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Exposing The Imposters That Are Robbing You of True Peace

Author and actress Robia Scott discusses her battles with poor self-image. Read Transcript


NARRATOR: Robia Scott rocketed to success

as a professional dancer and actress in Hollywood.

Her big break came when she toured with Prince

and then landed a role in TV shows including "90210"

and "Buffy the Vampire Slayer."

But Robia's excessive spending and obsession

with a perfect body left her unsatisfied.

I was always trying to look for that thing that

would make me feel at rest inside of myself.

NARRATOR: In her book "Counterfeit Comforts"

Robia shares what happened when she gave up material things

and what she realized was the one thing

money could never buy.

NARRATOR: And with us now is Robia Scott.

Thanks for being here.

Thank you so much.

You know, I think everybody can relate to what you felt.

I think the thing that might be surprising to them

is you had a lot of things going on in your life

that others would have envied and said,

oh if I could only do that, if I could only do this,

then I would have that peace inside,

then I would have that sense of fulfillment.

But that didn't happen for you.

Go back to the beginning.

What was it that got you intrigued

with the whole concept of show business to start with?

Well I saw the movie "Flashdance" at a young age

and that was it.

The next day I got a big old perm,

which you saw from some of those pictures you just put up,

that was the Jennifer Beals perm,

and I started pursuing dancing.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And so you took-- I mean, a lot of people saw that and I

think said, gee, I wish I could do that and might have taken

dance classes, but you actually made it work.

I was committed.

I was tenacious.

And you had that drive inside of you to push.

I did.

At a very young age I decided that's what I want to do.

And I was blessed to have a family that supported that.

So I was at dance class every single day for hours

and then just decided to go professional.

So what was your big break?

Because to be a dancer, I mean, that's not

an easy thing to break into.

Exactly.

Yes.

My first job was a Debbie Gibson music video, "Shake Your Love."

Your first job, wow.

That was my first job.

And then a couple years later I got hired to work with Prince.

So that really put me on the map as a dancer.

So you danced for a while and it was wonderful.

But then you decided to move into the acting arena.

I did.

I retired, actually, at 22 because I

felt that I had had a great--

Gosh you even got the pro players--

I had a great dance career.

So I know that's young, but I just

wanted to see what else I could do

and acting seemed like a good transition, you know,

staying in the arts.

So I started studying and going on auditions.

And then, again, I just started booking jobs.

Things started opening for me.

So a lot of people, Rubia, would look at that

and say so why was that not enough to fill your bucket?

Your satisfaction.

Oh I mean, it was-- I was blessed.

I was really living a great life.

I was traveling the world, I was making a lot of money,

I was on television.

And you know, I can't say that those things are not good.

But at the end of the day, you still go to bed

and you live inside of yourself.

Yeah.

You know?

So inside of me wasn't where I wanted it to be.

I felt uncomfortable in my skin, I felt tormented,

I felt anxious, I was chain smoking,

I was dealing with issues with my body and food.

And so even though I was on television

doing all these great things, I still just didn't have peace.

I didn't have rest.

It's kind of scary when you realize

that you have what the world would say is it all.

The answer, yeah I got there.

And you're still coming up short.

Yes.

I think that we all think if we could just get those things

then we'd be happy.

And sometimes you really have to get those things to realize

that they bring some happiness, but there's

certain places of fulfillment that they don't bring.

You mentioned the role of food in your life.

And really, I'd love for you to talk a little bit more

about that.

But that started for you at a very young age.

Very young.

I talk about in my book that really at the age of seven

I was counting calories.

I knew how many calories were in a peanut butter sandwich.

But why?

What in the world made you say, I need to count my calories.

You know, I don't know.

I just was aware that I wanted to be thin

and I wanted to be attractive.

And maybe it was the media.

That was just important to me.

And a lot of people would say, OK, so you'd like to be thin.

But you're a dancer.

I mean, you're working, you're working out.

You're-- but you still had that innate need to control

your food.

That's what's so interesting to people.

Because when I talk about having a food issue they say,

oh well so thin now, were you really heavy at some time?

And I was never heavy.

I was always very thin.

I never looked like I had a problem.

So the problem wasn't really over eating and gaining weight,

it was really where I was, the torment around food.

Fear of certain foods, planning out all my food

for a day the night before.

Wow.

Oh yeah.

Lying in bed at night thinking about every meal

that I was going to have, what I was not going to eat,

binge eating, purging.

Your book is called "Counterfeit Comforts."

Yes.

Spending was another one of those counterfeit comforts

in your life.

For me it was.

Well there are so many counterfeit comforts.

There's cigarettes, alcohol, shopping, relationships.

Even business, being so-- you know what I mean?

Yes I do.

So you can just be constantly busy.

An acronym I talk about in the book is BUSY,

Being Under Satan's Yoke.

Because often we're so busy, busy, busy

that we're never connected with ourselves.

Or we push ourselves into constant achieving

because we don't want to deal with what's going on.

Now along the way you came into a relationship

with Christ.

You actually ran into a girl at an audition

who had I Am tattooed on the back of her neck.

She really invested herself in you.

She did.

You know, I was seeking God.

I've always been a believer in God.

And I was seeking God.

And I got into the New Age movement a little bit,

being in California that's prevalent there.

And I was reading a lot of self-help books, which

is kind of funny because later I realized it was myself

that got me into this mess.

If myself knew what the heck it was doing

I wouldn't be in his place.

So to look to myself for answers was kind of an oxymoron.

So I realized I needed something greater than myself,

I needed God.

So I was doing New Age and kind of reading God things.

But it just-- I was still chain smoking,

I was still in bondage.

So I was open and I was searching and seeking.

And I ran into this girl who had I Am tattooed

on the back of her neck.

And I thought, oh is that the New Age positive affirmation,

and she said no, no, no, no, no.

That's I Am, the great I Am of the Bible.

So she started talking about Jesus,

she brought me to her church, and that's

when I became a Christian.

And yet the freedom you were looking

for didn't come right away just because you embraced Christ

and invited him into your life.

What was it that actually changed things for you?

NARRATOR: - Yes.

It's interesting because as soon as I became a Christian I got

invested in church, I was reading the Bible,

and I saw freedom in other areas of my life,

but this area with food was not getting better.

So it was really in a moment of prayer that I cried out

and I said, God, please help me I'm in bondage here.

I believe in the Bible.

I know that you can set me free.

So what is the problem?

How can I do it?

And in my spirit, as I was in prayer,

I heard food is not your issue.

You have too many counterfeit comforts.

And that just illuminated something for me.

Because I'd never heard a pastor say

that, I never heard that phrase, counterfeit comforts.

And right away the Holy Spirit kind of reminded me

that in the Bible the Holy Spirit is the comforter

and that I was using food as a counterfeit.

And I started kind of praying into it.

And the Lord showed me, yes, that's

why when you try to deal with any counterfeit comfort

by trying to stop the behavior or control the behavior or use

willpower, that doesn't really last because the issue

that you're dealing with, for me it was food, that's just really

the fruit of a deeper problem.

It's the fruit of a root.

So would you say to folks who are relating to everything

that you're sharing today, that giving to the heart of it

is where the freedom comes from?

Absolutely.

What the Lord spoke to me is, that you-- he said to me,

if you would let me in to those roots,

the fruits will just take care of themselves.

And it was really not just about getting free

from the bondage, which is important,

but the real essence of this book

and the journey that he took me on

was learning how to connect with him.

I hear so many Christians, you know, we all say,

oh it's not religion, it's relationship,

it's not religion, it's relationship.

But then I think, well how many of us

are really having a relationship?

Where we hear him, where we experience him,

where we spend that time, we're not running around busy,

where we set ourselves apart, where we're still

and we know him there.

So that was really the essence of this book,

helping believers get into a place

where they can connect with God personally.

It's a book everyone needs to read.

You can hear more of Robia's story in her book.

It's called "Counterfeit Comforts."

It's a message for all of us.

It's available in stores nationwide.

Thank you so much.

Thank you.

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