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Increasing Intimacy in Relationships Without Sex

Hollywood couple Devon Franklin and Meagan Good tell how waiting to have sex until marriage deepened their relationship and created more discipline in other areas of their life. Read Transcript

NARRATOR: You may have seen actress Meagan Good

in "Jumping the Broom," "Think Like a Man," or on the arm

of her husband, pastor and producer Devon Franklin,

who just recently celebrated the release of "Miracles

from Heaven."

DEVON FRANKLIN: I'm really excited because it's out, and--

MEAGAN GOOD: It's incredible.

It's so, so good, and I'm not saying it

because he's my husband.

Like, it's so good.

You could say it about everything.

That's cool.

Well, I mean, I acknowledge it for that reason,

but I'm saying it.

Like, it's pretty darn good.

NARRATOR: Devon and Meagan met during the filming of "Jumping

the Broom" back in 2011.

Not long after that, the two started dating.

As the months passed, it became clear

that something was different about this Hollywood couple,

and everyone wanted to know why.

People would come up to us and ask, well,

how did you get to know each other, and what was going on?

NARRATOR: Then the truth came out.

Devon and Meagan were waiting until marriage to have sex.

As expected, their decision created quite the buzz

in Hollywood.

But to the couple's surprise, many

were intrigued by the idea of abstinence.

As we started telling our story,

more people were interested, and people

began to really want to get real information that could

help them in their love life.

What I've found is a lot of people, not just in the world,

but that are here in Hollywood as well

that are practicing it that would never talk about it.

They're too embarrassed.

They feel they'll be shamed, or that they're old school.

NARRATOR: Devon had made the decision in his early 20s

when he began serving as a pastor.

I wanted to be the same person that could get up and preach

and the same person that would go home at night.

Didn't want to be a liar.

Didn't want to be a hypocrite.

NARRATOR: He also recognized the ideas

that premarital sex was acceptable and even

beneficial were based on a lie.

It's just the mere presentation of doubt

that maybe it's actually not as bad for you as you think,

or maybe it's actually better for you than you think,

and that is where the lie comes in,

that we don't need to follow God's plan,

that there is a better plan out there,

an easier plan, and a plan that'll make you happier.

And the truth is, there isn't a better plan.

God's plan is the best plan, and it does require sacrifice,

and it does require obedience, and it's not always easy,

but it is deeply rewarding.

NARRATOR: Meagan, on the other hand, bought into those lies.

At 19, she started making compromises,

hoping to hold onto love.

She discovered years later that it did more harm than good.

MEAGAN GOOD: You give a piece of yourself away.

You lose a confidence in the essence of who you were created

to be to begin with, and so as you go from relationship

to relationship, or if you are being promiscuous,

throughout those years, it damages you.

NARRATOR: Those decisions also affected her relationship

with Devon.

When we first got together, I had

so much baggage, and so much damage, and so much pain.

We had to unpack it, and it was difficult.

It was a lot of even pre-engagement counseling where

we literally just talked, and we found

that I had this deep-rooted kind of feeling

of, like, I'll never be enough for somebody,

no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try.

And it took a long time for us to really get to a place

where we got past that.

NARRATOR: After 13 months of dating without sex,

Devon and Meagan tied the knot in June, 2012.

Now coming up on their four-year anniversary,

they're convinced that their decision

to honor each other and God has strengthened their marriage.

I've never been in a relationship

before where I have so much trust.

It's just given us a whole lot more peace,

a lot more understanding, honoring God in this area.

He has blessed every other area because when

you present your body as a living sacrifice,

he honors that.

NARRATOR: In their new book called "The Wait,"

the couple share their story to encourage others

that a strong marriage is worth waiting for.

DEVON FRANKLIN: Because practicing

it had benefited our lives in such an incredible way,

we felt like we wanted to share it so we can help somebody

in their life.

MEAGAN GOOD: Our goal is not to be preachy, or be judgmental,

or tell people how to live their lives.

It's to say this is what we did, and it changed everything.

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