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Author Marci Mason’s Life “Beyond the Pain” of Divorce

Marci Mason fought to keep her family together as her husband’s NFL career took off. In her new book “Beyond the Pain,” she shares how she was able to move beyond bitterness and anger after a painful divorce. Read Transcript


TERRY: IF AN ATHLETE MAKES A

MISTAKE ON THE FIELD, THERE IS A

CHANCE IT COULD COST HIS TEAM

THE GAME OR IN CERTAIN

CIRCUMSTANCES PERHAPS THE ENTIRE

SEASON.

AT HOME, MISTAKES CAN DO MORE

THAN UPSET A COACH OR ENTIRE FAN

BASE, THEY CAN RUIN A FAMILY.

TAKE A LOOK.

WHEN MARCI MASON MARRIED THE

LOVE OF HER LIFE, SHE THOUGHT IT

WOULD BE FOREVER.

MARCI SPENT 15 YEARS AS THE WIFE

OF A NFL FOOTBALL PLAYER.

SHE FOUND HERSELF HEART BROKEN

AND DIVORCED WITH TWO KIDS, IN

HER BOOK "BEYOND THE PAIN"

MARCI SHARES HER LESSONS DEALING

WITH TOUGH TIMES AND INSPIRES

WHERE I AM TO GET ON THE PATH OF

HEALING AND RESTORATION.

TERRY: MARCI MASON IS WITH

US ON "THE 700 CLUB."

THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME, IT

IS AN HONOR.

TERRY: YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND

MARRIED LANGUAGE BEFORE THE NFL

CAREER BEGAN.

HOW DID THE HYPE AND CONTRACTS

AND SORT OF STARDOM IMPACT YOUR

RELATIONSHIP?

I AM GOING TO BE HONEST WITH

YOU.

I DON'T THINK THAT WAS A

PROBLEM.

WE WERE BOTH GROUNDED.

WE HAD A GOOD HANDLE.

WE HAD A LOT OF FRIENDS OUTSIDE

THE GAME AND STAYED IN CONTACT

WITH OUR FAMILIES.

THAT DYNAMIC, FINANCIAL PEACE

WAS GOOD.

TERRY: HOW ABOUT YOUR FAITH?

WE WERE YOUNG.

YOU THINK YOU HAVE THIS GREAT

RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.

OFTEN TIMES IN LIFE, THAT IS NOT

TESTED UNTIL YOU GO THROUGH

SOMETHING.

TERRY: BOY IS THAT TRUE.

IT IS REALLY TRUE.

YOU MENTIONED SOMETHING HAS

HAPPENED TO MANY WOMEN, WHEN YOU

HAVE A HUSBAND THAT HAS A STRONG

ROLE, YOU WIND UPCOMING ALONG

AND DOING WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE

TO HELP HIM BE SUCCESSFUL.

IN THE PROCESS YOU CAN SOMETIMES

LOSE WHO YOU ARE.

YOU SAY THAT HAPPENED?

IT DID.

THAT HAPPENS FOR A LOT OF WOMEN.

WE ARE NATURALLY CARETAKERS,

TAKE CARE OF THE HOUSE, FAMILY,

FINANCES.

YOU FIND YOURSELF DOING THE

DAY-TO-DAY THINGS.

LITTLE BY LITTLE WE LOSE

OURSELVES.

WITH MY HUSBAND, SEEMED HIS

PLATFORM AND PURPOSE BIGGER AND

MATTERED MORE FOR THE FAMILY.

I BEGAN TO LOSE MYSELF IN THE

PROCESS.

TERRY: DID YOU REALIZE THAT

BEFORE THERE WAS AN ISSUE WITH

YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

I DON'T THINK I STARTED UNTIL

I WAS ALREADY LOST.

UNTIL I WAS YEAR SEVEN OR EIGHT

AND LOOKED BACK.

WHAT ABOUT THE THINGS I WANT TO

DO?

SO I THINK IT IS THE SLOW

PROCESS.

THAT IS THE SCARY PART.

THAT IS WHY I WANT WOMEN TO BE

AWARE OF THAT SO THEY ARE

CONSCIOUS.

TERRY: YOU WERE FAMILY

ORIENTED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

WITH YOUR HUSBAND, CHILDREN,

FAMILY NIGHTS, DID THINGS

TOGETHER.

WERE YOU STUNNED WHEN YOU FOUND

OUT THE MARRIAGE WAS IN TROUBLE?

ABSOLUTELY.

I LOVED MY EX-HUSBAND WITH

EVERYTHING.

THAT WAS ONE OF THE LESSONS.

I PUT HIM BEFORE MY RELATIONSHIP

WITH GOD.

THAT IS WHY I TALK ABOUT, IT

TAKES TWO.

IT WASN'T ALL HIM.

THERE WERE THINGS GOD WANTED ME

TO LEARN.

I WAS DEVASTATED.

GOD ALWAYS SHOWS UP, ALWAYS ON

TIME.

TERRY: WHEN THAT HAPPENS,

ALMOST LIKE, I HAVE GONE THROUGH

THE SAME SCENARIO, IT IS LIKE

SOMEBODY DIES BUT THE CORPSE IS

WALKING AROUND, HEALING IS HARD.

HOW DID THAT PROCESS START?

IT WAS MY FAITH.

I AM CLOSE TO MY MOM AND FATHER

AND MY MOTHER COMING IN AND

DOING THE DISHES.

I DIDN'T WANT TO GET OUT OF BED,

I AM GREAT, I AM GRANDMA, THEY

NEED YOU.

IT WAS A REALLY GOOD FRIEND,

FAITH, WOMEN.

YOU HAVE TO HAVE A STRONG

SUPPORT SYSTEM.

YOU CAN'T DO IT BY YOURSELF.

I WANTED TO WRITE A BOOK THAT

TALKED ABOUT ABOUT SIMPLE

LESSONS WOMEN COULD HOLD ON TO,

TO GET THEM THROUGH THE PROCESS.

TERRY: YOU HAD BEEN RAISED

UP WITH FAITH.

LOVED YOUR HUSBAND WITH ALL YOUR

HEART, WAS IT HARD TO CONTEND

WITH THE REALITY OF DIVORCE?

IT WAS.

FIRST TIME I WENT INTO AN

ATTORNEY'S OFFICE, SHE SAID YOU

ARE NOT READY.

IT WAS HARD, HE WAS MY BEST

FRIEND.

I WANTED MY MARRIAGE TO BE

FOREVER.

HIS WILL, HIS WAY, THAT IS NOT

ALWAYS THE CASE.

I LEARNED SO MUCH AND A STRONGER

WOMAN BECAUSE OF THAT.

TERRY: TALK ABOUT THE THINGS

YOU LEARNED, YOU LOOKED BACK AT

YOUR MARRIAGE AS A LOSS BUT YOU

ALSO SEE THERE WERE MANY THINGS

THAT WERE SAVED, WHAT DO YOU

MEAN?

I HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL

CHILDREN.

TODAY IS OUR DAUGHTER'S 16TH

BIRTHDAY.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO HER.

TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.

MY FAITH, MY RELATIONSHIP WITH

GOD IS STRONG.

I KNOW I AM STILL VALUABLE.

I KNOW WHO I AM AS A WOMAN AND

WHAT I BRING TO THE TABLE.

I AM NOT IN CONTROL OF MY LIFE.

I UNDERSTAND IT NOW.

IT IS ALL UP TO GOD.

THERE IS SOMETHING BIGGER HE

WANTED ME TO DO AND HAD TO BE

OKAY WITH THAT.

TERRY: YOU TALK ABOUT

CREATING A GLORY STORY, WHAT DO

YOU MEAN?

YOU HAVE TO MAKE LEMONADE OUT

OF YOUR LEMONS AND FIND GOOD IN

EVERY SITUATION.

EVERYTHING COMES TO TEACH US

SOMETHING.

IF YOU LOOK AT THE LESSON, IT

WON'T BE A LESSON.

TERRY: TO GO THROUGH

SOMETHING SO TRAGIC AND NOT HAVE

A TAKE AWAY LESSON.

FINANCIAL PEACE TO NOT LEAVE

A LEGACY FOR OUR CHILDREN.

EVERYTHING TAKES SOMETHING AWAY

FROM THAT.

IF WOMEN CAN DO THAT WE WILL BE

MUCH BETTER OFF.

TERRY: DIVORCE IS DIFFICULT,

YOU HAVE WRITTEN A BOOK "BEYOND

THE PAIN," WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO

THOSE STRUGGLING THROUGH THIS?

I WOULD LOVE FOR WOMEN TO GET

A SUPPORT SYSTEM AND CONTINUE,

ONE STEP IN FRONT OF THE OTHER.

EVENTUALLY YOU CAN LOOK BACK ON

IT AND REFLECT.

YOU CAN TAKE THE LESSONS AWAY.

I WANT THEM TO KNOW THEY CAN

MAKE IT THROUGH, FINANCES DOES

NOT NEGATE PAIN.

YES, I WAS MARRIED TO AN

EXFOOTBALL PLAYER.

THE MONEY DIDN'T COMFORT ME AT

NIGHT.

THEY CAN GET BEYOND IT.

IT IS GOING TO TAKE WORK.

YOU CAN'T DO IT WITHOUT GOD.

TERRY: ON THE OTHER SIDE IS

THE FRESH START AND NEW

BEGINNING.

ABSOLUTELY.

TERRY: YOU CAN FEEL SO MUCH

TRAUMA IN THE MIDST OF A LOSS SO

SIGNIFICANT.

MARCI HAS A BOOK "BEYOND THE

PAIN"

AVAILABLE NATIONWIDE.

IT IS A BLESSING FOR THOSE

WALKING THROUGH THE CHALLENGE.

THANK YOU.

THANK

YOU.

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