CBN TEACHING SHEETS
Abortion: You are not Alone
It Only Seems Like The End of The World
Your worst fears have now
been confirmed ... you're pregnant! You are afraid, confused, angry ... and
feeling very much alone.
You are asking yourself:
What am I going to do?
will people say?
What will my parents say?
How will the baby's father react?
Will my boyfriend or husband leave me?
Who can I turn to?
By now you've
made a mental list of the people you would normally talk to in a time of crisis
-- your best friend, your parents, perhaps someone from work or church. But just
the thought of telling someone -- anyone -- sends you into a panic! And then there
is that sinking feeling deep inside you that says, "There is no one who really
understands my situation, or knows what I am going through."
What's more, you
begin to suspect that there will be no one to really care about you or your baby.
Only one thing seems certain -- painful choices lie ahead.
Whether the news of
your pregnancy will elicit loving support or total condemnation from those around
you, one fact remains: There is someone who cares -- God loves you unconditionally!
And though it may be hard to believe right now, God can bring something good
out of what appears to be something terrible happening in your life.
I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not
to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jer. 29:11)
You may feel that your pregnancy is a barrier between you and God,
making it impossible for you to turn to Him. Don't you believe it!
you and your child, and both of you are precious to Him. He has a plan for both
your lives. Because of your pregnancy you will never again be the same person
you were -- but if you look to God in this time of crisis, He will be a source
of great comfort and hope.
I will instruct you and teach you
in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. (Psalm 32:8)
Your First Decision
You have many decisions ahead, and some of them
will be painful no matter what you decide. There is, however, one decision you
can make right now that will help you through this time as well as the rest of
your life -- and that is to commit your life to God.
If you have never asked
God into your heart and don't know how, it's easy. It's so simple that many people
think it can't be for real . . . but it is! God knew that not one of us would
be able to personally make up for the things He doesn't want us to do. (This is
called sinning or rebelling against God.) So He sent His Son Jesus to pay the
penalty for the sins of every person once and for all.
all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by
his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. (Rom. 3:23)
While this may be hard
for you to understand just now, all you need to do is believe that Jesus died
for you, confess to God that there is sin in your life, and accept His forgiveness
and His gift of eternal life.
Don't wait another moment, pray this prayer right
now and put God in charge of your life:
Dear Lord Jesus, I believe that You
are the Son of God. I believe that You died for my sins and rose from the grave.
I invite You into my heart and receive You right now. Thank You for forgiveness.
Thank You for a new life. Help me to be what You want me to be and live your life
through me. Amen.
Have you invited Jesus Christ to be your Lord and Savior? Send
us an e-mail so that we can pray with you and give you some resources to help you in your relationship with God. Or you can call our 24-hour prayer line at 1-800-759-0700.
You have just made the most important decision of your life
by accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. With Him by your side, you
are ready to face the road ahead. And you can face it with the assurance of God's
And we know that in all things God works for the good
of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Rom. 8:28)
That means that God will cause even this pregnancy to work together for your
good. And He will see you through the challenging moments and difficult decisions
of the next few months.
Isn't Abortion The Only Choice?
As your pregnancy
becomes obvious, don't be surprised if some people are unable to deal with it.
Many people, including some who are very dear to you, will be uncomfortable and
embarrassed about your condition. Some of your friends may actually turn against
you and reject you. If you are a teenager or living at home, you may have to face
negative feelings from your parents. If you are married and this pregnancy was
not planned, you may even have to face rejection from your own husband. It is
vitally important that you do not let the negative reactions of others influence
your decisions or put you on a guilt trip! This is your life, your baby, and your
future, not theirs.
To disapproving friends or relatives, your pregnancy represents
embarrassment, inconvenience, or hardship, and they may possibly pressure you to
have an abortion. They will tell you that abortion is readily available and affordable; that abortion is quick and safe; that abortion can make your pregnancy disappear,
just as if it never happened; that you can go back to being the same person you
were before you became pregnant and no one will be the wiser.
While these people
may have the best of intentions, their "solutions" are misguided. If you listen
to them, you may be convinced that having an abortion is the answer to your crisis
pregnancy. It's tempting to think that you could pick up your life where you left
off and that maybe it's the "right thing to do." But understand that almost all
of the arguments for abortion are deceiving. Look at a few of the facts that abortion
counselors probably won't tell you:
- Abortion is big business. It is unregulated,
cash--oriented, and highly profitable.
- Abortion counselors do not want you
to know you really have a choice. They have been carefully trained to sell you
- Abortion clinics are not safe. In many cases abortion is outright
dangerous! Some of the nation's largest abortion clinics use unlicensed physicians
in unsanitary and rushed conditions.
- Abortion clinics sometimes skip "routine"
procedures like sterilizing instruments when the waiting room is full.
and deaths resulting from legal abortions are falsely or routinely unreported.
- A "fetus" is a fully-formed unique individual with its own genetic code from
the moment of conception. At 18 days, your baby's heart begins to beat.
abortion can leave permanent physical impairment including sterility and loss
of your uterus.
Sadly, these are only a few of the disturbing facts
about abortion. The truth is that aborting your baby will not solve your problem,
it will only lead to a new set of problems. A growing amount of evidence indicates
that the despair and guilt-ladened post-abortion experience may be even more traumatic
than the pre-abortion period of decision making. The emotional effects of an abortion
can last for several hours or several years. Known as post-abortion syndrome (PAS),
many women suffer reactions that include:
- Depression, regret, or remorse;
- Low self-esteem;
- Fear of infertility;
- Alcoholism and/or drug abuse;
- Flashbacks of the abortion procedure; or
- Anniversary syndrome -- remembering the anniversary date of
the abortion or what would have been the baby's birthday.
Imagine trying to live the rest of your life with the knowledge
that you killed your unborn child!
And finally, because God is the Creator of all life,
He does not want us to destroy it. It is priceless and precious
to Him, and He has a plan for each and every one of us.
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together
in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully
made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame
was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When
I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my
unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your
book before one of them came to be. (Ps. 139:13-16)
He will give you a purpose and a hope as you see your
pregnancy through. It may seem like the toughest choice, but with
God in your heart, you and your baby will make it!
Reach Out For Help
You may be thinking, "But you don't understand -- I
need everything! I have no money, no doctor, and no place to live.
Surely no stranger is going to give me all these things."
In every community, there are people and places who
will help you meet the needs of every stage of your pregnancy. Crisis
pregnancy centers, counselors, churches, and good, loving people
will help provide or arrange the following services and more:
- Ongoing personal counseling;
- Counseling as needed with parents, boyfriend or husband;
- Schooling assistance;
- Prenatal and postnatal guidance;
- Medical care;
- Financial assistance;
- Adoption services, if necessary;
- Legal aid, if necessary;
- Household furnishings; and
- Maternity clothes and baby items.
To find a pregnancy care center in your area, call (800) 395-HELP. Or you can log on to www.optionline.org. You can find other people who can help you by looking in the Yellow
Pages of your phone directory under "Abortion Alternatives."
at CBN, there is always someone who will listen to you, pray for
you or send you literature that will help you. Just call the CBN
Prayer Line at 1-800-759-0700, seven days a week, 24 hours a day.
There is Hope!
Let God prove to you beyond any shadow of doubt that
He is who He says He is, and that He will keep all His promises
to those who believe.
Most importantly, forgive yourself for getting into
this situation. Although this pregnancy may not have been planned,
have confidence that God can bring great blessing out of any crisis.
The coming days will be challenging, frightening, and
sometimes even depressing -- but don't look back! Look ahead to your
new life with Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. You and your
baby are in His hands.
You Have A Friend
If you've had an abortion, the first thing you need
to know is that Jesus Christ forgives you -- even if you find it
difficult to forgive yourself. He wants you to put an end to those
self-torturing "if only I had . . ." speculations once and for all.
At the time you had your abortion, you may have felt you had no
choice, or maybe others pressured you. Whatever the reason, it is
in the past and there is nothing you can do to change it.
But there is something you can do to change how you're
feeling right now. And that is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord
and Savior. As God's own Son, Jesus came into this world to experience
the trials and temptations that are a part of everyday life. He
did that because He loves us so much and because He wanted to feel
what we feel.
Then, in an ultimate act of love, He died on the cross
to pay the price for our sins, so that we could have a relationship
with God and go to Heaven when we die.
God made Him who had no sin to be sin for us, so in
Him we might become the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5:21).
For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and
only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but
have eternal life (John 3:16).
So Jesus Christ not only understands physical pain
and suffering, but He also understands emotional pain and suffering.
He cares! And He's waiting for you to come to Him and ask Him into
your heart. He is a true friend, one who will listen to you and
not condemn you. Maybe you never let anyone know that you had an
abortion or maybe you've tried to bury your pain. Talk to Jesus,
cry out to Him and He will comfort you -- lovingly and gently.
Don't wait another moment. Accept God's forgiveness
for what you have done and receive His gift of eternal life. (You
may want to use the prayer previously mentioned above as a guideline.)
Just believe that Jesus died for you and confess to God your sins.
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and
will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness
(1 John 1:9).
Once you commit your life to Jesus, your sins are
forgiven - like a slate that's been wiped clean.
I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions,
for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. (Isaiah 43:25)
Your New Life With Christ
You've just entered a new and exciting phase of your
life, but bear in mind that all your problems will not miraculously
disappear. However, God will give you the strength and the courage
to deal with whatever may come your way.
Above all, be assured that God can bring a blessing
out of any crisis, and He will use these trials to help you grow.
Reading the Bible and attending church will strengthen your faith
and prepare you for the challenges to come.
When moments of guilt and depression try to creep
back, tell Jesus your fears and how you feel. Often, you will
be reminded of your past and you may feel that you haven't been
forgiven, but that isn't so! Don't look back! The Bible says that
in Christ, old things (sins) pass away and all things become new (2 Cor. 5:17).
Once you let go of the past, you will have peace and hope. Look
ahead to your new life with Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior.
You are in His hands.
They Are In His Care
It's okay for you to grieve and mourn for your aborted
child. In fact, as your emotional healing takes place, your feelings
may range from anger, to guilt, to sorrow, to numbness. But remember,
with Jesus at your side, you're not alone. And you can take comfort
Your child is with God in Heaven and is under His
Your sin is forgiven and one day, you too will be
in Heaven through God's gift of eternal life.
you searching for peace with God? Find it here!
Telephone Prayer Counselors
If you have an immediate prayer request, or if you need to talk
to a caring Christian friend, please call our 24-hour Prayer
line at 1-800-759-0700.
Do you have a prayer Request?
Submit your prayer
request using our online prayer request form. We pray over each
need that is presented to us.
Have you invited Jesus Christ to be your Lord and
us an e-mail using our online form so that we can pray with
a Church Near You
If you need ongoing support, we encourage you to contact
the pastor of your local church. With the guidance of your pastor,
you might also consider seeking professional Christian counseling.
Here are some national ministries that we can recommend:
To Find a Pregnancy Care Center in Your Area:
The Association of Christians in Private Practice
New Life Ministries
Rapha National Network
The Unborn, by Pat Robertson
Destroying Abortion Myths
Abortion Survivor Finds the Grace of God
Hope for a Future: A Conversation with Sydna Masse
Choosing Life Over Olympic Glory
How Do I Get Over Depression?
Second Victim by Pam Koerbel
Anyone Else Feel Like I Do? And Other Questions Women Ask Following
An Abortion by Pam Koerbel
Scripture references are taken form the New American
Standard translation of the Bible.
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