT.

Reporter: IT WAS ALSO

SOMETHING TIM KEPT SECRET,

HIS ADDICTION TO

PORNOGRAPHY.

I WAS FILLING A VOID,

RIGHT OR WRONG.

I WAS FILLING SOMETHING THAT

I NEEDED FILLED.

Reporter: IT BEGAN WITH

TEENAGED CURIOSITY AND A

MAGAZINE.

BUT THE IMAGES SPARKED A

DESIRE IN TIM TO SEE MORE.

BY THE TIME HE REACHED

ADULTHOOD, A BOY'S

FASCINATION HAD GROWN INTO

AN ADDICTION, FUELED BY THE

INTERNET.

IT STARTED SLOWLY.

AND IT WAS A SHORT PERIOD OF

TIME AND I WAS FULLY

ADDICTED.

Reporter: YET NO ONE

EVER SUSPECTED TIM HAD A

PROBLEM.

AFTER ALL, HE WAS A

CHRISTIAN WHO WAS ACTIVE IN

HIS CHURCH.

EVEN WHEN HE MARRIED, HIS

WIFE, STEPHANIE, HAD NO IDEA

HE WAS HIDING SOMETHING.

I KNEW WE HAD SOME

ISSUES, BUT I DIDN'T THINK

THEY WERE HORRIFIC, BY ANY

MEANS.

I THOUGHT WE HAD A PRETTY

HEALTHY MARRIAGE.

Reporter: TIM ALSO

TRAVELLED FOR WORK, AND AS A

MEMBER OF A VOCAL GROUP.

THE TRAVEL ALLOWED HIM TO

INDULGE IN HIS ADDICTION,

BUT ALSO OPENED THE DOOR TO

SOMETHING ELSE HE CRAZED,

THE ATTENTION OF WOMEN.

SO TIM PURSUED ONE AFFAIR

AFTER ANOTHER.

LATER THERE WOULD BE

DISAPPOINTMENT AND I WOULD

BE FRUSTRATED WITH MYSELF.

I SHOULDN'T BE IN THIS PLACE

BECAUSE I I KNOW IF I'M

HERE, I WOULD GO DOWN THIS

ROAD, AND I WOULD.

Reporter: EVENTUALLY

TIM AND STEPHANIE HAD

CHILDREN, AND STILL NOTHING

CHANGED.

TIM KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING

WAS WRONG, BUT THE ADDICTION

HAD TAKEN OVER.

I WAS SO GONE, I

JUST...WHEN THE DEVIL HAS

THAT KIND OF GRIP ON YOU,

YOU DON'T REALIZE IT.

AND SO YOU'RE JUST NUMB.

AND I WAS NUMB.

Reporter: ONE DAY TIM

WAS CONFRONTED WITH THE

TRUTH WHEN A FRIEND AT WORK

TALKED TO HIM ABOUT

SOMETHING HE HAD READ IN THE

BIBLE.

TIM'S GUILT BECAME

OVERWHELMING.

I THINK IT WAS JUST WHERE

I WAS AT THAT DAY.

I JUST TOTALLY LOST IT.

AND I LEFT AND I REMEMBER

PRAYING AND SAYING, GOD, I'M

DONE.

I'M DONE.

DO WHAT YOU WANT.

AND HE TOOK IT AWAY.

THE ADDICTION WAS GONE.

THE DESIRE FOR AFFAIRS WAS

GONE.

THAT, TO ME, WAS PROBABLY

THE MOST IMPACTFUL MOMENT OF

MY LIFE BECAUSE IT WAS SO

REAL.

AND THAT'S WHEN MY FAITH

BECAME REAL.

Reporter: BUT TIM STILL

HAD STRUGGLES AND CONTINUED

CHATTING ONLINE WITH WOMEN.

EVEN SO, HE WORKED ON BEING

A BETTER HUSBAND AND

FATHER.

STEPHANIE NOTICED THE

CHANGE, BUT SHE DIDN'T KNOW

WHY BECAUSE TIM STILL HADN'T

CONFESSED HIS SECRETS.

ONE DAY IT ALL CAME OUT WHEN

STEPHANIE CAME ACROSS A

Facebook ENTRY FROM HER

HUSBAND TO A WOMAN SHE

DIDN'T KNOW.

I WAS PRETTY CRUSHED.

I WAS DEVASTATED BECAUSE

THAT KIND OF CONVERSATION

SHOULD NOT HAVE TAKEN PLACE

BETWEEN SOMEBODY ELSE AND MY

HUSBAND.

THAT WAS TOTALING CROSSING

THE LINE.

THE WAY SHE REACTED TO

THAT WAS ABSOLUTE DISGUST

FOR ME.

AND SHE DIDN'T KNOW THE REST

OF THE STORY.

AND SO I WENT TO BED THAT

NIGHT KIND OF WITH A PIT IN

MY STOMACH, KNOWING

SOMETHING WAS UP.

AND SHE KNEW.

SHE KNEW SOMETHING WAS UP.

IT'S SO HARD TO TALK ABOUT.

SO I JUST SPILLED.

WHAT DO YOU DO AT THAT

POINT?

I JUST SPILLED AND TOLD

HER.

AND SHE LEFT.

I GOT THE KEYS AND I

IMMEDIATELY DROVE TO

CHURCH.

AND I SAT AT CHURCH AND JUST

CRIED OUT FOR HELP.

THE ONLY HOPE I HAD IS

THAT I KNEW MY WIFE.

AND I KNEW SHE LOVED ME.

Reporter: NOW STEPHANIE

KNEW.

AND I REMEMBER STANDING

IN THE KITCHEN AND TIM

SAYING, I'LL RESPECT

WHATEVER YOUR DECISION IS.

AND I SAID, WELL, I CAN'T

HAVE YOU LEAVE.

YOU NEED TO STAY HERE FOR

THE KIDS.

AND LATER THAT NIGHT, OUR

PASTOR SHARED WITH ME THAT

YOU NEED TO GRIEVE FOR YOUR

MARRIAGE.

YOU NEED TO GRIEVE WHAT WAS

AND WHAT YOU HAD.

YOU NEED TO GRIEVE THE FACT

THAT YOUR MARRIAGE WILL

NEVER BE THE SAME EVER

AGAIN.

BUT ALSO HE JUST SAID THE

SIMPLE WORDS OF "FORGIVE AS

YOU HAVE BEEN FORGIVEN."

AND I REMEMBER TELLING HIM,

I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN EVER

FORGIVE HIM FOR THIS.

Reporter: THE COUPLE

STAYED APART FOR 10 DAYS.

DURING THAT TIME STEPHANIE

CAME TO A REALIZATION THAT

AT THE TIME WAS VERY HARD TO

ACCEPT.

IN ORDER FOR ME TO HEAL,

I HAVE TO FORGIVE HIM.

IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THE

PAIN IS GONE OR I HAVE TO

FORGET, BUT I CAN START TO

HEAL NOW THAT I'VE GIVEN HIM

THAT.

AND THEN TOGETHER WE CAN

HEAL TOGETHER.

Reporter: THE PATH TO

FORGIVENESS AND REBUILDING

TRUST WOULD TAKE TIME.

HE HAD TO GAIN IT BACK.

YOU KNOW?

AND IT WAS JUST BY HIM BEING

OPEN AND HONEST, BY HIM

SAYING, HERE IS ALL OF MY

PASSWORDS.

CHECK MY E-MAIL, CHECK MY

Facebook, CHECK THIS.

ONCE WE WERE ABLE TO DO

THAT, THE PATH TO RECOVERY

WAS RAPID.

SHE ACCEPTED WHERE I WAS.

SHE ACCEPTED IT WASN'T AN

ISSUE FOR ME ANYMORE, BUT I

NEEDED ACCOUNTABILITY.

BY HIM BEING HONEST, IT

MADE IT A LOT EASIER FOR ME

TO TRUST HIM.

Reporter: HEALING AND

FORGIVENESS COME FROM GOD.

WITHOUT GOD, I DON'T

THINK WE WOULD BE SITTING

HERE TODAY.

I KNOW WE WOULDN'T BE

SITTING HERE TODAY.

WE WERE TAUGHT THAT

CHRIST HAD TO BE THE CENTER

OF THE HOUSE.

I THINK THAT'S BACKWARDS.

I THINK CHRIST HAS TO BE THE

CENTER OF YOUR LIFE.

Terry: THAT'S A WORD OF

WISDOM FOR ALL OF US, NO

MATTER WHAT OUR SCENARIO.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS

YOU'RE FACING TODAY, BUT IF

YOU'RE FEELING SWAMPED AND

OVERWHELMED BY

CIRCUMSTANCES, AND YOU'RE

SAYING, GOD, I WANT YOU TO

BE THE CENTER OF THIS

SCENARIO, IT HAS TO START

WITH YOU.

YOU CAN'T ASK HIM TO BE THE

CENTER OF YOUR HOME OR THE

CENTER OF YOUR WORKPLACE.

IT STARTS WITH YOU, WITH

YOUR HEART.

WITH YOUR WILL.

WITH YOUR MIND.

WITH YOUR SPIRIT SAYING TO

HIM I SURRENDER.

THAT'S WHAT WE SING ABOUT

WHEN WE SING THAT OLD HYMN,

"I SURRENDER ALL."

ALL OF IT.

NOT HANGING ON AND GOING

THROUGH PRETENSE, GOING TO

CHURCH AND PUTTING THE FACE

ON AND DOING ALL OF THIS

STUFF.

IT'S A LAY DOWN AND DIE.

THAT'S WHAT THE INVITATION

IS SO THAT THE LIFE OF

CHRIST CAN COME INTO THE

VERY CORE OF YOUR BEING AND

RESURRECT YOU INTO SOMETHING

BEYOND YOUR IMAGINING.

SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING

WHOLE.

YOU COULD SEE IN TIM'S LIFE

THAT ONCE THE TRUTH CAME

OUT, AND ONCE HE KNEW HIS

WIFE FORGAVE HIM, IT WAS

LIKE A NEW BEING.

HE WAS HIS OWN WORST ENEMY.

HE ALLOWED THINGS TO COME

INTO HIS LIFE AND HAD

NURTURED THEM, AND ALLOWED

THEM TO GO ON UNTIL SUDDENLY

HE WASN'T IN CONTROL

ANYMORE.

IT WAS CONTROLLING HIM.

BUT WHEN HE SURRENDERED,

WHEN HE LAID IT ALL DOWN, HE

HAD WHAT GOD OFFERS TO EACH

AND EVERY ONE OF US, A NEW

BEGINNING.

A NEW START.

A DO-OVER.

ONLY GOD.

ONLY GOD.

AND GOD WOULD HAVE DONE THAT

FOR TIM WHETHER STEPHANIE

HAD STAYED OR NOT.

BECAUSE IT IS NOT ABOUT THE

OTHER PERSON AND HOW THEY

RESPOND OR REACT TO YOU.

IT IS ABOUT WHAT YOU DO IN

YOUR HEART WITH THE LIVING

GOD.

SO TODAY DO BUSINESS WITH

GOD.

HE IS SAYING TO YOU, LET ME

IN, LET ME COME INTO YOUR

CIRCUMSTANCES.

BUT YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF

YOUR OPINION, OF YOUR

DESIRE, OF YOUR NEED, AND

SAY, GOD, ABOVE IT ALL, I

WANT YOU.

HE IS AVAILABLE TO YOU TODAY

IF YOU'LL DO THAT.

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CALL

UPON THE NAME OF THE LORD.

IT'S A RELATIONSHIP.

JESUS, I'M HERE.

I'M DONE.

I'M LOST.

I'M ASKING YOU TO COME IN,

TO FORGIVE ME, TO BECOME MY

SAVIOR, THE LORD OF MY

LIFE.

TEACH ME YOUR WAYS.

CHANGE ME.

I WANT IT ALL.

ASK HIM RIGHT NOW.

GORDON?

Gordon: ALL RIGHT,

WE'RE GOING TO PRAY FOR

FAMILIES AND MARRIAGES.

ROSE SAYS, "PLEASE PRAY FOR

MY HUSBAND, JOEL, TO GET

SAVED.

HE GETS DISTRACTED BY THE

WORLD, AND I'VE BEEN PRAYING

FOR HIM TO FALL IN LOVE WITH

JESUS."

JEN WRITES IN, "PLEASE PRAY

FOR PEACE IN MY FAMILY.

MY KIDS ARE SO JEALOUS OF

EACH OTHER, AND THERE IS

ALWAYS CONFLICT.

I WOULD LIKE TO LEAVE THEM

ALL AND NEVER LOOK BACK."

JEN, DON'T DO THAT.

JUST BEGIN TO LOVE THEM.

JEALOUSY COMES OUT OF

CONFLICT.

LOVE CASTS ALL OF THAT OUT.

SO WE'RE GOING TO PRAY.

WE'RE GOING TO PRAY FOR

FAMILIES.

WE'RE GOING TO PRAY FOR

YOU.

FAMILIES ARE IN A BATTLE IN

TODAY'S WORLD.

THERE ARE SO MANY DIFFERENT

DISTRACTIONS.

WITH ADULTERY JUST A CLICK

AWAY.

AND SO MANY THINGS TO TAKE

OUR EYES OFF OF JESUS, OFF

OF EACH OTHER.

AND SO MANY DIFFERENT

DISTRACTIONS, WHETHER IT IS

ALL OF THIS TECHNOLOGY WE'VE

SURROUNDED OURSELVES WITH OR

JUST THE BUSYNESS OF TRYING

TO WORK AND EARN A LIVING,

THE BUSINES BUSYNESS OF

TRYING TO LIVE LIFE.

GOD IS THE ANSWER FOR EVERY

FAMILY.

HE IS THE ANSWER FOR YOU.

AND WHEN YOU FIND HIM, THEN

YOU FIND THE PEACE THAT

SURPASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING,

AND NO MATTER WHAT THE

CIRCUMSTANCES ARE, YOU CAN

HAVE THAT PEACE BECAUSE YOU

KNOW THAT HE IS WITH YOU.

SO JOIN WITH US.

TERRY AND I ARE GOING TO

PRAY.

LET'S JOIN TOGETHER, AND

LET'S CREATE A GREAT CIRCLE

OF PRAYER.

AND LET'S PRAYER FOR ONE

ANOTHER.

JOIN US.

LORD, WE JUST LIFT UP

FAMILIES TO YOU, AND FOR JEN

AND FOR ROSE, WE ASK FOR

THEIR FAMILIES, THAT THERE

WOULD BE PEACE AND YOUR

LOVE.

AND YOUR LOVE DRIVES OUT ALL

CONFLICT.

WHEN PEOPLE ARE AWARE OF

THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU,

THE INFINITE RICHES THAT ARE

AVAILABLE TO EACH ONE OF US,

THEN ALL JEALOUSY, ALL

CONFLICT, ALL STRIFE, ALL

ANGER, ALL BITTERNESS, IT

ALL JUST FALLS AWAY.

SO, LORD, ENCOURAGE US

TODAY.

BE WITH US TODAY.

AND I ASK FOR YOUR

MINISTERING ANGELS TO

SURROUND THESE HOMES, TO

SURROUND THESE MARRIAGES, TO

SURROUND THESE CHILDREN.

AND LET YOUR PEACE BE UPON

THEM.

CAUSE YOUR FACE TO SHINE ON

THEM.

AND GIVE THEM YOUR PEACE.

FOR WE ASK IT ALL IN JESUS'

NAME.

AMEN.

Terry: AMEN.

Gordon: WE LEAVE YOU

WITH THESE WORDS FROM

PSALMS: "THE LORD IS CLOSE

TO THE BROKENHEARTED.

HE RESCUES THOSE WHO SPIRITS

ARE CRUSHED."

GOD BLESS YOU.

WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.

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