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700 Club Interactive: Keeping Clean From Porn - June 21, 2013

What does it take to get clean? Dr. Douglas Weiss shares how to break the addiction to pornography Read Transcript


Gordon: THE WAR IS ON

AND THE FIGHT IS DIRTY.

I'VE BEEN THROUGH THE

SITE, AND WE DISCOVERED THAT

OUR PRECIOUS, 11-YEAR-OLD

SON, HAD BEEN THROUGH

HUNDREDS OF INTERNET

PORNOGRAPHY SITES AND THE

MIDDLE OF THE PREVIOUS

PROGRAMS.

Gordon: WINNING THE

BATTLE OVER AMERICA'S MOST

COSTLY ADDICTION.

ON TODAY'S "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE."

Gordon: ON "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE," WE USE

TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY FOR EACH

OTHER AND EXPLORE TOPICS

THAT MATTER TO YOU.

WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN

THE WORLD TODAY.

WELL, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.

THERE IS A BOOMING INDUSTRY

THAT GENERATES OVER

$10 MILLION AN HOUR.

ITS COSTUMERS ARE YOUNG AND

OLD, MALE AND FEMALE, AND

STUDIES HAVE PROVED THAT

THIS PRODUCT IS AS ADDICTIVE

AS HEROIN.

Terry: PORNOGRAPHY WAS

ONCE A TABOO SUBJECT THAT

FEW DARED TO ADDRESS.

HOWEVER, TIMES ARE CHANGING,

AND PEOPLE ARE NOW SPEAKING

UP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.

EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT

LOOKING FOR IT, YOU COULD BE

INNOCENT.

IF YOU GO ON THE COMPUTER,

ON THE INTERNET AND YOU'RE

LOOKING FOR SOMETHING GOOD,

IT WILL FIND YOU.

Reporter: 15 YEARS OLD

ZACH IS TALKING ABOUT PORN,

AND IT IS HARD-CORE.

WHILE INNOCENTLY SURFING THE

NET, YOUR CHILD COULD COME

FACE TO FACE WITH A SEXUALLY

EXPLICIT POP-UP AD.

IT IS DEVIENT, ABHORRENT.

KIDS ARE SEEING CONTENT THAT

NO 12 OR 13-YEAR-OLD IS

MENTALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY OR

EMOTIONALLY PREPARED TO DEAL

WITH.

Reporter: IF PARENTS

DON'T KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR

OR HOW TO PROTECT THEIR KIDS

ONLINE, THE CLICK OF A MOUSE

CAN USHER IN A NIGHTMARE.

WE WENT THROUGH A

MINIMIZED CORN SITE, WE

DISCOVERED OUR PRECIOUS,

11-YEAR-OLD SON, HAD BEEN TO

HUNDREDS OF INTERNET

PORNOGRAPHY SITES.

Reporter: RENEE'S SON

BECAME HOOKED.

WE HAVE SPENT THE LAST 10

YEARS TRYING TO KEEP OUR SON

AWAY FROM THIS DRUG WITH

LITTLE SUCCESS.

SEEKING COUNSELLORS WHO

COULD HELP HIM, AND BEING

FRUSTRATED AND ANGRY WE WERE

UNABLE TO PROTECT OUR

CHILD.

Reporter: MORALITY AND

MEDIA PRESIDENT PATRICK

TRUMAN TELLS CBN NEWS THE

$100 MILLION PORN INDUSTRY

BLANKETS THE WEBSITE WITH

MILLIONS OF PORN SITES.

AND ADULTS ALSO BECOME

INTENTIONALLY ADDICTED,

WHILE PORN EXECUTIVES BECOME

INCREDIBLY WEALTHY.

THE BULK OF THE

COMMERCIAL PORNOGRAPHY

INDUSTRY IS A RELATIVE

HANDFUL, 60, 80 COMPANIES,

THAT CONTROL MOST OF THOSE

COMMERCIAL SITES.

YOU DON'T JUST GET REVENUE

WHEN SOMEONE BUYS YOUR VIDEO

OR BUYS TIME ON YOUR WEBSITE

FOR EITHER A LIVE

PERFORMANCE OR TO VIEW A

VIDEO.

Reporter: SIMPLY

CLICKING ON A POP-UP AD

FILLS THE COUG COFFER

WITHOUT THE COMPANY GETTING

ANYTHING.

IT IS A BUSINESS MODEL

THAT GOOGLE HAS.

THE MORE YOU CLICK, THE MORE

MONEY THEY MAKE.

SOME PEOPLE THINK I JUST

LOOK AT IT A LITTLE BIT.

YES, AND EVERY TIME YOU DO,

THE PORN INDUSTRY MAKES

MONEY.

AND YOU MULTIPLY THAT WITH

MILLIONS OF PEOPLE WHO DO

THE SAME THING, THE

PORNOGRAPHIC COMPANY IS

GETTING PAID OFF OF YOU.

Reporter: FAMILIES NEED

TO BLOCK CONTENT AND

ESTABLISH SAFETY RULES FOR

KIDS AND ADULTS.

THIS CAN BE DONE THROUGH

FILTERING AND MONITORING

SOFTWARE, AND THROUGH

ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS.

EVERY WEBSITE THAT

INDIVIDUAL GOES TO, YOU GET

AN E-MAIL GIVING YOU THE

SITE WHERE THEY'VE BEEN.

THAT IS ACCOUNTABILITY.

KNOW WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE

DOING ON LINE, AND STAY

ENGAGED WITH THEM.

RECOGNIZE YOU CAN'T DO IT

ALONE.

E NEED SOME HELP.

Reporter: TIMELY

ADVICE, ESPECIALLY WITH

RESEARCH SHOWING PORN'S

EFFECT ON THE FAMILY.

FOUR OUT OF FIVE TEENS

ACCESS IT ON LINE.

AND HALF OF THE DIVORCED

COUPLE BLAME PORNOGRAPHY

SITES AS A REASON FOR THEIR

BREAK UP.

Gordon: JOINING US IS

AUTHOR AND ADDICTION

COUNSELLOR DOUG WEINSTEIN.

WHY IS PORNOGRAPHY SO

ADDICTIVE.

THE SCRIPTURE SAYS WHEN

WE SIN SEXUALLY, WE SIN

AGAINST OUR OWN BODY.

I HAVE TWO DEGREES, AND THEY

COULDN'T HELP ME SOLVE THAT

ONE.

WHEN WE HAVE A SEXUAL

ENCOUNTER WITH OURSELVES OR

ANYONE ELSE, WE GET THE FREE

FRONTAL CORT TEEX OF OUR

BRAIN WITH THAT JUICE GOING

THROUGH YOUR BRAIN.

HERE IS THE TRICK, WHATEVER

YOU'RE LOOKING AT, REAL OR

IMAGINARY, YOU WILL HUNGER

FOR, CRAVE, AND YOU'LL WANT

TO REPEAT AGAIN.

THE ENEMY KNOWS IF HE CAN

GET US ATTACHED TO AN

OBJECT, WE BECOME VERY

ADDICTED TO THAT OBJECT.

AND I'VE BEEN FREE FOR 25

YEARS.

AND I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE

TO GO THROUGH.

I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE

TORTURED LIKE THAT.

YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE LIVING

TWO LIVES, AND WHY IS THIS

SO FRUSTRATING.

I AND KNOW WHAT THAT IS LIKE

PERSONALLY, AND

PROFESSIONALLY FOR HELPING

GUYS GET FREE.

Gordon: HOW DO GUYS GET

FREE?

THIS IS A HUGE PROBLEM.

LITERALLY FOR PEOPLE GROWING

UP IN AMERICA, YOU WILL BE

EXPOSED, NOT JUST ONCE OR

TWICE.

THEY SEEM TO BE TROLLING THE

SITES, TRYING TO GET YOU

ADDICTED.

OH, YES, THEY'RE

RECRUITING YOU.

IT IS A MARRIAGE FAMILY, AND

A FAMILY PROBLEM.

THE FAMILY UNIT BEING

DESTROYED, PORNOGRAPHY IS AT

THE BASE OF THAT.

HOW WE GET FREE IS FIRST WE

GET HONEST.

A LOT OF PEOPLE WANT TO GET

HONEST WITH JESUS, BUT NOT

WITH THEIR PASTOR OR THEIR

WIFE.

YOU WANT TO CONFESS TO

JESUS, BUT YOU NEED TO

CONFESS TO ANOTHER BROTHER

IF YOU WANT TO BE HEALED.

SO MANY ARE FORGIVEN BUT NOT

HEALED.

50% OF THE MEN IN THE CHURCH

ARE FORGIVEN BUT NOT

HEALED.

IF YOU HEAL THEM, THEY

DOUBLE THEIR INCOME.

THEY INCREASE THEIR ABILITY

TO BE EMOTIONALLY AND

SPIRITUALLY MATURE IN THEIR

HOME.

TO BE BETTER DADS.

BEING OFF THE DRUG IS HUGE.

YOU FEEL BETTER.

YOU FEEL CLEAN.

THAT'S WHY WE CALL IT

CLEAN.

BECAUSE EVERY MAN IN HIS

HEART WHO IS A BELIEVER IN

CHRIST WANTS TO BE CLEAN.

Gordon: WHY DOES THIS

SIN WANT TO HIDE?

THERE SEEMS TO BE A LOT OF

GUILT AND SHAME WITH IT.

IN MY EXPERIENCE WHEN GUYS

GET FREE AND HONEST ABOUT

IT, THERE IS A REAL RELEASE

FOR THEM.

TOTALLY.

Gordon: IT IS LIKE THE

PRISONER IS OKAY, AND ALL OF

THE CONSEQUENCES I THOUGHT

OF THAT IT IS GOING TO HAVE,

I'M NOT.

THERE ARE TWO WAYS TO

HUMILITY: YOU CAN HUMBLE

YOURSELF OR YOU CAN BE

HUMILIATED.

Gordon: OR YOU CAN GET

CAUGHT.

I ENCOURAGE GUYS -- WE

HAVE PEOPLE FLY IN FROM ALL

OVER THE COUNTRY TO COLORADO

SPRINGS, THEY FELT WHEN THEY

TOLD THEIR WIFE THEY WERE

GOING TO DIE AND THEIR WIFE

WAS GOING TO LEAVE THEM.

VERY FEW DO.

THEY WANT AN HONEST MAN.

MOST WILL WORK WITH YOU.

MOST THINK THEY'LL LOSE THE

RESPECT OF THEIR PASTOR.

THE REVERSE HAPPENS.

THEY RESPECT YOU FOR YOUR

HONESTY, AND MONTHS LATER

THEY SAY CAN YOU LEAD US IN

A GROUP BECAUSE WE'VE GOT

100 OF THESE GUYS IN OUR

CHURCH, AND CAN YOU HELP.

THE FEAR OF THAT AND THE

PRIDE IS ALL THAT IS KEEPING

MOST GUYS FROM GETTING

FREE.

Gordon: THE FIRST STEP,

GETTING HONEST, CONFESSING.

FIND A PASTOR OR SOMEONE YOU

CAN BE ACCOUNTABLE TO, LET

YOUR SPOUSE KNOW.

WHAT'S YOUR NEXT ONE?

BECAUSE THE RATE OF GOING

BACK TO THIS ADDICTION IS

REALLY HIGH.

IT IS REALLY HIGH IF YOU

TRY TO DO IT BY YOURSELF.

YOU WILL FAIL IF YOU WANT TO

DO IT BY YOURSELF.

WE GET BETTER AS A TEAM.

WE INHERENT THE LAND

TOGETHER.

IT WASN'T MOSES WHO IN

INHERITED THE LAND.

IT WAS WE.

YOU NEED TO FIND ACCOUNTABLE

GUYS.

IF YOU'RE BRAIN IS LUSTING A

LOT, GET THE RUBBERBAND AND

PUT IT ON YOUR WRIST AND

SNAP IT IN ABOUT ONE MONTH,

80% OF THAT LUST WILL BE

REDUCED.

THE ENEMY IS RENDERING A LOT

OF -- RENTING A LOT OF SPACE

IN CHRISTIAN BRAINS.

BLOCK YOUR CELL PHONE FROM

PORNOGRAPHY.

IF YOU HAVE A PHONE,

DISCONNECT THE BROWSER SO

YOU'RE NOT LOOKING AT THE

INTERNET.

THE INTERNET IS MOSTLY

PORNOGRAPHY WITH SOME OTHER

FEATURES.

I HAVEN'T LOOKED AT

PORNOGRAPHY IN 25 YEARS, BUT

I HAVE A BLOCKER ON MY

PHONE.

I DON'T WANT TO BE RAPED BY

THAT ANYMORE.

THERE ARE PRACTICAL THINGS

LIKE THAT YOU CAN DO.

Gordon: WHEN AS A

CULTURE ARE WE GOING TO

RECOGNIZE THIS IS LITERALLY

DESTROYING US FROM THE

INSIDE OUT.

UNFORTUNATELY, AMERICA

HAS THE SAME CONSEQUENCES

THAT MOST SEX ADDICTS HAVE,

OUT OF CONTROL FINANCIALLY,

NOT FULFILLING THEIR

SPIRITUAL DESTINY, AND POOR

LEADERSHIP.

OHOH, MY GOD DO WE HAVE

POOR LEADERSHIP.

SO WE'RE ALREADY HAVING THE

CONSEQUENCES.

SOMETIMES IT TAKES HITTING

BOTTOM UNTIL YOU WAKE UP.

WHETHER THAT IS A FINANCIAL

BOTTOM OR A SPIRITUAL

BOTTOM.

MY HEART IS THAT THE MEN IN

THE CHURCH WILL BECOME CLEAN

SO WE CAN LEAD THE WAY.

SO WERE CAN AVOID THAT.

Gordon: BUT I'M NOT

HEARING ANY CALL AT ALL

ANYMORE.

I HEAR A LOT OF CALL ABOUT

RECOVERY, BUT I'M NOT

HEARING A CALL AT ALL THAT

WE NEED TO PREVENT THIS FROM

HAPPENING TO THE

GENERATION --

YOU ARE TODAY BECAUSE THE

CHURCH IS AT WAR.

PORNOGRAPHY IS THE ENEMY.

AND CLEAN IS OUR WAR

DOCUMENT BACK THAT WE WILL

FIGHT.

THE CHURCH HAS NEVER LOST A

BATTLE IN WORLD HISTORY ONCE

SHE KNEW SHE WAS AT WAR.

BUT FOR 30 YEARS, SHE HAS

BEEN SEDUCED AND REDUCED,

NOT KNOWING SHE WAS AT WAR.

IT USED BE TO TAKING A SMALL

PERCENTAGE OF THE CHURCH,

BUT WHEN YOU HAVE 50% OF THE

CHURCH, IT IS TIME TO GO TO

WAR.

AND ANY MAN CAN WIN.

AND ANY WOMEN CAN WIN.

THEY NEED TO ASK THEIR

HUSBANDS, WHEN WAS THE LAST

TIME YOU VIEWED

PORNOGRAPHY.

ARE YOU THE 50% THAT ARE

GOOD OR THE 50% WHO ARE

NOT.

PLEASE, HONEY, DON'T LIE TO

ME.

WOMEN CAN HELP IN THE

BATTLE.

YOU GET THE MEN LEARNING

THESE PRINCIPLES OF HONEST

AND CONFESSION, AND THAT

WOMEN ARE HOLY AND THEY'RE

NOT OBJECTS.

THEY'RE DAUGHTERS OF GOD.

YOU CAN'T LUST AND FEAR GOD

AT THE SAME TIME.

IT CAN'T BE DONE.

YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?

Gordon: YES.

I'M EXCITED BECAUSE THERE

ARE CHURCHES STARTING

GROUPS, AND CHURCHES WHO ARE

USING CLEAN, AND THERE ARE

CHURCHES WHO ARE SAYING

WE'LL TALK ABOUT SEX AND

TALK ABOUT PORNOGRAPHY.

NOT ESPECIALLY BECAUSE THEY

WANTED TO, BUT NOW THEY HAVE

TO.

I MET A PASTOR ONCE AND HE

SAID I'M SO GLAD I'M SEEING

YOU TODAY BECAUSE SO FAR

FIVE MEN HAVE TOLD ME

THEY'RE STRUGGLING WITH

PORNOGRAPHY.

THAT IS IN ONE PASTOR'S

DAY.

SO WE'RE GETTING MORE

ACTIVE.

I BELIEVE THE CHURCH IS

GOING TO WIN.

IF THE CHURCH WINS, AMERICA

WINS.

IF THE CHURCH LOSES, AMERICA

LOSES.

Gordon: I'M NOT

SURPRISED IF YOU LOOK AT THE

STATISTICS.

WE'RE IN AN EP DISK.

EPIDEMIC.

ABSOLUTELY.

AND THE CHURCH IS THE

ONLY PLAN GOD HAS ON EARTH.

IF THE CHURCH WILL OPEN UP

THEIR DOORS AND SAY COME

IN.

YOU GUYS ARE SICK.

WE'RE GOING TO LOVE YOU AND

SEND YOU OUT TO CHANGE THE

WORLD.

Gordon: AND THE CHURCH

WAS BIRTHED IN A

SEX-SATURATED SOCIETY.

ABSOLUTELY.

THIS ISN'T NEW.

IT IS MORE TECHNOLOGY.

BUT THE BATTLE IS THE SAME.

IT WENT FROM THE LITTLE

BOOKSTORES TO THE CELL

PHONE.

Gordon: RIGHT.

THE ENEMY HAS AMPED IT UP

BECAUSE HE IS AFTER THE

CHURCHES IN AMERICA.

Gordon: IF YOU HAVE A

PROBLEM AND WANT TO GET

CLEAN, GET DOUG'S BOOK.

"IT'S CLEAN."

AND IT'S AVAILABLE WHEREVER

BOOKS ARE SOLD.

IF YOU ARE OR A LOVED ONE IS

STRUGGLING WITH THIS ISSUE,

WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.

THIS IS A SAFE PLACE.

CALL US.

THE NUMBER IS ON THE SCREEN,

1-888-777-1999.

TERRY, OVER TO YOU.

Terry: COMING UP, A

HUMAN TRAFFICKING VICTIM

ESCAPES THE STREETS ONLY TO

FIND A HOME WITH A BIG

PROBLEM.

HEAR WHAT HAPPENED.

THAT'S NEXT.

Terry: IN MUMBAI,

INDIA, NEARLY 100,000 GIRLS

ARE TRAPPED INSIDE

BROTHELS.

SOME LUCKY ONES ARE ABLE TO

MAKE IT TO SAFE HOUSES,

WHERE CBN IS HELPING THEM TO

GET WHAT THEY NEED.

SHANU LIVES IN MUMBAI,

INDIA.

WHEN SHE WAS EIGHT YEARS

OLD, SHE WAS FORCED INTO

PROSTITUTION.

THEY ROBBED ME OF MY

DIGNITY.

I FELT LIKE MY HEART TURNED

TO STONE.

I WAS HELPLESS.

Terry: THEN WHEN SHANU

WAS 16 YEARS OLD, AN

ORGANIZATION CALLED BOMBAY

TEEN CHALLENGED RESCUED HER

FROM THE STREETS.

THEY PROVIDED HER WITH A

SAFE PLACE TO STAY.

I LEARNED ABOUT JESUS

HERE.

HE RENEWED MY LIFE.

Terry: BUT THIS SAFE

HOUSE HAD A MAJOR PROBLEM, A

SEVERE WATER SHORTAGE.

THEY USED TO BRING WATER

TANKERS.

WE WOULD FILL OUR BUCKETS,

CARRY THEM TO OUR ROOMS AND

STORE THE WATER IN A LARGE

DRUM.

BUT SOMETIMES THE WATER

TRUCK WOULD NOT COME.

IT WAS VERY DIFFICULT.

Terry: WITHOUT ENOUGH

WATER, THE HOME WOULD BE

FORCED TO SHUT DOWN.

SO "OPERATION BLESSING" CAME

IN AND DUG THREE WELLS.

NOW THERE IS ENOUGH WATER

FOR THE 275 CHILDREN WHO

LIVE HERE.

NOW WE GET PLENTY OF

WATER FROM THE WELLS.

WE DON'T HAVE TO CARRY OUR

BUCKETS ANYMORE.

I CAN BRING WATER TO MY ROOM

ANY TIME.

I'M SO HAPPY FOR THAT.

THANK YOU, "OPERATION

BLESSING."

WHEN WE WERE IN NEED, YOU

PEOPLE CAME AND HELPED US.

THANK YOU SO MUCH.

Terry: YOU KNOW, THAT

IS JUST A BANNER THAT SHOULD

BE OVER EVERY "700 CLUB"

MEMBER.

WHEN WE WERE IN NEED, YOU

PEOPLE CAME AND YOU HELPED

US.

THAT'S WHAT WE'RE COMMITTED

TO DOING TO PEOPLE IN NEED

ALL AROUND THE WORLD.

AND IF YOU'RE NOT A PART OF

"THE 700 CLUB," YOU'RE

MISSING OUT ON A WONDERFUL

OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE A

DIFFERENCE.

I HOPE YOU COULD SEE IT IN

THAT STORY.

LIVES, MANY, MANY OF THEM,

CHANGED.

AND THEY REMEMBER THAT IT

WAS THE PEOPLE OF GOD WHO

CAME TO HELP THEM.

WILL YOU JOIN "THE 700 CLUB"

TODAY?

IT IS 65 CENTS A DAY, $20 A

MONTH.

THAT MAKES YOU A "700 CLUB"

MEMBER.

IT IS SO SIMPLE TO JOIN.

OUR NUMBER IS TOLL-FREE,

1-888-777-1999.

OR YOU CAN JOIN WITH US BY

LOGGING ON TO CBN.COM.

DO SOMETHING TODAY TO MAKE A

DIFFERENCE.

GOD WANTS TO USE YOU AND ME

TO SPREAD HIS LOVE AND HIS

CARE TO OTHERS.

SO CALL NOW.

WELL, STILL AHEAD, A PORN

ADDICT IS CAUGHT BY HIS

WIFE.

SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN HIS

SECRET IS REVEALED.

THAT IS ALL HAPPENING WHEN

WE COME BACK.

Gordon: FOUR DECADES

AGO, JOHN SAW PORNOGRAPHY

FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME.

THAT DAY HE DIDN'T JUST OPEN

UP THE PAGES OF A MAGAZINE.

JOHN OPENED UP HIS WORLD TO

A LIFETIME OF ADDICTION.

THE FIRST TIME I LOOKED

AT PORNOGRAPHY IT WAS

EXCITING, BUT YET I FELT

LIKE I WAS DOING SOMETHING

WRONG, SOMETHING I WAS NOT

SUPPOSED TO BE THE DOING.

IT WAS DIFFICULT TO PUT IT

DOWN.

IT WAS DIFFICULT TO WALK

AWAY FROM IT.

THE ADDICTION BEGAN TO TAKE

ROOT.

Reporter: JOHN WAS A

YOUNG BOY WHEN HE FIRST SAW

PORNOGRAPHIC MAGAZINES AT A

FRIEND'S HOUSE.

IT WASN'T LONG BEFORE HE HAD

HIS OWN STACK OF MAGAZINES

AND A SECRET ADDICTION.

A LOT OF SNEAKING AROUND,

A LOT OF SECRECY.

A CYCLE OF

SELF-GRATIFICATION, LOOKING

AT THE MAGAZINES, IT

CONTINUED THROUGHOUT MY

TEENAGED YEARS.

Reporter: HE MARRIED

JOY AT 19.

AND HOPED HIS ADDICTION WAS

OVER.

IT WASN'T.

AND THE INTERNET MADE IT

EASY TO BE DISCRETE AT

HOME.

THERE WAS THIS EUPHORIC

FEELING THAT STWEP SWEPT

THROUGH ME AND TOOK ME TO

ANOTHER PLACE.

SOME OF THE STUFF THAT WAS

POPPING UP WAS A LOT MORE

GRAPHIC, MORE SEXUALLY

EXPLICIT, THAN WHAT I WAS

EXPOSED TO EVEN AS A

TEENAGER IN THE MAGAZINES I

LOOKED AT.

I HAD THIS FEELING OF, LIKE,

WOW HERE WE GO AGAIN.

THIS THING HAS FOLLOWED ME

INTO MY MARRIAGE.

I FOUND MYSELF RETREATING TO

MY OFFICE AND SPENDING MORE

AND MORE TIME LOOKING AT

PORNOGRAPHY ON THE COMPUTER,

AND ONCE AGAIN, KEEPING IT A

SECRET FROM MY WIFE.

Reporter: JOHN BECAME A

CHRISTIAN IN HIS 20s, BUT

STILL FELT POWERLESS TO

OVERCOME HIS PORN

ADDICTION.

BECAUSE OF THE GUILT AND

THE SHAME, I BEGAN TO

WITHDRAW FROM THE LORD.

LOOKING BACK, THERE WAS

PROBABLY EVEN A WITHDRAWAL

FROM MY WIFE, EVEN EARLY

ON.

AND THE GUILT WAS TELLING ME

THAT I WAS DOING SOMETHING

WRONG.

AND THE SHAME WAS TELLING ME

I WAS WRONG, THAT THERE WAS

SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME.

Reporter: HIS SECRET

WAS REVEALED WHEN JOY WALKED

INTO HIS OFFICE.

SHE WAS SHOCKED TO SEE

PICTURES OF NAKED WOMEN ON

HIS COMPUTER SCREEN.

IT WAS ALMOST LIKE I JUST

PUT A KNIFE INTO HER.

SHE HAD THAT LOOK IN HER

FACE, IN HER EYES, LIKE YOU

JUST BETRAYED ME.

HOW COULD YOU?

AFTER ALL THAT WE'VE BEEN

THROUGH.

THE TRUST WAS GONE.

EVERYTHING THAT WE HAD BUILT

OVER THE YEARS OF OUR

MARRIAGE WAS GONE.

THERE WAS NOTHING I COULD

SAY.

MY WORDS MEANT NOTHING.

MY APOLOGY MEANT NOTHING.

I'M SORRY MEANT NOTHING.

Reporter: HOPE FINALLY

ARRIVED WHEN A FRIEND GAVE

JOHN A C.D. CALLED

"SOMEBODY'S DAUGHTER, A

JOURNEY TO FREEDOM FROM

PORNOGRAPHY."

I JUST WANTED TO BE FREE,

MAN.

I WANTED TO BE PURE.

I WAS A CHRISTIAN, AND I

WANTED TO GET BACK THAT

INTIMACY THAT I HAD EARLY

ON, AS A NEW CHRISTIAN, AS A

NEW BELIEVER.

I REMEMBER THE FIRST DAY

THAT I EVER LISTENED TO THAT

C.D., AND I FELT LIKE FOR

THE VERY FIRST TIME THAT

THERE WAS HOPE.

IT WAS LIKE SOMEBODY WAS

SAYING TO ME I KNOW WHERE

YOU'RE AT.

I KNOW WHAT YOU'VE GONE

THROUGH.

I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING

THROUGH NOW.

AND THEY WERE TELLING ME

THAT YOU CAN GET THROUGH

THIS.

AND I FELT LIKE AT THAT

PARTICULAR POINT THAT GOD

WAS ANSWERING MY PRAYER.

Reporter: JOHN TOOK THE

FIRST STEPS ON HIS JOURNEY

TOWARDS FREEDOM FROM

PORNOGRAPHY.

IT REALLY STARTED WITH ME

BEING HONEST AND BEING

VULNERABLE AND SAYING THIS

IS WHERE I'M AT.

THE THING ABOUT SEXUAL SIN

IS THAT IT THRIVES IN

SECRECY AND DARKNESS.

THAT'S WHERE IT LIVES.

ONCE I BEGAN TO VERBALIZE MY

ADDICTION, THE POWER BEGAN

TO SUBSIDE.

AND IT STARTED TO DIMINISH.

ALMOST OVERNIGHT.

THE INTIMACY THAT I ONCE HAD

WITH GOD HAS RETURNED.

THERE IS A PASSAGE OF

SCRIPTURE IN PSALM 51 THAT

SAYS: "RESTORE UNTO ME THE

JOY OF THY SALVE

SALVATION."

AND BEING FREE, THAT JOY HAS

BEEN RESTORED.

MY WIFE AND I WILL BE

CELEBRATING 30 YEARS OF

MARRIAGE.

AND I'M PROUD OF THAT.

I REALLY AM.

SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.

Reporter: JOHN RUNS

"UNSHACKLED MINISTRIES."

HE IS DEVOTED TO HELP MEN

FIND FREEDOM FROM

PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION, JUST

AS HE DID.

THE BIBLE SAYS,

"THEREFORE THERE IS NO

CONDEMNATION FOR THOSE WHO

ARE IN CHRIST JESUS."

WHEN I READ THAT VERSE, MAN,

THAT TELLS ME THAT GOD

HIMSELF DOES NOT CONDEMN

ME.

HE DOESN'T CONDONE MY SIN,

BUT GOD LOVES ME AND THERE

IS NOTHING THAT I COULD DO

THAT COULD EVER SEPARATE ME

FROM GOD'S LOVE.

HE IS THERE WILL AND WAITING

TO SET US FREE, TO GIVE US

THE LIFE THAT WE HAVE LONGED

FOR.

IT STARTS WITH HONESTY.

IT STARTS WITH CONFESSION.

ONCE YOU BRING THIS SIN OUT

OF THE DARKNESS AND INTO THE

LIGHT, THAT'S WHEN FREEDOM

BEGINS.

Gordon: IF YOU WANT TO

DO THAT, IF YOU WANT TO

BRING THIS SIN OUT INTO THE

LIGHT, REALIZE THAT JESUS

ISN'T HERE TO CONDEMN YOU.

AND GOD IS NOT ANGRY AT

YOU.

WHAT HE WANTS IS FOR YOU TO

BE FREE.

AND HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE

RIGHTEOUSNESS.

HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE JOY.

HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE PEACE.

BUT IF YOU'RE STUCK IN A

CYCLE OF ADDICTION, YOU KNOW

ALREADY YOU DON'T HAVE ANY

OF THAT.

AND YOU'RE LIVING A LIE.

BUT HE WANTS YOU TO BE

FREE.

AND HERE IS A PROMISE FOR

YO YOU, HE SAYS, "I'LL

NEVER LEAVE YOU; I'LL NEVER

FORSAKE YOU."

WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND IN GOD

IS RIGHT THERE WITH YOU --

THE REASON YOU'RE NOT

FEELING HIM BECAUSE YOUR SIN

HAS LITERALLY DARKENED YOUR

SPIRITUAL SENSITIVITY.

GOD HASN'T GONE ANYWHERE.

YOU'RE THE ONE THAT WENT

AWAY.

THE BIBLE GIVES US A GREAT

EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL SIN AND

HOW TO REPENT FOR IT AND HOW

TO GET RESTORATION.

IT IS ALL RECORDED IN THE

STORY OF DAVID AND BATH

SHEBA.

HERE DAVID DOESN'T WANT TO

GO OFF TO THE WAR.

HE STAYS IN THE PALACE AND

STARTS WANDERING AROUND, AND

HE SEES BATHSHEBA, AND HE IS

ATTRACTED.

AND SIN BEGINS WITH A

THOUGHT.

AND HE HAS THE THOUGHT, AND

THEN BECAUSE HE IS KING, HE

SAYS, I'M GOING TO ACT ON

THIS THOUGHT.

AND HE CALLS HER TO THE

PALACE.

AND HE COMMITS ADULTERY WITH

HER.

AND THEN FINDS OUT LATER,

OH, NO, THERE ARE

CONSEQUENCES TO THIS.

SIN ALWAYS HAD

CONSEQUENCES.

AND THE CONSEQUENCE WAS

BATHSHEBA WAS PREGNANT.

NOW WHAT DO I DO?

HOW DO I HIDE MY SIN?

HE STARTS DOING ALL OF THE

THINGS TO HIDE AND TO

CONCEAL.

IT DIDN'T REALLY HAPPEN.

IT WASN'T REALLY ME.

AND HE TRIES TO MAKE

ARRANGEMENTS WITH HER

HUSBAND SO HE WILL GO SLEEP

WITH HER.

SO EVERYBODY WILL THINK HE'S

THE FATHER.

BUT NONE OF THAT HAPPENS.

AND THEN HE SAYS, WELL, I'VE

GOT TO REMOVE HIM FROM THE

PICTURE, SO HE TAKES HIS SIN

EVEN FURTHER AND COMMITS

MURDER.

NOW, IN ALL OF THAT GOD

DIDN'T LEAVE HIM.

AND THERE IS A WONDERFUL

PRAYER THAT IS RECORDED IN

THE PSALMS WHERE DAVID

REPENTS.

WHAT IS RECORDED IN 1 KINGS:

"AGAINST YOU AND YOU ONLY

HAVE I SINNED."

HE CONFESSES.

BUT THEN IN THE PSALMS HE

SAYS, "RESTORE THE JOY OF MY

SALVATION."

GOD HADN'T LEFT HIM.

WHAT HAD LEFT HIM WAS HIS

JOY AND HIS PEACE AND HIS

SENSE OF WELL-BEING.

AND IF YOU'RE LIVING IN

ADDICTION, YOU KNOW ALL OF

THAT.

WHAT I'M HERE TO TELL YOU IS

THERE IS A WAY OUT.

IF YOU'LL JUST GET HONEST

AND SAY I NEED HELP.

AND SAY TO GOD, I NEED YOU

TO RESTORE THE JOY OF MY

SALVATION.

IF YOU WANT TO GET FREE,

WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.

AND WE'RE NOT HERE TO JUDGE

YOU.

WE'RE NOT HERE TO CONDEMN

YOU.

JESUS DIDN'T COME TO THE

WORLD TO CONDEMN IT, BUT TO

SAVE IT.

AND IF YOU WANT TO LIVE A

LIFE CLEAN, AND IF YOU WANT

TO BE FREE, CALL THIS

NUMBER.

1-888-777-1999.

JUST TELL THE PERSON ON THE

OTHER END OF THE LINE, I'M

HAVING A PROBLEM HERE.

IT'S GOTTEN COMPULSIVE, AND

I NEED A BREAKTHROUGH.

AND WHEN YOU CONFESS YOUR

SINS TO ONE ANOTHER, THERE

IS REAL FREEDOM IN THAT.

AND YOU UNDERSTAND THAT YOU

CAN BE FREE, TOO.

SO IF YOU WANT THAT, CALL US

NOW.

1-888-777-1999.

THIS IS "700 CLUB

INTERACTIVE," WHERE WE

INTERACT WITH YOU, SO LET'S

GO TO JESSICA IN THE

CHATROOM.

LACEY WRITES, "CAN

SOMEONE OVERCOME A PORN

ADDICTION ON THEIR OWN.

MY FIANCE JUST SAID HE WAS

ADDICTED, BUT PRAYED ONE DAY

AND JUST STOPPED.

I WANT TO BELIEVE HIM, BUT I

AM NOT SURE HE IS PAST THE

ADDICTION.

EVEN IF HE IS, I KNOW IT

COULD EASILY COME BACK.

WHAT SHOULD I DO TO HELP

HIM?"

Gordon: YOUR FIANCE HAS

SAID HE DIDN'T OVERCOME IT

ON HIS OWN.

HE ASKED GOD TO HELP HIM.

AADDICTION CAN BE BROKEN.

AND IT IS IN THOSE MEETINGS

WITH GOD AND THAT

TRANSPARENCY WITH GOD THAT

THINGS HAPPEN.

ALL OF THE 12-STEP PROGRAMS

TALK ABOUT SURRENDER.

THAT I CAN'T BE RESTORED TO

SANITY, ONLY A HIGHER POWER

CAN DO THAT.

YOUR FIANCE IS TALKING ABOUT

THAT STEP.

AND THAT STEP CAN WORK.

BUT THERE MAY BE SOMETHING

IN BEHAVIOR PATTERNS THAT

YOU'RE NOTICING OR YOU'RE

PICKING UP.

IT WOULD BE EASY.

TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE

WEBSITE HISTORY ON HIS

COMPUTER AND SOME OTHER

THINGS AND SEE WHAT YOU

FIND.

BUT IT MIGHT BE THAT YOU

JUST NEED TO TRUST HIM.

AND YOU CAN TRUST GOD WITH

YOUR OWN FEARS, THAT WOULD

GOD HAS STARTED IN YOUR

FIANCE HE IS ABLE TO

ACCOMPLISH.

LET'S GO BACK TO JESSICA FOR

ONE MORE CHAT.

GORDON, MARIA WRITES,

"I'M A SOON TO BE MOM AND

I'M ALREADY CONCERNED ABOUT

WHAT MY CHILDREN WILL

ENCOUNTER.

IT SEEMS EVERY GUY AND MOST

GIRLS THESE DAYS HAVE SEEN

PORN AND HAVE NO PROBLEMS

WITH IT.

HOW CAN I BEGIN TO PROTECT

MY SON IS PORNOGRAPHY IS

BECOMING A CULTURAL NORM?"

Consuelo:

Gordon: RAISE UP YOUR

SIN IN THE WAY THEY SHALL GO

AND THEY WON'T DEPART FROM

THIS.

I BELIEVE THIS WHEN I RAISE

MY OWN CHILDREN.

I BELIEVE VERY MUCH IN

EXPLAINING WHY.

EXPLAIN THE POWER

PORNOGRAPHY HAS TO MAKE YOU

ADDICTED, AND THAT'S WHY YOU

NEED TO STAY AWAY FROM IT.

YOU GIVE THEM A GOOD REASON,

AND RAISE THEM UP, AND

THEY'LL STAY IN IT.

WE LEAVE YOU WITH THESE

WORDS FROM JOHN: "AND I WILL

ASK THE FATHER, AND HE WILL

GIVE YOU ANOTHER ADVOCATE,

ONE WHO WILL NEVER LEAVE

YOU.

HE IS THE HOLY SPIRIT, WHO

LEADS IN ALL TRUTH."

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