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700 Club Interactive: A New Perspective for Moms - May 9, 2014

What would your child say about you? Hear from moms and their kids and get a new perspective of motherhood. Read Transcript


Gordon: IT'S THE

WORLD'S TOUGHEST JOB.

BUT HERE IS THE KEY: IT

ONLY LASTS FOR A SHORT

TIME.

YOU'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO

HAVE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS.

YOU'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO

HAVE DAYS THAT HAVE MORE

WORK THAN HOURS.

Gordon: GOOD NEWS FOR

MOMS ON TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

ON "700 CLUB INTERACTIVE,"

WE USE TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY

FOR EACH OTHER AND EXPLORE

TOPICS THAT MATTER TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELL, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

THE COMPANY AMERICAN

GREETINGS MADE HEADLINES

AFTER RELEASING A VIDEO THAT

GARNERED MORE THAN

16 MILLION VIEWS IN JUST TWO

WEEKS.

THE SUBJECT?

THE WORLD'S TOUGHEST JOB:

MOTHERHOOD.

Terry: WITH MOTHER'S

DAY JUST AROUND THE CORNER,

WE WANT TO CELEBRATE YOU,

MOMS.

YOU'RE DOCTORS, TEACHERS,

CHEFS, CHAUFFEURS, AND ALL

FOR NO PAY.

AT TIMES IT MAY BE HARD TO

BELIEVE YOU'RE DOING A GOOD

JOB, BUT AS YOU'RE ABOUT TO

SEE, MOMS ACROSS AMERICA ARE

DOING MUCH BETTER THAN THEY

THINK.

I'M A PERFECTIONIST, AND

SO THAT'S HARD WITH KIDS.

THERE IS DEFINITELY DAYS

WHEN I HAVE MY DOUBTS ABOUT

MY ABILITIES.

I STRUGGLE WITH MY

TEMPER.

I STRUGGLE WITH HOW I

REACT WITH SITUATIONS.

I WISH I KNEW HOW TO, I

GUESS, JUST CALM MYSELF

BEFORE SPEAKING TO THEM.

I WISH I WAS BETTER AT

TAKING TIME TO SIT DOWN AND

JUST LISTEN MORE TO MY

CHILD.

I WISH I WAS MORE

CONFIDENT IN BEING A MOM.

I'M NOT THE MOST PATIENT

PERSON IN THE WORLD.

PATIENCE.

PATIENCE IS FAR AND AWAY

PROBABLY THE BIGGEST

STRUGGLE.

I JUST WANT THEM TO KNOW

HOW MUCH I LOVE THEM.

MY MOM IS TOTALLY

AWESOME.

SHE'S FUN TO SNUGGLE

WITH.

PRETTY, FUNNY.

SHE DOES COOK A LOT OF FOOD

FOR ME.

SHE IS UNIQUE.

THAT'S WHY I LOVE HER SO

MUCH.

WE GO ON DATES TOGETHER.

LIKE, WE GO SHOPPING.

SHE LOVES ME A LOT.

I HAVE A LOT OF FAVORITE

THINGS ABOUT MY MOM.

WE LIKE TO WATCH MOVIES

TOGETHER AND COLOR AND

STUFF.

WE GO TO CHURCH AND WE

VOLUNTEER TOGETHER.

SHE IS, LIKE, MY HEART, I

GUESS YOU COULD SAY, BECAUSE

SHE IS THAT CLOSE TO ME.

MY FAVORITE THING IS TO

JUMP ON THE TRAMPOLINE WITH

MY MOM.

THAT'S MY MOST FAVORITE

THING.

WE GO UP HIGH.

WE, LIKE, GET ICE CREAM

OR SOMETHING.

WE GO TO THE NAIL SALON AND

HAVE FUN.

MY MOM IS MY HERO.

SHE IS PRETTY AND

BEAUTIFUL.

SHE IS MY HERO.

SHE JUST WILL CARE ABOUT ME

AND ALWAYS LOVE ME FOREVER.

SHE'S THE BEST.

Terry: OH, THAT'S SO

AWESOME.

I ALWAYS SEEM TO FOCUS

MOSTLY ON THE NEGATIVE.

AND I GUESS I CAN WALK OUT

OF HERE AND SAY THAT I'M

DOING SOMETHING GREAT, AND

THAT MY CHILD IS VIEWING ME

TOTALLY DIFFERENTLY THAN I

VIEW MYSELF.

SO THAT'S INSPIRING.

THIS IS MY CALLING.

THIS IS MY JOB.

THIS IS WHAT I LOVE TO DO,

AND I WILL DO IT BETTER AND

WITH LOVE EACH AND EVERY DAY

BECAUSE THOSE KIDS COUNT ON

ME.

AND THEY LOVE ME FOR WHAT

I'M DOING.

Gordon: WELL, HAPPY

MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL OF THE

MOTHERS OUT THERE.

TERRY, WHY IS IT THAT THERE

IS SUCH A REVERSE OF IMAGE.

WITH HOW WOULD YOU RATE

YOURSELF AS TO THE MOTHERS,

AND THEN A COMPLETELY

DIFFERENT VIEW FROM THEIR

CHILDREN?

Terry: WELL, FIRST OF

ALL, I THINK A LOT OF US --

YOU CERTAINLY CAN'T LABEL

EVERYBODY THE SAME, BUT I

THINK A LOT OF US HAVE HIGH

EXPECTATIONS OF OURSELVES.

WHAT DO THEY SAY, IT'S THE

HARDEST JOB YOU'LL EVER

LOVE.

WE HAVE NO TRAINING.

WHAT CLASS DID YOU EVER TAKE

IN SCHOOL ON BEING A DAD.

Gordon: I MADE IT UP AS

I WENT ALONG.

Terry: MOST OF US DO,

AND THAT'S A LITTLE SCARY.

Gordon: LET'S SEE IF

THIS WORKS.

Terry: YOU HAVE THIS

INNATE UNDERSTANDING THAT

WHAT YOU'RE DOING HAS

LONG-TERM POTENTIAL

CONSEQUENCES, AND YOU FEEL

SO INADEQUATE IN EVERY WAY.

I THINK IT IS WONDERFUL TO

RECOGNIZE THAT MOST OF THE

TIMES THE THINGS THAT OUR

KIDS LOVE ARE THE LITTLE

THINGS.

IT IS THE FROSTING COOKIES

TOGETHER.

IT IS JUMPING ON THE

TRAMPOLINE.

Gordon: THEY LOVE TIME

TOGETHER AND LOVE.

LOVE NEVER FAILS.

IF YOU'RE HAVING TROUBLE

PARENTING, LOVE NEVER

FAILS.

Terry: IT GOES A LONG,

LONG WAY.

IN OUR "ORPHANS' PROMISE"

D.V.D. ON ADOPTION AND

FOSTER CARE, ONE OF THE MOST

NATIONALELY KNOWN EXPERTS IN

THE COUNTRY SAID ONE OF THE

BIG MISTAKES WE MAKE IS WE

THINK IF WE'RE IN A ROOM

WITH OUR CHILD THAT WE'RE

WITH THEM.

BUT SHE SAID, NO, YOU NEED

TO BE WITH THEM.

ENGAGED WITH THEM.

AND I THINK THAT LOTS OF

TIMES LIFE IS BUSY AND FAST

AND WE'RE PREOCCUPIED, AND

IT IS HARD TO BE WITH THEM

SOMETIMES.

I'M A NEW GRANDMA, AND CAN I

TELL YOU, WHEN I COME HOME

AT THE END OF A CRAZY DAY

HERE, SHOCKER --

Gordon: THAT HAPPENS

HERE?

Terry: WHEN I COME IN

THE HOUSE AND THAT LITTLE

BOY IS THERE, IT IS LIKE

PURE JOY.

HE KNOWS WE'RE GOING TO

PLAY, AND I KNOW WE'RE GOING

TO PLAY.

AND WE JUST GET TO IT.

Gordon: BUT IT IS

DIFFERENT FOR GRANDPARENTS.

Terry: THAT'S RIGHT,

BECAUSE WE PICK THEM UP.

Gordon: DIAPER DUTY IS

DIFFERENT AND THE THREE

MEALS A DAY IS DIFFERENT.

Terry: YEAH.

I DON'T GET UP IN THE MIDDLE

OF THE NIGHT WITH THEM.

I JUST PLAY.

Gordon: YOU GET TO

SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT --

Terry: AND THEN BE

REFRESHED, YES.

Gordon: WE'VE GOT SOME

QUESTIONS, AND WE'VE GOT

EARTH MOTHER TO THE WORLD

HERE TO ANSWER THEM.

Terry: RIGHT.

Gordon: BETTY SAYS, "I

HAVE TWO SMALL GIRLS AND I'M

VERY QUICK TO YELL AT THEM.

I FEEL GUILTY AFTERWARDS AND

SEE MYSELF AS A BAD MOTHER.

I WANT TO CHANGE AND STOP

ALL OF MY YELLING AND BE A

BETTER MOM.

HOW CAN I GET OUT OF THIS

NEGATIVE CYCLE?"

Terry: WELL, BETTY, YOU

KNOW THE THING I FIND IN MY

LIFE THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN

MOST CHALLENGING IS WHEN I

TRY TO FIT MY CHILDREN INTO

MY SCHEDULE.

AND, YOU KNOW, SOME DAYS WE

DON'T HAVE A CHOICE, YOU

JUST HAVE TO DO THAT.

BUT FINDING WAYS TO ENTER

INTO THEIR SPACE IN THEIR

TIMEFRAME, I THINK IS

HELPFUL.

YEARS AGO, I GOT ON AN

AIRPLANE AND WAS SEATED NEXT

TO AN OLDER LADY WHO HAD

BEEN A NANNY FOR MANY, MANY

YEARS, FOR COUPLE OF

DIFFERENT FAMILIES.

AND I SAID TO HER, IF YOU

COULD SHARE ONE NUGGET OF

WISDOM WITH ME, WHAT WOULD

IT BE?

I CAN'T SAY I MET THIS, BUT

SHE SAID, NEVER RAISE YOUR

VOICE.

SHE SAID, TALK TO THEM

SOFTLY BECAUSE THEY'LL

LISTEN.

I CAN'T SAY THAT I'VE ALWAYS

DONE THAT.

BUT THIS IS A LADY WHO HAS

DONE IT.

I HAVE TRIED NOT TO DO

THAT.

I HAVE HAD MANY TIMES WHERE

I HAVE MESSED UP, AND YOU

KNOW WHAT I DO?

I GO BACK AND APOLOGIZE.

I REALLY DO.

I GET RIGHT DOWN ON THE

FLOOR, EYEBALL TO EYEBALL

WITH THEM, AND I SAY, YOU

KNOW WHAT?

I'M HAVING A HARD TIME

TODAY.

AND IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU.

IT'S ABOUT ME.

WILL YOU FORGIVE ME?

THERE IS A REALLY STRONG

LESSON IN THAT.

KIDS LEARN BY WHAT WE DO,

WHETHER IT IS YELLING AT

THEM OR WE'RE HUMBLING

OURSELVES AND ASKING FOR

FORGIVENESS.

THEN YOU CAN ALWAYS DO

SOMETHING FUN TOGETHER.

THESE THINGS WE TRY TO LET

GOD CHANGE HAPPEN, I THINK,

ONE DAY AT A TIME, ONE

MOMENT AT A TIME.

AND ALL OF A SUDDEN YOU

REALIZE GOD HAS DONE

SOMETHING IN YOU AND IT HAS

CHANGED.

SO DON'T GET CAUGHT UP IN

THE DISCOURAGEMENT AND THE

DEPRESSION OF WHAT YOU DON'T

FEEL LIKE YOU'RE DOING RIGHT

OR DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU ARE

AS A MOM.

FIND THE JOY IN THE CHILD,

IN THE INSPIRATION YOU

WATCHED EXPRESSED.

Gordon: HOW MUCH DOES

FATIGUE PLAY A FACTOR IN

IT?

Terry: IT'S

EVERYTHING.

Gordon: YOU'VE GOT TWO

YOUNG CHILDREN, AND YOU'RE

PROBABLY NOT SLEEPING

RIGHT.

THERE IS PROBABLY A LOT OF

DEEME DEMAND ON YOU.

HOW DO YOU GET THROUGH THE

FATIGUE.

Terry: ONE OF THE KEYS,

THE SIMPLE KEY, IS TO SLEEP

WHEN THEY SLEEP.

EVEN IF IT IS JUST A REST

TIME.

I CAN REMEMBER WHEN I WOULD

BE SO DOG-TIRED WITH MY

KIDS, AND I'D BE READING

THEM A STORY WHEN THEY WERE

GOING TO BED, AND ALL OF A

SUDDEN I WOULD BE GOING TO

SLEEP AS I'M READING.

I WOULD HEAR MYSELF GOING

OFF IN THIS TANGENT STORY

THAT WASN'T EVEN IN THE

BOOK.

AND I WOULD WAKE UP, AND MY

CHILD WOULD BE WATCHING ME,

LIKE, THAT'S NOT THE WAY THE

STORY GOES.

I THINK YOU JUST HAVE TO

GRAB SLEEP WHERE YOU CAN.

HERE IS THE KEY: IT ONLY

LASTS FOR A SHORT TIME.

YOU'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO

HAVE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS.

YOU'RE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO

HAVE DAYS THAT HAVE MORE

WORK THAN HOURS.

FOR THE SEASON, YOU HAVE GOT

TO LOOK DOWN THE ROAD AND

SAY, THERE WILL BE ANOTHER

DAY WHERE I'M NOT GOING TO

BE SO EXHAUSTED.

BECAUSE IT IS EXHAUSTING.

Gordon: IT IS, AND AT

THE SAME TIME, IT GOES VERY

FAST.

I KNOW WHEN YOU'RE IN IT, IT

SEEMS SLOW, BUT TRUST ME,

I'VE GOT TWO IN COLLEGE AND

ONE GETTING READY FOR

COLLEGE, AND YOU BLINK, AND

THE TIME GOES.

CAITLIN SAYS, "MY 8-YEAR-OLD

SON HAS A MOOD DISORDER AND

A STRONG WILL.

I HAVE TRIED BOOKS BY

SPECIALISTS AND HAVE TAKEN

HIM TO COUNSELLING, BUT

NOTHING HAS HELPED.

I HAVE A SOCIAL DISORDER AS

WELL ASSOCIATION I

UNDERSTAND HIS STRUGGLES.

WHAT ELSE CAN I DO TO HELP

HIM?"

Terry: WELL, CAITLIN, I

WANT TO START BY SAYING I'M

NOT A DOCTOR.

YOU SHARED A LITTLE BIT OF

INFORMATION, AND I MEAN I

DON'T WANT TO STEER YOU

INAPPROPRIATELY, OTHER THAN

TO SAY THAT I'M ASSUMING IF

YOUR SON HAS BEEN DIAGNOSED

WITH THIS, AND YOU HAVE,

MAYBE THERE IS MEDICATION

INVOLVED HERE.

AND IF NOT, YOU MIGHT WANT

TO LOOK INTO THAT.

IT IS HELPFUL.

I FEARED THAT FOR ONE OF MY

CHILDREN BECAUSE I WAS SO

AFRAID OF THE REPERCUSSIONS

OF USING IT LONG-TERM.

YOU KNOW, THERE ARE

CHALLENGES LONG-TERM EITHER

WAY.

YOUR SON IS ONLY EIGHT.

SO WHERE YOU SAY YOU'VE

TRIED COUNSELLING BUT

NOTHING HAS HELPED -- THIS

HAS BEEN MY EXPERIENCE WITH

COUNSELLING: IT TAKES TIME.

IT IS NOT THE KIND OF THING

WHERE YOU GO IN, YOU GO

THREE TIMES, AND BINGO, YOUR

CHILD IS A NEW PERSON.

I THINK YOU HAVE TO STAY

WITH IT.

YOU HAVE TO FIND A

COUNSELLOR WHO UNDERSTANDS

YOU AND YOUR CHILD AND IS

WILLING TO INVEST THEMSELVES

LONG-TERM.

IT MAY BE SOMETHING YOUR

CHILD NEEDS FOR A

CONSIDERABLE AMOUNT OF

TIME.

AND GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF

CONFUSION.

WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT DISORDER

IN YOUR LIFE, I THINK GO TO

THE PERSON WHO IS THE

CREATOR OF ORDER AND OF

SYSTEMS, AND ASK HIM TO HEAL

YOUR SON, TO HEAL YOU, AND

TO SHOW YOU HOW TO UTILIZE

METHODS, IF THERE ARE THINGS

LIKE THAT AVAILABLE.

I HAD TO DO THAT WITH A

COUPLE OF MY CHILDREN.

AND IT'S FRUSTRATING, IT'S

FRUSTRATING BECAUSE IT IS A

PROCESS.

I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, I

DON'T DO PROCESS THAT WELL.

I WANT BINGO.

BUT PARENTING IS JUST KIND

OF LIKE THAT.

BUT DON'T BE DISCOURAGED.

WE'RE ALL FLAWED.

THERE ARE NO PERFECT

PEOPLE.

BUT SOMETIMES PARENTING A

CHILD THAT HAS A CHALLENGE

IS IN ITSELF A CHALLENGE.

Gordon: I WOULD ADD ONE

THING.

TALK TO HIM ABOUT YOUR

STRUGGLE.

AND TRY TO GET INTO WHERE

HE'S COMING FROM AT AGE

EIGHT.

HE IS OBVIOUSLY NOT MATURE

AND HE IS STRUGGLING WITH

WHAT HE IS GOING THROUGH,

WHAT HIS BODY IS DOING TO

HIM.

TALK TO HIM OPENLY ABOUT

YOUR STRUGGLE, AND WHAT IT

WAS LIKE FOR YOU GROWING UP,

AND WHAT TOOLS HAVE YOU

ACQUIRED ALONG THE WAY TO

HELP YOU WITH YOUR OWN

ISSUES.

AND SEE IF THAT WILL HELP.

NUMBER ONE, IT WILL CREATE A

CLOSER RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN

THE TWO OF YOU, WHERE YOU

CAN SHARE IN THIS AND HAVE

AN OPEN CONVERSATION ABOUT

IT.

Terry: AND CAN I ADD AT

ONE?

NUTRITION.

SO OFTEN DOCTORS ARE GREAT

ABOUT MEDICAL THINGS, BUT

DON'T HAVE A LOT OF TRAINING

AND BACKGROUND IN

NUTRITION.

WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT AN

8-YEAR-OLD THAT HAS A MOOD

DISORDER --

Gordon: YOU DON'T WANT

ANY TOXINS, ANY PROCESSED

FOODS.

ALL OF THAT ARE TRIGGERS FOR

THAT, AND YOU DON'T WANT

IT.

Terry: EXACTLY.

AND PRAY.

PRAY, PRAY, PRAY, AND PRAY

SOME MORE.

COMING UP, I'LL SHARE WITH

YOU HOW A TRIP TO UKRAINE

CHANGED THE WAY I LOOK AT

MOTHERHOOD, RIGHT AFTER

THIS.

Terry: WE'VE BEEN

TALKING TODAY ABOUT HAVING A

NEW PERSPECTIVE ON

MOTHERHOOD.

SO I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THIS

CHANCE TO SHARE MY OWN

STORY.

IN 2002 MY HUSBAND AND I

HEARD ABOUT THREE SISTERS

FROM UKRAINE WHO WOULD

CHANGE OUR LIVES FOREVER.

PEOPLE OFTEN ASK ME, HOW DID

YOU START "ORPHANS' PROMISE."

I JUST SMILE AND SAY IT WAS

GOD.

I WOULD BE CRAZY TO DO

ANYTHING THIS BIG ON MY

OWN.

I'VE MET CHILDREN ALL AROUND

THE WORLD, AS I'VE TRAVELLED

WITH OUR CAMERA CREWS.

HOW CAN YOU BE WITH THIS

CHILDREN AND NOT WANT TO

HELP THEM?

BUT THEY NEED MORE THAN JUST

FOOD, CLOTHING, AND

SHELTER.

EVERY CHILD WANTS TO KNOW

THAT THEY'RE WANTED AND THAT

THEY HAVE SOMEWHERE TO

BELONG.

BUT MY "ORPHANS' PROMISE"

ADVENTURE REALLY STARTED

BACK HOME IN VIRGINIA BEACH,

VIRGINIA.

DURING A TELEVISION

INTERVIEW, A COUPLE TOLD ME

ABOUT THREE SISTERS THEY HAD

MET IN A UKRAINIAN

ORPHANAGE.

THE COUPLE WAS APPROVED TO

ADOPT ONLY TWO CHILDREN, SO

THE OLDEST SISTER SAID SHE

WOULD STAY BEHIND SO HER TWO

YOUNGER SISTERS WOULD HAVE

THE OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE A

REAL FAMILY.

TEARS FILLED MY EYES AS I

HEARD HAD THIS.

WHAT TYPE OF CHILD IS

WILLING TO MAKE SUCH A

SACRIFICE.

I COULDN'T GET IT OUT OF MY

THOUGHTS.

I PRAYED, GOD, BRING A

FAMILY TO ADOPT THOSE

GIRLS.

LITTLE DID I KNOW IT WOULD

BE MY OWN.

BUT OUR WILLINGNESS TO

EMBRACE ANOTHER ADOPTION

DIDN'T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT.

I ALREADY HAD FOUR CHILDREN,

TWO OF WHOM ARE ADOPTED.

IMAGINE THE CHAOS OF SEVEN?

MY HUSBAND, ANDY, AND I

CLEARLY FELT GOD CALLING US

TO BECOME PARENTS TO THESE

THREE LITTLE GIRLS.

BUT TO BE HONEST, I WAS

LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO

WOULD SAY, TERRY, ARE YOU

INSANE?

GO DRINK A STRONG CUP OF

COFFEE AND FORGET ABOUT IT.

BUT EVERYBODY WAS

SUPPORTIVE.

STILL, I STRUGGLED WITH

GOD'S CALLING.

GOD, I DON'T THINK I CAN DO

THIS.

I'M NOT BIG ENOUGH FOR

THIS.

THIS IS A HUGE JOB.

IT'S TOO IMPORTANT.

YOU KNOW, IF I BLOW THIS --

ARE THEY SUFFERING IN THE

ORPHANAGE, YES, BUT, WOW,

GOD, I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO

THIS.

I DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE

EVERYTHING THEY PROBABLY

NEED US TO BE.

AND WE'RE NOT PERFECT

PARENTS IN ANY WAY.

AND I FELT LIKE GOD KIND OF

CHUCKLED AND SAID, YOU'RE

NOT GOING TO DO THIS.

I'M GOING TO DO THIS.

AND YOU'RE GOING TO COME

WITH ME.

SO WITH GOD'S PROMISE TO

HELP, WE ADDED THREE

WONDERFUL UKRAINIAN GIRLS TO

OUR FAMILY.

SOFIA, AGE 9, ZOA, 11, AND

LISA, 12.

LISA CAME UP AND WHISPERED

SOMETHING IN MY EAR, AND THE

TRANSLATOR HAPPENED TO BE

STANDING NEXT TO ME, AND SHE

SAID, "THANK YOU FOR

COMING."

I THINK SHE GETS IT.

SHE UNDERSTANDS THAT THEY

WERE IN A DARK PLACE WITHOUT

LIGHT.

AND THERE WAS REDEMPTION FOR

THEM.

NOT BECAUSE OF US, BUT

BECAUSE GOD HAS A PLAN AND

PURPOSE FOR THEIR LIVES.

WHILE IT HAS BEEN

FULFILLING, I WON'T TELL YOU

THAT IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN

EASY.

AT FIRST THERE WERE LANGUAGE

AND CULTURAL BARRIERS, AND

LATER, PROFOUND EMOTIONAL

HEALING AS WE DEALT WITH THE

TRAUMAS OF THEIR PAST:

REJECTION, ABUSE, VIOLENCE,

AND DEATH.

I SLOWLY REALIZED WHY GOD

ASKED US TO RESCUE THESE

GIRLS, AND I'M SO GLAD WE

SAID YES.

AND, STILL, GOD HAD MORE ON

THE HORIZON.

OH, MY GOSH, I REMEMBER

THIS PLACE.

Terry: THREE YEARS

AFTER THE ADOPTION, I TOOK

THE GIRLS BACK TO THE

ORPHANAGE IN UKRAINE TO SEE

THEIR FRIENDS.

IT WAS A GRAND REUNION FOR

ALL OF US.

BUT IN A FEW SHORT DAYS, IT

WAS TIME FOR TEARFUL

GOOD-BYES.

WHAT ABOUT ALL THESE

CHILDREN WHO ARE LEFT

BEHIND?

GOD DEPOSITED SOMETHING NEW

IN MY HEART THAT DAY.

I KNEW THIS GOD ADVENTURE

WAS ABOUT MORE THAN JUST

SAVING THREE GIRLS IN AN

ORPHANAGE.

IT WAS ABOUT HAVING A VISION

FOR UKRAINE.

IT WAS ABOUT SEEING THINGS

FROM AN ETERNAL PERSPECTIVE,

THROUGH GOD'S EYES, AND

PUTTING ASIDE MY CONVENIENCE

AND MY COMFORT TO GRAB HOLD

OF WHAT GOD WAS DOING.

WHEN YOU GRAB HOLD OF GOD,

YOU NEVER KNOW WHERE HE

MIGHT TAKE YOU.

FAST FORWARD 10 YEARS.

MY VISION FOR UKRAINE HAS

EXPLODED INTO GOD'S

INFINITELY LARGER PLAN.

A MINISTRY CALLED "ORPHANS'

PROMISE," THAT NOW REACHES

CHILDREN IN 52 NATIONS AND

COUNTING.

"ORPHANS' PROMISE" GREW OUT

OF A WILLINGNESS TO FIRST

LISTEN TO GOD AND THEN SAY

YES EACH TIME HE EXPANDED

THE ADVENTURE AND BROUGHT

NEW OPPORTUNITIES ALONG.

I WANT TO INVITE YOU TO BE A

GOD ADVENTURER, TOO.

IT MAY MEAN BEING

INCONVENIENCED.

YOU MIGHT HAVE TO PUT YOUR

PLANS AND YOUR COMFORTS

ASIDE FOR A WHILE.

BUT CAN I TELL YOU TODAY

THAT YOU AND I WERE CREATED

FOR THIS.

SO DON'T JUST STAND BY AND

WATCH.

PLEASE JOIN ME THROUGH

"ORPHANS' PROMISE" BECAUSE

THESE BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN

NEED YOU.

FAMILY IS SO IMPORTANT.

IT'S SUCH A SIGNIFICANT

PLACE OF GROWTH AND HEALTH

AND WHOLENESS FOR A CHILD.

NOT EVERY CHILD CAN HAVE A

FAMILY, BUT WE CAN ALL DO

SOMETHING TO MAKE A CHILD

FEEL WANTED, TO MAKE A CHILD

UNDERSTAND THE LOVE OF GOD

FOR THEM, TO MAKE A

DIFFERENCE ACADEMICALLY IN

THEIR LIVES SO THAT THEY CAN

MOVE FORWARD.

"ORPHANS' PROMISE" IS DOING

ALL OF THAT AND MORE AROUND

THE WORLD WITH THE CHILDREN

THAT WE SERVE.

WE WANT TO INVITE YOU TO BE

A PART OF THAT.

IF YOU'D LIKE TO MAKE A

DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF

CHILDREN WHO ARE ORPHANED OR

VULNERABLE, WE INVITE YOU TO

BECOME A PART OF "ORPHANS' PROMISE."

YOU CAN DO THAT BY GIVING.

AND YOU CAN DO THAT BY

CALLING THE TOLL-FREE NUMBER

ON YOUR SCREEN.

IT'S 1-888-777-1999.

AND YOU CAN ALSO LOG ON TO

CBN.COM.

PLUS WE HAVE A WONDERFUL

VIDEO SERIES THAT WE PUT

TOGETHER FOR FOLKS WHO HAVE

ADOPTED OR WHO ARE FOSTERING

CHILDREN.

IT IS CALLED "ADOPTION AND

FOSTERING R.X.."

THIS IS AVAILABLE ON THE

WEBSITE AS WELL.

SO WE'D LIKE YOU TO GET

AHOLD OF THAT IF YOU FEEL

THE NEED.

GORDON?

Gordon: IT HAS BEEN

SAID, THERE IS NOTHING

GREATER THAN A MOTHER'S

LOVE.

MONICA FERAL KNOWS THAT TO

BE TRUE.

DOCTORS TOLD HER THAT HER

UNBORN CHILD HAD A RARE

SYNDROME, AND RECOMMEND SHE

TERMINATE THE PREGNANCY.

HOWEVER, MONICA REFUSED TO

GIVE UP ON HER CHILD, AND

HERE IS WHY.

I WENT FOR JUST A ROUTINE

CHECKUP WITH MY DOCTOR.

I HAD BEEN HAVING SOME KIND

OF ODD SYMPTOMS, SO WE RAN

SOME BLOOD TESTS.

IT WAS DETERMINED THEN THAT

I WAS INFERTILE.

IT WAS KIND OF SAD.

IMAGINE OUR SURPRISE IN

APRIL 2009, WHEN WE

DISCOVERED THAT I AM NEARLY

SIX WEEKS PREGNANT.

IT WAS A BIG SHOCK.

BY THE TIME WE WENT TO OUR

FIRST ULTRASOUND, WHICH WAS

AT 11 WEEKS, WE WERE REALLY

EXCITED.

WE COULD NOT WAIT TO SEE THE

LITTLE BEAN INSIDE MY

BELLY.

THEN I NOTICED THAT THE TECH

WASN'T TALKING ANYMORE.

SHE HAD BECOME VERY QUIET.

AND NOT REALLY RESPONDING TO

ME.

AND SHE EXCUSED HERSELF AND

LEFT THE ROOM.

SHE CAME BACK IN THE ROOM

WITH A DOCTOR, WHO JUST

LOOKED AT THE SCREEN AND

NODDED HER HEAD.

SHE EXPLAINED WITH HAD A SIX

MILLIMETRES CYSTIC HIGH

HYDROMA.

AND IT IS ALMOST ALWAYS AN

INDICATOR OF SOME GENETIC

DISORDER.

SHE KEPT GOING BACK TO THE

TURNER SYNDROME, AND GAVE US

SOME PRINTED INFORMATION.

WE WENT ON TO MEET WITH THE

GENETIC COUNSELLOR, WHO THEN

EXPLAINED IT TO US.

WITH TURNER SYNDROME, THERE

ARE MANY MANIFESTATIONS THAT

CAN HAPPEN.

MAJOR HEART DEFECTS THAT

REQUIRE OPEN-HEART

SURGERIES, AND KIDNEY

PROBLEMS, WHERE THEY ARE

MISSING A KIDNEY OR THEY

HAVE MISSHAPED KIDNEYS.

WESTBOUND NEXTWEBBED NEXT,

NECKS, AND THEN SHE SAID

LESS THAN 1% ACTUALLY

SURVIVE IT.

AND THAT'S WHEN SHE SAID YOU

NEED TO CONSIDER ABORTION

BECAUSE YOUR BABY WILL NOT

SURVIVE.

IF YOU DON'T ABORT, YOU CAN

EXPECT TO MISCARRY IN THE

NEXT FEW WEEKS.

SITTING IN THAT OFFICE,

LISTENINGING T LISTENING TO

A DOCTOR SAID YOU'RE

PROBABLY NOT GOING TO HAVE

THIS CHILD.

YOU'RE GOING TO LOSE THIS

CHILD.

FEAR SET IN, NOT KNOWING

WHAT'S GOING ON.

CAN WE DEAL WITH A CHILD IF

SHE DOES MAKE IT.

IF YOU WAIT AND SHE

DOESN'T ABORT, YOU'LL HAVE

TO GO ANOTHER ROUTE BECAUSE

IT WILL BE TOO LATE TO

ABORT.

SO MAKE YOUR DECISION.

DON'T DWELL ON IT AND MOVE

ON.

WE WEREN'T GIVEN MUCH

HOPE.

WE WERE SENT HOME TO MAKE A

DECISION BASICALLY ON WHEN

TO ABORT.

I GRABBED MY LAPTOP AND

EVERYTHING I FOUND WAS

HORRIBLE.

I WENT OUTSIDE AND I

PRAYED ABOUT IT.

AND I THOUGHT, NO, I WOULD

LIKE TO GIVE GOD THE

OPPORTUNITY TO SHINE HERE.

I WENT BACK IN AND I SAID,

MONICA, PUT THAT STUFF

AWAY.

LET'S GO TO CHURCH.

I TOLD HIM, OKAY, YOU'RE

RIGHT.

WE NEED TO GO TO CHURCH.

THAT'S THE ONE PLAYS PLACE

I CAN FALL APART.

WE WENT AND SPOKE WITH THE

MINISTER.

AND HE SAID, DO YOU MIND IF

I LAY HANDS ON YOU.

AND THE ENTIRE CONGREGATION

CAME FORWARD AND LAID HANDS

ON US.

THEY REALLY FELT IT, AND

THEY PRAYED FOR HEALING.

THE ENTIRE CHURCH CAME

TOGETHER FOR US.

WHICH, TO ME, WAS THE

DECIDING FACTOR.

SHORTLY AFTER, I WENT AND

SAT BACK DOWN IN MY SEAT SO

THEY COULD BEGIN SERVICE.

AND THAT'S WHEN I FELT

SOMETHING HAPPENING IN THE

WOMB THAT I KNEW I WAS

UNEXPLAN ABLE.

UNEXPLAINABLE.

WHEN YOU'RE 11 WEEKS

PREGNANT, YOU DON'T FEEL A

THING.

BUT I WAS FEELING THE

EQUIVALENT OF A 10-POUND

BABY, AND IT WAS LIKE A BALL

OF ENERGY IN MY STOMACH AND

IT TICKLED TREMENDOUSLY.

I KNEW GOD WAS TOUCHING ME

AT THAT MOMENT.

HE HAD JUST REACHED INTO MY

WOMB, AND WHATEVER THAT WAS

WRONG THAT WAS GOING TO BE A

PROBLEM WAS NO LONGER GOING

TO BE A PROBLEM.

IT WAS FIXED.

WE FIRED THE CLINIC WE

INITIALLY WENT TO.

AND WE DECIDED TO FIND A NEW

DOCTOR, AFFILIATED WITH A

NEW HOSPITAL THAT WOULD BE

MORE POSITIVE.

WE WENT IN FOR THE 16-WEEK

ULTRASOUND, AND THEY

DISCOVERED THE CYSTIC

HYDROMA WAS COMPLETELY

GONE.

AND AT 23 WEEKS, THEY

DECIDED THEY NEEDED TO DO AN

ECHOCARDIOGRAM, AND SO THEY

CHECKED HER HEART, AND THEY

WERE LOOKING SO HARD FOR

THINGS.

AND THEY KEPT LOOKING, AND

THEY HAD ME COME BACK THREE

TIMES.

AND EACH TIME THEY WOULD

SPEND TWO HOURS LOOKING FOR

THIS PROBLEM.

AND FINALLY THEY SAID, IT'S

NOT THERE.

AND I SAID, OF COURSE IT'S

NOT THERE.

BUT THAT'S OKAY, YOU CAN

KEEP LOOKING.

WE JUST REALLY DELIGHTED

IN WATCHING THESE DOCTORS

SCRATCH THEIR HEAD.

IT WAS A FUN EXPERIENCE.

AND THEN FINALLY THE DAY

CAME THAT WE WENT INTO

LABOR.

MONICA HAD A CESAREAN.

THEY DELIVERED ELLIE, AND,

OF COURSE, THEY RUSH HER

OVER AND DO THEIR THING WITH

HER AND WRAPPED HER UP AND

HANDED HER TO ME.

AT THAT POINT, IT REALLY

SUNK IN WITH ME THAT SHE'S

HERE AND THAT SHE'S REAL AND

THAT SHE IS OKAY.

AND SHE WAS BEAUTIFUL AND

HEALTHY.

I LOOKED INTO HER EYES,

AND I KNEW SHE WAS

GOD-SENT.

I KNEW SHE HAD A PURPOSE.

AND WE HAD A NEW ADDITION TO

OUR FAMILY.

NEARLY 100% OF WOMEN

DIAGNOSED JUST WITH THE

CYSTIC HYDROMA, BEFORE IT IS

EVEN KNOWN IF IT IS DOWN

SYNDROME OR TURNER

SYNDROME --

TO LOOK HER OVER AND SEE

SHE HAD ALL OF HER FINGERS

AND ALL OF HER TOES.

-- NEARLY 100% OF WOMEN

ARE ADVISED TO ABORT, GO

AHEAD AND ABORT.

SHE WAS SCREAMING AND SHE

WAS ALIVE.

AND THAT'S WHAT I'M

SEEING WEEK AFTER WEEK ON

THE SUPPORT FORMS, IS I'VE

BEEN TOLD TO ABORT.

I TRY TO EXPLAIN TO THEM

THAT THERE IS MORE HOPE THAN

THAT.

I HAD THE EXPERIENCE OF

SEEING THIS LIVE CHILD.

THAT THEY DON'T HAVE TO

ABORT.

AND I SHARE WITH THEM OUR

STORY.

WHERE NINE MONTHS BEFORE

WE WERE TOLD SHE WOULD NOT

LIVE.

PRAISE GOD.

Gordon: PRAISE GOD.

WHAT A BEAUTIFUL BABY.

HONOR MOTHERS THIS MOTHER'S

DAY.

LET'S GIVE THEM PLACE.

WE LEAVE YOU WITH THESE

WORDS FROM PROVERBS 31:

"CHARM IS DECEPTIVE, AND

BEAUTY DOES NOT LAST.

BUT A WOMAN WHO FEARS THE

LORD WILL BE GREATLY

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