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Faith Overrules Infidelity In This Marriage

Chris and Colleen were high school sweethearts, but after 20 years, their storybook marriage turned into a nightmare. Affairs drove a wedge between the couple, but out of the devastation grew a new chance at reconciliation. Read Transcript

We knew each other for so many years as great friends.

I mean, we spent a lot of time together growing up.

And we began to date.

And when we got married, that friendship continued.

And we just loved doing things with each other,

and we preferred one another, and we hardly ever fought.

NARRATOR: Chris McCain and his wife,

Colleen, were high school sweethearts.

After 20 years, their picture-perfect marriage

began to fall apart after they experienced a series of losses.

Chris had some job changes.

My father died, and his mom died.

Our children started moving out of the house, which

really changes the dynamics.

And the way that we were relating to each other

was changing too.

There were a lot of things in my life

that I had had control of--

were slipping away.

And I had noticed a change in my heart.

As it was happening that my heart was getting hard,

we began to have arguments now.

We began to fight.

And we weren't used to that.

We didn't know how to fight.

COLLEEN: He and I both had always

wanted to keep Christ in the center of our marriage.

And during that time, I knew that there

was a divide between us, but I really

never dreamt that there was anyone else that

was coming into the picture.

NARRATOR: But someone did.

Chris had begun an affair that lasted several months.

CHRIS: What started out as innocent,

which was completely wrong, developed into more.

And just having someone listen to me

and understand me rather than someone

who was fighting with me.

NARRATOR: Ashamed of what he had done,

Chris confessed to Colleen.

COLLEEN: I really was shocked that that was happening.

But then he confessed.

He said it was over, let's move forward.

Though there was a lot of pain and a lot of back and forth

for quite some time of trying to get through that,

we just sort of made a decision that we

did want to stay together.

NARRATOR: The McCains decided not to tell anyone or seek out

help after Chris's affair.

Basically, our pride prevented us

from wanting to admit to anyone.

You know, we've had the storybook marriage for so long.

And everybody thought we were the poster

children of marriage.

And to confess that our marriage was terrible,

our pride wouldn't allow us to do that, to reach out.

NARRATOR: They stayed together, but Chris's heart

remained unchanged.

CHRIS: A hard heart is fertile ground for Satan.

I had just completely been taken over

with just being self-absorbed and pleasing self.

This needing to control things, to be

in control of my situations-- because that's

the way I'd always been.

I wasn't going to be controlled by my wife.

I wasn't going to be told what to do.

And I didn't want the Lord telling me what

to do either, how to behave.

NARRATOR: Four years later, Chris and Colleen

met with their pastor in his office one Sunday after church.

There, Chris confessed to more affairs.

COLLEEN: I just let out a lot of anger.

In my mind, in my heart, at this point, I'm done.

After I confessed to my children

and they watched me pack my bags and walk out of the house,

that was the hardest thing I've ever been through.

That was when I became completely broken.

NARRATOR: Chris moved into a hotel

and for the first time in years, began to seek the Lord.

He studied the word, fasted and prayed,

and invited other men to pray with him.

CHRIS: The previous times that we had dealt with my affairs,

I had confessed.

I don't know that I had truly repented.

When I confessed after the fourth one,

that was when I came clean on everything

and was not trying to be deceitful or hide anything

anymore after that.

NARRATOR: Colleen began to see changes in Chris

and received encouragement from scripture.

COLLEEN: There was one morning, a Sunday morning.

And I was reading my Bible.

And the Lord showed me a verse in 1 Samuel.

And it says, watch and see what the Lord is going to do.

Watch and see this great thing I'm

about to do before your eyes.

Up until that time, I had started

giving up on our marriage.

NARRATOR: During their marriage, Chris

seldom wore his wedding ring because

of the nature of his work.

While they were separated, he told

Colleen the Lord had impressed upon him to buy a new ring.

COLLEEN: When he told me that he got a ring,

I knew that something was happening.

And this was probably the first thing

that I thought God was showing me, watch and see

these great things that I'm about to do before your eyes,

because the ring was something that bothered me.

And I hadn't told him.

I knew that something was going on.

And I texted back.

And I said, you're walking back to me.

Because I knew that God was in it.

And if God was in it and I could trust God,

then I was all on board.

NARRATOR: The McCains spent months in counseling,

and God began to heal their marriage.

It's been five years since they reunited,

and they say their marriage is stronger than ever.

One of the things that the Lord had changed in me

was being willing to give up control,

and to prefer my wife and my family,

and to put the Lord first rather than for me

to control all of that.

Because His ways are better than mine.

COLLEEN: He has blessed us in such a tremendous way

that now I have a brand new husband.

I didn't have to get married again

to have a new husband, because God changed him

completely from the inside out.

And we just share so much more freely, so much more deeply.

It's a really sweet place to be this close.

Our marriage today is incredible.

When someone shows you as much grace as Colleen has shown me,

my love for her is exponential.

When you experience God's grace in the way that we did,

He's the one that's made our marriage great, not us.

All we've done is just sell out to him,

and give him our marriage, and our family, and our home,

and say, Lord, you just take our marriage

and do with it what you need to do.

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