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700 Club Interactive - Love Never Gives Up - March 14, 2016

PTSD, Infidelity & Separation- How a Doomed Marriage was saved. Read Transcript


Gordon: A MARINE

SERVING IN AFGHANISTAN.

9/11 HAPPENED, AND HE

CAME HOME AND SAID THAT HE

WANTED TO BE ABLE TO HELP

FIGHT THIS WAR ON TERROR.

Gordon: BRINGS WAR

HOME.

MY ANGER IS OUT OF

CONTROL.

MY CHILDREN WERE SCARED OF

ME, AND MY WIFE WAS SCARED

OF ME.

Gordon: AND HE ALMOST

TAKES HIS LIFE.

I BECAME VERY DEPRESSED

AND SUICIDAL.

Gordon: FIND OUT WHAT

SAVED THIS WARRIOR ON

TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

GOOD MORNING, AND WELCOME

TO THE SHOW.

LOVE IS ONE OF THE MOST

TALKED ABOUT EMOTIONS,

FROM THE COUNTLESS LOVE

SONGS ON AIRWAVES TO THE

NON-STOP ROMANTIC COMEDIES

AT THE BOX OFFICE.

BUT HOW MANY PEOPLE

ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND LOVE,

ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES

TO MARRIAGE?

Terry: AFTER A TOUR

IN AFGHANISTAN, A BOUT

WITH PTSD, AND MARITAL

INFIDELITY, TAD AND CATHY

GOT A CRASH COURSE ON REAL

LOVE AFTER THEIR MARRIAGE

CAME TO A PAINFUL

CROSSROADS.

TAKE A LOOK.

CATHY AND I MET MY

FIRST YEAR IN MARINE CORPS

AND WE GOT MARRIED A YEAR

LATER.

WE DECIDED TO HAVE KIDS

PRETTY QUICK, SO WE HAD

THREE CHILDREN,

BACK-TO-BACK.

I DID A LOT OF

DEPLOYMENTS OVERSEAS, AND

I WOULD BE GONE FOR A

COUPLE OF MONTHS AND THEN

HOME A COUPLE OF MONTHS

AND THEN GONE AGAIN.

I THOUGHT, ALL I WAS

WAS MOM.

9/11 HAPPENED, AND HE CAME

HOME AND SAID HE WANTED TO

BE ABLE TO HELP FIGHT THIS

WAR ON TERROR.

LEAVING MY JOB IN

AFGHANISTAN, AND I BELIEVE

IT WAS THE MOST IMPORTANT

THING IN THE WORLD, AND I

WAS PRIVILEGED TO GET TO

DO IT.

I KNEW HOW TO TAKE CARE

OF MY HOME AND MY FAMILY,

BUT ONE THING I DIDN'T

KNOW HOW TO DO WAS TO

REALLY SUPPORT MY HUSBAND

WITH THE STRUGGLES HE WAS

DEALING WITH.

COMING HOME FROM

AFGHANISTAN IT WAS THE

DIFFICULT PART BECAUSE I

FELT THINGS MADE SENSE

THERE.

I WAS IMPEDING ON HER

SYSTEM OF BEING A MOM.

I FELT LIKE I WAS IN THE

WAY.

HE KEPT HIMSELF

DISTANT.

I COULD NEVER REALLY FEEL

A CONNECTION.

JUST LIKE IN EVERY

MARRIAGE, YOU START

BECOMING DISTANT FROM EACH

OTHER, AND YOU'RE FEELING

UNSATISFIED.

I DIDN'T HAVE JOY WITH MY

MARRIAGE.

I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH

PTSD.

I FELT THE PHYSICAL

SYMPTOMS AS MY FACE GOING

NUMB AND MY ARMS GOING

NUMB, AND I FELT IN A

STATE OF COMPLETE

DESPERATION.

WE DON'T REALLY

UNDERSTAND THE STRUGGLES

OF POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS,

AND SO I DIDN'T KNOW HOW

TO RECOGNIZE THAT IN HIM.

THE FIRST MONTH OR TWO I

WAS ABLE TO COMFORT HIM

THROUGH IT, BUT IT WASN'T

LONG BEFORE THE ANGER

WOULD START.

I DIDN'T REALLY KNOW

WHAT TO DO, BUT I HAD DONE

MARTIAL ARTS MY WHOLE LIFE

AND I WRESTLED AND DID

JUJITSU, AND SO MY

COUNSELLOR AND MY WIFE

RECOMMENDED THAT I GO TRY

AND DO THAT.

I FELT LIKE I HAD FOUND A

CURE BECAUSE WHILE I WAS

WRESTLING ON THOSE MATS, I

COULDN'T THINK ABOUT THE

THINGS THAT WERE GIVING ME

ANXIETY.

I WOULD SPEND 10, 12 HOURS

A DAY WRESTLING ON THE

MATS, AND CATHY ENCOURAGED

ME TO OPEN A SCHOOL.

SO I STARTED FIGHTING

PROFESSIONALLY AGAIN AND

TEACHING.

HE PUT EVERYTHING HE

HAD INTO THAT.

I WATCHED HIM DO ALL OF

THESE THINGS, AND NEVER

DID HE PUT THAT EFFORT

INTO OUR MARRIAGE.

AND I CRAZED THAT.

I LONGED FOR THAT.

AND NOW HERE WE ARE, 10

YEARS INTO OUR MARRIAGE,

AND IT'S STILL NOT

HAPPENING.

AND ONCE HIS FAME CAME,

WITH HAVING THAT GYM AND

HAVING THE PROFESSIONAL

FIGHTS, WOMEN CAME INTO

HIS LIFE.

I SURROUNDED MYSELF

WITH A BUNCH OF PEOPLE

THAT JUST TOLD ME

EVERYTHING I WANTED TO

HEAR, AND NO ONE THAT WAS

TELLING ME THE THINGS I

NEEDED TO HEAR.

MY ANGER WAS OUT OF

CONTROL.

MY HOME WAS, LIKE, NOT A

HOME.

IT WAS NOT A HAPPY PLACE

TO BE.

MY CHILDREN WERE SCARED OF

ME.

MY WIFE WAS SCARED OF ME.

I PRETTY MUCH CAME TO A

POINT WHERE I SAID, CHOOSE

OUR FAMILY OR ENOUGH IS

ENOUGH.

HE CHOSE THE DIRECTION HE

WAS GOING, AND SO WE

SEPARATED AND WE SOLD OUR

HOME.

AND MY CHILDREN

EXPERIENCED THE PAIN THAT

CAME WITH A BROKEN HOME.

IT WAS PROBABLY THE

HARDEST THING I DID, WAS

SEEING MY KIDS AND TRYING

TO EXPLAIN TO THEM HOW

THIS WAS GOING TO BE

BETTER, AND IT WASN'T.

AND I BECAME VERY

DEPRESSED AND SUICIDAL,

AND REALLY STRUGGLED WITH

TAKING MY OWN LIFE.

I WAS SO BROKEN AND SO

HURT, I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT

TO DO.

I HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH

THE LORD.

I LOVED THE LORD AND KNEW

THE LORD, BUT I NEVER

TRULY GOT ON MY KNEES TO

SURRENDER TO THE LORD.

HIGMY KIDS WOULD SEE ME JUST

LAYING IN THE BED, CRYING

ALL OF THE TIME.

I OPENED THE BOOK CALLED

"THE POWER OF A PRAYING

WIFE," AND I BEGAN PRAYING

FOR MY HUSBAND.

AND THE LORD BEGAN TO SHOW

ME MY FAULTS IN THE

MARRIAGE.

AND THAT TURNED INTO GOD, GOD,

ALLOW ME TO SEE CHAD THE

WAY YOU SEE HIM.

AND HELP ME TO FORGIVE HIM

THE WAY YOU FORGAVE HIM

BECAUSE I CAN'T LIVE A

LIFE LIKE THIS FOR THE

REST OF MY LIFE.

AND THEN ONE DAY, WHEN

THE DIVORCE PAPERS WERE

ALL FILED AND SIGNED AND

READY TO EXECUTE, CATHY

CAME TO ME.

I SAID TO HIM, EVERYTHING

THAT YOU DO, YOU

ACCOMPLISH, YOU ACHIEVE,

YOU RISE ABOVE AND BEYOND.

BUT WHEN IT COMES TO OUR

FAMILY, YOU QUIT.

IT JUST REALLY

CONVICTED ME.

SHE WAS ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.

AND I MADE A DECISION

RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT THAT

I WAS GOING TO -- THAT I

CAUSED THE DAMAGE AND I

WAS GOING TO FIX IT.

I BEGAN TO RENEW MY

RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD ON A

LEVEL THAT I HAD NEVER

EXPERIENCED BEFORE.

THAT'S WHEN THE REAL

RESTORATION CAME.

I WAS ALMOST HARDER

TAKING MY HUSBAND BACK AND

WORKING THROUGH

RESTORATION THAN IT WAS

ACTUALLY GOING THROUGH IT

AND BEING HURT.

BUT I WAS TO A PLACE THAT

I WAS ABLE TO BRING IT TO

THE CROSS EVERY MORNING.

AND I WAS READY TO MOVE

FORWARD.

I WOULD NEVER HAVE

DREAMED I WOULD BE IN THE

MARRIAGE.

OUR MARRIAGE AT THIS

POINT IS OUTSTANDING.

I HAVE A MARRIAGE I HAD

ALWAYS WISHED FOR.

NOW, AFTER STARTING OUR

FOUNDATION, WE'VE HAD 838

GRADUATES COME THROUGH OUR

PROGRAM.

OUR GOAL IS TO NOT JUST

WORK WITH THE PTSD VICTIM

AND MOVE ON.

WE ACTUALLY WANT TO GET IN

AND WORK WITH THE FAMILY

AND RESTORE THE WHOLE

FAMILY.

IT IS NEVER TOO LATE.

GOD TAKES OLD THINGS AND

MAKES THEM NEW.

AND MAKES THEM EVEN BETTER

THAN YOU COULD EVER

IMAGINE.

Gordon: AND HE CAN DO

THE SAME THING FOR YOU.

ONE OF THE SAD THINGS

ABOUT OUR CULTURE TODAY IS

THE LARGEST PERCENTAGE OF

FAMILIES ARE SINGLE MOMS

TRYING TO RAISE CHILDREN.

MARRIAGES SEEM TO BE

BLOWING UP ALL AROUND US,

AND WHAT IS THE ROOT

CAUSE.

WHAT IS THAT ROOT?

JESUS EXPLAINED WHY

DIVORCE WAS ALLOWED IN THE

TORAH, WHY IT WAS LAWFUL

UNDER THE TORAH TO HAVE

DIVORCE, AND THAT GOD

GRANTED IT BECAUSE OF OUR

HARDNESS OF HEART.

AND HOW EASILY OUR HEARTS

BECOME HARDENED, BASED ON

WOUNDS.

IT IS NOT WOUNDS FROM OUR

ENEMIES, IT'S WOUNDS FROM

THE ONES WE LOVE.

THE WORDS THAT ARE SAID,

THE THINGS THAT HAPPEN.

AND WITH CHAD AND CATHY,

YOU HAVE A PICTURE OF SOME

OF THE WORST THINGS THAT

CAN HAPPEN TO A MARRIAGE.

WHERE YOU GO AWAY IN

SERVICE, TRYING TO DO

SOMETHING GOOD FOR YOUR

COUNTRY, AND YOU COME BACK

WOUNDED.

AND WE NEED TO START

THINKING OF PTSD AS NOT

SOME DISORDER, BUT A

WOUND, THAT YOUR MIND,

YOUR BRAIN, HAS LITERALLY

BEEN WOUNDED BY WHAT YOU

HAVE SEEN AND WHAT YOU

HAVE GONE THROUGH.

WHAT DOES THAT DO?

HOW DOES THAT CREATE

DISTANCE?

FOR CHAD, HE TRIED TO MAKE

UP FOR THAT.

HE SAID, OKAY, I'M GOING

TO GO PURSUE A BUSINESS.

I'M GOING TO PURSUE THESE

MARTIAL ARTS.

I'M GOING TO PURSUE THAT

WITH ALL THAT I HAVE.

AND HERE IS CATHY SAYING,

WELL, WHY AREN'T YOU

PURSUING ME?

AND HOW TYPICAL THAT IS,

WHERE YOU GO OFF IN SOME

CAREER, SOME DREAM, SOME

THIS WILL SOLVE ALL OF THE

PROBLEMS, NOT REALIZING IT

IS GOING TO CREATE A WHOLE

NEW SET OF PROBLEMS, A

WHOLE NEW THING TO DEAL

WITH.

HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THAT

HARDNESS OF HEART?

FOR CHAD, IT WAS, I'VE GOT

TO DO ALL OF THESE EXTRA

THINGS.

AND WHILE HE WAS DOING ALL

OF THOSE EXTRA THINGS, HIS

HEART WAS HARDENED FOR

WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON

WITH CATHY.

FOR CATHY, IT WAS THE

THINGS THAT HAPPENED.

AND WHETHER THAT WAS

INFIDELITY, OR CHAD WENT

OFF TO WAR AND CAME BACK

DIFFERENT, OR WHY IS HE

PURSUING THIS BUSINESS

INSTEAD OF ME?

ALL OF THOSE THINGS LED TO

HARDNESS.

CATHY HAD THE BREAKTHROUGH

BREAKTHROUGH.

AND THAT BREAKTHROUGH WAS

WHEN YOU GET TO THE POINT

OF ABSOLUTE SURRENDER TO

HIM.

AND LET HIM CHANGE YOU.

IT'S ONE THING TO GO TO

GOD AND SAY, WILL YOU

PLEASE CHANGE MY SPOUSE.

IT'S ANOTHER THING TO GO

TO GOD AND SAY, WILL YOU

PLEASE CHANGE ME SO I CAN

LOVE THEM EVEN MORE.

I CAN GET THROUGH WHATEVER

PROBLEM IS HAPPENING.

I CAN HAVE THAT

BREAKTHROUGH SO THAT MY

HEART IS NO LONGER

HARDENED.

THE OLD SAYING, "LOVE IS

BLIND, AND MARRIAGE IS THE

EYE-OPENER," AND IT HAS

HAPPENED TO A LOT OF

FAMILIES IN OUR CULTURE

TODAY.

IN THAT EYE-OPENING

EXPERIENCE, DO YOU LOSE

THAT FIRST LOVE?

HOW DO YOU RECAPTURE IT?

CHAD AND CATHY HAVE GIVEN

US THE BLUEPRINT FOR IT,

HOW TO COME THROUGH IT.

NOT JUST GET TO A POINT

WHERE YOU'RE NOT GOING TO

DIVORCE, BUT GET TO A

POINT WHERE YOU ACTUALLY

HAVE JOY WITH ONE ANOTHER

AGAIN, AND ARE LOOKING

FORWARD TO A FUTURE

TOGETHER.

THAT KIND OF THING CAN

HAPPEN IF YOU DO IT GOD'S

WAY.

AND GOD'S WAY IS FOR OUR

HEARTS TO BECOME SOFTENED

BEFORE HIM, WHERE HE COMES

IN AND SAYS, HERE IS HOW I

WANT TO FIX YOU.

AND IN THE FIXING OF YOU,

YOU FIND THE FIXING OF US

TOGETHER.

IF YOU WANT PRAYER FOR

YOUR MARRIAGE, ALL YOU

HAVE TO DO IS CALL US.

WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.

IF YOU WANT PRAYER FOR

YOURSELF, AND YOU WANT TO

MAKE THAT PRAYER, GOD, CAN

YOU START WITH ME, NO

LONGER PRAYING FOR GOD TO

FIX THEM, BUT FOR GOD TO

FIX YOU -- IF YOU WANT

THAT, GIVE US A CALL:

1-888-777-1999.

WHEN YOU CALL, WE'VE GOT

SOMETHING FOR YOU.

IT'S ABSOLUTELY FREE.

IT'S A PACKET CALLED "LOVE

AND MARRIAGE, GOD'S PLAN

FOR YOUR FAMILY," WHERE

YOU CAN LEARN WHAT THE

BIBLE SAYS ABOUT MARRIAGE,

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT

LOVE AND MARRIAGE.

IT IS ALL FREE.

IF YOU WANT, IT IS A

P.D.F. FILE, AND WE CAN

E-MAIL IT TO YOU RIGHT

NOW, RIGHT TODAY, OR WE

CAN MAIL IT TO YOU.

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TERRY?

Terry: WELL, COMING

UP, A SOLDIER WHO LOST IT

ALL.

WHILE I CONTINUED TO

CRUMBLE, DIVORCE, FOLLOWED

BY GIVING UP CUSTODY OF MY

DAUGHTER, MY HOME WENT

INTO FORECLOSURE.

Terry: FIND OUT HOW

HE GETS THE HELP HE NEEDS,

WHEN WE COME BACK.

Terry: USUALLY WHEN

GOD RESCUES US, HE INTENDS

FOR US TO TURN AROUND AND

HELP PEOPLE FIGHTING

SIMILAR BATTLES.

CHAD AND CATHY ARE NOW

DOING JUST THAT WITH THEIR

"MIGHTY OAKS WARRIOR

PROGRAM."

TAKE A LOOK.

THIS IS THE FAMILY FARM

I GREW UP ON.

AND IN '97, AT AGE 17, I

JOINED THE ARMY AS A

BULLDOZER OPERATOR.

GROWING UP ON A FARM AND

HAVING ACCESS TO FARM

EQUIPMENT, YOU KNOW, IT

WAS JUST A NATURAL FIT FOR

SOMETHING FOR ME TO DO FOR

THE MILITARY.

TOWARDS THE END OF THAT

CONTRACT, THE TWIN TOWERS

FELL.

BECAUSE OF THAT, I SIGNED

A REENLISTMENT CONTRACT,

SO I COULD DO MY PART.

IN 2004, I WAS DEPLOYED TO

SUMI TRIANGLE.

THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

WERE VERY CONFUSING AND,

YOU KNOW, IT WAS REALLY

DIFFICULT TO FIND ON YOUR

MORAL COMPASS WHETHER THEY

WERE RIGHT OR WRONG.

AND REGARDLESS OF HOW YOU

FEEL ABOUT THEM NOW, THEY

CAN'T BE UNDONE.

WHETHER IT BE GETTING

ATTACKED DURING A CONVOY

OR HEARING ROCKETS FLY

OVER YOUR HEAD, AND SEEING

THEM LAND IN A TENT FULL

OF PEOPLE'S LOVED ONES,

IT'S LIKE SOMEONE SLIPS A

BRICK INSIDE YOUR RUG

SACK.

I CAN CARRY A BRICK, I CAN

CARRY SEVERAL BRICKS.

ONE AT A TIME YOU DON'T

NOTICE, BUT WHEN YOU

RETURN HOME, YOU FIND

YOURSELF BURIED IN RUBBLE.

POST-DEPLOYMENT, I STARTED

HAVING PANIC ATTACKS.

AND I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND

WHAT WAS HAPPENING.

I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH, OF

COURSE, PTSD, AGORAPHOBIA,

BIPOLARISM, AND ANXIETY

DISORDER, AND I WAS

PRESCRIBED A

PHARMACEUTICAL COCKTAIL.

I LOST MY FIRST JOB BACK

IN THE REAL WORLD BECAUSE

I WAS UNABLE TO BUILD

EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS

WITH COSTUMERS AND

CO-WORKERS.

I LOST MY SECOND JOB

BECAUSE I MISSED TOO MANY

WORK DAYS.

ON MULTIPLE OCCASIONS I

WOULD GET THIS VOICE

INSIDE MY HEAD THAT WOULD

TELL ME THAT THE WORLD

WOULD BE BETTER OFF IF I

WASN'T IN IT.

I WAS ADMITTED INTO THE

PSYCH WARD.

I THINK THIS WAS PROBABLY

MY LOW POINT.

PREVIOUSLY I WAS A NONE

COMMISSIONED OFFICER, A

SERGEANT, IN THE U.S.

ARMY, SERVING IN A THEATER

OF COMBAT.

I WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR MY

LIFE AND THE LIVES OF

OTHERS.

AND I CAN'T BE TRUSTED

WITH SHOELACES NOW.

MY LIFE CONTINUED TO

CRUMBLE.

DIVORCE FOLLOWED BY GIVING

UP CUSTODY OF MY DAUGHTER.

MY HOME WENT INTO

FORECLOSURE.

I ENDED UP LIVING BACK ON

THE FAMILY FARM THAT I

GREW UP ON.

MY BROTHER AND HIS WIFE,

WHO ARE BOTH IRAQI

VETERANS, WERE GRACIOUS

ENOUGH TO TAKE ME IN.

THIS IS THE TRAILER WE

LIVED IN AT THE TIME.

THEY TOOK ME IN AND HELPED

ME TRY TO COME TO TERMS

WITH THINGS THAT WERE

HAPPENING.

THINGS WERE NOT GOING

WELL.

FORTUNATELY, I FINALLY

CAUGHT A BREAK.

AND THAT BREAK WAS WHEN I

MET A NAME NAMED PETE

WILHELM.

PETE TEACHES BRAZILIAN JEW

JIBRAZILIANJUJITSU.

AND HE BROUGHT ME INTO HIS

ACADEMY AND TOOK ME UNDER

HIS WINGS AND HE CONTINUED

TO REACH OUT TO ME.

THE REASON IT WAS SO

EFFECTIVE WAS BECAUSE WHEN

I WAS ON THE MAT,

TRAINING, I DIDN'T HAVE

TIME TO THINK ABOUT

AFGHANISTAN BECAUSE IF I

DID, I WOULD GET CHOKED

OUT.

AND HE INVITED ME OUT TO

CALIFORNIA TO EXPERIENCE

THE FIGHT CLUB, AND I WAS

RELUCTANT FOR A LONG TIME.

BUT BY THE GRACE OF GOD, I

MADE IT OUT THERE.

THESE GUYS WERE GIVING ME

BIBLICAL SCRIPTURE IN

TERMS THAT I COULD

UNDERSTAND.

THEY WERE SPEAKING TO ME

TACTICALLY.

THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT

IDENTIFYING A COMMON

ENEMY.

AND ESCAPING, ADVANCING

POSITIONS, AND

COUNTER-ATTACKING.

FOUR DAYS INTO THIS

PROGRAM, I FOUND MYSELF

DOING SOMETHING I HADN'T

DONE IN A DECADE, AND THAT

WAS PRAYING.

WHEN I WAS IN IRAQ, I CAME

TO THE CONCLUSION THAT I

COULDN'T BE A MAN OF GOD

AND A SOLDIER SERVING IN

THIS AREA BOTH AT THE SAME

TIME.

SO I LITERALLY TOOK MY

BIBLE AND PUT IT IN A FOOT

LOCKER, ALONG WITH MY

CONNECTION WITH CHRIST.

WITH THIS KNOWLEDGE THAT

THEY SHARED WITH ME, AND

THIS BIBLICAL BLUEPRINT OF

WHAT MANHOOD SHOULD LOOK

LIKE, I WAS ABLE TO

REESTABLISH MY CONNECTION

WITH GOD.

SINCE I'VE BEEN BACK, I'VE

BEEN IMPROVING MY LIFE,

AND I'M TRYING TO REACH

OTHER VETERANS WITH THIS

MESSAGE.

I THINK MY WIFE REALLY

SAID IT BEST: SINCE YOU

CAME HOME FROM MIGHTY

OAKS, YOU CARRY YOURSELF

DIFFERENTLY, AND I'M

REALLY PROUD OF YOU.

WHAT I'M MOST THANKFUL FOR

IS A SUPPORTIVE WIFE AND

DAUGHTER.

I'M THANKFUL FOR THIS

CHURCH FAMILY.

I'M THANKFUL FOR THE MEN

AT "MIGHTY OAKS" WHO HELD

ME ACCOUNTABLE.

I'M THANKFUL FOR THE TOOLS

THEY'VE GIVEN ME.

AND MOST OF ALL I'M

THANKFUL THAT GOD GIVES

SECOND CHANCES.

Terry: I AM THANKFUL

THAT GOD GIVES SECOND

CHANCES, TOO.

I WOULD IMAGINE YOU FEEL

THAT AS WELL.

THE BIBLE SAYS THAT WE'RE

FIERCEFULLY AND

WONDERFULLY MADE, AND WE

ARE, WITHOUT A DOUBT, IN

EVERY WAY.

BUT SOMETIMES WE'RE

FRAGILE.

WE WERE, AS GORDON SO

OFTEN LIKES TO SAY,

CREATED TO LIVE IN A

GARDEN WITH A GOD WHO

LOVES US.

WAR IS A FAR CRY FROM

THAT.

AND WHEN WE BECAME

OVERWHELMED AND BROKEN AND

CHALLENGED BEYOND WHAT

WE'RE CAPABLE OF HANDLING,

THERE ARE THINGS THAT

HAPPEN IN OUR HEARTS AND

IN OUR MINDS THAT ONLY OUR

CREATOR CAN FIX, REALLY.

I LOVE THIS STORY.

I LOVE WHAT CHAD AND CATHY

ARE DOING, AND I LOVE WHAT

SHE SAID IN THAT EARILER

PIECE.

I WAS A CHRISTIAN, I KNEW

GOD, I MADE A COMMITMENT

TO HIM, I WAS PERSONALLY

INVESTED, BUT I HAD NEVER

REALLY GOTTEN DOWN ON MY

KNEES AND SURRENDERED.

SOMETIMES IT TAKES

SOMETHING LIKE BEING

COMPLETELY BROKEN INSIDE,

WHETHER IT IS EMOTIONALLY,

MENTALLY, MAYBE IT'S

PHYSICALLY.

TO GET DOWN BEFORE GOD AND

SAY, I AM LITTLE AND YOU

ARE BIG, AND I NEED YOU

AND I WANT YOU.

YOU KNOW, IN LIFE, I SEE

IN THIS STORY, WHAT WE ALL

DO WHEN WE COME UP AGAINST

A WALL, WE

COMPARTMENTALIZE THE

CHALLENGE AND THE PAIN OF

IT ALL, AND WE TRY TO KEEP

ON KEEPING ON, JUST

GRITTING OUR TEETH.

BUT WE WEREN'T MEANT TO

LIVE THAT WAY.

WHATEVER YOU'RE GOING

THROUGH IN YOUR OWN LIFE,

GOD CAN PUT YOU BACK

TOGETHER AGAIN, BETTER

THAN YOU WERE BEFORE.

I'LL BET YOU IF YOU TALK

TO REID HASTINGS

ONE-ON-ONE TODAY, HE WOULD

SAY, I'M BETTER TODAY THAN

I WAS BEFORE.

BECAUSE THE PROMISE OF OUR

GOD IS THAT HE'LL TAKE

WHAT THE ENEMY MEANT FOR

EVIL AND HE'LL WORK IT FOR

GOOD.

WE ARE FEARFULLY AND

WONDERFULLY MADE, AND OUR

CREATOR HAS A PLAN AND A

PURPOSE, NOT JUST FOR EACH

OF US INDIVIDUALLY, BUT

EVEN FOR THE CIRCUMSTANCES

THAT HAVE SOMETIMES

WOUNDED AND TORN AND

CHALLENGED US.

IF WE'LL JUST LET GO.

IF WE'LL DO WHAT WAS SAID

IN THAT FIRST STORY.

IF WE'LL GET DOWN ON OUR

KNEES AND SAY, GOD, I GIVE

IT ALL TO YOU.

I'M DONE CONTROLLING IT,

DOING IT ON MY OWN.

IT IS THAT SIMPLE.

HE WANTS A RELATIONSHIP

WITH YOU, BUT IT HAS GOT

TO BE REAL.

SO GET REAL WITH GOD.

HE CAN TAKE IT.

HE LOVES YOU IN SPITE OF

IT.

JESUS DIED WHILE WE WERE

STILL SINNERS.

HE IS NOT LOOKING FOR YOU

TO GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER

AND CLEAN YOURSELF UP.

HE IS LOOKING FOR YOU TO

LET HIM INVADE YOUR HEART

AND LIFE, AND CREATE IN

YOU A NEW PURPOSE, A NEW

VISION, A NEW LIFE, A

FRESH BEGINNING.

THAT'S WHAT REID IS

TALKING ABOUT, AND I THINK

IT IS WHAT WE ALL NEED AND

WANT.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO PRAY

WITH SOMEONE ABOUT A NEED

IN YOUR LIFE TODAY, OUR

NUMBER IS TOLL-FREE:

1-888-777-1999.

IF YOU'VE ALREADY MADE THE

COMMITMENT WE'VE JUST

TALKED ABOUT, MAYBE RIGHT

NOW, IN THESE FEW MOMENTS,

YOU'VE DONE THAT.

WE'VE GOT A NEW PACKET

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WHAT DO YOU DO NOW, NOW

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GORDON?

Gordon: IF YOU WANT

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE

"MIGHTY OAKS" PROGRAM, YOU

CAN GO TO THEIR WEBSITE

AT mightoaksprogram.org

AND YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE

INFORMATION.

STILL AHEAD, A MILITARY

FAMILY FIGHTS A NEW

BATTLE.

JUST MORE BILLS.

AND THEY'RE STACKED UP

HIGHER AND HIGHER.

Gordon: SEE HOW

VIEWERS LIKE YOU ARE

"HELPING THE HOMEFRONT,"

PLUS WE'LL BE PRAYING FOR

YOU, RIGHT AFTER THIS.

Gordon: THROUGHOUT

HISTORY, VETERANS HAVE

WAGED WAR AGAINST

EVERYTHING FROM TYRANNY TO

TERRORISM, AND YET THEIR

FAMILIES CAN STILL HAVE A

DIFFICULT TIME MAKING ENDS

MEET.

NATALIE'S HUSBAND SERVES

IN THE ARMY OVERSEAS, SO

SHE TAKES CARE OF HER

FAMILY ALONE.

TWO OF THEIR CHILDREN NEED

SPECIAL MEDICAL CARE, AND

THE BILLS WERE PILING UP.

SO WE DECIDED TO GIVE THIS

HARD-WORKING COUPLE SOME

EXTRA HELP.

Reporter: SERGEANT

RUBIN IS PROUD TO SERVE IN

THE UNITED STATES ARMY,

BUT ADMITS IT IS HARD

LEAVING HIS WIFE, NATALIE,

AND HIS CHILDREN BEHIND

WHEN DEPLOYED OVERSEAS.

IT IS A SACRIFICE THAT

COMES WITH SERVING HIS

COUNTRY.

IT MAKES ME PROUD EVERY

DAY.

IT REMINDS ME HE IS A

SOLDIER, PROTECTING OUR

COUNTRY.

Reporter: HOME LIFE

IS CHALLENGING FOR NATALIE

BECAUSE DAUGHTER ARIELLE

HAS A HEART DEFECT.

AND THEIR SON JASON HAS

AUTISM, CAUSING HIM TO RUN

AWAY.

WITH JASON AND HIS

AUTISM, IT IS DEFINITELY

HARD TAKING HIM SOMEWHERE

BECAUSE HE WILL TAKE OFF

AND RUN, AND IT IS HARD TO

CHASE AFTER HIM WITH TWO

OTHER KIDS.

Reporter: THEY

COULDN'T BUY A SWINGSET

FOR THEIR FENCED IN YARD

BECAUSE MONEY WAS TIGHT.

THEY HAD MEDICAL BILLS AND

THE BOYS NEEDED DRESSERS.

GOING INTO DEBT TO BUY THE

SWINGSET WASN'T AN OPTION.

IT IS JUST MORE BILLS

THAT STACK UP HIGHER AND

HIGHER.

IT IS TOUGH TO ALREADY PAY

THE BILLS I HAVE NOW.

Reporter: THE COUPLE

ATTENDS A MILITARY SUPPORT

GROUP CALLED "FORCE

MINISTRIES."

THEY ASKED "HELPING THE

HOMEFRONT" TO HELP, AND WE

SAID YES.

CBN TOLD THEM WE WERE

BUYING THE BOYS' FURNITURE

AND TO COVER THE MEDICAL

EXPENSES.

DOES THAT RELEASE A

LITTLE BIT OF STRESS?

YES.

YES.

AND IT DOESN'T STOP

THERE.

THEY'RE GOING TO BUY YOU A

SWINGSET ALL ASSEMBLED AND

PUT UP IN YOUR YARD SO

YOUR SON WILL HAVE HIS OWN

PLACE TO PLAY.

THAT'S AWESOME.

WE WANT YOU TO KNOW IT

IS OUR PRAYER THAT GOD

WOULD ALLEVIATE SOME OF

PRESSURE THAT IS ON YOU

AND GIVE YOU THE ABILITY

TO TAKE A BREATH.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

Reporter: WITHIN A

FEW WEEKS, THE FURNITURE

WAS DELIVERED AND THE

KIDS' PLAYSET WAS

INVOLVED.

RUBIN KNOWS THE NEXT TIME

HE DEPLOYS, THERE IS A LOT

LESS STRESS ON NATALIE AND

THE CHILDREN.

WE'RE VERY THANKFUL TO

CBN AND "HELPING THE

HOMEFRONT."

AND THERE IS SOMETHING OUT

THERE FOR VETERANS WHO CAN

DEFINITELY USE THE HELP

AND TAKE THAT WEIGHT OFF

THEIR SHOULDERS.

Gordon: IF YOU WANT

TO BE A HELP FOR OUR

ACTIVE DUTY SERVICEMEN,

YOU CAN DO THAT BY

"HELPING THE HOMEFRONT,"

CBN CENTER, VIRGINIA

BEACH, VIRGINIA.

OR YOU CAN CALL US,

1-888-777-1999, AND SAY, I

WANT TO GIVE TO "HELPING

THE HOMEFRONT."

THERE IS ALSO A PLACE ON

"700 CLUB INTERACTIVE," ON

THE GIVING PAGE, WHERE IF

YOU WANT TO DESIGNATE YOUR

GIFT TO "HELPING THE

HOMEFRONT," YOU CAN DO

THAT.

RECOGNIZE THAT THESE

FAMILIES ARE SERVING, TOO.

WE NEED TO HONOR THE

ACTIVE DUTY SERVICEMEN,

BUT THEIR FAMILIES ARE

SERVING AS WELL, AND WE

NEED TO HONOR THEM.

SO IF YOU WANT TO BE A

PART OF IT, GIVE US A

CALL: 1-888-777-1999.

Terry: WELL, WE'VE

GOT SOME REQUESTS THAT

HAVE COME IN FROM MILITARY

FAMILIES.

SO WE WOULD LIKE TO PRAY

FROM THEM.

WE RECEIVED A REQUEST FROM

KELLY: "I'M GOING THROUGH

AN EMOTIONAL ROLLER

COASTER WITH MY HUSBAND.

HE WAS A MARINE FOR 15

YEARS AND DID SIX

DEPLOYMENTS.

ON HIS LAST DEPLOYMENT,

HIS HELICOPTER CRASHED AND

SOME OF HIS MEN DIED.

HE HAS BEEN DRINKING

HEAVILY SINCE.

PLEASE PRAY FOR MY HUSBAND

AND MY MARRIAGE."

AND DANIELLE WRITES, "MY

HUSBAND JOINED THE ARMY IN

2001, AND HE DEPLOYED

THREE TIMES TO AFGHANISTAN

AND IRAQ.

HE HAS BEEN SHOT, STABBED,

HIT BY MINES, I.E.D.s,

AND WAS IN A HELICOPTER

CRASH.

AND WHILE THE BROKEN BONES

AND WOUNDS HAVE HEALED, HE

SUFFERS FROM SURVIVOR'S

GUILT, A TRAUMATIC BRAIN

INJURY, AND PTSD."

SHE IS ASKING FOR PRAYER

FOR HIM.

Gordon: LET'S PRAY

FOR OUR SERVICEMEN.

LORD, WE LIFT THEM UP AND

AGREE NOW THAT THOSE WHO

HAVE COME HOME FROM THESE

WARS, FROM IRAQ, FROM

AFGHANISTAN, FROM VIETNAM,

FROM BEING DEPLOYED IN

PLACES AND THINGS THAT

THEY SAW THAT JUST HAVE

DAMAGED THEM, LORD, GOD,

WE JUST ASK FOR HEALING,

THAT YOU WOULD COME TO

THEM AND YOUR PEACE WOULD

NOW GUARD THEIR HEARTS AND

THEIR MINDS.

RESTORE THEM.

AND FOR THESE FAMILIES,

KNIT THEM TOGETHER AGAIN,

LORD, FOR WE ASK IT IN

JESUS' NAME.

AMEN.

AND AMEN.

WE LEAVE YOU WITH THIS

WORD FROM 1 CORINTHIANS:

"LOVE NEVER GIVES UP,

NEVER LOSES FAITH, IS

ALWAYS HOPEFUL, AND

ENDURES THROUGH EVERY

CIRCUMSTANCE."

MAY GOD GIVE YOU THIS

LOVE.

GOD BLESS YOU.

WE'LL SEE YOU AGAIN.

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