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The 700 Club - May 6, 2014

Suppressed memories of sexual abuse surface and cause turmoil when Gary is 45 and pastoring a church. Plus, Sharyl's infidelity and Lyndon's anger were too much to hold the Allen's flailing marriage together. See the miracle working power of ... ... Read Transcript


MARRIAGE, IT'S A 50/50

SHOT, RIGHT?

I STOOD UP ON STAGE AND

SAID EVERY ONE OF THESE

WRONG STATISTICS.

GET THE REAL NUMBERS ON

MARRIAGE IN AMERICA.

IT IS A WHOLE LOT BETTER

THAN WHAT PEOPLE THINK IT

IS.

AND HEAR HOW IT IS

CHANGING THE CONVERSATION.

PLUS, HEAR WHY THIS COUPLE

STUCK TOGETHER.

IF YOU WERE A MAN, YOU'D

HAVE A JOB BY NOW.

AFTER HE CAUGHT HER WITH

ANOTHER MAN.

AS SOON AS SHE SAID THAT,

ALL BETS WERE OFF INSIDE OF

ME.

*

Pat: WELL, WELCOME,

FOLKS.

WE'VE GOT A SHOW FOR YOU

TODAY I THINK YOU'RE GOING

TO ENJOY.

BUT WE'LL START OFF WITH THE

FACT THERE IS A VICTORY FOR

THE EXPRESSION OF RELIGION

THAT TOOK PLACE AT THE

SUPREME COURT, BUT IT WAS

ONLY BY A SINGLE VOTE.

THE COURT RULED IN FAVOR OF

PUBLIC PRAYER AT THE COUNCIL

MEETINGS IN A TOWN IN NEW

YORK.

EVEN IF THOSE PRAYERS ARE

LED BY CHRISTIANS.

Wendy: THE RULING COULD

HAVE A NATIONWIDE IMPACT.

BUT THE COURT'S CLOSE

DECISION COULD ALSO MEAN THE

ISSUE STILL ISN'T SETTLED.

JOHN JESSUP HAS THE STORY

FROM WASHINGTON.

Reporter: THE HIGH

COURT RULING CENTERS ON A

ACTION THAT DATES BACK TO

OUR FOUNDING, WHEN THE FIRST

CONTINENTAL CONGRESS IN 1774

BEGAN WITH CHRISTIAN

PRAYERS.

240 YEARS LATER, AMERICA IS

MUCH MORE RELIGIOUSLY

DIVERSE THAN BACK THEN.

PART OF THE REASON, AN

ATHEIST AND JEW CHALLENGED

PRAYERSMEETINGS

IN THE TOWN OF GREECE, NEW

YORK.

THEY CLAIM THE PRAYERS WERE

MOSTLY CHRISTIAN, MADE THEM

UNCOMFORTABLE, AND AMOUNTED

TO COERCION.

BUT IN THE MAJORITY OPINION,

JUSTICE KENNEDY WARNED

AGAINST THE COURTS BECOMING

CENSORS OF RELIGIOUS SPEECH,

WRITING "GOVERNMENT IS

PROHIBITED FROM WRITING

PRAYERS IN ORDER TO

PRESCRIBE A CODE OF MORAL

BEHAVIOR."

IT WOULD BE A FEW STEPS

REMOVED FROM THAT

PROHIBITION FOR LEGISLATORS

TO REQUIRE CHAPLAINS TO

REDACT RELIGIOUS CONTENT

FROM THEIR MESSAGES TO MAKE

IT FOR THE PUBLIC SPHERE.

THIS IS CAROL COUNTY, AND

WITH ITS FARM HOUSES AND

ROLLING HILLS, IT IS A

PEACEFUL PLACE IN BALTIMORE,

BUT THERE IS A STORM

BREWING, AND IT IS DRAWING

NATIONAL ATTENTION.

A GROUP OF RESIDENTS SUED

THE COUNTY BECAUSE THE

COMMISSIONER'S OPENING

PRAYERS WERE ONLY

CHRISTIAN.

THAT LED A FEDERAL JUDGE TO

BAR THE BOARD FROM PRAYING

"IN JESUS' NAME."

BUT HOURS AFTER THE SUPREME

COURT RULING, THE SAME JUDGE

LIFTED HIS TEMPORARY BAND

THAT HAD PROMPTED ONE

COMMISSIONER TO TAKE THIS

STAND.

I THINK IT IS AN

INFRINGEMENT OF MY FIRST

AMENDMENT RIGHT RIGHTS OF

FREE SPEECH AND FREE

RELIGION, AND I THINK IT IS

A WRONG RULING.

I'M WILLING TO GO TO JAIL

OVER IT.

Reporter: COMMISSIONER

FRASER APPEARED ON FOX NEWS

DEFENDING HER STAND.

JOHN 16: 24: "HITTER TO,

ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE

THAT YOUR JOY MAY BE FULL."

THAT'S JESUS SPEAKING AND

THAT'S HOW I PAY.

Reporter: THE COUNTY,

THE COMMISSIONERS AND THEIR

LEGAL TEAM WENT SILENT.

COMMISSIONER FRASER, CAROL

COUNTY, AND THE LEGAL TEAM

ALL DECLINED CBN'S REQUEST

FOR INTERVIEWS.

BUT PEOPLE INAROUND THE

COUNTY HAD STRONG OPINION.

IF CONGRESS DOES IT, IT'S

OKAY.

Reporter: YOUR THOUGHTS

ABOUT OPENING UP THE

COMMISSION MEETINGS WITH

PRAYERS?

I GROW 100%.

Reporter: AND WHAT

ABOUT OPENING THE PRAYER

WITH THE NAME OF JESUS?

YES, I AGREE WITH THAT,

TOO, ABSOLUTELY.

I THINK THAT'S THE PART

THAT MAKES IT FEEL VERY

SPECIFIC TO CHRISTIANITY.

IF IT WAS A GENERIC PRAYER

TO SOME HIGHER POWER, BUT

THAT AUTOMATICALLY EXCLUDES

ME.

Reporter: MONICA MILLER

REPRESENTS THE RESIDENTS,

AND SAYS THE SUPREME COURT

RULING WON'T MAKE MUCH OF A

DIFFERENCE IN THE CAROL

COUNTY CASE.

IT LOOKED AS THOUGH THE

COUNTY WAS MAKING AN EFFORT

TO BE ALL-INCLUSIVE.

BUT THE MAJORITY OF THE

PEOPLE ENDED UP BEING MOSTLY

CHRISTIAN.

IF THE COUNTY DECIDED TO DO

SOMETHING EXACTLY LIKE THE

TOWN OF GREECE, PERHAPS THAT

WOULD BE OKAY.

Reporter: JORDAN SECULO

DISAGREES.

IF IT IS A CHRISTIAN

PRAYING, WE CAN ABSOLUTELY

CLOSE THE PRAYER "IN JESUS'

NAME."

Reporter: JOHN JESSUP,

CBN NEWS, CAROL COUNTY,

MARYLAND.

Pat: THANKS, JOHN.

AS WAS POINTED OUT BY

JUSTICE KENNEDY, THE SAME

CONGRESS THAT APPROVED THE

FIRST AMENDMENT, THE SAME

CONGRESS, VOTED TO HAVE A

CHAPLAIN TO LEAD THEM IN

PRAYER.

ANDARAND EVERY DAY THE

CONGRESS OF THE UNITED

STATES OPENS WITH PRAYER LED

BY A PAID CHAPLAIN, WHO,

CERTAINLY IN THE EARLY DAYS

OF THIS COUNTRY, WAS A

CHRISTIAN BECAUSE THIS WAS A

CHRISTIAN NATION.

AND I DON'T THINK THAT WE

NEED TO ABANDON OUR

CHRISTIAN TRADITIONS BECAUSE

FIVE OUR 10 PEOPLE WHO

DISAGREE MIGHT

BE, QUOTE,"OFFENDED."

YOU GO TO SAUDI ARABIA AND

YEMEN AND HUNDREDS AND

HUNDREDS OF COUNTRIES IN THE

MIDDLE EAST, THEY'RE

ISLAMIC, AND THEY PUT PEOPLE

IN JAIL FOR INSULTING

ISLAM.

WELL, WE'RE A CHRISTIAN

COUNTRY, BUT WE'VE BEEN

DILUTING THAT, AND THE MORE

WE TAKE IT DOWN, THE SHAKIER

OUR FOUNDATION RESTS.

SO THE SUPREME COURT DID

WELL, BUT IT IS POINTED OUT

BY THE WALL STREET JOURNAL

TODAY, THERE IS ONLY ONE

VOTE.

ONE VOTE.

YOU'VE GOT A HARVARD LAW

PROFESSOR IN THERE WHO SAID

SHE IS AGAINST THIS.

YOU'VE GOT A LADY WHO HAS

BEEN ON THE LEFT-HAND SIDE

FOREVER, AND SHE IS MAKING

HER VOICE KNOWN.

THERE ARE OTHERS ON THERE

WHO ARE OPPOSED TO PUBLIC

PRAYING "IN JESUS' NAME" AND

WANWANT TO RESTRICT IT.

BUT THE MAJORITY, THANK GOD,

CAME DOWN FOR SAYING THIS IS

A TIME-HONORED TRADITION IN

OUR NATION, AND WE SHOULD BE

ALLOWED TO OPEN OUR

LEGISLATIVE BODIES WITH

PRAYER.

IT GOES ALL THE WAY BACK TO

THE FIRST AMENDMENT.

IN OTHER NEWS, AS ISLAMIC

TERRORIST LEADER IN NIGERIA

IS THREATENING TO SELL --

THAT'S RIGHT, TO SELL --

MORE THAN 200 KIDNAPPED

GIRLS.

EPHRAIM GRAHAM HAS THAT

STORY.

Reporter:ç PAT, THAT

NIGERIA TERRORIST GROUP,

BOKO HARAM, IS PROMISING TO

KIDNAP MORE GIRLS.

THE UNITED STATES IS HELPING

THE NIGERIAN GOVERNMENT

TRYING TO FIND THE GIRLS.

HEATHER CELLS HAS THIS

STORY.

Reporter:hON SOCIAL

MEDIA AND ON THE STREETS OF

U.S., PROTESTS FOR THE

KIDNAPPING OR GROWING.

THE CRIME, HUNDREDS OF

TEENAGED NIGERIAN GIRLS

TAKEN FROM THEIR SCHOOL IN

THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT.

THESE GIRLS ARE RARE.

THEY'RE HEROS.

Reporter: HEROS BECAUSE

IN NORTHERN NIGERIA, MERELY

GOING TO SCHOOL CAN MAKE YOU

THE TARGET OF TERRORISTS.

BOKO HARAM HAS CLAIMED

RESPONSIBILITY, AND IN A NEW

VIDEO IT THREATENS TO ATTACK

MORE SCHOOLS AND ABDUCT MORE

GIRLS.

BOKO HARAM HAS BEEN WORKING

FOR YEARS TO TURN AFRICA'S

MOST POPULOUS NATION INTO AN

ISLAMIC STATE.

IT'S NAME LITERALLY MEANS

"WESTERN EDUCATION IS EVIL,

IT IS A SIN."

GEORGE THOMAS HAS REPORTED

ON BOKO HARAM FROM NIGERIA.

NIGERIA.

HE EXPLAINED THE THINKING ON

CBN NEWS "NEWSWATCH."

George: THEY BELIEVE IN

THE SCHOOLS, IN THE

EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM IN

NIGERIA, THAT ISLAMIC

SHARI'A LAW MUST BE THE

FOUNDATION OF ALL

EDUCATION.

AND THEY FEEL LIKE WESTERN

EDUCATION, SCIENCE, MATH,

BIOLOGY, IS A SIN.

AND THEY BELIEVE THAT

TEACHING ISLAM AND THE QURAN

SHOULD BE THE PRINCIPLE OF

ALL EDUCATION IN NIGERIA.

Reporter: THE LEADER OF

BOKO HARAM SAYS HE IS

KEEPING THE GIRLS AS SLAVES

AND IS THREATENING TO SELL

THEM.

FOR THE GIRLS' PARENTS, THE

SITUATION IS A NIGHTMARE.

THE HOPE OF FINDING MY

DAUGHTER -- OR OUR

DAUGHTER -- LIES IN THE

HANDS OF THE GOVERNMENT.

BECAUSE FROM NOW ON WE

CANNOT DO ANYTHING.

Reporter: BOKO HARAM

MAY HAVE ALREADY SHIPPED

SOME OF THE GIRLS ACROSS THE

BORDER TO SELL THEM INTO

MUSLIM MARRIAGES.

THE TERRORISTS ORIGINALLY

KIDNAPPED NEARLY 300, BUT

POLICE SAY 53 ESCAPED.

HEATHER CELLS, CBN NEWS.

Reporter: PAT, THIS IS

A FRIGHTENING SITUATION.

Pat: WITHOUT QUESTION,

EPHRAIM.

THIS IS THE WORKING OF

ISLAM.

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, WE'VE

TOLD YOU WHAT ISLAM IS.

THIS ISN'T AN ABRASION.

THIS IS THE WAY THEY THINK.

IN THIS CASE, I THINK THE

GOVERNMENT SHOULD DO

EVERYTHING THEY CAN TO

ERADICATE BOKO HARAM.

IT IS ONE OF THOSE THINGS.

WE BELIEVE IN RELIGIOUS

FREEDOM, BUT THIS ISN'T A

RELIGION.

THIS IS A SYSTEM OF

GOVERNMENT THAT WANTS TO

IMPOSE A TYPE OF LAW, A TYPE

OF SOCIETY, ON THE WHOLE

NATION, AND THEY WANT TO DO

IT BY FORCE.

THAT IS NOT FREEDOM.

SO, AGAIN, WE'VE BEEN

OFFERING TO YOU SOMETHING

THAT PEOPLE HAVE FOUND

EXTREMELY EYE-OPENING.

IT IS CALLED "ISLAM, A

RELIGION OF PEACE OR WAR."

AND THIS WILL TELL YOU WHERE

BOKO HARAM AND OTHERS LIKE

IT GET THEIR INSPIRATION.

IT COMES DIRECTLY FROM THE

QURAN AND THE HADIF, AND THE

WRITINGS AND THE PRINCIPLES

OF THE EARLY DAYS OF ISLAM.

WE'LL GET THIS TO YOU.

WE'VE HAD THOUSANDS AND

THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE WHO ASK

FOR IT.

IT.

WE'RE GIVING IT AWAY FREE.

"ISLAM, A RELIGION OF PEACE

OR WAR."

HAVE YOU READ IT?

Wendy: YES.

AND IT WAS FASCINATING.

I THOUGHT I KNEW A LOT, BUT

I LEARNED A LOT MORE,

ESPECIALLY ABOUT MOHAMMED

AND HIS BACKGROUND.

IT IS SCARY, REALLY SCARY.

Pat: IT'S SCARY, AND

YET POLITICAL CORRECTNESS

IGNORES IT.

BUT WE'VE GOT TO TELL THE

TRUTH.

THEY'RE TELLING THE TRUTH

NOW OVER IN EGYPT, BY THE

WAY.

THE NEW HEAD HAS SAID

SOMETHING STRONGLY ABOUT THE

MUS MUSLIM.

MUSLIM BROTHERHOOD.

Reporter: PAT, THE

MUSLIM BROTHERHOOD WILL

NEVER RETURN TO EGYPT.

THAT IS THE DECISION OF

AL-ASSII.

HE REMOVED THE ISLAMIST

PRESIDENT LAST SUMMER.

HE IS ALMOST CERTAIN TO WIN

THE PRESIDENCY HIMSELF IN

HIS UPCOMING ELECTION.

HE SAID IT IS NOT HIM WHO IS

FINISHED WITH THE

BROTHERHOOD, BUT RATHER THE

EGYPTIAN PEOPLE.

HERE AT HOME, THE OBAMA

ADMINISTRATION IS CERTAIN

THAT GLOBAL WARMING IS

CHANGING THE DAILY LIVES OF

AMERICANS AND IT IS GOING TO

GET WORSE.

THAT IS THE CONCLUSION FROM

A MASSIVE GOVERNMENT REPORT

OUT TODAY.

THE WHITEHORSE WILL LIKELY

USE THE REPORT AS A BASIS TO

TRY TO REDUCE THE EMOTIONS

FROM COAL, GAS, AND OIL.

BUT SOME SAY THEY COST JOBS

AND HURT BUSINESSES.

BUT THE PRESIDENT WILL USE

EXECUTIVE ORDERS TO

ACCOMPLISH THIS GOALS.

AN ISRAELI ARCHEOLOGIST SAID

HE FOUND THE LEGENDARY

CITADEL BY KING DAVID.

THE ISRAELI-PALESTINIAN

CONFLICT IS WRAPPED UP IN

THE DISCOVERY.

THIS ARCHEOLOGIST FOUND THE

CITADEL IN AN ARAB

NEIGHBORHOOD IN EAST

JERUSALEM.

THE SITE ALSO REKINDLES THE

DEBATE ABOUT USING THE BIBLE

AS A FIELD GUIDE TO IDENTIFY

ANCIENT RUINS.

FOR MANY PEOPLE, THE

BIBLE IS A DUSTY BOOK

SITTING ON THE SHELF IN SOME

ROOM IN YOUR HOME.

BUT HERE WE ACTUALLY SEE

STORIES OF THE BIBLE

MATCHING THE ARCHEOLOGY IN

ITS PLACE.

Reporter: THE EXE

VATIO EXEVATION IS NOW OPEN

TO TOUR.

IT IS ALWAYS GREAT TO SEE

THE BIBLE COME TO LIFE.

Pat: IT DOES.

AND THAT PART OF THE WORLD

BELONGS TO THE JEWS.

IT'S THEIRS.

NOT A PALESTINIAN STATE, NOT

DIVIDED, BUT JERUSALEM IS

THE ETERNAL CAPITAL OF

ISRAEL.

AND WE NEED TO STAY WITH

IT.

Wendy: HERE IS A

QUESTION: WHAT PERCENTAGE OF

MARRIED COUPLES ARE HAPPY?

THE ANSWER MA MAY SURPRISE

YOU IN A GOOD WAY.

MOST MARRIAGES ARE STRONG

AND HAPPY FOR A LIFETIME.

THAT'S A TOTAL DIFFERENCE

FOR PEOPLE, TO SAY, MOST

PEOPLE GET THROUGH THIS AND

WE CAN DO.

Wendy: WE'LL BUST SOME

MARRIAGE MYTHS AFTER THIS.

*

Pat: YOU KNOW, THOSE

GEICO COMMERCIALS, 15

MINUTES CAN SAVE YOU -- WHAT

IS IT -- 15%?

WHATEVER IT IS.

AND THE ANSWER IS EVERYBODY

KNOWS THAT.

WELL, EVERYBODY KNOWS THAT

HALF OF ALL MARRIAGES END IN

DIVORCE.

THERE IS ONLY ONE PROBLEM

WITH THAT LINE.

IT'S JUST NOT TRUE.

IN FACT, THE DIVORCE RATE IN

AMERICA HAS BEEN GOING

DOWN.

PAUL STRAND HAS THIS LOOK AT

THE MYTHS ABOUT DIVORCE AND

THE REALITY OF SUCCESSFUL

MARRIAGES IN AMERICA.

Reporter:

HARVARD-TRAINED RESEARCHER

SHOCKY WORKS WITH HER

HUSBAND, JEFF, TO HELP

PEOPLE WITH THEIR MARRIAGES

AND RELATIONSHIPS.

AT ONE POINT THIS

ATLANTA-BASED COUPLE

BELIEVED AND SHARED

INFORMATION THAT MOST

MARRIAGES ARE UNHAPPY, AND

50% OF THEM END IN DIVORCE,

EVEN IN THE CHURCH.

I DIDN'T KNOW.

I STOOD UP ON STAGE AND SAID

EVERY ONE OF THESE WRONG

STATISTICS.

Reporter: BUT EIGHT

YEARS AGO, SHE ASKED FOR

SPECIFIC RESEARCH ON DIVORCE

FOR AN ARTICLE SHE WAS

WRITING.

NEITHER OF THEM COULD FIND

ANY REAL NUMBERS, AND THAT

KICKED OFF A PERSONAL AND

LONG CRUSADE TO FIND THE

TRUTH.

AND IT WAS A REVELATION.

FIRST-TIME MARRIAGES,

PROBABLY ABOUT 20% TO 25%

HAVE ENDED IN DIVORCE ON

STATISTICS.

Reporter: THEY POINT

OUT THE 50% FIGURE CAME FROM

PROJECTIONS OF WHAT

RESEARCHERS THOUGHT THE

DIVORCE RATE WOULD BECOME.

THE DIVORCE RATE HAS BEEN

DROPPING.

WE'VE NEVER HIT THOSE

NUMBERS.

WE'VE NEVER GOTTEN CLOSE.

Reporter: IMAGINE THE

IMPLICATIONS OF THIS: HALF

OF MARRIAGES DO NOT END IN

DIVORCE.

THEY NEVER HAVE.

SO THE CHANCES OF YOURS

MAKING IT AREN'T A MEASLY

50/50, BUT IT IS MORE LIKE

75%, 80%.

THAT CAN GIVE A LOT OF

COUPLES A LOT OF HOPE, AND

HOPE IS OFTEN THE FUEL TO

SURVIVE.

SHOCKY SAYS HOPELESSNESS CAN

LEAD TO DIVORCE.

THAT HOPELESSNESS CAN

PULL DOWN MARRIAGES.

WE HAVE THIS CONSULT

CULTURAL-WIDE FEELING ABOUT

MARRIAGES.

THE BIBLE SAYS HOPE

DEFERRED MAKES THE HEART

SICK.

AND WE ARE SO INFLUENCED BY

NUMBERS AND CULTURE.

AND IT IS BASED ON ALL OF

THESE DISCOURAGING BELIEFS,

AND MANY OF THEM JUST AREN'T

SURE.

Reporter: JEFF SAYS ANY

TIME HE TELLS PEOPLE ABOUT

HIS WIFE'S FINDINGS, THEY'RE

STUNNED.

THEIR MOUTHS DROP OPEN

AND THEY'RE SHOCKED.

AND THEY GO, I CAN'T BELIEVE

I BELIEVED THIS ALL OF THESE

YEARS.

AND I'VE HEARD IT SO MANY

TIMES.

AND I'VE HEARD IT FROM THE

PULPIT SO MANY TIMES.

THIS IS A GREAT CHANCE TO

STAND UP AND SAY, WE WERE

ALL FOOLED.

NOT ANYMORE.

Reporter: TO THAT END,

SHANTI HAS BEEN WORKING TO

SPREAD THIS NEWS TO PASTORS

AND OTHER LEADERS AS FAST AS

SHE CAN.

AND IT TOTALLY CHANGED THIS

PASTOR'S MIND.

I'VE SAID THIS AND I'VE

TAUGHT THIS.

I THINK IT IS SIGNIFICANT

AND COULD CHANGE THE

CONVERSATION FROM ONE THAT

IS, WELL, IT'S JUST THE WAY

IT IS AND HALF OF YOU ARE

GOING TO MAKE IT AND HALF OF

YOU ARE NOT, AND CHANGE THE

CONVERSATION TO KNOW

HISTORICALLY THE MAJORITY

HAVE MADE IT AND YOU CAN

MAKE IT.

PSYCHOLOGIST SAY IT IS

AFFECTS HOW YOU FEEL AND IT

LEADS TO ACTION.

SO WHEN OTHER PEOPLE ARE

ACCOMPLISHING SOMETHING WE

THINK IS HOPELESS, IT BIFS

US HOPE AND WE START ACTING

DIFFERENT.

Reporter: SHE SAYS A

MAJORITY OF US BELIEVE ONLY

30% OF MARRIAGES ARE HAPPY.

MOST PEOPLE THINK MOST

MARRIAGES OF JUST ROLLING

ALONGMENT AN ALONG AND

THEY'RE SHOCKED WHEN I TELL

THEM 80% OF MARRIAGES ARE

HAPPY.

Reporter: AND THAT

LEADS PEOPLE TO JUST SHACK

UP.

IF I'M JUST GOING TO BE

DIVORCED AND I'M NOT GOING

TO BE HAPPY, WHY BOTHER

GETTING MARRIED.

AND IT IS BASED ON A LIE.

Reporter: PASTOR FLOYD

SAYS THESE NEW FACTS CAN BE

A GAME CHANGER.

IT HELPS PEOPLE IN THE

CHALLENGING MOMENTS TO STAY,

IF I JUST STICK WITH IT,

THERE IS A CHANCE I'LL MAKE

THE DISTANCE.

Reporter: AND SHANTI

AGREES THE NUMBERS PROVE

MOST OF THE UNHAPPILY

MARRIED CAN TURN IT AROUND.

THE STUDIES SHOW IF THEY

STAY MARRIED FOR FIVE YEARS,

ALMOST 80% OF THOSE WILL BE

HAPPY FIVE YEARS LATER.

Reporter: THE GOOD NEWS

ABOUT MARRIAGE REVIEWS

MORE.

THE FACT THAT THE DIVORCE

RATE OF THOSE ACTIVE IN

THEIR CHURCH IS 27% TO 50%

LOWER THAN

NON-CHURCH-GOERS.

SHANTI'S HOPE IS ONCE PEOPLE

LEARN THE TRUTH, THEY WILL

SPREAD IT FAR AND WIDE.

WE THEE NEED TO CHANGE

THE PARADIGM, FROM MARRIAGE

BEING IN TROUBLE, TO SAY

MOST MARRIAGES ARE STRONG

AND HAPPY FOR A LIFETIME.

THAT MAKES A TOTAL

DIFFERENCE TO A COUPLE'S

FEELING THAT, YOU KNOW

WHAT?

MOST PEOPLE GET THROUGH THIS

AND WE CAN, TOO.

Reporter: PAUL STRAND,

CBN NEWS, REPORTING FROM

ATLANTA.

Pat: THAT'S

ENCOURAGING.

HAVE THOSE STATISTICS

FRIGHTENED YOU ABOUT

MARRIAGE?

Wendy: YEAH.

BUT SHE IS SAYING 80% ARE

HAPPY.

AND THAT IS AMAZING, AND

THAT IS GOOD NEWS.

Pat: AFTER 50 YEARS OR

SO, I MUST SAY THAT IT

WORKS.

Wendy: IT DOES, YEAH.

MARRIAGE IS GOOD.

IT IS A GOOD THING.

Pat: IT'S A GOOD

THING.

I'M VERY PLEASED.

THE LORD PUT MY WIFE AND ME

TOGETHER, AND WE'VE BEEN

TOGETHER FOREVER AND FOREVER

AND FOREVER.

FOUR CHILDREN, 14

GRANDCHILDREN, AND FOUR AND

A HALF

GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN --

Wendy: AND ONE ON THE

WAY.

Pam: AND

Pat: AND ONE ON THE

WAY.

IT WORKS.

I RECOMMEND MARRIAGE.

IT WAS ORDAINED BY THE LORD,

AND THERE IS NO REASON IT

SHOULDN'T BE A WONDERFUL

THING.

BUT I WOULD SAY TAKE YOUR

TIME AND MAKE SURE YOU KNOW

WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

WE HAVE SO MANY EXAMPLES OF

PEOPLE WHO JUST DON'T HAVE A

CLUE ABOUT WHAT THEY GOD

INTO, AND SUDDENLY THEY'VE

BEEN MARRIED TO THIS

MONSTER.

YOU DON'T NEED THAT.

BUT HAPPY MARRIAGE WITH

COMPATIBLE PEOPLE WILL TURN

OUT TO BE A REAL BLESSINGS.

Wendy: HE WHO FINDS A

WIFE, FINDS A GOOD THING.

Pat: AND FINDS FAVOR

FROM THE LORD.

Wendy: YOU JUST HEARD

MORE COUPLES THAN PREVIOUSLY

THOUGHT ARE STAYING MARRIED,

AND WE WANTED TO GIVE YOU AN

EXAMPLE.

MEET A COUPLE WHO STUCK

TOGETHER EVEN AFTER THE

HUSBAND LEARNED THAT HIS

WIFE WAS SEEING SOMEONE

ELSE.

AS SOON AS SHE SAID THAT,

ALL BETS WERE OFF INSIDE OF

ME.

AND HE PICKED ME UP AND

THREW ME ACROSS THE

BATHROOM.

AND I THOUGHT, OH, MY GOSH,

HE'S GOING TO KILL ME.

Wendy: WOW!

FIND OUT WHAT SAVED THIS

MARRIAGE WHEN WE COME BACK.

*

Pat: CHERYL ALLEN HAD A

HOT AFFAIR.

AND HER HUSBAND, LINDEN, HAD

A SHORT FUSE.

THE TWO WERE AN EXPLOSIVE

COMBO, AND ONE NIGHT IT TOOK

THE POLICE TO PUT OUT THE

FIRE.

OH, HE WAS FUNNY,

DIFFERENT, ARTICULATE.

DROP-DEAD GORGEOUS AND

INTERESTING.

Reporter: A COUPLE OF

YEARS AFTER MEETING AT A

BIBLE STUDY, LINDEN AND

CHERYL ALLEN WED WITH GREAT

EXPECTATIONS.

BUT DURING THE FIRST YEAR OF

MARRIAGE, BOTH DISCOVERED

THAT MARRIAGE WAS HARDER

THAN THEY EVER IMAGINED.

IT WAS TUMULTUOUS.

THE FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE

REALLY SET THE STAGE FOR THE

NEXT 12.

Reporter: BOTH WERE

CHILDREN OF BROKEN HOMES.

LINDEN WAS RAISED BY A

SINGLE MOTHER.

SINCE HE HAD NO FATHER AS A

ROLE MODEL, HE HAD BIG

QUESTIONS ABOUT MANHOOD AND

MARRIAGE.

MY IDEA OF MARRIAGE WAS,

GET MARRIED AND YOU'D BE

MORE OF A MAN.

MY MOM WAS A VERY STRONG

WOMAN.

SO FOR ME, I HAD A DIFFICULT

TIME RESPECTING MEN.

I WOULD REACT VERBALLY.

AND I WOULD CUT WITH MY

WORDS.

Reporter: DURING HIS

FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE,

LINDEN QUIT HIS STEADY JOB

TO PURSUE A CAREER IN THE

MUSIC BUSINESS, AND

PROVIDING FOR HIS FAMILY

BECAME HARDER AND FINANCES

WERE TIGHT.

I WAS JOBLESS AND NOT

FOCUSED, AND WE HAD A KID.

KID.

AND OUT OF MY WIFE'S MOUTH

COMES THE FOLLOWING WORDS:

IF YOU WERE A MAN, YOU'D

HAVE A JOB BY NOW.

AND I JUST WENT BANG

EMOTIONALLY.

I PUT UP AN IRON CURTAIN

AROUND MY HEART TOWARDS

HER.

Reporter: AS THE YEARS

PASSED, LINDEN AND CHERYL

HAD FOUR CHILDREN.

BUT THEY GREW FURTHER AND

FURTHER APART.

FIGHTS WERE PRETTY

INTENSE.

WE ARE LIKE OIL AND WATER A

LOT OF TIMES IN OUR

PERSONALITIES.

Reporter: 13 YEARS OF

MARRIAGE, THE FAMILY MOVED

TO NASHVILLE TO PURSUE

LINDEN'S MUSIC CAREER.

ALTHOUGH HE ACHIEVED GREAT

SUCCESS IN THE INDUSTRY OVER

THE YEARS, HIS MARRIAGE WAS

AT A BREAKING POINT.

I JUST STOPPED

EMOTIONALLY INVESTING IN HER

AND PROTECTING MYSELF.

I STOPPED TALKING TO CHERYL

BECAUSE EVERYTHING SHE DID

MADE ME IRRITATED.

AND THIS FAMILY WAS GETTING

IN THE WAY OF MY MUSICAL

PURSUIT.

I WAS HOPELESS.

MY FOCUS WAS, CERTAINLY GOD

WANTS ME HAPPY, AND I'M NOT

HAPPY IN THIS MARRIAGE.

SO THE ANSWER TO ME WAS

ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP.

Reporter: CHERYL

STARTED HAVING AN EMOTIONAL

AFFAIRç WITH A MAN SHE MET

THREE HER KIDS' AFTER-SCHOOL

ACTIVITIES.

I WAS WILLING TO PAY THE

COST TO DO WHATEVER IT TOOK,

IF THAT MEANT LOSING MY

KIDS, IT WAS THAT HUNGER,

THAT FANTASY, THAT WAS SO

STRONG IN ME THAT I WAS

WILLING TO LOSE IT ALL.

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WHILE LINDEN WAS TRAVELLING,

CHERYL INVITED THE MAN OVER

TO HER HOME, AND THE TWO

KISSED.

SO I CAME HOME, KIND OF

FEELING SOMETHING IS GOING

ON BUT COULDN'T PUT MY

FINGER ON IT.

IT ALL CAME TO A HEAD WHEN I

SPOKE TO HER BEST FRIEND,

AND SHE TOLD ME.

HE CONFRONTED ME.

I DENIED IT, NO, THERE IS NO

ONE ELSE.

AND HE KEPT SAYING, I KNOW

THERE IS.

I KNOW THERE IS.

JUST BE HONEST WITH ME.

AND SO I SAID, OKAY, YES,

THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE.

IT'S WHAT I WANT.

AND I THINK AT THAT MOMENT I

REALIZED IT'S REALLY NOT

WHAT I WANT.

WHAT I REALLY WANT IS A GOOD

MARRIAGE WITH LINDEN, THE

FATHER OF MY KIDS.

Reporter: LINDEN

REACTED CALMLY, BUT TWO DAYS

LATER, HIS TRUE EMOTIONS

ROSE TO THE SURFACE.

HE SAT DOWN ON THE LOVE

SEAT, WHERE I WAS LAYING

DOWN, AND HE SAID, WHAT ARE

YOU THINKING ABOUT?

I'M THINKING ABOUT HIM.

AS SOON AS SHE SAID THAT,

ALL BETS WERE OFF INSIDE OF

ME.

Reporter: CHERYL

QUICKLY LEFT THE ROOM TO

AVOID LINDEN'S

CONFRONTATION.

I WAS WASHING MY FACE,

AND HE CAME IN OUR BEDROOM

AND WENT INTO THE BATHROOM,

AND MOVED ME OUT OF THE WAY

AND KIND OF HELD MY ARM.

AND HE SAID, WE NEED TO

TALKMEN TALK.

AND I WAS JUST, LIKE, OH,

NO, IT'S OVER.

AND WHEN SHE SAID THOSE

WORDS, IN SLOW MOTION, IN MY

BRAIN, I'M GETTING A

DIVORCE, IT'S GOING AWAY,

SHE SAYS IT IS DONE, AND I

PANICKED.

AND I SAID, NO, YOU'RE NOT.

AND HE PICKED ME UP AND

THREW ME ACROSS THE

BATHROOM.

I HIT MY HEAD ON THE WALL.

AND I'M ON MY HANDS AND

KNEES, GOING, OH, MY GOSH,

HE'S GOING TO KILL ME.

CHERYL TRIED CALLING 9-1-1

TWICE, BUT BOTH TIMES LINDEN

HUNG UP THE PHONE IN RAGE.

IN A LAST RESORT, CHERYL

CALLED OUT FOR HER OLDEST

SON.

I SAID, LEYTON, LEYTON --

I WAS SCREAMING.

AND HE CAME AND SAW HIS MOM

WITH A BIG KNOT ON HER HEAD,

AND I SAID DA DADDY JUST

PUSHED ME AGAINST THE WALL,

AND HIS WORLD JUST CAME

CRUMBLING DOWN.

IT WAS THAT MOMENT THAT I

REALIZED, I'VE GOT TO TURN

THIS TRAIN AROUND.

Reporter: THE POLICE

ARRIVED AND SAW CHERYL'S

INJURIES, AND THEY ARRESTED

LINDEN.

WHEN I WAS IN AN

ISOLATION TANK, ON MY OWN, I

COULD FINALLY HEAR THE HOLY

SPIRIT SAY TO ME, ARE YOU

READY TO DO IT MY WAY NOW?

AND I SAID, YES, LORD,

HELP.

Reporter: AFTER 12

HOURS IN JAIL, LINDEN WAS

RELEASED.

FOR A MONTH LINDEN FASTED

AND PRAYED THAT GOD WOULD

HEAL HIM AND RESTORE HIS

MARRIAGE.

AND WHAT MOTIVATED ME WAS

TO HONOR GOD, TO HONOR GOD

AND TO HONOR MARRIAGE.

Reporter: AROUND THE

SAME TIME, CHERYL STARTED

READING BIBLE PASSAGES ON

MARRIAGE AND RESPECT.

HE STARTED ASKING FOR

FORGIVENESS FOR CERTAIN

THINGS, AND IT OPENED MY

EYES AND GOT MY HOPE METER

GOING AGAIN.

HERE WE ARE TRYING TO

MAKE A NEW DIRECTION,

DRAWING THAT LINE IN THE

SAND, AND FORGIVENESS AND

ALL OF GOD'S WORD HAD

EVERYTHING TO DO WITH IT.

Reporter: THEY BOTH

RECOMMITTED THEIR LIVES TO

GOD.

ONE MONTH AFTER LINDEN'S

TRIP TO JAIL, THE TWO TOOK A

COUPLE'S CRUISE TO THE

BAHAMAS.

THIS LADY CAME UP TO US,

AND WE WERE JUST HAVING

FUN.

AND SHE SAID, HOW LONG HAVE

YOU GUYS BEEN MARRIED?

YOU LOOK LIA LIKE YOUR

HONEYMOONERS, AND THAT WAS

THE POWER OF GOD.

Reporter: TODAY, LINDEN

AND CHERYL ARE IN FULL-TIME

MINISTRY AND COUNSEL YOUNG

COUPLES.

THIS YEAR THEIR OLDEST SON,

LEYTON, MARRIED.

PULLING US BACK TOGETHER,

CREATED A FOUNDATION FOR OUR

SON TO LAUNCH INTO HIS

MARRIAGE.

WHAT GREATER THING CAN WE

GIVE HIM THAN HIS PARENTS

BEING INTACT, IN LOVE, IN

MARRIAGE.

WHEN WE JUST BELIEVED GOD

AT HIS WORD, THAT'S WHEN WE

SAW THE EXPEDENTIAL CHANGE

IN OUR RELATIONSHIP.

THAT'S WHEN WE LEARNED HOW

TO BE A WIFE, HOW TO BE A

HUSBAND.

WHEN WE LOOKED AT WHAT THE

WORD SAID AND FOLLOWED WHAT

IT SAID, HE IS THE ANSWER.

Pat: THE ANSWER IS TO

HAVE JESUS CHRIST AS THE

CENTER OF YOUR MARRIAGE, AND

TO SURRENDER YOURSELVES TO

HIM.

AND THEN IN HIM THERE IS A

MAGNETISM, A CLUE, A

ROMANCE, A BLESSING, A

WHATEVER, THAT WILL DRAW YOU

TOGETHER AND KEEP YOU

TOGETHER.

IT IS IN HIM, WHERE THE

TRUTH COMES OUT.

AND I WANT TO OFFER

SOMETHING TO YOU.

IT'S CALLED "LOVE AND

MARRIAGE."

IT'S A BOOKLET THAT MIGHT

HELP YOU IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

YOU MIGHT WANT TO READ IT.

AND MORE THAN ANYTHING, YOU

WANT TO SAY, LORD, I WANT MY

MARRIAGE TO BE THE WAY YOU

WANT IT TO BE.

AND I'LL GIVE YOU THIS IF

YOU JUST CALL,

1-800-759-0700.

OR YOU CAN LOG ON TO

CBN.COM.

AND WE'LL TRY TO GET THIS

BOOKLET TO YOU.

IT'S FREE.

ANY WAY WE CAN HELP YOU.

BUT GOD'S WAY -- THE BIBLE

SAYS I HATE DIVORCE.

I HATE DIVORCE.

I HATE PUTTING IT AWAY.

LET'S NOT MAKE GOD HATE US.

WENDY?

Wendy: THANKS, PAT.

STILL TO COME, WE'VE GOT

YOUR E-MAIL QUESTIONS.

BETTY SAYS, "WHEN SOMEONE

DIES, DOES THEIR SPIRIT GO

TO HEAVEN WITH JESUS, OR DO

THEY SLEEP AS THEY WAIT FOR

JESUS TO RETURN?"

WE'LL ANSWER THAT AND MUCH

MORE LATER, ON TODAY'S

SHOW.

COMING UP LATER...

ALL OF A SUDDEN I WAS

VERY SMALL.

Wendy: A FLASHBACK OF A

HIDDEN MEMORY.

DO YOU THINK THIS REALLY

HAPPENED?

Wendy: COMES BACK AFTER

40 YEARS.

AND I THOUGHT, AM I

CRAZY?

AM I CRAZY?

WELCOME BACK TO

WASHINGTON FOR THIS CBN NEWS

BREAK.

STRICT ISLAMIC SHARI'A LAW

IS BECOMING THE LAW OF THE

LAND IN THE SOUTHEAST ASIAN

NATION OF BRUNI.

THEY CAN FINE OR JAIL

CITIZENS THERE FOR ISLAMIC

OFFENSES, LIKE NOT

PARTICIPATING IN ISLAMIC

PRAYERS, AND GETTING

PREGNANT OUT OF WEDLOCK.

AND FLOGGING AND AMPUTATION

ARE BEING INTRODUCED AS

FORMS OF PUNISHMENT.

THE WORLD HEALTH

ORGANIZATION HAS DECLARED

THE SPREAD OF POLIO AN

EMERGENCY.

THERE ARE OUTBREAKS ACROSS

AT LEAST 10 COUNTRIES, IN

ASIA, AFRICA, AND THE MIDDLE

EAST.

IT REQUIRES A COORDINATED

INTERNATIONAL RESPONSE.

SOME EXPERTS SAY IT COULD

SPREAD TO THE U.S. AS WELL

BY PEOPLE WHO TRAVEL

INTERNATIONALLY.

YOU CAN ALWAYS GET THE

LATEST FROM CBN NEWS BY

GOING TO OUR WEBSITE AT

CBNNEWS.COM.

PAT AND WENDY WILL BE BACK

WITH MORE OF "THE 700 CLUB"

RIGHT AFTER THIS.

Pat: REGENT, IT'S A

FANTASTIC UNIVERSITY.

WE JUST FINISHED A

GRADUATION, 1438 GRADUATES.

IT IS JUST AMAZING HOW IT IS

GROWING AND THIS MOOK, MASS

OPEN ONLINE COURSE, HAS

ENROLLED STUDENTS FROM 150

NATIONS.

YOU CAN PARTICIPATE.

AND IT'S CALLED LUX VERA.

LIGHT AND TRUTH.

LUXVERA.EDU.

OR LUXVERAREGENT.EDU.

RIGHT NOW THOSE COURSES ARE

FREE AND THEY'RE FANTASTIC.

THAT'S ONE ASPECT OF REGENT

UNIVERSITY.

IT HAS EIGHT PRESTIGIOUS

ACCREDITATIONS.

AND A NUMBER OF DOCTORAL

COURSES.

Wendy: 1400.

AND YOU CAN TELL EACH ONE OF

THEM.

WE'VE GOT SOME GREAT

QUESTIONS.

BETTY WRITES, "WHEN SOMEONE

PASSES AWAY, DOES THEIR

SPIRIT GO TO HEAVEN WITH

JESUS, OR DOES A PERSON

SLEEP UNTIL JESUS COMES TO

EARTH AGAIN?"

Pat: BETTY, THANK YOU

FOR THAT QUESTION.

THERE IS NOT WORD IN THE

BIBLE ABOUT SOUL SLEEP.

PAUL SAID, "I'M IN A STRAIT

STRAIT BETWIX TWO."

THERE IS NO INTERMEDIATE

STATE.

IT IS NOW YOU LIVE, AND THEN

YOU'RE EITHER WITH HIM OR

YOU'RE IN THE OTHER A

PLACE.

Wendy: MARIA WRITES, "I

BOUGHT A PIECE OF REAL AT&T

AN ESTATE AND NOW I NEED TO

STEL IT, BUT IT HAS BEEN ON

SALE FOR TWO YEARS AND

NOTHING HAS HAPPENED.

SHOULD I JUST LET IT GO?

ANY ADVICE YOU CAN GIVE IS

APPRECIATED."

Pat: I DON'T KNOW

ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR

SITUATION.

YOU'RE ASKING ME TO MAKE AN

OPINIOOPINION WITHOUT

ADEQUATE FACTS.

I WOULD GET YOURSELF A

REALTOR.

YOU NEED TO MARKET THAT

THING.

AS THEY SAY, PUT SOME

LIPSTICK ON THE PIG AND SEE

WHAT YOU CAN DO WITH IT.

Wendy: LAKE-FRONT

LAND --

Pat: THAT'S PRETTY

VALUABLE.

PLAY WITH IT, AND FIND OUT

FROM SOMEBODY WHO KNOWS THE

MARKET.

ARE YOU PRICING IT TOO

HIGH?

MAYBE YOU NEED TO DOLL IT

UP.

HOW DO YOU MAKE IT PRETTY.

THEY CALL IT CURB APPEAL TO

MAKE IT DESIRABLE.

Wendy: A VIEWER WRITES,

"I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR

ALMOST NINE YEARS.

WE HAVE A FABULOUS

RELATIONSHIP WITH TYPICAL

UPS AND DOWNS.

HOWEVER, OVER OUR MARRIAGE,

THERE HAVE BEEN TIMES WHEN I

FEEL GOD TELLING ME TO WATCH

OUT, PAY ATTENTION AND BE

AWARE OF MY HUSBAND, AND HIM

POSSIBLY GETTING TOO CLOSE

TO OTHER WOMEN EMOTIONALLY,

FLIRTACIOUSLY.

I DO NOT FEEL HE HAS CHEATED

ON ME, YET HAD I NOT BEEN

LISTENING TO GOD'S VOICE AND

TALKED TO MY HUSBAND AND

PRAYED ABOUT IT, I THINK MY

HUSBAND MAY HAVE BEEN

INVOLVED IN AN ADULTEROUS

SITUATION.

DO YOU THINK I SHOULD BE

LISTENING FOR THAT?"

Pat: YOU START SENDING

PROJECTIONS TO YOUR HUSBAND

IN YOUR MIND, I'M GOING TO

CATCH YOU, I'M GOING TO

CATCH YOU, I'M WATCHING OVER

YOU -- COME OFF IT.

THE PROJECTION YOU WANT TO

HAVE IS, I LOVE YOU AND

WE'RE TOGETHER, AND WE'RE

GOING TO BE TOGETHER

FOREVER.

AND OUR MARRIAGE IS GOING TO

GET STRONGER.

THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT TO

PROJECT: I LOVE YOU AND I

WANT TO MAKE MY MARRIAGE

STRONGER.

ADULTERY, PLEASE, THAT'S NOT

THE ATTITUDE YOU OUT TO

HAVE.

Wendy: AMBER WRITES, "I

RECENTLY GOT A DIVORCE FOR

THE SAFETY OF ME AND MY

CHILDREN.

MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE THREE

GIRLS, RANGING IN AGES FOUR

YEARS OLD TO TWO MONTHS

OLD.

MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN BATTLING

WITH DRUG AND ALCOHOL

ADDICTION AND HAS BEEN

ABUSIVE TO ME, AND I HAD TO

SECURE A RESTRAINING ORDER

AGAINST HIM.

I LOVE HIM DEARLY AND PRAY

FOR HIM CONSTANTLY, BUT KNOW

THIS HAS GONE ON TOO LONG.

IS IT FOOLISH OF ME TO HOPE

AND PRAY WE MAY BE TOGETHER

AS A FAMILY AGAIN?"

Pat: HOW CAN I TELL YOU

WHAT IS FOOLISH FOR YOU TO

PRAY FOR.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S IN YOUR

HEART AND WHAT'S IN YOUR

HUSBAND'S HEART.

HE HAS BROKEN THE

RELATIONSHIP.

HE HAS MADE IT IMPOSSIBLE

FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN TO

LIVE WITH HIM.

HE IS DANGEROUS, AND YOU

REALLY SHOULD GET A

RESTRAINING ORDER, AND YOU

SHOULD GET A LEGAL DEGREE OF

SEPARATION.

AND YOU CAN TELL HIM, IF YOU

WANT TO BE REDEMPTIVE, I

LOVE YOU, BUT THIS THING IS

TOO SCARY.

AND UNLESS YOU GET TREATMENT

AND YOU GET SOBER AND YOU

GET CLEAN AND YOU'RE CLEAN

AND SOBER FOR A YEAR, OR

WHATEVER PERIOD, I CAN'T

LIVE WITH YOU.

BUT IN THE MEANTIME, MOVE

OUT.

YOU'RE IN DANGER.

Wendy: JOHN WRITES,

"WITH MOTHER'S DAY COMING

UP, I HOPE YOU ADDRESS THIS

ISSUE: I WAS ABUSED BY MY

MOM GROWING UP, AND SHE DID

THIS DECEITFULLY, WHILE MY

DAD WAS AT WORK.

SHE WAS JUST AS MANIPULATIVE

AS JACOB AND ESAU'S MOM.

MY DAD HAD NO IDEA WHAT I

WAS GOING ON.

YEARS LATER I TOLD HIM.

MY FATHER WAS NOT AT FAULT,

AND DID THE BEST TO RAISE

ME.

HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO LISTEN

TO MY PASTOR TALK ABOUT HOW

GOOD MOTHERS ARE WHEN MINE

CLEARLY WASN'T?"

Pat:

Pat: WELL, MOST MOMS

ARE GOOD.

MY MOM'S PRAYERS FOR ME WERE

A GREAT FACTOR IN MY LIFE.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT AN ABUSIVE

MOM IS LIKE.

I DIDN'T HAVE ONE.

I HAD A LOVING, WONDERFUL

MOTHER, SO I HONOR MOTHERS.

BUT IF YOU HAD AN OLD BATTLE

AXE AS A MOTHER, AND SHE WAS

MEAN TO YOU -- THERE ARE

CRUEL WOMEN IN THIS WORLD.

Wendy: ONE OF THE 10

COMMANDMENTS SAYS HONOR YOUR

PARENTS.

BUT IT DOESN'T SAY HONOR

YOUR PARENTS IF THEY WERE

NICE.

Pat: IT MEANS TO GIVE

WEIGHT TO THEM.

THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON WHO

BORE YOU IN HER WOMB, AND

THAT HAPPENS TO BE YOUR

MOTHER.

BUT IN TERMS OF SANCTIFYING

HER -- IF SHE IS NOT, SHE IS

NOT.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO CREATE

SOME FICTION BECAUSE YOUR

PASTOR SAYS ALL OF THESE

FLOWERY THINGS.

IF HE HAS A CONGREGATION OF

300 OR 400 PEOPLE, HE

DOESN'T WANT TO INSULT THE

WOMEN AND SAY, YOU'RE ALL

MEAN AND CRUEL.

HE WANTS TO EXALT THEM

BECAUSE MOST MOTHERS ARE

VERY SACRIFICIAL, VERY

HARD-WORKING, AND VERY

LOVING, AND WE HONOR THEM ON

MOTHER'S DAY.

YOU HAD A BAD MOTHER, I'M

SORRY.

BUT DO NOT CREATE SOME

FICTION AND TRY TO POR

PURPORT A LIE.

Wendy: LOVE HER FROM A

DISTANCE.

Pat: SHE IS PROBABLY

DEAD -- WHATEVER.

GIVE HONOR AND GIVE WEIGHT

TO THE FACT THAT IS ONLY ONE

PERSON WHO HAD YOU IN YOUR

WOMB, AND THAT WAS YOUR

MOTHER, LIKE IT OR NOT.

Wendy: ALL RIGHT.

THANKS, PAT.

GREAT ANSWERS.

WELL, THE BIBLE SAYS THAT

TRUE RELIGION IS TAKING CARE

OF WIDOWS AND ORPHANS.

IN EGYPT WE MET A WIDOW WHO

WAS IN DESPERATE NEED OF

HELP, AND SHE WAS FIGHTING

CANCER.

AND SHE COULD BARELY FEED

HER TWO CHILDREN.

Reporter: AS THE SUN

RISES OVER THE DESERT IN THE

CITY OF MINYA, EGYPT, MARION

BEGINS HER WORK FOR THE

DAY.

SHE IS A WIDOW RAISING TWO

CHILDREN ALONE.

IN THE RECENT PAST, SHE HAD

NO INCOME, AND THE FAMILY

WAS STRUGGLING.

Translator: WE HAD A LOT

OF DEBT, AND I HAVE CANCER.

NEITHER THE SICKNESS NOR THEç

CHILDREN UNDERSTOOD WE HAD

NO MONEY.

THEY BOTH KEPT SAYING, WE

WANT, WE WANT.

Reporter: MARION IS A

CHRISTIAN, SO SHE PRAYED

THAT GOD WOULD HELP HER.

ONE DAY HER DAUGHTER SAW HER

CRY.

SHE ASKED, MOM, WHY ARE

YOUç TRYING?

I TOLD HER BECAUSE I DON'T

HAVE ANY MONEY.

AND SHE SAID, WHY DON'T YOU

OPEN A STORE?

Reporter: MARION

BORROWED A FEW DOLLARS TO

BUY SUGAR, SOAP, AND TEA TO

SELL.

THEN SHE HEARD ABOUT A CBN

PROGRAM FOR PEOPLE WHO

WANTED TO START

BUSINESSESMENT WE

BUSINESSES.

WE GAVE HER THE MONEY SHE

NEEDED TO OPEN A SMALL,

WELL-STOCKED SHOP.

THANK YOU SO MUCH.

I ALWAYS PRAY TO GOD AND I

TELL THEM, IF I AM A WIDOW,

YOU ARE MY HUSBAND.

THAT'S WHAT IS SAID IN THE

BIBLE.

AND IT IS TRUE.

HE IS MY HUSBAND AND THE

HEAVENLY FATHER OF MY

CHILDREN.

HE IS LOOKING AFTER ALL OF

US.

Wendy: THAT IS

AMAZING.

WELL, WE HAVE SOMETHING FOR

YOU WHEN YOU JOIN "THE 700

CLUB."

IT'S CALLED "VISIONS OF THE

NIGHT."

THIS IS GORDON'S NEW

TEACHING, HOW GOD SPEAKS TO

US IN DREAMS AND VISIONS.

YOU WANT TO GET THIS.

AND IT'S YOURS WHEN YOU CALL

AND SAY, YES, I WANT TO JOIN

"THE 700 CLUB."

JUST 65 CENTS A DAY, $20 A

MONTH TO CHANGE THE WORLD.

1-800-759-0700 IS THE NUMBER

TO CALL ON YOUR SCREEN.

WE HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU.

UP NEXT, A PASTOR STARTS TO

REALIZE WHY HE IS HAVING

PANIC ATTACKS, AFTER A

REPRESSED MEMORY BEGINS TO

SURFACE.

I SAID, HERE IS WHAT I

THINK IT IS.

AND HE SAID, WELL, WE'LL

WATCH IT.

IF THIS IS A FLASHBACK, IT

WILL CONTINUE TO PLAY OUT.

YOU'LL HAVE MORE OF THEM.

I DID NOT KNOW WHAT WAS

GOING ON.

Wendy: FIND OUT WHAT

HAPPENS WHEN HIS MEMORY

RETURNS, NEXT.

Pat: GARY ROWE HAD A

SECRET.

IT WAS ONE THAT HE KEPT

HIDDEN IN THE DEEPEST

RECESSES OF HIS MIND.

HE KEPT THIS SECRET FROM

EVERYONE, INCLUDING

HIMSELF.

AND THEN ONE DAY, AFTER 40

YEARS, GARY'S SECRET GOT

OUT.

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Reporter: FOR MOST OF

HIS LIFE, GARY ROWE BATTLED

ANXIETY, AND WAS PRONE TO

PANIC ATTACKS.

WHEN HE WAS A TEENAGER, HE

FOUND THAT COMPETITIVE

SWIMMING HELPED HIM MANAGE

HIS CONDITION.

ALL OF THAT ATHLETIC

ACTIVITY GOING OUT, I THINK

THAT KEPT ME PUBLICLY SANE.

IT KEPT MY ANXIETY LEVEL

DOWN.

IT KEPT THE ME VERY

FUNCTIONAL IN SCHOOL AND

VERY FUNCTIONAL ALL THE WAY

AROUND.

Reporter: FOR THE MOST

PART IT WORKED, BUT

EVENTUALLY IT CAUGHT UP WITH

HIM.

NOW AT 40 YEARS OLD, HE WAS

A HUSBAND, FATHER OF THREE,

AND PASTOR OF A THRIVING

CHURCH.

HE WORKED NON-STOP.

THE ANXIETY WAS GETTING

WORSE AND THE PANIC ATTACKS

WERE COMING MORE OFTEN.

I THINK BEING ON THE

TREADMILL OF PERFORMANCE HAD

ABOUT PLAYED ITSELF OUT.

Reporter: BUT GARY

WOULD SOON DISCOVER IT WAS

MUCH MORE THAN A SIMPLE CASE

OF BURNOUT.

HE STARTED GOING TO

COUNSELLING, WHERE HE TALKED

ABOUT HIS ANXIETY AND PANIC

ATTACKS.

EVENTUALLY THE CONVERSATIONS

TURNED TOWARDS HIS MEMORIES

OF CHILDHOOD, AND GROWING UP

WITH DIVORCED PARENTS.

THEN ONE DAY A MEMORY

FLASHED THROUGH HIS MIND.

I DID NOT KNOW WHAT WAS

GOING ON.

ALL OF A SUDDEN I WAS VERY

SMALL.

I WAS AGE THREE TO SIX.

AND I COULD FEEL THAT I WAS

BEING DRUG BY MY ARM TOWARDS

A BEDROOM, DOWN THE HALLWAY,

AND THAT WAS IT.

I MEAN, IT STOPPED RIGHT

THERE.

Reporter: GARY TOLD HIS

COUNSELLOR.

HE ASKED ME, WHAT DO YOU

THINK THIS IS?

HE NEVER INTIMATED

ANYTHING.

AND I SAID, HERE IS WHAT I

THINK IT IS.

AND HE SAID, WELL, WE'LL

WATCH IT.

IF THIS IS A FLASHBACK, IT

WILL CONTINUE TO PLAY OUT.

YOU'LL HAVE MORE OF THEM.

Reporter: AND HE DID.

THE FLASHBACKS CAME AT

RANDOM.

EACH TIME SOMETHING NEW WAS

REVEALED, UNTIL FINALLY THE

ENTIRE SCENE PLAYED OUT.

AND IT WAS A SCENE OF

PRETTY FLAGRANT, OVER THE

TOP ABUSE.

AND I SAID, AM I CRAZY?

AM I CRAZY?

IS THIS REAL?

DO YOU THINK THIS REALLY

HAPPENED?

I'M VERY CONFUSED.

AND HE SAID, I'LL ANSWER

THOSE IN ORDER.

NO, YOU'RE NOT CRAZY.

TWO, YES, I THINK IT DID.

THREE, IT IS ABSOLUTELY

CONSISTENT WITH EVERYTHING

YOU'VE SHARED WITH ME ABOUT

YOUR BACKGROUND.

HE SAYS, I'VE JUST BEEN

WAITING, REALLY, FOR IT TO

COME OUT.

Reporter: BUT THAT

WASN'T THE LAST OF THEM.

IN FACT, THEY STARTED COMING

MORE FREQUENTLY.

THERE WAS A TIME WHEN I

THOUGHT, NO, THIS IS NOT

REALLY HAPPENING.

AND THERE WAS A TIME PERIOD

WHERE, GOD, CAN WE PLEASE

NOT LET THIS HAPPEN.

AND THEN THERE WAS ANGER.

I GOT REAL GOOD AT PUNCHING

MY PILLOW.

I GOT REAL GOOD AT PULLING

THE CAR TO THE SIDE OF THE

ROAD AND SCREAMING IN THE

CAR.

Reporter: WHILE GARY

WORKED THROUGH THE PAINFUL

MEMORIES WITH HIS

COUNSELLOR, ONE QUESTION

BURNED IN HIS MIND: WHERE

WAS JESUS?

THE FLASHBACKS WERE JUST

TAKING OVER MY LIFE.

AND MY COUNSELLOR SAID, THIS

WEEK I WANT YOU TO TRY

SOMETHING.

YOU KNOW JESUS WAS THERE,

RIGHT?

AND I SAID, YEAH.

AND HE SAID, I WANT YOU TO,

WHEN THE FLASHBACK HITS -- I

WANT YOU TO SAY, COME IN,

JESUS.

WHERE ARE YOU?

BECAUSE, GARY, I BELIEVE HE

WILL SHOW YOU.

SO THE NEXT FLASHBACK HIT,

AND IT WAS A WHILE BEFORE I

CAME TO MY SENSES.

AND I SAID, JESUS, WHERE ARE

YOU?

AND THERE HE WAS, IN THE

MIDST OF THAT HORRIFIC

SCENE, WITH ME, HOLDING ME

WITH HIS HANDS AROUND MY

HEART.

AND WHEN THAT FLASHBACK WAS

OVER, IT CHANGED EVERYTHING

FOR ME.

IT CHANGED EVERYTHING.

IT MADE ME ACTUALLY LOOK

FORWARD TO THE NEXT

FLASHBACK.

WHEN THAT POINT ON, IT

BECAME A PRACTICE FOR ME,

EVERY TIME I HAD A

FLASHBACK, JESUS, WHERE ARE

YOU?

AND HE WAS ALWAYS THERE.

HE WAS ALWAYS DOING

SOMETHING.

HE WAS ALWAYS AT WORK.

BUT THE BIGGEST MESSAGE WAS

THE MESSAGE FROM THE FIRST

FLASHBACK.

HE ALWAYS HAD HIS HANDS

AROUND MY HEART.

Reporter: WHILE THE

FLASHBACKS FINALLY ENDED,

THE HEALING PROCESS

CONTINUES IN GARY'S LIFE,

PARTLY THROUGH HIS WRITING

ON SEXUAL ABUSE.

EVERY DAY HE LEARNS HOW TO

BETTER MANAGE HIS ANXIETY.

AND THE PANIC ATTACKS, WELL,

THEY'RE GONE.

AND NOW THERE IS JUST A

LOT MORE FREEDOM WITH THOSE

THINGS.

THERE IS A LOT MORE PEACE IN

MY LIFE.

THERE IS A LOT MORE, YOU

KNOW, I CAN REALLY TAKE

THINGS AS THEY COME.

GOD REALLY IS IN CHARGE.

ALL OF A SUDDEN I WAS NOT

ALONE.

I WAS NEVER ALONE.

THERE WAS SOMEONE WHO KNEW.

THERE WAS SOMEONE WATCHING

AFTER ME, PROTECTING MY

HEART.

AND THAT CHANGED

EVERYTHING.

Pat: I WANT YOU TO KNOW

THAT ACCORDING TO

STATISTICS, ABOUT HALF OF

ALL OF THE CHILDREN UNDER 18

HAVE BEEN MOLESTED ONE WAY

OR THE OTHER, BY A FRIEND, A

FAMILY MEMBER, A PARENT,

SOMEBODY.

AND THERE HAS BEEN THAT KIND

OF ABUSE.

YOU'RE NOT ALONE.

BUT, AS THE BIBLE SAYS,

THERE IS NO TESTING THAT HAS

TAKEN YOU SUCH AS IS COMMON

WITH MAN, BUT GOD IS

FAITHFUL AND WILL MAKE A WAY

OF ESCAPE.

AND SO GARY HAD A WAY OF

ESCAPE.

JESUS, WHERE ARE YOU?

AND JESUS WAS THERE WITH

HIM, WITH HIS HAND ON HIS

HEART.

JESUS NEVER LEFT YOU.

HE STILL LOVES YOU.

WHATEVER HAPPENED TO YOU, HE

LOVES YOU.

AND WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO

TODAY IS TO SAY, LORD, YOU

KNOW ALL OF THIS STUFF THAT

HAPPENED TO ME.

AND YOU KNOW THE THINGS THAT

I'VE DONE TO OTHERS.

MANY OF YOU HAVE DONE THE

SAME THING.

YOU'VE BEEN A MOLESTER,

INSTEAD OF BEING MOLESTED.

YOU'VE DONE THINGS YOU'RE

ASHAMED OF, THE THINGS

YOU'VE SAID, THE THINGS

YOU'VE DONE.

YOU'RE ASHAMED OF IT.

BRING IT TO THE LORD.

GOD IS SO FORGIVING.

THAT'S WHAT IT IS.

HE IS ENDLESS LOVE.

AND LET THAT LOVE SURROUND

YOU AND ENVELOPE YOU RIGHT

NOW.

SO PRAY WITH ME RIGHT AT

THIS MOMENT.

JESUS -- THAT'S RIGHT, PRAY

WITH ME.

JESUS, I SURRENDER TO YOUR

LOVE.

YOU KNOW THE PAIN IN MY

HEART, AND YOU KNOW THE PAIN

I'VE INFLICTED ON OTHERS.

AND I ASK YOU TO CLEANSE ME

AND I FORGIVE OTHERS, AND

ASK YOU TO FORGIVE ME.

LORD, COME INTO MY HEART.

LORD JESUS, PUT YOUR HAND ON

MY HEART, ENTER INTO MY

HEART, AND LIVE YOUR LIFE IN

ME.

AND FROM THIS MOMENT ON I

WILL LIVE FOR YOU AND I WILL

SERVE YOU.

THANK YOU, LORD.

THANK YOU THAT YOU'VE HEARD

MY PRAYER.

THANK YOU THAT YOU'VE COME

INTO MY HEART.

NOW, IF YOU PRAYED WITH ME

JUST THEN, I WANT TO GIVE

YOU SOMETHING.

IT IS CALLED "A NEW DAY."

IT WILL TELL YOU WHAT YOU

JUST DID, AND HOW YOU CAN

IMPROVE ON WHAT'S THERE.

1-800-759-0700.

JUST CALL AND SAY, I PRAYED

WITH PAT, I GAVE MY HEART TO

THE LORD.

THAT'S ALL OF THE TIME WE

HAVE FOR THIS PROGRAM

TODAY.

WE LEAVE YOU WITH TODAY'S

POWER MINUTE FROM MATTHEW

11: "COME UNTO ME, ALL YOU

WHO LABOR AND WHO ARE HEAVY

LADEN.

AND I WILL GIVE YOU REST.

TAKE MY YOLK UPON ME AND

LEARN FROM ME BECAUSE I'M

GENTLE AT HEART, AND YOU

WILL FIND REST FOU FOREST

FOR YOUR SOULS."

WE'LL SEE YOU TOMORROW.

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