Is it wrong to have sex with my partner with whom I've been living for 4 years? How should I, as a Christian, respond to my niece, who became homosexual in college, if situations come up when I meet her partner at family functions and at holidays?
Read Transcript
THIS FIRST ONE SAYS, "IS IT
WRONG TO HAVE SEX WITH MY
PARTNER WITH WHOM I'VE BEEN
LIVING TOGETHER FOR FOUR
YEARS.
PEOPLE SAY WE ARE COMMON
LAW, AND WE BOTH BELIEVE IN
GOD, AND I WAS BAPTIZED
RECENTLY."
Pat: WELL, GRAZELLE,
GOOD FOR YOU.
OUR ATTITUDES OF SEX ARE
BIZARRE TODAY.
THE BIBLE CALLS WHAT YOU'RE
DOING IS FORNICATION BECAUSE
YOU'RE NOT MARRIED.
AND SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE
IS IMMORTALITY AND
FORNICATION.
NOW, AS I'VE SAID A NUMBER
OF TIMES, AND I'VE PROBABLY
SHOCKED PEOPLE, BUT I DO
BELIEVE IFAND YOUR
SIGNIFICANT OTHER WOULD
COMMIT YOURSELF TO A LIFE
TOGETHER, IT DOESN'T HAVE TO
BE SOLIDIFIED BY A JUSTICE
OF THE PEACE OR A PASTOR.
BUT TO GET THE BENEFITS OF
THE GOVERNMENT AND ALL OF
THE THINGS THAT GO ALONG
WITH IT, YOU WANT TO GET A
MARRIAGE LICENSE AND GET
MARRIED.
WHAT IS KEEPING YOU?
YOU'VE BEEN LIVING TOGETHER
FOR FOUR YEARS NOW, WHY
CAN'T YOU GET MARRIED?
WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK?
YOU ARE OBVIOUSLY LIVING
TOGETHER, SO YOU'RE HAVING
SEX TOGETHER, AND YOU'RE
LIVING LIKE MARRIED PEOPLE
ACT, BUT YOUR NOT MARRIED.
WHICH MEANS ONE OF YOU IS
NOT WILLING Tz TAKE ON THE
RESPONSIBILITIES OF A
MARRIAGE.
MARRIAGE IS A PRETTY GOOD
IDEA.
I'M COMING UP ON 60 YEARS.
Terry: AND I'M COMING
UP ON 33.
Pat: I HAVE 14
GRANDCHILDREN.
I HAVE -- I WAS GOING TO SAY
FOUR AND A HALF -- THE THING
ABOUT BE FRUITFUL AND
MULTIPLY WE HAVE TAKEN TO
HEART IN OUR FAMILY.
I'M LOOKING ON GOING ON
FIVE, FIVE AND A HALF
GREAT-GRANDCHILDREN.
AND THEY'RE SO SWEET AND SO
PRECIOUS.
SO, DARLING, GET MARRIED.
STOP FOOLING AROUND.
AND BUILD A FAMILY AND BUILD
A LIFE TOGETHER.
Terry: THIS IS CAROL
WHO SAYS, "MY NIECE JUST
GRADUATED FROM A CATHOLIC
UNIVERSITY AND HAS NOW COME
HOW SHOULD I, AS A
CHRISTIAN, RESPOND TO THE
SITUATION WHEN I MEET HER
PARTNER AT FAMILY FUNCTIONS
AND AT HOLIDAYS?"
Pat: THE LAST THING YOU
WANT TO BE A JUDGEMENTAL.
YOU WANT TO BE LOVING AND
WARM AND LET THEM KNOW THAT
YOU LOVE THEM.
BUT YOU CANNOT ACCEPT THAT.
YOU CANNOT BE AN ENABLER.
IF THEY'RE LIVING TOGETHER
AS A HOMOSEXUAL AND YOU'RE A
CHRISTIAN, YOU CANNOT SAY I
EXCEPT THIS LIFESTYLE.
RIGHT NOW THERE IS AN
INCREDIBLE BARAGE OF
ACTIVITY, FORCING PEOPLE TO
ACCEPT THE HOMOSEXUAL
LIFESTYLE.
WELL, DO WE ACCEPT
ADULTERY?
DO WE ACCEPT FORNICATION?
IS THAT SOMETHING WE'RE
GOING TO BE FORCED TO DO?
THE ANSWER IS, NO, I DON'T
THINK WE OUGHT TO BE
ACCEPTING OF IT.
BUT YOU NEED TO ALWAYS HAVE
LOVE.
THERE ARE SOME HOMOSEXUALS
WHO HAVE AN ENORMOUS
CAPACITY FOR ARTISTIC
EXPRESSION.
YOU FIND A LOT OF THIS IN
THE HOMOSEXUAL COMMUNITY.
AND VERY TALENTED PEOPLE.
AND, YOU KNOW, WE NEED TO
HAVE LOVE.
I'M A GREAT ADVOCA
LOVE.
SO WE'RE NOT JUDGEMENTAL.
JUDGE NOT THAT YOU BE NOT
JUDGED.
SO WE'RE ACCEPTING.
AND WE'RE BLESSED.
BUT WHEN IT IS ALL SAID AND
DONE, WE CANNOT SAY WE'RE
GOING TO PUT THE CHRISTIAN
CHURCH OVER SOMETHING THAT
GOD HIMSELF CALLS A SIN.
Terry: THIS IS CARLIN
WHO SAYS, "MORE THAN 40
YEARS AGO I BECAME A BORN
AGAIN CHRISTIAN AND RECEIVED
THE GIFT OF SPEAKING IN
TONGUES.
I WAS PLAYING WITH A QUIJA
BOARD AND WEIRD THINGS
HAPPENED.
I NEVER PICKED IT UP AGAIN,
BUT I THINK SOMETHING
ATTACHED TO ME.
RECENTLY I WAS WATCHING A
NEWS REPORT ON THE MIDDLE
EAST, AND I NOTICED THAT MY
PRAYERS SOUND LIKE THAT.
I'M AFRAID I MIGHT NOT BE
PRAYING TO OUR LO$9ñ
I DO NOT HAVE THE GIFT OF
SPEAKING IN TONGUES, SO I
WOULD APPRECIATE YOUR
SUGGESTIONS."
Pat: I THINK YOU SHOULD
FIND A PASTOR THAT IS
KNOWLEDGE IABLABLE OF
WORKING IN THE HOLY SPIRIT.
YOU OUGHT TO SHARE THESE
THINGS WITH THAT PASTOR AND
SEE WHAT THE DEAL IS.
I THINK DEALING WITH OUIJA
BOARDS -- ANY TIME YOU
SUBMIT YOURSELF TO THE
OCCULT, YOU'RE KA ASKING
THE OCCULT TO TAKE OVER.
YOU THINK SOMEHOW GOD
ALLOWED SOME DEMON TO TAKE
YOU OVER -- I FIND THAT HARD
TO BELIEVE.
YOU NEED SOMEONE TO COUNSEL
YOU ON THAT.
Terry: BILL SAYS, "PAT,t BEEN A CHRISTIAN FORTKR
YEARS, BUT I'M OFTEN
TORMENTED BY FEAR AND
ANXIETY.
I KNOW THAT GOD SAYS PERFECT
LOVE CASTS OUT FEAR.
HOW DO I ASSIMILATE THAT TO
BE MORE REAL IN MY LIFE?"
Pat: ONCE UPON A TIME I
WAS IN AN AIRPLANE, AND THE
AIRPLANE STARTED GOING DOWN
IN THE CARRIBEAN.
AND I HAD TO MAKE A
CONSCIOUS DECISION THAT,
LORD, I'M READY(TN DIE.
IF THIS THING GOES DOWN, I'M
READY.
AND ALL OF A SUDDEN PEACE
CAME INTO MY HEART.
YOU HAVE TO SPEND SOME TIME
AND CONSCIOUSLY THINK ABOUT
IT.
SO WHAT IF I DIE?
IS THAT THE WORST THAT IS
GOING TO HAPPEN?
WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO
ME WHEN I DIE?
I LOVE JESUS.
WHEN I DIE, I'M GOING TO BE
WITH HIM.
I'LL BE IN PARADISE FOR ALL
ETERNITY.
SO WHAT HAVE I GOT TO BE
AGRAID OF?
AND YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH
THAT.
THAT'S THE ULTIMATE.
IF YOU TAKE CARE OF THE
DEATH QUESTION, THEN YOU CAN
DEAL WITH THESE OTHERS
BETTER THAN THAT.
BUT PERFECT LOVE CASTS OUT
FEAR.