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Your Questions, Honest Answers: - August 29, 2017

THEY SAID THAT I NEED TO CONFESS MY SIN BEFORE THEIR ENTIRE FAMILY BEFORE THEY WILL RESTORE THE RELATIONSHIP. IS THIS BIBLICAL? CAN GOD EVER FORGIVE ME? HOW DO I FORGIVE MYSELF? Read Transcript


Well, it's time for Your Questions, Honest Answers.

And Pat, this first one comes from Chuck, who says,

"I left my wife, and we eventually

divorced almost 20 years ago.

My brother is a minister and an army chaplain.

When I divorced my wife, my family

basically cut off any relationship with me.

They said that I need to confess my sin

before their entire family before they

will restore the relationship.

I cannot find any scriptural backing to their requests.

Are they correct?

And is this biblical?"

Oh, Chuck.

The Lord said, in relation to marriage

he said, "For this cause shall a man leave his mother

and father, cleave to his wife, and the twain

shall be one flesh.

What God has joined together let not man put asunder."

I was reading the other day in Ezra, Ez--

E-Z-R-A, Ezra.

They had a situation in Ezra's day where the people of Israel

were intermarrying with the folks who lived in Canaan,

and they were idol worshippers, and they were heathen.

And so they had a big ceremony.

They were in the rain.

They were cold outside.

And Ezra said, listen you have sinned against God

in marrying these women.

Now put away all of those heathen

women and their children.

Get rid of them.

Now, that is a biblical example of somebody

who divorced a heathen wife.

Now, you've got what's called the Pauline

privilege, if the unbeliever is pleased to depart,

let them part.

The believer is not bound.

So you've got adultery.

You've got desertion.

And you've got that thing in Ezra.

So throughout the Bible, you've got examples

where marriage was not something that

was a lock you had to be involved in.

I know with John Wesley, great man of God,

he had this horrible woman he was married to.

She was horrible.

So after a while, she left.

And he said, I didn't send her away,

and I'm not going to go get her.

And that was the end of it.

Now, I don't think he remarried, but nevertheless, look,

divorce is not the unforgivable sin.

And for a family to shun one of their members because of this

is ridiculous, all right?

OK, this is Debra who says, I'm 62 years old

and have been able to speak in tongues

since I was a very young child.

I've been told if you do not use the gift, it will go away.

I know that's not true.

I was in a bar one time and tested it while I was drunk.

I still had it.

What is the purpose of this gift?

I fear the enemy may use this against me

since I do not understand what I speak.

Thank you.

Well, the apostle Paul said, I would rather

speak five words with my understanding

than 10,000 words of the tongue.

Tongues is the sign for the unbelievers and so forth.

What is it?

It's prayer language.

It is a communication between your spirit and God.

It's one of those things, basically, can you pray?

Well, yes.

Can you pray in the spirit?

Yes.

Paul said, I'll pray in the spirit,

and I'll pray in my understanding.

So this is the communication between your spirit

and the Spirit of God, and it is a wonderful thing.

But you trying it out in a bar when you're drunk?

I mean, come on, what are you talking about?

What kind of thing is that?

How are you worshipping God in that situation?

I don't understand quite what he's saying.

But the truth is, it is use it or lose it with so many things.

And if we use what has been given to us, we'll have more.

And I think what we need to do, is to quote "stir up

the gift that's within us."

And part of the gift is the power of the Holy Spirit

and the manifestation of the Holy Spirit in various

of the manifestations.

You read about them in First Corinthians chapter 12, OK?

This is a viewer who says, I had an abortion

and still haven't forgiven myself.

I've locked myself up in my room because I can't handle seeing

children or I begin to cry.

I am so heartbroken, and I pray every day that my aborted child

will take my place in heaven, as I know I don't deserve

to go to heaven or God's grace.

I feel so alone.

Can God ever forgive me?

How do I forgive myself?

Oh, that's a tough one.

What you're asking is, how can I forgive myself?

And I wish more people would listen to you

when they talk about abortion.

Let's keep abortion safe and legal.

Let's have Roe v Wade, which means

it's a constitutional right in America to kill unborn babies.

We used to think abortion is murder,

we don't think that any longer.

But can God forgive you?

Of course he can forgive you.

He asks your heart to be right.

What God doesn't want is you beating yourself up

for the rest of your life.

He wants you as a productive part of his kingdom.

He wants you as a glorious witness,

praising him, and living for him,

and the Bible says that our conscience will

be cleansed from dead works that we might serve the living God.

That's what God wants.

He wants our service.

He doesn't want our contrition all the time.

He doesn't want people beating themselves up and going off

in a dark room and crying.

He wants us to serve him.

Now take the forgiveness He offers you.

All sins and blasphemies will be forgiven the sons of man.

So come to the Lord and say, look, I did it.

I'm sorry, I ask you to cleanse me and restore me.

And he will do it.

And then take that gift.

All right?

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