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700 Club Interactive - April 11, 2018

Humbled homemaker, Erin Odom discusses how you can make staying home with your kids work on a budget. Read Transcript


Gordon: THEIR

MARRIAGE WAS HEADED FOR

TROUBLE.

WHAT THE COUNSELLOR

TOLD US IS Y'ALL ARE PRIME

CANDIDATES FOR AN AFFAIR.

Gordon:

PLUS...MILLIONS OF JEWS

FROM AROUND THE WORLD

RETURN TO THEIR BIBLICAL

HOMELAND.

JEWISH AGENCY'S C.E.O.

ALAN HOFFMANN TELLS US

WHY.

AND AUTHOR AND BLOGGER

ERIN ODOM TELLS US HOW YOU

CAN STAY HOME WITH YOUR

KIDS, EVEN WHEN MONEY IS

TIGHT.

> WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

NEXT WEEK THE NATION OF

ISRAEL WILL CELEBRATE ITS

70th BIRTHDAY.

AND THANKS TO THE JEWISH

AGENCY AND ITS C.E.O.,

ALAN HOFFMANN, MILLIONS OF

JEWS FROM AROUND THE WORLD

HAVE BEEN ABLE TO RETURN

TO THEIR BIBLICAL

HOMELAND.

TAKE A LOOK.

Chris: FOUNDED IN

1929, THE JEWISH AGENCY

PRE-DATED THE MODERN STATE

OF ISRAEL BY 19 YEARS.

SOME SAY IT IS AN

ORGANIZATION CREATED BY

GOD, USING MEN TO FULFILL

HIS PURPOSES.

TODAY ONE OF THE MAIN

MISSIONS OF THE JEWISH

AGENCY IS STILL TO BRING

THE JEWISH PEOPLE BACK TO

THE LAND.

AND SEEING JEWISH PEOPLE

RETURN IS LIKE WATCHING

BIBLE PROPHECY UNFOLD.

ISAIAH, JEREMIAH, AND

EZEKIEL, ALL SPEAK OF THE

JEWISH RETURN TO THE LAND.

JEWISH AGENCY CHAIRMAN

NATON CHERONSKY TOLD NEW

IMMIGRANTS THEY HAD

FULFILLED THE DREAM OF NEW

GENERATIONS.

THINK FOR A MOMENT,

EACH OF YOU, ABOUT YOUR

FATHERS, YOUR

GRANDFATHERS, YOUR GREAT

GRANDFATHERS, ALL THOSE

GENERATIONS OF YOUR FAMILY

OF JEWS WHO ARE DREAMING

AND PRAYING, NEXT YEAR IN

JERUSALEM.

AND YOU DID IT.

Chris: THE JEWISH

AGENCY'S MISSION: INSPIRE

JEWS WORLDWIDE TO CONNECT

WITH THEIR PEOPLE,

HERITAGE, AND HOMELAND,

AND EMPOWER THEM TO BUILD

A JEWISH FUTURE AND STRONG

ISRAEL.

CHRIS MITCHELL, CBN NEWS,

JERUSALEM.

Gordon: WELL, ALAN

HOFFMANN JOINS US NOW, AND

IT IS AN HONOR TO HAVE YOU

WITH US.

IT IS AN HONOR TO BE

HERE, PARTICULARLY THE

WEEK BEFORE ISRAEL'S

70th ANNIVERSARY.

Gordon: THE BIG

ANNIVERSARY.

RIGHT.

Gordon: YOU'VE SEEN A

LOT OF THAT ANNIVERSARY.

YOU MADE ALIYAH BACK IN

1967, RIGHT BEFORE THE

SIX-DAY WAR.

YOU VOLUNTEERED IN THE

WAR.

RIGHT.

I CAME TO ISRAEL AS A

VOLUNTEER JUST BEFORE THE

SIX-DAY WAR.

AND WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS

GOING TO BE A SIX-DAY WAR,

WHEN I GOT AND THE PLANE.

BUT I'VE BEEN IN ISRAEL

EVER SINCE.

Gordon: WHAT CAUSED

YOU TO DO THAT?

BECAUSE AT THAT POINT IN

TIME, I THINK PEOPLE

LIVING TODAY DON'T

UNDERSTAND IN THE LEAD-UP

TO THE SIX-DAY WAR, THE

SENTIMENT IN ISRAEL IS WE

ARE GOING TO LOSE.

WE ARE GOING TO BE WIPED

OUT, BUT YET YOU

VOLUNTEERED.

YOU CAME.

WHY?

I THINK IT IS A

COMBINATION OF A COUPLE OF

REASONS: THE FIRST BEING

THAT I GREW UP IN A

RELIGIOUS FAMILY.

THE CONNECTION TO ZION AND

THE SECTIO CORRECTION TO ISRAEL,

THE MODERN STATE OF

ISRAEL, AND THE BIBLICAL

PROPHECY WAS PART OF MY

EDUCATION AND IT WAS

ALWAYS THERE.

AS I GOT OLDER, I BECAME

VERY INVOLVED IN A YOUTH

ORGANIZATION, ZIONIST

YOUTH ORGANIZATION, THAT

WAS CONNECTED WITH ISRAEL.

AND JUST BEFORE THE

SIX-DAY WAR, AFTER

ISRAEL'S INDEPENDENCE OF

1967, THE ENTIRE ARMY WAS

CALLED UP AND WAS KEPT IN

A CONDITION OF ALERT FOR

ABOUT TWO MONTHS BEFORE

THE WAR BROKE OUT.

AND SO ON THE KIBBUTZ, THE

FARMS, THROUGHOUT THE

COUNTRY, THERE WERE NO

FARMERS LEFT.

SO A CALL WENT OUT TO

YOUNG JEWS AROUND THE

WORLD TO VOLUNTEER AND

COME AND TO HELP.

IN MY CASE, IT WAS TO WEED

THE GARDEN IN THE VALLEY,

ALL THE WAY UP TO THE

GALILEE OF ISRAEL.

I WENT, AND I WAS

PRIVILEGED TO BE IN ISRAEL

FOR THOSE SEVEN DAYS, AND

TO SEE THAT AMAZING SIX

DAYS OF THE WAR, AND TO

SEE THAT AMAZING VICTORY.

AND I'VE BEEN IN ISRAEL

EVER SINCE.

Gordon: AND YOU'VE

HAD QUITE A JOURNEY, FROM

WEED-PICKER TO THE C.E.O.

OF THE JEWISH AGENCY.

THAT'S QUITE A CAREER ART.

I'M NOT SURE IT'S THE

SAME THING.

Gordon: LET'S LOOK AT

TODAY AND WHAT IS

HAPPENING TODAY.

I'M HEARING THAT ALIYAH IS

ON THE RISE BECAUSE

ANTI-SEMITISM IS ON THE

RISE IN EUROPE.

IN SOMEWHAT AN UNLIKELY

SOURCE COUNTRY, FRANCE,

WHICH IS ONE OF THE

LEADING COUNTRIES, IF YOU

WILL, FOR JEWS SAYING WE

NEED TO LEAVE HERE AND GO

TO ISRAEL.

ARE YOU CONCERNED ABOUT

THAT?

WE'RE DEFINITELY

CONCERNED ABOUT THE RISE

OF ANTI-SEMITISM.

ONE OF ITS BY-PRODUCTS IS

ALIYAH, JEWS MAKING A

DECISION TO LEAVE THE HOST

COUNTRIES.

BUT I THINK THAT

FUNDAMENTALLY, IN WESTERN

COUNTRIES, FOR JEWS TO

FEEL UNSAFE IS A HUGE

PROBLEM AND A HUGE ISSUE.

SO ON THE ONE HAND, WE'RE

STILL SEEING ABOUT 7,000

OR 8,000 JEWS A YEAR

COMING FROM THE FORMER

SOVIET UNION, RUSSIA AND

THE UKRAINE, AND THERE

ESSENTIALLY YOUNG PEOPLE

HAVE GIVEN UP ON MR. PUTIN

AND THE PROMISE OF THE

ECONOMY AND OF DEMOCRACY.

BUT IN PLACES LIKE

HUNGARY, OR PLACES LIKE

FRANCE, AND EVEN IN

BRITAIN, YOUNG JEWS ARE

WORRIED ABOUT

ANTI-SEMITISM.

SOME OF IT ISLAMIC

FUNDAMENTALIST

ANTI-SEMITISM.

Gordon: DO YOU THINK

IT IS BECAUSE OF

IMMIGRATION INTO EUROPE,

OR IS THERE ANOTHER FORCE

WHERE THERE SEEMS TO BE A

RISE OF NATIONALISM.

IN TIMES PAST IN EUROPE,

THAT HAS LED TO FASCISM,

SO IS THAT A CONCERN AS

WELL?

I THINK THE TWO THINGS

ARE CONNECTED.

I THINK THAT WE'RE LIVING

IN A PERIOD IN WHICH

POLITICAL PARTIES IN

EUROPE THAT LOOK AT THIS

HUGE WAVE OF IMMIGRATION

THAT IS TAKING PLACE

ACROSS THE WORLD VEER

TOWARDS THE XENOPHOBIC AND

THE NATIONALIST.

AND SO IN EACH OF THESE

COUNTRIES YOU SEE A RISE

OF PARTICULARLY THE ZEN

XENOPHOBIC NATIONALIST

PARTIES.

AND SOME OF THEM -- I

WOULD SAY ALMOST IN ALL

CASES, THEY'VE GOT A TINGE

OF ANTI-SEMITISM IN THEM.

IN SOME PLACES, THE TINGE

IS NOT A TINGE.

IT'S A STRONG COLOR.

SO YOU SEE A SITUATION

WHERE FRENCH JEWS WHO MAY

HAVE LEFT, LET'S SAY,

ALGERIA, TOGETHER WITH

MUSLIMS WITH WHOM THEY'VE

LIVED FOR HUNDREDS OF

YEARS, AND THEY COME TO

FRANCE.

MANY OF THEM SETTLE IN THE

SAME NEIGHBORHOODS.

BUT THEN THE MUSLIM IMAMS

BECOME RADICALIZED, AND SO

INSTEAD OF LIVING VERY

COMFORTABLY, AS JEWS HAVE

DONE TOGETHER WITH MUSLIMS

FOR A LONG TIME, YOU BEGIN

TO SEE DISCOMFORT.

AND THE RABBIS IN FRANCE

MAKING DECISIONS THAT THE

JEWS SHOULD PUT THEIR HEAD

COVERINGS IN THEIR

POCKETS.

THAT'S QUITE A STORY FOR

200 YEARS AFTER THE FRENCH

REVOLUTION.

Gordon: YES, IT IS

QUITE A STORY.

YOU CAN SAY THE GOOD NEWS

IS IT IS LEADING TO

ALIYAH, BUT AT THE SAME

TIME, YOU HAVE TO BE VERY

FEARFUL OF THE FUTURE.

LET'S TURN TO ISRAEL NOW,

AND SPECIFICALLY PEACE

WITH THE PALESTINIANS.

DO YOU HAVE ANY HOPE THAT

THERE COULD BE PEACE?

I'M A GLASS FULL

PERSON.

SO I HAVE LOTS OF HOPE.

BUT I DON'T SEE PEACE

AROUND THE CORNER.

I THINK THAT -- I THINK IT

IS VERY IMPORTANT NOT TO

GIVE UP ON THE IDEA OF A

TWO-STATE SOLUTION.

I THINK ISRAEL WAS CREATED

TO BE A JEWISH STATE, AND

IN ORDER FOR ISRAEL TO

HAVE A STATE THAT HAS A

MAXIMUM JEWISH POPULATION,

ONE HAS TO BELIEVE THAT

EVENTUALLY SOME KIND OF

FORMULA WILL BE FOUND BY

WHICH PALESTINIANS WILL BE

ABLE TO ACHIEVE STATEHOOD

AND THAT THEY WILL BE

RESPONSIBLE PALESTINIAN

LEADERSHIP WHO WILL KNOW

HOW TO LEAD THE

PALESTINIAN PEOPLE INTO

STATEHOOD.

I THINK IT IS IN

PALESTINIANS' INTEREST AND

IN JEWS' INTEREST, BUT IT

IS NOT AROUND THE CORNER.

Gordon: YOU DON'T SEE

IT ON THE PALESTINIAN SIDE

AT ALL.

WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE

NATION-BUILDING THE JEWS

DID IN THE '30s AND THE

'40s, AND OBVIOUSLY

AFTER INDEPENDENCE, BUT

YOU DON'T SEE ANY OF THAT

ON THE PALESTINIAN SIDE.

THE DANGER IS THAT

PALESTINIANS AND JEWS GIVE

UP ON THE IDEA OF A

TWO-STATE SOLUTION.

AND IF YOU GO DOWN THE

LOGIC OF A ONE-STATE

SOLUTION, ULTIMATELY

EITHER YOU'RE GOING TO

HAVE TO GIVE UP ON A

JEWISH STATE OR YOU'RE

GOING TO HAVE TO GIVE UP

ON DEM E SEE.

DEMOCRACY.

AND I THINK THAT AT ITS

PERIL, ISRAEL CANNOT

CONSIDER GIVING UP ON

THOSE TWO IDEAS OF BEING

BOTH A JEWISH STATE AND A

DEMOCRACY, OR A DEMOCRATIC

STATE.

Gordon: I COULDN'T

AGREE MORE.

I THINK WE NEED TO

ABSOLUTELY PRAY FOR

UNUSUAL WISDOM IN ISRAEL

TODAY.

THERE IS NO EASY ANSWERS

HERE.

AND HOW DO YOU MOVE

FORWARD.

RIGHT.

Gordon: WE COULD TALK

FOR A LONG TIME, BUT

THANKS FOR BEING WITH US,

AND THANKS FOR ALL YOU

HAVE DONE.

IT IS A PLEASURE TO BE

HERE.

AND I DO THINK THAT ON THE

70th ANNIVERSARY OF THE

STATE OF ISRAEL, IT IS

VERY IMPORTANT TO SAY THAT

THE SUPPORT NOT ONLY OF

JEWS AROUND THE WORLD, BUT

OF CHRISTIANS AROUND THE

WORLD, FOR THE STATE OF

ISRAEL, FOR MOVING THE

EMBASSY TO JERUSALEM, AND

FOR PEACE FOR ISRAEL AND

FOR THE WORLD, IT'S VERY,

VERY IMPORTANT.

Gordon: THANK YOU.

ALL RIGHT.

TERRY, OVER TO YOU.

Terry: UP NEXT, ARE

YOU ONE OF THE MANY

MOTHERS WHO WISHES YOU

COULD STAY AT HOME WITH

YOUR KIDS BUT JUST CAN'T

MAKE IT WORK FINANCIALLY?

AUTHOR AND BLOGGER ERIN

ODOM IS HERE WITH 100 WAYS

TO HELP, SO DON'T GO AWAY.

Gordon: BE SURE TO

WATCH "THE 700 CLUB" AND

"700 CLUB INTERACTIVE" ALL

NEXT WEEK AS WE PREMIERE

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FROM THE CREATORS OF "IN

OUR HANDS," COMES CBN'S

NEWEST PRODUCTION, HOW

ISRAELI VOLUNTEERS ARE

CHANGING THE WORLD.

IT TELLS THE STORY OF HOW

ISRAELI VOLUNTEERS

RESPONDED TO CHRIST FOR

HELP FROM AROUND THE

WORLD.

PEOPLE WHO ARE SUFFERING

DUE TO DISASTER, HUNGER,

POVERTY, SICKNESS, THIRST,

OR THE RAVAGES OF WAR, ARE

FINDING HELP AND

COMPASSION SENT TO THEM BY

ISRAEL.

THE SERIES IS BEGINNING

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TERRY, OVER TO YOU.

Terry: A RECENT STUDY

REVEALED ONLY 14% OF

AMERICAN MOTHERS ARE

STAY-AT-HOME MOTHERS.

THE MOST COMMON FACTOR:

HOW TO MAKE IT WORK

FINANCIALLY.

TAKE A LOOK.

Reporter: ERIN ODOM'S

BLOG POST, STAYING AT HOME

WITH YOUR KIDS WHEN YOU

CAN BARELY AFFORD IT, WENT

VIRAL.

SHE STARTED THE BLOG AFTER

SHE AND HER HUSBAND

STRUGGLED TO MAKE ENDS

MEET.

THEY FILED FOR BANKRUPTCY

AND EVEN WENT ON

GOVERNMENT AID.

BUT EVENTUALLY THEY WERE

ABLE TO MAKE A FINANCIAL

COMEBACK.

IN HER LATEST BOOK, "YOU

CAN STAY HOME WITH YOUR

KIDS," ERIN SHARES TIPS

AND TRICKS TO HELP YOU

CURB SPENDING AND CREATE

MORE INCOME, SO YOU CAN

RESET YOUR BANK ACCOUNT.

Terry: ERIN ODOM

JOINS US NOW.

IT IS GREAT TO HAVE YOU

WITH US.

IT IS SO GREAT TO BE

HERE, TERRY.

Terry: ONE OF OUR

CREW HERE AND I WERE

SAYING, ONLY 14%

STAY-AT-HOME MOMS TODAY --

THAT'S A STARTLING NUMBER,

CONSIDERING I GREW UP IN

AN ERA WHEN MOST MOMS WERE

STAY-AT-HOME MOMS.

IN FACT, ERIN, IT WAS YOUR

MOTHER WHO REALLY

INFLUENCED YOUR DESIRE,

WASN'T IT?

SHE REALLY DID.

SHE WAS A STAY-AT-HOME MOM

FROM THE TIME I WAS TWO.

SHE WAS ALWAYS WITH ME AND

MY BROTHER AND SISTER.

Terry: WHAT WAS IT

LOOK FOR YOU, WITH YOUR

FIRST-BORN, WITH YOUR

MATERNITY LEAVE -- WHAT

WAS IT LIKE TO LEAVE YOUR

BABY?

IT REALLY TORE AT MY

HEART.

SHE WAS ONLY SIX WEEKS

OLD, AND I WAS NURSING

HER, SO I HAD TO MAKE SURE

I HAD A PLACE TO PUMP AT

WORK.

Terry: YOU WROTE A

BOOK, IN ADDITION TO THE

ONE WE'RE TALKING ABOUT

TODAY, CALLED "MORE THAN

JUST MAKING IT."

TALK A LITTLE ABOUT THE

STRUGGLES.

WE TRIED TO MAKE IT

WORK FOR ME TO STAY AT

HOME WHEN SHE WAS A YEAR

OLD.

WE DID END UP MAKING IT

WORK, BUT WE WENT THROUGH

MANY STRUGGLES TO GET

THERE.

WE COULD NEVER SEE OUR

BUDGET WORKING OUT.

EVERY MONTH -- WE WOULD

GET TO THE END OF THE

MONTH, AND THE LAST WEEK I

COULDN'T GO TO THE GROCERY

STORE.

WE DIDN'T HAVE ANY MONEY

LEFT IN THE BANK ACCOUNT.

SO GOD REALLY USED SOME

TEACHERS FROM OUR CHURCH

TO HELP US REALIZE WE DID

NOT HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO

LIVE.

AND HE USED OTHER PEOPLE

IN OUR LIVES -- HE HAD A

MENTOR THAT TOLD ME, YOU

PROBABLY QUALIFY FOR

GOVERNMENT AID.

IT WAS ALSO DURING THAT

TIME THAT WE HAD A HOME IN

A DIFFERENT STATE, THAT WE

COULDN'T SELL.

WE WERE RIGHT IN THE

MIDDLE OF THE RECESSION

AND REALLY DIDN'T

UNDERSTAND IT.

THAT HOME SAT ON THE

MARKET FOR FOUR YEARS.

FINALLY I DECLARED

BANKRUPTCY IN ORDER TO GET

RID OF THE HOUSE.

SO IT FELT LIKE A VERY

HUMBLING TIME.

LOOKING BACK, GOD REALLY

STRIPPED US OF PRIDE, AND

HE REALLY TAUGHT US TO

TRUST HIM, THAT HE IS THE

GREAT PROVIDER OF ALL OF

OUR NEEDS.

AND HE ALSO TAUGHT US THAT

WE HAD GIFTS THAT HE HAD

GIVEN US, THAT WE COULD

LEARN TO CREATE MORE

INCOME FROM HOME.

Terry: IN A SENSE,

YOU COULD SAY GOD WROTE

THIS BOOK?

HE DID.

HE REALLY DID.

[LAUGHTER]

HE WROTE OUR STORY AND

HE IS USING IT TO

ENCOURAGE OTHER MOMS AND

DADS WHO WANT TO SPEND

MORE TIME WITH THEIR

FAMILIES.

Terry: YOU SAY IN THE

BOOK THAT THE STRUGGLE

WITH MONEY MEANS ONE OF

TWO THINGS: EITHER YOU

DON'T MAKE ENOUGH, WHICH

IS WHAT YOU AND YOUR

HUSBAND DISCOVERED IN YOUR

SCENARIO, OR YOUR SPENDING

TOO MUCH.

RIGHT.

ABSOLUTELY.

THERE IS GRACE, WHICHEVER

YOUR PROBLEM IS.

I'M NOT GOING TO STAND IN

JUDGMENT OVER SOMEONE WHO

STRUGGLES WITH SPENDING --

THERE ARE DIFFERENT

REASONS FOR THAT.

BUT THERE IS HOPE TO BE

SET FREE FROM THAT.

THE LORD CAN SET YOU FREE

FROM THAT.

HE ALSO CAN TEACH YOU HOW

TO CREATE MORE INCOME FOR

YOUR FAMILY.

I WOULD SAY, YOU KNOW, TRY

TO DETERMINE, DO I HAVE AN

INCOME PROBLEM OR DO I

HAVE A RESPONDING PROBLEM.

IF YOU DON'T KNOW, ASK GOD

TO REVEAL IT TO YOU.

Terry: WHY DID YOU

START WRITING A BLOG?

HOW DID THAT COME TO BE?

IT WAS REALLY FUELED

OUT OF DESPERATION, TERRY.

I ALWAYS LOVED WRITING.

WHEN I WAS A LITTLE GIRL,

I WOULD MAKE UP STORIES,

BUT THEN I WALKED AWAY

FROM WRITING FOR ABOUT

SIX, SIX AND A HALF YEARS,

EVEN THOUGH I STUDIED IT

IN COLLEGE.

AND I HAD A FRIEND AND A

NEWSPAPER EDITOR, AND THEY

BOTH TOLD ME, YOU COULD

POSSIBLY MAKE A FULL-TIME

INCOME BY STARTING A BLOG

SO I STARTED "THE HUMBLE

HOME-MAKER.COM" AND IT

WAS FREE, AND WITHIN A

YEAR I WAS MAKING A PRETTY

DECENT INCOME, AND WITHIN

THREE, WE WERE REPLACING

MY HUSBAND'S TEACHING

SALARY.

Terry: DID YOU HAVE

ANY IDEA THAT THIS WOULD

GROW TO THIS?

I HAD NO IDEA.

I FELT LIKE I WAS REALLY

PUTTING MYSELF OUT THERE,

AND I FELT VERY VULNERABLE

AND SCARED.

BUT I HAD SOME FRIENDS WHO

SAID, WE THINK PEOPLE NEED

TO HEAR THIS MESSAGE.

AND THAT SET MY BLOG ON

THE PATH TO BEGIN

PROVIDING FOR OUR FAMILY

AND ALSO ENCOURAGING

MILLIONS OF WOMEN.

Terry: THE SUBTITLE

OF YOUR BOOK, "YOU CAN

STAY HOME WITH YOUR KIDS,

10100 TIPS, TRICKS, AND WAYS

TO MAKE IT ON A BUDGET."

ONE OF MY TIPS IS THE

HEALTHEALTH SHARE PLAN.

THERE ARE FOUR BIG ONES IN

THE UNITED STATES.

MY FAMILY ACTUALLY USES

LIBERTY HEALTH SHARE.

IT IS AN ALTERNATIVE FOR

HEALTH INSURANCE, AND IT

IS FOR BELIEVERS TO PULL

TOGETHER.

WE WERE SPENDING OVER $800

A MONTH WHEN MY HUSBAND

WAS A TEACHER, ON OUR

HEALTH INSURANCE.

AND THEN FOR A WHILE WE

HAD COBRA, $1200 A MONTH.

RIGHT NOW WE PAY $449 A

MONTH FOR SIX OF US TO BE

ON LIBERTY HEALTH CARE.

AFTER WE MEET THE

DEDUCTIBLE, THEY COVER

EVERYTHING ELSE.

Terry: IT IS REALLY A

SMART IDEA.

IT IS, FOR BELIEVERS TO

POOL THEIR MONEY TOGETHER

AND HELP EACH OTHER OUT.

AND SOME EVEN SHARE

PRAYER, SO YOU CAN PRAY

FOR THEM, ALONG WITH

PROVIDING FOR THEIR NEEDS.

Terry: YOU HAVE SOME

INTERESTING IDEAS ABOUT

OPTIONS FOR MAKING

ADDITIONAL MONEY FOR

PEOPLE WHO NEED IT, OR

WORK AT HOME.

TALK ABOUT SOME OF THOSE.

USING TECHNOLOGY, FOR

EXAMPLE.

THE INTERNET HAS FLUNG

THE DOORS WHITE OPEN FOR

MOMS TO MAKE MONEY FROM

HOME.

NOW, DO I THINK EVERYONE

SHOULD BE A BLOGGER?

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

THAT GOES ALONG WITH MY

GIFTINGS AND CALLINGS.

Terry: ONE OPTION.

YES.

ABSOLUTELY.

BESIDES BLOGGING, YOU CAN

BE A VIRTUAL ASSISTANT FOR

OTHER BLOGGERS.

YOU CAN USE ADMINISTRATION

SKILLS.

I HAVE A FRIEND WHO IS A

SINGLE MOM WHO MAKES A

FULL-TIME INCOME WITH

TUTORING AND DOING

VIPKID.COM, AND SHE

TEACHES ENGLISH TO CHINESE

CHILDREN FOR $25 AN HOUR.

Terry: I IMAGINE YOU

CAN DO THAT ON AN

ADJUSTABLE TIMEFRAME.

IT DOES HAVE SOME

FLEXIBILITY.

SHE IS ABLE TO DO IT IN

THE MORNING, AND RIGHT

AFTER HER CHILDREN GO TO

BED.

Terry: WE'RE SKIMMING

THE SURFACE.

ERIN'S BOOK IS FOR YOU,

AND ITS CALLED, "YOU CAN

STAY HOME WITH YOUR KIDS:

100 TIPS, TRICKS, TO MAKE

IT ON A BUDGET."

IT'S AVAILABLE WHEREVER

BOOKS ARE SOLD.

IT IS GREAT TO HAVE YOU

WITH US, ERIN.

THANK YOU.

THANK YOU FOR HAVING

ME.

Gordon: WELL, MELISSA

LAUDER FELT SHAME FOR THE

SEXUAL ABUSE SHE SUFFERED

AS A YOUNG GIRL.

WHAT SHE DIDN'T KNOW WAS

HOW MUCH THAT ABUSE WOULD

AFFECT HER MARRIAGE, UNTIL

A COUNSELLOR TOLD THE

COUPLE THEY WERE PRIME

CANDIDATES FOR AN AFFAIR.

I BELIEVE WHAT INTIMACY

DID FOR ME WAS JUST

TRIGGER A LOT OF BAD

MEMORIES, A LOT OF THINGS

THAT I DIDN'T WANT TO

ADDRESS AND DIDN'T WANT TO

DEAL WITH.

WASN'T BEING WHAT I NEEDED

TO BE FOR MY HUSBAND.

I WAS MEETING HIS NEEDS.

I EXPECTED HIM TO

UNDERSTAND AND TO KNOW WHY

I WAS ACTING THE WAY I

WAS.

BUT PART OF HIM FELT LIKE

THIS IS NOT WHAT I SIGNED

UP FOR.

THIS IS NOT WHAT MARRIAGE

AND NEWLYWEDS ARE SUPPOSED

TO BE LIKE.

WE WERE AT THE END OF OUR

ROPE.

MY HUSBAND CAME IN AND

TOLD ME, I WILL BE

FAITHFUL TO YOU, AND WE

WILL LIVE IN THE SAME

HOME, BUT THIS MARRIAGE IS

OVER.

I REMEMBER WE WERE SITTING

AT OUR KITCHEN COUNTER,

AND A FRIEND OF OURS TOLD

US, Y'ALL NEED

COUNSELLING.

I REMEMBER THE FIRST VISIT

WITH OUR COUNSELLOR, AND

HE WANTED TO KNOW EACH OF

OUR SIDES.

THE BOTTOM LINE IS I

DIDN'T FEEL MUCH RESPECT

FROM MY HUSBAND AND HE

DIDN'T FEEL MUCH LOVE FROM

ME.

HE TOLD US Y'ALL ARE PRIME

CANDIDATES FOR AN AFFAIR.

I REALIZED I NEEDED SOME

COUNSELLING ON MY OWN FOR

TRAGEDIES THAT HAPPENED IN

MY CHILDHOOD.

I WAS ABUSED AS A YOUNG

GIRL.

IT WENT ON FOR SEVERAL

YEARS, PROBABLY UNTIL I

WAS ABOUT 17.

YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT THE

TIME FROM AGE NINE TO

ABOUT 17, AND YOU HAVE ALL

OF THIS ABUSE IN YOUR

CHILDHOOD.

WHEN YOU GO INTO MARRIAGE,

THERE IS GOING TO BE SOME

BAGGAGE.

LOTS OF GUILT AND LOTS OF

SHAME.

YOU HAD TO BE HONEST.

YOU HAD TO COMMUNICATE,

AND I THINK THAT IS

SOMETHING I REALLY NEVER

UNDERSTOOD.

I TOOK SO MUCH OF IT ON

MYSELF, AND TRYING TO, YOU

KNOW, NOT MAKE MY HUSBAND

FEEL REJECTED, BUT KNOWING

I WAS.

BUT AT TIMES I DIDN'T CARE

BECAUSE IT WAS JUST SECURE

FOR ME TO WITHDRAW AND TO

NOT PARTICIPATE, NOT BE

INTIMATE.

THE FORGIVENESS WAS A

DAILY BATTLE.

I NEEDED IT FOR MY OWN

FREEDOM.

AS WE WALKED THROUGH THE

COUNSELLING PROCESS FOR

THOSE COUPLE OF YEARS, A

LOT WENT ON IN OUR

MARRIAGE.

IT GOT WORSE BEFORE IT GOT

BETTER.

REALIZING WHO I AM IN

CHRIST HAS REALLY SET ME

FREE FROM THE BONDAGE OF

THE GUILT AND SHAME OF THE

ABUSE.

MY HUSBAND WAS ALWAYS

FAITHFUL TO ME, ALWAYS

PURSUED ME, AND I THINK

JUST KNOWING THAT HIS

DEVOTION AND HIS

COMMITMENT TO ME THROUGH

IT ALL JUST HELPED THE

HEALING AS WELL.

MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE

GROWN SO MUCH OVER THE

YEARS, GROWN SO CLOSE TO

EACH OTHER, THROUGH THE

LORD.

WE'VE BEEN MARRIED NOW FOR

24 YEARS.

WE'VE COME A LONG WAY.

IT IS BETTER THAN IT HAS

EVER BEEN.

GOD DOES BRING BEAUTY FROM

ASHES.

THERE IS RESTORATION.

THERE IS HOPE.

I'M PROOF OF THAT.

YOU CAN BE MADE NEW.

Gordon: AND YOU CAN

BE MADE NEW, TOO.

HOW DO YOU GET THERE?

HOW DO YOU GET PAST

WHATEVER IT IS IN YOUR

PAST THAT IS INTERFERING

WITH YOUR PRESENT?

AND DON'T THINK IT WON'T.

IF SO MANY TIMES YOU GO

INTO MARRIAGE THINKING,

OKAY, THIS IS A

GRADUATION, AND ONCE I'M

MARRIED, I'M GOING TO LIVE

HAPPILY EVER AFTER, AND

EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE

WONDERFUL AND IT IS ALL

GOING TO FIX EVERYTHING.

WELL, IT DOESN'T WORK THAT

WAY.

WHATEVER BAGGAGE YOU HAVE

FROM YOUR PAST IS GOING TO

FOLLOW YOU INTO THAT

MARRIAGE.

WHATEVER WAS SPOKEN TO YOU

AS A CHILD, WHATEVER WAS

DONE TO YOU AS A CHILD,

WHATEVER YOU SAW MODELED

FOR YOU AS A CHILD, IT ALL

COMES INTO THAT MARRIAGE.

AND WE ALL NEED TO HAVE

THE REALIZATION THAT GOD

IS ABLE TO SET YOU FREE.

SET YOU FREE FROM THE

BEHAVIOR PATTERN.

SET YOU FREE FROM THE

THOUGHT PATTERN.

SET YOU FREE FROM THE

EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS THAT SO

HAUNT YOU, AND IT COULD BE

SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS

BEING IN A ROOM, SMELLING

A CERTAIN SMELL, HAVING A

CERTAIN BEHAVIOR COME BACK

AND ECHO AGAIN.

AND THEN WHAT DO YOU DO?

WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THAT

HURT?

WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THAT

WOUND?

AND WHAT THAT COUPLE FOUND

IS THAT, YES, YOU CAN SAVE

IT.

THERE CAN BE RESTORATION.

BUT IT STARTS WITH YOU AND

YOUR HEART AND OPENING IT

UP TO JESUS.

SAYING, LORD, I CAN'T GO

BACK AND HAVE A NEW

CHILDHOOD, I CAN'T GO BACK

AND REPAIR WHAT WAS DONE,

BUT YOU CAN REPAIR MY

HEART, AND YOU CAN REPAIR

MY SOUL, AND YOU CAN

REPAIR MY SPIRIT, SO THAT

I CAN HAVE THE LOVE THAT I

NEED FOR MY SPOUSE.

IT'S THAT SIMPLE.

SAY, I CAN'T DO IT, BUT,

GOD, YOU CAN.

IT IS THE SURRENDERING TO

HIM THAT LEADS TO THE

SUCCESS THAT YOU'RE

LOOKING FOR.

DON'T THINK YOU CAN DO IT

ON YOUR OWN.

I ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO GO

THROUGH COUNSELLING, BUT I

ALREADY KNOW COUNSELLING

DOESN'T GET YOU TO THAT

RESOLUTION.

IT DOESN'T GET YOU TO

RESTORATION.

IT GETS YOU TO TALK ABOUT

IT, WHICH IS GOOD.

BUT IT IS THAT PRAYER AND

THAT SURRENDER THAT LEADS

LEADS -- SO TERRY AND I

ARE GOING TO AGREE FOR YOU

AND YOUR MARRIAGE.

WHEN TWO OR MORE AGREE,

TOUCHING EVERYTHING, IT

SHALL BE DONE FOR YOU BY

GOD.

LORD, WE LIFT MARRIAGES TO

YOU, AND ALL WHO ARE

WATCHING RIGHT NOW AND

ACKNOWLEDGING THAT THEY

CAN'T DO IT WITHOUT YOU.

SO LORD GOD ALMIGHTY, COME

AND HEAL HEARTS.

HEAL THOSE WOUNDS, HEAL

SPIRITS, HEAL SOULS NOW IN

JESUS' NAME.

LET THEM TURN TO YOU, AND

IN THAT TURN TO EACH

OTHER.

LET WILL BE LOVE AND

RESTORATION, FOR WE ASK IT

IN JESUS' NAME.

AMEN.

AND AMEN.

> IF YOU NEED PRAYER,

WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CALL

US: 1-800-700-7000.

> HERE IS A WORD:

"BEFORE THE MOUNTAINS WERE

BROUGHT FORTH, YOU HAVE

FORMED THE EARTH IN THE

WORLD.

FROM EVERLASTING TO

EVERLASTING, YOU ARE GOD."

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