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Finances and Lifestyle Changes

By Dave Ramsey
Author, The Total Money Makeover – These days it pays to be smart about money. That's why it's important to take this wise counsel from financial expert Dave Ramsey.

Lifestyle changes

Dear Dave,

I just married a wonderful lady with two children. We’ve talked over our financial situation, and we’re determined to get out of debt within two years. This will mean some big changes in our teenager’s lifestyles. How can we break this to them gently?

– Dan

Dear Dan,

Having your wife – who is also their mother – on board with the plan makes a big difference. I think all of you need to sit down and have a frank but loving discussion about the changes that are going to come with this marriage for everyone. The kids have to adjust to a stepdad being on the scene, just like you have to adjust to a marriage situation where teenagers are part of the package.

Let them know you don’t want to be the bad guy, but that you and mom have been looking at the money situation and things just don’t add up. It also wouldn’t be a bad idea if mom did a lot of the talking. Let her tell the kids that you’ve both decided it’s time to make the money behave, and this will mean some lifestyle changes.

Listen to reasonable input from them, and let them know their thoughts and feelings matter. But they also need to understand things are going to be different, and this part needs to come from mom. Otherwise, they’re likely to see you as the wicked stepdad!


The investing makes her nervous

Dear Dave,

My husband is into estate investment properties. He’ll buy a run-down house for very little money, fix it up and then rent it out. The debt we’re racking up makes me nervous. Each house has a loan, but he says it’s okay because we can sell them. Can you give me any advice?

– Carol

Dear Carol,

I went broke years ago doing exactly what your husband is doing right now. I’ve known several others who went broke doing it, too. Lots of folks in real estate tend to believe that debt is okay so long as the property is worth more than the debt, but there are several down sides to that kind of thinking. At the end of the day, the borrower is always slave to the lender. And I’m afraid your husband may be on that path.

At best, this kind of thinking will make for lots of uncertainty. The worst case scenario has you guys ending up bankrupt, just like we did. My experience way back when is proof that things like this can quickly escalate out of control when you make debt one of your building blocks.

There’s nothing wrong with investing in real estate, but I recommend that he do it much more slowly – and with cash!


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Dave SaysDave Ramsey is a nationally-syndicated radio talk show host and author of the New York Times bestselling books, Financial Peace Revisited and The Total Money Makeover. His life-changing advice in the area of personal finance helps people get out of debt, stay out of debt and build wealth that will last a lifetime and beyond.

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