What's Holding You Back?
By Dan Miller
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If fear has ever held you back from accomplishing something great, read on. I hear from people every day who are crippled by fear. Make this your year to overcome fear – and move into the success you’ve been dreaming of. You really can move past fear to confidence, boldness, and enthusiasm.
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"Nothing limits achievement like small thinking; nothing expands possibilities like unleashed imagination.” —William Arthur Ward
Without thinking, what is God’s most frequent command? If you’re like most people, you probably thought of “Love the Lord your God” or “Love One Another” or maybe one of the other Ten Commandments. None of those make it to the top of the list for the most common command from God.
You know what it is? “Do not be afraid.”
That shows up over 300 times in the Scripture. A quick Google search for “fear” shows up 304 million sites, while “confidence” shows up a little more than half as often at 180 million. In hearing from hundreds of people each week who say they would like to develop some idea on their own, the two most frequently “perceived” obstacles are:
1. Lack of Money
2. Too much Fear
I recently recorded a 48-minute podcast on “No Money – No Problem.” You can get that podcast free by simply scrolling down to the June 11 podcast here: No Money – No Problem.
On July 17, I addressed the second issue, What’s Holding You Back?. Here are just a few questions that got submitted that confirm the common "fear" theme:
Catherine – Years ago I got an entrepreneurial opportunity off the ground only to get killed by the IRS because I am not a good bookkeeper. I have lived in fear of that experience ever since.
James – What are some of the ways that we can overcome the fear that is associated with being self employed? (Am I smart enough, talented enough, will I make enough money to pay the bills?)
Jen – I am knowledgeable about the field that I want to branch out in, but I'm far from an expert. Sometimes I'm afraid when approaching people in the field that they won't take me seriously or dismiss me as a "wannabe".
Cindy – I am afraid to spend my meager savings on getting a business started. How do I find something I can feel confident about?
Kevin – How do I determine if the risk is worth taking? The greatest successes come from taking risks, but the greatest failures come from risk taking as well. How do I know this is the one to take?
Brenda – How do I overcome the fear of stepping out of my comfort zone?
Jorge – I am so scared of going off on my own -- what if, what if, what if??? How do I get over that?
Lucy – How can I let go of the fear of a steady paycheck with benefits?
Andy – How do you overcome the fear of failure and the uncertainty of having your livelihood dependent only on yourself?
I addressed those concerns in a live teleseminar. I went through as many as possible in the 60-minute timeframe. I shared how I, as a frightened little Mennonite farm kid, was able to get past the fear (and no money) to get traction on the ideas that allow Joanne and me to live the life we have today. And how you can do the same!
Old McDonald Had It Right
No I’m not encouraging you to go back to the farm – believe me, I was looking for other things to do every time I was milking a cow or throwing hay bales in the summer heat. But Old McDonald gives us a clue for how to write, speak, or work so it engages the people around us and makes them want to pay us.
Here’s the clue – EIEIO. Remember that? Now in the song it was just a rhyming filler. But as a success tool, it looks like this:
I see so many people and companies speak or write without including any of these elements. They tell people their personal story or the features of their new product. All the while, their customers, coworkers, and bosses are waiting for something that will Entertain, Inspire, Educate, Inform, or Outrage them. If you’re trying to move up, just follow Old McDonald’s formula. You’ll be amazed at the success you’ll unleash.
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Note Question #5 here -- the writer tried to "transition from ministry into something outside the local church." If you've been reading my material at all, you'll know that this contrasting of either being in "ministry" or doing something "outside the church" sets me off big time. I believe we all have daily opportunities for "ministry" regardless of the kind of work we are doing. Listen to hear my rant.
1. I'm starting a business and have a friend with the right abilities to help. Though she would be integral to the function and marketing, the business couldn't exist without my license, degree, and experience. How can I set this up? What is a practical way to divide the fee if 50/50 isn’t quite appropriate? Thank you.
2. Other than Matthew 6:33, what does the Word of God say about job hunting? I have been looking for over a month, have a great coach, and still no success.
3. I want to create an Internet-based business because I want to work at home and create my own schedule and it has no age discrimination attached to it. Here’s my idea... a made-to-order organic T-shirt business (online only). I'm trying to find suppliers that will make the shirts as the orders come in. I worked in the fashion industry, one of the jobs that was on my "I want to try" list. While there, I observed women had a terrible time with T-shirts fitting right.
4. I hate the current job I'm in. I'm 32 years old and I drive a fork truck at a factory here in town. I'm really burned out on my job and I'm not sure how much longer I can keep this up. I really enjoy drawing and I also am passionate about cars. Do you have any advice on where I should go from here?
5. I followed God's call in ministry for over 20 years. Two years ago I attempted to transition from ministry into something outside the local church. What direction does an ordained minister go if not into ministry, social services, or parachurch organizations? I want to start my own Christian apparel line, but do not know where to start.
6. When doing consulting, how do you decide how much to charge? I want to be fair to people, but I also don't want to price myself out of the market. Just doing simple math, my salary at my old job works out to $60 an hour. My consulting job is literally the same work I was doing at my company. Is $100 an hour fair?
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Quotes on Fear
"The one permanent emotion of the inferior man is fear - fear of the unknown, the complex, the inexplicable. What he wants above everything else is safety." —Henry Louis Mencken
"Fear is the highest fence." —Dudley Nichols
"In politics, what begins in fear usually ends in folly." —Coleridge
"You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith." —Mary Manin Morrissey
"Fear is faith that it won't work out." —Sister Mary Tricky
"If a man harbors any sort of fear, it percolates through all his thinking, damages his personality, and makes him a landlord to a ghost." —Lloyd Douglas
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right." —Henry Ford
"You can't discover new oceans unless you have the courage to leave the shore." —Anonymous
"He who loses wealth loses much; he who loses a friend loses more; but he that loses courage loses all." — Cervantes
"Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have." —Louis E. Boone
"Where fear is present, wisdom cannot be." —Lactantius
"The worst sorrows in life are not in its losses and misfortune, but its fears." —A. C. Benson
Dan Miller is the bestselling author of 48 Days To The Work You Love and a renowned Life Coach specializing in career fulfillment. His weekly newsletter reaches 70,000 subscribers. Dan’s articles are featured here at CBN every Tuesday, and you can find out more about Dan at www.48days.com.
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