Anger is a powerful emotion it can strike suddenly, taking over our thoughts
with violent force. At times, it seems uncontrollable. And its devastating effects
can leave your faith, your family or your career in ruins.
But there's a
way to break free from anger's grasp and learn how to handle the daily situations
that can lead to anger.
Getting To The Source
There are as many causes and expressions of anger as there are people. But
a common element is usually lurking beneath anger: things are not turning out
the way we would like. Perhaps your boss did not deliver on a promised raise ...
or your child refused to listen to your repeated instructions ... or your spouse
just did not take the time to listen.
At first, this anger is usually directed
toward others. But eventually, we begin to point a finger at God. Like Job's wife,
when facing overwhelming anger, we want to "curse God land die!" (Job 2:9).
despite all the energy we invest in anger, it cannot get us a raise, or make our
children obey, or restore a broken marriage. Most importantly, the Bible says,
"the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God" (James 1:20).
worse, anger eventually seeks an outlet in hurtful actions, breeding more anger
and creating a destructive cycle for our lives. We are wise not to under estimate
the power of anger.
anger is controlling you, there is only one way to find lasting freedom -
by yielding control of your life to Jesus Christ.
Anger is ultimately a
matter of control, we get angry, and our anger drives a wedge between us and God
- keeping us from drawing closer to
His love. In our anger we are rejecting God's love - accusing God of not caring. But
God is love (1 John 4:8), and the Bible says His plans for us are always good
This plan begins with a personal relationship with Jesus. John
3:16 says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that
whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life." God desires
that you will live with him forever!
When you come to God, repenting of
your sin, God miraculously gives you new birth that will enable you to walk in
Overcoming Anger Day by Day
new life in Christ will not immediately bring an end to your anger. Each day will
bring situations tempting you to anger. Here are a few steps you can take to keep
your anger under God's control.
Recognize the source of your
anger. Is it a person? Or a situation? Or perhaps you're angry at God. Be honest
with yourself and the Lord about what is making you angry.
Repent and ask
God to cleanse you. Anger that is based in selfishness and control is sin, and
the cure for sin is repentance. Ask God to forgive you for your anger and give
you peace. "If we confess our sins," the Bible says, "< God< is faithful and righteous to
forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9)
forgive, forgive. Forgiveness is perhaps the greatest remedy for anger. As He
hung dying on the cross at Calvary, Jesus had every right to be angry toward those
who placed Him there. Yet He asked His Father to forgive them. We are called to
do the same.
Daily, give God control of your life. Job had every reason
to be angry. But despite his circumstances, he refused to shake his fist at God.
When his wife told him to curse God, he responded "Shall we indeed accept good
from God and not accept adversity?" (Job 2:10). The call of discipleship requires
us to surrender control of our lives to God. He is faithful. You can trust that
He will work out all things for good (Romans 8:28).
Don't let anger fester.
You may think that by suppressing your anger, it will simply go away. But anger
must be dealt with or it will grow like a cancer. Especially in the relationships
that are most precious to you, follow this simple advice from Apostle Paul: "do
not let the sun go down on your anger" (Eph. 4:26)
As You Pray
Has anger taken hold of your life? There's a
simple solution: hand over the reins of your heart to the Lord and walk every
day in God's love and forgiveness.
Take a few moments right now to let go
of your anger: "Father, forgive me for my anger against You and others. Please
cleanse me as Your Word promises. I give You total control of my life-
both the good and the bad. I also give You the hurts from the past. Thank You
for forgiving me and for teaching me how to walk in love each and every day. In
Jesus' name. Amen."
God's Word on Anger
and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give
the devil an opportunity. ... And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom
you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger
and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. And be kind
to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also
has forgiven you" (Eph 4:26-27, 30-32).
Scripture for Study
The cause and cure of anger
Psalm 37:8; Proverbs
Anger promotes anger
Parenting and anger
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