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The Bible says, “Can two walk together except they be agreed?” The Bible also says, “What fellowship has Christ with Belial?” I’m sure you want to do something for this friend of yours, but you can’t have her hitting on you. The next thing you know, one time you’re going to say, “Well, why not?” Then you’re going to say, “What have I done?” You’re going to wake up with this horrible guilt. I just think that you need to tell her, “Look, I’m straight. I’m not going to engage in this. You’re a nice person, and I like you as a person, but I just can’t be your friend any longer, because you want something more. I’m not prepared to give something more, so I think it’s time for us to say goodbye.” You just have to do that. Otherwise, you’re going to get ensnared.
Christians with people sometimes feel guilty if they can’t help the person or be there for them. What kind of a friend -- if you have clearly stated that you are straight and that you don’t want any part of this -- would attempt to kiss you? I think you need to question the value of this friendship.
She’s got urges, and those urges. are not heterosexual. So you’ve just got to break it off and say goodbye.
I didn't write the Bible. I really didn't. The Bible was written under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit by wonderful men like the Apostle Paul, like Moses, people like that, very highly respected people, and right down the line, they said that homosexuality is an abomination to God. The Apostle Paul said that nobody who is a homosexual is going to get into heaven. That doesn't mean you have a tendency. It didn't say nobody with homosexual tendencies is going to miss getting into heaven.
People who are practicing homosexuals or lesbians, this is an unnatural relationship. There is no way in a "committed lesbian relationship" that you are going to conceive a baby. If two lesbians conceive a baby without the help of something else, I will admit on this program that I am wrong. But they haven't done it so far; nor have two homosexuals. It is unnatural.
Now, you say 'Doesn't God want me to be happy?' Well, this may be happiness for you now, but what is going to happen is when you die, you are going to hell (see 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). I don't want to overstate it, but that is what the Bible says: You shall not enter the kingdom of heaven, you shall not go to spend an eternity with God, and you will spend an eternity away from Him. God loves you, but He says that you cannot do something He says is an abomination and is wrong. It is just that simple. He made sex to be enjoyed, but he made it in the confines of marriage between heterosexual people, partially for the propagation of the race and the nurture and the admonition of the young. That's what it is there for.
God is not there to make us happy. Sure it is a misconception.
God is there to show us what is right. What He says to do will
make us happy. If we follow His principles about finance, about
sex, about marriage, about love, about commitment, about all the
other good things that He says, if we keep His commandments, we
will be happy. It will bring us happiness. But happiness is never
going to come if we do something that is sinful because He will
not give you the witness of the Holy Spirit in your heart that
you are doing something right. You won't have it. You won't know
the overwhelming joy. The Apostle Peter talked about 'joy unspeakable
and full of glory' (1 Peter 1:8). That comes about through fulfilling
the plan of God and having the power of the Holy Spirit moving
in your life and knowing when you die that you are going to heaven.
Like it or not, big brother is on your case all the time, and we’re going to have the iris scan.
You can’t get in the amusement parks without the finger scan now.
There are all kinds of things these days for identification to make sure that you’re not some bad guy with a bomb. I really don’t think that that’s terribly intrusive to ask somebody to have a scan of their finger any more than it is to ask for fingerprints. It’s one of those things. If they begin to take blood samples and DNA tests, it might be a different thing.
This is something that seems to be going on with such frequency in our culture today where the whole notion of sexual purity is just out the window. This so old fashioned? You’re asking if you go to the wedding, are you condoning sin? The answer is no. You’re loving your sister. But at the same time, you just need to be firm. Obviously living with a man is against what God wants for us. It’s not his best. I’d put in those terms. “It’s not God’s best for you.” And keep it there and keep loving.
This is a tough one. I don’t understand your parents. Your parents are in a position of biblical authority over her. They need to take that authority, and you can’t duck that on the basis that another Bible verse says, “Don’t judge and you won’t be judged.” If you have authority over someone and you do not exercise that authority to bring them into line, this is one of the big abuses in the church today. As the prophetic movement is growing and being reestablished within the church, we also need to have reestablishing the covering over the prophets, in that if you have loose prophets running around abandoning their children. That is just not biblical, and the parents need to step into this one and bring this into correction.
There is a very subtle body of law that associations of this nature have a right to preserve their own membership according to qualifications. It’s a private organization. Of course, if it’s a public university taking public funds, and this is an official recognized organization within a public university, then you get into a gray area of saying, "Well the state is putting its imprimatur on what it looks like, its exclusive policy." As a private university, they have a right to do that. I think the American Center for Law and Justice would be more than delighted to help you on this issue and to lead you through the pitfalls.
The Bible says, 'When a man's ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.' We are supposed to be dead to self, and sometimes gossip is beneficial because it lets us die to self. The thing that upsets me a great deal is that Christians are engaged in picking up a slanderous report against another. I want to say this very clearly: Slander is every bit as bad as adultery. Slander is every bit as bad as murder. There is no difference. You might not go to prison for slander, but you are killing somebody's reputation and it is just as bad a sin. The devil is the accuser of the brethren.
What do you do? You let the Lord take care of it, and you let
the Lord bless you, and you get on with your life. By your good
conduct, you will make ashamed those bringing a bad report against
you. That is what the Bible says and that is the way to do it.
If you try to fight it and try to swat down every mosquito, I
promise you, the swamp will bring forth a thousand of them. You
kill five and you have five hundred more coming at you. Let it
go and live your life under the Lord. If your life pleases the
Lord, that is all that matters.
There's something that people need to understand and I want to make it very clear. There are certain sins that can go on to heaven: pride, envy, arrogance and slander. They can attach to your spirit. Jesus said out of the heart of man come certain things -- blasphemy and lust and so forth. But the bodies we have are going to die. And when they die, we will be like the angels. We will neither marry or be given in marriage and all of the sexual urges will be taken away. What I am trying to say is that the body that you have you are going to leave behind. If you come to Jesus Christ, He has forgiven you of your sin. What you did was wrong. Confess it to the Lord and say this is wrong. It is something else to say I am going to justify it, and whether the Bible says it is good or bad, I am going to keep on doing it. God says your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and we need to behave that way. Nevertheless, God also remembers that you are made out of dust and He remembers who you are and what you are. Of course He will forgive your sin. Of course you will go to heaven, if indeed you have received Jesus and have been born again by His Spirit. That's what is important. What happened before is under the blood of Jesus Christ and you need to leave it there.
Sciene is on the verge of making a subclass of human beings.
Christians believe that a human being is created in the image
of God, takes on some of the attributes of God, has a spirit that
can commune with God, has a mind of great potential, and has a
destiny designed by God.
Speaking to Jeremiah, God said, "Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you; before you were born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations." Notice, there was a preexisting reality of this person before he was even formed in the womb!
We say that life begins with conception, but in truth, life begins with the concept in the mind of God. God said, "I formed you in the womb." Now we are saying, "The Jones Clinic is going to form you in a petri dish; we are going to manipulate a little piece of genetic material and make an exact copy of the per- son from whom that genetic material came." This is monstrous and it does violence to the whole concept of human dignity. Most civilized nations are repulsed by the thought of human cloning. They regard it as an abomination. It most certainly is detestable to God.
One of the saddest things in the world are these women who are constantly under the knife getting cut because they think it’ll make them somebody better. It won’t. But, on the other hand, if you look at yourself in the mirror, and you say, “Well, look, I’m kind of sloppy looking, and I don’t like my chin or my nose, or I’ve got some deformities, or what have you, blotches,” and if you think that will do it to you, psychologically, I see nothing wrong with some of the enhancement that goes on; although I think that it’s an illusion, much of it. But, nevertheless, if you’re going to do this kind of thing, though, please get somebody that’s Board certified. Get plenty of references. Do not let somebody start cutting on your anatomy unless they are highly skilled, highly trained and certified by their profession. But do not expect that something like this is going to make you another person. But it may, it may. As these people in this Extreme Makeover, which is what you’re quoting from, having watched the ABC show, I mean, it seems like that does something to their self esteem. But one of the things they do, they go to the gym. They get with a personal trainer. They’re working out. They’re athletic. They’re exercising. They’re feeling good. I mean, there’s a whole lot to do, but getting going with something where you feel like you’re achieving something. So it’s more than just getting your nose bobbed or whatever they do to people.
I don’t speak for every kleptomaniac in the world, but from what I gather, the average kleptomaniac wants to get caught and punished. And the reason is, somehow, deep inside there’s a guilt feeling somewhere down the road where they’ve done something, and they want to get punished. And so they keep this behavior going, basically, in hopes they’ll get caught. And you don’t want the stuff. It isn’t a desire to acquire things. You need definite professional help, and you need to be set free. But if you could personally get back in your own consciousness and say, “What is it in my life that I did that was wrong? What is it that I’m trying to get punished for? What is it?” It may be an imagined problem. It doesn’t have to be real. But if you can do a little self-analysis—and sometimes it’s not easy. You may have to get some professional to help you go through it, somebody that’s a Christian. But that’s what the problem is.
Some of it’s just kind of a feel-good feeling, like, “Oh, boy, look what I’m doing. I’m changing the world,” and maybe you’re making an idiot of yourself. Or, on the other hand, in the terms of the labor movement, picketing has been extremely effective. And there was no organized labor a few years ago, and workers were really being mistreated. And so one of the ways of organizing and getting their message across was picketing. And in the process, there was some brutality on the other side with those Pinkerton people who came to beat them up. So it isn’t without cost, but it won the labor movement tremendous gains along the way, and well it should have. But you didn’t tell me what your cause was. If it’s PETA standing outside of a furrier, you’re throwing blood on people coming out, I don’t think that’s too swift.
You got drunk. You’d never done lewd behavior. But you’re drunk, and you start taking your clothes off at a mixed party? I don’t know how far you went with all this lewdness, but no, I don’t think you’ve ruined your reputation forever. I do think if you’re a Christian and you want to live that way, getting drunk isn’t exactly Christian conduct and what went beyond it. But you lose inhibitions. That’s what alcohol will do. It takes away your inhibitions, and you’re wide open to other things.
Well, also, one of the things you learn from this is, sometimes it’s hard to know when you’ve stepped over the line with alcohol. You might really want to take a look at what you’re doing there as well as what happens when you have too much.
These riotous parties, though, if you go with a crowd like this, this is what they expect. And they’re going to push you and goad you as far as they can. Especially if they’re not Christians and you are. Then, boy, you’re asking for it. Ask the Lord’s forgiveness, and get on with your life.
From an old grandfather, if one of my granddaughters comes through with a tattoo, she’s got a lot of trouble. No, seriously, the Bible does talk about scarring and marring of the body and cutting the body. These are pagan customs, and the Bible condemns it. All these scars, you look in pagan cultures, they cut themselves. They leave great scars in their bodies. And usually it was a scarring to indicate their allegiance to some pagan deity. So that’s what tattoos are all about. Plus the fact, they’re ugly.
If you go to those homosexual events, then you are approving of his lifestyle and thinking it’s okay. The Bible says, “Have nothing to do with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.” We as Christians always want to be nice to people, “Well, I don’t offend him. It might hurt my witness,” and all this stuff. Well, I’m sorry. The Bible says, “Have nothing to do with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.” If you go to these places, the next thing you know, you will be enticed into their lifestyle instead of him being enticed to yours. I would strongly advise against it. If you have to go get another friend or other friends, do so. It’s a pity. I would certainly pray for him, but I just don’t think I’d go into that game.
It’s wrong for homosexuals to adopt. I think that they will lead children into the lifestyle they have. If you really care for somebody and you’re close to somebody, the biggest thing you can do to help them is to talk to them about the Lord and to share the Bible, not confrontational, but share the Bible. Whether or not these two hardened homosexuals would come out of that lifestyle remains to be seen. But at least the young man needs to get established in the things of God. And if you’re successful at that, God bless you. But as far as him going back to his, quote, 'two fathers' and confronting them, I don’t know. What do you think?
Well, I don’t think he should. There’s that saying, you hear it all the time. I’m probably not quoting it exact, but, 'Preach the Gospel at all times. Use words if you must.' I think even as a 13-year-old, through being diligent in the Word of God, attending church with you, speaking lovingly to the two people who’ve been put in a position of authority in parenting over him, that he can be have more influence by not saying something and loving Jesus and letting God control his life that confronting them.
The biggest thing, though, is that they will try to get him into that lifestyle and that is the danger. Of course, I don’t know them. I mean, maybe that wouldn’t be the case, but I suspect it will be. And so the big thing is for this young man to get himself established in the Lord rather than confronting.
No. If you’re a civilian, there’s another civilian, and somebody strikes you on the cheek, you’re supposed to turn the other cheek and resist evil. That’s what the Bible says, because all that type of violence leads to more violence. It’s Romans 13, where the apostle Paul says, “He that wields the sword wields it not in vain, because he’s a minister of God to bring vengeance on the evildoers.” We have to have police. We have to have military. They have to be armed to put down those who would take away the peace of others, who would kidnap, who would rob and who’d rape and steal. You have to have police, and, yes, police have to be trained in restraint and they have to be trained in the use of firearms. Hopefully they don’t have to use deadly force, but, nevertheless, it’s nice to let the criminals know that they’re armed. The amazing thing is that there one place, I think in Mississippi, that mandated that all the citizens had to carry firearms. And you know something? The crime rate dropped dramatically, because the criminals couldn’t find prey.
Such an option did not exist in the Bible. Nobody could ever do such a thing. It is very radical surgery. They literally change organs from male to female and vice versa. It’s pretty traumatic. And on top of that, they shoot the person full of the various hormones, either estrogen or testosterone, to make it happen. Is it a sin? I can’t say it’s a sin, because I don’t have any biblical authority one way or the other. But the Bible says wherever you were when you came to the Lord, you stay that way. I think that probably would be closer to it, what the apostle Paul said. But I can’t pontificate on this one, but I do feel sorry for those that are in that condition.
The Bible says, “Judge not that you be not judged.” God did not set you up as a judge of your father. He told you to be an obedient son, and you’re to honor your mother and father. That’s the commandment, not, “I will not speak to my father as long as he’s an adulterer.” Now, should you do everything you can to pray for him? Yes. Should you try to bring about some reconciliation? Yes. But do you know why he left your mother? Do you know what went on between them? Chances are, at 12, you didn’t really find out too much about what the real story was. The fact that your father is living with a woman and not getting married to her, there’s no question that it’s adultery. The Bible says if somebody claims to be a believer and is fornicator or evil, you’re not even supposed to eat with them. So there are two commandments, but I think the first one that controls is honor your mother and father. So, he’s always your father. He’s the only one you’ve got, and you need to honor him in that regard, regardless of what he’s done.
Shyness basically is “self.” It is inordinate concern about yourself. “What do people think about me? What will they think? What can I do?” It’s me, me, me, me, me. That’s what shyness comes from. I know that sounds hard, but it’s true. You say, “Well, shyness isn’t bad.” Yes, it is. It’s self. It’s self-absorption. Somebody like that probably would really be helped by getting together with a group of men who he could feel comfortable with. Little by little, they’d draw him out, and he begins to focus on them and on the activities of the group. The other thing he needs to do is to get absorbed in some passion other than himself, do something that he likes to do, and do it well. As he does it well, he will find a claim. Now, there’s some people who just like to be by themselves. They like to meditate. They like to spend time alone or in the company of their spouse, and they don’t want big crowds of people. Well, that’s their choice. So it’s a fine balance, but it seems like you’re husband, from what you say, has gone over the edge. But, really, it’s self-absorption. So if he can absorb himself in something else, more, in particularly, the Lord, himself. But see if you can’t engineer some sort of a group in church of friendly people who will spend time together with him, and he gets comfortable with them and begins to enjoy them.
If it is, I’ve got that satellite radio thing, and I’ve got about six channels of country. I’ve got outlaw country, roadhouse country, traditional country, bluegrass country, Gospel country. No, there’s not only one kind of Holy music. For goodness gracious. The Lord is the author of art and music. And why should we just have to sing Gospel? If he wants to sing country, God bless him. Just don’t sing dirty country and somebody done somebody wrong. There is a lot of stuff in some of that country that you just wouldn’t necessarily want to sing in a church.
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