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700 Club Canada: May 8, 2013

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HELLO, I'M BRIAN WARREN.

AND I'M LAURA LYNN TYLER

THOMPSON. WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

YOU KNOW, WE'RE TALKING THIS

WEEK ABOUT MARRIAGE AND, YOU

KNOW THAT'S A SUBJECT THAT WE DT

AN OPPORTUNITY, BECAUSE THE PEOE

KIND OF SEE US AS THE COUPLE ON

TELEVISION, BUT TELL ME SOMETHI;

YOUR HUSBAND, WHAT ARE SOME OF

HIS GREAT ASSETS THAT YOU CAN KD

OF SHARE WITH US.

WELL, WHAT I APPRECIATE IS THT

I AM SOMEONE WHO IS GIVING TO; I

WANT TO KNOW IF EVERYONE IS HAPY

WITH ME. I DON'T LIKE WHEN

ANYBODY'S UPSET WITH ME. YOU

KNOW WHAT I MEAN?

YEP.

I'M A BIT OF A PEOPLE PLEASER,

AND HE'S NOT. HE'S LIKE, WHO CA.

YEAH.

YOU KNOW? IS THIS WHAT WE'RE

SUPPOSED TO DO?

YEAH.

AND AS A--

HE'S A GUY.

HE'S A GUY, AND HE'S NOT

ALL, YOU KNOW, HUNG UP ON WHAT

EVERYBODY ELSE THINKS, AND THATS

HELPED ME, AND IT'S BROUGHT SOME

BALANCE TO MY LIFE. WHAT ABOUT

YOU?

OH, HE'S HUNG UP ON YOU. YOU

KNOW WHAT, MY KAREN, I MEAN SHE

IS VERY PROTECTIVE. SHE'S LIKE E

ROOSTER. SHE PROTECTS ME IN

EVERYTHING, EVERYWHERE I GO SO,I

MEAN, YOU DON'T SEE IT, BUT I MN

SHE'S LIKE MIKE TYSON IN THE BA,

BUT IN PRAYER LIKE IN YOU KNOW.

RIGHT, LIKE A BODY GUARD.

YEAH, THAT'S MY BODYGUARD.

THERE YOU GO!

I LIKE IT.

I JUST WISH I COULD SING LIKE

WHITNEY HOUSTON USE TO.

OH, SO DO I. THAT WOULD BE

NICE.

YOU KNOW, BEFORE WE GET INTO

THE PROGRAM TODAY, I WANT TO ASK

YOU A QUESTION, AND I WANT YOU O

ASK YOURSELF, AND BE HONEST. AMI

BRINGING MY BEST TO MY

RELATIONSHIPS? THAT'S THE QUEST.

ALL THIS WEEK WE'VE BEEN FOCUG

ON RELATIONSHIPS IN HOPES THAT R

OF YOU WILL BE ABLE TO ANSWER NO

BRIANS QUESTION. WE'VE BEEN

WATCHING POWERFUL STORIES OF

BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS HEALED BY

GOD, AS WELL AS EXPERT ADVICE ON

STRENGTHENING THE BOND BETWEEN

YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE. TODAY KATHY

MULLEN IS HERE TO HELP US ALL FD

OUR BEST, AND BRING IT.

BUT FIRST, THIS IS HOW THE FAF

A MARRIAGE WAS LEFT HANGING IN E

BALANCE, BECAUSE OF ONE MANS

CHOICE.

WE WERE ACTING LIKE COLLEGE

STUDENTS, AND YOU KNOW, APPARENT

BODIES, AND YOU JUST CAN'T KEEPP

THAT KIND OF LIFE STYLE. THIS IG

ROAD DOWN A BIG BLACK HOLE.

ERIC AND MARY LANKA MARRIED IN

1998, AND NEVER SAW THE BLACK

HOLE A HEAD.

WE WERE BOTH, YOU KNOW, HEAD

OVER HEALS FOR EACH OTHER, BUT E

ALSO HAD THIS DRIVE THAT WE SAWN

EACH OTHER THAT WAS VERY EXCITI,

AND WE KNEW THAT TOGETHER WE

COULD MAKE A LOT OF MONEY, AND O

A LOT OF GREAT THINGS.

BOTH HAD SUCCESSFUL CAREERS IN

THEIR OWN RIGHT. ERIC WAS A

REAL ESTATE DEVELOPER, AND MARY

WAS A CREATIVE DIRECTOR FOR A RL

ESTATE COMPANY, AND AN ARTIST.

THEY WORKED HARD, AND THEY

PLAYED HARD.

SO WE WERE ALWAYS OUT HAVING A

GREAT TIME.

I WAS VERY FOCUSED ON MAKING

A LOT OF MONEY YOUNG. SO I DIDNT

HAVE TO WORK AS HARD AS MY PARES

DID.

MARY WAS DRINKING THEN. I WAS

DRINKING THEN. ALL, OF COURSE AF

OUR FRIENDS WERE DRINKING.

BEFORE LONG ERIC AND MARY HAD

THEIR FIRST SON, ZACH.

IS THIS WHAT WE'RE GIVING HIMS

JUST WORK, WORK, WORK. I DIDN'T

HAVE TIME FOR HIM. I WAS TOO BU.

IN 2005 ERIC DECIDED TO PARLAY

THEIR WEALTH INTO A HUGE

CONDOMINIUM PROJECT.

I THOUGHT I COULD SELL IT OUTD

BE ABLE TO RETIRE AND DO WHAT I

WANTED TO DO WITH MY FAMILY, AND

I WAS BEING STYMIED BY CITY

OFFICIALS. STYMIED BY FAMILY

MEMBERS, AND THEREFORE I

STARTED TO DRINK MORE.

IN 2006 THEIR SECOND SON,

JOSHUA, WAS BORN. THAT SAME YEAR

THE HOUSING MARKET CRASHED. ERIC

KNEW THEY WERE IN TROUBLE.

WHEN THE BANK CAME CALLING

AFTER TWO YEARS OF NO SALES, I

WAS SEEING THE WRITING ON THE

WALL COMING. I STARTED TOO LITEY

DRINK MYSELF TO SLEEP EVERY NIG,

OR DRINK MYSELF TO PASS OUT EVEY

NIGHT.

AND HE WENT FROM LIKE THIS

REALLY, YOU KNOW, JOVIAL SOCIAL

DRINKER TO SOMEONE WHO WAS

STARTING TO PASS OUT AT FIVE

O'CLOCK. I COULDN'T ROUSE HIM.

WE WERE HAVING, YOU KNOW,

ARGUMENTS THAT WERE--HE

WOULDN'T EVEN REMEMBER THEM

THE DAY--NEXT DAY. I DIDN'T WANO

DRINK ANYMORE. I HATED IT, YOU W

I STARTED TO REALLY LOATH THE WE

LIFESTYLE, AND I STARTED TO REAY

HATE HIM FOR CHECKING OUT WHEN

HE SHOULD BE DEALING WITH THING,

AND IT SCARED ME, AND I WAS THIG

THIS ISN'T WHAT I SIGNED UP FORE

WAS GETTING TO THE POINT WHERE I

DIDN'T WANT HIM TO TAKE THE

CHILDREN IN THE VEHICLES, BECAUE

SOMEONE TOLD ME THEY SAW HIM

DRINKING AND DRIVING.

SHE LITERALLY HAD TO TAKE ME

ASIDE, AND SAY TO ME, IT'S

EITHER YOUR BOOZE OR US, AND

THAT'S WHEN I REALLY DID START O

HAVE AN EPIPHANY THAT THIS SOCIL

CRUTCH TURNED INTO A GOTTA HAVE

IT IN THE MORNING ADDICTION, AND

AFTER MARY TOLD ME THAT I WOULD

LOSE EVERYTHING THAT WE HAD, BEG

THEM, MARY AND THE BOYS, THAT

WAS TOO MUCH FOR ME TO BARE. SO,

I TOLD HER I WOULD STOP DRINKIN.

MARY BEGAN A SEARCH FOR SPIRIL

HELP.

I WENT TO MY UNCLE SAILS' CHU,

AND I BROUGHT MY SON ZACH TO ONE

OF THE SERVICES, AND I REMEMBER

SITTING THERE, AND THINKING, OHY

GOODNESS, THIS IS WHAT I WAS

MISSING. THIS IS TRUE. ALL THE F

I HEARD IT ALL KIND OF JUST JELT

ONE MOMENT, AND I WAS JUST--I

FELT THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRT

CAME ON ME SO QUICKLY THAT I HAD

NO--IT WAS DRAMATIC.

ERIC SAYS THAT GOD WAS WORKING

ON HIS HEART TOO.

AFTER THE ULTIMATUM I REALLY

STARTED TO GET INTO THIS DAILY

BREAD BOOK, AND IT HAD DAILY

DEVOTIONALS IN IT, AND I STARTED

TO READ THOSE, AND THEY REALLY

STARTED TO SINK IN, AND THAT IS

I THINK WHAT REALLY HELPED ME

START TO FOCUS MORE, BECAUSE WHN

I STARTED READING THOSE DEVOTIOS

IT MADE ME QUESTION MORE ABOUT

WHERE THAT DEVOTIONAL CAME FROM.

SO THEN I WOULD GO INTO THE BIB,

AND READ MORE OF WHERE THAT

PASSAGE CAME FROM.

AND IT WAS, IT WASN'T OVERNIGT

WITH ERIC. I MEAN IT WAS LIKE ID

TO TRUST GOD, DAY BY DAY, BY DA.

I'D PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE

OTHER. IT CAME IN MILLIMETERS.

IT DIDN'T COME IN LEAPS AND BOU.

WITH TWO CHILDREN NOW, AND

NUMBER THREE ON THE WAY, AND

NO JOB PROSPECTS, THE BANK

FORECLOSED ON THEIR HOME IN

DECEMBER OF 2006. THEY WERE

FORCED TO SELL ALMOST EVERYTHING

THEY OWNED, AND LIVE IN A

CAMPER ERIC LOOKED FOR WORK.

WE WERE COMPLETELY BLOWN

AWAY THAT THIS IS WHERE OUR LIVS

HAD TAKEN US.

WE DIDN'T KNOW WHERE WE WERE

HEADING OUT TOO. WE JUST KNEW WE

WERE GOING TO GO FOR A NEW

BEGINNING, BUT WE WERE BOTH

CONFIDENT THAT GOD WOULD LEAD

US TO WHERE WE NEEDED TO BE.

WE HAD TO REBUILD OUR MARRIAG,

BUT GOD WAS THE FOUNDATION WE PT

OUR MARRIAGE ON, AND THEN WE BUT

UP FROM THERE, AND THAT COMPLETY

CHANGED--THAT COMPLETELY CHANGED

THE WHOLE MARRIAGE. WE DIDN'T

COUNT ON EACH OTHER TO FILL OUR

NEEDS. WE COUNTED ON GOD TO

FILL OUR NEEDS, AND TO RESPECT

AND HONOR EACH OTHER. WOW, WHAT

A CONCEPT I KNOW, BUT IT WORKS.T

DOES; IT WORKS A LOT BETTER THAN

THE WAY TRIED IT.

AFTER LIVING IN THE CAMPER FOR

SEVEN MONTHS, ERIC FOUND A

DEVELOPMENT JOB IN DURANGO,

NEW MEXICO. ERIC, MARY, AND THE

BOYS LOVE THEIR HOME IN THE

MOUNTAINS.

I THINK THE LORD BROKE IT DOWR

US IN VERY SIMPLE TERMS. I AM GG

TO HELP BREAK YOU BACK DOWN SO U

CAN RELEARN WHAT IT MEANS TO BE

TOGETHER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE,

AND IT'S PAINFUL YES, BUT I'LL H

YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.

WE WERE ABOUT TO CELEBRATE OUR

FOURTEENTH YEAR OF MARRIAGE, AND

I ABSOLUTELY WOULD NOT WANT IT Y

OTHER WAY, THAN TO GO WHAT WE'VE

GONE THROUGH TOGETHER, BECAUSE

WE ARE SO MUCH MORE TO EACH OTHR

AND FOR EACH OTHER NOW THAN WE

EVER WOULD HAVE BEEN. REGARDLESS

OF HOW SUCCESSFUL WE COULD HAVE

BEEN IN THE MONETARY, AND MATERL

WORLDS. MARY IS WHO I MARRIED, D

I FEEL VERY BLESSED TO HAVE MARN

MY LIFE.

YOU KNOW WHEN YOU LOOK AT

ERIC AND MARY, AND IT'S GREAT TO

SEE THE HAPPY ENDING.

YES.

I MEAN I LOVE A HAPPY ENDING,

BUT IT DIDN'T START OUT THAT WA,

AND SOMEONE MIGHT BE LOOKING AT

THAT SAYING, WOW CAN THAT HAPPEN

FOR ME.

WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT BRIAN, ERS

STORY IS AN INCREDIBLE TESTAMENO

THE FAITHFULNESS OF GOD, AND HEE

WE BELIEVE THAT GOD IS FAITHFULO

EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US. YOU KNOW

THE STORIES THAT WE BRING YOU EY

DAY ARE TRUE ACCOUNTS OF OUR

HEAVENLY FATHERS DIVINE

INTERVENTION IN THE LIFE OF MAN.

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO SEE THIS OE

NIGHTLY NEWS OR EVEN ONE OF THOE

BROADCAST MAGAZINE SHOWS. THESE

KINDS OF MIRACULOUS TESTIMONIESE

SOUGHT OUT BY THE 700 CLUB CANAA

SO THAT YOU'LL BE INSPIRED TO KW

THAT GOD LOVES EACH AND EVERY OE

OF US. IN ALL OF OUR FAULTS WITF

OUR FAILURES, HE JUST LOVES US.U

BELIEVE THAT TODAY, AND YOU CANE

AND FEEL HOW THIS PROGRAM IS

EFFECTING YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD.

WOULD YOU NOW PARTNER IN BRINGIG

THIS TO CANADA. THIS KIND OF WOK

TAKES RESOURCES, AND IT TAKES AF

US EMBRACING ONE ANOTHER, AND

JOINING OUR FAITH AND FINANCES O

BRING HOPE TO THIS LAND. WE CANT

DO IT ALONE. IF THIS MINISTRY IS

SOWING INTO YOUR LIFE, WOULD YOU

SOW BACK INTO THIS GROUND SO THT

TOGETHER WE WILL REAP AN ETERNAL

REWARD. BECOME A PARTNER WITH US

TODAY AT 1-855-759-0700.

WILL YOU DO THAT RIGHT NOW? IT

WOULD BE SUCH AN ENCOURAGEMENT

IF YOU WOULD CALL RIGHT NOW. YOU

KNOW WE'VE GOT PRAYER PARTNERS.

WE'VE GOT OPERATORS; THEIR STANG

BY 1-855-759-0700. YOU KNOW

WHEN YOU LOOK AT MARY, AND YOU

LOOK AT ERIC, SHE SAID, IT DIDNT

COME IN LEAPS AND BOUNDS IT CAME

IN MILLIMETERS, BABY STEPS, BUTT

STARTED WITH AN ULTIMATUM. EITHR

THE BOOZE, OR IT'S GOING TO BE .

ERIC, WHICH ONE IS IT GOING TO ?

YOU CAN'T HAVE BOTH OF THEM, AND

I THINK A LOT OF US TRY TO STRAE

THE LINE. WE TRY TO WALK ON BOTH

SIDES OF THE LINE, AND WE THINK

THAT WE CAN HANDLE OUR LIFE. I E

THE WAY THE TWELVE STEP PROGRAM

STARTED OFF, IT SAYS, I'M POWERS

TO HELP MYSELF. POWERLESS TO

IMPROVE MY CIRCUMSTANCES. I NEED

HELP. THAT'S WHAT HAPPENED WITH

SAM CLANCY, THAT'S WHAT THEY SA.

I NEED SOMEONE ELSE, AND I NEEDO

LOOK FOR A HIGHER POWER. THAT

HIGHER POWER THAT WE'RE TELLINGU

TODAY, IT'S JESUS CHRIST. I'VE T

SOMETHING I'D LIKE TO GET INTO R

HANDS. IT'S CALLED THREE INDEEDF

YOU'RE IN THAT PLACE RIGHT NOW,D

MARRIAGE IS IN THE BALANCE. THES

ALL KINDS OF ISSUES, AND PROBLES

THAT YOU'RE HAVING. IT'S NOT ABT

THE PROBLEMS. IT'S A PROBLEM THS

ON THE INSIDE. LET'S SO SOME

BUSINESS WITH GOD RIGHT NOW, AND

LET'S BELIEVE GOD, TO COME INTO

YOUR LIFE. GIVE HIM YOUR PERSONL

PERMISSION FOR HIS HEAVENLY

INTERVENTION, AND THEN SAY, GODM

A SINNER. I NEED HELP, AND I BEE

BECAUSE HE'S THE AUTHOR AND THE

FINISHER OF YOUR FAITH. HE'S ALY

WRITTEN A SUCCESS STORY FOR YOUT

IT STARTS WITH THIS ULTIMATUM, D

I'M GIVING THAT TO YOU TODAY. LS

DO SOME BUSINESS WITH GOD. SAY

THIS WITH ME. JESUS, I SURRENDE.

I CONFESS MY SIN. I BELIEVE IN Y

HEART THAT YOU ARE LORD. WOULD U

BE THE LORD OF MY LIFE AND SAVE?

IN JESUS NAME I PRAY AMEN. IT'S

THAT SIMPLE.

IF YOU JUST PRAY THAT PRAYER H

BRIAN, WOULD YOU GIVE US A CALL

RIGHT NOW. 1-855-759-0700.

PRAYER PARTNERS ARE STANDING BY.

TO OFTEN WE CARRY BAGGAGE FROM

OUR PAST. YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIT

AFFECTS EVERYTHING, AND EVERYONN

OUR LIVES. IT'S ALWAYS THERE WEG

US DOWN, AND KEEPING US FROM

ACHIEVING TRUE HAPPINESS. BUT DO

YOU KNOW GOD NEVER MEANT FOR US

TO BE TRAPPED IN THE PAST? YOU N

BE FREE OF YOUR BAGGAGE. LEARN W

GOD'S FORGIVENESS LEADS TO CHAND

LIVES, AND NEW BEGINNINGS. CALLE

700 CLUB.

MUSIC

WELCOME BACK. SO FAR THIS WEEK

LAURA LYNN HAS BEEN TALKING

MARRIAGE FROM A PASTORAL

PERSPECTIVE, BUT TODAY WE SHIFT

GEARS, AND LOOK AT THINGS WITH N

EYE TO MENTAL HEALTH.

MUSIC

KATHY, I AM SO EXCITED TO HAVE

YOU ON THE SHOW TODAY. WE'RE

TALKING TODAY ABOUT BEING A HEAY

YOU, AND COMING TO A MARRIAGE AS

A HEALTHY PERSON. THAT IS THE BT

SUCCESS THAT WE CAN HAVE IS TO

WHOLE PEOPLE COMING TOGETHER,

BUT THAT'S NOT ALWAYS THE CASE,D

I KNOW KATHY, THAT YOU HAVE AN

AMAZING EXPERIENCE OF GOING

THROUGH A LITTLE BIT OF TRAUMA,

AND A LITTLE BIT OF DYSFUNCTIONH

YOUR OWN MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO

COME OUT THE OTHER SIDE WITH

A LOT OF HEALING, AND BECAUSE OF

THAT, YOU KNOW A LOT THAT CAN HP

SOME OF OUR VIEWERS WHO MIGHT

BE STRUGGLING WITH THEIR MARRIA.

SO TELL ME ABOUT YOU AND BRAD, D

HOW IT ALL STARTED, AND WHAT WEE

SOME OF THE ISSUES THAT YOU FAC?

WELL BOTH OF US WERE RAISED IA

CHRISTIAN HOME. MARRIED CHRISTIN

SERVING IN THE CHURCH LOVING GO.

RAISING OUR KIDS A CHRISTIAN WAT

AT YEAR THIRTEEN, I HIT A BRICKL

BASICALLY AND--

SO THE THIRTEENTH YEAR OF

MARRIAGE?

YEAH, AND I BEGAN TO FALL APAT

EMOTIONALLY, AND WE FIGURED IT S

MARRIAGE ISSUES, AND SO WE STARD

TO SEE A COUNSELOR, AND THE

COUNSELOR TALKED TO US PROBABLY

TWO SESSIONS TOGETHER, AND HE

SAID, YOU GUYS ARE SO MESSED UP

INDIVIDUALLY. I'M GOING TO SEPAE

YOU, AND SEE YOU INDEPENDENTLY

AND WE'LL WORK ON YOUR INDIVIDUL

STUFF, AND THEN GO FROM THERE, D

THAT'S SOMETHING THAT GRANT ANDI

LEARNED BECAUSE OF THIS IS BECAE

SO MANY MARRIAGE ISSUES, YOU

THINK IT'S WHAT'S GOING ON BETWN

THE TWO OF YOU, BUT IN ACTUAL FS

YOUR STUFF, AND THEIR STUFF BANG

TOGETHER, AND THAT'S WHAT CAUSIG

THE ISSUE. IF YOU GET RID OF THO

INDIVIDUALS BAGS OF STUFF, THENL

START TO SEE IMPROVEMENT, AND WE

WENT THROUGH A YEAR, AND A BIT F

INDIVIDUAL RECOVERY IN DEALING H

OUR STUFF, OUR HURTS. THE ISSUET

HAD ACCUMULATED OVER THE YEARS

PRIOR TO BEING MARRIED, AND EVEN

SINCE BEING MARRIED, AND THEN WE

CLEARED OUT THAT STUFF, HE BROUT

US BACK TOGETHER TO DEAL WITH OR

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES, AND THERE S

HARDLY ANYTHING TO TALK ABOUT,

BECAUSE ALL OF THE BREAK DOWN

HAD BEEN OVER OUR INDEPENDENT AD

STUFF.

SO WHEN YOU GOT TO COUNSELING,

AND YOU HAVE A COUPLE OF SESSIO,

AND THE COUNSELOR FEELS, WOW THS

A MESS. WE'RE YOU SHOCKED? I

MEAN, I GUESS OBVIOUSLY YOU ALRY

KNEW THAT THERE WAS SOME ISSUES,

BUT WAS THAT A BIT OF SURPRISE?U

KNOW, WHAT A MESS THIS WAS?

YES, PARTICULARLY BECAUSE HE D

US WE ARE CO-DEPENDENT, AND

BECAUSE GRANT'S A DOCTOR, AND IM

AN OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST,

CO-DEPENDENCY WAS REALLY BAD IN

THE SENSE THAT YOU'RE HELPING

SOMEONE IN DRUG ABUSE OR

ALCOHOLISM, AND THIS KIND OF ST,

AND IN ACTUAL FACT THE KIND OF

CO-DEPENDENCY THAT WE WERE

INVOLVED IN WAS PROPPING EACH

OTHER UP IN AN UNHEALTHY WAY

EMOTIONALLY, AND IT WAS AN

EMOTIONAL CO-DEPENDENCE THAT

WE WERE LOOKING TO FIND OUT WHOE

WERE BASED ON HOW THE OTHER

PERSON RESPONDED TO US. SO

EVERYTHING WE DID IN OUR LIVES S

ACTUALLY LOOKING FOR REACTION FM

OTHER PEOPLE TO KNOW THAT WE WEE

OKAY. THAT WE WERE LOVEABLE.

WORTH LOVING, AND WORTH WHILE

HUMAN BEINGS. SO WE--LIKE I DID

ALL KINDS OF THINGS IN OUR CHURT

IT WAS ALWAYS FOR THE PAT ON THE

BACK, AND GRANT WAS DOING SIMILR

THINGS, AND HIS WORK IN MINISTRS

TO GET THE PAT ON THE BACK, ANDS

LONG AS YOU KEEP DOING THAT YOUE

BASICALLY FUNCTIONING OUR OF AN

EMPTY SELF, AND YOU NEED TO BE

RECEIVING ENOUGH FROM THE LORD

YOURSELF THAT YOU'RE NOT GRABBIG

FROM EVERYONE ELSE WHAT YOU

SHOULD BE GETTING FROM GOD.

AND THAT IS SUCH A HUGE SECRET

TO LIFE ISN'T IT? THAT WE WOULD

LOOK TO GOD AS OUR SOURCE RATHER

SOMEONE ELSE, BECAUSE YOU'RE

PROFESSIONALS. YOU WEREN'T

DEALING WITH SUBSTANCE ABUSE OR

ALCOHOLISM, AND YET YOU GOT THIS

TERRIBLE DIAGNOSIS FROM A COUNSR

SAYING YOU ARE SO UNHEALTHY, AND

I'M WONDERING IF THERE'S PEOPLE

OUT THERE WHO ARE IN THIS SAME

SORT OF SITUATION WHERE MAYBE

IT'S A WIFE, KATHY, AND SHE JUST

CONSTANTLY NEEDS THAT AFFIRMATIN

FROM HER HUSBAND, HER CHILDREN,

THOSE AROUND HER. WHAT WOULD YOU

SAY TO HER ON HOW TO BEGIN

CHANGING THAT DYNAMIC SO THAT SE

IS MORE FOCUSED ON RECEIVING FRM

THE LORD WHAT SHE NEEDS, SO THAT

SHE WILL BE HEALTHIER?

PROBABLY THE ROUTE I WOULD

SUGGEST IS FIND A PRAYER MINISTR

OR COUNSELOR WHO CAN BEGIN TO WK

YOU THROUGH THE PROCESS OF

EMPTYING THE BAGGAGE YOU'VE

ACCUMULATED, AND USUALLY THAT

BAGGAGE STARTS VERY YOUNG IN

CHILDHOOD WHEN YOU START

ACCUMULATING LIES THAT YOU BELIE

ABOUT YOURSELF. WHETHER YOU'RE

FATHER DIDN'T TELL YOU YOU WERE

BEAUTIFUL OR THAT HE LOVED YOU.

WHETHER YOUR MOTHER DIDN'T

COMFORT YOU THE WAY YOU NEEDED

COMFORT WHEN YOU WERE A YOUNG

CHILD. THINGS LIKE THIS. OR IF U

HAD SIBLINGS WHO BEAT YOU UP ALL

THE TIME, BECAUSE YOU WERE JUST

A PAIN TO THEM, AND THEY DIDN'T

WANT YOU AROUND. ALL OF THESE

KINDS OF THINGS TEACH YOU THINGS

ABOUT YOURSELF THAT YOU ASSUME

ARE CORRECT. BUT IN ACTUAL FACTN

YOU COMPARE WHAT THEY HAVE TAUGT

YOU WITH WHAT THE TRUTH OF SCRIE

SAYS, THEY'RE NOT CORRECT, AND U

NEED TO HEAR FROM THE LORD YOURF

WHAT HE DAYS ABOUT YOU. SO SEARH

THE SCRIPTURE FOR WHAT HE SAYS T

YOU, BUT ALSO GO FOR A PRAYER

MINISTRY OR COUNSELING TO HAVE

SOMEONE HELP WALK YOU THROUGH

WHAT THE LIES YOU HAVE BEEN

BELIEVING SO YOU CAN GRASP THE

TRUTH THEN, AND BE SET FREE.

KATHY, IS THERE SOMETHING

THAT YOU WOULD BE VULNERABLE

ENOUGH TO SHARE THAT WAS LIKE

A BIG LIE THAT YOU HAD BELIEVED

THAT WAS REALLY DEBILITATING

YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

WELL, WE GOT TO ONE POINT

WHERE GRANT WAS GETTING BETTER,

BECAUSE HE HAD RECEIVED A

TREMENDOUS AMOUNT OF HEALING,

BUT I WAS STILL SLIDING, AND HE

ACTUALLY BEGAN LOOKING AT ME,

AND THE COUNSELOR AND HE WERE

DISCUSSING WHETHER I NEEDED

MEDICINE; WHICH ENDED UP NOT

BEING THE CASE, BECAUSE I WAS SO

LOW EMOTIONALLY, BUT AT THAT POT

GOD SHOWED ME THAT I WAS BELIEVG

THREE PARTICULAR THINGS. ONE THE

WASN'T GOING TO DO A MIRACLE INY

LIFE. THAT I HAD TO TAKE

RESPONSIBILITY FOR MYSELF, BUT O

THAT I WAS BELIEVING A HUGE NUMR

OF LIES THAT GRANT HAD ONLY CHAD

IN ORDER TO GET ME TO CHANGE, AD

THEN ONCE I HAD CHANGED HE

WOULD JUST GO BACK TO THE WAY HE

WAS SO WHY BOTHER. THE OTHER

LIE I WAS BELIEVING WAS THAT THE

HEAVENLY FATHER WAS ENCOURAGING

ME TO JUMP INTO THIS UNKNOWN OF

GETTING BETTER, BUT HE WASN'T GG

TO BE THERE TO HELP ME, AND THAT

WAS REALLY TERRIFYING, BECAUSE D

NO CONFIDENCE IN HIM, AND WITH

BEING A REALLY LOVING HEAVENLY

FATHER THAT WOULD SUPPORT ME

IN MY JOURNEY, AND OFF HAND I

CAN'T REMEMBER WHAT THE OTHER

THING WAS, BUT--

WELL, I LIKE WHAT YOU'RE SAYIG

ABOUT THE TRUST THAT YOU HAD TO

BUILD IN GOD. DON'T YOU THINK

THAT SO MANY OF US STRUGGLE WITH

THAT? BECAUSE YOU'RE EXPERIENCE

IS NOT UNUSUAL. THAT WE JUST ATE

CORE OF OUR BEING, WE DON'T KNOW

IF GOD IS GOING TO BE THERE IN E

DARK PLACES, AND DID YOU FIND OF

HE'S FAITHFUL?

OH YES, OH YES, HE SHOWED ME

THROUGH READING ANNE OF GREEN

GABLES, THAT I COULD BE LIKE AN,

AND WHEN HE SHOWED ME THAT THEN

I BECAME INTERESTED IN MAKING

PROGRESS, AND STEPPING OUT FROM

WHERE I'D BEEN HIDING.

NOW HOW DID THAT RELATE? ANNE

OF GREEN GABLES?

WELL, BECAUSE YOU SEE, AT THE

SAME TIME I BECAME TO UNDERSTAND

ALL THESE LIES. MY COUNSELOR HAA

A PICTURE OF ME BEING IN A PRIS,

AND I WAS STUCK IN THIS PLACE OF

DESPAIR, AND LACK--NO HOPE. UNAE

TO MOVE, AND WE WENT ON

HOLIDAYS, AND GRANT GAVE ME ALL

HIS RELIGIOUS BOOKS WHICH DIDN'T

DO ANYTHING FOR ME. I BROUGHT

ALONG ANNE OF GREEN GABLES,

AND I READ ANNE OF GREEN

GABLES, AND THE LORD SPOKE TO

ME WHILE I WAS READING THAT.

THAT I COULD BE LIKE HER. THAT S

WHAT HE CREATED ME TO BE LIKE A-

RIGHT, JUST A SIMPLE BEAUTIFUL

PERSON, AND HE WOULD LOVE YOU JT

THE WAY YOU ARE.

RIGHT, AND SHE HAD HAD SUCH A

HORRIBLE PAST, AND HAD RISEN ABE

IT, AND EVEN THOUGH I HADN'T HAA

HORRIBLE PAST, I WAS IN A HORRIE

PLACE, AND HE WAS CALLING ME OU,

AND SO THE FACT THAT HE WANTED E

TO SEE THAT, IT WAS REALLY SIGN.

WELL I LOVE THE WAY THAT GOD

BRINGS VERY SIMPLE THINGS TO SHW

US HIS TRUTHS. THANK YOU SO MUCH

KATHY, I APPRECIATE THAT. UP NET

PART THREE OF OUR SERIES MARRIAE

ON THE ROCK. THIS IS PHILLIP, AD

HOLLY WAGMEN.

MUSIC

JESUS CHALLENGED US TO LOVE OR

NEIGHBOR AS WE LOVE OUR SELF. SO

REALLY WE'RE ONLY GOING TO BE

EFFECTIVE AT LOVING SOMEONE ELSE

IF WE LOVE WHO WE ARE. IF WE

VALUE WHO GOD'S MADE US TO BE,

AND IT'S MUCH EASIER TO BUILD A

RELATIONSHIP WITH A CONFIDENT

PERSON. NOT ARROGANT, JUST

CONFIDENT. SOMEONE WHO KNOWS

WHO THEY ARE, AND GOD. SEE I AM

NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR PHILLIP'S SF

ESTEEM. HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FR

MINE. I HAVE TO HAVE MY OWN

RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. I HAVE TE

COMMITTED TO GROWING, AND

BECOMING A HEALTHY PERSON.

YEAH, WHEN YOU'RE A HEALTHIER

YOU, THEN YOU CAN BRING THAT

STRENGTH TO THE RELATIONSHIP.

TO THE RELATIONSHIP.

TRYING TO--RATHER THAN TRYING

TO TAKE STRENGTH FROM THE OTHER

PERSON.

EXACTLY, YOU KNOW, AND MARRIAE

IS OFTEN TIMES THEY'LL BE THIS-E

UNITY CANDLE. YOU KNOW WHERE THE

BRIDE HAS HER CANDLE, AND THE

GROOM HAS HIS CANDLE, AND AT ONE

POINT IN THE CEREMONY, YOU KNOW,

THE TWO LIGHT THE ONE IN THE MI,

AND BLOW OUT THEIR CANDLE, AND W

THIS NEW ONE'S GOING. OKAY I GEE

POINT, BUT HONESTLY I THINK REAY

THE PICTURE OF TWO BECOMING ONE

IS MORE LIKE THIS. LIKE LET'S SY

THAT HE IS THIS ROPE, AND SHE IS

THIS ROPE, AND WHEN TWO BECOME

ONE, THEN TWO FORM A UNION THAT

IS MUCH STRONGER THAN THEY WOULD

HAVE BEEN ON THEIR OWN. BUT SHE

DOESN'T DISAPPEAR. HE DOESN'T

DISAPPEAR. IT'S WHEN THEY--THE

STRONGER THAT I GET, THE STRONGR

THE MARRIAGE IS. THE STRONGER TT

PHILLIP GETS. THE STRONGER THE

MARRIAGE IS.

YEAH AND WHEN YOU ARE MORE

CONFIDENT, AND ACCEPTING OF WHO

YOU ARE, AND HEALTHIER, THEN YOU

COULD ALSO GIVE. I CAN CONTRIBUE

TO YOUR DREAMS, AND YOUR LIFE, D

NOT TRY TO COMPETE, BECAUSE I

WANT--I'M TRYING TO MAKE MYSELF

WHOLE.

RIGHT, ITS INSECURE PEOPLE WHO

CAN'T LAUGH AT THEMSELVES. THEY

TAKE EVERYTHING SO SERIOUSLY. TY

CAN'T ENCOURAGE SOMEONE ELSE.

THEY CAN'T GIVE COMPLIMENTS TO

SOMEONE ELSE, BUT SOMEONE WHO'S

CONFIDENT, THEN THEY CAN FREELY

GIVE CONFIDENCE. FREELY IN

COMPLIMENTS. FREELY ENCOURAGE,

BECAUSE THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE.

IT DOESN'T TAKE AWAY FROM ME TO

ACTUALLY SUPPORT YOU, AND THEN

HERE'S THE THING, DO YOU KNOW

SOMETIMES DOING ALL OF THIS IS

A LOT OF WORK. BUILDING A MARRIE

IS A LITTLE BIT OF WORK, AND THN

SOMETIMES WE WILL COME TO THE

END OF OURSELVES. THE END OF OUR

ROPE. YOU KNOW, WE WON'T COME

TO THE END OF OUR SELF, AND WE--

FORGIVING IS HARD. LOVING IS HA.

ADMIRING IS HARD. WE JUST DON'T

KNOW WHAT TO DO, AND THAT'S

ACTUALLY WHEN ECCLESIASTES TALKS

ABOUT THAT THIRD CORD, AND SO TS

WHEN, YOU KNOW, IF YOU ACTUALLY

ALLOW THE PRESENCE OF GOD INTO R

MARRIAGE, AND THAT WHEN HE, YOU

KNOW WHEN HE STREAMS THROUGH

HERE; THEN THIS IS A CORD THAT

CANNOT BE BROKEN.

AS I SAID, THAT THREEFOLD CORD

THAT CANNOT BE BROKEN.

THE THREEFOLD CORD, IT CAN'T

BE BROKEN, AND SO AGAIN, DO THE

WORK. FIGURE OUT WHAT IT IS IN

YOUR OWN SOUL. SOME WORK THAT

YOU NEED TO DO, AND WE ALL HAVE.

YEAH.

WE DIDN'T COME AS PERFECT

PEOPLE INTO THIS MARRIAGE. I MEN

WELL YOU PRACTICALLY PERFECT, BE

DIDN'T, AND SO WE HAD SOME WORK

TO DO, AND SO WHATEVER THAT IS

FOR YOU. LOOK AT WHERE THERE'S

INSECURITIES IN YOUR OWN SOUL. E

HONEST. BE HONEST.

MUSIC

YOU KNOW THAT'S SO COOL. WHEN

YOU LOOK AT OUR RELATIONSHIP, AD

OUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH THE ESTEEM

THAT WE GIVE. YOU KNOW, ONE OF

THE THINGS I LOVE WITH KAREN, TI

GET AN OPPORTUNITY TO DO, IS MAE

SURE THAT SHE HAS A SECURE

ENVIRONMENT. THAT SHE DOESN'T

HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT ANYTHING, AD

THEN PART OF THAT SECURE

ENVIRONMENT GOES WITH PRACTICALY

JUST MAKING THE BED EVERY MORNI,

AND MAKING SURE I WASH DISHES AS

WELL, AND I'M AGRICULTURAL AS W.

I'M NOT A GARDENER, BUT I AM

AGRICULTURAL.

YOU KNOW I'M JUST TRYING TO

PICTURE THAT. BRIAN WARREN, THE

BIG JOCK. THE FOOTBALL PLAYER GS

UP. MAKES THE BED, AND THEN YOU

GO AND YOU TIDY UP THE KITCHEN.

WELL, YOU KNOW, EVER SINCE I A

LITTLE--

HE'S A GOOD MAN.

EVERY SINCE I WAS A LITTLE KII

ALWAYS GOT UP IN THE MORNING.

MAKE MY BED.

YES.

YOU KNOW YOU CAN ACTUALLY

BOUNCE A QUARTER ON THE BED.

NOW YOU GUYS ARE PROBABLY SAYIN,

NOW THIS GUYS JUST TOO--BUT WHAT

ABOUT YOU?

>I THINK IT'S ME.

AS FAR AS WHEN YOU LOOK AT A

CORD OF THREE NOT BLOWING OUT

THE UNITY CANDLE, BUT YOU KNOW,

OUR LIVES SORT OF INTERTWINING,W

DO YOU GIVE SELF ESTEEM, AND HOW

DO YOU SHOW IT?

WELL, I'M AN EASY GOING PERSO.

OKAY.

AND SO WHAT I LIKE TO BRING TO

THE TABLE IS LITTLE TINY FRUSTRS

THAT KIND OF GO ON IN A FAMILY.U

KNOW, I LIKE TO JUST BRING PEACD

CALM INTO THE SITUATION, AND SO

USUALLY--

WITH A JOKE? A LITTLE LEVITY?

WITH A JOKE, AND SOMETIMES I

LAUGH AT THE--I LAUGH AT, YOU K,

WHEN OTHER PEOPLE KIND OF GET

UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING. I KIND OF

MAKE A JOKE ABOUT IT, AND I JUSO

YOU KNOW IT'S NOT THAT BIG A DE,

AND THEN YOU GO ABOUT DOING THOE

THINGS THAT MAKE LIFE A LITTLE T

EASIER; RATHER THAN GETTING UPS.

YOU KNOW, FOR INSTANCE, THERE'SL

THESE SHOES ALWAYS LEFT AT THE T

OF THE DOOR; SUCH AN ANNOYANCE.

NOW WHOSE SHOES ARE THEY?

WELL IT'S THE KIDS.

OKAY.

AND YOU KNOW IT'S MY

HUSBANDS, AND SO IT'S SUCH A

SIMPLE MATTER TO JUST GO, THAT'S

ANNOYING, BUT JUST LINE THEM UP

AGAIN. YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?

YEAH.

PUT IT AWAY, AND THEN NOBODY'S

UPSET, AND YOU JUST MOVE ON, AND

IT'S JUST A SMALL THING, BECAUSR

ALL--

YEAH, AND I THINK THAT'S WHAT

PEOPLE DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU.

YOU'RE SUCH A MOM AS WELL. NOT

JUST A WIFE, BUT A MOM. YOU KNOW

ALWAYS CARING--

I LIKE BEING A MOM.

AND YOU DO. YOU'RE COMPASSION

AND LOVE SHOWS.

YEAH, IT'S WONDERFUL.

YEAH, YOU KNOW WE LOVE BEING

WITH YOU, AND WE LOOK FORWARD TO

BEING WITH YOU ALL AGAIN REAL S.

TILL NEXT TIME, I'M BRIAN WARRE.

AND I'M LAURA LYNN TYLER

THOMPSON. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY

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