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700 Club Interactive: Loving Your Teen - July 23, 2014

Do you have trouble understanding teenagers? Of course you do – who doesn’t? Dr. Gary Chapman tells us how you can decipher your teen’s love language. Read Transcript


Gordon: IT'S AND ISSUE

THAT OVERLOOKS FEW

FAMILIES.

WHAT IS THAT SUPPOSED TO

MEAN.

THEY DON'T WANT TO HUG

YOU.

I DON'T KNOW.

Gordon: DR. GARY

CHAPMAN SHARES THE KEYS TO

LOVING YOUR TEENAGER, ON

TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

ON "700 CLUB INTERACTIVE,"

WE USE TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY

FOR EACH OTHER AND EXPLORE

TOPICS THAT MATTER TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELL, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

WE'VE ALL SEEN IT.

TEENAGERS WITH THEIR FACES

GLUED TO THEIR SMARTPHONES,

UPDATING Facebook, POSTING

TO INSTAGRAM, AND TEXTING

THE PERSON SITTING RIGHT

ACROSS FROM THEM.

SOMETIMES IT SEEMS THE ONLY

WAY YOU CAN TALK WITH TEENS

IS BY TWEETING THEM.

Terry: WELL, WITH US

TODAY IS DR. GARY CHAPMAN,

THE AUTHOR OF THE

BEST-SELLING BOOK "THE FIVE

LOVE LANGUAGES."

HE SAYS THERE IS A WAY TO

COMMUNICATE WITH TEENAGERS

THAT DOESN'T INVOLVE SOCIAL

MEDIA.

SO RECENTLY WE ASKED SOME

TEENS AND THEIR PARENTS

ABOUT LOVE LANGUAGES, AND

THEIR RESPONSES WERE A

LITTLE SURPRISING.

LOVE LANGUAGE?

WHAT IS THAT SUPPOSED TO

MEAN?

LOVE LANGUAGE IS HOW TWO

PEOPLE COMMUNICATE, NOT

PHYSICALLY, BUT

EMOTIONALLY.

HOW DO I COMMUNICATE THE

LOVE?

I THINK MY LOVE LANGUAGE

IS, LIKE, HANGING OUT WITH

THE PERSON, GETTING, YOU

KNOW, TO SPEND TIME WITH

THEM.

IT CAN BE TERMS OF

ENDEARMENT, RANDOM ACTS OF

KINDNESS.

I'M MORE OF A TOUCHY,

FEELLY TYPE OF GUY.

A LOT OF LOVE IS SHOWN

THROUGH SOCIAL NETWORKING.

YOU SEE A LOT OF TWITTER

DRAMA ON Facebook AND ALL

OF THAT STUFF.

HOW DO TEENAGERS

COMMUNICATE LOVE?

YES.

I DON'T KNOW.

THEY DON'T WANT TO HUG YOU.

THEY DON'T WANT TO -- I

DON'T KNOW.

SOME DO IT THROUGH

TEXTING, BUT MOST DO IT JUST

BY, LIKE, HANGING OUT

TOGETHER AND SPENDING TIME

TOGETHER, GOING ON DATES.

I WOULDN'T HANG OUT WITH

SOMEONE 24/7 IF I WAS IN

LOVE WITH THEM.

I THINK THEY COMMUNICATE

LOVE MORE PHYSICAL.

I THINK A LOT OF IT HAS

THE GRAPHIC, THE TATTOOS,

THE CLOTHING THEY WEAR.

I THINK ACTIONS SPEAK

LOUDER THAN WORDS.

I DON'T THINK SOCIAL

NETWORK SHOULD BE THE

PRIMARY WAY PEOPLE EXPRESS

EMOTION AND LOVE.

TYPICALLY TEXTING AND

CELL PHONES, WHICH I DON'T

ACTUALLY LIKE.

I LIKE WRITING LETTERS.

I DON'T WANT TO SAY I

LOVE YOU -- YES, I WOULD SAY

THAT, BUT NOT, LIKE, ALL OF

THE TIME.

FOR GUYS, IT IS WHEN YOU

TRY TO SHOW LOVE, YOU'RE

KIND OF CONSIDERED AS A

SOFTY.

THEY GET TO AN AGE WHERE

THEY KIND OF THINK IT IS TOO

COOL TO DOTE OVER YOUR

PARENTS OR HAVE YOUR PARENTS

DOTE OVER YOU.

YOU CAN NEVER TELL

SOMEBODY YOU LOVE THEM TOO

MUCH.

I LIKE LOVE.

[LAUGHTER]

Terry: I DO, TOO.

JOINING US NOW IS DR. GARY

CHAPMAN.

GARY, WELCOME TO "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

THANK YOU.

Terry: YOU'VE GOT A

GREAT NEW BOOK, "THE FIVE

LOVE LANGUAGES OF

TEENAGERS," AND THERE MIGHT

BE SOME PEOPLE WITH US TODAY

WHO HAVEN'T READ THE FIVE

LOVE LANGUAGES.

TELL US ABOUT THE FIVE AREAS

YOU DISCUSS.

THE BASIC CONCEPT IS WHAT

MAKES ONE PERSON FEEL LOVED

DOESN'T MAKE ANOTHER PERSON

FEEL LOVED.

Terry: AND SOMETIMES

THAT CAN CHANGE?

YES.

Terry: CAN YOUR LOVE

LANGUAGE BASE ON YOUR

CIRCUMSTANCES?

I THINK CIRCUMSTANCES

DOES INFLUENCE IT, BUT

TYPICALLY IT STAYS WITH US

FOR A LIFETIME, LIKE A LOT

OF OTHER PERSONALITY

TRAITS.

ONE OF THE LANGUAGES IS

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION, USING

WORDS TO AFFIRM THE OTHER

PERSON.

YOU LOOK NICE IN THAT

OUTFIT.

THERE ARE GIFTS AS AN

EXPRESSION OF LOVE.

QUALITY TIME.

GIVING THE PERSON YOUR

UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.

ACTS OF SERVICE.

DOING SOMETHING FOR THEM

THAT YOU KNOW THEY WOULD

LIKE FOR YOU TO DO.

AND THEN PHYSICAL TOUCH.

WE'VE LONG KNOWN THE

EMOTIONAL POWER OF PHYSICAL

TOUCH.

AND THE CONCEPT IS THAT EACH

TEENAGER OR ADULT, FOR THAT

MATTER, HAS A PRIMARY LOVE

LANGUAGE.

AND IF YOU DON'T SPEAK THE

PRIMARY LANGUAGE, THEY WON'T

FEEL LOVED EVEN THOUGH

YOU'RE SPEAKING SOME OF THE

OTHER LANGUAGES.

Terry: THIS BOOK IS

ABOUT TEENAGERS.

LET'S FOCUS ON THAT FOR A

MINUTE.

IF TEENAGERS STRUGGLE TO

COMMUNICATE TO BEGIN WITH,

MOST OF THEM DON'T KNOW WHAT

THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE IS, SO

HOW DOES A PARENT DISCERN

THAT WITHOUT SAYING SIT DOWN

AND TAKE THIS TEST AND TELL

ME WHO YOU ARE.

ONE OF THE WAYS IS TO

OBSERVE THE TEENAGER.

IF THE TEENAGER IS ALWAYS

PATTING PEOPLE ON THE BACK

OR GIVING HIGH-FIVES,

PHYSICAL TOUCH WOULD

PROBABLY BE THEIR LANGUAGE.

IF YOU HAVE A TEENAGER THAT

GIVES GIFTS FREELY,

RECEIVING GIFTS IS PROBABLY

THEIR LANGUAGE.

IF THEY SPEND A LOT OF TIME

TALKING TO THEIR FRIENDS,

AND THEY LIKE TO TALK TO

THEIR FRIENDS, QUALITY TIME

IS PROBABLY THEIR LANGUAGE.

SO OBSERVE THEIR BEHAVIOR.

AND THE SECOND THING IS,

WHAT DO THEY COMPLAIN ABOUT

MOST OFTEN?

IF THEY SAY NOBODY WILL HELP

ME AROUND HERE, THEY'RE

COMPLAINING ABOUT ACTS OF

SERVICE.

SO LISTEN TO THEIR

COMPLAINTS.

AND THEN WHAT DO THEY

REQUEST OF YOU MOST OFTEN?

BECAUSE THE REQUESTS ALSO

REVEALS THE LOVE LANGUAGE.

Terry: YOU MENTION IN

YOUR BOOK THAT THE TEENAGED

YEARS ARE WHEN CHILDREN KIND

OF COME TO AN AGE OF

REASONING.

TALK A LET BIT ABOUT THE

SIGNIFICANCE OF THAT.

THEY ARE DEVELOPING

RATIONAL FAULT.

AND THAT'S WHY THEY GET, WE

SAY, ARGUMENTATIVE, BECAUSE

IN THEIR MIND THEY'RE

SAYING, THAT DOESN'T MAKE

SENSE, MOM.

THEY'RE DEVELOPING RATIONAL

THOUGHT.

WE THINK THEY'RE ARGUING,

AND SO WE GET INTO AN

ARGUMENT WITH THEM.

FAR BETTER TO LISTEN TO THEM

AS THEY SHARE WHY THEY THINK

THIS IS ILLOGICAL, AND HAVE

A REASONABLE CONVERSATION

WITH THEM RATHER THAN TELL

THEM, DO WHAT I SAY.

THEY'RE DEVELOPING

REASONABLE THOUGHT, AND WE

NEED TO HELP THEM DEVELOP

THAT.

Terry: TALK A LITTLE,

IF YOU WILL, FOR THOSE OF US

WHO ARE ARE PARENTS ABOUT

THE DISTRACTIONS OF THE

WORLD AROUND OUR KIDS

TODAY.

I MEAN I NOW HAVE A COUPLE

OF GRANDCHILDREN, AND I'M

WATCHING MY CHILDREN

PARENTING THEIR CHILDREN,

AND SAYING, OH, MY GOODNESS,

WHAT A CHALLENGING TIME TO

RAISE A A CHILD.

I SUPPOSE EVERY PREVIOUS

GENERATION FEELS THAT WAY.

BUT TALK ABOUT THE

DISTRACTIONS AND HOW A

PARENT CAN GET THE ATTENTION

OF THEIR CHILD.

WE HAVE MORE DISTRACTIONS

TODAY THAN EVER BEFORE

BECAUSE OF ALL OF THE

TECHNOLOGICAL ADVANCES WE

HAVE IN OUR CULTURE.

BUT TEENAGERS STILL NEED

INDIVIDUAL ATTENTION OF

THEIR PARENTS.

AND RESEARCH INDICATES THAT

TEENAGERS ARE MOST

INFLUENCED BY THEIR

PARENTS.

WE TEND TO THINK SOMETIMES

IT'S THEIR PEERS, BUT IT IS

THEIR PARENTS.

Terry: NO MATTER WHAT.

TO GET THEIR ATTENTION,

FIRST OF ALL WE NEED TO LOVE

THEM IN THE RIGHT LOVE

LANGUAGE.

THAT'S WHAT DRAWS THE

TEENAGER TO YOU BECAUSE THEY

FEEL YOUR LOVE.

THAT'S WHY LEARNING THEIR

LOVE LANGUAGE AND SPEAKING

IT ON A REGULAR BASIS IS SO

IMPORTANT TO ALL OF THE REST

OF THE RELATIONSHIP.

Terry: AND DO WE TEND,

AS PARENTS, TO KIND OF LOVE

THEM ALL THE SAME?

I THINK WE OFTEN DO.

AND WE ASSUME THAT THEY ALL

GET IT.

REALITY: THEY DON'T GET IT

IF IT IS NOT THEIR LOVE

LANGUAGE.

AA TEENAGER SITS IN MY

OFFICE AND SAYS, MY PARENTS

DON'T LOVE ME.

THEY LOVE MY BROTHER, BUT

THEY DON'T LOVE ME.

I ASK, DO THE PARENTS LOVE

THE TEENAGER?

YES.

BUT THEY'RE NOT SPEAKING

THIS TEENAGER'S LOVE

LANGUAGE.

THEY'RE SPEAKING THE OTHER'S

LOVE LANGUAGE.

IT IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO

ZERO IN ON THIS.

Terry: SOMETIMES WE ALL

KNOW AS PARENTS THAT PART OF

OUR RESPONSIBILITY AND OUR

JOB IS TO SET BOUNDARIES,

BUT LOTS OF TIMES KIDS

RECEIVE THAT SO NEGATIVELY.

MAYBE WE DO IT INCORRECTLY,

I DON'T KNOW, BUT BOUNDARIES

NEED TO BE SET.

HOW DO YOU DO THAT IN A

LOVING WAY THAT THE TEENAGER

CAN RECEIVE?

I THINK FIRST OF ALL, IF

THE TEENAGER FEELS LOVED,

THEY'RE MORE LIKELY TO

RESPOND TO THE BOUNDARIES.

I SAY, ALSO, ON CERTAIN

OCCASIONS, LET THEM HELP YOU

SET THE BOUNDARIES.

Terry: HOW DO YOU

MEAN?

LET'S SAY YOU SAY TO THE

TEENAGER, I THINK YOU SHOULD

GO TO BED AT 10:00.

AND THE TEENAGER SAYS, MOM,

NOBODY GOES TO BED AT 10:00

ANYMORE.

OKAY, SO NEGOTIATE.

YOU MIGHT END UP AT 10:15,

BUT THEY WERE A PART OF IT.

WE WANT TO HELP THEM MAKE

DECISIONS.

YOU'RE STILL THE PARENT.

YOU STILL HAVE THE LAST

WORD.

ALSO WITH BREAKING RULES.

THERE NEED TO ALWAYS BE

CONSEQUENCES, AND THE

TEENAGERS NEED TO KNOW

BEFOREHAND WHAT THE

CONSEQUENCES ARE.

IF YOU DON'T WASH THE CAR BY

NOON ON SATURDAY, YOU LOSE

THE CAR PRIVILEGES FOR ONE

DAY.

AND YOU'VE GOT TO STICK TO

IT.

THEY DON'T WASH THE CAR AND

IT IS 11:30 ON SATURDAY --

YOU DON'T GO IN THERE AND

SAY, IT'S 11:30, YOU BETTER

GET OUT THERE.

THEY KNOW THE CONSEQUENCES.

YOU LET IT GO.

YOU REMEMBER, YOU DIDN'T

WASH THE CAR BY NOON, SO YOU

DON'T GET THE CAR THAT

NIGHT.

AND THEY'LL WASH THE CAR

FROM THEN ON.

YOU'RE TEACHING THEM THERE

ARE RESPONSIBILITIES AND

RULES IN LIFE.

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT FOR

ADULTHOOD.

WE ALL HAVE TO FOLLOW THE

RULES OR WE GET IN TROUBLE.

Terry: WE'VE GOT SOME

QUESTIONS THAT COME IN FROM

SOME OF OUR VIEWERS.

LET ME SHARE THEM WITH YOU.

TIA WRITES, "I'M A SINGLE

MOM OF THREE CHILDREN, WHO

ARE ALL VERY DIFFERENT.

ONE IS AN EXTROVERT, AND THE

OTHER WON'T OBEY WHAT I SAY,

AND THE OTHER IS LAZY.

HOW CAN I TUNE INTO THEIR

LOVE LANGUAGES WHEN I'M A

SINGLE MOM?"

I'M VERY SYMPATHETIC TO

SINGLE MOTHERS.

BUT UNDERSTANDING THE

CONCEPT, THAT EACH OF THE

THREE CHILDREN HAVE

DIFFERENT LOVE LANGUAGES --

IF YOU UNDERSTAND THAT LOVE

LANGUAGE, YOU CAN SPEND YOUR

TIME THAT IS MOST BENEFICIAL

FOR THAT CHILD.

WHEN THOSE CHILDREN FEEL

LOVED, THEN AGAIN THEY'RE

MORE RESPONSIVE TO YOUR

TEACHING, AND MORE

RESPONSIVE TO YOUR

DISCIPLINE.

IF A CHILD FEELS LOVE, IT

LOWERS THE ANGER LEVEL TO A

CHILD.

IT CAN BE VERY BENEFICIAL

FOR THE PARENT TO UNDERSTAND

THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE.

Terry: AND I THINK IT

WOULD HELP US PRAY FOR THEM

DIFFERENTLY.

ABSOLUTELY.

BECAUSE IT HELPS US ZERO IN

ON HOW TO DO THAT.

Terry: TONY WRITES, "MY

CHILD IS 12 YEARS OLD.

LAST YEAR SHE LOVED TO TALK

ABOUT GOD AND HOW MUCH SHE

LOVES HIM.

TODAY IT SEEMS SHE IS MORE

ENJOYING THE WORLD AND LESS

ABOUT GOD.

WHAT CAN I DO TO KEEP HER

GROUNDED IN HER FAITH?"

I WOULD SAY TWO THINGS:

ONE IS CONVERSATION.

ENGAGE HER IN CONVERSATION.

LET HER TALK ABOUT WHAT

SHE'S THINKING AND FEELING,

WHAT SHE MIGHT BE BELIEVING

BECAUSE SHE IS DEVELOPING

NOW HER BELIEF IN GOD.

SHE IS COMING TO EITHER

ACCEPT WHAT SHE'S BEEN

TAUGHT OR REJECT WHAT'S

SHE'S BEEN TALK.

AND HAVING CONVERSATIONS AND

LET HER SHARE THINGS THAT

MAYBE DIFFER FROM YOUR

VIEWS, AND SAY, HONEY, LET'S

THINK ABOUT THAT.

IF EVERYBODY BELIEVED THAT,

WHAT WOULD IT LOOK LIKE.

AND YOU HELP THEM WALK DOWN

THE ROAD WITH WHAT THEY'RE

THINKING.

THE OTHER IS TO EVERYTHING

YOU CAN TO LET HER HER BE A

PART OF AN ACTIVE YOUTH

GROUP IN CHURCH.

IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO HAVE

OTHERS THEIR AGE AND ADULTS

WORKING AND THINKING WITH

THEM.

THE CHURCH PLAYS A KEY

ROLE.

Terry: IT REALLY DOES.

IF YOU'RE THE PARENT OF A

TEENAGER, YOU KNOW WE'VE

JUST SKIMMED THE TOP.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEARN

MORE, GARY'S BOOK, "THE FIVE

LOVE LANGUAGES OF TEENAGERS"

IS AVAILABLE NATIONWIDE, OR

YOU CAN GO TO

700clubinteractive.com

WHERE WE HAVE A LINK TO A

FREE STUDY GUIDE THAT IS

AVAILABLE FOR TOWN

DOWNLOAD.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT FOR

THE CHILDREN YOU LOVE AND

WANT TO DO THE BEST FOR IN

YOUR FAMILY.

GARY, THANK YOU FOR BEING

HERE, YOU ALWAYS HAVE

SOMETHING WONDERFUL AND WISE

TO SHARE WITH US.

THANK YOU, TERRY.

Gordon: STILL AHEAD, A

TEENAGER RUNS AWAY FROM

HOME.

I GOT IN THAT CAR AND

JUST TOOK OFF AND DIDN'T

LOOK BACK.

I TOLD THEM TO TAKE ME

ANYWHERE BUT HOME.

Gordon: HEAR WHAT MADE

THIS PRODIGAL RETURN AFTER

THIS.

Gordon: MORE THAN A

MILLION TEENS RUN AWAY FROM

HOME EVERY YEAR.

MANY OF THEM RETURN HOME

WITHIN A FEW DAYS, BUT NOT

GABE MARTINEZ.

MONTHS PASSED BY, AND GABE

WAS STILL GONE.

AND WHILE IT LOOKED AS IF HE

WAS GONE FOR GOOD, HIS

FATHER NEVER STOPPED

BELIEVING THAT HIS SON WOULD

RETURN.

THERE WAS ALWAYS A TUG

AND MY HEART TOWARDS MUSIC.

HE COULD CARRY A TUNE AS

A LITTLE TODDLER.

I WAS JUST INSPIRED BY

THE MUSIC THAT I SAW.

IT WAS AN INCREDIBLE

FEELING FOR ME WHEN I WOULD

SEE HIM AT THE ALTER, AND

SOMETIMES BROKEN AND WEEPING

AND JUST WITH HIS HANDS

LIFTED.

I BECAME CYNICAL ABOUT

CHURCH PROBABLY AROUND 12

YEARS OLD.

I THINK THERE WAS A POINT

WHERE I JUST SAW TOO MUCH OF

THE CHURCH POLITICS, BACK

GOSSIP, AND THAT WAS THE

TIME SOME FRIENDS OF MINE

WERE STARTING AA BAND.

THE BAND STARTED OFF AS AA

BUNCH OA BUNCH OF CHRISTIAN

GUYS, BUT MUSICALLY WE

STARTED TO VEER OFF INTO

WEIRD LAND.

THIS IS ONE OF THE CLUBS I

USED TO PLAY AT AS A KID.

16, 17, SNEAKING IN, AND LOT

OF ANGER AT GOD, ANGER AT

THE CHURCH, ANGER AT MYSELF

WAS COMING THROUGH THE

MUSIC.

I WERE GO TO THESE CLUBS AND

STARTED HANGING OUT WITH

OLDER PEOPLE AND SOME OF THE

WRONG CROWD, AND DRINKING

WAS INVOLVED.

SO MY PARENTS DID THE RIGHT

THING.

THEY WERE GROUNDING ME AND

SAYING, HEY, THAT'S GOT TO

GO.

I LEFT HOME WHEN I WAS 17.

IT WAS CHRISTMAS.

I REMEMBER WE WERE AT

CHURCH AND I DOESN'T EXPECT

A THING.

IT WAS CHRISTMAS EVE AND

I WAS PART OF A CHURCH

PLAY.

NOBODY KNEW I HAD SECRETLY

ARRANGED FOR SOME FRIENDS TO

BE WAITING IN A CAR, SO THAT

I COULD WALK OUT, OFF THE

STAGE, AND LEAVE.

AND RIGHT BEHIND ME, AT

THE CHURCH WE WERE HOLDING

THE CHRISTMAS PAGEANT AT, I

TOLD THEM TO TAKE ME

ANYWHERE BUT HOME.

I STARTED LOOKING FOR HIM

AFTER CHURCH AND COULDN'T

FIND HIM.

NONE OF HIS FRIENDS WOULD

TELL ME ANY INFORMATION

ABOUT WHERE HE WAS.

I GOT IN THAT CAR AND JUST

TOOK OFF AND DIDN'T LOOK

BACK.

AND WHEN WE GOT HOME

WITHOUT HIM, I WALKED

DIRECTLY TO HIS ROOM.

AND MY WIFE WALKED IN WITH

ME.

AND WE WERE STANDING THERE

TOGETHER, I REMEMBER, AND

JUST -- WE CAN KIND OF

NUMB.

WHAT I EXPERIENCED THE

MOST WAS JUST ABSOLUTE

LONELINESS.

I REMEMBER NOT BEING ABLE TO

EAT A LOT.

I WAS MISSING SCHOOL.

I WAS SICK, HUNGRY, COLD,

SLEEPING IN SOMEONE'S CAR.

IT WAS PRETTY BAD.

EVENTUALLY THE BAND STARTED

PICKING UP MORE SHOWS, AND

THE LAST PERSON I EXPECTED

TO SEE IN THE BACK OF THE

HALL WAS MY DAD.

I CAME TO THIS CLUB AND

WALKED IN AND WENT

IMMEDIATELY TO THE BACK

WALL.

AND I CAME TO SEE MY SON.

I WAS REALLY CONCERNED ABOUT

WHAT HE WAS DOING.

I DIDN'T THINK HE KNEW I WAS

THERE.

I DIDN'T WANT HIM TO KNOW

WAS THERE.

I WANTED TO SEE HIM.

I THINK HE WAS THERE TO

JUST SHOW ME HE STILL LOVED

ME AND HE WAS PRAYING FOR

ME.

ABOUT FIVE OR SIX MONTHS

LATER, AFTER RUNNING AWAY,

SOMEONE GO AHOLD OF ME AND

SAID, YOUR DAD IS GOING ON

A A TRIP TO AUSTIN, TEXAS,

AND WAS WONDERING IF YOU

WOULD GO ALONE.

AND I CALLED ME DAD.

AND HE WAS, LIKE, HEY, DON'T

HAVE TO GO TO THE WORSHIP

SERVICE.

WE CAN JUST HANG OUT AND GET

SOME FOOD.

I WAS CUTTING SOME OF THE

KIDS AT CHURCH SOME SLACK,

AND MAYBE I WAS PUTTING TOO

MUCH PRESSURE ON MY OWN

KIDS.

I DON'T KNOW, MAYBE IT

WAS THE WAY HE WAS OFFERING

TO JUST BE FRIENDLY.

I SAID, YEAH, I'LL GO WITH

YOU.

IT WAS A MATTER OF

WAITING AND TRUSTING GOOD.

GOD.

AND AFTER THE CONFERENCE,

WE WERE DRIVING HOME, AND MY

DAD WAS, LIKE, WHERE DO YOU

WANT TO BE DROPPED OFF?

HONESTLY, I DIDN'T HAVE A

PLACE TO STAY.

RIGHT BEHIND ME IS THE

SPOT WHERE AFTER THAT TRIP

TO AUSTIN, MY DAD DROPPED ME

OFF AND I SAID GOOD-BYE AND

DIDN'T KNOW IF I WOULD SEE

HIM AGAIN.

AND HE TOOK OFF DOWN THE

ROAD.

AND MY WIFE AND I SAT THERE

AND WE CRIED.

IT WAS A SAT TIME.

BUT WE PRAYED,LIES.

>, ALSO.

I WANDERED AROUND FOR A

COUPLE OF HOURS, AND JUST

WAS WONDERING WHAT MY NEXT

STEP WAS.

AND I KNEW IN MY GUT I

WANTED TO POUR MY HEART OUT

AND SAY I WAS SORRY.

I CALLED MY DAD AND I SAID,

WHAT CAN I SAY?

IS THERE ANY WAY I CAN COME

HOME?

WILL YOU GUYS FORGIVE ME?

IT WAS AN INCREDIBLE

FEELING, THAT HE WAS CALLING

AND REALLY REACHING OUT.

AND SO WE WENT.

HE CAME WITH MY BROTHER

AND MY TWO SISTERS AND MY

MOM.

AND THEY SHOWED UP.

AND THEY PICKED ME UP AND

HUGGED ME.

AND I JUST REMEMBER WEEPING

AND BEING OVERWHELMED WITH,

YOU KNOW, GUILT AND SHAME

AND FORGIVENESS AND LOVE AND

ALL OF THOSE THINGS JUST

KIND OF WASHING OVER ME.

AND BEING RECEIVED BACK INTO

MY FAMILY.

AND NOT LONG AFTER THAT,

HE WENT WITH ME TO A BIBLE

STUDY.

THE LEADER OF THE BIBLE

STUDY HANDED ME A BIBLE AND

SAID, HEY, WHY DON'T YOU

OPEN IT UP TO PSALM 139 AND

READ TO US WHAT YOU SEE

THERE.

WHEN HE BEGAN TO READ, I

MEAN, I WAS, LIKE,

OVERWHELMED IMMEDIATELY.

IT WAS THIS IDEA THAT GOD

LOVES ME, EVEN THOUGH I'VE

BEEN RUNNING.

GOD IS WAITING WITH OPEN

ARMS, EVEN THOUGH I REJECTED

HIM.

I REMEMBER READING VERSE

ONE, VERSE TWO, AND VERSE

THREE, AND CHOKING UP AND

NOT BEING ABLE TO READ

ANYMORE.

I SAW, I SAW THE TEARS

COME DOWN HIS CHEEK.

IT IS ALL IN THE OPEN

BIBLE.

IT WAS A VERY DRAMATIC

NIGHT.

I KNEW I COULD NOT GO

BACK TO BEING IN THE BAND I

WAS IN OR BEING THE PERSON I

WAS.

I SAID, I'M GIVING MY LIFE

BACK TO GOD.

AND SO I WOULD GO TO THE

COFFEE HOUSE AND START

PLAYING AND SINGING, AND IT

JUST FELT RIGHT, TO SING

ABOUT MY FAITH.

I SEE HOW IT WAS GOD

ORCHESTRATING SOME OF THESE

THINGS.

AND WE JUST REALLY, REALLY

ARE THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL

FOR THE WORK OF THE LORD.

ONCE I ALLOWED HIM TO BE

EVERYTHING IN MY LIFE, HE

GAVE ME BACK MUSIC, AND I

WAS ABLE TO USE IT FOR HIS

GLORY, FOR HIS KINGDOM.

Gordon: WELL, WE WANT

TO PRAY FOR FAMILIES TODAY.

AND WE'VE GOTTEN OUR PRAYER

REQUESTS IN FROM YOU, SO

LET'S GO OVER TO JESSICA TO

SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING

ONLINE.

GORDON, GABBY WRITES IN,

"PLEASE PRAY FOR MY SON,

SEAN.

HE IS VERY CONFUSED AND HAS

BAD FRIENDS, HE TAKES

AGGRESSIVE DRUGS AND WE'RE

ALWAYS FIGHTING.

PLEASE PRAY FOR GOD TO SAVE

HIM.

I DON'T WANT TO THROW HIM

OUT, BUT I'M AT MY WIT'S

END."

KAREN WRITES IN, "PLEASE

PRAY FOR MY DAUGHTER,

BRIANNA.

SHE ACCEPTED JESUS AS HER

SAVIOR WHEN SHE WAS EIGHT

YEARS OLD.

SHE LOVED JESUS AND USED TO

READ HER BIBLE ALL OF THE

TIME.

NOW SHE IS A TEENAGER AND

SHE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH

GOD.

SHE EVEN TELLS ME THERE IS

NO HEAVEN OR HEL.

HELL.

PLEASE PRAY SHE WILL COME

BACK TO GOD BEFORE IT IS TOO

LATE."

Gordon: WELL, THERE IS

NEVER TOO LATE.

REALIZE THAT, IT IS NEVER

TOO LATE.

AS LONG AS THERE IS BREATH,

THERE IS HOPE.

REALIZE THAT AND HAVE HOPE

IN GOD.

HAVE FAITH IN GOD.

HE IS ABLE TO DO EXCEEDINGLY

ABOVE ALL WE COULD ASK OR

THINK.

SO JUST RELY ON HIM AND LET

HIM DO THE MIRACLE.

AND YOU'LL SEE IT.

SO LET'S PRAY.

LET'S PRAY FOR THESE TWO.

AND LET'S ALSO PRAY FOR YOUR

FAMILY.

LORD, WE LIFT FAMILIES TO

YOU RIGHT NOW, AND WE JUST

ASK THAT YOUR WORD OVER THEM

WOULD BE TRUE.

THAT FATHERS -- THE HEARTS

OF FATHERS WOULD TURN TO

THEIR CHILDREN, AND IN TURN

THE CHILDREN WOULD TURN TO

THEIR FATHERS.

LET THERE BE UNITY IN

FAMILIES.

LET THERE BE LOVE.

LET THERE BE FORGIVENESS.

LET THERE BE UNDERSTANDING.

AND LET THE ROOT OF

RIGHTEOUSNESS SPRING UP IN

THE CHILDREN'S HEART, AND

COME INTO FULL FLOWER.

AND THEN FROM FLOWER TO

FRUIT.

LET THE FRUIT OF

RIGHTEOUSNESS RAIN IN THEIR

LIVES.

NOW, LORD, WE LIFT UP SEAN

TO YOU.

AND WE ASK THAT THE VERY

TASTE FOR THESE DRUGS WOULD

BE DRIED UP, AND HE WOULD

COME TO HIMSELF AND KNOW

THAT THERE IS NO FUTURE IN

THEM, THAT THERE IS NO HOPE

IN THEM, AND THAT THERE IS

ONLY HOPE IN YOU.

SEND MESSENGERS AFTER YOUR

OWN HEART TO TURN HIM, AND

TO SHOW HIM THE WAY.

AND, LORD, FOR BRIANNA, LET

HER RETURN TO HER ROOTS.

THE LOVE THAT SHE HAD FOR

YOU AS A CHILD, JUST STIR IT

UP WITHIN HER.

AND WE ASK FOR A LONGING FOR

YOU, A LONGING FOR YOUR

WORD, A LONGING FOR

FELLOWSHIP.

LET IT BE, LORD.

BRING HER BACK.

FOR WE ASK IT IN JESUS'

NAME.

AMEN.

Terry: AMEN.

Gordon: IF YOU NEED

PRAYER FOR YOUR FAMILY, IF

YOU NEED PRAYER FOR YOUR

CHILDREN, WE'RE HERE FOR

YOU.

IT'S OUR HONOR, A PRIVILEGE

TO PRAY WITH YOU.

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CALL

US.

1-888-777-1999.

WELL, COMING UP, A YOUNG

GIRL WITH NOWHERE TO TURN.

I HAVE TO WASH DISHES AND

CLEAN THE FLOOR.

SHE BEAT ME WITH A A CANE

NEARLY EVERY DAY.

Gordon: HOW VIEWERS

LIKE YOU RESCUED HER AND

GAVE HER IS PLACE TO CALL

HOME, AFTER THIS.

Terry: WITH NO PARENTS

ANAND A GRANDMOTHER WHO

BEAT HER, WER WUU DECIDED

TO RUN AWAY FROM HOME.

THANKS TO "ORPHANS'

PROMISE," THIS YOUNG GIRL

KNEW SHE HAD A SAFE PLACE TO

GO TO.

Reporter: WHEN WULU'S

PARENTS ABANDONED HER, HER

GRANDMOTHER TOOK HER IN.

BUT SHE DIDN'T TAKE CARE OF

HER.

INSTEAD, SHE BECAME HER

SLAVE.

MY GRANDMOTHER DEMANDED I

SIT THERE, AND WASH DISHES,

AND CLEAN THE FLOOR.

I DIDN'T KNOW ANY OTHER

LIFE.

SHE BEAT ME WITH A CANE

NEARLY EVERY DAY.

Reporter: THEN ONE DAY

WULU COULDN'T TAKE IT

ANYMORE.

SHE BEAT ME LIKE SHE

ALWAYS DID.

BUT THIS TIME WHEN SHE WAS

FINISHED, I RAN AWAY AND

WENT TO THE PLACE WHERE I

GOT FOOD SOMETIMES.

Reporter: ANNA TEMBER

RUNS A CHILDREN'S HOME AND

FEEDING CENTER, SUPPORTED BY

"ORPHANS' PROMISE."

I ASKED HER WHAT IS GOING

ON, AND SHE SAID TO ME, MY

GRANDMOTHER SAID SHE WANTS

TO KILL ME.

Reporter: ANNA TALKED

TO THE POLICE AND GOT

CUSTODY OF WULU.

AND SINCE THEN, THE YOUNG

GIRL'S LIFE HAS CHANGED

DRAMATICALLY.

I'M HAPPY HERE BECAUSE I

PLAY WITH OTHER CHILDREN.

NOBODY HURTS ME, AND I'M

FREE TO STUDY.

THIS IS MY FAMILY, AND I

KNOW THAT I AM LOVED.

Reporter: PEOPLE

THROUGHOUT THIS COMMUNITY

RECOGNIZE THIS CENTER AS AA

SAFE HAVEN FOR CHILDREN LIKE

WULU.

AND THROUGH YOUR SUPPORT,

WE'RE ABLE TO HELP MORE AND

MORE CHILDREN EVERY DAY.

THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING

YOU HAVE DONE FOR US.

Terry: I LOVE THIS

STORY BECAUSE I LOVE ANNA.

ANNA TEMBA RUNS THE CENTER

AND FEEDS OVER A THOUSAND

CHILDREN EVERY DAY.

AND SHE ALSO TEACHES THEM

ABOUT THE LOVE OF JESUS

CHRIST.

THIS IS JUST ONE OF THE

PROJECTS THAT "ORPHANS'

PROMISE" SUPPORTS.

IT HAPPENS TO BE IN SOUTH

AFRICA.

ANNA IS ONE OF THE AMAZING

PARTNERS WE HAVE, DOING A

GREAT JOB, DOING SOMETHING

IN THE LIVES OF CHILDREN

THAT MATTER.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE A

PART OF WHAT "ORPHANS'

PROMISE" IS DOING, CALL THE

NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN OR LOG

ON TO CBN.COM.

WE WOULD LOVE YOU TO BE PART

OF IT.

Gordon: WE LEAVE YOU

WITH THESE WORDS FROM 1

CORINTHIANS: "LOVE NEVER

GIVES UP, NEVER LOSES

FAITH.

IS ALWAYS HOPEFUL AND

ENDURES THROUGH EVERY

CIRCUMSTANCE."

AND LET ME ADD ANOTHER PART

OF THAT WONDERFUL VERSE,

"LOVE NEVER FAILS AND HE

WON'T FAIL YOU, ALL YOU HAVE

TO DO IS TRUST HIM."

GOD BLESS YOU.

WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.

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