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700 Club Interactive - Intentional Parenting - August 31, 2015

Autopilot is for planes. David Thomas shows us how to be “intentional” parents. Read Transcript


Andrew: IS THIS YOUR

PARENTING STYLE?

SHE ALWAYS THROWS THE

BIBLE VERSES AT ME WHEN I

WON'T DO THE CHORES.

Andrew: WHAT DO YOUR

KIDS REALLY NEED FROM YOU?

CHILL TOGETHER, HANG

OUT, WATCH TV.

Andrew: ADVICE TODAY

FOR MOMS AND DADS.

SHE NEEDS TO TAKE THE

TIME TO RELAX.

I WISH MY DAD WOULDN'T

TAKE THE LITTLE THINGS SO

SERIOUSLY.

Andrew: ON TODAY'S

"700 CLUB INTERACTIVE."

GOOD MORNING AND WELCOME

TO THE SHOW.

FROM HELICOPTER PARENTS TO

HIPSTER PARENTS, PAIN-FREE

PARENTS TO PETER PANS, DID

YOU KNOW THAT YOUR

PARENTING STYLE MIGHT HAVE

A NAME?

AND IF YOU'RE STRUGGLING

IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH

YOUR CHILDREN, I ENCOURAGE

YOU TO STAY WITH US.

WE HAVE A COUNSELLOR WITH

US TODAY WHO SPECIALIZES

IN MENDING PARENT-CHILD

RELATIONSHIPS.

Terry: I DON'T KNOW

IF I WANT TO CALL MY

PARENTING STYLE,

"IGNORANCE IS BLISS."

WE ASKED SOME TEENAGERS TO

COMMENT ON THEIR PARENTS,

AND IT TURNS OUT THEY HAD

PLENTY TO SAY.

REMEMBER, PARENTS, THEY'RE

ALWAYS WATCHING.

I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS

YOUNGER, MY MOM USED TO

TEACH SUNDAY SCHOOL FOR

ME.

SO I WOULD GET TO SPEND

TIME WITH HER.

ME AND MY DAD WOULD

CHILL TOGETHER, HANG OUT

AND WATCH TV.

JUST BEING WITH MY DAD

IN GENERAL.

HE IS REALLY FUNNY.

I LIKE TO PLAY GAMES

WITH MY DAD.

THAT'S SOMETHING WE LIKE

TO DO.

I USED TO STRUGGLE WITH

MATH WHEN I WAS YOUNGER,

AND MY MOM USED TO HELP

ME.

SHE MADE MATH FUN, AND NOW

I REALLY LIKE IT.

SOMETHING SHE ALWAYS

WANTS TO DO WITH ME IS GO

SHOPPING.

I HATE SHOPPING, BUT I

WISH I HAD JUST BEEN MORE

WILLING TO IMMEDIATELY GO

OUT WITH HER WHEN SHE

ASKED ME TO.

PROBABLY AS I'VE GOTTEN

OLDER, I REALIZE I WISH I

KIND OF SPENT MORE TIME

WITH JUST MY MOM.

I JUST WISH WE COULD GO

OUT FOR A WEEKEND AND

CATCH UP.

I WISH I COULD GET,

LIKE, MORE CLOSE.

I WISH SHE WOULD TAKE

TIME TO HERSELF MORE MANY.

SHE JUST NEEDS TO TAKE

SOME TIME TO RELAX.

I WISH THAT MY DAD HAD

MORE ALONE TIME BECAUSE HE

IS ALWAYS WORKING.

I WISH SHE WOULDN'T

MAKE US DO CHORES ON

SATURDAY.

MY MOM CAN KIND OF,

LIKE, MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT

OF THINGS SOMETIMES WHEN

IT IS NOT SUPER SERIOUS.

WE'LL HAVE PEOPLE COME

OVER AND SHE'LL CHANGE THE

TOWELS IN OUR BATHROOM,

LIKE OUR PERSONAL TOWELS.

[LAUGHTER]

I WISH SHE WOULD LET ME

DO THINGS I KNOW I CAN DO

BY MYSELF.

I WISH MY DAD WOULDN'T

TAKE THE LITTLE THINGS

SERIOUSLY.

SHE ALWAYS THROWS BIBLE

VERSES AT ME WHEN I WON'T

DO THE CHORES, SO SHE'LL

MAKE ME FEEL GUILTY.

STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF.

MAY DAD ALWAYS TOLD ME

DIDN'T EXPECT ME TO BE

PERFECT, BUT TO ALWAYS TRY

MY BEST.

Andrew: AFTER

WATCHING THAT, MOMS AND

DADS ARE PROBABLY THINK,

WHAT WILL MY KIDS SAY

ABOUT MY PARENTING ONE

DAY.

THAT CAN BE A SCARY

THOUGHT.

I'D LIKE TO WELCOME DAVID

THOMAS, THE COUNSELLING

DIRECTOR FOR MEN AND BOYS

AT DAY STAR COUNSELLING IN

NASHVILLE.

AND HE IS THE AUTHOR OF

"INTENTIONAL PARENTING,"

AND A DAD TO TWIN BOYS AND

ONE GIRL.

THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE.

THANK YOU FOR HAVING

ME.

Andrew: PARENTS

STRUGGLE RAISING KIDS.

WHAT ARE THE MOST COMMON

STRUGGLES YOU SEE?

I WOULD SAY I SEE

PARENTS STRUGGLE

CONSISTENTLY WITH

BALANCING TIME.

HOW DO WE JUGGLE ALL OF

THE GREAT EXTRACURRICULAR

ACTIVITIES MY KIDS HAVE IN

FRONT OF THEM, BUT ALSO

TIME AS A FAMILY, WHERE WE

CAN BE AROUND THE TABLE

TOGETHER.

I SEE FAMILIES HAVING

TROUBLE WITH BALANCING

SUPPORT, SHOULD I STEP IN

OR STEP BACK.

Andrew: IS THIS WHERE

I PROVIDE ENCOURAGEMENT

AND LOVE AND LISTEN TO MY

CHILD, OR IS THIS A TIME

TO USE MORE DISCIPLINE?

HOW DO WE KNOW THE

DIFFERENCE?

WE DON'T ALWAYS KNOW.

AND SOMETIMES KIDS ARE

SKILLED AT TURNING A

CONVERSATION INTO

NEGOTIATION, AND

NEGOTIATION INTO

MANIPULATION.

Andrew: EVEN AT A

YOUNG AGE?

ABSOLUTELY.

AND IT IS KNOWING OUR

CHILD A LITTLE MORE

INDIVIDUALLY.

THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGS

WE TALK ABOUT IN THE BOOK.

"INTENTIONAL PARENTING" IS

ABOUT STUDYING OUR KIDS

AND UNDERSTANDING HOW GOD

HARD WIRED THEM UNIQUELY.

AND ALSO WHAT IS GOING ON

DEVELOPMENTALLY AT THIS

POINT THAT MIGHT BRING

ABOUT SOME OF THOSE THINGS

EVEN MORE SO.

Andrew: A LOT OF

TIMES WE MAY SEE BEHAVIOR

IN OUR CHILDREN AND

CONFORM THEM INTO

SOMETHING ELSE.

AND A LOT OF WHAT YOUR

BOOK TALKS ABOUT IS

CELEBRATE THEIR UNIQUENESS

AND TALK TO THEM IN A

DIFFERENT WAY.

YOU TALK ABOUT REACTIVE

PARENTING AND PROACTIVE.

WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE.

WE'RE GUILTY OF

STEPPING INTO A LOT OF

REACTIVE PARENTING WHEN

WE'RE PARENTING WITH A LOT

OF EMOTION OR OUT OF

EMOTION.

I TALK A LOT TO PARENTS

ABOUT WE CAN'T PAY ENOUGH

ATTENTION TO OURSELVES,

OUR OWN STORIES, AND WHAT

ARE THE SIRENS THAT GO OFF

IN ME BECAUSE I'M

PARENTING OUT OF THINGS I

AM REACTING TO, WE'RE

PRONE TO SAY THINGS LIKE,

YOU'RE GROUNDED FOR THREE

MONTHS, RATHER THAN A

REASONABLE AMOUNT OF TIME

THAT WOULD FIT THE CRIME.

DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO TO

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF SO

YOU'RE NOT REACTING.

Andrew: AND IT IS

OKAY SOMETIMES FOR ADULTS

TO HAVE A TIME OUT, TAKE A

LITTLE BREATH AND WALK

AWAY IF YOU NEED TO.

WE HAVE A LITTLE

SECTION CALLED "TIMEOUTS

ARE NOT JUST FOR

TODDLERS."

Andrew: HOW DO WE SET

UP OUR CHILDREN TO FAIL?

THAT'S A HARD ONE

BECAUSE I THINK WATCHING

KIDS WE LOVE STRUGGLE IS

ONE THE GREATER TASKS OF

PARENTING.

THERE IS NOT A PARENT WHO

SAYS I LOVE THAT OR THAT

FEELS NATURAL OR EASY TO

ME.

BUT A PART OF WHAT WE'RE

MOVING TOWARD IS THEM

BECOMING RESPONSIBLE,

INDEPENDENT ADULTS.

WHICH MEANS THEY'RE GOING

TO HAVE TO FALL DOWN AND

GET BACK UP.

WE'RE CERTAINLY GOING TO

EVALUATE WHAT ARE THE

CIRCUMSTANCES IN THAT,

ALLOWING THEM TO FALL, A

SAFE PLACE TO DO THAT.

Andrew: DO YOU FIND

SOMETIMES WHEN WE'RE

COUNSELLING PARENTS,

SOMETIMES PARENTS ARE

TRYING TO BE TOO PERFECT?

YES.

ESPECIALLY IN THIS DAY AND

AGE.

AND INTERESTINGLY ENOUGH,

ANXIETY IN THIS COUNTRY IS

NOW CONSIDERED A CHILDHOOD

EPIDEMIC.

WE'RE SEEING NUMBERS LIKE

WE'VE NEVER SEEN BEFORE.

AND WHAT WE KNOW TO BE

TRUE IS ANXIETY FOR A LOT

OF KIDS CAN START WITH

ANXIOUS PARENTS, PARENTS

WHO FEEL THAT NEED TO BE

PERFECT.

STRIVING IN IS WAY THAT

TRIGGERS ANXIETY AND FEAR

FOR THEIR CHILDREN.

Andrew: YOU HAVE TWO

TWIN BOYS AND A GIRL.

MY TWIN BOYS ARE 13,

AND MY DAUGHTER IS 15.

I HAVE A HOUSEHOLD OF

TEENAGERS.

Andrew: HOW DO YOU

PARENT BOYS AND GIRLS

DIFFERENTLY?

OBVIOUSLY THE DIFFERENCES

ARE HUGE.

THEY ARE.

Andrew: WHAT ARE SOME

OF THE DIFFERENT

APPROACHES YOU TAKE?

I WROTE A BOOK ON BOYS

AND I TALK ABOUT HOW

IMPORTANT IT IS TO

UNDERSTAND THE BOY BRAIN.

HE IS WIRED FOR ACTIVITY

AND MOVEMENT.

SO FOR A LOT OF TIMES, FOR

EXAMPLE, WE'RE GUILTY

OF -- BECAUSE MY DAUGHTER

IS SO CONVERSATIONAL AND

RELAICIALRELATIONAL AND WE HAVE

LONG TALKS, BUT BOYS ARE

NOT WIRED THAT.

SO I DON'T WANT TO BE

TALKING AT THEM OR TO THEM

MOST OF THE TIME, I NEED

TO BE MOVING WITH THEM AND

TEACHING THEM.

Andrew: IN YOUR BOOK

YOU SAY A LOT OF TIMES --

THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS, OF

COURSE -- BUT BOYS WHEN

THEY'RE IN TROUBLE TEND TO

BLAME OTHERS.

WHERE GIRLS SEEM TO TAKE

IT UPON THEMSELVES AND

THERE IS A GUILT THERE.

I THINK THAT IS TRUE

WITH OUR GENDER.

AND WOMEN CAN BE HARD ON

THEMSELVES.

AND BOYS POINT THE FINGER

AT OTHER PEOPLE.

Andrew: I'M NOT HERE

TO BASH Facebook IN ANY

WAY, HOWEVER, YOU HAD AN

INTERESTING CHAPTER IN

YOUR BOOK ABOUT Facebook

AND HOW ESPECIALLY FOR

CHILDREN AS THEY GROWING

UP AND LEARNING ABOUT

THEIR IDENTITY AND WHO

THEY ARE, THE CONNECTION

WE'RE PROMISED THROUGH

Facebook CAN REALLY LEAD

TO SOME DISAPPOINTMENTS.

CAN IT.

AND THERE IS A

DEVELOPMENTAL NO PHENOMENON

THAT HAPPENS FOR ALL

ADOLESCENTS, AND IT IS

THIS IMAGINARY AUDIENCE,

AND THEY THINK THEY'RE

BEING WATCHED AND OBSERVED

AND CRITIQUED AT ALL

TIMES.

SOCIAL MEDIA, Facebook,

ALL OF THESE MEANS CAN

FEED THAT, BECAUSE PEOPLE

ARE OBSERVING AND LIKING

OR NOT LIKING, SO WE'VE

GOT TO BE SO CAREFUL.

Andrew: SPEAKING OF

Facebook, WE DID GET

SOME QUESTIONS VIA

Facebook.

HERE IS ONE FROM OGENI,

WHO SAYS, HOW CAN I GET MY

CHILDREN TO PRAY IF FEA

THEY DON'THEYDON'T LIKE TO PRAY?

ONE, PAY MOST ATTENTION

TO WHAT YOU'RE MODELING.

KIDS LEARN MORE THROUGH

OBSERVATION THAN

INFORMATION.

SO WE CAN TALK AT THE

IMPORTANCE OF PRAYING ALL

OF THE TIME, BUT REALLY

OUR KIDS NEED TO SEE US

LIVING A LIFE OF FAITH.

AND I THINK, TOO, REMEMBER

THEY'RE DEVELOPING BEINGS.

THEY'RE DEVELOPING

PHYSICALLY, AND THEY'RE

DEVELOPING SPIRITUALLY.

THERE WILL BE TIMES WHEN

KIDS FEEL COLD IN THEIR

RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, AND

BE WARMER AND HOT TE HOTTER IN

OTHERS.

Andrew: CARLA WRITES,

"MY DAUGHTER IS 14 AND

STARTING TO GO BOY CRAZY.

HOW CAN I TEACH HER

HEALTHY THINGS ABOUT

RELATIONSHIP AND PROTECT

HER?"

WE ALWAYS WANT TO PROTECT

OUR CHILDREN.

I FEEL FOR THIS WOMAN

BECAUSE I LIVE WITH AN

ADOLESCENT GIRL.

IT IS NORMAL THAT HER

FEELINGS WOULD START TO

CHANGE, AND SHE THOUGHT

BOYS WERE YUCKY AT ONE

POINT AND THEY'RE

INTERESTING NOW.

AGAIN, GOING BACK TO

DEVELOPMENT, THERE IS A

REASON IN THIS COUNTRY WHY

WE DON'T LET KIDS GET A

DRIVERS PERMIT WHEN

THEY'RE 15 OR A LICENSE

UNTIL THEY'RE 16 BECAUSE

DON'T HAVE THE COGNITIVE

WAY TO HANDLE THAT.

AND WE SHOULD TAKE THAT

SAME APPROACH WITH DATING.

SHE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO

HANDLE RELATIONSHIPS AT

THIS POINT.

SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE

COGNITIVE AND RELATIONAL

SKILLS TO MOVE INTO THAT.

Andrew: AND JOHN

SAYS, "SHOULD MY WIFE WAIT

UNTIL I COME HOME FROM

WORK AND DISCIPLINE THE

KIDS, AND TELL THEM JUST

WAIT UNTIL YOUR FATHER

COMES HOME, OR SHOULD SHE

TAKE CARE OF THE PROBLEM

RIGHT AWAY?"

I DON'T THINK IT IS ONE

OR THE OTHER.

OFTENTIMES MOMS ARE HOME

WITH THE KIDS A LOT, AND

THEY NEED TO BE ABLE TO

DISCIPLINE AND EXECUTE IT

IN THAT TIME, BUT THERE IS

A CONCEPT WE TALK A LOT

ABOUT CALLED THE ENERGY

DRAIN, THAT IS THE GREAT

THING FOR THE PARENT WHO

IS WITH THE KIDS MOST OF

THE TIME TO SAY, YOU KNOW

WHAT?

REFERRING THIS, WHEN YOUR

DAD GETS HOME, I'M GOING

TO LET HIM DISCIPLINE YOU.

SO THEY'RE FOLDING LAUNDRY

OR DOING TASKS THAT GIVE

MOM ENERGY BACK.

Andrew: YOUR BOOK

SAYS IT IS OKAY SOMETIMES

TO ASK YOUR CHILDREN, WHAT

CAN I DO BETTER AS A

PARENT?

THAT'S A RADICAL THOUGHT

FOR SOME PEOPLE.

IT IS.

IT SETS US UP TO SAY WE'RE

SIMPLE PEOPLE, AND WE MAKE

MISTAKES.

THERE ARE PLACES WE NEED

TO IMPROVE.

HELP ME KNOW WHERE I CAN

DO THAT.

Andrew: EXCELLENT

BOOK.

DAVID'S BOOK, "INTENTIONAL

PARENTING," IS A GREAT

RESOURCE TO HAVE ON HAND

AND YOU CAN ORDER IT

ONLINE.

> TERRY, OVER TO YOU.

Terry: 11-YEAR-OLD

ZACH WASN'T ALLOWED TO GO

ON Facebook, SO HE

CREATED HIS OWN SOCIAL

NETWORKING SITE.

SEE THIS INCREDIBLE

TEENAGER'S STORY, AFTER

THIS.

Terry: SOCIAL MEDIA

WEBSITES ARE A GREAT WAY

TO KEEP UP WITH FRIENDS

AND FAMILY, BUT IT CAN

ALSO BE A DANGEROUS PLACE,

ESPECIALLY FOR OUR KIDS.

UNTIL NOW.

TECHNOLOGY CONTRIBUTOR

CAYLEB KINSLO HAS MORE ON

A SOCIAL NETWORKING SITE

CREATED SPECIFICALLY FOR

KIDS BY A KID.

HEY, YOU'RE WATCHING

DIGITAL DOWNLOAD.

I'M CAYLEB KINSLO.

IT IS TIME TO MEET THE

MARKS.

THIS FAMILY OF EIGHT IS

ALWAYS ON THE MOVE,

SURFING THEIR WAY THROUGH

COUNTRIES AROUND THE

WORLD.

AND AT THE AGE OF 11, THE

MIDDLE SON, ZACH, WANTED

TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH

PEOPLE HE MET AT SURFING

COMPETITION.

SO NATURALLY HE CREATED A

Facebook PAGE.

BUT HIS DAD WAS CONCERNED

FOR HIS SON'S SAFETY AND

THOUGHT ZACH WAS TOO YOUNG

TO BE ON THE SITE.

ZACH DISAGREED.

WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?

I DON'T KNOW A PLACE

FOR KIDS LIKE ME TO GO

INSTEAD OF Facebook.

SO I DECIDED TO CREATE

ONE.

YOU HEARD HIM RIGHT.

AT THE AGE OF 11, HE

CREATED HIS OWN SOCIAL

WORKING SITE, AND IT IS

CALLED GROM SOCIAL.

IT IS A YOUNG SURF

TERM, IT IS FOR A YOUNG

INDIVIDUAL THAT IS QUICK

TO LEARN.

WHEN IT COMES TO THE

KID MARKET, THERE IS NO

ONE WATCHING OR

MONITORING.

WE JUST FELT HE WASN'T

READY TO BE EXPOSED TO

THAT KIND OF STUFF.

WE WANTED TO KEEP HIM

YOUNG STILL.

THAT WAS BACK IN 2012.

THREE YEARS LATER, THIS

SITE HAS GROWN FROM A

COUPLE OF HUNDRED USERS TO

1.2 MILLION.

SO HERE IS HOW IT WORKS:

KIDS LOG ON USING A PARENT

OR TEACHER'S E-MAIL.

ONCE THEY SIGN UP, THEY

CREATE A GROMATAR, START

EXPLORING, PLAYING GAMES

AND CONNECTING WITH

PEOPLE.

BUT IT IS NOT JUST

EVERYONE.

EVERY KEY STROKE IS

MONITORED 24/7, AND

PARENTS CAN TRACK THE

KIDS' ACTIVITY.

WE CHECKED OUT THE

VERIFICATION PROCESS AND,

YEAH, TRUST ME, IT IS

SECURE.

WHAT IS NEXT FOR THE MARKS

FAMILY AND GROM SOCIAL?

WE'RE CURRENTLY WORKING

ON A PROJECT THAT WILL LET

US HAVE A CHRISTIAN-BASED

PART OF GROM SOCIAL.

AND ZACH HAS THIS

ADVICE FOR YOUNG

ENTREPRENEURS.

HAVE A GOAL AND DON'T

LET ANYTHING GET IN YOUR

WAY.

DON'T LET ANYTHING STOP

YOU FROM WHAT YOU WANT TO

DO.

THAT WAS KIND OF MY

MOTIVATION CREATING GROM

SOCIAL.

I'M CAYLEB KINSLO, AND

THIS HAS BEEN DIGITAL

DOWNLOAD.

Terry: WOW, OUT OF

SOMETHING HE SAW AS

RESTRICTIVE, AND EVEN

NEGATIVE, AMAZING.

Andrew: AT 11 YEARS

OLD.

WOW!

Terry: UNBELIEVABLE.

THAT'S IMPRESSIVE.

AND I'M SURE THERE ARE

LOTS OF YOU WHO ARE

PARENTS WHO WOULD LIKE TO

KNOW MORE ABOUT HOW TO

UTILIZE THAT.

PRETTY EXCITING.

Andrew: WE MIGHT

CHECK THAT OUT IN OUR

HOUSE.

IT'S A LITTLE SOON FOR US.

Terry: THAT'S

PROBABLY THE ONE I'D LIKE

TO BE ON.

I'LL SEE WHAT I CAN DO.

> COMING UP, A PRO

SOCCER PLAYER QUITS IN THE

MIDDLE OF A GAME.

FIND OUT WHY.

THAT'S NEXT.

Andrew: EDWARD JOHN

IS A RENAISSANCE MAN.

HE IS AN INTERNATIONAL

SINGER, TV HOST, PREACHER

AND AUTHOR.

IT ALL STARTED THE DAY

EDWARD WAS PLAYING SOCCER

AND HEARD A VOICE.

I LIVED AND BREATHED

SPORTS.

I WAS VERY BLESSED AS AN

ATHLETE IN MY YOUNGER

YEARS, LET ME EMPHASIZE

THAT.

Reporter: EDWARD JOHN

BECAME WELL-KNOWN IN THE

'88080s FOR HIS PRECISION

SKI JUMPS.

HE STARTED SKIING AT AN

EARLY AGE.

I THINK I WAS ONLY

ABOUT 6 OR 7 WHEN I USED

TO GO OUT AND DO MY TRAIL

RUNNING AND GETTING READY

FOR MY SKIING.

I LOVED SKIING, LOVED THE

SNOW, LOVED THE OUTDOORS.

Reporter: AND HE WAS

ALSO A FORBIDABLE SOCCER

PLAYER WITH AMAZING BALL

CONTROL AND POWERFUL

SHOTS.

IT WAS THOSE SKILLS THAT

OPENED THE DOOR FOR HIM TO

PLAY FOR THE TULSA

ROUGHNECKS ON THE AMERICAN

SOCCER LEAGUE.

EVERYTHING I DID I

EXCELLED AT WITH SPORTS.

SOCCER WAS ONE OF MY MAIN

LOVES.

I SAW MYSELF AS A SOCCER

PLAYER FOR MANY YEARS.

Reporter: EDWARD

RECENTLY VISITED CBN WHERE

HE SHOWED ME SOME OF HIS

SOCCER MOVES.

IT'S IN.

HEY, YOU GOT ME ON THAT.

Reporter: EDDIE, AS

HIS FRIENDS CALL HIM, WAS

BORN IN OSLO, NORWAY,

SURROUNDED BY WATERFALLS,

CLIFFS, AND BREATHTAKING

FIORDS.

HIS PARENTS WERE DEVOUT

CHRISTIANS AND RAISED HIM

IN THE CHURCH, BUT EDDIE

CHOSE A DIFFERENT PATH.

I GREW UP WITH

CHRISTIANITY, BUT I DIDN'T

WANT TO BECOME A

CHRISTIAN.

I HAD NO DESIRE FOR IT.

I HAD A KNOWLEDGE OF IT.

I KNEW IT WAS GOOD AND

PROBABLY THE RIGHT THING,

BUT I DIDN'T RECOGNIZE

MYSELF IN THE CHRISTIANS

THAT I SAW.

I COULDN'T RELATE TO THEM.

IT WASN'T ME.

Reporter: EDDIE

CONTINUED TO RUN AWAY FROM

GOD.

WHEN HE WASN'T SKIING, HE

PURSUED HIS DREAM OF

PLAYING SOCCER

PROFESSIONALLY.

IN HIGH SCHOOL, HE BECAME

A SOUGHT-AFTER COLLEGE

RECRUIT FOR HIS SKILLS ON

THE SOCCER FIELD.

HE ACCEPTED AN ATHLETIC

SCHOLARSHIP TO TEND ORAL

ROBERTS UNIVERSITY.

THEY HAD CHAPEL

SERVICES.

I HAD NEVER SEEN THOUSANDS

OF KIDS GATHERED IN THE

NAME OF JESUS.

I HAD NEVER SEEN THAT.

I REMEMBER THINKING, AS I

WALKED IN, I SAW THESE

HANDS UP IN THE AIR, AND I

REMEMBER THINKING, THEY

HAVE SOMETHING THAT I

DON'T HAVE. THEY'VE GOT

IT.

AND FOR FOUR YEARS OF

COLLEGE, MY SEARCH WAS ON.

EVERY DAY.

Reporter: BUT HE WAS

STILL FOCUSED ON HIS

ATHLETIC GOALS.

AFTER GRADUATION, WHILE

PLAYING PROFESSIONAL

SOCCER, HE SAYS HE HEARD

GOD SPEAK TO HIM.

I WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF

THE GAME, YOU RUNNING DOWN RUNNING DOWN

AFTER THE BALL, AND ALL OF

A SUDDEN I HEARD THIS

VOICE.

I DIDN'T HEAR IT WITH MY

EARS.

I HEARD IT WITH EVERY

FIBRE IN MY BEING.

THIS VOICE APPEARS AND

SAYS CALMLY, EDWARD, ARE

YOU GOING TO RUN AFTER

THAT BALL THE REST OF YOUR

LIFE?

ARE OR YOU GOING TO RUN

AFTER ME LIKE YOU RUN

AFTER THAT BALL?

AND I STOPPED, AND

EVERYONE IS YELLING AROUND

ME, EDDIE, THE BALL, THE

BALL, THE BALL!

BUT I WAS FINISHED.

AT THAT MOMENT, EVERYTHING

STOPPED FOR ME.

I WAS LOOKING AROUND, WHO

JUST SPOKE TO ME, AND YET

I KNEW IT WAS GOD.

Reporter: AFTER THE

GAME, EDDIE EXAMINED HIS

LIFE.

BECAUSE OF MY FOCUS ON

BECOMING AN ATHLETE AND A

TOP ATHLETE, I WASN'T

INTERESTED IN THE DRINKING

OR PARTYING.

I HAD MY MIND FOCUSED.

BUT I WAS A HUMAN BEING

STACKED.

ALL OF MY TROUBLES, ALL OF

MY SORROWS, ALL OF MY

FEARS, ALL OF MY

DISCOURAGEMENTS, ALL OF MY

FAILURES, WAS JUST STACKED

UP INSIDE OF ME.

Reporter: THREE HOURS

LATER, HE SAID SOMETHING

SUPER NATURAL HAPPENED.

SOMETHING HAPPENED, AND

IT WAS STRANGE.

IT WAS LIKE SOMEONE TURNED

A KEY IN MY HEART AND

SOMETHING BROKE.

AND I BEGAN TO WEEP.

AND I WEPT AND I CRIED AND

I SOBBED FOR ABOUT ANOTHER

HOUR.

AND THEN WHEN I CRIED MY

FILL, NO MORE TEARS TO

CRY, I STOOD UP, WALKED

OFF THE FIELD, AND I

CROSSED THE WHITE LINE,

AND I REMEMBER THINKING,

I'M A NEW MAN.

Reporter: WHEN EDDIE

GOT HOME, THE FIRST THING

HE DID WAS READ THE BIBLE.

ONE PARTICULAR VERSE STUCK

WITH HIM.

I READ PROVERBS CHAPTER

3.

IT SAYS, "MY SON, DO NOT

FORGET MY TEACHING.

BUT KEEP MY COMMANDMENTS

IN YOUR HEART BECAUSE

THEY'LL PROLONG YOUR LIFE

AND BRING YOU PROSPERITY."

AND I KNEW WHAT IT MEANT

TO BE A BELIEVER.

Reporter: TODAY

EDWARD JOHN TRAVELS THE

WORLD SPREADING THE GOSPEL

OF JESUS CHRIST.

AND HE IS A PROGRAM

DIRECTOR FOR A SHOW IN

EUROPE.

AND HE IS ALSO AN AUTHOR,

SINGER, AND SONGWRITER.

* MY DOOR IS CLOSED, MY

EYES ARE SHUT *

* I'M ON MY KNEES

Reporter: WHAT IS

YOUR SOLE PURPOSE?

WHAT IS YOUR DESIRE?

MY DESIRE IS TO TRAIN

SOULS TO WIN.

BUT THE ONLY WAY SOULS CAN

WIN IS BY ACCEPTING JESUS

CHRIST.

GOD IS LOVE.

GOD IS GOOD.

GOD WILL SAVE YOU, DELIVER

YOU, ENCOURAGE YOU,

STRENGTHEN YOU, EMPOWER

YOU, RESCUE YOU, LOVE YOU.

GOD IS LOVE.

Andrew: WHAT A SEEN SCENE

ON THAT SOCCER FIELD, WHEN

ALL OF A SUDDEN THE HOLY

SPIRIT INTERVENES AND

GRABS HIS ATTENTION, AND

EDWARD RESPONDS.

ONE OF THE MOST WONDERFUL

THINGS ABOUT OUR LORD AND

SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST IS

THAT HIS PURSUIT OF US

NEVER ENDS.

SOMETIMES IN OUR HUMAN

RELATIONSHIPS, WE DO

SOMETHING TO SEVER A

RELATIONSHIP, AND IT'S

OVER.

NOT WITH OUR LORD.

HE CONTINUES TO EXTEND US

HIS GRACE AND HIS LOVE AND

HIS MERCY WHEN WE DON'T

DESERVE IT.

HE'S NOT THROUGH WITH US.

HE'S NOT THROUGH WITH YOU.

AND IF YOU FEEL LIKE

YOU'VE DONE TOO MUCH TO

HAVE HIM STILL LOVE YOU,

LET EDWARD'S STORY REMIND

YOU THAT JESUS CHRIST, AND

HIS PURSUIT OF YOU, NEVER

ENDS.

WHAT AN ENCOURAGING STORY,

TERRY, ABOUT THE LOVE OF

OUR LORD.

Terry: ONE OF THE

THINGS THAT STRUCK ME AS I

WAS WATCHING EDWARD'S

STORY IS HOW PATIENT GOD

IS WITH US.

ALL THOSE YEARS

PURSUING -- HE WAS GIFTED

BY GOD AND THEN PURSUING.

HOW OFTEN DO WE DO THAT,

WE'RE GIFTED IN SOMETHING

AND WE WIND UP PURSUING

THE GIFT AND NOT THE

GIFTER.

Andrew: IT MAKES

SENSE, THIS IS WHAT I'M

SUPPOSED TO DO.

AND SOMETIMES GOD WILL

SAY, NO, I'VE GOT

SOMETHING FAR BETTER FOR

YOU.

Terry: IT IS WONDER

WONDERFUL WHEN YOU SEE

SOMEBODY'S STORY WHO COME

FULL CIRCLE TO THAT

REALIZATION.

I KNOW THERE ARE MANY OF

YOU WHO WOULD LIKE US TO

PRAY WITH YOU AND FOR YOU.

WE'VE ASKED ON Facebook

IF YOU NEED PRAYER FOR

YOUR CHILDREN, WE'D LOVE

TO HEAR FROM YOU.

HERE IS A PRAYER REQUEST

FROM JOSEPH THAT REFLECTS

MANY OF THE OTHERS WE HAVE

RECEIVED.

HE WRITES, "PLEASE PRAY

THAT MY DAUGHTER WILL COME

BACK TO ME."

AND SHARON SAYS, "SINCE MY

SON'S RETURN FROM

AFGHANISTAN, THERE ARE

LITTLE THINGS THAT BLOW

HIS NERVES OUT OF WHACK.

HE GOES OFF ON PEOPLE IN A

HEARTBEAT.

HE IS DRIVING ME INSANE.

I HAVE TO GET OUT BEFORE I

GET HURT.

I LOVE HIM BUT I'M AFRAID

FOR MY WELL-BEING.

PLEASE HELP US, LORD."

SHANNON WRITES, "PLEASE

STAND IN PRAYER THAT MY 12

CARRIED WILL BE DELIVERED

FRO12-YEAR-OLD WILL BE

DELIVERED FROM ANGER

ISSUES."

LET'S ALL PRAY TOGETHER.

FATHER, I KNOW YOU HEAR

THE HEART CRY OF PEOPLE AS

THEY LISTEN TO WHAT IT

MEANS TO INTENTIONALLY

PARENT AND TO PARENT WELL

TODAY.

GOD, THAT'S THE DESIRE OF

ALL OF OUR HEARTS, AND YET

OFTEN IN OUR LIVES, THERE

IS DIVISION THAT COMES

INTO OUR FAMILIES, THERE

IS QUARRELLING, AND

SOMETIMES LOSS OF

RELATIONSHIP.

GOD, I JUST WANT TO PRAY

FOR JOSEPH.

I ASK, FATHER, THAT YOU

WOULD HEAR THE CRY OF HIS

HEART, AND THAT HIS

DAUGHTER WOULD BE RESTORED

TO HIM IN RELATIONSHIP.

GOD, YOU KNOW HER, YOU'RE

WITH HER.

AND YOU UNDERSTAND THE

HEART ISSUES IN BOTH OF

THEIR LIVES.

I ASK FOR HEALING AND

RESTORATION FOR THEM.

THANK YOU, LORD.

Andrew: LORD, WE LIFT

UP SHAR SHARON AND HER SON, WHO

HAS JUST RETURNED FROM

AFGHANISTAN.

WE THANK YOU FOR THESE MEN

AND WOMEN WHO TRAVEL

ABROAD AND WHO SEE THINGS

AND DO THINGS, AND THE

MEMORIES ARE HARD TO

SHAKE.

WE ASK FOR MERCY ON THEIR

SOULS.

THE PEACE OF GOD THAT

SURPASSES OUR

UNDERSTANDING, LORD GOD.

WE PRAY FOR THOSE WHO HAVE

BEEN BATTLING FOR THIS

NATION, LORD GOD, THAT

YOUR LOVE JUST OVERWHELMS

THEM.

AND GOD, WE PRAY FOR

SHANNON AND HER DAUGHTER'S

ANGER ISSUE.

AND FOR CHILDREN

STRUGGLING WITH ANGER AND

HOSTILITY FROM HURTS THEY

RECEIVED, MAKE US TENDER

TO THEM, ENCOURAGING TO

THEM, AND SHOW US, LORD,

HOW TO EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

TO THEM.

IN THE NAME OF JESUS WE

PRAY.

AMEN.

WE LEAVE YOU WITH THESE

WORDS FROM PROVERBS 3: "MY

SON, DO NOT FORGET MY

TEACHING, BUT KEEP MY

PLANS IN YOUR HEART FOR

THEY WILL PROLONG YOUR

LIFE AND GIVE YOU PEACE

AND PROSPERITY

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