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700 Club Interactive: Sorry Not Sorry - June 24, 2014

Do you apologize too much? Find out why women say sorry so often, and why it's important that they stop. Read Transcript


Gordon: IT'S THE VIRAL

VIDEO THAT HAS GOT EVERYONE

TALKING.

UNIVERSALLY, EVERY WOMEN

THAT SEES THE VIDEO IS LIKE,

OH, MY GOSH, I DO THIS ALL

OF THE TIME AND I DON'T EVEN

KNOW IT.

Gordon: MORE ON THE

SORRY/NOT SORRY CAMPAIGN ON

TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

ON "700 CLUB INTERACTIVE,"

WE USE TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY

FOR EACH OTHER AND EXPLORE

TOPICS THAT MATTER TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELL, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

LAST YEAR COSMETIC GIANT

PANTENE RELEASED AN AD

CAMPAIGN THAT TACKLES SOME

OF THE LABELS THAT WOMEN ARE

GIVEN IN THE WORKPLACE.

THAT VIDEO WENT VIRAL, AND

IT WAS SEEN BY 50 MILLION

PEOPLE.

WELL, NOW THEY'RE AT IT

AGAIN WITH A NEW AD CAMPAIGN

CALLED "SORRY/NOT SORRY."

Terry: WHETHER AT THE

OFFICE OR AT HOME, WOMEN

HABITUALLY APOLOGIZE EVEN

WHEN THEY'RE NOT AT FAULT.

SOME SAY IT IS A FEMINIST

RANT, AND OTHERS SAY IT IS

TIME TO BE STRONG AND

SHINE.

Reporter: THE AD SHOWS

WOMEN, ONE AFTER THE OTHER,

APOLOGIZING.

SORRY.

SORRY.

Reporter: THE MOCKATIVE

AD CAMPAIGN HAS THEM

APOLOGIZING AT THE OFFICE,

AT HOME --

SORRY.

Reporter: EVEN IN BED.

UNIVERSALLY, EVERY WOMAN

THAT SEES THE VIDEO IS,

LIKE, OH, MY GOSH, I DO THIS

ALL OF THE TIME.

AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW IT.

Reporter: AND THEN THE

AD SUDDENLY SHIFTS GEARS.

DEPICTING WOMEN WHO ARE

STRONG, TAKING CONTROL.

THE AD'S MESSAGE: DON'T BE

SORRY; BE STRONG AND SHINE.

BUT EXPERTS THINK THE AD

MISSES THE MARK.

I THINK THE INTENT OF THE

AD WAS TO GO AFTER A WOMAN,

MAYBE INSECURE, LACK OF

CONFIDENCE.

UNFORTUNATELY, WHAT HAPPENED

IS THE EXAMPLES THEY USED

WERE REALLY JUST EXAMPLES OF

WHAT I WOULD CONSIDER POLITE

AND RESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR.

I THINK THE AD PROBABLY HAD

GOOD INTENTION BUT DIDN'T

DEVELOP IT WELL AND DIDN'T

USE GOOD IDEAS, IN TERMS OF

HOW THEY WERE TRYING TO GET

THAT IDEA OUT.

Reporter: WHETHER

SAYING YOU'RE SORRY IS

POLITE BEHAVIOR OR SOMETHING

MORE, RESEARCH SHOWS THAT

WOMEN CONSISTENTLY APOLOGIZE

MORE THAN MEN.

AND THAT SIMPLE FIVE-LETTER

WORD CAN HAVE A BIG IMPACT

ON THE WAY WOMEN ARE

PERCEIVED.

WOMEN SEEM MUCH MORE

SUBMISSIVE BECAUSE THEY TEND

TO APOLOGIZE MORE.

GOING FORWARD IF PEOPLE CAN

DELETE THE APOLOGY AND COME

ACROSS WITH THEIR STATEMENT,

THEY'LL COME ACROSS MORE

POWERFUL.

WHAT THEY DEMONSTRATED

WAS REALLY A POLITE AND

RESPECTFUL PERSON.

I THINK WE'RE GETTING A

LITTLE OVERSENSITIVE ABOUT

ALL OF THIS POLITICAL

CORRECTNESS, AND WHAT'S A

GENDER AND WHAT'S A FEMINIST

ISSUE.

AND WOMEN HAVE TO STAND UP.

YES, THEY DO IN CERTAIN

SITUATIONS.

BUT BY GETTING RID OF

CIVILITY AMONG PEOPLE, THAT

IS NOT THE RIGHT MESSAGE.

Reporter: THE AD IS

JUST THE LATEST SERIES OF

EYE-CATCHING, POT-STIRRING

COMMERCIALS, WHICH IS DOING

EXACTLY WHAT THE AVERTISERS

WANT THEM TO DO, GENERATING

CONVERSATION AND GETTING

PEOPLE THINKING ABOUT THEIR

PRODUCTS.

Gordon: WE WERE JUST

TALKING ABOUT THAT.

WE RECENTLY POSTED THAT

VIDEO TO OUR Facebook PAGE

AND RECEIVED QUESTIONS AND

COMMENTS FROM OUR VIEWERS.

LET'S GO OVER TO JESSICA TO

FIND OUT MORE.

Reporter: REBECCA SAYS,

I'M NOT SURE I AGREE WITH

THE PANTENE VIDEO.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH SAYING

SORRY?

Gordon: TERRY, I'LL ASK

YOU THAT ONE.

BECAUSE THE STATISTICS ARE

SUPPOSEDLY TRUE, THAT WOMEN

SAY SORRY MORE THAN MEN.

Terry: I THINK AS WE

WERE DISCUSSING IT, AS THAT

WAS PLAYING, AND THEY SAID,

I SOMETIMES SAY SORRY WHEN I

USUALLY MEAN EXCUSE ME.

SORRY MEANS I HAVE DONE

SOMETHING WRONG.

OR --

Gordon: MY BAD.

Terry: EXACTLY.

I DON'T KNOW IF WE MEAN

SORRY OR IF WE MEAN EXCUSE

ME.

IT MIGHT JUST BEEN THAT

THAT'S ALL IT IS.

BUT, ON THE OTHER HAND, I

THINK THERE ARE SOMETIMES

WHERE MEN WOULD NOT SAY

THAT.

WHERE A MAN WOULD BUMP INTO

SOMEONE AND THEN SAY EXCUSE

ME.

Consuelo: LET'S PUT

Gordon: JESSICA, WHY DO

YOU SAY SORRY?

IT JUST BECAME A THING OF

HABITMENHABIT.

I DIDN'T REALIZE I WAS

SAYING SORRY ALL OF THE

TIME.

UNTIL I HAD A FRIEND WHO

SAID, JESSICA, YOU DON'T

HAVE TO SAY SORRY.

AND I REALIZED I'M NOT

SAYING EXCUSE ME.

I'M SAYING I'M SORRY OVER

AND OVER AGAIN.

AND I SHOULDN'T BE DOING

THAT.

Terry: I THINK THAT'S

WHAT THE CAMPAIGN WAS

SAYING, THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU

SAY AND WHY YOU DO IT.

Gordon: DO YOU THINK IT

IS A GENDER ROLE?

Terry: I THINK IT CAN

BE.

OR IT COULD BE HABIT.

Gordon: DO YOU THINK IT

IS A SELF-ESTEEM PROBLEM,

REGARDLESS OF GENDER, OR A

FALSE CONCEPT OF WHAT IT

MEANS TO BE POLITE.

Terry: I THINK MAYBE

YOU WOULD HAVE TO TAKE THAT

IN EACH INDIVIDUAL

SITUATION.

YOU KNOW, I THINK EVEN

SOMEONE WHO SAYS -- TO

PEOPLE WHO SAY IT REGULARLY,

SOME MIGHT SAY IT AS HABIT,

AND OTHERS MIGHT SAY IT OUT

OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM.

HARD TO SAY.

THE LOW SELF-ESTEEM MIGHT

NOT BE GENDER-RELATED.

THROW THAT IN THE MIX,

RIGHT.

Gordon: SORRY.

[LAUGHTER]

Gordon: WE'VE GOT A

COMMENT FROM BONNIE, AND SHE

IS SAYING, "I THINK SOME

WOMEN ARE GENUINELY TRYING

TO BE POLITE, BUT SOME TEND

TO APOLOGIZE TOO MUCH,

SOMETIMES FOR EVER LITTLE

THING.

I THINK WOMEN NEED TO ASK

THEMSELVES, DO I HAVE A GOOD

REASON TO SPEAK UP, OR AM I

BEING RUDE?

WE NEED TO BE STRONG, BUT

LET'S NOT LOSE COMMON

ETIQUETTE."

THAT'S A GOOD E-MAIL.

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT

THAT?

Terry: YES.

DR. MENTEL WAS TALKING ABOUT

THAT AND SAID, LET'S NOT

JUST BEING BRUSHING THINGS

OFF WHEN WE OFFEND SOMEONE

ELSE POTENTIALLY OR EVEN

OFFEND SOMEONE.

IN THIS DAY AND AGE, WE

COULDN'T OVERDUE IT IN THE

ETIQUETTE DEPARTMENT.

[LAUGHTER]

Gordon: WE'RE ALL FOR

ETIQUETTE.

Terry: THAT'S PRETTY

MUCH THE WAY THE WORLD

FUNCTIONS TODAY.

I'M BIG IN THE ETIQUETTE

DEPARTMENT, BUT NOT GOING

OVERBOARD.

IT ALMOST BECOMES ALMOST

INSINCERE IF WE JUST SAY IT

ALL OF THE TIME AND IT

DOESN'T HAVE ANY MEANING TO

IT.

I THINK THERE IS SOME MERIT

TO THAT.

Gordon: WE'VE GOT ONE

MORE COMMENT ON THIS.

LET'S GO OVER TO JESSICA.

GORDON, LISA POSTED, "THE

SECULAR WORLD IS AWARE OF

GENDER ROLES.

MY FAMILY ARE AT A GREAT

CHURCH WE LOVE, BUT THEY

DON'T AGREE WITH WOMEN IN

LEADERSHIP.

WHAT SHOULD WE DO?

SHOULD WE LEAVE THE CHURCH

OR TRY TO SHOW THA THEM

THAT GOD REALLY DOES VALUE

WOMEN?"

Gordon: THERE SEEMS TO

BE A CONFLICT IN WHAT YOU'RE

SAYING, THAT IT IS A GREAT

CHURCH AND MY FAM LOVES IT,

AND I HAVE A HARD TIME

RECONCILING THAT WITH THEY

DISRESPECT WOMEN.

LOTS OF CHURCHES, FOR

WHATEVER REASONS, DON'T PUT

WOMEN IN AS PASTORS.

AND THERE HAS BEEN A

CONTROVERSY ON THAT.

SOME DENOMINATIONS SAY WOMEN

CAN SERVE, AND OTHERS SAY

NO, WOMEN CAN'T.

THAT WASN'T THE MODEL OF THE

EARLY CHURCH.

AND THEN THERE IS A WHOLE

DIGGING INTO WHAT EXACTLY

DID PHOEBE DO IN THE BOOK OF

ROMANS, AND WHY DID PAUL

COMMEND HER TO THE ROMAN

CHURCH AND ASK THEM TO

SUPPORT HER.

WHY THE GREEK WORD FOR

DEACON IS ASCRIBED TO HER.

WHAT DID LYDIA DO?

WHAT ARE THOSE EXACT ROLES.

IF YOU GO SEARCH THE

SCRIPTURES, THERE ARE PLENTY

OF EVIDENCE FOR WOMEN, THE

FOREMOST BEING DEBRA IN

ISRAEL.

WHERE SHE LED ISRAEL.

SHE WAS CALLED A JUDGE OF

ISRAEL.

AT THE SAME TIME, SHE

RECOGNIZED SHE NEEDED MEN

INVOLVED, AND SO SHE DID

THAT.

SO WE CAN DEBATE ALL DAY

LONG, BUT DEBATING ABOUT

THEOLOGICAL CONCEPTS, SHOULD

WOMEN BE IN LEADERSHIP, I

DON'T THINK IS

DISRESPECTING.

I BELIEVE IT WAS WHAT WAS

THE TEACHING OF THE

APOSTLES.

WHAT WAS THE PRACTICE IN THE

EARLY CHURCH.

AND I WONDER, ARE YOU

JUDGING TOO HARSHLY.

TERRY, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Terry: YOU KNOW, I

STRUGGLE WITH THIS SOMETIMES

IN CERTAIN ASPECTS OF THE

SCRIPTURE.

HOW MUCH OF IT IS CULTURAL

TO THE TIME, AND HOW MUCH IS

AN ADMONITION TO THE CHURCH

FOR LONG-TERM.

Gordon: YEAH, THIS IS A

RULE UNTIL JESUS COMES

BACK.

I GUESS I THINK, WHEN I

SEE SOMEONE LIKE ANN GRAHAM

WATTS, OR JOYCE MEYER, WHO

HAVE BEEN GIVEN FROM THE

WORD THE WORD OF TEACHING.

AND WE SHOULDN'T TURN AWAY

AND LISTEN TO WHAT

REVELATION SAYS BECAUSE THEY

ARE WOMEN.

I KNOW THERE ARE DOMINATION

DENOMINATIONS WHO DON'T WANT

WOMEN LEADING.

Gordon: AND YOU KIND OF

GO, WHY DID YOU INVITE HER

AND WHY DID YOU SHOW UP IF

YOU'RE GOING TO DO THAT?

WHERE IS JESUS IN THAT?

AND WHERE IS THERE IS

NEITHER JEW NOR GREEK, SLAVE

NOR FREE, MALE OR FEMALE?

WE'RE ALL ONE IN CHRIST.

CERTAINLY WHEN WE GET TO

HEAVEN, ALL OF THIS IS GOING

TO GO AWAY.

Terry: I THINK YOU HIT

THE NAIL ON THE HEAD.

IF YOU ARE PULLING OUT YOUR

"WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?"

BRACELET, THAT'S NO WHAT HE

WOULD DO.

Gordon: THIS IS GOING

TO BE A DYNAMIC THAT IS

GOING TO LAST A LONG TIME.

Terry: I'M OF THE

OPINION THAT LIFE IS BRIEF,

AND GOD HAS CALLED PEOPLE TO

ALL THINGS.

IF YOUR CHURCH IS GREAT, AND

GOD IS NOT MOVING ON YOU TO

LEAVE, THEN STAY.

BUT IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE

A WOMAN THAT GOD HAS CALLED

TO DO SOMETHING AND YOU

CAN'T FUNCTION WHERE YOU ARE

AT, THEN FIND A PLACE WHERE

YOU CAN.

MAINTAIN UNITY, MOVE FORWARD

WITH THE LOVE OF CHRIST, AND

OCCUPY UNTIL HE COMES.

Gordon: AND JOYCE MEYER

IS A GREAT EXAMPLE OF THAT.

SHE WAS ACTUALLY ASKED BY

GOD TO TAKE A ROLE WHERE SHE

WAS NOT GOING TO BE THE

LEADER FOR A SEASON AND FOR

A TIME.

AND THEN SHE GOT RELEASED

INTO HER THING.

AND IT WASN'T LET'S

OVERTHROW THE CHURCH

LEADERSHIP.

IT WAS THE GIFTING AND

CALLING.

IF GOD'S CALLED YOU, HE WILL

LEAD YOU WHERE YOU SHOULD

BE.

Terry: HE DOES IT WITH

LOVING KINDNESS.

IT DOESN'T MEAN IT IS ALWAYS

EASY --

Gordon: A FEW

WRINKLES.

Terry: THAT'S A GOOD

WORD.

Gordon: AND I DON'T

THINK WE'RE GOING TO END THE

CONFLICT WITH TODAY'S SHOW.

I THINK IT WILL GO ON AND

WE'LL HAVE MULTIPLE

CONVERSATIONS.

AND THE GOOD THING IS WE CAN

TALK ABOUT IT.

AS LONG AS WE TALK IN LOVE

AND OUR MOTIVATION IS LOVE,

I THINK WE'LL BE IN A GOOD

PLACE.

IF YOU WANT TO JOIN THE

CONVERSATION, ALL YOU HAVE

TO DO IS GO TO OUR

Facebook PAGE AND POST

YOUR QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS,

AND WE'D LOVE TO HEAR FROM

YOU.

Terry: STILL AHEAD, SHE

LIVED A DREAM LIFE, BUT IT

WAS ALL A FACADE.

THE WAY I SAW MYSELF AT

THAT TIME WAS DAMAGED,

DAMAGED GOODS.

AND I WAS GOING TO DO

WHATEVER IT TOOK TO TRY

TO -- AS A KID AND THEN AS A

YOUNG ADULT AND THEN AS A

WOMAN, TO JUST MASK THAT, TO

LIE.

Terry: HOW SHE LEARNED

TO BE TRUE TO HERSELF AFTER

THIS.

Terry: CARRIE SEESAL

SEEMED TO HAVE IT ALL,

RUBBING SHOULDERS WITH THE

ELITE, AND A FAIRY TALE

MARRIAGE TO AN NFL STAR.

BUT NOTHING WAS EVER ENOUGH

FOR THIS WOMAN WHO'S LIFE

WAS SHATTERED WHEN SHE WAS

JUST A CHILD.

WE WERE A TYPICAL FAMILY,

AND THEN MY PARENTS GOT

DIVORCED.

AND EVERYTHING THAT I KNEW

ABOUT SAFETY WAS GONE.

Reporter: AFTER HER

PARENTS DIVORCED, CARRIE SEE

SAL MOVED WITH HER MOTHER TO

ARIZONA.

MY CHILDHOOD WAS FILLED

WITH A LOT OF LOVE.

BUT IT WAS FILLED WITH

POVERTY, OF STRUGGLING.

MY MOM WAS TRYING TO BE BOTH

MOM AND DAD.

SHE WORKED THREE JOBS.

BUT WHEN A PARENT WORKS A

LOT, KIDS ARE LEFT TO THEIR

OWN.

I WOULD SAY ABOUT SIXTH

GRADE WAS THE FIRST TIME

THAT I WAS TOUCHED

INAPPROPRIATELY.

Reporter: THROUGH HER

ADOLESCENCE, TERRY HID THE

DEEP PAIN OF ABUSE.

THE WAY THAT I SAW MYSELF

AT THAT TIME WAS DAMAGED,

DAMAGED GOODS.

AND I WAS GOING TO DO

WHATEVER IT TOOK TO -- AS A

KID AND THEN AS A YOUNG

ADULT AND THEN AS A WOMAN,

TO JUST MASK THAT, TO LIE.

Reporter: AS A YOUNG

ADULT, CARRIE INITIALLY

EMBRACED A PARTY LIFESTYLE,

FILLED WITH DRUGS AND

ALCOHOL.

AS SHE MATURED, SHE FOUND

HER COMFORT ELSEWHERE.

WHEN THAT DIDN'T WORK FOR

ME, WHEN SELF-MEDICATION

DIDN'T WORK, TRYING TO FILL

UP THAT HOLE, IT WAS CAREER

AND MONEY.

BECAUSE POVERTY, I THOUGHT,

WAS THE PROBLEM.

FROM COLLEGE TO NEW YORK, I

HAD WONDERFUL MENTORS.

FROM NEW YORK TO L.A.,

WORKING IN P.R., WORKING IN

MOVIE SETS.

AND MY CAREER WAS TAKING

OFF.

Reporter: BY HER 20s,

CARRIE WAS A TOP PUBLICIST

AND WRITER.

HERE I WAS, ON THE SET

WITH ARNOLD SCHWARZENEGGER

ON "END OF DAYS," AND WITH

JOAQUIN PHOENIX, AND I'M

WORKING WITH WILL SMITH IN

"FRESH PRINCE OF BELAIRE."

AND AT NIGHT I'M GOING HOME

AND I'M NOT DRINKING BOONE

FARM.

I'M DRINKING A GREAT BOTTLE

OF CHARDONNAY AND TAKING TWO

XANAX.

Reporter: WHEN CAREER

WASN'T ENOUGH, CARRIE TRIED

TO RECREATE THE FAMILY SHE

SO DESPERATELY WANTED.

SHE MARRIED HER COLLEGE

SWEETHEART.

THE FOOTBALL STAR, TWO

VICIOUS FOR THE NFL.

MY HUSBAND IS GOOD-LOOKING.

AND STILL, IT'S NOT ENOUGH.

THERE IS NO PEACEMENT I

PEACE.

I CAN'T GO TO SLEEP AT

NIGHT.

I'M STILL AFRAID INSIDE.

EVEN THOUGH NO ONE KNOWS IT,

I'M DRIVING AROUND IN A

MERCEDES BENZ, EVERYTHING

LOOKS AGREE WE'RE THE

PERFECT NFL -- NO.

Reporter: BUT IN 2001,

HER LIFE TOOK AN UNEXPECTED

TURN.

FIRST SHE BECAME PREGNANT

AND HER HUSBAND BEGAN

COACHING FOR THE TENNESSEE

TITANS.

CARRIE WAS STUCK IN THE

SOUTH.

THERE IS NOTHING CRAZIER

THAN SOUTHERNERS.

IN NASHVILLE PEOPLE SAY,

WHERE DO YOU GO TO CHURCH?

I GO TO CHURCH IN NEIMAN

MARCUS.

I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU GO TO

CHURCH.

YALY'ALL ARE CRAZY.

Reporter: THERE IS

STORMY AND DR. RICE BROOKS,

WHO WROTE, "GOD'S NOT DEAD,"

AND AN AFRICAN-AMERICAN

FAMILY, TIM AND LASHELL

JOHNSON.

TIM WAS A BIG NFL STAR, AND

HE IS A PASTOR.

AND THEY ALL GO TO THIS ONE

CHURCH IN NASHVILLE.

Reporter: SHE FORMED

HER CLOSEST BOND WITH THE

JOHNSON FAMILY.

AT THIS POINT I'M

PREGNANT WITH MY DAUGHTER.

I'VE BEEN IN L.A.

I'M STARVING.

I'VE BEEN TRYING TO BE

SKINNY MY WHOLE LIFE, AND

THEY'RE FEEDING ME.

LASHELL COULD COOK

ANYTHING.

AND I COULD SEE THIS LOVE IN

THEIR HOUSE.

HONESTLY, AT THIS POINT I

WAS SOBER FOR THE FIRST TIME

BECAUSE I WAS HAVING MY

DAUGHTER.

I LOOKED IN THE MIRROR AND I

JUST WASN'T VERY LIKEABLE.

Reporter: SEVEN MONTHS

LATER, CARRIE RELUCTANTLY

AGREED TO GO TO CHURCH WITH

THEM.

I AGREED TO GO TO CHURCH

WITH THEM ONE TIME BECAUSE I

WANTED TO SOLIDIFY MY SUNDAY

MEAL.

I NEVER SEEN ANYTHING LIKE

THAT.

IT WAS BLACK, BROWN,

YELLOW -- IT WAS THE UNITED

NATIONS EPISODE OF "GLEE".

I THOUGHT GOD ONLY LOVED

PEOPLE WHO ARE GOOD.

I SAT IN THE BACK ROW

BECAUSE I THOUGHT, LIGHTNING

IS GOING TO HIT IF I'M

HERE.

PASTOR JOE COMES UP AND

PREACHES AND SOMETHING SPOKE

TO ME.

AND IT TOUCHED ME.

I THOUGHT, WOW, HE IS

TALKING TO ME.

Reporter: FOR A YEAR

AFTER CARRIE'S TRIP TO

CHURCH, SHE CONTINUALLY

ASKED THE JOHNSON FAMILY

SPIRITUAL QUESTIONS.

FINALLY CARRIE GOT THE SIGN

SHE WAS LOOKING FOR.

I WALKED INTO A STORE AND

I GOT A SIGN, BUT IT WAS A

SIGN ON THE WALL.

AND IT SAID -- IT WAS JUST A

SAYING, I DIDN'T KNOW WHERE

IT WAS FROM.

IT SAID, "COME TO ME, ALL OF

YOU WHO ARE WEARY AND

BURDENED AND I WILL GIVE YOU

REST."

AND ISN'T THAT WHAT WE

WANT?

JUST PEACE.

I JUST WANTED TO GO TO

SLEEP.

AND I WANTED MY DAUGHTER TO

HAVE A HOPE AND A FUTURE.

AND I WANTED HER TO BE THE

WOMAN THAT I WANTED TO BE.

AND I WENT OVER TO TIM'S

HOUSE THAT NIGHT, AND

LASHELL AND I SAT ON THEIR

BACK PORCH.

I SAID, TELL ME WHAT IS IT?

HOW DO YOU HAVE THIS LIFE

AND PEACE AND JOY.

AND SHE SAID, BABY, THAT

AIN'T US.

THAT'S JESUS.

THAT AIN'T US.

Reporter: SIX MONTHS

LATER, CARRIE WAS BAPTIZED

AT PASTOR TIM'S CHURCH.

TODAY SHE IS A FULL-TIME

SPEAKER AND AUTHOR, AND HAS

WRITTEN A FICTION WORK ABOUT

HER SPIRITUAL JOURNEY CALLED

"ONE SUNDAY."

GOD DIDN'T COME TO SAVE THE

PERFECT.

HE CAME TO SAVE THE BROKEN.

HE LOVES US AT OUR WORST.

HE LOVES US IN THE PLACES

THAT WE CAN'T LOVE

OURSELVES.

IF YOU'RE THAT ONE PERSON

LIKE I WAS, MAYBE YOU DON'T

HAVE ANYTHING.

MAYBE YOU HAVE IT ALL.

AT SOME POINT YOU'RE GOING

TO NEED MORE.

AND THAT'S WHEN GOD MOVES.

WE'RE IN A PLACE WHERE GOD

WILL MEET YOU EXACTLY WHERE

YOU ARE, EXACTLY WHERE YOU

ARE RIGHT NOW.

Terry: GOD DIDN'T COME

FOR THE PERFECT.

AND AREN'T YOU GLAD HE

DIDN'T?

AREN'T YOU GLAD THAT WHILE

WE WERE YET SINNERS CHRIST

DIED FOR US.

AREN'T YOU GLAD THAT HE

OPENED THE DOOR TO ETERNITY,

THAT HE LOVED US WITH AN

EVERLASTING LOVE.

THERE IS NOTHING WE CAN DO

TO SEPARATE US FROM HIS

LOVE.

THERE IS NOTHING WE CAN DO

THAT TAKES US TOO FAR AWAY.

IT IS A MATTER OF WILL WE

RECEIVE IT OR NOT.

TODAY I WANT TO ENCOURAGE

YOU, IF GOD HAS SPOKEN TO

YOUR HEART, CARRIE SAID

SOMETHING SPOKE TO HER IN

CHURCH THAT DAY.

IT WAS THE SPIRIT OF GOD

SPEAKING TO HER HEART,

WOOING HER TO LET HIM LOVE

HER.

GOD SAYS IN HIS WORD, LET ME

HELP YOU.

GOD WANTS T US TO LIVE IN

HIM, AND HE LIVES IN US.

THAT'S WHAT WE WERE CREATED

FOR.

IF THERE IS AN EMPTINESS IN

YOUR LIFE AND THERE IS NO

PEACE, LIKE CARRIE HAD NO

PEACE, AND YOU WATCHED THIS

WOMAN'S STORY AND YOU SAY,

THAT'S WHAT I NEED.

OUR PHONE LINES ARE OPEN.

1-888-777-1999.

YOU CAN CALL FOR PRAYER

RIGHT NOW.

THIS IS "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE," AND WE'VE

RECEIVED YOUR PRAYER

REQUESTS.

SO LET'S GO OVER TO JESSICA

AND FIND OUT WHAT HAS BEEN

HAPPENING ONLINE.

JANE WRITES, "MY BEST

FRIEND, HEATHER, IS A GIFT

TO ME.

WE HAVE BOTH COME FROM

DIVORCED FAMILIES AND WALKED

THROUGH THE SAME HURTS

TOGETHER.

BUT I DON'T THINK SHE IS

HEALED.

SHE OFTEN TELLS ME HOW

JEALOUS SHE IS OF ME, THAT

I'M PRETTIER THAN HER AND I

HAVE MORE FRIENDS FOR HER.

PLEASE PRAY FOR GOD TO HEAL

HER HEART.

I LOVE HER SO MUCH."

CHARITY SAYS, "I'M A SINGLE

MOTHER OF TWO.

I WANT MY CHILDREN TO

GLORIFY GOD BUT I'M STILL

HURT.

PLEASE PRAY THAT WE WILL BE

WHOLE."

Terry: LET'S PRAY FOR

THESE TWO AND OTHERS.

WELL, FATHER, WE JUST ASK

YOU FOR JANE'S FRIEND,

HEATHER, GOD, THAT SHE WOULD

BECOME HER ALL IN ALL.

AND ALSO FOR CHARITY.

THEY'RE CRYING OUT TO YOU,

GOD, WITH NEED IN THEIR

LIVES.

I THINK OF HEATHER, WHO'S

PARENTS DIVORCED, AND THERE

IS SUCH A WOUNDING IN THAT

FOR CHILDREN, SUCH A SENSE

OF ABANDONMENT AND

REJECTION.

AND UNTIL WE GET PAST THAT,

GOD, WE CAN'T REALLY ALLOW

YOU TO LOVE US THE WAY YOU

WANT TO.

BUT EVEN OUR HEALING COMES

FROM YOU.

I PRAY THAT SAME THING,

FATHER, FOR CHARITY, WHO HAS

GONE THROUGH A DIVORCE

HERSELF.

AND THE PAIN OF THAT IS SO

DEEP.

IT'S A THORN IN OUR HEARTS,

GOD, UNTIL YOU COME AND

TOUCH US WITH YOUR PEACE AND

WITH YOUR LOVE AND WITH YOUR

HEALING POWERS.

SO FOR BOTH OF THESE WOMEN,

GOD, WILL YOU MAKE THEM

WHOLE.

WILL YOU TOUCH THEIR HEARTS

AND TEACH THEM THAT

EVERYTHING THEY NEED IS IN

YOU.

EVEN THE VERY DEFINITION OF

WHO THEY ARE AS PEOPLE, AS

HUMAN BEINGS, AS YOUR

CREATION, COMES FROM YOUR

LOVE AT WORK IN THEIR

HEARTS.

WE CAN'T GIVE AWAY WHAT WE

DON'T HAVE.

SO HEAL US, GOD, IN THESE

DEEP, DEEP INNER PLACES.

PLACES THAT MAYBE NO ONE

KNOWS ABOUT, THAT WE DON'T

TALK TO ANYBODY ABOUT.

HEAL US SO WE CAN BE MADE

WHOLE.

SO WE CAN SHARE THE GREAT,

GOOD NEWS, JESUS, OF WHO YOU

ARE, HOW YOU CAME, AND HOW

AVAILABLE YOU ARE TO ALL OF

US TODAY.

WE ASK THAT IN JESUS' NAME.

AMEN.

Gordon: AND AMEN.

STILL AHEAD, HOW VIEWERS

LIKE YOU ARE HELPING ABUSED

SINGLE MOMS BY GIVING THEM A

HOME AND AN EDUCATION.

RIGHT AFTER THIS.

Terry: CHILD ABUSE IS

PREVALENT AROUND THE WORLD.

IN EL SALVADOR, CHILDREN AS

YOUNG AS 11 ARE BEING ABUSED

AND ABANDONED.

SO WITH YOUR HELP, WE'RE

GIVING THEM A SAFE PLACE TO

LIVE.

AT A TIME WHEN MOST YOUNG

TEAMS ARE MEANT TO GO TO

SCHOOL OR PLAY GAMES WITH

THEIR FRIENDS, SHE'S

CHILDREN ARE HAVING BABIES.

THE YOUNGEST OF THE GROUP

HAD HER BABY JUST AFTER SHE

TURNED 11.

EACH OF THESE CHILDREN WAS

THE VICTIM OF ABUSE, WHICH

RESULTED IN PREGNANCY.

THE GOVERNMENT HAS REMOVED

THE GIRLS FROM THEIR ABUSIVE

HOMES AND BROUGHT THEM

HERE.

TO A PLACE THAT LOOKS AND

FEELS VERY MUCH LIKE AN

INSTITUTION.

IT IS A SAFE PLACE, BUT THE

GIRLS TOLD ME, AS I SAT AND

TALKED TO THEM, THAT IT

DOESN'T FEEL LIKE HOME.

SO CBN'S "ORPHANS' PROMISE"

FOUND A LARGE HOUSE FOR THE

GIRLS TO LIVE IN, AND GAVE

IT THE NAME "PROMISE

HOUSE."

AND WE WERE THERE TO

SURPRISE THE GIRLS AS THEY

WALKED THROUGH THE DOORS OF

THEIR NEW HOME FOR THE FIRST

TIME.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

IT'S VERY PRETTY.

Terry: THE BROOMS ARE

DECKED OUT WITH CRIBS WITH

MOSQUITO NETTING TO PROTECT

THE BABIES FROM MALARIA.

THE DINING ROOM TABLE HAS

ROOM FOR EVERYONE, AND SO WE

HAD A PIZZA PARTY TO

CELEBRATE.

FOR THE GIRLS AND FOR ME, IT

IS A DREAM FULFILLED.

SO HERE WE ARE AT "PROMISE

HOUSE," A BEAUTIFUL, SAFE

HOME WHERE THESE YOUNG GIRLS

WILL LEARN WHAT IT MEANS TO

BE FAMILY, HOW TO BE MOTHERS

TO THEIR BABIES, AND THEY'LL

FINISH THEIR EDUCATIONS

WHILE SOMEONE WATCHES OUT

FOR THEIR CHILDREN.

"PROMISE HOUSE" WILL HELP

THEM BREAK THE CYCLE OF

ABUSE AND PREPARE THEM FOR

THEIR FUTURES.

GOD'S WORD SAYS HE WILL BE A

FATHER TO THE FATHERLESS AND

THEY'LL PUT THE LONELY IN

FAMILIES.

THESE GIRLS DON'T YET KNOW

HOW TO SAY THANK YOU, SO

WE'LL SAY IT FOR YOU.

THANK YOU, THANK YOU FOR

MAKING "PROMISE HOUSE" A

REALITY.

Terry: WHEN WE LET GOD

WORK THROUGH THEM, HE BRINGS

THEM PEOPLE IN THEIR LIVES

THAT THEY NEED.

WHEN YOU JOIN "THE 700

CLUB," YOU'RE A PART OF

EVERYTHING THAT "ORPHANS'

PROMISE" DOES AROUND THE

WORLD.

SO LOG ON OR CALL CBN AND

JOIN TODAY.

Gordon: WE LEAVE YOU

WITH THESE WORDS OF WISDOM

FROM PROVERBS: "THE FEAR OF

MAN BRINGS A SNARE, BUT

WHOEVER TRUSTS IN THE LORD

SHALL BE SAVED."

SO TODAY JUST RESOLVE YOU'RE

GOING TO TRUST IN HIM.

YOU HAVE YOUR IDENTITY FROM

HIM.

HE MADE YOU.

FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY HE

MADE YOU, AND STAND IN THAT

AND YOU WON'T BE MOVED.

GOD BLESS YOU.

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