rich minds, rich rewards
Keep Your Words from Sabotaging
Your Success
CBN.com Success
often comes to those who know what to say, when to say it and
how to say it. And those with talent who don't communicate effectively
often never get the satisfaction of fulfilling their potential.
In the busyness of life and work, we can sometimes forget the
impact of our words. A few words spoken hastily can ruin a relationship
or an opportunity. So can a few words gone unspoken. Sometimes
the people around you need to hear you speak clearly about where
you stand on certain issues or how you feel about them. The missing
piece that will solidify success is in your relationships, job
or entrepreneurial endeavors may be right under your nose! I have
five simple ideas to share with you this week about the words
that come out of your mouth:
1. Learn when to be quiet.
Some of us are more inclined to speak than others, but those who
find the most success are often those who know when to be quiet.
There may be a situation in your life right now that is hindered
and not helped by more talking. Don't be afraid of silence. Sometimes
life's best answers appear when we are quiet enough to listen.
2. Give yourself time to think.
We have all heard the saying, "think before you speak."
Consider this a reminder that it is always wise to consider the
impact your words will have after they are spoken. Think of the
best way to communicate what you need to say before you even open
your mouth. Even when you are in a conversation and must respond
immediately, take a few seconds first to gather your thoughts.
You will come across as being more thoughtful and you will feel
more confident about what you say. If you need more time to think
about how to respond, simply say, "Let me give that some
thought."
3. Refuse to murmur and complain.
We can always find something to complain about if we focus on
the negative. Make a decision to appreciate the blessings in every
situation and refuse to waste your words complaining and murmuring.
Instead, ask, "What solution would help me eliminate the
challenges I find myself complaining about?" Complaints drain
your energy - and the energy of the people around you! Use your
words to renew your energy, not deplete it.
4. Tell me something good!
In the seventies, Chaka Khan had a funky song that became her
first hit, "Tell me somethin' good." I still love to
sing it when I hear it on the radio. A couple of months ago, I
wrote a newsletter asking you to ask yourself and others everyday,
"What's the best thing that's happened to you lately?"
Are you still asking yourself that question regularly? Stay in
the habit of acknowledging the good things that are going on,
so that you don't find your conversation out of balance and focused
solely on the negative realities you may face.
5. Speak your goals into existence.
One of the most common reasons many people never reach their goals
is that they don't really believe they can. Not only do they not
believe it, but they speak negatively about their chances for
success. Sometimes you have to speak your way into believing all
that is possible for you. Speak positively about your vision for
your life. "I will accomplish my goal by doing XYZ ...".
Even if you hear your doubts swirling around in your head ("You
can't do that!" "Who do you think you are?!"),
refuse to verbalize them. Eventually your thoughts will catch
up with your words!
My challenge to you this week:
Identify one way in which your words are hurting you more than
helping you. Take a specific action to change that dynamic.
Journaling assignment:
What have you been murmuring or complaining about? What are you
willing to do to create a solution?
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A sought-after
life coach and speaker, Valorie Burton’s purpose is inspiring
people to live more fulfilling, less stressful lives. She
is the author of Listen to Your Life, What’s Really Holding
You Back? and Rich Minds, Rich Rewards.
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