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700 Club Interactive - February 28, 2018

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs wrote “Love and Respect" to help couples save their marriages. It has since sold more than 1 million copies, and he shares why the precepts still ring true years later. Read Transcript


Andrew: WHAT'S THE

SECRET TO A SUCCESSFUL

MARRIAGE?

BEST-SELLING AUTHOR

EMERSON EGGERICHS HAS THE

ANSWER, AND IT MAY

SURPRISE YOU.

> PLUS, A FAMILY CLOSE

TO STARVATION.

SOMETIMES I DON'T GET

TO EAT ANYMORE BECAUSE I

WOULD GIVE THEM MY SHARE.

Andrew: DESPERATE FOR

HELP AND HEALING.

I PANICKED AND RUSHED

THEM TO THE DOCTOR.

I ASKED GOD TO SEND HELP

FOR MY TRIPLETS.

Andrew: FIND OUT HOW

"ORPHANS' PROMISE" HELPED

THIS FAMILY ON TODAY'S

"700 CLUB INTERACTIVE."

> THE NEW U.S. EMBASSY

IN JERUSALEM IS SET TO IN

THIS MAY.

RECENTLY PRESIDENT TRUMP

SAID, WE HAVE OFFICIALLY

RECOGNIZED JERUSALEM AS

THE CAPITAL OF ISRAEL.

Terry: PAST

PRESIDENTS HAVE PLEDGED TO

MOVE THE EMBASSY, BUT

DIDN'T FOLLOW THROUGH.

IT WILL OPEN IN A

TEMPORARY LOCATION WHILE

THE UNITED STATES

GOVERNMENT WORKS ON A

LONG-TERM FACILITY.

THE PROJECT TO BUILD THE

FULL EMBASSY IN JERUSALEM

WILL TAKE SEVERAL YEARS

AND COULD POTENTIALLY COST

$500 MILLION.

Andrew: A MOVE LIKE

THIS HELPS ME UNDERSTAND

THE STRANGE RELATIONSHIP

THAT TRUMP HAS WITH THE

EVANGELICAL COMMUNITY.

Terry: YES.

Andrew: WITH HIS

SOCIAL GRACES AND THE

TWEETS, THE EVANGELICAL

COMMUNITY STILL EMBRACES

HIM, AND IT IS FOR THINGS

LIKE THIS.

Terry: GETTING THE

JOB DONE.

FOR THE FIRST TIME,

SINGER AND SONG RIDER

CIARA IS SHARING PHOTOS OF

HER DAUGHTER.

THE 32-YEAR-OLD INCLUDED

AN OPEN LETTER PRAYING FOR

HER 9-MONTH-OLD, QUOTE,"

WATCHING YOU GROW UP HAS

BEEN THE GREATEST BLESSING

A MOM COULD ASK FOR.

YOU ARE THE LITTLE GIRL I

ALWAYS PRAYED FOR AND

MORE," SHE WROTE, AND SHE

PRAYED FOR HER DAUGHTER'S

FUTURE HUSBAND.

I PRAY WHEN A MAN COMES

INTO YOUR LIFE, HE LOVES

YOU LIKE YOUR DADDY LOVES

YOU, HE LOVES YOU LIKE

YOUR BROTHER LOVES YOU,

AND HE LOVES YOU LIKE

JESUS LOVES YOU.

> YOU CAN FIND THE

LETTER AND PHOTOS ON

"TRACE ME," AN APP CREATED

BY THE COUPLES.

Andrew: THAT MAKES

TWO PARENTS PRAYING FOR

THEIR DAUGHTER'S SPOUSE.

I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD

EVEN CONSIDER WHO MY KIDS

WERE MARRY SO EARLY ON --

Terry: WORTH DOING

BEFORE YOU SEND YOUR

DAUGHTERS OUT OF DOOR.

Andrew: AS WE

CELEBRATE THE LIFE OF THE

LATE REVEREND BILLY

GRAHAM, HERE IS A PART OF

YOUR STORY YOU MIGHT NOT

KNOW YET.

AT HIS REQUEST, THE

INMATES AT THE LOUISIANA

STATE PENITENTIARY BUILT

HIS CASKET.

HIS SIMPLE CASKET WAS HAND

BUILT BY CONVICTED

MURDERERS IN THE PRISON IN

LOUISIANA ABOUT 12 YEARS

AGO.

THE PRISON IS KNOWN AS THE

ALCATRAZ OF THE SOUTH.

FORMER WARDEN BERYL CAIN

SAYS THE GRAHAM FAMILY WAS

INSTRUMENTAL IN CHANGING

THAT.

HE SAYS THE FAMILY GAVE

THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS TO

FUND TWO CHAPELS ON THE

GROUNDS.

Terry: I LOVE THIS.

HE WAS SO HUMBLE.

THERE IS SO MUCH MEANING

TO THIS, CONSIDERING THE

IMPACT THE FAMILY HAS HAD

ON ONCE A REKNOWED PLACE,

NOT IN A GOOD WAY, AND

THINGS HAVE CHAIRVELGD CHANGED

BECAUSE OF THE CHRISTIAN

FAMILY.

> A SINGER POSTALED A POSTED A

TWEET: "IN MEMORY OF

BILLY GRAHAM, WHO SPENT

HIS LIFE PREACHING THE

GOOD NEWS OF JESUS CHRIST.

PRAYING FOR BILLY'S FAMILY

AND FRIENDS TODAY."

* WHAT CAN WASH OUR FEET,

NOTHING BUT THE BLOOD OF

JESUS *

* NOTHING BUT THE BLOOD OF

JESUS *

Terry: WELL, A

BEAUTIFUL TRIBUTE.

SHE IS ALSO SHARING GOOD

NEWS AS SHE RECENTLY GOT

ENGAGED.

THE SINGER SHARED HOW SHE

IS IN AWE OF HOW GOD

BROUGHT HER AND AARON

COLLINS TOGETHER, AND THAT

HIS PROPOSAL WAS THE MOST

INCREDIBLE MOMENT OF HER

LIFE.

SHE ADDED THAT WAITING IS

WORTH IT, AND SAID THAT

THEY ARE EXCITED TO LIVE

THEIR LIVES TOGETHER

FOREVER.

Andrew: GOD BLESS

THEM.

VERY SWEET.

> SPEAKING OF

ENGAGEMENT, WHAT HAPPENS

WHEN THE MAGIC OF THE

ENGAGEMENT OR A NEW

MARRIAGE WEARS OFF?

ONE COUPLE SAYS THAT THE

DATING SHOULDN'T STOP EVEN

AFTER MARRIAGE.

CHECK OUT WHAT INSPIRED

THEM TO START A COMPANY TO

HELP COUPLES PRIORITIZE

THEIR RELATIONSHIP.

*

A FEW YEARS AGO SOME OF

OUR CLOSEST FRIENDS WENT

THROUGH A MESSY DIVORCE

AFTER ABOUT THREE YEARS OF

MARRIAGE.

AS WE TALKED IT THROUGH

WITH THEM AND TRIED TO

FIGURE OUT WHAT HAD

HAPPENED, THEY SAID IT GOT

TO THE POINT WHERE THEY

WERE LEADING TWO

COMPLETELY SEPARATE LIVES.

THE SURPRISING PART IS

WE REALIZED HOW OUR

FRIEND'S STORY WASN'T THAT

SO UNIQUE THESE DAYS.

AND WE THOUGHT, HOW CAN

WEWE MAKE SURE THIS NEVER

HAPPENS TO US.

WE GOT MARRIED ON MARCH

24th, 2013, AND ONE OF

OUR FAVORITE THINGS WAS A

CARDBOARD BOX THAT HAD

EVERYTHING WE NEEDED TO

HAVE A DATE TOGETHER.

THE NOTE SAID,

CONGRATULATIONS, YOU'RE

MARRIED, YOU'RE ABOUT TO

START A NEW LIFE AND BEGIN

NEW JOBS.

AT TIMES, LIFE IS GOING TO

SEEM CRAZY, AND WHEN THAT

HAPPENS, USE THIS BOX TO

RECONNECT AND HAVE A DATE

NIGHT THAT IS INTENDED TO

HELP YOU FOCUS ON YOUR

MARRIAGE AND COME

TOGETHER.

AT THE TIME WE DIDN'T

REALIZE THE IMPACT THAT

THIS GIFT WOULD HAVE.

AND WE HAD A LOT OF

LAUGHS, BUT I DON'T THINK

WE UNDERSTOOD THE WISDOM

BEHIND IT.

THE COUPLE WHO GAVE US THE

GIFT, KNEW THAT QUALITY

TIME AND COMMUNICATION

WERE THE THINGS FOR A

SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE, AND

WITHOUT THOSE THINGS, SO

MANY COUPLES DRIFT APART,

AND SADLY LIKE OUR FRIENDS

DID.

OUR GOAL IS NEVER TO

MISS DATE NIGHT AGAIN, AND

WE WANTED TO INVITE OTHER

COUPLES TO JOIN US.

WE WONDERED IF THIS SMALL

BOX WE HAD GOTTEN AS A

WEDDING PRESENT COULD HELP

OTHER COUPLES THE WAY IT

HELPED US.

THE ACTIVITIES, THE

PLANNING, EVEN WHAT TO

TALK ABOUT WAS ALL RIGHT

THERE, AND MADE IT EASY

FOR US.

WE STRUGGLE IN OUR

MARRIAGE EVERY DAY, AND

THE DATE BOX CERTAINLY

WON'T SOLVE EVERY PROBLEM

THAT A MARRIAGE CAN BRING.

THOUSANDS OF COUPLES EVERY

MONTH ARE DOING DATE NIGHT

TOGETHER THROUGH DATE BOX.

THOSE DATES ARE DESIGNED

TO HELP THEM HAVE FUN AND

GROW CLOSER TOGETHER.

IT'S LESS REALLY ABOUT

WHAT YOU'RE DOING TOGETHER

AND MORE WHO YOU'RE DOING

IT WITH.

DATE NIGHT EVERY MONTH IS

AN OPPORTUNITY TO SIT DOWN

AND SAY, YOU'RE IMPORTANT,

I'M HERE WITH YOU, AND NO

MATTER WHAT SEASON OF LIFE

THAT WE'RE IN, NOTHING IS

MORE IMPORTANT THAN US.

OUR HOPE IS THAT

MARRIAGES AND

RELATIONSHIPS ARE GROWING

STRONGER BECAUSE THEY

REALIZE THE IMPORTANCE OF

QUALITY TIME AND STAYING

IN LOVE.

WE'RE BRETT AND DEVON,

FOUNDERS OF DATE BOX, AND

WE BELIEVE THAT

RELATIONSHIPS MATTER.

Andrew: IT IS

CERTAINLY TRUE, TERRY.

A LOT OF COUPLES STOP

DATING AFTER MARRIAGE,

RIGHT, AND THEN WONDER

WHERE THE MAGIC IS.

Terry: WHAT A GREAT

IDEA BECAUSE THERE IS SO

MUCH IN LIFE THAT PULLS

YOU APART.

AND ONCE YOU HAVE

CHILDREN, THAT REALLY IS

TRUE.

THE DEMANDS ARE JUST

NEVER-ENDING.

SO TO KIND OF ESTABLISH

THAT, WE ARE SIGNIFICANT

ENOUGH TO PRIORITIZE, WAY

TO GO.

Andrew: AND SPEAKING

OF RELATIONSHIPS, UP NEXT,

WE'LL SIT DOWN WITH THE

BEST-SELLING AUTHOR WHO'S

BOOKS ABOUT THE KEY TO A

HAPPY MARRIAGE HAVE

RESCUED EVEN THE MOST

HOPELESS OF RELATIONSHIPS.

STAY WITH US.

Andrew:

UNFORTUNATELY, THE LOTS OF

PEOPLE FEEL THEIR MARRIAGE

IS ANYTHING BUT HEALTHY.

MANY HUSBANDS AND WIVES

SAY THEY HAVE LITTLE HOPE

FOR ANYTHING TO CHANGE.

BUT INSIGHT FROM OUR NEXT

GUEST CAN CHANGE ALL OF

THAT.

JOINING US NOW IS EMERSON

EGGERICHS, THE AUTHOR

BEHIND THE BEST-SELLING

BOOK, "LOVE AND

RELATIONSHIP."

REALLY YOUR BOOK COMES

DOWN TO A BASIC IDEA OF

WHAT MEN REALLY NEED AND

WOMEN REALLY NEED AS WELL.

WHAT ARE THOSE TWO THINGS.

BASED ON EPHESIANS 5:

5:33, WHERE THE LORD

REVEALS TO US THAT A

HUSBAND MUST LOVE HIS

WIFE, THAT AGAPE,

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE THAT WE

TALK ABOUT, AND A WIFE IS

TO RESPECT HER HUSBAND.

AS A PASTOR, I SAW THOSE

TWO CONCEPTS, LOVE AND

RESPECT.

THE FIRST PART OF THAT IS

NOT CONTROVERSIAL.

EVERYONE OUGHT TO AGREE

YOU OUGHT TO LOVE YOUR

WIFE.

BUT THE SECOND PART,

RESPECTING A HUSBAND, THAT

BECAME A LITTLE MORE

CONTROVERSIAL.

A LOT OF WOMEN SAY I DON'T

FEEL RESPECT FOR HIM, AND

IT WOULD BE HI HYPOCRITICAL.

AND I'M NOT GOING TO BE

TREATED LIKE A DOOR MAT,

AND I'M NOT GOING TO LOSE

A SENSE OF IDENTITY, I'M

NOT GOING TO SUBJECT

MYSELF TO EMOTIONAL

ABUSE --

Andrew: BUT DOES A

MAN EVEN REALLY KNOW HE

NEEDS RESPECT?

YES, HE DOES, AND HE

WILL GIVE VOICE TO THAT

THE FIRST YEAR OF

MARRIAGE.

YOU KNOW, YOU'RE NOT

RESPECTING ME.

BUT SHE WILL PROFILE THAT

AS EGOTISTICAL.

MOST MEN SERVE AND WOULD

DIE FOR HER.

AND HERE SHE SAYS, YOU SAY

THAT, BUT YOU NEVER DO.

BUT WE GET ON A CRAZY

CYCLE.

WHEN A WIFE FEELS UNLOVED,

SHE TENDS TO ACT IN A WAY

THAT FEELS DISRESPECTFUL

TO HER HUSBAND.

AND WHEN A HUSBAND FEELS

DISRESPECTED, HE TENDS TO

ACT WITHOUT LOVE.

THIS EXPLAINS WHY WE

NEGATIVELY REACT TO EACH

OTHER.

AND I ASK, DID YOU EVER

HAVE A CONFLICT WITH YOUR

SPOUSE WHEN THE ISSUE

DIDN'T EMERTO BE TH SEEM TO BE THE

ISSUE?

Andrew: WHAT ABOUT

THIS STONE-WALLING THAT

MEN SEEM TO DO?

THE RESEARCH AT THE

UNIVERSITY OF WASH WORK,

THEWASHINGTON,THEY SAID 85% OF THE

COUPLES, BETWEEN THE

HUSBAND AND WIFE, WHO

WITHDRAW, IT IS THE

HUSBAND.

THEY WERE MEASURING THE

HEARTBEATS A MINUTE, AND

SO HE HAS TO CALM HIMSELF

DOWN AND HE WITHDRAWS

BECAUSE THAT'S AN

HONORABLE THING TO DO.

BUT SHE FEELS IT IS A

HOSTILE THING TO DO.

AND THAT'S ONE OF THE

QUESTIONS WE ASK MANY

COUPLES: IS IT AN ACT OF

HOSTILITY OR IS IT AN ACT

OF HONOR?

IT DEPENDS IF YOU'RE PINK

OR BLUE.

Andrew: AND HE MAY

LEARN OVER YEARS SHUTTING

DOWN MAY HURT HER.

ANY MORE THAN WHEN SHE

TRIES TO BE CONTEMPTUOUS

TO GET HIM TO LOVE HER.

SO WE HAVE TWO GOOD-WILLED

PEOPLE WHO COMPLETELY

MISUNDERSTAND EACH OTHER

DURING THAT CONFLICTED

MOMENT.

MEN TEND TO WITHDRAW, AND

WOMEN SEEM TO MOVE FORWARD

AGGRESSIVELY.

ANBUT IT LOOKS LIKE

CRITICISM.

AND MEN FEEL IT IS

CONTEMPT FOR WHO I AM.

SHE E I IS JUST USING THIS

TOPIC TO SEND ME A MESSAGE

THAT SHE DOESN'T LIKE WHO

I AM.

BUT I KNOW EVERY WOMAN

NURTURES.

SO IS IT AN ACT OF

HOSTILITY OR AN ACT OF

HONOR.

IT DEPENDS IF YOU

VIDEOTAPE IN PINK OR BLUE.

ONE OF OUR COMPAIGNS IS TO

HELP WOMEN UNDERSTAND THAT

THEIR NEGATIVE REACTION IS

REALLY A DEFENSIVE

REACTION.

HE IS NOT TRYING TO BE

UNLOG, AND SHE IUNLOVING, AND SHE IS NOT

TRYING TO BE

DISRESPECTFUL.

Andrew: WHAT IS IT

ABOUT THE WAY GOD CREATED

WOMEN THAT THEY NEED TO BE

LOVED?

NOT THE LEAST OF WHICH

SHE LOVES BY NATURE, AND

SO ONE OF THE CHALLENGES

FOR EVERY WIFE IS, DOES HE

LOVE ME AS MUCH AS I LOVE

HIM?

Andrew: HOW IS IT MET

BY THE HUSBAND?

THERE ARE WAYS THAT I

TALK ABOUT IN MY BOOK,

"LOVE AND RESPECT," AND

EVERY PASSAGE APPLIES TO

THE CHRIST FOLLOWER ON HOW

TO LOVE HIS WIFE.

AND THESE ARE BASED ON

SCRIPTURES, TO BE CLOSE TO

HER, TO BE OPEN WITH HER,

TO UNDERSTAND HER, TO BE

AT PEACE WITH HER, TO BE

LOYAL TO HER, AND TO

ESTEEM HER.

SHE NEEDS RESPECT AS WELL.

WHEN WE FOLLOW THAT TRACK

OF C-O-U-P-L-E, THAT

WORKS.

Andrew: AND IF THE

MAN SAYS, I'M GOING TO

LOVE HER EVEN IF I'M NOT

RESPECTED, AND SHE SAYS, I

GOING TO RESPECT HIM EVEN

IF I'M NOT LOVED -- WHAT

ABOUT THE VULNERABILITY?

THAT'S A HUGE FEAR,

THAT I'M GOING TO DO THE

LOVING THING OR THE

RESPECTFUL THING, AND I'M

NOT GOING TO RECEIVE THAT.

SO WE ALL COME TO THAT

CROSS-ROADS BECAUSE -- WE

KIND OF LIKE WE RESPECT

OUR SPOUSE TO COME IN

AFTER 30 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

AND SAY, I'VE HAD AN

EPIPHANY: I KNOW WHY

YOU'VE BEEN NEGATIVE, AND

IT'S TO GET ME TO BE

POSITIVE.

EVERY WOMEN WOULD SAY IF A

MAN AUTHENTICALLY DOES

THAT, LOVES HER, IT IS

VERY DIFFICULT FOR HER TO

DISMISS THAT.

AND HOW DO I SAY THIS IN A

WAY THAT YOU DON'T THINK

I'M TRYING TO DISS YOU,

AND IF SHE USES THAT

VOCABULARY, ALMOST EVERY

MAN WILL SOFTEN.

IT DOES SOMETHING TO HIM,

TO BE RESPONSIVE TO THAT

IN A POSITIVE WAY.

Andrew: YOU

COUNSELLED AS A PASTOR FOR

MANY, MANY YEARS, AND MANY

MEN WILL COME AND SAY MY

PRAYER LIFE ISN'T WORKING.

AND YOU ASK POIN POIGNANT

QUESTION, WHICH IS WHAT?

HOW ARE YOU LOVING YOUR

WIFE.

HONOR HER SO THAT YOUR

PRAYERS MAY NOT BE

HINDERED.

HOW I TREAT MY WIFE

AFFECTS HOW GOD RESPONDS

TO ME.

AND ONE OF THE CHALLENGES

ALWAYS IS TO SAY TO MAN,

YOU SAY NO ONE CAN LOVE

THIS WOMAN.

I'M GOING TO TELL YOU THAT

WILL HINDER YOUR PRAYER

LIFE.

YOU NEED TO SAY, I'M GOING

TO BE UNDERSTANDING OF HER

AS BEST I CAN BECAUSE I

WANT MY COMMUNICATION WITH

GOD TO BE OPEN.

Andrew: YOU WROTE

THIS BOOK A COUPLE OF

YEARS AGO -- IS IT STILL

PERTINENT?

THE BOOK CONTINUES TO

GROW, AND IT IS ON THE

"NEW YORK TIMES" TWICE

AFTER ALL THESE YEARS,

BECAUSE I THINK IT IS A

SIMPLE MESSAGE.

AND IT IS VERY

MALE-FRIENDLY.

Andrew: LET'S GET

SOME VIEWER QUESTIONS.

WE ASKED SOME PEOPLE TO

WRITE IN.

JIM SAYS, "I HEAR ADVICE

ABOUT MARRIAGE, BUT

FRANKLY MY MARRIAGE IS

HOPELESS.

NOTHING WILL HELP.

I DON'T THINK SHE EVEN

LIKES ME ANYMORE.

SHORT OF A DIVORCE, I

DON'T THINK WE HAVE A

CHANCE.

NOW WHAT?"

WHAT CAN JIM ACTUALLY DO

HERE?

IT COMES DOWN TO AN

ISSUE OF HIS

HOPELESSNESS -- IS IT

BECAUSE SHE HAS COMMITTED

ADULTERY, AND IF THE

ANSWER IS, NO, THAT'S NOT

WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT,

THEN YOU HAVE CLASHING

PREFERENCES.

THAT THE ONGOING TENSION

BETWEEN THEM HAS CAUSED

THEM TO PERHAPS BEGIN TO

RESENT EACH OTHER.

AND SHE REACTS TO ME AS

SHE CAN'T STAND ME AS A

PERSON.

BUT MY QUESTION TO HIM IS,

ARE YOU ON THE CRAZY

CYCLE?

WITHOUT LOVE, SHE REACTS

DISRESPECTFUL TO.

SHE'S TRYING TO GET A

MESSAGE TO YOU, I NEED

YOU.

YOU'RE THE ONLY MAN THAT

CAN MEET MY NEEDS.

Andrew: THAT'S A

COMPLIMENT.

IT IS.

BUT SHE DELIVERS IT IN A

NEGATIVE, DISRESPECTFUL

WAY, AND AS A MAN, YOU

DON'T DO THAT.

SO HE HAS TO DECODE, IS HE

REALLY TRYING TO BE

DISRESPECTFUL, OR IS SHE

REALLY SAYING, YOU'RE THE

MAN, I HAVE A NEED, AND I

NEED YOU TO MEET MY NEED

FOR LOVE.

HE HAS TO DECODE THAT.

BECAUSE IF HE TAKES UP

OFFENSE, HE IS GOING TO

MISREAD THE SPIRIT OF THE

WOMAN.

Andrew: THIS ONE

SAYS, "MY HUSBAND IS

MENTALLY ABUSIVE.

HE ABANDONED OUR FAMILY

FOR THREE YEARS, AND HE

RETURNED.

THEN HE HAD ANOTHER

AFFAIR.

I BELIEVE IN THE COVENANT

OF MARRIAGE."

WELL, TRUST IS BROKEN.

AND BETRAYAL IS HUMONGOUS.

TRUST HAS TO BE

REESTABLISHMENT.

LOVE AND RESPECT IS GIVEN

UNCONDITIONALLY.

HOSEA WAS TOLD GO LOVE A

WOMAN WHO WAS AN

ADULTEROUS.

YOU WIN A DISOBEDIENT

HUSBAND THROUGH YOUR

RESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR.

THIS WOMAN -- IS HE

WILLING TO GIVE HER

HUSBAND UNCONDITIONAL

RESPECT AS SHE CONTINUES

TO ADDRESS THE PAST

BEHAVIOR, AND BE VERY

HONEST, AND IN A

RESPECTFUL WAY SAY, I'M

HAVING A HARD TIME

TRUSTING YOU.

AND HE HAS RETURNED, AND

IT SEEMS HE IS DISOBEDIENT

AGAIN.

IF SHE BELIEVES IN THE

COVENANT OF MARRIAGE,

ULTIMATELY SHE HAS TO SEE

CHRIST STANDING ON THE

SHOULDER OF HER SPOUSE AND

DO WHAT SHE DOES TOWARDS

CHRIST.

WE BELIEVE IN 1 PETER 3,

THAT SHE CAN WIN HER

HUSBAND THROUGH THIS KIND

OF BEHAVIOR.

IT IS NOT FAIR, BUT IT

WORKS.

Andrew: FINANCES

CAUSE A LOT OF PROBLEMS IN

MARRIAGE.

HERE IS ONE FROM WILL:

"WE OFTEN HEAR HOW

FINANCES DIVIDE MARRIAGES,

AND HOW CAN WE STRENGTHEN

OUR MARRIAGE."

WE TALKED ABOUT THE

FACT THAT OFTENTIMES

PEOPLE IN MARRIAGE FEEL

LIKE THE MONEY PROBLEMS

ARE CAUSING THEIR

RELATIONSHIP TO GO UNDER.

NO.

IT IS WHAT WE CALL A

HOSTILE ATTITUDE YOU HAVE

TOWARDS THE SPIRIT OF YOUR

SPOUSE WHEN YOU'RE TALKING

ABOUT BUDGET ISSUES.

IF I COME ACROSS IN AN

ANGRY ISSUE, WHAT DID YOU

DO WITH THAT $500 WOMAN?

IT IS THAT UNLOVING

DEMEANOR.

IF A WIFE SAYS, YOU'RE NOT

MAKING ENOUGH, YOU'RE NOT

A GOOD PROVIDER, THEY CAN

BOTH CONCLUDE, YOU KNOW

WHAT, IT IS BECAUSE WE

HAVE INSUFFICIENT FUNDS.

THAT'S A SERIOUS STRESSOR,

BUT THAT IS JUST A SURFACE

ISSUE.

THE ROOT ISSUE IS THE

HOSTILITY AND CONTEMPT WE

SHOW TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER

WHILE WE'RE DISCUSSING

FINANCES.

I CHALLENGE EVERY COUPLE

TO MAKE SURE WHAT IT IS

THAT IS RE@LLY GOING TO

CAUSE THEIR RELATIONSHIP

TO GO UNDER.

IT IS NOT MONEY.

IT IS THE LACK OF LOVE AND

RESPECT TOWARDS THE SPIRIT

OF THE OTHER PERSON.

Andrew: IT IS A GREAT

BOOK, CALLED "LOVE AND

RESPECT," AND IT IS

SELLING A LOT OF COPIES,

AND I CAN SEE WHY.

THANK YOU.

THANK YOU FOR HAVING

ME.

Andrew: COMING UP, A

MOTHER'S DESPERATE PLEA

FOR HER SON.

HE HAD DIFFICULTY

BREATHING, AND I PANICKED

AND RUSHED THEM TO THE

DOCTOR.

I ASKED GOD TO SEND HELP

FOR MY TRIPLETS.

Andrew: SEE WHY SHE

IS NOW PRAISING GOD.

THAT'S WHEN WE COME BACK.

Terry: IN THE

PHILIPPINES, ONE MOTHER

GAVE BIRTH TO TRIPLETS AT

A TIME WHEN SHE COULD

BARELY AFFORD TO FEED THE

REST OF HER FAMILY.

BEFORE LONG, THIS FAMILY'S

STORY WENT VIRAL ON SOCIAL

MEDIA.

AND WHEN "ORPHANS'

PROMISE" SAW IT, WE SET UP

A PROGRAM THAT HELPED SAVE

THEIR LIVES AND KEEP THEM

ALL TOGETHER.

> IRENE HAS HER HANDS

FULL WITH HER TRIPLETS,

ALL BOYS.

HER BIGGEST CHALLENGE IS

FEEDING THEM.

ALONG WITH HER THREE OLDER

DAUGHTERS.

THERE ARE DAYS WHEN WE

DON'T HAVE ENOUGH FOOD,

AND THE TRIPLETS RUN OUT

OF MILK.

I WOULD GIVE THEM RICE

WATER TO EASE THEIR

HUNGER.

SOMETIMES I DON'T GET TO

EAT ANYMORE BECAUSE I

WOULD GIVE THEM MY SHARE.

Terry: IRENE DIDN'T

KNOW SHE WAS CARRYING

TRIPLETS UNTIL THE DAY

THEY WERE BORN.

THE COUPLE WAS TOO POOR TO

AFFORD PRENATAL CARE.

SOME PEOPLE HAVE

OFFERED TO ADOPT ONE OF

THE TRIPLETS.

HOW CAN WE SEPARATE THEM?

Terry: RAY WORKED

HARD AS A FARM LABO LABORER,

AND AFTER THE FARM SEASON,

HE WORKED HARD IN

CONSTRUCTION, BUT THE JOB

ONLY PAID ABOUT $5 A DAY.

BUT THE TRIPLETS GOT

SEVERELY MALNOURISHED AND

GOT SICK.

ONE TIME THE BOYS HAD A

FEVER AND COUGH, AND THEY

WERE GASPING FOR AIR.

I PANICKED AND RUSHED THEM

TO THE DOCTOR.

I ASKED GOD TO SEND HELP

FOR MY TRIPLETS.

Terry: THEN ONE DAY

IRENE MET PASTOR VAL.

HOPING TO HELP THEM, HE

TOOK THIS VIDEO OF THE

CHILDREN AND POSTED IT

ONLINE.

IT WENT VIRAL.

THAT'S HOW CBN'S "ORPHANS'

PROMISE" CONNECTEDED WITH

PASTOR VAL, WHO HELPED US

DELIVER EMERGENCY MILK,

DIAPERS, AND CLOTHING FOR

THE CHILDREN.

THEN WE STARTED PROVIDING

FOOD FOR THE TRIPLETS AND

THEIR SISTERS.

NOW THEY ALL RECEIVE A

HEALTHY MEAL EACH DAY.

SOMETIMES I CRY TEARS

OF JOY WHEN I WATCH THEM

EAT.

THEY'VE GAINED WEIGHT AND

DON'T GET SICK ANYMORE.

Terry: FINALLY,

"ORPHANS' PROMISE" HELPED

IRENE SET UP A BUSINESS

MAKING DISHWASHING

DETERGENT, WHICH IS

GENERATING EXTRA INCOME

FOR THE FAMILY.

IF IT WASN'T FOR YOU,

MY CHILDREN WOULD HAVE

STARVED.

THANK YOU, "ORPHANS'

PROMISE." I'M GRATEFUL FOR

THESE BLESSINGS FROM GOD.

Terry: IT'S

ASTONISHING, ISN'T IT?

TO SEE THAT PICTURE OF

THOSE THREE LITTLE BELLIES

JUST SWOLLEN BECAUSE THEY

DON'T HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

MANY TIMES CHILDREN ARE

TAKEN AWAY FROM THEIR

FAMILY AND THEY'RE GIVEN

TO AN ORPHANAGE BECAUSE

THEY JUST WANT THEM TO

LIVE, TO BE ABLE TO EAT.

WE'RE COMING INTO THE

MIDDLE OF THEIR

CIRCUMSTANCES, PROVIDING

GENERAL HELP FOR WHATEVER

THE NEED IS AT THE MOMENT.

BUT THEN, AS YOU SAW, WITH

IRENE WE HAD AN

OPPORTUNITY TO PROVIDE HER

INCOME FOR THE FUTURE SO

THIS DOESN'T EVER HAPPEN

AGAIN.

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TO JOIN "700 CLUB."

LISTEN, WHEN YOU DO, WE'VE

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YOU.

IT'S "ANSWERED PRAYER,"

PAT'S LATEST TEACHING ON

PRAYER, AND HOW IT

IMPACTED HIS MINISTRY OVER

50 PLUS YEARS, AND WE

BELIEVE IT WILL BE A GREAT

TEACHING THAT WILL CHANGE

YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE.

Andrew: THANK YOU,

TERRY.

WE HAVE AN ADDITIONAL

MINUTE, AND I THINK IT

WOULD BE GREAT IF WE COULD

TAKE THE TIME TO PRAY FOR

SOME PEOPLE.

FATHER, IN THESE REMAINING

MOMENTS, WE WANT TO HONOR

YOU AND GIVE YOU THANKS,

FATHER GOD, FOR YOUR

FAITHFULNESS.

NOW, LORD, FOR PEOPLE

TODAY WHO SAW THE SEGMENT

ABOUT MARRIAGE -- THERE

ARE HUSBANDS AND WIVES WHO

FEEL LIKE THEIR MARRIAGE

IS HOPELESS.

FATHER GOD, WE KNOW WITH

GOD ALL THINGS ARE

POSSIBLE.

RIGHT NOW, FATHER, WE

COMMIT MARRIAGES TO YOU,

RELATIONSHIPS IN TROUBLE.

RELATIONSHIPS AND

MARRIAGES WE GREAT

HOSTILITY.

FATHER GOD, YOU HAVE COME

TO RECONCILE US TO YOU, TO

YOUR SON JESUS.

AND NOW WE PRAY FOR

RECONCILIATION IN

MARRIAGES, FATHER GOD.

WE PRAY FOR TINDER HEARTS,

FOR HARD AND COLD HEARTS,

THAT ONE SPOUSE DOES NOT

SEE ANY WAY FOR YOU TO

ENTEINTERVENE, RIGHT NOW WE

PRAY THAT YOU WILL MOVE

INTO THESE MARRIAGES AND

PROVIDE HEALING, AND,

FATHER GOD, THAT LOVE WILL

POUR OUT.

COMFORT THE

BROKENHEARTEDED.

Terry: FATHER, WILL

YOU GIVE US HEARTS THAT

OBEY, TO TRUST WHAT YOU

SAY IS TRUE, THA THAT YOU ARE

TRUE TO YOUR WORD, AND WE

SIMPLY SAY YES TO YOU.

IN JESUS' NAME WE PRAY.

Andrew: WE LEAVE YOU

WITH THIS SCRIPTURE: "HE

WILL WIPE AWAY EVERY TEAR

FROM THEIR EYES, AND DEATH

SHALL BE NO MORE.

NEITHER SHALL THEREB THERE BE

MOURNING, FOR THE FORMER

THINGS HAVE PASSED AWAY."

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