What does it take to get clean? Dr. Douglas Weiss shares how to break the addiction to pornography
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Gordon: THE WAR IS ON
AND THE FIGHT IS DIRTY.
I'VE BEEN THROUGH THE
SITE, AND WE DISCOVERED THAT
OUR PRECIOUS, 11-YEAR-OLD
SON, HAD BEEN THROUGH
HUNDREDS OF INTERNET
PORNOGRAPHY SITES AND THE
MIDDLE OF THE PREVIOUS
PROGRAMS.
Gordon: WINNING THE
BATTLE OVER AMERICA'S MOST
COSTLY ADDICTION.
ON TODAY'S "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE."
Gordon: ON "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE," WE USE
TECHNOLOGY TO PRAY FOR EACH
OTHER AND EXPLORE TOPICS
THAT MATTER TO YOU.
WATCH WHAT GOD IS DOING IN
THE WORLD TODAY.
WELL, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.
THERE IS A BOOMING INDUSTRY
THAT GENERATES OVER
$10 MILLION AN HOUR.
ITS COSTUMERS ARE YOUNG AND
OLD, MALE AND FEMALE, AND
STUDIES HAVE PROVED THAT
THIS PRODUCT IS AS ADDICTIVE
AS HEROIN.
Terry: PORNOGRAPHY WAS
ONCE A TABOO SUBJECT THAT
FEW DARED TO ADDRESS.
HOWEVER, TIMES ARE CHANGING,
AND PEOPLE ARE NOW SPEAKING
UP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.
EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT
LOOKING FOR IT, YOU COULD BE
INNOCENT.
IF YOU GO ON THE COMPUTER,
ON THE INTERNET AND YOU'RE
LOOKING FOR SOMETHING GOOD,
IT WILL FIND YOU.
Reporter: 15 YEARS OLD
ZACH IS TALKING ABOUT PORN,
AND IT IS HARD-CORE.
WHILE INNOCENTLY SURFING THE
NET, YOUR CHILD COULD COME
FACE TO FACE WITH A SEXUALLY
EXPLICIT POP-UP AD.
IT IS DEVIENT, ABHORRENT.
KIDS ARE SEEING CONTENT THAT
NO 12 OR 13-YEAR-OLD IS
MENTALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY OR
EMOTIONALLY PREPARED TO DEAL
WITH.
Reporter: IF PARENTS
DON'T KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR
OR HOW TO PROTECT THEIR KIDS
ONLINE, THE CLICK OF A MOUSE
CAN USHER IN A NIGHTMARE.
WE WENT THROUGH A
MINIMIZED CORN SITE, WE
DISCOVERED OUR PRECIOUS,
11-YEAR-OLD SON, HAD BEEN TO
HUNDREDS OF INTERNET
PORNOGRAPHY SITES.
Reporter: RENEE'S SON
BECAME HOOKED.
WE HAVE SPENT THE LAST 10
YEARS TRYING TO KEEP OUR SON
AWAY FROM THIS DRUG WITH
LITTLE SUCCESS.
SEEKING COUNSELLORS WHO
COULD HELP HIM, AND BEING
FRUSTRATED AND ANGRY WE WERE
UNABLE TO PROTECT OUR
CHILD.
Reporter: MORALITY AND
MEDIA PRESIDENT PATRICK
TRUMAN TELLS CBN NEWS THE
$100 MILLION PORN INDUSTRY
BLANKETS THE WEBSITE WITH
MILLIONS OF PORN SITES.
AND ADULTS ALSO BECOME
INTENTIONALLY ADDICTED,
WHILE PORN EXECUTIVES BECOME
INCREDIBLY WEALTHY.
THE BULK OF THE
COMMERCIAL PORNOGRAPHY
INDUSTRY IS A RELATIVE
HANDFUL, 60, 80 COMPANIES,
THAT CONTROL MOST OF THOSE
COMMERCIAL SITES.
YOU DON'T JUST GET REVENUE
WHEN SOMEONE BUYS YOUR VIDEO
OR BUYS TIME ON YOUR WEBSITE
FOR EITHER A LIVE
PERFORMANCE OR TO VIEW A
VIDEO.
Reporter: SIMPLY
CLICKING ON A POP-UP AD
FILLS THE COUG COFFER
WITHOUT THE COMPANY GETTING
ANYTHING.
IT IS A BUSINESS MODEL
THAT GOOGLE HAS.
THE MORE YOU CLICK, THE MORE
MONEY THEY MAKE.
SOME PEOPLE THINK I JUST
LOOK AT IT A LITTLE BIT.
YES, AND EVERY TIME YOU DO,
THE PORN INDUSTRY MAKES
MONEY.
AND YOU MULTIPLY THAT WITH
MILLIONS OF PEOPLE WHO DO
THE SAME THING, THE
PORNOGRAPHIC COMPANY IS
GETTING PAID OFF OF YOU.
Reporter: FAMILIES NEED
TO BLOCK CONTENT AND
ESTABLISH SAFETY RULES FOR
KIDS AND ADULTS.
THIS CAN BE DONE THROUGH
FILTERING AND MONITORING
SOFTWARE, AND THROUGH
ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS.
EVERY WEBSITE THAT
INDIVIDUAL GOES TO, YOU GET
AN E-MAIL GIVING YOU THE
SITE WHERE THEY'VE BEEN.
THAT IS ACCOUNTABILITY.
KNOW WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE
DOING ON LINE, AND STAY
ENGAGED WITH THEM.
RECOGNIZE YOU CAN'T DO IT
ALONE.
E NEED SOME HELP.
Reporter: TIMELY
ADVICE, ESPECIALLY WITH
RESEARCH SHOWING PORN'S
EFFECT ON THE FAMILY.
FOUR OUT OF FIVE TEENS
ACCESS IT ON LINE.
AND HALF OF THE DIVORCED
COUPLE BLAME PORNOGRAPHY
SITES AS A REASON FOR THEIR
BREAK UP.
Gordon: JOINING US IS
AUTHOR AND ADDICTION
COUNSELLOR DOUG WEINSTEIN.
WHY IS PORNOGRAPHY SO
ADDICTIVE.
THE SCRIPTURE SAYS WHEN
WE SIN SEXUALLY, WE SIN
AGAINST OUR OWN BODY.
I HAVE TWO DEGREES, AND THEY
COULDN'T HELP ME SOLVE THAT
ONE.
WHEN WE HAVE A SEXUAL
ENCOUNTER WITH OURSELVES OR
ANYONE ELSE, WE GET THE FREE
FRONTAL CORT TEEX OF OUR
BRAIN WITH THAT JUICE GOING
THROUGH YOUR BRAIN.
HERE IS THE TRICK, WHATEVER
YOU'RE LOOKING AT, REAL OR
IMAGINARY, YOU WILL HUNGER
FOR, CRAVE, AND YOU'LL WANT
TO REPEAT AGAIN.
THE ENEMY KNOWS IF HE CAN
GET US ATTACHED TO AN
OBJECT, WE BECOME VERY
ADDICTED TO THAT OBJECT.
AND I'VE BEEN FREE FOR 25
YEARS.
AND I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE
TO GO THROUGH.
I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE
TORTURED LIKE THAT.
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE LIVING
TWO LIVES, AND WHY IS THIS
SO FRUSTRATING.
I AND KNOW WHAT THAT IS LIKE
PERSONALLY, AND
PROFESSIONALLY FOR HELPING
GUYS GET FREE.
Gordon: HOW DO GUYS GET
FREE?
THIS IS A HUGE PROBLEM.
LITERALLY FOR PEOPLE GROWING
UP IN AMERICA, YOU WILL BE
EXPOSED, NOT JUST ONCE OR
TWICE.
THEY SEEM TO BE TROLLING THE
SITES, TRYING TO GET YOU
ADDICTED.
OH, YES, THEY'RE
RECRUITING YOU.
IT IS A MARRIAGE FAMILY, AND
A FAMILY PROBLEM.
THE FAMILY UNIT BEING
DESTROYED, PORNOGRAPHY IS AT
THE BASE OF THAT.
HOW WE GET FREE IS FIRST WE
GET HONEST.
A LOT OF PEOPLE WANT TO GET
HONEST WITH JESUS, BUT NOT
WITH THEIR PASTOR OR THEIR
WIFE.
YOU WANT TO CONFESS TO
JESUS, BUT YOU NEED TO
CONFESS TO ANOTHER BROTHER
IF YOU WANT TO BE HEALED.
SO MANY ARE FORGIVEN BUT NOT
HEALED.
50% OF THE MEN IN THE CHURCH
ARE FORGIVEN BUT NOT
HEALED.
IF YOU HEAL THEM, THEY
DOUBLE THEIR INCOME.
THEY INCREASE THEIR ABILITY
TO BE EMOTIONALLY AND
SPIRITUALLY MATURE IN THEIR
HOME.
TO BE BETTER DADS.
BEING OFF THE DRUG IS HUGE.
YOU FEEL BETTER.
YOU FEEL CLEAN.
THAT'S WHY WE CALL IT
CLEAN.
BECAUSE EVERY MAN IN HIS
HEART WHO IS A BELIEVER IN
CHRIST WANTS TO BE CLEAN.
Gordon: WHY DOES THIS
SIN WANT TO HIDE?
THERE SEEMS TO BE A LOT OF
GUILT AND SHAME WITH IT.
IN MY EXPERIENCE WHEN GUYS
GET FREE AND HONEST ABOUT
IT, THERE IS A REAL RELEASE
FOR THEM.
TOTALLY.
Gordon: IT IS LIKE THE
PRISONER IS OKAY, AND ALL OF
THE CONSEQUENCES I THOUGHT
OF THAT IT IS GOING TO HAVE,
I'M NOT.
THERE ARE TWO WAYS TO
HUMILITY: YOU CAN HUMBLE
YOURSELF OR YOU CAN BE
HUMILIATED.
Gordon: OR YOU CAN GET
CAUGHT.
I ENCOURAGE GUYS -- WE
HAVE PEOPLE FLY IN FROM ALL
OVER THE COUNTRY TO COLORADO
SPRINGS, THEY FELT WHEN THEY
TOLD THEIR WIFE THEY WERE
GOING TO DIE AND THEIR WIFE
WAS GOING TO LEAVE THEM.
VERY FEW DO.
THEY WANT AN HONEST MAN.
MOST WILL WORK WITH YOU.
MOST THINK THEY'LL LOSE THE
RESPECT OF THEIR PASTOR.
THE REVERSE HAPPENS.
THEY RESPECT YOU FOR YOUR
HONESTY, AND MONTHS LATER
THEY SAY CAN YOU LEAD US IN
A GROUP BECAUSE WE'VE GOT
100 OF THESE GUYS IN OUR
CHURCH, AND CAN YOU HELP.
THE FEAR OF THAT AND THE
PRIDE IS ALL THAT IS KEEPING
MOST GUYS FROM GETTING
FREE.
Gordon: THE FIRST STEP,
GETTING HONEST, CONFESSING.
FIND A PASTOR OR SOMEONE YOU
CAN BE ACCOUNTABLE TO, LET
YOUR SPOUSE KNOW.
WHAT'S YOUR NEXT ONE?
BECAUSE THE RATE OF GOING
BACK TO THIS ADDICTION IS
REALLY HIGH.
IT IS REALLY HIGH IF YOU
TRY TO DO IT BY YOURSELF.
YOU WILL FAIL IF YOU WANT TO
DO IT BY YOURSELF.
WE GET BETTER AS A TEAM.
WE INHERENT THE LAND
TOGETHER.
IT WASN'T MOSES WHO IN
INHERITED THE LAND.
IT WAS WE.
YOU NEED TO FIND ACCOUNTABLE
GUYS.
IF YOU'RE BRAIN IS LUSTING A
LOT, GET THE RUBBERBAND AND
PUT IT ON YOUR WRIST AND
SNAP IT IN ABOUT ONE MONTH,
80% OF THAT LUST WILL BE
REDUCED.
THE ENEMY IS RENDERING A LOT
OF -- RENTING A LOT OF SPACE
IN CHRISTIAN BRAINS.
BLOCK YOUR CELL PHONE FROM
PORNOGRAPHY.
IF YOU HAVE A PHONE,
DISCONNECT THE BROWSER SO
YOU'RE NOT LOOKING AT THE
INTERNET.
THE INTERNET IS MOSTLY
PORNOGRAPHY WITH SOME OTHER
FEATURES.
I HAVEN'T LOOKED AT
PORNOGRAPHY IN 25 YEARS, BUT
I HAVE A BLOCKER ON MY
PHONE.
I DON'T WANT TO BE RAPED BY
THAT ANYMORE.
THERE ARE PRACTICAL THINGS
LIKE THAT YOU CAN DO.
Gordon: WHEN AS A
CULTURE ARE WE GOING TO
RECOGNIZE THIS IS LITERALLY
DESTROYING US FROM THE
INSIDE OUT.
UNFORTUNATELY, AMERICA
HAS THE SAME CONSEQUENCES
THAT MOST SEX ADDICTS HAVE,
OUT OF CONTROL FINANCIALLY,
NOT FULFILLING THEIR
SPIRITUAL DESTINY, AND POOR
LEADERSHIP.
OHOH, MY GOD DO WE HAVE
POOR LEADERSHIP.
SO WE'RE ALREADY HAVING THE
CONSEQUENCES.
SOMETIMES IT TAKES HITTING
BOTTOM UNTIL YOU WAKE UP.
WHETHER THAT IS A FINANCIAL
BOTTOM OR A SPIRITUAL
BOTTOM.
MY HEART IS THAT THE MEN IN
THE CHURCH WILL BECOME CLEAN
SO WE CAN LEAD THE WAY.
SO WERE CAN AVOID THAT.
Gordon: BUT I'M NOT
HEARING ANY CALL AT ALL
ANYMORE.
I HEAR A LOT OF CALL ABOUT
RECOVERY, BUT I'M NOT
HEARING A CALL AT ALL THAT
WE NEED TO PREVENT THIS FROM
HAPPENING TO THE
GENERATION --
YOU ARE TODAY BECAUSE THE
CHURCH IS AT WAR.
PORNOGRAPHY IS THE ENEMY.
AND CLEAN IS OUR WAR
DOCUMENT BACK THAT WE WILL
FIGHT.
THE CHURCH HAS NEVER LOST A
BATTLE IN WORLD HISTORY ONCE
SHE KNEW SHE WAS AT WAR.
BUT FOR 30 YEARS, SHE HAS
BEEN SEDUCED AND REDUCED,
NOT KNOWING SHE WAS AT WAR.
IT USED BE TO TAKING A SMALL
PERCENTAGE OF THE CHURCH,
BUT WHEN YOU HAVE 50% OF THE
CHURCH, IT IS TIME TO GO TO
WAR.
AND ANY MAN CAN WIN.
AND ANY WOMEN CAN WIN.
THEY NEED TO ASK THEIR
HUSBANDS, WHEN WAS THE LAST
TIME YOU VIEWED
PORNOGRAPHY.
ARE YOU THE 50% THAT ARE
GOOD OR THE 50% WHO ARE
NOT.
PLEASE, HONEY, DON'T LIE TO
ME.
WOMEN CAN HELP IN THE
BATTLE.
YOU GET THE MEN LEARNING
THESE PRINCIPLES OF HONEST
AND CONFESSION, AND THAT
WOMEN ARE HOLY AND THEY'RE
NOT OBJECTS.
THEY'RE DAUGHTERS OF GOD.
YOU CAN'T LUST AND FEAR GOD
AT THE SAME TIME.
IT CAN'T BE DONE.
YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
Gordon: YES.
I'M EXCITED BECAUSE THERE
ARE CHURCHES STARTING
GROUPS, AND CHURCHES WHO ARE
USING CLEAN, AND THERE ARE
CHURCHES WHO ARE SAYING
WE'LL TALK ABOUT SEX AND
TALK ABOUT PORNOGRAPHY.
NOT ESPECIALLY BECAUSE THEY
WANTED TO, BUT NOW THEY HAVE
TO.
I MET A PASTOR ONCE AND HE
SAID I'M SO GLAD I'M SEEING
YOU TODAY BECAUSE SO FAR
FIVE MEN HAVE TOLD ME
THEY'RE STRUGGLING WITH
PORNOGRAPHY.
THAT IS IN ONE PASTOR'S
DAY.
SO WE'RE GETTING MORE
ACTIVE.
I BELIEVE THE CHURCH IS
GOING TO WIN.
IF THE CHURCH WINS, AMERICA
WINS.
IF THE CHURCH LOSES, AMERICA
LOSES.
Gordon: I'M NOT
SURPRISED IF YOU LOOK AT THE
STATISTICS.
WE'RE IN AN EP DISK.
EPIDEMIC.
ABSOLUTELY.
AND THE CHURCH IS THE
ONLY PLAN GOD HAS ON EARTH.
IF THE CHURCH WILL OPEN UP
THEIR DOORS AND SAY COME
IN.
YOU GUYS ARE SICK.
WE'RE GOING TO LOVE YOU AND
SEND YOU OUT TO CHANGE THE
WORLD.
Gordon: AND THE CHURCH
WAS BIRTHED IN A
SEX-SATURATED SOCIETY.
ABSOLUTELY.
THIS ISN'T NEW.
IT IS MORE TECHNOLOGY.
BUT THE BATTLE IS THE SAME.
IT WENT FROM THE LITTLE
BOOKSTORES TO THE CELL
PHONE.
Gordon: RIGHT.
THE ENEMY HAS AMPED IT UP
BECAUSE HE IS AFTER THE
CHURCHES IN AMERICA.
Gordon: IF YOU HAVE A
PROBLEM AND WANT TO GET
CLEAN, GET DOUG'S BOOK.
"IT'S CLEAN."
AND IT'S AVAILABLE WHEREVER
BOOKS ARE SOLD.
IF YOU ARE OR A LOVED ONE IS
STRUGGLING WITH THIS ISSUE,
WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.
THIS IS A SAFE PLACE.
CALL US.
THE NUMBER IS ON THE SCREEN,
1-888-777-1999.
TERRY, OVER TO YOU.
Terry: COMING UP, A
HUMAN TRAFFICKING VICTIM
ESCAPES THE STREETS ONLY TO
FIND A HOME WITH A BIG
PROBLEM.
HEAR WHAT HAPPENED.
THAT'S NEXT.
Terry: IN MUMBAI,
INDIA, NEARLY 100,000 GIRLS
ARE TRAPPED INSIDE
BROTHELS.
SOME LUCKY ONES ARE ABLE TO
MAKE IT TO SAFE HOUSES,
WHERE CBN IS HELPING THEM TO
GET WHAT THEY NEED.
SHANU LIVES IN MUMBAI,
INDIA.
WHEN SHE WAS EIGHT YEARS
OLD, SHE WAS FORCED INTO
PROSTITUTION.
THEY ROBBED ME OF MY
DIGNITY.
I FELT LIKE MY HEART TURNED
TO STONE.
I WAS HELPLESS.
Terry: THEN WHEN SHANU
WAS 16 YEARS OLD, AN
ORGANIZATION CALLED BOMBAY
TEEN CHALLENGED RESCUED HER
FROM THE STREETS.
THEY PROVIDED HER WITH A
SAFE PLACE TO STAY.
I LEARNED ABOUT JESUS
HERE.
HE RENEWED MY LIFE.
Terry: BUT THIS SAFE
HOUSE HAD A MAJOR PROBLEM, A
SEVERE WATER SHORTAGE.
THEY USED TO BRING WATER
TANKERS.
WE WOULD FILL OUR BUCKETS,
CARRY THEM TO OUR ROOMS AND
STORE THE WATER IN A LARGE
DRUM.
BUT SOMETIMES THE WATER
TRUCK WOULD NOT COME.
IT WAS VERY DIFFICULT.
Terry: WITHOUT ENOUGH
WATER, THE HOME WOULD BE
FORCED TO SHUT DOWN.
SO "OPERATION BLESSING" CAME
IN AND DUG THREE WELLS.
NOW THERE IS ENOUGH WATER
FOR THE 275 CHILDREN WHO
LIVE HERE.
NOW WE GET PLENTY OF
WATER FROM THE WELLS.
WE DON'T HAVE TO CARRY OUR
BUCKETS ANYMORE.
I CAN BRING WATER TO MY ROOM
ANY TIME.
I'M SO HAPPY FOR THAT.
THANK YOU, "OPERATION
BLESSING."
WHEN WE WERE IN NEED, YOU
PEOPLE CAME AND HELPED US.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Terry: YOU KNOW, THAT
IS JUST A BANNER THAT SHOULD
BE OVER EVERY "700 CLUB"
MEMBER.
WHEN WE WERE IN NEED, YOU
PEOPLE CAME AND YOU HELPED
US.
THAT'S WHAT WE'RE COMMITTED
TO DOING TO PEOPLE IN NEED
ALL AROUND THE WORLD.
AND IF YOU'RE NOT A PART OF
"THE 700 CLUB," YOU'RE
MISSING OUT ON A WONDERFUL
OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE A
DIFFERENCE.
I HOPE YOU COULD SEE IT IN
THAT STORY.
LIVES, MANY, MANY OF THEM,
CHANGED.
AND THEY REMEMBER THAT IT
WAS THE PEOPLE OF GOD WHO
CAME TO HELP THEM.
WILL YOU JOIN "THE 700 CLUB"
TODAY?
IT IS 65 CENTS A DAY, $20 A
MONTH.
THAT MAKES YOU A "700 CLUB"
MEMBER.
IT IS SO SIMPLE TO JOIN.
OUR NUMBER IS TOLL-FREE,
1-888-777-1999.
OR YOU CAN JOIN WITH US BY
LOGGING ON TO CBN.COM.
DO SOMETHING TODAY TO MAKE A
DIFFERENCE.
GOD WANTS TO USE YOU AND ME
TO SPREAD HIS LOVE AND HIS
CARE TO OTHERS.
SO CALL NOW.
WELL, STILL AHEAD, A PORN
ADDICT IS CAUGHT BY HIS
WIFE.
SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN HIS
SECRET IS REVEALED.
THAT IS ALL HAPPENING WHEN
WE COME BACK.
Gordon: FOUR DECADES
AGO, JOHN SAW PORNOGRAPHY
FOR THE VERY FIRST TIME.
THAT DAY HE DIDN'T JUST OPEN
UP THE PAGES OF A MAGAZINE.
JOHN OPENED UP HIS WORLD TO
A LIFETIME OF ADDICTION.
THE FIRST TIME I LOOKED
AT PORNOGRAPHY IT WAS
EXCITING, BUT YET I FELT
LIKE I WAS DOING SOMETHING
WRONG, SOMETHING I WAS NOT
SUPPOSED TO BE THE DOING.
IT WAS DIFFICULT TO PUT IT
DOWN.
IT WAS DIFFICULT TO WALK
AWAY FROM IT.
THE ADDICTION BEGAN TO TAKE
ROOT.
Reporter: JOHN WAS A
YOUNG BOY WHEN HE FIRST SAW
PORNOGRAPHIC MAGAZINES AT A
FRIEND'S HOUSE.
IT WASN'T LONG BEFORE HE HAD
HIS OWN STACK OF MAGAZINES
AND A SECRET ADDICTION.
A LOT OF SNEAKING AROUND,
A LOT OF SECRECY.
A CYCLE OF
SELF-GRATIFICATION, LOOKING
AT THE MAGAZINES, IT
CONTINUED THROUGHOUT MY
TEENAGED YEARS.
Reporter: HE MARRIED
JOY AT 19.
AND HOPED HIS ADDICTION WAS
OVER.
IT WASN'T.
AND THE INTERNET MADE IT
EASY TO BE DISCRETE AT
HOME.
THERE WAS THIS EUPHORIC
FEELING THAT STWEP SWEPT
THROUGH ME AND TOOK ME TO
ANOTHER PLACE.
SOME OF THE STUFF THAT WAS
POPPING UP WAS A LOT MORE
GRAPHIC, MORE SEXUALLY
EXPLICIT, THAN WHAT I WAS
EXPOSED TO EVEN AS A
TEENAGER IN THE MAGAZINES I
LOOKED AT.
I HAD THIS FEELING OF, LIKE,
WOW HERE WE GO AGAIN.
THIS THING HAS FOLLOWED ME
INTO MY MARRIAGE.
I FOUND MYSELF RETREATING TO
MY OFFICE AND SPENDING MORE
AND MORE TIME LOOKING AT
PORNOGRAPHY ON THE COMPUTER,
AND ONCE AGAIN, KEEPING IT A
SECRET FROM MY WIFE.
Reporter: JOHN BECAME A
CHRISTIAN IN HIS 20s, BUT
STILL FELT POWERLESS TO
OVERCOME HIS PORN
ADDICTION.
BECAUSE OF THE GUILT AND
THE SHAME, I BEGAN TO
WITHDRAW FROM THE LORD.
LOOKING BACK, THERE WAS
PROBABLY EVEN A WITHDRAWAL
FROM MY WIFE, EVEN EARLY
ON.
AND THE GUILT WAS TELLING ME
THAT I WAS DOING SOMETHING
WRONG.
AND THE SHAME WAS TELLING ME
I WAS WRONG, THAT THERE WAS
SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME.
Reporter: HIS SECRET
WAS REVEALED WHEN JOY WALKED
INTO HIS OFFICE.
SHE WAS SHOCKED TO SEE
PICTURES OF NAKED WOMEN ON
HIS COMPUTER SCREEN.
IT WAS ALMOST LIKE I JUST
PUT A KNIFE INTO HER.
SHE HAD THAT LOOK IN HER
FACE, IN HER EYES, LIKE YOU
JUST BETRAYED ME.
HOW COULD YOU?
AFTER ALL THAT WE'VE BEEN
THROUGH.
THE TRUST WAS GONE.
EVERYTHING THAT WE HAD BUILT
OVER THE YEARS OF OUR
MARRIAGE WAS GONE.
THERE WAS NOTHING I COULD
SAY.
MY WORDS MEANT NOTHING.
MY APOLOGY MEANT NOTHING.
I'M SORRY MEANT NOTHING.
Reporter: HOPE FINALLY
ARRIVED WHEN A FRIEND GAVE
JOHN A C.D. CALLED
"SOMEBODY'S DAUGHTER, A
JOURNEY TO FREEDOM FROM
PORNOGRAPHY."
I JUST WANTED TO BE FREE,
MAN.
I WANTED TO BE PURE.
I WAS A CHRISTIAN, AND I
WANTED TO GET BACK THAT
INTIMACY THAT I HAD EARLY
ON, AS A NEW CHRISTIAN, AS A
NEW BELIEVER.
I REMEMBER THE FIRST DAY
THAT I EVER LISTENED TO THAT
C.D., AND I FELT LIKE FOR
THE VERY FIRST TIME THAT
THERE WAS HOPE.
IT WAS LIKE SOMEBODY WAS
SAYING TO ME I KNOW WHERE
YOU'RE AT.
I KNOW WHAT YOU'VE GONE
THROUGH.
I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING
THROUGH NOW.
AND THEY WERE TELLING ME
THAT YOU CAN GET THROUGH
THIS.
AND I FELT LIKE AT THAT
PARTICULAR POINT THAT GOD
WAS ANSWERING MY PRAYER.
Reporter: JOHN TOOK THE
FIRST STEPS ON HIS JOURNEY
TOWARDS FREEDOM FROM
PORNOGRAPHY.
IT REALLY STARTED WITH ME
BEING HONEST AND BEING
VULNERABLE AND SAYING THIS
IS WHERE I'M AT.
THE THING ABOUT SEXUAL SIN
IS THAT IT THRIVES IN
SECRECY AND DARKNESS.
THAT'S WHERE IT LIVES.
ONCE I BEGAN TO VERBALIZE MY
ADDICTION, THE POWER BEGAN
TO SUBSIDE.
AND IT STARTED TO DIMINISH.
ALMOST OVERNIGHT.
THE INTIMACY THAT I ONCE HAD
WITH GOD HAS RETURNED.
THERE IS A PASSAGE OF
SCRIPTURE IN PSALM 51 THAT
SAYS: "RESTORE UNTO ME THE
JOY OF THY SALVE
SALVATION."
AND BEING FREE, THAT JOY HAS
BEEN RESTORED.
MY WIFE AND I WILL BE
CELEBRATING 30 YEARS OF
MARRIAGE.
AND I'M PROUD OF THAT.
I REALLY AM.
SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE.
Reporter: JOHN RUNS
"UNSHACKLED MINISTRIES."
HE IS DEVOTED TO HELP MEN
FIND FREEDOM FROM
PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION, JUST
AS HE DID.
THE BIBLE SAYS,
"THEREFORE THERE IS NO
CONDEMNATION FOR THOSE WHO
ARE IN CHRIST JESUS."
WHEN I READ THAT VERSE, MAN,
THAT TELLS ME THAT GOD
HIMSELF DOES NOT CONDEMN
ME.
HE DOESN'T CONDONE MY SIN,
BUT GOD LOVES ME AND THERE
IS NOTHING THAT I COULD DO
THAT COULD EVER SEPARATE ME
FROM GOD'S LOVE.
HE IS THERE WILL AND WAITING
TO SET US FREE, TO GIVE US
THE LIFE THAT WE HAVE LONGED
FOR.
IT STARTS WITH HONESTY.
IT STARTS WITH CONFESSION.
ONCE YOU BRING THIS SIN OUT
OF THE DARKNESS AND INTO THE
LIGHT, THAT'S WHEN FREEDOM
BEGINS.
Gordon: IF YOU WANT TO
DO THAT, IF YOU WANT TO
BRING THIS SIN OUT INTO THE
LIGHT, REALIZE THAT JESUS
ISN'T HERE TO CONDEMN YOU.
AND GOD IS NOT ANGRY AT
YOU.
WHAT HE WANTS IS FOR YOU TO
BE FREE.
AND HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE
RIGHTEOUSNESS.
HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE JOY.
HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE PEACE.
BUT IF YOU'RE STUCK IN A
CYCLE OF ADDICTION, YOU KNOW
ALREADY YOU DON'T HAVE ANY
OF THAT.
AND YOU'RE LIVING A LIE.
BUT HE WANTS YOU TO BE
FREE.
AND HERE IS A PROMISE FOR
YO YOU, HE SAYS, "I'LL
NEVER LEAVE YOU; I'LL NEVER
FORSAKE YOU."
WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND IN GOD
IS RIGHT THERE WITH YOU --
THE REASON YOU'RE NOT
FEELING HIM BECAUSE YOUR SIN
HAS LITERALLY DARKENED YOUR
SPIRITUAL SENSITIVITY.
GOD HASN'T GONE ANYWHERE.
YOU'RE THE ONE THAT WENT
AWAY.
THE BIBLE GIVES US A GREAT
EXAMPLE OF SEXUAL SIN AND
HOW TO REPENT FOR IT AND HOW
TO GET RESTORATION.
IT IS ALL RECORDED IN THE
STORY OF DAVID AND BATH
SHEBA.
HERE DAVID DOESN'T WANT TO
GO OFF TO THE WAR.
HE STAYS IN THE PALACE AND
STARTS WANDERING AROUND, AND
HE SEES BATHSHEBA, AND HE IS
ATTRACTED.
AND SIN BEGINS WITH A
THOUGHT.
AND HE HAS THE THOUGHT, AND
THEN BECAUSE HE IS KING, HE
SAYS, I'M GOING TO ACT ON
THIS THOUGHT.
AND HE CALLS HER TO THE
PALACE.
AND HE COMMITS ADULTERY WITH
HER.
AND THEN FINDS OUT LATER,
OH, NO, THERE ARE
CONSEQUENCES TO THIS.
SIN ALWAYS HAD
CONSEQUENCES.
AND THE CONSEQUENCE WAS
BATHSHEBA WAS PREGNANT.
NOW WHAT DO I DO?
HOW DO I HIDE MY SIN?
HE STARTS DOING ALL OF THE
THINGS TO HIDE AND TO
CONCEAL.
IT DIDN'T REALLY HAPPEN.
IT WASN'T REALLY ME.
AND HE TRIES TO MAKE
ARRANGEMENTS WITH HER
HUSBAND SO HE WILL GO SLEEP
WITH HER.
SO EVERYBODY WILL THINK HE'S
THE FATHER.
BUT NONE OF THAT HAPPENS.
AND THEN HE SAYS, WELL, I'VE
GOT TO REMOVE HIM FROM THE
PICTURE, SO HE TAKES HIS SIN
EVEN FURTHER AND COMMITS
MURDER.
NOW, IN ALL OF THAT GOD
DIDN'T LEAVE HIM.
AND THERE IS A WONDERFUL
PRAYER THAT IS RECORDED IN
THE PSALMS WHERE DAVID
REPENTS.
WHAT IS RECORDED IN 1 KINGS:
"AGAINST YOU AND YOU ONLY
HAVE I SINNED."
HE CONFESSES.
BUT THEN IN THE PSALMS HE
SAYS, "RESTORE THE JOY OF MY
SALVATION."
GOD HADN'T LEFT HIM.
WHAT HAD LEFT HIM WAS HIS
JOY AND HIS PEACE AND HIS
SENSE OF WELL-BEING.
AND IF YOU'RE LIVING IN
ADDICTION, YOU KNOW ALL OF
THAT.
WHAT I'M HERE TO TELL YOU IS
THERE IS A WAY OUT.
IF YOU'LL JUST GET HONEST
AND SAY I NEED HELP.
AND SAY TO GOD, I NEED YOU
TO RESTORE THE JOY OF MY
SALVATION.
IF YOU WANT TO GET FREE,
WE'RE HERE FOR YOU.
AND WE'RE NOT HERE TO JUDGE
YOU.
WE'RE NOT HERE TO CONDEMN
YOU.
JESUS DIDN'T COME TO THE
WORLD TO CONDEMN IT, BUT TO
SAVE IT.
AND IF YOU WANT TO LIVE A
LIFE CLEAN, AND IF YOU WANT
TO BE FREE, CALL THIS
NUMBER.
1-888-777-1999.
JUST TELL THE PERSON ON THE
OTHER END OF THE LINE, I'M
HAVING A PROBLEM HERE.
IT'S GOTTEN COMPULSIVE, AND
I NEED A BREAKTHROUGH.
AND WHEN YOU CONFESS YOUR
SINS TO ONE ANOTHER, THERE
IS REAL FREEDOM IN THAT.
AND YOU UNDERSTAND THAT YOU
CAN BE FREE, TOO.
SO IF YOU WANT THAT, CALL US
NOW.
1-888-777-1999.
THIS IS "700 CLUB
INTERACTIVE," WHERE WE
INTERACT WITH YOU, SO LET'S
GO TO JESSICA IN THE
CHATROOM.
LACEY WRITES, "CAN
SOMEONE OVERCOME A PORN
ADDICTION ON THEIR OWN.
MY FIANCE JUST SAID HE WAS
ADDICTED, BUT PRAYED ONE DAY
AND JUST STOPPED.
I WANT TO BELIEVE HIM, BUT I
AM NOT SURE HE IS PAST THE
ADDICTION.
EVEN IF HE IS, I KNOW IT
COULD EASILY COME BACK.
WHAT SHOULD I DO TO HELP
HIM?"
Gordon: YOUR FIANCE HAS
SAID HE DIDN'T OVERCOME IT
ON HIS OWN.
HE ASKED GOD TO HELP HIM.
AADDICTION CAN BE BROKEN.
AND IT IS IN THOSE MEETINGS
WITH GOD AND THAT
TRANSPARENCY WITH GOD THAT
THINGS HAPPEN.
ALL OF THE 12-STEP PROGRAMS
TALK ABOUT SURRENDER.
THAT I CAN'T BE RESTORED TO
SANITY, ONLY A HIGHER POWER
CAN DO THAT.
YOUR FIANCE IS TALKING ABOUT
THAT STEP.
AND THAT STEP CAN WORK.
BUT THERE MAY BE SOMETHING
IN BEHAVIOR PATTERNS THAT
YOU'RE NOTICING OR YOU'RE
PICKING UP.
IT WOULD BE EASY.
TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE
WEBSITE HISTORY ON HIS
COMPUTER AND SOME OTHER
THINGS AND SEE WHAT YOU
FIND.
BUT IT MIGHT BE THAT YOU
JUST NEED TO TRUST HIM.
AND YOU CAN TRUST GOD WITH
YOUR OWN FEARS, THAT WOULD
GOD HAS STARTED IN YOUR
FIANCE HE IS ABLE TO
ACCOMPLISH.
LET'S GO BACK TO JESSICA FOR
ONE MORE CHAT.
GORDON, MARIA WRITES,
"I'M A SOON TO BE MOM AND
I'M ALREADY CONCERNED ABOUT
WHAT MY CHILDREN WILL
ENCOUNTER.
IT SEEMS EVERY GUY AND MOST
GIRLS THESE DAYS HAVE SEEN
PORN AND HAVE NO PROBLEMS
WITH IT.
HOW CAN I BEGIN TO PROTECT
MY SON IS PORNOGRAPHY IS
BECOMING A CULTURAL NORM?"
Consuelo:
Gordon: RAISE UP YOUR
SIN IN THE WAY THEY SHALL GO
AND THEY WON'T DEPART FROM
THIS.
I BELIEVE THIS WHEN I RAISE
MY OWN CHILDREN.
I BELIEVE VERY MUCH IN
EXPLAINING WHY.
EXPLAIN THE POWER
PORNOGRAPHY HAS TO MAKE YOU
ADDICTED, AND THAT'S WHY YOU
NEED TO STAY AWAY FROM IT.
YOU GIVE THEM A GOOD REASON,
AND RAISE THEM UP, AND
THEY'LL STAY IN IT.
WE LEAVE YOU WITH THESE
WORDS FROM JOHN: "AND I WILL
ASK THE FATHER, AND HE WILL
GIVE YOU ANOTHER ADVOCATE,
ONE WHO WILL NEVER LEAVE
YOU.
HE IS THE HOLY SPIRIT, WHO
LEADS IN ALL TRUTH."